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Sister Edition: Gen Z vs Millennial · Mom Gone Mild

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Hey guys, welcome to Mom Gone mild.
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Today I have my amazing little sister Sophia.
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She is Gen. Z.
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I'm a millennial, so you know we don't agree on much, but here
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she is. Sophia.
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Hi guys. I'm Alexis's little sister,
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oldest little sister, yeah, 25. So we have an 11 year age gap,
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which is it's been interesting. For sure.
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How rude. Anyways, so basically what we do
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on this podcast is we kind of go like back in time, talk a little
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bit about the past. So basically that's why I have
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you here, so you can talk all about me.
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No, I'm just kidding. But yeah, so all right, let's
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get the vibe. I'm a Libra, so I'm very
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outgoing. I'm very just friendly, and I
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love to communicate with people and just have fun.
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What are you? I'm a Leo.
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I feel like I am very, I think I'm very confident and social
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and I'm I just always say what's on my mind and do what I feel
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like I need to do. That's true.
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That's true. And yeah, sometimes we clash
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because of that. I'm a little too honest
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sometimes, I will say. Yeah, a little harsh, but it's
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OK. We like good criticism here.
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I mean, sometimes she gives me bad criticism, but everything is
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helpful. Yeah, everything is true.
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Yeah, I'll never lie to you. That's good.
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As a Libra, I feel like I will lie to you, but like, just to be
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nice. Yeah.
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And because I feel bad. Oh, I don't know.
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I just feel like in a nice way, I'm lying.
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So anyways, you look beautiful today.
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Oh, think you said to you no. I'm just kidding.
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Actually did my hair today. What?
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Because I said I'd lie. Oh, oh, OK.
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I'm just kidding. So OK, we're going to kind of
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start this out first with some questions.
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So we do have an 11 year gap, right?
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So I want to know how was it having an older sister when you
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were pretty young? I feel like it was pretty cool
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to have like such an older sister because I guess from my
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earliest memory is like what, like 5 years old.
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So I think that's when you kind of started, like, you know,
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being your party girl. Yeah.
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Era, yeah. And that's my earliest memory of
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you. To be honest, Oh, cool.
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So I was like 16. So I want to know like, what do
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you remember? Like what did you think?
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Were you like, oh, she's cool or damn, she has issues.
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I mean, I know you're 5, but you had to have at least some kind
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of. Right thought.
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Yeah, well, I never thought that you had issues.
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Well, that came later when I was more like conscious, but no,
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like when I was younger, I was like, oh, like my sister is so
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cool. She has all these friends.
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She's always going out. Like I want to be her, you know?
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And I, I remember like one of the things that stuck with me is
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like that year that you went to prom or something and you guys
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got a whole limo. Yeah, yeah, yeah.
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I think you had like, let me like get in it something before.
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I. Left and I was like, Oh my gosh,
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she's so cool. Like, that was my first time in
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a limo. Yeah, I guess.
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That was, yeah, we met like at a park or something to take
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photos. I remember that.
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OK Yeah, yeah, yeah. So that's cool.
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But like, so was I like, I feel like I was.
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It's so weird because I feel like I was like a mom type T,
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but maybe that was like all in my head because I just remember
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I used to babysit you a lot and like pick you up and take you
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places. And so like, did you see me as
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that type or you were just like, oh, she's a fun older sister.
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I think definitely fun older sister.
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I never really, I guess felt like a mom type.
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It was more like like, yeah, this is the homie, but she like,
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she takes me places and like, you know, yeah, but you did
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babysit me a lot. But I just kind of thought we
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were hanging out. Yeah, that's true.
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So I have a question. Did your friends ever think I
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was hot? Of course, of course.
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Yeah, yeah, duh. Well, because she was living
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with me when I think I was still in high school, like early high
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school. And so I would have my friends
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over and stuff like that. But yeah, I mean, my friends
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would be like, your mom is hot. And then they would meet my
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sister and they're like, damn your.
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Our mom is hot. Yeah, yeah, for sure.
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Yeah, yeah, definitely hot. Definitely runs in the family.
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Yeah, we're good looking. What?
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Can I say? So we think anyways.
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All right, so let's see if you can describe me in one word,
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what would it be? And then I'll describe you in
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one word. And it can be me and it can be
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nice. It can be whatever.
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I would say like, not dramatic, but your emotions are very
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extreme. OK.
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So what's a? Word for that?
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Emotional. Oh, that's not a nice no, but
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I'm saying like when you're like, you're so nice, you're
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like literally like the nicest and then like, you know.
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So I'm nice, OK? You're so nice.
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I'm nice and emotional. OK.
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So if I were to describe you, all right, there's like 2
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versions of Sophia, by the way, like 1 when she's sober and one
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when she was drunk. So I actually have two words for
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that. The sober one, I'm going to be
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honest, like really fun to be around.
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So I would definitely describe you as fun, a little selfish,
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but I feel like that's like the Leo thing in you.
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Too. Yeah, it's not my fault.
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Yeah, no, it just, it is what it is.
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And then there's the drunk. So I like to call her pretty
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chaotic. That yeah, that's pretty
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accurate. Yeah, yeah, like usually when
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we're on vacations, like you get sent to bed early, right?
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But it's OK that you see me too. So you're are you happy to see?
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That yeah, I'm just happy it's not me anymore.
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Like it's you. I've passed that down.
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So I'm pretty proud of that. All right, so you're Gen.
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Z and Millennial. What do you feel is like the
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difference, the biggest difference between both
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generations? And I know it's so funny because
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like the other day I asked you like, what are you like Gen.
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Z or Millennial? And you're like as what did you
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call? Millennial.
