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159. The Fall · Your Enriched Self

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  Speaker 1: Hey, I just want to make sure that you are
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  Speaker 1: making it a priority to check in with yourself as
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  Speaker 1: I get ready to approach my milestone birthday. If I
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  Speaker 1: were to impart some wisdom on the version of myself
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  Speaker 1: a year, two, ten years before, I would say, make
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  Speaker 1: it a priority to check in with yourself. What are
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  Speaker 1: you thinking about? Is it serving you? What do you need?
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  Speaker 1: Do you have the right people, the right tools, Are
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  Speaker 1: you in the right space. As life continues to move
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  Speaker 1: and go into these ebbs and flows, we tend to
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  Speaker 1: kind of fall back and not participate in the very
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  Speaker 1: most important life event there is, and that is your own.
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  Speaker 1: And I know that there are caretakers among us, and
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  Speaker 1: there are people that you have to provide for. But
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  Speaker 1: again I'll say it over and over, you cannot pour
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  Speaker 1: from an empty cup, meaning you cannot give what you
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  Speaker 1: don't have, what you have not allowed yourself to go get.
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  Speaker 1: Make it a priority today if you haven't done it
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  Speaker 1: in a while. This is a really good time. It's
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  Speaker 1: almost fall. I know it's still pretty warm outside, but
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  Speaker 1: the seasons changed very quickly, just like our lives change.
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  Speaker 1: And if we are not thinking about these things ahead
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  Speaker 1: you matter. You're going to matter tomorrow, you matter now,
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  Speaker 2: I'm your host, Mai Lee Noir.
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  Speaker 1: And this week's affirmation is I am on the right
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  Speaker 1: I am on the right path for me. Now, let's
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  Speaker 1: get ready for this week's episode of the Your Enriched
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  Speaker 1: Self Podcast. And as I think back to the Paris Olympics,
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  Speaker 1: I watched a story. I love the backstories. If you
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  Speaker 1: know me, you know I love documentaries to watch these
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  Speaker 1: athletes at the position there and now there's often a
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  Speaker 1: backstory that we never got to see that we'll get
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  Speaker 1: in the current moment or why they are so focused
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  Speaker 1: and so energized and so dialed in and engaged to
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  Speaker 2: And this week's.
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  Speaker 1: Backstory is about Massi Russell. And Massi Russell is a
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  Speaker 1: women's one hundred meter hurdler and a year ago in Budapest,
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  Speaker 1: she fell.
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  Speaker 2: She fell.
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  Speaker 1: And with tears rolling down her face. I want you
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  Speaker 1: to hear what this woman said when she was interviewed
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  Speaker 1: at Budapest, having not made the ranking, the lineup, the
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  Speaker 1: outcome that she wanted. And I'm just gonna throw a
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  Speaker 1: couple things that she said out there. She said, it
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  Speaker 1: is what it is. Things happen. I worked hard, I
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  Speaker 1: know I'm not done, so it is what it is.
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  Speaker 1: She goes on to talk about a tattoo that's on
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  Speaker 1: her back, which is a scripture out of the Bible
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  Speaker 1: that says we can make plans, but the Lord determines
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  Speaker 1: our steps. With tears rolling down her face, she says,
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  Speaker 1: it sucks right now. I don't know what's down the
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  Speaker 1: road for me, but I know I'll be a happy
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  Speaker 1: about it one day. Of course, it hurts right now,
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  Speaker 1: but there are lessons learned. This is my first time
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  Speaker 1: out here, and I'm happy to be here. No one
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  Speaker 1: expected me to be here, so to make it this far,
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  Speaker 1: that definitely means a lot. I mean, we can take
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  Speaker 1: this entire little monologue from Massai and we can break
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  Speaker 1: it down into so many different pieces because I heard
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  Speaker 1: a lot here. I don't know about you, but I
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  Speaker 1: heard a lot. And you can go back and listen
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  Speaker 1: to this interview. I'll link this interview to the show
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  Speaker 1: notes because I think it's such an important piece of
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  Speaker 1: our story to go back to where we started, to
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  Speaker 1: go back to the fall.
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  Speaker 2: So my question to.
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  Speaker 1: You this week is did you fall? Did you fall
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  Speaker 1: in twenty twenty four? Do you have a fall story
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  Speaker 1: like MASSI did in Budapest? We all fall, every single
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  Speaker 1: one of you, including myself. I have taken a fall
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  Speaker 1: this year. But here's the thing about when we use
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  Speaker 1: these words. Words are so powerful. If you listen to
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  Speaker 1: the words this young athlete is speaking over her life
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  Speaker 1: even after quote unquote the fall. You'll see that there's
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  Speaker 1: so much positive, forward leaning motion in what she's saying.
