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Celebrate The Ones You Love - Like, Now! · Long Haul Marriage Roadcast

• 0:19
  Speaker 1: All right, you better be ready because we have a
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  Speaker 1: special special song for a special person on a special day.
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  Speaker 2: Wow.
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  Speaker 1: Happy Birthday two, Happy Birthday two, Happy Birthday Due Jane,
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  Speaker 1: Happy Birthday two. We he hello, Hello, Okay, Happy birthday baby.
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  Speaker 2: Thank you. It is thank you, thank you. Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: So you're celebrating the big five.
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  Speaker 3: Nine. So next year is like the really big next year.
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  Speaker 3: I gotta be get on my game.
• 1:02
  Speaker 1: Well, happy birthday, babe. What a special double whammy with
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  Speaker 1: Mother's Day on Sunday, Birthday on Monday. Great, it seems
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  Speaker 1: like just a full, full weekend of celebration with the family,
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  Speaker 1: the kids, the grandkids, all the things. So it's Happy
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  Speaker 1: Birthday and Happy Mother's Day. Happy Mother's Day to all
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  Speaker 1: you mother's out there. Belated obviously, but yeah, we were
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  Speaker 1: thinking about y'all and honoring you all. We have three
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  Speaker 1: mothers to honor in our family now, so yeah, and
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  Speaker 1: an honor, special honor to the ones who have gone
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  Speaker 1: have passed on both of our mothers, but you know,
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  Speaker 1: so we have Jamie, and we have Emily and we
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  Speaker 1: have Chan Chan. So it was a special day anyway.
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  Speaker 1: Happy birthday baby. By the way, that song that we
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  Speaker 1: just sang That's what everybody gets when they're in our circle.
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  Speaker 1: That's what you get on your birthday.
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  Speaker 2: That's right.
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  Speaker 3: We try it, We try it all and sing to you.
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  Speaker 3: And you would like for us to just send us
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  Speaker 3: some with your number. It's only five hundred dollars for
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  Speaker 3: each rendition. No, but what I was going to tell you,
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  Speaker 3: I really want to, like, I know you're honoring me
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  Speaker 3: for my birthday and Mother's Day, but I want to
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  Speaker 3: honor you. And I was just telling Blake just texted
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  Speaker 3: Happy birthday, and I said, well, I've got a brag
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  Speaker 3: on your buddy, I said, he every single year you
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  Speaker 3: have mothers like it's never going to change for the
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  Speaker 3: rest of our marriage. It's Mother's Day and my birthday
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  Speaker 3: back to back. Sometimes it's on the same day, sometimes
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  Speaker 3: it's one day apart, sometimes two days apart.
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  Speaker 2: It's always right there together.
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  Speaker 3: And can I just say that you have always made
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  Speaker 3: me feel so honored, so loved, so celebrated, and I
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  Speaker 3: feel so blessed. And you not only do you don't
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  Speaker 3: just lump it in together like whoo big celebrate. You
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  Speaker 3: really try to, you know, separate happy Birthday, happy Mother's Day,
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  Speaker 3: and not just lump it all into like one card
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  Speaker 3: or one.
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  Speaker 2: You know, I don't want, I don't want.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah that could you could? You could come out on
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  Speaker 1: the short and the stick.
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  Speaker 3: Well you've I just wanted to say I really appreciate
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  Speaker 3: you doing that.
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  Speaker 2: I could get teared up, but I know what I.
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  Speaker 3: Want to talk about today is just the gift of
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  Speaker 3: celebration and as a birthday gift to me, today is
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  Speaker 3: going to be it's actually a gift for all of
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  Speaker 3: you listening. Today is going to be short and sweet
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  Speaker 3: because we are going to get to go celebrate tonight.
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  Speaker 3: I'm excited to go to to get gussied up just
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  Speaker 3: a little bit and go celebrate over some yummy a
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  Speaker 3: yummy hamburger at Hudson House. Have any of y'all been anyway,
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  Speaker 3: So a little teary just thinking about the gift of
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  Speaker 3: celebration and how every single holiday you are really incredible
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  Speaker 3: at celebrating me, the kids, whoever. And it's really just
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  Speaker 3: a time to stop and say I honor you. And
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  Speaker 3: you do it through a card, you do it through
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  Speaker 3: a gift, you do it through flowers, or you do
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  Speaker 3: it through words. It doesn't really matter how you do it.