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Zillennial, like now she's just making up stuff because I've
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never in my life heard that, but go ahead.
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I didn't make a little bit more of that.
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OK, so I didn't make this up but also I don't know if I fall into
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this category. So I was born right in 2000.
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So my first, first phone was a razor.
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OK, OK. Yeah, I didn't have touch screen
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growing up. Yeah.
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Which is why I feel like I kind of qualify for millennial.
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But then also like I did get a touch screen at 10 years old.
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Yeah. So.
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So are you just basing it off the phones you had or like what
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is the real? Thing other things there, I
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mean, I feel like the Gen. Z is like you grew up with smart
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technology and social media. OK.
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Yeah, I think it's more like the social media.
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Thing, OK, but also like, yeah, I guess like I think you were
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there like right when Instagram and that stuff started because I
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was like in high school. So yeah, you must have been like
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around just when it started. So I get that like.
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So do you see like a difference between you and like younger
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Gen. Z?
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Yeah, well, because our brothers, they're like they're
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in high school right now that we also have an 11 year age gap.
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Yeah, them they kind of have no attention span.
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And also, what is it like they have to have like constant
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stimulation, which I feel like I definitely can have that on some
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days, but it's not like I don't think it's like a daily thing
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for me, right? OK.
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But maybe I'm just trying to distance myself from that, Jen.
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I think so. I think secretly she does want
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to be a millennial because this whole Zillennial thing is just.
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I've never heard of it, but whatever.
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We always appreciate Gen. Z that appreciates millennials
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and aren't talking crap about us.
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Like online I see so many things like, oh, it's because you're
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millennial. Oh, it's because you're this
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like you're so out of touch. It's crazy.
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Like the other day I was like arguing with this girl and like,
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I think I told you, right? Like about the AI thing.
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And it's like she's like, AI is like, you know, destroying the
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world. And she was like legitimately
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arguing with me. And I was just like, OK, like we
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all have opinions, that's cool. But then she goes just have
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like, arguing and arguing. And I was like, OK, girl, it's
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not that serious. I mean, obviously if it's
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destroying the world, it is serious.
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But I mean, that's just technology.
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It's always moving. You know, it may die out, who
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knows, it may not. So I do have a question.
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I know right now you're in a relationship and it's been a
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long one. How long have you guys been
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together now? 6.
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Years. OK, Yeah.
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So it's been long. So you've been out of like the
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dating pool for a while, but like, how was it when you were
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in it? I feel, well, I guess we'll
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start off by saying that I'm like a serial monogamist and I'm
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just constantly in relationships.
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Yeah, which is not a bad thing, but like, yeah, it's just like
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happened to be that I'm always in a relationship since, well,
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technically my first boyfriend was in elementary school.
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Yeah, mine too. And then middle school, a couple
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in middle school and then high school.
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And then, yeah, yeah. So I guess my dating window was
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very short. But how was it when I was there?
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I mean, in that short window, I did use like the dating apps for
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a little bit, but I feel like all of the relationships that
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I've had, like have started off as friendships first.
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Yeah. So I feel like the social, the,
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I guess the apps thing just wasn't for me.
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And then like with my DID. You ever go on a date with
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anyone? I did, yeah.
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How was that? Because usually your boyfriends
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are like people you've known for, like, years and years.
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Yeah. From school.
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Every has been like that so I want to know like when you went
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on a date from an app how did that go?
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Yeah, it was very awkward, but it wasn't a bad date, OK?
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It just felt a little forced because it's like, not only am I
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meeting a stranger for the first time, but I'm meeting them for
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the intention of having a romantic relationship with them.
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Yeah, and that feels a little forced for me.
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Well, just because of my dating history like how I do.
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Meet my boyfriend. Yeah, Yeah, I think it's
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definitely that is a huge thing for you.
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Actually, I'm not going to lie, for me too, because I used to
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date a lot. But all my boyfriends have been
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like people that I've known for like years.
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Like my first boyfriend, I met him in high school, so it was
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like organic. Then we worked together.
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Then my second boyfriend, gosh, I don't even remember them to be
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honest, but but yeah, so it was like friendship first.
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Then like, I don't know, eight years later, we became like
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romantic. Then with my husband now we met
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really young too, like, but he was like in a relationship.
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And then I was just like a crazy party girl.
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So I was definitely not looking for anything serious.
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Then I slid in his DMS and yeah, it was, I'm kind of like that
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too with dating, but I've also went on a lot of dates.
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I went like, there is one point where I remember I was like a
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hair stylist. I was like living the life I
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didn't have much to do. And like, I'd be like, hungry
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and like, I'd go on the dating app and just like, find someone
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to Take Me Out just to have dinner.
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And then I'd be like, all right, cool, peace.
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And like, never talk to them again just 'cause I didn't feel
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like paying for my meal because I would always like order tons
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of drinks and stuff. Because it's like, you're right,
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it is awkward. You're meeting one person.
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And then my always thought was like, well, I'm probably never
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gonna see this person again. And if I do, then it is what it
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is. But honestly, I just went for
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like free meals, free drinks. You know what?
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Free club entrances like all the above.
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You know, if it was the love of your life, then you would have
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that that little dinner would have turned into something else,
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you know? Yeah, you would have felt it.
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Yeah, yeah, yeah. I mean, I did go on a couple,
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you know, other dates with them, but it was like pretty much
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nothing, nothing serious, that stuff.
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So right now you're 25. Yes.
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You have a long term boyfriend. What, like do you have like
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goals in mind? Like, you know, I just became a
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mom at 36. So I'm like a really big
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advocate for like, please live your life and then have kids.
