221: Why I Work with Affair Couples as Individuals

Your Secret Is Safe With Me · Nov 20, 2025 · 35m

Working with couples separately might seem counterintuitive when challenges arise.

The dominant cultural narrative tells us that relationship problems require both partners in the same room with a therapist, working through issues together. But what if this approach actually reinforces the very dynamics that create unnecessary suffering in relationships?

I regularly get asked if I work with affair couples, and the answer is absolutely yes - but not in the traditional couples counseling format. Instead, I work with affair partners concurrently but separately. This approach has nothing to do…