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  Speaker 2: You just do it.
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  Speaker 3: Well, so I want to tell you thank you because
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  Speaker 3: I've always felt that in our marriage, and so I
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  Speaker 3: wanted to ask you real quick, where do you think
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  Speaker 3: you know, that's kind of just like a really kind
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  Speaker 3: of a characteristic of you. You're really good at celebrating.
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  Speaker 3: Where do you think that came from for you?
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  Speaker 1: Well? And you and I've talked about the how we
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  Speaker 1: both grew up in families that made big deals about
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  Speaker 1: birthdays and celebrating milestone events, and you know, I mean
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  Speaker 1: whether it was graduations or baptisms or you know, obviously marriages,
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  Speaker 1: but holidays, all the things, and we we just that's
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  Speaker 1: what we saw. We made big deals about, you know,
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  Speaker 1: momentous occasions in milestone moments and and uh uh, you know, birthdays,
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  Speaker 1: Father's Day, Mother's Day. And when you see that, it's
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  Speaker 1: just kind of a normal part of your home. I
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  Speaker 1: just think you're you're kind of it's model these programmed
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  Speaker 1: and He's like, that's you're supposed to do that. And
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  Speaker 1: we know so many who didn't come from that, and
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  Speaker 1: so people feel skipped. You know, I told you I
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  Speaker 1: got up this morning and it was the first one
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  Speaker 1: of the first literally first tiktoks I saw was a
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  Speaker 1: woman who saying, man, my heart goes out to all
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  Speaker 1: you late. I saw hundreds of women getting on here
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  Speaker 1: saying they didn't they weren't seen, they weren't heard, they
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  Speaker 1: weren't celebrated for Mother's Day, and and you know that
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  Speaker 1: breaks our hearts because but but so many people they
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  Speaker 1: just they think, hey, you know what I told you,
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  Speaker 1: I love you when you know I said I do,
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  Speaker 1: and if I changed my mind, I'll let you know
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  Speaker 1: kind of thing. And uh yeah, I think it was modeled.
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  Speaker 1: I saw my dad and mom. They love surprises. I
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  Speaker 1: saw him, you know, like getting you know, the fun
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  Speaker 1: of surprising someone on a special day, you know, hiding
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  Speaker 1: the gifts or surprising them for the surprise party or
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  Speaker 1: the anniversary or the birthday. Obviously we always celebrate a Christmas,
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  Speaker 1: you know, and birthdays. But anyway, I think it was
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  Speaker 1: just I love the surprise element. I think the romance
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  Speaker 1: part when you love someone you want to do something
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  Speaker 1: special for them, and you know, yes, every day you
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  Speaker 1: should be Valentine's Day if you're married, and you know
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  Speaker 1: every day you should be celebrating, but it is a
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  Speaker 1: special day. I mean, it's just what a great opportunity
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  Speaker 1: to say, hey, I really appreciate you.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, you know, and I kind of want to take
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  Speaker 3: just a minute and really just use this time to
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  Speaker 3: encourage whoever is listening. Maybe I should really say it's
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  Speaker 3: pointed towards the guys, but maybe not also maybe to
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  Speaker 3: the girls too. But you know, I think sometimes guys
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  Speaker 3: just feel like overwhelmed, or they see how other people
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  Speaker 3: are celebrated and they feel like, oh, there's no way
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  Speaker 3: I can't compare. So maybe they just shut down. Or
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  Speaker 3: you know, girls, this could be on you. You've kind of
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  Speaker 3: taken on the attitude of like, well, we don't really care,
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  Speaker 3: Like birthdays aren't a big deal in our family, you know,
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  Speaker 3: when we don't we don't celebrate Valentine's Day. It's just
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  Speaker 3: a manufactured holiday, you know, or our anniversary. It's never
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  Speaker 3: really a big like woo woo, you know. And so
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  Speaker 3: you've kind of, I think, just as a defense mechanism,
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  Speaker 3: you've put off this energy of like I don't really care.
