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When Achieving Everything Still Feels Like Nothing | EP 304 · Confident and Empowered Women

• 0:05
  What
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  do
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  you
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  do
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  when
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  you've
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  worked
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  hard,
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  built
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  something
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  real,
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  hit
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  the
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  goals,
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  and
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  that
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  was
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  supposed
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  to
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  feel
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  like
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  success,
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  and
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  then
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  something
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  in
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  you
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  keeps
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  whispering,
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  "This
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  not
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  it
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  anymore."
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  Nothing
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  went
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  wrong
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  necessarily,
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  but
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  perhaps
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  something
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  deeper
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  is
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  calling.
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  Today,
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  we're
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  talking
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  about
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  the
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  achiever
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  on
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  autopilot,
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  the
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  woman
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  who
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  is
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  succeeding
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  at
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  life
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  that
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  stopped
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  feeling
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  like
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  it
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  was
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  hers.
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  And
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  friend,
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  I
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  have
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  been
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  her,
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  and
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  if
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  this
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  feels
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  like
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  you
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  right
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  now,
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  let's
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  get
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  into
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  it.
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  Real
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  quick,
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  if
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  you
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  are
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  not
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  subscribed
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  to
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  Confident
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  and
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  Empowered
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  Women
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  yet,
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  what
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  are
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  we
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  even
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  doing,
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  okay?
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  We
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  are
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  here
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  every
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  single
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  Tuesday
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  and
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  Thursday,
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  and
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  this
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  is
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  not
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  just
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  a
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  podcast.
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  This
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  is
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  a
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  community
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  of
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  women
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  who
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  are
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  done
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  shrinking,
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  settling,
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  people-pleasing,
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  performing,
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  and
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  putting
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  herself
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  last.
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  This
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  is
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  where
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  we
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  come
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  to
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  remember
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  who
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  we
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  actually
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  are
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  and
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  build
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  the
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  life
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  that
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  reflects
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  her.
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  We're
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  becoming
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  together,
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  friend,
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  and
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  if
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  you're
• 1:14
  not
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  subscribed
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  yet,
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  today
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  is
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  the
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  day.
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  Okay,
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  friend,
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  let
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  me
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  just
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  say,
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  I
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  built
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  the
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  career
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  I
• 1:22
  was
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  genuinely
• 1:23
  proud
• 1:23
  of.
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  20-plus
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  years
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  of
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  leadership
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  experience,
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  teams
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  built
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  from
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  scratch,
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  results
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  delivered,
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  a
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  reputation
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  that
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  meant
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  something.
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  And
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  I
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  wanna
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  be
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  clear,
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  because
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  I'm
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  not
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  telling
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  you
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  that
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  I
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  was
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  completely
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  miserable
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  the
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  whole
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  time
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  or
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  that
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  none
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  of
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  it
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  was
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  mine
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  or
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  meant
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  anything,
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  because
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  that
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  just
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  wouldn't
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  be
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  the
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  truth.
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  What
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  is
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  true
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  is
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  that
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  one
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  day
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  I
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  looked
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  up
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  and
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  realized
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  going
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  further
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  down
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  that
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  path,
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  the
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  next
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  promotion,
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  the
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  next
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  senior-level
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  position,
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  the
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  next
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  rung
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  of
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  the
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  ladder
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  was
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  just
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  not
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  what
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  I
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  wanted
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  anymore.
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  It
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  just
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  wasn't
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  fulfilling
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  in
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  the
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  way
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  that
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  it
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  once
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  had
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  been.
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  And
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  the
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  piece
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  that
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  kept
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  lighting
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  me
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  up,
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  the
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  coaching,
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  the
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  conversations,
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  helping
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  people
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  figure
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  out
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  what
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  was
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  next
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  for
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  them,
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  that
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  had
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  been
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  hiding
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  inside
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  of
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  everything
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  else
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  the
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  whole
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  time.
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  And
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  the
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  hardest
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  part,
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  it
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  wasn't
• 2:22
  even
• 2:22
  figuring
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  out
• 2:23
  what
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  I
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  wanted
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  to
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  do
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  next.
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  It
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  was
• 2:25
  giving
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  myself
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  permission
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  to
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  want
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  something
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  different
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  when
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  what
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  I
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  had
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  already
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  built
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  looked
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  so
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  good
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  on
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  paper.
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  Friend,
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  if
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  any
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  single
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  part
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  of
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  that
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  landed
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  for
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  you,
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  good,
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  because
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  we're
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  gonna
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  talk
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  about
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  what
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  it
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  actually
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  feels
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  like
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  to
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  outgrow
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  something
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  you
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  built
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  and
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  why
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  that's
• 2:46
  not
• 2:47
  a
• 2:47
  failure.
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  Okay?
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  So
• 2:49
  let's
• 2:49
  really
• 2:50
  get
• 2:50
  into
• 2:50
  it.
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  So
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  how
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  did
• 2:53
  we
• 2:53
  even
• 2:53
  get
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  here?
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  Maybe
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  you
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  built
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  someone
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  else's
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  dream,
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  the
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  career
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  your
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  parents
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  approved
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  of.
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  Listen,
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  one
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  of
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  my
• 3:01
  favorite
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  coaches,
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  Glo
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  Atanmo,
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  she
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  always
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  talks
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  about
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  her
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  Nigerian
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  parents
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  and
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  how
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  they
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  would
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  introduce
• 3:09
  her
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  as
• 3:10
  Glo
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  the
• 3:11
  doctor.