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Yeah. Like, I'm all for like getting
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married. That's fine.
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But like before kids, it's just like a whole different thing.
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Like now it's like I, I can't go out to dinner when I want.
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I have to like get a babysitter for nights out.
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It's just like a totally different vibe.
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So what are your kind of like plans?
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Or goals. Yeah.
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So right now, me and my boyfriend are definitely in our,
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like, party era, kind of like every weekend we're doing
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something, OK, which I don't hate at the moment, but I feel
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like I'm definitely, like, I can tell that I'm getting a little
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older. The hangovers are getting a
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little worse. I'm getting a little more
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lightweight. Yeah.
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But like, going forward, I mean, like, we talk about serious
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topics in casual conversations, which I feel like is really good
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because, like, we're both, like, comfortable enough with each
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other to do that. Yeah.
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So obviously we've talked about moving out.
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I've been sending him rings on TikTok.
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You didn't tell me this. Yeah.
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I mean, not for like the next year, but like, yeah, yeah,
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yeah. I didn't reference.
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I'm like, save this to your bookmarks.
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Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. What kind of ring do you want?
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What is it? It starts with AC.
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It's kind of like the diamond shape.
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I forgot what it's called but. You know what, I'm not really
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good with shapes, but diamond shape.
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Yeah, it's kind. Of like gold.
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I do want gold, but the diamond itself I want.
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It. Yeah, yeah, yeah.
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It's kind of like this. Yeah, yeah, yeah.
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Yeah, I forgot what it's called. Search with ACI just saw on
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tick. So funny I have a word in mind,
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but it's definitely not that. OK.
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Yeah, I don't think it is, but but yeah, so I feel like we're
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both on the same page in terms of that.
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But yeah, like obviously we had to go through a couple things to
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like get to that point. Oh, for sure.
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Yeah. Yeah.
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Yeah, but honestly, I feel like this is the best that we've ever
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been. Right.
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Yeah, yeah, yeah. I feel like, honestly, like when
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you're finally ready, it's like you have to go through like the
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worst of the freaking worst because like, if you get married
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and everything's like, amazing. I mean, to me honestly, because
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I have so many issues, so I need to let that person know like
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this is me upfront. Like there ain't no surprises.
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And I feel like that's kind of how you are too.
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So it's like, I just feel like we have to go through these kind
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of issues, learn how to work it out, you know, like learn each
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other's like ticks, learn each other's like cuz sometimes like
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I do know Randy's like what pisses him off?
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So I like use that against him, which is awful, I know, But you
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know, we've come so far, we've done like so many, we've had a
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lot of issues in the beginning. And honestly, if it wasn't for
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that and we just like went in straight, like everything's
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perfect. I feel like now would be the
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issues coming up. And I, I feel like, you know,
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that's not saying like everyone's relationship,
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everyone's relationship is different, but I know the type
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of person I am. I need them to know exactly who
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I am because I don't want like judgement later or Oh my God I
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didn't know you were like this. No, I'm upfront with who I am.
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No, exactly. I feel like part of like the
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issues we had like in the past was like, I don't like that you
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do this thing, but I've but like nobody has ever said it's like
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on both sides, like I don't like that you do this thing.
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I don't like that you do that thing.
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And then it's like we have never said anything about that.
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So how are we supposed to like go forward with that and fix
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that? So I feel like once we had that
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conversation or like opened the dialogue for that, it definitely
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like paved the way for us to be at this point now.
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Yeah, yeah, All right. And then also, do you like, feel
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pressured to get married soon? Do you feel pressured to have
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kids? Or are you just kind of like
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living life because you also were so studious?
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Like, I remember, like, you were like, you know, I didn't go to
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like, university or anything, but she did.
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And she was like, so good at everything.
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I felt like that's how she was to me.
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Like I was like, Oh my God, she's so smart.
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But yeah, like, do you feel pressure?
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Honestly, no. I feel like because you had Axel
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so. Late.
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Yeah, I was gonna say so old, but yeah, so late.
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That kind of like made it easier for me.
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Yeah, Yeah. So I yeah, I definitely don't
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feel any pressure. Yeah, for marriage or kids,
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except for like our brothers are like, oh, when are you going to
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get back to a friend? I'm like, he was just born a
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couple months ago. What are you talking?
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About what, brothers? Jayden and Jonathan.
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Oh, anyways, yeah, yeah. So you're welcome because I feel
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like I actually pay the weight for like not just you, but like
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on my other side of my family. Like it's so crazy.
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Like I got like first one to get tattoos, first one to date,
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first one to like really mess up.
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So it's just like, and now I see like the difference because like
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mom used to be like more on me. I see it and on you, she's like
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more lenient. Like, you know, she used to ask
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me like, so are you going to get married soon?
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This and that? What are you going to give me
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grandkids? Honestly, she still said that
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until last year, so I finally gave her one.
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But like on my other side, you know, they're like a little bit
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younger than you, but I definitely see now that they get
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tattoos. It's like not a big deal.
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But like when I got one, Oh my gosh, it was like the end of the
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world. Like they were almost like cut
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it off and it's fine because that's just not the way that
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they grew up. You know, like especially coming
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from like a Cuban family and Ecuadorian family, they have
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such different like I guess standards and in those countries
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they get married so young girls don't get tattoos, Girls, you
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know, they're just like stay at home moms, things like that.
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So it's like different expectations.
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And so I feel like I really pave the way for you guys all
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honestly. So you're welcome you.
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Know what? You normalized a lot of things
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that would otherwise. Not be, but I did go through a
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lot of shit of them, like just telling me you should do this,
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you should do that. And I'm so glad I didn't listen
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because I now do whatever the fuck I want.