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  Speaker 1: Maybe they're afraid of being forgotten.
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  Speaker 3: Yes, so I'm gonna I'm gonna put up this farmer.
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  Speaker 3: It's not gonna hurt me.
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  Speaker 1: So the guy just goes with it. Yeah, And sometimes
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  Speaker 1: I think guys they feel like they're shot down because
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  Speaker 1: they tried chocolates, or they tried flowers, or they tried
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  Speaker 1: whatever gift and it just it fell flat or the
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  Speaker 1: girl didn't appreciate it or whatever, and then he's obviously
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  Speaker 1: gunshy to do it again. And there's also the part
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  Speaker 1: of fear of like I can't afford it right. There's
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  Speaker 1: so many people who don't celebrate stuff because they think
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  Speaker 1: they got to break the bank to do it right.
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  Speaker 1: But I think what you wanted to talk about when
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  Speaker 1: you said something earlier today about just how I mean
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  Speaker 1: you just mentioned it words, just taking the time just
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  Speaker 1: to write a special card to someone expressing how you feel.
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  Speaker 1: I mean that can I mean, just think about the
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  Speaker 1: tears that we see shed around special moments. It's not
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  Speaker 1: when they open the gift. We all laugh when they
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  Speaker 1: see the gift and all that, but it's when they
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  Speaker 1: read the card is when all the emotion is shown.
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  Speaker 2: Yes, so a couple of things.
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  Speaker 3: You're right, It does not need to cost barely any
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  Speaker 3: money at all, you know, I think it would be
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  Speaker 3: really special if maybe both of these things, if you
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  Speaker 3: both husband and wife took the love language, little assessment
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  Speaker 3: so that you know your spouse's love language. Maybe she's
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  Speaker 3: acts of service and maybe more than gift or flowers
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  Speaker 3: or something.
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  Speaker 2: You could say, hey, I'll take.
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  Speaker 3: Your car and have it washed today, or like you did,
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  Speaker 3: you said I'm gonna go out and trim all the bushes,
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  Speaker 3: you know, like I just want everything looking really nice
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  Speaker 3: on the property or whatever. So it doesn't have to
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  Speaker 3: be anything over the top. But if you know your spouse,
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  Speaker 3: like you tell couples all the time, you don't need
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  Speaker 3: to be an expert on women. You don't need to
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  Speaker 3: be an expert on men. Just be an expert on her,
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  Speaker 3: on your wife, on your husband. And so if you
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  Speaker 3: know what trips her trigger, you know what's going to
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  Speaker 3: just light her up and make her feel loved and seen. Figure, Like,
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  Speaker 3: make that your quest. And it doesn't have to I mean,
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  Speaker 3: maybe you are married to somebody who's like I won't
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  Speaker 3: take anything less than a trip de grease. Okay, then
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  Speaker 3: sorry that's over the top, But I guarantee you you
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  Speaker 3: would be surprised at how simple if you just ask
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  Speaker 3: a question, what would make you feel most loved? Yeah,
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  Speaker 3: and you just made a note in your phone you know,
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  Speaker 3: what's your favorite you know, like do a little quiz.
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  Speaker 3: What's your favorite color? What are your favorite flowers? Oh,
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  Speaker 3: didn't know that. What's your favorite candy?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah?
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  Speaker 2: What's your favorite restaurant that we you know? Just if
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  Speaker 2: you know it?
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  Speaker 1: Yes, and if you know a special days coming up,
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  Speaker 1: like on the calendar, just start paying attention. What are
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  Speaker 1: they mentioning? What are they talking about? It? Is there
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  Speaker 1: something that they've mentioned that they want or something that
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  Speaker 1: they need? And when you it just shows, man, I'm
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  Speaker 1: thinking about them. I'm paying attention, like I listen, I
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  Speaker 1: know them, and I love the element of surprise. So
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  Speaker 1: for men, I mean, just surprise her with anything like it.