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  Because
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  they
• 3:16
  had
• 3:16
  already
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  decided
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  while
• 3:17
  she
• 3:18
  was
• 3:18
  still
• 3:18
  in
• 3:18
  the
• 3:18
  womb
• 3:19
  she
• 3:19
  was
• 3:19
  gonna
• 3:19
  be
• 3:20
  a
• 3:20
  doctor.
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  Or
• 3:23
  what
• 3:23
  about
• 3:24
  the
• 3:24
  version
• 3:24
  of
• 3:24
  success
• 3:25
  that
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  society
• 3:26
  handed
• 3:27
  to
• 3:27
  you?
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  You
• 3:28
  know,
• 3:29
  the
• 3:29
  go
• 3:29
  to
• 3:29
  college,
• 3:30
  get
• 3:30
  a
• 3:30
  job,
• 3:31
  get
• 3:31
  married,
• 3:32
  buy
• 3:32
  the
• 3:32
  house,
• 3:32
  have
• 3:33
  2.5
• 3:34
  children,
• 3:34
  and
• 3:34
  live
• 3:35
  happily
• 3:36
  ever
• 3:36
  after.
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  Or
• 3:37
  what
• 3:37
  about
• 3:37
  the
• 3:37
  blueprint
• 3:38
  that
• 3:39
  was
• 3:39
  inherited
• 3:40
  without
• 3:40
  ever
• 3:41
  really
• 3:41
  questioning
• 3:42
  whether
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  it
• 3:43
  was
• 3:43
  even
• 3:43
  yours,
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  and
• 3:44
  one
• 3:45
  day
• 3:45
  realizing
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  you've
• 3:47
  been
• 3:47
  executing
• 3:48
  someone
• 3:49
  else's
• 3:49
  vision
• 3:50
  and
• 3:50
  calling
• 3:51
  it
• 3:51
  your
• 3:51
  life?
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  Or
• 3:54
  maybe
• 3:55
  you
• 3:55
  did
• 3:55
  build
• 3:55
  your
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  own
• 3:56
  dream,
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  something
• 3:57
  you
• 3:57
  genuinely
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  wanted.
• 3:59
  You
• 3:59
  worked
• 4:00
  hard
• 4:00
  for
• 4:01
  it,
• 4:01
  and
• 4:01
  you're
• 4:01
  even
• 4:02
  proud
• 4:02
  of
• 4:02
  it,
• 4:03
  and
• 4:03
  yet
• 4:04
  and
• 4:04
  still
• 4:04
  you
• 4:05
  woke
• 4:05
  up
• 4:05
  one
• 4:05
  day
• 4:06
  and
• 4:06
  realized
• 4:07
  it
• 4:07
  just
• 4:08
  wasn't
• 4:08
  fulfilling
• 4:09
  you
• 4:09
  anymore
• 4:10
  in
• 4:10
  the
• 4:10
  way
• 4:10
  that
• 4:10
  you
• 4:11
  thought
• 4:11
  it
• 4:11
  always
• 4:12
  would.
• 4:13
  Maybe
• 4:13
  now
• 4:14
  that
• 4:14
  you're
• 4:14
  here
• 4:15
  and
• 4:15
  you
• 4:15
  see
• 4:16
  the
• 4:16
  real
• 4:16
  BTS,
• 4:18
  you
• 4:18
  know
• 4:18
  the
• 4:18
  for
• 4:18
  real
• 4:19
  behind
• 4:19
  the
• 4:19
  scenes,
• 4:20
  not
• 4:20
  just
• 4:20
  behind
• 4:21
  the
• 4:21
  curtain,
• 4:21
  but
• 4:21
  the
• 4:22
  real
• 4:23
  behind
• 4:23
  the
• 4:23
  scenes,
• 4:24
  and
• 4:24
  now
• 4:24
  you
• 4:24
  know
• 4:25
  what
• 4:25
  it
• 4:25
  costs
• 4:25
  to
• 4:25
  actually
• 4:26
  fill
• 4:26
  that
• 4:27
  role.
• 4:28
  And
• 4:29
  now
• 4:29
  you
• 4:29
  sitting
• 4:29
  here
• 4:29
  thinking,
• 4:30
  "This
• 4:31
  ain't
• 4:31
  for
• 4:31
  me."
• 4:34
  And
• 4:34
  what
• 4:35
  if
• 4:35
  that
• 4:35
  sign
• 4:36
  is
• 4:37
  just
• 4:37
  signaling
• 4:38
  to
• 4:38
  you
• 4:39
  that
• 4:39
  something
• 4:40
  deeper
• 4:41
  is
• 4:41
  calling
• 4:41
  you
• 4:42
  forward?
• 4:43
  This
• 4:43
  is
• 4:43
  what
• 4:43
  I
• 4:43
  like
• 4:44
  to
• 4:44
  call
• 4:44
  the
• 4:44
  achiever
• 4:45
  on
• 4:45
  autopilot.
• 4:47
  And
• 4:47
  no
• 4:47
  matter
• 4:47
  how
• 4:48
  you
• 4:48
  found
• 4:48
  yourself
• 4:49
  here,
• 4:50
  you
• 4:50
  deserve
• 4:50
  to
• 4:51
  have
• 4:51
  your
• 4:51
  experience
• 4:53
  honored
• 4:53
  without
• 4:53
  guilt
• 4:54
  or
• 4:54
  comparison,
• 4:56
  because
• 4:56
  sometimes
• 4:57
  you
• 4:57
  ordered
• 4:58
  something
• 4:58
  off
• 4:58
  the
• 4:59
  menu
• 5:00
  that
• 5:00
  you
• 5:00
  never
• 5:00
  tried
• 5:00
  before.