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So there you go. Yeah, Yeah.
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And then right now you have like a really good job.
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I'm so proud of you. So.
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I'll give you your kudos. Thank you.
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All right, so this is, well, everything's pretty new because
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this is our first episode, but I have a little game I'd like to
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play. I'm going to play this with all
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my guests. So congratulations, you're the
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first. My husband actually picked these
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cards out. It's from some game, so they're
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questions and then basically we'll be asking them to each
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other and then if we don't want to answer, we have to chug.
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And yes, these are alcoholic drinks, so.
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Take a sip. But now I'm hearing it's a chug.
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Well, hello, it's a chug because who the hell wants to look at
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someone? Take a sip of alcohol.
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I'm down. Freaking boring.
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Let's go. All right, so I will start
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first. I, I, this is the first time
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I've read these, sorry. So I just want to make sure, oh,
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this is a good one for you because I feel like you have
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kind of gone through this. OK, OK.
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Is it actually harder to make friends as an adult or do you
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think people just make excuses? Wow, that's a great question.
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Yeah, good job, Randy. Yeah, I think it's definitely
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hard to make friends as an adult because like when you're kids,
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it's kind of like friends of circumstance.
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Like I see you every day at school type of thing.
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But yeah, as an adult, I feel like once you get the power to
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choose your friends, you realize that, you know, there are some
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friends that you cut off. And honestly, I when I try to
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make new friends, I'm like, are you weird or are you normal?
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Obviously that's like a personal scale.
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For me, yeah. But yeah, so I would say yes,
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it's hard to make friends, but I just made a new friend at work
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and we're like super close. OK, She's one of my closest
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friends now, which is really crazy.
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Like I think I so I, she had just started at my work and then
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we were hanging out for maybe like honestly maybe like 3
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months at work, like going to lunch and stuff.
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And then I was like, oh, I'm going to Coachella.
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And she's like, wow, I've never been.
22:50
And I'm like, oh, you should come with me after three months,
22:53
like to camp with me. Like that's a commitment.
22:55
Like if you've ever been, yeah, it's a full commitment.
22:58
And I had only known her. And honestly getting tickets so
23:01
early on that too. And then it like being the
23:04
festival, so later on I feel like so much stuff can happen in
23:08
between where it's like you don't even like stay friends and
23:11
then. No, like I don't.
23:12
I barely knew this girl. Yeah.
23:13
Yeah, exactly. So you don't know like how it's
23:15
going to keep going. But I think I just like, sensed
23:18
something like, you know, and yeah, here we are.
23:21
We had literally the best time ever.
23:22
Nice. So and we're going back this
23:25
year. So I would say yes, it's hard to
23:26
make friends as an adult, but it's not impossible.
23:29
True and actually I can contest to that because one of my best
23:32
friends now you know is Cindy and when I first met her she
23:37
knows this. I couldn't stand her.
23:39
We actually met at work and and I always was like, oh, I have so
23:43
many friends. I don't need new ones.
23:45
And Oh my gosh, Cindy, you tried super hard to be my friend.
23:49
Like but she literally is one of my best friends now.
23:54
Like I treasure her so much. We don't work with each other
23:58
anymore, but we still stay in contact.
24:00
She's actually be a guest soon, so I'm super excited.
24:03
But it's just like you really connect on a different level
24:06
when you find those friends that aren't like from school or like
24:10
people that you know from family because it's like you actually
24:14
chose them. They have to like you for
24:17
exactly. Just you, Yeah.
24:18
Like there's no like, oh, remember when we did?
24:21
No, it's because, like, I've known her maybe like, well, now
24:24
it's been a little bit longer. It's been like two years, but
24:27
when we first met she was at my Bachelorette, remember?
24:31
It was just like a whole vibe and she's always there for me
24:34
and I'm always there for her. But it is possible.
24:38
Yes, but it's very rare because I have also made friends as a
24:42
grown up where I just felt like they were jealous and like they
24:46
would just talk crap behind my back.
24:49
And it was just like really weird vibes because it's like I
24:51
really didn't know them. And then when I found that
24:54
stuff, of course I pushed them away.
24:55
But yeah, I I agree with you. That was a good one.
24:59
Good job, Randy, with that. Question.
25:01
That was a great question. Go ahead and pick one up, OK?
25:03
Can I just like? Choose anyone?
25:05
Yeah. And honestly, I told you that
25:07
I'm going to makey chud, but this drink is really good so I'm
25:12
just going to keep on sipping it.
25:13
So that was if we didn't answer the question.
25:16
Yeah, I don't know if any of these are like risque because my
25:21
husband picked them, but. OK, I have one.
25:25
Oh no, it's a black card, so that means it's kinky, all
25:29
right? OK, it says.
25:31
Would you have sex with a clone of yourself?
25:39
And Randy, what is this question?
25:41
Would I have sex with a clone of myself?
25:48
I mean, I guess because like, that's such a strange question.
25:56
Is that weird? Yeah, my husband is very weird.
26:00
There is. Like a like a discourse around
26:04
if somebody from the if you from the future came and you guys did
26:08
anything, it was, it's kind of like incestuous.
26:10
Well, I definitely want to do with the future because I'm
26:12
already 36, so my future self would be like 50 something and I
26:16
wouldn't hook up with someone. But you're saying in the 50s
26:20
maybe if I would have hooked up with someone like that was on my
26:22
younger days, like my 21, Yeah, I was freaking hot actually.
26:27
Now they think about it. So yeah, yeah, I would.
26:30
But definitely not with someone from the future because of me,
26:35
cuz that would be really old OK. I think I would definitely do a
26:38
clone right now. I think I'm peeking right now.