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  Speaker 1: Don't like like, hey, what do you want? I mean
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  Speaker 1: we've even joked about, you know, the gift full list,
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  Speaker 1: you know, and the things in the Amazon cart. You know, hey,
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  Speaker 1: go look in the Save for later or the Amazon
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  Speaker 1: cart and you know, grab her some stuff in there
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  Speaker 1: if she saved some stuff in there. But the surprise element,
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  Speaker 1: what I've loved is seeing Ryan, now our son in law,
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  Speaker 1: do that with our daughter. He just loves the surprise.
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  Speaker 1: And now Christian has picked that up and Carson, just
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  Speaker 1: the boys just loving to surprise and give gifts to
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  Speaker 1: their wives, you know, or their significant other. It's just
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  Speaker 1: really cool to see. I mean, it's just very very special.
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  Speaker 1: So I like the surprise aspect of it because it
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  Speaker 1: kind of says, oh, you're thinking about me, you know,
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  Speaker 1: like when I don't know you're thinking about me, or
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  Speaker 1: when you don't have to, let's say, or when I
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  Speaker 1: think you're busy, er when I think you're distracted doing
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  Speaker 1: something else. No, I was actually on the priority list.
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  Speaker 1: I was taking up some mental space and some emotional
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  Speaker 1: space in your heart. And it's just when when that
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  Speaker 1: surprise comes out, it's great.
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  Speaker 2: Yes, So I wanted to say kudos to you.
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  Speaker 3: Thank you for the way that you celebrate me and
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  Speaker 3: make me feel special every single holiday, and the way
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  Speaker 3: that you do make me feel seen and loved.
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  Speaker 2: Really really appreciate it.
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  Speaker 3: And so I just want to use really today to
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  Speaker 3: number one, encourage everyone to celebrate whenever you can, because
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  Speaker 3: there will be a day. Don't make me cry, but
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  Speaker 3: there will be a day when you didn't know it,
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  Speaker 3: but that was going to be your last, Yeah, that
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  Speaker 3: was going to be your last Valentine's to celebrate. That
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  Speaker 3: was going to be your last Mother's Day to celebrate.
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  Speaker 3: I'm not I don't want to be all sentimental, but
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  Speaker 3: sorry too late. You don't know when it will be,
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  Speaker 3: so take every moment to you know, and even on.
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  Speaker 2: Days that aren't holidays.
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  Speaker 3: But we're just talking about Mother's Day and my birthday
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  Speaker 3: because that's what it is. But every day is a
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  Speaker 3: great day to celebrate something. So that was number one.
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  Speaker 3: Number two.
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  Speaker 2: I actually texted with a sweet.
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  Speaker 3: Friend of mine who just lost her grown son just
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  Speaker 3: a couple of years ago, and this was I believe
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  Speaker 3: her second Mother's Day without him, and she said, I
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  Speaker 3: just said, man, I you know, was thinking about you.
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  Speaker 2: How was it for you?
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  Speaker 3: And she said it just so you know, it was
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  Speaker 3: sweet and also surreal because I just keep picturing he
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  Speaker 3: should be walking in the door any minute. And so
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  Speaker 3: I just related back to her and said, gosh, that
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  Speaker 3: just breaks my heart and it makes me think back
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  Speaker 3: to after we lost Corbin, just walking by his room
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  Speaker 3: picturing you know, that little voice like I almost heard it,
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  Speaker 3: Like was that him in there, you know, standing up
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  Speaker 3: in the crib and saying Mama? And anyway, you just
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  Speaker 3: I think with every holiday too, we call it happy
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  Speaker 3: crappy you know, there are happy things to celebrate, and
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  Speaker 3: then there are crappy things that just suck that that
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  Speaker 3: are sad and hard, or we're grieving a lot of
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  Speaker 3: things for that could be for Mother's Day or people's birthdays,
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  Speaker 3: different anniversaries, and so I kind of wanted to talk
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  Speaker 3: about that too, just how how do you carry both
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  Speaker 3: of those, the happy and the crappy?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, in your own life and then seeing that
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  Speaker 1: and acknowledging that in other people.
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  Speaker 3: You know, I think sometimes we shy away from it.