• 5:01
  You
• 5:01
  saw
• 5:02
  the
• 5:02
  commercial
• 5:03
  and
• 5:03
  you
• 5:03
  were
• 5:03
  hooked.
• 5:06
  Had
• 5:07
  it
• 5:07
  looking
• 5:07
  all
• 5:07
  good
• 5:07
  and
• 5:07
  stuff.
• 5:10
  And
• 5:10
  then
• 5:10
  you
• 5:10
  get
• 5:10
  it,
• 5:11
  and
• 5:11
  it's
• 5:11
  nothing
• 5:12
  like
• 5:12
  you
• 5:12
  expected
• 5:13
  when
• 5:14
  it
• 5:14
  arrives.
• 5:15
  Listen,
• 5:15
  that's
• 5:16
  not
• 5:16
  a
• 5:16
  character
• 5:16
  flaw.
• 5:17
  That
• 5:17
  is
• 5:18
  just
• 5:18
  what
• 5:18
  happens
• 5:19
  when
• 5:19
  you
• 5:19
  get
• 5:20
  there
• 5:20
  and
• 5:20
  realize
• 5:21
  the
• 5:21
  picture
• 5:22
  looked
• 5:22
  different
• 5:23
  from
• 5:23
  the
• 5:23
  outside.
• 5:24
  You
• 5:25
  are
• 5:25
  allowed
• 5:25
  to
• 5:26
  send
• 5:26
  it
• 5:26
  back,
• 5:27
  to
• 5:27
  want
• 5:27
  something
• 5:28
  else,
• 5:28
  and
• 5:29
  you
• 5:29
  definitely
• 5:30
  do
• 5:30
  not
• 5:30
  have
• 5:31
  to
• 5:31
  finish
• 5:31
  it
• 5:32
  just
• 5:32
  because
• 5:32
  you
• 5:33
  ordered
• 5:33
  it.
• 5:34
  And
• 5:34
  listen,
• 5:34
  friend,
• 5:35
  none
• 5:35
  of
• 5:35
  that
• 5:35
  is
• 5:36
  true.
• 5:36
  But
• 5:37
  you
• 5:37
  know
• 5:37
  what
• 5:37
  we
• 5:37
  do?
• 5:38
  We
• 5:38
  keep
• 5:38
  going.
• 5:39
  We
• 5:40
  achieve
• 5:40
  the
• 5:40
  next
• 5:41
  thing,
• 5:41
  set
• 5:42
  the
• 5:42
  next
• 5:42
  goal,
• 5:42
  because
• 5:43
  stopping
• 5:43
  to
• 5:44
  ask,
• 5:44
  "Is
• 5:44
  this
• 5:45
  what
• 5:45
  I
• 5:45
  really
• 5:46
  want?"
• 5:46
  feels
• 5:47
  more
• 5:47
  dangerous
• 5:48
  than
• 5:48
  just
• 5:49
  staying
• 5:49
  on
• 5:49
  the
• 5:50
  path.
• 5:50
  Asking
• 5:51
  that
• 5:51
  question
• 5:52
  out
• 5:52
  loud
• 5:52
  makes
• 5:53
  it
• 5:53
  real,
• 5:54
  and
• 5:54
  real
• 5:54
  means
• 5:55
  you
• 5:55
  might
• 5:56
  have
• 5:56
  to
• 5:56
  do
• 5:56
  something
• 5:56
  about
• 5:57
  it.
• 5:59
  But
• 6:00
  friend,
• 6:00
  continuing
• 6:01
  something
• 6:02
  that
• 6:02
  is
• 6:03
  no
• 6:03
  longer
• 6:03
  aligned
• 6:04
  or
• 6:05
  reflective
• 6:06
  of
• 6:07
  who
• 6:07
  you
• 6:07
  are
• 6:07
  becoming
• 6:08
  is
• 6:08
  not
• 6:09
  loyalty.
• 6:10
  It's
• 6:10
  actually
• 6:11
  expensive,
• 6:11
  and
• 6:12
  it's
• 6:12
  costing
• 6:12
  you
• 6:13
  your
• 6:13
  energy,
• 6:14
  presence,
• 6:15
  and
• 6:15
  your
• 6:16
  own
• 6:16
  sense
• 6:17
  of
• 6:17
  self,
• 6:18
  and
• 6:18
  eventually,
• 6:20
  it
• 6:20
  costs
• 6:20
  you
• 6:21
  the
• 6:21
  time
• 6:21
  that
• 6:21
  you
• 6:22
  could
• 6:22
  have
• 6:22
  spent
• 6:23
  building
• 6:23
  the
• 6:23
  thing
• 6:24
  that
• 6:24
  was
• 6:24
  actually
• 6:25
  calling
• 6:25
  you.
• 6:26
  Listen,
• 6:27
  I
• 6:27
  kept
• 6:27
  seeing
• 6:28
  the
• 6:28
  coaching
• 6:28
  piece
• 6:29
  within
• 6:30
  my
• 6:30
  corporate
• 6:30
  work
• 6:31
  lighting
• 6:31
  me
• 6:32
  up
• 6:32
  inside
• 6:33
  of
• 6:34
  everything
• 6:34
  else
• 6:34
  I
• 6:35
  had
• 6:35
  going
• 6:35
  on,
• 6:36
  and
• 6:36
  I
• 6:36
  kept
• 6:37
  noticing
• 6:37
  it.