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  Speaker 1: She's recognizing and acknowledging where she is in the moment,
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  Speaker 1: but she's also anticipating. Her spirit is an anticipatory spirit
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  Speaker 1: to know that I don't know what's ahead, but I
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  Speaker 1: know it's going to be better. As I've read these words,
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  Speaker 1: as I've listened to this interview, it is clear to
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  Speaker 1: me that this is a person that understands, understand the
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  Speaker 1: big picture. It's not just about Budapest or whatever. Your
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  Speaker 1: Budapest is your moment where you had a chance to
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  Speaker 1: shine and show everyone and it didn't quite work out
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  Speaker 1: that time, that moment. It starts off with with her
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  Speaker 1: saying it is what it is. She's recognizing that this
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  Speaker 1: is where.
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  Speaker 2: I'm at right now at the moment.
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  Speaker 1: But she also acknowledged her hard work. She said, I
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  Speaker 1: worked hard, and I know you work hard. Acknowledge that, yes,
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  Speaker 1: you didn't ascend to the level you wanted to ascend,
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  Speaker 1: but you worked hard. She says again, it is what
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  Speaker 1: it is, and then she brings in her devotion, she
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  Speaker 1: brings in her declaration, she brings in the affirmation that says,
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  Speaker 1: we can make plans, but the Lord determines our steps.
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  Speaker 1: She brings that in because it's important to know that
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  Speaker 1: there is higher power at work.
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  Speaker 2: Here.
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  Speaker 1: She acknowledges, listen, right now is not the best moment.
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  Speaker 1: Right now it sucks, and I don't know what's ahead
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  Speaker 1: for me. That's a real statement.
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  Speaker 2: We don't know what tomorrow will bring.
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  Speaker 1: But I know at some point there's happiness on the
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  Speaker 1: other side. Now that's speaking life over your life. How
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  Speaker 1: many of you who have taken a quote unquote fall
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  Speaker 1: and you just start spewing so much hate, so much lack,
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  Speaker 1: so much limitation all over your life, and you expect
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  Speaker 1: that next year, next month, next week, you're gonna experience
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  Speaker 1: something beautiful. You can if you're speaking death over your life.
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  Speaker 1: But she doesn't do that here. She says, I'm gonna
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  Speaker 1: be happy about it. She acknowledged I hurt now. It hurts,
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  Speaker 1: but there are lessons learn. And that's the thing about falling,
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  Speaker 1: or being in a moment where things aren't working out.
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  Speaker 1: When things aren't working out, there are clues. There are
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  Speaker 1: clues to help you understand what you need to make
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  Speaker 1: it work out. The next time but we don't pick
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  Speaker 1: up on those clues. We focus on the fact that
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  Speaker 1: it didn't work out this time. She's saying, there's lessons
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  Speaker 1: learned here. This is my first time out here. Some
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  Speaker 1: of you are doing something for the first time, and
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  Speaker 1: you're not even giving yourself credit that you made it
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  Speaker 1: to a place to acknowledge that you have the confidence,
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  Speaker 1: you have the knowledge, you have the capability to be here.
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  Speaker 1: Now you think that the first time you step into
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  Speaker 1: that role, the first time you do that job, the
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  Speaker 1: first time you do anything, you're gonna be perfect. She's saying,
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  Speaker 1: this is my first time out here. Then she is grateful.
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  Speaker 1: I am happy to be here. Listen, Gratitude is the
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  Speaker 1: best hack of your life life. When you are in
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  Speaker 1: that role, you are in that position, and you're not
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  Speaker 1: walking away with the w you're not coming away with
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  Speaker 1: the trophy, the accolades, the posts highlights about your success.
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  Speaker 1: You can come away with gratitude that the fact is
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  Speaker 1: you are physically there. You made it to that level,
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  Speaker 1: you rose to that occasion. You were selected based on
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  Speaker 1: your talent, based on what you brought to the table.
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  Speaker 1: She acknowledged the doubters. There are gonna be people that
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  Speaker 1: doubt you. No one expected me to be here, and
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  Speaker 1: she went and closed it out with gratitude. But to
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  Speaker 1: make it this far definitely means a lot. There is
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  Speaker 1: so much more we can dissect from this, but to
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  Speaker 1: start out just acknowledging that this is the position I'm
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  Speaker 1: in right now. It doesn't define me, though, because my
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  Speaker 1: hard work behind the scenes, that's what defines me. What's
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  Speaker 1: defining you, What's defining you? Is it the fall?