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  Speaker 3: We're like, ooh, I'm just not going to mention anything
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  Speaker 3: because this might be No, it's that meant the world
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  Speaker 3: to us when people would acknowledge I see you, and
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  Speaker 3: I'm sure this was a really hard holiday for you,
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  Speaker 3: you know after week.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, the poe I mean grieving. I don't want to
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  Speaker 1: get cliche air or tried at all, but grieving, you know,
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  Speaker 1: it's you know, it's part of you forever, right, and
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  Speaker 1: you never get over it. There's no closure. You just
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  Speaker 1: learn that new center of gravity, you know, to walk
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  Speaker 1: without that you know, limb if you will, that that
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  Speaker 1: thing that was a part of you, that person. But
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  Speaker 1: when you grieve, well, obviously you learn to integrate the law.
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  Speaker 1: But it just means when you grieve heavily, that just
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  Speaker 1: means you loved, yeah, like incredibly, and so that's just
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  Speaker 1: it's a it's a sign of love, you know, it's
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  Speaker 1: a sign of that that deep, deep love. And so
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  Speaker 1: loss is going to be part of it. And I think, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: when you don't, don't be afraid, I think is maybe
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  Speaker 1: that's what you were going for, is to shy away
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  Speaker 1: from celebrating things that we have even though you know
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  Speaker 1: there's so much loss around you. I mean, we're not
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  Speaker 1: going to stop celebrating our marriage just because there are
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  Speaker 1: divorces around us. Our hearts break, but that's why we
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  Speaker 1: want to do this ministry, and our hearts do go
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  Speaker 1: out to people who have, you know, obviously suffered loss
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  Speaker 1: of any kind as as we have as well. But yeah,
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  Speaker 1: so many times it's learning, like you said, to contain
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  Speaker 1: both of those at the same time, the joy and
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  Speaker 1: and the loss. Right. One thing I was going to
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  Speaker 1: go back to is, you know a lot of times
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  Speaker 1: you do carry on on like the traditions of your
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  Speaker 1: family and have traditions or traditionally in your family. What
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  Speaker 1: was modeled was celebrating big moments, you know, given the
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  Speaker 1: birthday presents and making a big deal at Christmas time,
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  Speaker 1: and most people do it Christmas, but you know for
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  Speaker 1: Valentine's and birthdays and Mother's Day, Father's Day. You said
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  Speaker 1: that so many people, we don't really do that, and
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  Speaker 1: I would just submit a lot of people don't do
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  Speaker 1: it because it wasn't shown to them, and they've agreed,
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  Speaker 1: almost made maybe a silent agreement in their marriage. We're
• 16:36
  Speaker 1: not going to do that. That just wasn't done, and
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  Speaker 1: so they've settled into that. I would say, be the
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  Speaker 1: person to start a new tradition, because you can never
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  Speaker 1: celebrate someone too much. And I don't care, I mean,
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  Speaker 1: use the silly days on the calendar. If you have
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  Speaker 1: to just make big deals about somebody whenever you can,
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  Speaker 1: and man that especially on their birthday, just single them
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  Speaker 1: out and show them you're appreciative that they're here and
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  Speaker 1: that you love them. Yeah, and you're glad that they're
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  Speaker 1: in your life. But I would say, just just you know,
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  Speaker 1: start the I can hear again, I'm thinking about two
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  Speaker 1: people that I know we just don't do that. Man
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  Speaker 1: start their tradition now, Like, be the person who's going
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  Speaker 1: to start and change generations after you, because we are
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  Speaker 1: going to start celebrating people in our lives now.
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  Speaker 2: I don't know anybody.
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  Speaker 3: I've known people friends that are like, well, we just
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  Speaker 3: don't really do that, you know, and they kind of
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  Speaker 3: blow it off. But I really don't know anyone who
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  Speaker 3: genuinely says I don't like to be seen or known
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  Speaker 3: or celebrated or loved or spoken sweet words over. Like,
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  Speaker 3: I genuinely don't know someone who would say I just
• 17:51
  Speaker 3: don't want to be celebrated. And if they say that,
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  Speaker 3: I think there's something deeper going on there, and.