• 6:38
  I
• 6:38
  kept
• 6:38
  setting
• 6:38
  it
• 6:38
  aside
• 6:39
  because
• 6:40
  I
• 6:40
  had
• 6:40
  a
• 6:40
  whole
• 6:40
  career
• 6:41
  to
• 6:41
  tend
• 6:41
  to,
• 6:42
  and
• 6:43
  it
• 6:43
  was
• 6:43
  not
• 6:43
  until
• 6:44
  God
• 6:44
  moved
• 6:44
  me
• 6:45
  out
• 6:45
  of
• 6:45
  that
• 6:46
  season
• 6:46
  entirely
• 6:48
  that
• 6:49
  I
• 6:49
  finally
• 6:49
  had
• 6:49
  the
• 6:49
  space
• 6:50
  to
• 6:51
  hear
• 6:52
  what
• 6:52
  had
• 6:52
  been
• 6:52
  calling
• 6:53
  me
• 6:54
  the
• 6:54
  whole
• 6:54
  time.
• 6:55
  Your
• 6:55
  signal
• 6:56
  might
• 6:57
  be
• 6:57
  quieter
• 6:57
  than
• 6:58
  mine
• 6:58
  was,
• 6:59
  but
• 6:59
  it
• 6:59
  is
• 6:59
  there,
• 7:00
  and
• 7:01
  it
• 7:01
  has
• 7:01
  been
• 7:02
  trying
• 7:03
  to
• 7:03
  get
• 7:03
  your
• 7:03
  attention.
• 7:05
  Hear
• 7:05
  this
• 7:05
  with
• 7:05
  your
• 7:06
  whole
• 7:06
  heart
• 7:07
  when
• 7:07
  I
• 7:07
  say
• 7:07
  this
• 7:08
  to
• 7:08
  you.
• 7:08
  Wanting
• 7:09
  more
• 7:10
  is
• 7:10
  not
• 7:11
  being
• 7:11
  ungrateful
• 7:12
  for
• 7:12
  what
• 7:13
  you
• 7:13
  have
• 7:13
  built.
• 7:14
  Outgrowing
• 7:14
  something
• 7:15
  is
• 7:15
  not
• 7:16
  erasing
• 7:17
  it.
• 7:17
  Everything
• 7:18
  you
• 7:18
  built,
• 7:19
  Every
• 7:19
  skill,
• 7:20
  every
• 7:20
  lesson
• 7:21
  and
• 7:21
  season
• 7:21
  of
• 7:22
  showing
• 7:22
  up
• 7:23
  even
• 7:23
  when
• 7:23
  it
• 7:23
  stopped
• 7:24
  feeling
• 7:24
  right
• 7:25
  for
• 7:25
  you,
• 7:26
  all
• 7:26
  of
• 7:26
  it
• 7:27
  got
• 7:27
  you
• 7:27
  here.
• 7:28
  None
• 7:28
  of
• 7:28
  it
• 7:28
  is
• 7:29
  wasted.
• 7:30
  It
• 7:30
  was
• 7:30
  all
• 7:31
  the
• 7:31
  runway.
• 7:32
  It
• 7:33
  was
• 7:33
  all
• 7:33
  your
• 7:33
  preparation.
• 7:35
  And
• 7:35
  the
• 7:35
  feeling,
• 7:36
  that
• 7:36
  pull,
• 7:36
  that
• 7:37
  restlessness,
• 7:38
  the
• 7:39
  underlying
• 7:40
  knowing
• 7:40
  that
• 7:41
  something
• 7:41
  more
• 7:41
  meaningful
• 7:42
  is
• 7:42
  waiting,
• 7:43
  that
• 7:44
  is
• 7:44
  not
• 7:44
  your
• 7:45
  life
• 7:45
  falling
• 7:45
  apart.
• 7:46
  That
• 7:46
  is
• 7:47
  your
• 7:47
  next
• 7:47
  level
• 7:48
  trying
• 7:49
  to
• 7:49
  get
• 7:49
  your
• 7:49
  attention.
• 7:51
  The
• 7:51
  achiever
• 7:51
  on
• 7:52
  autopilot
• 7:52
  doesn't
• 7:53
  need
• 7:53
  to
• 7:53
  blow
• 7:54
  her
• 7:54
  whole
• 7:54
  life
• 7:55
  up
• 7:55
  just
• 7:56
  to
• 7:56
  respond
• 7:57
  to
• 7:57
  that
• 7:58
  call.
• 7:58
  She
• 7:58
  just
• 7:59
  needs
• 7:59
  to
• 7:59
  get
• 7:59
  still
• 8:00
  long
• 8:00
  enough
• 8:00
  to
• 8:01
  hear
• 8:01
  it
• 8:01
  clearly.
• 8:02
  Because
• 8:02
  here's
• 8:03
  what
• 8:03
  I
• 8:03
  know.
• 8:04
  The
• 8:04
  thing
• 8:05
  that
• 8:05
  is
• 8:05
  calling
• 8:05
  you,
• 8:06
  it's
• 8:07
  been
• 8:07
  patient
• 8:08
  and
• 8:08
  waiting,
• 8:09
  and
• 8:09
  it
• 8:09
  ain't
• 8:10
  going
• 8:10
  nowhere
• 8:14
  And
• 8:14
  neither
• 8:14
  is
• 8:15
  the
• 8:15
  autopilot,
• 8:16
  if
• 8:16
  we're
• 8:16
  being
• 8:16
  real,
• 8:17
  unless
• 8:18
  you
• 8:18
  make
• 8:19
  a
• 8:19
  decision
• 8:20
  to
• 8:20
  turn
• 8:20
  it
• 8:20
  off
• 8:21
  and
• 8:21
  take
• 8:22
  the
• 8:22
  wheel.