26:40
Yeah, I feel like this age I was like my prime in like my
26:46
physical like appearance. I mean now it's like my mental
26:50
blah, blah, blah. The boring part is like my
26:53
prime, but definitely when I was like her age I was like super
26:57
hot. Yes, I know I didn't have a mom
27:00
bought it was like I actually borrowed her dress for.
27:04
Home. Oh my God.
27:05
And I thought I looked so hot. And then she went to go try an
27:09
honor. How was that story?
27:11
OK, it was a brand new dress I bought just for homecoming.
27:14
I was skinny. And it was in my mom's closet
27:17
and it. Was in mom's closet first of
27:19
all, so I thought it was her dress.
27:21
So then I went. I think it was maybe the day
27:23
before till I tried on or something and then it was gone
27:27
and I was like, hey mom, have you seen it?
27:30
And then she went to Alexis and was like.
27:33
Did you take that? Dress like.
27:36
Oh, and she had worn it out basically of.
27:38
Course I've worn it out. Yeah, I mean it.
27:40
Was and everyone was giving me compliments by the way.
27:42
So good choice and dress. That was a really good dress.
27:45
And I still wore it. Yeah, So anyways, sorry about
27:49
that. But yeah, there was like a point
27:50
where we could like share clothes us and then share also
27:54
with my mom. So it's like we had so many
27:57
outfits that was perfect. So crazy because now I feel like
28:00
all I wear like sweatpants and like I'm trying to like up my
28:06
fashion right now because it's like I feel like I don't.
28:09
I'm not saying like it's like frumpy or whatever, but since I
28:12
became my mom, I just want comfort and it's like, I don't
28:16
know, I need to like mix it between comfort and like still
28:19
stylish. So I'm still finding my like
28:21
kind of groove. But before we used to like share
28:24
like mini skirts, like short shorts, like tight ass tops.
28:30
Like I don't. I don't imagine wearing her
28:33
clothes now like she actually ordered this skirt.
28:37
Oh my gosh, I was dying because when she so like she sent it to
28:42
me in whatever, like the way that I bought it, but so I sent
28:46
it to her and then I was like, girl, this looks like the size
28:49
of my purse. Like it was like, you know, like
28:51
the mini, like. It was a low rise mini skirt so
28:55
you can imagine. How Cow print?
28:57
Short cow print. And it was cow print.
28:58
Yeah, it was cute. Mind you, I would have
29:00
definitely worn that back in the day.
29:02
But now like looking at it, I was like this skirt was like
29:05
this long and like length. Yeah, no, but it's so funny
29:09
because what I would borrow your clothes or mom's clothes, I
29:11
would be like, oh, these are so cute.
29:12
They're like vintage, like style, like throwback.
29:16
Gen. Z, Gen.
29:17
Z here because literally it wasn't vintage, was it?
29:21
It was literally it was like Hollister, Hollister,
29:24
Abercrombie, like all I mean, I guess now it's vintage, although
29:28
it is making a comeback, but it's just like that close is not
29:31
it anymore. No, I don't know such a weird
29:35
thing, but all right, let's do a couple more of these.
29:39
All right, just going to pick a random one because I'm reading
29:43
them and oh God, you know what? This literally is my husband
29:53
picking these so Please remember OK?
29:56
OK. If you fart during sex, do you
30:01
keep going or does it kill the mood?
30:04
Do you? Want me to go first?
30:08
Yeah, yeah. Well, now that I have a
30:12
boyfriend of six years, we just, like, kind of laugh and keep
30:16
going, but we don't really pause.
30:18
Yeah, yeah. Or if it's a pause, it's like
30:20
one second. Yeah, like a little giggle and
30:23
then just keep going. And then just ignore.
30:24
It Yeah, just keep pumping. I think that's valid.
30:27
I mean. But I think it's situational
30:30
here, OK? Because, yes, in a relationship,
30:34
it's funny, yeah. But if it's like a hookup, I
30:37
would be mortified. Like I'd be like if there was a
30:41
dog, I would definitely be like, it was a dog.
30:44
You're saying if you farted? Yeah, if I farted, I and it was
30:49
like a hookup and it wasn't like my husband.
30:51
Obviously if it's my husband, it's it's funny like, you know,
30:55
but if it's like someone that I'm like would have been like
30:57
newly like seeing I would have been like that was like the dog
31:01
and I feel like it would be really awkward.
31:03
I'd be like. Lie about it.
31:04
Oh for sure, I wouldn't tell a total person.
31:08
Rarely like hooking up with. I mean, I I don't really think
31:12
it's like that crazy. Like everybody farts like of.
31:15
Course it's normal but I just feel like it's situational like
31:19
I don't. Know I feel like even if it was
31:21
a hookup I would just be like I was like huh my bad.
31:25
Yeah. But see, I feel like that's the
31:26
difference between us because I would literally be like, I have
31:30
to go home. Oh.
31:32
In the middle, I could care less.
31:33
Oh. I'd be like, yeah, this is just
31:36
not it for. Me.
31:36
OK, what if he farted though? I feel like I would really if it
31:41
was like a new hookup, I'd get the ick and I'd be like, Oh no.
31:47
But now obviously it's like I've been with him for like 8 years
31:50
so it's funny now. I mean, and I can't leave.
31:54
He's the father of my child and I'm married to him.
31:57
But besides that, no, no, no. I feel like, see, that's another
32:03
difference between millennials and Gen.
32:05
Z, because Gen. ZI feel like they would just
32:08
think it's funny. Like millennials.