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  Speaker 1: I think the pubble I get it, Like if you're
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  Speaker 1: nobody wants to have the sombrero on their head and
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  Speaker 1: we're gonna all gather around and sing happy birthday, yes,
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  Speaker 1: you know, being singled out, being in the hot seat
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  Speaker 1: because we feel like all eyes on us and it's
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  Speaker 1: almost like we all had this veiled shame, like we
• 18:13
  Speaker 1: don't we don't deserve this. No, no, no, don't look
• 18:16
  Speaker 1: at me. Yeah, but like let's.
• 18:18
  Speaker 2: Get over that.
• 18:18
  Speaker 3: If they like, let's get over to me on the spot, right,
• 18:21
  Speaker 3: I do get that. I think about, man, how young
• 18:25
  Speaker 3: we're starting with like, think about last Thursday? Was it
• 18:29
  Speaker 3: when it was Rue our grand five year old granddaughter's
• 18:32
  Speaker 3: preschool graduation? Preschool graduation, you would have thought it was
• 18:36
  Speaker 3: high school graduation. We all showed up, I mean perfect uncles, Mimi, Papa,
• 18:43
  Speaker 3: gig chief, we all were there to I mean hoot
• 18:48
  Speaker 3: and holler as she walked across the stage.
• 18:50
  Speaker 1: Does she sang her little song and walked across the
• 18:52
  Speaker 1: stage have Mexican patter capa big, big around the table,
• 18:57
  Speaker 1: like how many of us fifteen twenty? Yeah, yeah, around
• 19:01
  Speaker 1: the table? And Jamie, you looked across the table at Rue,
• 19:04
  Speaker 1: and what did you tell her?
• 19:05
  Speaker 3: I said, hey, Ru, I want you to stop and
• 19:07
  Speaker 3: just look at because it's mayhem. It's a surface around
• 19:10
  Speaker 3: that table. But I stopped her and I said, hey,
• 19:12
  Speaker 3: look around this table. And she looked at it and
• 19:14
  Speaker 3: she said yeah. And I said, do you know why
• 19:16
  Speaker 3: we're all here? She said, to celebrate my graduation. I said, yes,
• 19:21
  Speaker 3: you brought us all together. We all love you. I'm
• 19:26
  Speaker 3: so proud of you, and we all wanted to be
• 19:29
  Speaker 3: here to celebrate you tonight.
• 19:31
  Speaker 2: That's pretty cool. Look at you getting.
• 19:33
  Speaker 3: Us all together to celebrate you. You're so loved and
• 19:36
  Speaker 3: she just had the biggest smile on her face.
• 19:39
  Speaker 1: I don't know if her ever you know, standing on
• 19:42
  Speaker 1: that stage will be a core memory, or if us
• 19:43
  Speaker 1: sitting around that table will be a core memory. But
• 19:45
  Speaker 1: I guarantee you what will be inside her heart will
• 19:50
  Speaker 1: be the core memory of being loved and being surrounded
• 19:53
  Speaker 1: by people who love her and lift her up and
• 19:56
  Speaker 1: are cheering her on.
• 19:57
  Speaker 3: Yeap, And we you know, you got to do a
• 20:00
  Speaker 3: little extra Like it started at six. We needed to
• 20:02
  Speaker 3: leave the house at five. We had an appointment right before.
• 20:05
  Speaker 3: That's why, to make sure we were ready to go.
• 20:07
  Speaker 3: You know, you you do have to put some thought
• 20:10
  Speaker 3: into it. You're in traffic on the way to Fort
• 20:12
  Speaker 3: Worth five o'clock.
• 20:14
  Speaker 2: Who cares?
• 20:14
  Speaker 1: And you think this is inconvenient? Oh man, this is
• 20:17
  Speaker 1: gonna be mayhem, It's gonna be hell. Oh it's just
• 20:19
  Speaker 1: two minutes for first stand up on stage. You know what,
• 20:23
  Speaker 1: I'll just see that you don't miss it, Do not
• 20:26
  Speaker 1: miss it. Yeah, So go celebrate the ones you love.
• 20:29
  Speaker 1: We love you guys, celebrate big amen.
• 20:33
  Speaker 3: So I would say you either celebrate them now or
• 20:38
  Speaker 3: you celebrate them later.
• 21:00
  Speaker 1: Name seven ten names,