• 8:24
  Okay,
• 8:25
  real
• 8:25
  talk
• 8:26
  for
• 8:26
  a
• 8:26
  second.
• 8:27
  If
• 8:27
  today's
• 8:27
  episode
• 8:28
  has
• 8:28
  you
• 8:29
  all
• 8:29
  up
• 8:29
  in
• 8:29
  your
• 8:29
  feelings
• 8:30
  and
• 8:30
  you're
• 8:30
  sitting
• 8:31
  here
• 8:31
  like,
• 8:31
  "Okay,
• 8:31
  she's
• 8:32
  talking
• 8:32
  directly
• 8:33
  to
• 8:34
  me,"
• 8:35
  then
• 8:35
  you
• 8:36
  gotta
• 8:36
  grab
• 8:36
  the
• 8:36
  Main
• 8:37
  Character
• 8:37
  Energy
• 8:38
  Journal
• 8:38
  Prompts,
• 8:38
  because
• 8:39
  here's
• 8:39
  the
• 8:39
  thing.
• 8:40
  We
• 8:40
  could
• 8:40
  have
• 8:41
  all
• 8:41
  the
• 8:41
  awareness
• 8:42
  in
• 8:42
  the
• 8:42
  world,
• 8:43
  but
• 8:43
  if
• 8:43
  we
• 8:43
  don't
• 8:43
  actually
• 8:43
  do
• 8:44
  something
• 8:44
  with
• 8:44
  it,
• 8:45
  We
• 8:45
  just
• 8:46
  keep
• 8:46
  running
• 8:46
  in
• 8:46
  circles,
• 8:47
  friend,
• 8:47
  and
• 8:47
  I
• 8:47
  don't
• 8:48
  want
• 8:48
  that
• 8:48
  for
• 8:48
  you.
• 8:49
  These
• 8:49
  prompts
• 8:50
  are
• 8:50
  gonna
• 8:50
  help
• 8:50
  you
• 8:51
  get
• 8:51
  honest
• 8:51
  with
• 8:51
  yourself
• 8:52
  in
• 8:52
  the
• 8:52
  most
• 8:53
  loving,
• 8:53
  grace-filled
• 8:54
  possible
• 8:55
  way.
• 8:56
  No
• 8:56
  tough
• 8:56
  love,
• 8:57
  no
• 8:57
  shame,
• 8:58
  just
• 8:58
  you,
• 8:59
  your
• 8:59
  journal,
• 9:00
  and
• 9:00
  some
• 9:00
  really
• 9:01
  good
• 9:01
  questions
• 9:02
  that
• 9:02
  are
• 9:02
  gonna
• 9:02
  help
• 9:03
  you
• 9:03
  figure
• 9:03
  out
• 9:04
  where
• 9:04
  you
• 9:04
  are
• 9:05
  and
• 9:05
  what
• 9:05
  it
• 9:05
  looks
• 9:06
  like
• 9:06
  to
• 9:06
  move
• 9:06
  forward.
• 9:07
  Friend,
• 9:08
  I
• 9:08
  made
• 9:08
  these
• 9:09
  just
• 9:09
  for
• 9:09
  you,
• 9:10
  for
• 9:10
  this
• 9:10
  exact
• 9:11
  moment.
• 9:12
  For
• 9:12
  the
• 9:12
  woman
• 9:12
  who
• 9:12
  just
• 9:12
  heard
• 9:13
  something
• 9:13
  that
• 9:13
  cracked
• 9:14
  the
• 9:14
  door
• 9:15
  open,
• 9:16
  and
• 9:16
  now
• 9:17
  you
• 9:17
  need
• 9:17
  somewhere
• 9:18
  to
• 9:18
  go
• 9:18
  with
• 9:18
  it.
• 9:19
  The
• 9:19
  link
• 9:19
  is
• 9:19
  in
• 9:19
  the
• 9:19
  show
• 9:19
  notes,
• 9:20
  so
• 9:20
  grab
• 9:21
  it,
• 9:21
  because
• 9:21
  this
• 9:21
  has
• 9:22
  your
• 9:22
  next
• 9:22
  step
• 9:23
  written
• 9:24
  all
• 9:24
  over
• 9:24
  it
• 9:26
  And
• 9:27
  now
• 9:27
  it's
• 9:27
  time
• 9:28
  for
• 9:28
  our
• 9:28
  favorite.
• 9:28
  You
• 9:29
  know
• 9:29
  it.
• 9:29
  We
• 9:29
  love
• 9:30
  it.
• 9:30
  It's
• 9:31
  the
• 9:31
  self-love
• 9:32
  two-step
• 9:32
  with
• 9:32
  the
• 9:32
  remix,
• 9:33
  okay?
• 9:35
  So
• 9:35
  let's
• 9:35
  get
• 9:35
  into
• 9:36
  it.
• 9:36
  Step
• 9:36
  one,
• 9:37
  find
• 9:38
  the
• 9:38
  signal.