32:09
I'd be so ashamed, like I'd be like, and then I'd like, I don't
32:13
know, you died. No shame here guys, everybody
32:16
farts. I know.
32:18
I just honestly just keep it pushing.
32:19
And you know, it's so funny because I'm a nurse, so all that
32:22
stuff is like normal to me, but I just feel like it's weird.
32:25
No, no. Nice.
32:34
OK, OK. Is it ever OK to go someone?
32:43
OK so I have to think pre marriage, yes I have ghosted
32:51
many many many people. Oh. 3 minis.
32:54
Yes I know I was actually really notorious for ghosting people to
32:59
be honest because it's like if I got the egg or I didn't get a
33:03
good vibe or like you said something weird, I would
33:07
literally block you. Oh.
33:09
Even one time it's really bad. I feel bad telling this story
33:13
but so I don't know. This one guy went it was like a
33:18
tender date. So we went to some restaurant
33:21
and first of all he shows up super late.
33:24
Second he orders all this crap like drinks, appetizers, like a
33:29
freaking full course like 3 course meal.
33:33
And then the check comes and he's like, oh, I forgot my
33:35
wallet. And I was like, OK.
33:39
And it's funny because usually on dates, I wouldn't even bring
33:42
money. But for some reason I think that
33:43
that was like payday or something.
33:45
And like, I had money and I was like, sure, whatever.
33:48
So to kind of like, get him back, he was like, do you wanna
33:52
meet me at you remember the Gold room?
33:55
Yeah. Justin Bieber was there actually
33:58
a couple months. Ago really it's still popping
34:01
okay so yeah he was like do you wanna meet me at gold room blah
34:05
blah I'll be there at this time like yes absolutely and I even
34:09
sent him a picture of me getting dressed and and I ghosted him
34:14
because I was like this is payback for like making me pay
34:16
for all this crap so and then it was funny because like he's like
34:20
where are you this and that like you know you're a bitch blah
34:23
blah blah and it just kept getting like progressively worse
34:27
and it's so funny because I was just like blocked like I don't
34:32
care like you made me pay for like a $200.00 bill like.
34:36
So he didn't say like, I'll pay you back.
34:39
No, no. It was weird.
34:42
Did he pretend to look for the wallet or did he no.
34:46
No, no. So first he comes like in a
34:47
motorcycle. I was like, oh boy, it's one of
34:50
these guys. Like I was like, I didn't even
34:52
know he rode a motorcycle. And he's like, well, I just
34:54
didn't have like space. I was like, OK, I know a lot of
34:58
people that ride motorcycles and they carry their wallet.
35:00
Also men's pockets are literally like never ending.
35:03
I was. Like so you don't have like a
35:04
backpack or something? I don't know.
35:06
It was really weird the whole situation.
35:07
So I ghosted him. I I ghosted a bunch of other
35:10
guys because, like, they would just give me the ick and I'm
35:13
like, oh, like, no, if you already give me the ick, we're
35:15
done. Yeah.
35:16
Yeah. OK.
35:17
What about you do? I think I think it is OK in
35:22
certain circumstances. If it's like you go on a date
35:26
and you just like don't vibe and nothing.
35:28
They didn't say anything like mean or controversial or
35:30
anything. Like I think it's fine.
35:32
I don't think it's OK. I think you should just be like,
35:34
oh, like, I'm not feeling it, whatever.
35:37
But honestly, I have seen on social media girls like saying
35:39
like, hey, like, I'm just not feeling it, whatever, whatever.
35:41
And then they're like, oh, you're such a bitch.
35:44
Like just start cussing at them. Like you're like, just like,
35:47
yeah, going crazy. So yeah, I mean, at this point,
35:53
we're just going to assume that all men are crazy.
35:56
Yeah. But yeah, I feel like if some,
35:59
if you're like on a date or like talking to somebody and they say
36:02
something that you already know, like like they're talking about
36:06
a girl that they know, like in just a really like disgusting
36:09
way or just like, yeah, I think that it's fine.
36:12
Like they don't really deserve an explanation.
36:15
I feel like they should kind of do some self reflection and
36:17
figure out what they did and it's probably helping that.
36:21
Well, we. Would hope so the time it does,
36:23
we would hope we're just bitches to them.
36:25
So to the bad ones, because there are really good ones out
36:30
there. But I'm talking about the bad
36:32
people we ghost. Yeah.
36:35
All right, let's do one more. OK.
36:36
Oh, did you pick this one? I did.
36:39
OK. OK, this is a good one.
36:59
And this will be our last one. OK.
37:02
Should a partner be able to tell you to stop being friends with
37:06
somebody? Dad, this is this is a good one
37:15
for me actually. It's funny because I know her so
37:19
well, so I'm asking like the right kind of questions.
37:23
I I think, are you done? No, Yeah, almost.
37:30
Go ahead. OK.
37:34
I think they should feel comfortable enough to tell you
37:39
that that's what they think should happen.
37:43
But I don't think that it should be a mandate.
37:46
Like if your boyfriend says you can't be friends with them, then
37:49
you can't be friends with them. But I think you guys kind of
37:52
have to like meet in the middle at that point.
37:54
And there needs to be some sort of like boundary because
37:57
obviously if your boyfriend or husband or whatever is saying
38:00
that there's a reason for it and they're not just saying it,
38:03
well, hopefully they're not just saying it just to like, just
38:07
because they don't like that person for like a reason.
38:09
Or wanting to control you. Exactly.
38:11
No, no. Yeah.
38:13
I guess like in terms of my relationship, like if my
38:15
boyfriend did ever say that, it's because, you know, he's
38:18
like looking out for me or like, you know, whatever.