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  Speaker 2: My question to you is did you fall?
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  Speaker 1: And if you did in twenty twenty four, which I'm
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  Speaker 1: sure we all did at some point in this year,
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  Speaker 1: with eight months under our belt and counting, we took
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  Speaker 1: a fall. We did not rise to the occasion. We
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  Speaker 1: did not complete the thing we wanted to at the
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  Speaker 1: level we wanted to, with the outcome and the desired
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  Speaker 1: position that we wanted to be in after we did
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  Speaker 1: the thing. And so many of you think that a
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  Speaker 1: fall means something that it doesn't mean. So as always,
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  Speaker 1: I like us to do the work. I like us
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  Speaker 1: to do the digging. I like us to unearth exactly
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  Speaker 1: what it means to fall? What does it mean to fall?
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  Speaker 1: This is what it means to move down?
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  Speaker 2: To drop?
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  Speaker 1: To suddenly lower in position. It's a stumble, it's a slip.
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  Speaker 1: It's a trip. It's a tumble, it's a topple. It's
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  Speaker 1: a collapsing, it's a sliding, it's a crashing. That's what
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  Speaker 1: it means to fall.
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  Speaker 2: Now.
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  Speaker 1: At no point when I pulled up this definition of fall,
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  Speaker 1: did I read passing and final exit, demise, departure, ruin, extermination, destruction, annihilation.
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  Speaker 1: Those words did not come up. But oftentimes those are
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  Speaker 1: the words you associate with when you have a moment
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  Speaker 1: where you fall. Those are the words that you align
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  Speaker 1: yourself with when you fall. Those are the words you
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  Speaker 1: speak over your life after the quote unquote fall. I'm
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  Speaker 1: gonna challenge you today to get away from those words.
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  Speaker 1: That language isn't serving you, It is not healthy for you,
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  Speaker 1: and it is actually putting and dampening your ability to ascend,
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  Speaker 1: your ability to rise and get to the position that
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  Speaker 1: you are appointed for. If you fell in twenty twenty four,
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  Speaker 1: just as this young olympian fell in Budapest, there is
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  Speaker 1: a season in which you will rise again. There is
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  Speaker 1: a season where you will achieve the outcome that you desired.
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  Speaker 1: But I promise you you're not gonna get there speaking
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  Speaker 1: over your will, your intellect, and your emotions. You're gonna
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  Speaker 1: have to embrace what Massa did. Embrace at the moment
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  Speaker 1: is just a moment. It's not a definition of who
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  Speaker 1: you are. You're gonna have to do what MASSI did,
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  Speaker 1: and you're gonna have to realize that things happen to
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  Speaker 1: the best of us. Things don't happen because of who
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  Speaker 1: we are, who are not. Things just happen period. What
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  Speaker 1: people say, life be life in that's what it means.
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  Speaker 1: You're gonna have to have that Massigh mentality that says, listen,
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  Speaker 1: I have plans, but the Lord orders my steps.
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  Speaker 2: He determines.
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  Speaker 1: You're gonna have to have that Olympic mindset that says, listen,
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  Speaker 1: it hurts, but there are lessons. It hurts, but it's
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  Speaker 1: my first time. It hurts, but I'm happy. I have gratitude.
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  Speaker 1: I'm thankful for this moment that I am here, and
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  Speaker 1: it definitely means a lot. And I know my future.
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  Speaker 1: I know the road ahead may be undetermined, but I
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  Speaker 1: know there's goodness in it. There's goodness in it. You
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  Speaker 1: are not annihilated. You did not exit this fall, whatever
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  Speaker 1: it is for you, is your opportunity, your greatest opportunity
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  Speaker 1: to stand again. You fall down nine times and you
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  Speaker 1: get up ten You're gonna win if you have that
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  Speaker 1: mentality that you can still rise. Maya Angelo says it,
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  Speaker 1: and still I rise. You still have an opportunity to rise,
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  Speaker 1: to go claim your prize, to recognize that you are
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  Speaker 1: still alive and you can thrive. But it starts with
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  Speaker 1: the mentality. It starts with knowing that the fall, whatever
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  Speaker 1: that is, it's not fatal. So stand up, get up,
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  Speaker 1: so you can move up and into the rightful position
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  Speaker 1: that you were appointed to. It's not too late. There's
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  Speaker 1: several months still left in this year. You have time
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  Speaker 1: to get up and go do something different, learn from
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  Speaker 1: those lessons, apply what you learned. And that's what life
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  Speaker 1: is all about, falling and learning and applying, and you
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