• 9:39
  This
• 9:39
  week,
• 9:39
  I
• 9:39
  want
• 9:40
  you
• 9:40
  to
• 9:40
  pay
• 9:40
  attention
• 9:41
  to
• 9:41
  what
• 9:41
  lights
• 9:42
  you
• 9:42
  up
• 9:42
  on
• 9:42
  the
• 9:42
  inside.
• 9:44
  What
• 9:44
  are
• 9:44
  you
• 9:44
  already
• 9:45
  doing
• 9:46
  that
• 9:47
  excites
• 9:47
  you,
• 9:48
  that
• 9:49
  makes
• 9:49
  you
• 9:49
  light
• 9:50
  up?
• 9:50
  Something
• 9:51
  that
• 9:51
  gives
• 9:51
  you
• 9:52
  energy
• 9:53
  even
• 9:53
  when
• 9:53
  you
• 9:53
  don't
• 9:53
  have
• 9:54
  none.
• 9:54
  Listen,
• 9:55
  this
• 9:55
  is
• 9:55
  not
• 9:55
  the
• 9:55
  time
• 9:56
  to
• 9:56
  be
• 9:56
  trying
• 9:56
  to
• 9:56
  draft
• 9:57
  up
• 9:57
  a
• 9:57
  whole
• 9:57
  picture,
• 9:58
  okay?
• 9:58
  We
• 9:58
  just
• 9:59
  need
• 9:59
  the
• 9:59
  moment.
• 10:01
  It
• 10:02
  can
• 10:02
  be
• 10:02
  a
• 10:02
  conversation
• 10:03
  that
• 10:04
  energizes
• 10:04
  you,
• 10:05
  a
• 10:05
  task
• 10:05
  that
• 10:05
  makes
• 10:06
  time
• 10:06
  disappear.
• 10:07
  The
• 10:07
  parts
• 10:08
  of
• 10:08
  your
• 10:08
  day
• 10:08
  when
• 10:08
  you
• 10:09
  forget
• 10:09
  to
• 10:09
  check
• 10:09
  your
• 10:09
  phone,
• 10:10
  okay?
• 10:10
  That
• 10:11
  is
• 10:11
  the
• 10:11
  signal,
• 10:11
  so
• 10:12
  write
• 10:12
  it
• 10:12
  down.
• 10:13
  Step
• 10:14
  two,
• 10:14
  ask
• 10:15
  the
• 10:15
  honest
• 10:16
  question.
• 10:17
  For
• 10:17
  one
• 10:17
  area
• 10:18
  of
• 10:18
  your
• 10:18
  life
• 10:19
  where
• 10:19
  you
• 10:19
  have
• 10:19
  been
• 10:20
  on
• 10:20
  autopilot,
• 10:21
  ask
• 10:21
  yourself
• 10:22
  honestly,
• 10:23
  "Am
• 10:23
  I
• 10:23
  still
• 10:24
  here
• 10:24
  because
• 10:25
  I
• 10:25
  want
• 10:25
  to
• 10:25
  be
• 10:26
  or
• 10:26
  because
• 10:27
  I
• 10:27
  am
• 10:27
  good
• 10:28
  at
• 10:28
  it,
• 10:29
  and
• 10:29
  stopping
• 10:30
  feels
• 10:30
  scary?"
• 10:32
  Friend,
• 10:32
  listen,
• 10:33
  you
• 10:33
  don't
• 10:33
  have
• 10:34
  to
• 10:34
  change
• 10:34
  anything
• 10:35
  today.
• 10:36
  Just
• 10:36
  be
• 10:36
  honest
• 10:37
  enough
• 10:37
  to
• 10:37
  hear
• 10:37
  your
• 10:38
  own
• 10:38
  answer.
• 10:39
  And
• 10:39
  then
• 10:39
  step
• 10:40
  three
• 10:40
  is
• 10:40
  the
• 10:40
  you
• 10:41
  step.
• 10:41
  You
• 10:42
  get
• 10:42
  still,
• 10:43
  you
• 10:43
  get
• 10:43
  quiet,
• 10:44
  and
• 10:44
  you
• 10:44
  ask
• 10:44
  yourself,
• 10:45
  "What
• 10:46
  is
• 10:46
  my
• 10:46
  heart
• 10:46
  telling
• 10:47
  me
• 10:47
  to
• 10:47
  do
• 10:47
  next?"
• 10:48
  Because
• 10:48
  whatever
• 10:49
  comes
• 10:49
  up,
• 10:50
  that
• 10:50
  is
• 10:51
  your
• 10:51
  next
• 10:51
  right
• 10:52
  aligned
• 10:53
  step.
• 10:54
  Not
• 10:54
  the
• 10:54
  whole
• 10:54
  plan,
• 10:55
  just
• 10:56
  the
• 10:56
  next
• 10:56
  move.
• 10:57
  And
• 10:57
  trust
• 10:57
  her,
• 10:57
  friend,
• 10:58
  because
• 10:58
  she
• 10:58
  already
• 10:59
  knows.
• 11:00
  Now,
• 11:00
  let
• 11:01
  me
• 11:01
  pour
• 11:01
  into
• 11:02
  you
• 11:02
  real
• 11:02
  quick.
• 11:03
  Listen,
• 11:03
  I
• 11:04
  know
• 11:04
  how
• 11:04
  scary
• 11:05
  it
• 11:05
  is
• 11:05
  to
• 11:05
  even
• 11:06
  consider
• 11:07
  taking
• 11:08
  your
• 11:08
  life
• 11:08
  into
• 11:08
  another
• 11:09
  direction.