38:23
So honestly, I've never stopped being friends with somebody
38:28
because my boyfriend told me not to.
38:31
But I did go forward in that friendship with boundaries, you
38:35
know? So I will say.
38:38
That OK and then follow up question, it's not in the cards,
38:42
but would you tell your boyfriend to stop being friends
38:46
with someone if they were like if you saw kind of like red
38:49
flags? Not like, I mean, obviously if
38:52
they date and they're red flags, that's not our business, but I'm
38:55
talking about like red flags in general.
38:56
Like he's like kind of like an asshole like talks crap about
39:00
you behind like. Cheats on his girlfriend.
39:03
Yeah, like stuff like that. I do feel like his red flags,
39:06
like if someone's like a serial dater, they date like a bunch of
39:10
people or like they're always on like Hinge and stuff like that.
39:14
Like I feel like that's not my business.
39:16
Like, yeah, that's them. Like I'm not sleeping with them.
39:18
What the hell do I care? But I'm talking about like, you
39:20
know, he's like a cheater cheater.
39:22
And like he's like, hey, let's go.
39:24
Like tells your boyfriend, let's go on a weekend, get away like
39:28
always. Only like, how would you feel
39:30
about that? I, I would never say stop being
39:35
friends with them, but I would suggest to limit their
39:41
interactions from whatever they're doing now because like,
39:46
I mean, I feel like guys when they hang out all together, like
39:52
kind of like influence each other in a way and not usually
39:56
not in a good way. They just feel more comfortable
39:59
like saying things that they wouldn't otherwise say, like
40:00
they wouldn't say to me or like whatever.
40:04
But yeah, I mean, like my boyfriend does have a couple
40:07
friends that are like that and just yeah, I would never tell
40:13
him to stop being friends with them.
40:15
I think it's just, I think it should be like, whatever he
40:19
would do. Like if he wants me to stop
40:20
being friends with them, I'm not going to do it.
40:22
But I will set a boundary. Yeah.
40:24
And like whatever, we can come to a compromise.
40:26
Too. She's in a healthy relationship.
40:29
And so I would hope that. And mature, yes.
40:32
Thank you. My frontal lobe is developed.
40:35
Yes. So yes, yeah, except when she
40:38
drinks. And it's gone.
40:40
It's out the window. Yeah, yeah.
40:41
But that's a very good answer. What is it?
40:48
No, isn't it? It's E and then clock in.
40:53
Yeah, clock in. Clock in.
40:55
I learned that from Love Island. Oh my God, Talking about shows,
41:02
do you know what show I'm going to talk about?
41:03
Tell me lies. Yes, it's coming out on the
41:08
13th. It is one of my guilty fucking
41:14
pleasures. I love Steven.
41:19
Huh. I know it's disgusting.
41:22
I he's a great actor, first of all, because I feel like anyone
41:25
that really makes like you hate that character so much, just
41:31
like kind of like neat in like Euphoria, like these guys are
41:35
such great actors. Like, I don't know, it's really
41:38
hard to like have someone hate you that much, but in in real
41:41
life, like you like that actor. It's crazy like he plays a
41:45
narcissist so well. Yes.
41:48
Like borderline psychopath. Oh, 1000% Like, he definitely
41:53
has some mental health issues, but then again, so do we.
41:56
All right. But Oh my gosh, I'm so excited.
42:00
I've been like counting down since it.
42:01
It sucked because remember, I think I told you about this
42:04
show. Yes.
42:05
Yeah. So I started like back in season
42:07
1, which really sucks because I'm super jealous of the people
42:12
that's just started now they. Didn't have to watch everything.
42:14
Yeah, long. It was like years.
42:17
I mean, honestly, I hate when shows do that.
42:19
Like same thing with Stranger Things.
42:20
Like I had to like rewatch the hell out of that show because I
42:24
was like, I forgot what? I forgot everything.
42:27
And then when I rewatched it, I was like, did I ever really
42:30
watch the show? Because no.
42:32
Because I started the new season and I didn't know.
42:35
I saw the whole, obviously they give you a recap before you
42:37
start a new season. I didn't really understand what
42:40
was happening. Honestly, yeah, I feel like a
42:42
lot of people feel that way, but we didn't have to wait that long
42:45
for Tell Me Live, but OK, Like, who's your favorite character?
42:49
And why my favorite? That's hard.
42:55
I want to say. I guess I have to say, Steven.
43:04
See, unfortunately, but I also really like Wrigley.
43:09
Wrigley. Says.
43:10
Shayla Oh my gosh, I hope that this season's much kinder to him
43:18
because it's just been like 1 tragedy after another.
43:21
No, that's. We won't do any spoilers, but I
43:24
mean honestly, is it really a spoiler if the show has been out
43:27
for years? I don't think so, but.
43:29
Like 3, you know. Someone will get mad about that
43:32
if I start talking about what happened I.
43:34
Think maybe 10 years is like you should have watched it by now
43:37
but like 3 years is no. Yeah, yeah, I agree.
43:41
Yeah. So yeah, we're honestly.
43:43
And Lucy better get her shit together.
43:46
I just love honestly. I love.
43:48
OK, it's a little bit of a spoiler, but I love, like, when
43:51
she finally has had enough of Steven and she just, like, gives
43:55
it back to him. Yeah.
43:56
Like, you know what I mean? I'm like, girl, finally you're
43:58
not the victim anymore. Like, then she like that pool
44:02
scene. Yeah.
44:05
That was crazy, that. Was that was like good job Lucy,
44:08
but also then again, then right away he got her back.
44:12
But even if you think about that scene like she's like doing too
44:15
much like, you know? Like yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
44:18
That's true. Like I want Lucy to win.
