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Episode 666: One Year After No Contact FEELS GREAT! · The Art of Love With Lucia

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  Hi, this is Lucia with The Art of Love.
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  I'm a dating and relationship expert specializing in helping
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  you get your ex back. If you're listening to this
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  video, it's probably because you are going through a breakup and
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  you want your ex back and you're having a difficult time.
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  I know how you feel and that's why I want to read this e-mail
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  that I got from someone who follows me.
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  And hopefully you will see that there is light at the end of the
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  tunnel whether you get your ex back or whether you don't or
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  whether you decide that you know what Andrea?
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  I don't want them back, so stay tuned.
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  In the meantime, I want to welcome back my beautiful no
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  contact army. Have you been a good little
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  soldier? And if you have, well, then you
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  have downloaded my app Silencio to help you stay in no contact
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  and have a better chance at getting your ex back.
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  And the link to that is underneath every single video
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  and podcast. And if you too would like to
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  join our no contact army, all you have to do is hit the
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  subscribe button and the bell notification and you're in.
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  And to read our manual, go to nocontactsecrets.com where you
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  can read two free chapters before you purchase the book.
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  All right, so let's get right into it.
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  He says this time last year I was going through hell after my
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  ex thought I was cheating on her and tried to gaslight me by
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  telling me this. It ripped me into two pieces
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  because it was a lie and I couldn't comprehend why she was
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  doing this. I was always transparent with
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  her. I went to therapy while trying
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  to figure out why she did this. I took care of her, treated her
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  with respect and the sex was insane.
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  Whenever people say the sex was insane, my first question is
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  well what made it insane was like I want to know come on
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  spill the beans. So I didn't know why until I
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  started to put the pieces together.
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  This is her pattern. I listened to all your videos,
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  stuck to no contact and downloaded the app.
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  After going to therapy for three months, I started to feel
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  better. Not so much about what was going
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  on, but I had someone to unload my hurt, anger and sadness on.
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  I figured out that she cheated on me and thought the grass was
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  greener on the other side. She gasolit me and I fell for
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  it. It's a dead giveaway when your
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  girlfriend has two cell phones. Well, not really.
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  I mean, I have two cell phones, but one of them doesn't have a
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  SIM card in it. No, some people have two cell
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  phones, one for work. It's not a dead giveaway.
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  It's more their behavior with the cell phone.
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  If they're, you know, hiding it and putting it face down on the
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  table and taking it to the bathroom in the shower with
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  them, that's more I have a giveaway than two cell phones.
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  But anyway, so while going to therapy, I worked on myself,
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  went to the gym, worked on my goals, met others, and never
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  once thought of looking to see what she was doing because it
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  would rip me to pieces like Facebook and Instagram.
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  I couldn't care less, but I was tempted.
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  Yeah, it's very tempting. It's very hard to control
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  yourself and not look at their socials because you're looking
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  for hope that well, maybe they're posting something that
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  was showing me that they want me back.
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  Maybe, maybe not. But if you get triggered, you're
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  gonna end up bringing no breaking no contact.
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  So if you do get triggered, if you're the type to get triggered
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  usually if you have an anxious attachment style, then do not
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  look at your ex's socials. I got you.
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  Photos look like a top notch model rather than a suffering
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  idiot that stroked her ego. Posted my pics on Tinder and saw
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  her pictures there as well. She looked like Hal.
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  I laughed, ha ha. She used old pictures and I was
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  like, man, you look like crap hair, scruffy makeup sucked.
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  You know your makeup is real bad.
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  If a man comments on your makeup looking bad, you know, I mean
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  women know what bad makeup looks like, but when a man says it
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  looks bad, you know it looks bad.
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  The pictures of her said I made a bad choice leaving you and I'm
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  too stubborn to say it. Well, my pictures were like, I'm
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  happy I moved on. She was so shocked.
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  How did you know she was shocked how?
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  I shined. I enclosed that picture for you
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  to see. Yes, he does shine in his photo.
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  And he's Single Ladies in Los Angeles.
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  If you're interested, I can hook you guys up.
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  Yeah. So I don't know how you know
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  that she saw your pictures. So he says once I posted my
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  picture on Tinder, she went straight to my profile to see if
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  it was actually me. Yeah.
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  How does she know? I mean, how do you know that she
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  saw your pictures? Like, can you tell someone about
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  your profile on Tinder? I don't know, guys.
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  Let me know below. I blocked her and still blocked
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  her on WhatsApp. Even after a year later.
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  I still stand bold on that and I know I'm better than that.
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  I love myself to be treated like trash and I will never ever
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  resort to someone who can coldly walk away while lying and
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  cheating on me. I think he means return to
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  someone, not resort to someone. I found out she's a covert
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  narcissist to the TI. Have no regrets.
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  Girls on Tinder and on bumble are matching me and I'm taking
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  my time with who I want in my life.
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  Going on dates every weekend and I love it.
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  Life is great when you move on by far.
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  It's not easy I know. Value yourself and move on.
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  Well, thank you so much for writing in.
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  So hopefully this was inspirational to you.
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  If you're feeling bad about your breakup or you're feeling bad
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  about yourself because a year ago this guy, as he said, he was
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  going through hell and now he's feeling better than ever.
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  So it can happen. There is light at the end of the
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  tunnel and if you think there isn't and you want help with
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  that, I'm here for you. So you can contact.
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  But first, before you contact me, comment below.
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  Wait, wait, comment below and let me know how long you've been
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  in no contact and how is it going?
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  Are you starting to feel better? And then if you'd like, you can
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  contact me to get personal coaching at theartoflove.net and
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  we will send you the rates and the direct link to that is
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  below. Every single video and podcast.
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  And finally, remember that love inspires, empowers, uplifts and
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  enlightens.