• 11:10
  You've
• 11:10
  built
• 11:11
  this
• 11:11
  cozy
• 11:11
  corner,
• 11:12
  and
• 11:12
  you're
• 11:13
  not
• 11:13
  even
• 11:13
  entirely
• 11:14
  sure
• 11:15
  you're
• 11:15
  ready
• 11:15
  to
• 11:15
  give
• 11:15
  it
• 11:15
  up
• 11:16
  or
• 11:16
  leave
• 11:16
  it
• 11:16
  behind.
• 11:17
  But
• 11:17
  the
• 11:17
  good
• 11:18
  news
• 11:18
  is,
• 11:19
  friend,
• 11:19
  it's
• 11:20
  yours.
• 11:21
  You
• 11:21
  built
• 11:22
  it
• 11:22
  brick
• 11:23
  by
• 11:23
  brick.
• 11:24
  And
• 11:24
  you
• 11:25
  also
• 11:25
  have
• 11:26
  the
• 11:26
  power
• 11:27
  to
• 11:27
  rearrange
• 11:28
  it,
• 11:28
  to
• 11:29
  allow
• 11:29
  it
• 11:29
  to
• 11:29
  grow
• 11:30
  and
• 11:30
  take
• 11:31
  new
• 11:31
  shape.
• 11:32
  You
• 11:32
  are
• 11:32
  taking
• 11:33
  so
• 11:33
  much
• 11:34
  with
• 11:34
  you.
• 11:35
  Your
• 11:35
  knowledge,
• 11:36
  wisdom,
• 11:36
  experience,
• 11:37
  expertise,
• 11:39
  skills,
• 11:40
  strengths,
• 11:40
  capabilities,
• 11:42
  and
• 11:42
  everything
• 11:43
  you've
• 11:43
  built
• 11:43
  up
• 11:43
  until
• 11:44
  this
• 11:44
  point,
• 11:45
  so
• 11:45
  much
• 11:46
  of
• 11:46
  it
• 11:47
  is
• 11:47
  transferable.
• 11:48
  We
• 11:49
  pray
• 11:50
  for
• 11:50
  the
• 11:50
  promise,
• 11:51
  not
• 11:51
  realizing
• 11:52
  the
• 11:52
  preparation
• 11:54
  is
• 11:54
  coming
• 11:54
  first.
• 11:58
  And
• 11:58
  listen,
• 11:59
  God
• 11:59
  is
• 11:59
  so
• 11:59
  strategic,
• 12:00
  and
• 12:00
  He's
• 12:01
  using
• 12:01
  all
• 12:02
  of
• 12:02
  it
• 12:03
  for
• 12:03
  your
• 12:03
  good.
• 12:04
  And
• 12:04
  if
• 12:04
  God
• 12:05
  is
• 12:05
  not
• 12:05
  your
• 12:05
  jam,
• 12:06
  it
• 12:06
  can
• 12:06
  be
• 12:06
  the
• 12:06
  source,
• 12:07
  the
• 12:07
  universe,
• 12:08
  or
• 12:08
  whom
• 12:08
  it
• 12:09
  is
• 12:09
  that
• 12:09
  you
• 12:09
  believe
• 12:10
  in.
• 12:11
  Just
• 12:11
  trust.
• 12:12
  This
• 12:13
  has
• 12:13
  been
• 12:13
  the
• 12:13
  plan
• 12:14
  all
• 12:14
  along.
• 12:15
  That
• 12:16
  calling
• 12:16
  that's
• 12:17
  on
• 12:17
  your
• 12:17
  life
• 12:18
  is
• 12:18
  echoing
• 12:19
  throughout
• 12:19
  every
• 12:20
  chamber
• 12:21
  of
• 12:21
  your
• 12:21
  heart.
• 12:22
  You've
• 12:23
  just
• 12:23
  been
• 12:23
  so
• 12:23
  caught
• 12:24
  up
• 12:24
  in
• 12:24
  all
• 12:25
  of
• 12:25
  the
• 12:25
  doing,
• 12:26
  and
• 12:26
  all
• 12:26
  of
• 12:26
  it
• 12:27
  left
• 12:27
  you
• 12:27
  on
• 12:27
  autopilot.
• 12:28
  Your
• 12:29
  life
• 12:29
  is
• 12:29
  now
• 12:30
  essentially
• 12:31
  on
• 12:31
  cruise
• 12:31
  control,
• 12:32
  and
• 12:32
  you're
• 12:32
  wondering
• 12:33
  why
• 12:34
  you're
• 12:34
  bored
• 12:34
  or
• 12:35
  feeling
• 12:35
  out
• 12:35
  of
• 12:35
  touch.
• 12:36
  It's
• 12:36
  just
• 12:37
  a
• 12:37
  signal
• 12:37
  to
• 12:37
  reconnect
• 12:38
  to
• 12:39
  your
• 12:39
  heart
• 12:40
  and
• 12:40
  decide
• 12:41
  what's
• 12:41
  next.
• 12:42
  And
• 12:42
  for
• 12:42
  as
• 12:43
  scary
• 12:43
  as
• 12:44
  it
• 12:44
  may
• 12:44
  be,
• 12:44
  it's
• 12:45
  also
• 12:45
  exciting.
• 12:47
  Why?
• 12:48
  Because
• 12:48
  it's
• 12:49
  a
• 12:49
  sign
• 12:49
  you
• 12:49
  are
• 12:50
  alive.
• 12:51
  It's
• 12:51
  time
• 12:52
  for
• 12:52
  you
• 12:52
  to
• 12:52
  dream
• 12:53
  up
• 12:53
  what's
• 12:54
  next.
• 12:55
  Your
• 12:55
  next
• 12:55
  chapter,
• 12:56
  next
• 12:56
  season,
• 12:57
  your
• 12:58
  next
• 12:58
  era
• 12:59
  is
• 12:59
  arriving.
• 13:01
  And
• 13:01
  it
• 13:02
  costs
• 13:02
  you
• 13:02
  nothing
• 13:03
  to
• 13:03
  dream.
• 13:04
  It
• 13:04
  costs
• 13:05
  you
• 13:05
  nothing
• 13:07
  to
• 13:07
  daydream.
• 13:08
  Thinking
• 13:08
  up
• 13:09
  of
• 13:09
  what's
• 13:10
  next,
• 13:10
  it
• 13:10
  is
• 13:11
  free.
• 13:12
  So
• 13:12
  I
• 13:12
  don't
• 13:12
  care
• 13:13
  how
• 13:13
  much
• 13:13
  is
• 13:13
  in
• 13:13
  your
• 13:13
  bank
• 13:14
  account,
• 13:14
  what
• 13:14
  you
• 13:15
  have
• 13:15
  saved,
• 13:16
  or
• 13:16
  who
• 13:16
  may
• 13:17
  feel
• 13:17
  some
• 13:17
  type
• 13:18
  of
• 13:18
  way
• 13:18
  about
• 13:19
  you
• 13:19
  pivoting.
• 13:20
  This
• 13:20
  isn't
• 13:21
  about
• 13:21
  who
• 13:21
  agrees
• 13:22
  or
• 13:22
  disagrees,
• 13:24
  and
• 13:24
  it's
• 13:24
  not
• 13:25
  about
• 13:25
  how
• 13:25
  you'll
• 13:25
  get
• 13:26
  there.
• 13:26
  So
• 13:26
  relax.
• 13:27
  Remember,
• 13:28
  the
• 13:29
  how
• 13:29
  ain't
• 13:29
  your
• 13:29
  business,
• 13:30
  know
• 13:30
  how.
• 13:34
  Your
• 13:35
  job
• 13:35
  is
• 13:36
  to
• 13:36
  first
• 13:37
  grant
• 13:37
  yourself
• 13:38
  permission
• 13:39
  to
• 13:39
  dream
• 13:40
  again,
• 13:41
  freely
• 13:42
  and
• 13:42
  unapologetically.
• 13:44
  Explore.
• 13:45
  Your
• 13:46
  evolution
• 13:47
  is
• 13:47
  calling.
• 13:48
  And
• 13:48
  make
• 13:48
  sure
• 13:48
  you
• 13:49
  say
• 13:49
  yes
• 13:50
  when
• 13:51
  you
• 13:51
  answer
• 13:54
  Ooh,
• 13:54
  friend.
• 13:55
  Yes.
• 13:56
  Let's
• 13:57
  continue
• 13:57
  this
• 13:58
  conversation
• 13:58
  over
• 13:59
  on
• 13:59
  YouTube,
• 14:00
  Okay.
• 14:01
  See
• 14:01
  the
• 14:01
  show
• 14:02
  notes
• 14:02
  for
• 14:02
  the
• 14:02
  link.
• 14:03
  And
• 14:03
  remember,
• 14:04
  you
• 14:04
  are
• 14:05
  not
• 14:05
  an
• 14:05
  extra
• 14:05
  in
• 14:06
  anybody
• 14:07
  else's
• 14:07
  story.
• 14:08
  You
• 14:08
  are
• 14:08
  the
• 14:08
  main
• 14:09
  character
• 14:09
  of
• 14:10
  your
• 14:10
  very
• 14:10
  own.
• 14:11
  You
• 14:12
  have
• 14:12
  the
• 14:12
  pen
• 14:12
  in
• 14:13
  your
• 14:13
  hand.
• 14:13
  You
• 14:14
  are
• 14:14
  the
• 14:14
  author,
• 14:15
  and
• 14:15
  you
• 14:16
  get
• 14:16
  to
• 14:16
  write
• 14:16
  up
• 14:17
  what's
• 14:17
  next
• 14:17
  for
• 14:17
  you.
• 14:18
  So
• 14:18
  go
• 14:19
  ahead
• 14:19
  and
• 14:20
  be
• 14:20
  her,
• 14:21
  the
• 14:21
  one
• 14:21
  you've
• 14:21
  been
• 14:22
  becoming.
• 14:22
  She
• 14:23
  has
• 14:23
  been
• 14:23
  waiting
• 14:23
  on
• 14:24
  you
• 14:24
  to
• 14:24
  live
• 14:24
  out
• 14:25
  loud.
• 14:25
  I'm
• 14:26
  cheering
• 14:26
  for
• 14:26
  you
• 14:27
  loud
• 14:27
  and
• 14:28
  obnoxiously,
• 14:28
  always.
• 14:31
  And
• 14:32
  no
• 14:32
  matter
• 14:32
  what
• 14:33
  comes
• 14:33
  your
• 14:33
  way,
• 14:34
  together
• 14:34
  we
• 14:34
  can
• 14:35
  encourage
• 14:36
  over
• 14:36
  everything,
• 14:37
  and
• 14:38
  I'll
• 14:38
  see
• 14:38
  you
• 14:39
  in
• 14:39
  the
• 14:39
  next
• 14:39
  episode