44:20
Like, she's very strong, but also like, I think she's like,
44:23
met her match. Like, I think that's what it is,
44:25
yeah. Yeah, I think so.
44:26
Like they're low key perfect for each other.
44:28
Honestly, yes, I know, toxic, but whatever, we're here for the
44:33
toxicity. It's a show.
44:35
I mean, it's not real life. It's fun because we're in very,
44:38
like, healthy relationships. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
44:40
It's fun to watch. Yeah.
44:42
But I did. It's funny because I did have a
44:44
relationship in the past that he reminds me of Steven.
44:47
So I was like, oh, my gosh. And I feel like I was even
44:50
Dumber than Lucy. So I'm like, who am I to judge?
44:53
Because I would always, like, take him back.
44:56
I was like, is this story about me?
44:58
No, I'm just kidding. So yeah, we're super excited
45:02
about that show. And then is there any other
45:04
shows that like this girl? I told her to watch Vanderpump.
45:09
She's obsessed. Changed my life, she.
45:11
Never listens to me. And then when she finally
45:13
listens to me, she's like, Oh my God, that's like the best show
45:16
ever. No, I'm not even joking.
45:19
I well, I finished that in like maybe like a couple months, like
45:22
2 months. Like all the seasons?
45:24
There's like 11 seasons. Yeah, yeah.
45:25
But also I put on three of my friends, 3 people, and they all
45:30
said that I changed their lives. I'm not.
45:32
Eating you. It's one of those shows.
45:34
It's like, and imagine I watched this when I was like, literally
45:38
growing up, like, as a party girl.
45:40
Yeah. So I just, like, fit with the
45:42
whole era. I just felt like Stassi's my
45:44
girl. Like I wanted to be her then.
45:48
OK don't like think this is very controversial but Katie also is
45:54
one of my favorites. You know what?
45:57
That those last two seasons, I'm like, yeah, damn, Katie was
46:02
like, right this whole time. Yes, yeah, because I feel like
46:06
everyone's so, like, in love with Tom Schwartz.
46:09
Like he's super sweet. But you know what?
46:12
Like that's a red flag because let's not forget he also threw
46:16
drinks at his girlfriends face. Called her very bad name.
46:21
That I hate the sound of your voice.
46:23
Yeah, it's like, then why did you ask her to marry you?
46:25
Crazy. And then everyone's like, oh, it
46:28
was never meant to be. Well, no shit.
46:29
It was never meant. To you know what, when she was
46:31
like, I think he does love me, but I think he never liked me.
46:35
That part I felt really bad for her because I was like, damn it,
46:39
kind. Of like clicked for me.
46:40
I think the producers just really gave her a bad edit like
46:43
the whole show. Yeah, exactly.
46:47
Yeah. And justice for Katie.
46:49
Justice. And I feel like she really did
46:51
get it in the end because Tom Sandoval hated her so much.
46:56
Actually, I'm not going to lie, I watch Traitors is.
47:01
He on it, OK. Last season, so yes, I watch
47:06
Traitors. I hate to say it, but he kind of
47:08
had this little redemption arc for me.
47:11
I feel like that show does that though, like they pick the worst
47:13
of the worst and then they give them like good edits or like
47:16
he's funny and I know it's like a whole thing.
47:19
I'm not very proud because Ariana, I love her and she's my
47:23
girl, but it is what it is anyway, So all right, so I do
47:29
want to ask you. So obviously now I'm a new mom,
47:34
so this is like a new chapter for me.
47:36
Like, do you think motherhood has changed me?
47:39
How do you see me now? Wow.
47:42
I feel like I'm going to say it. Well, yes, obviously I think it
47:49
has changed you, but I would say like ever since you like bought
47:54
your house and got married, I feel like that's when I noticed
47:57
the shift because I feel like obviously you did like a lot of
48:00
hard work, like putting making your house at home and like, you
48:03
know, stuff like that. And so it like definitely made
48:07
me see you in like a like a mature light.
48:10
Like, she's an adult, you know, And then especially after Axel,
48:15
I've literally just like, I mean, like he's literally your
48:18
whole world and like. Yes.
48:20
Yeah, like that's, that's what I want.
48:22
Like, I think I was unsure about kids for a while, but like,
48:26
after seeing you and like, yeah. Yeah, that's good.
48:31
So I feel like, well, first of all, you know, I was always on
48:35
the mend of like, even having kids, right?
48:37
So I think that that's why I waited so long first.
48:42
I'm really glad that who I had a kid with because I feel like I
48:45
always say this, but it really does matter.
48:49
I'm just glad I never had it with any of my exes because that
48:52
would be. But yeah, so it really matters.
48:57
And then another thing is like, that's really important to me.
48:59
I don't know if it's because, like, I come from a big family.
49:01
Maybe this will resonate with you too because you kind of come
49:04
from one too. I am done after one.
49:09
Like, I don't want like multiple kids.
49:12
And I know that sounds awful because like, I just don't have
49:14
the patience. Like I know my limits and I feel
49:18
like now we're like a perfect little family.
49:20
Like, because like we're complete.
49:22
I don't need like another one. And yeah, like, I don't know, I
49:27
think. That's valid, though.
49:28
I feel like obviously Axel has like, the best life ever.
49:33
But yeah, like I understand like, because like, having kids
49:36
that are like, really close in age 2 is kind of hard because
49:39
like, obviously one is always going to get more attention than
49:42
the other. And it's not like, by choice.
49:44
It just, like, happens. Yeah.
49:47
So yeah, I'm, I think I, I mean, I want multiple kids.
49:52
How many do you want? I want three, yeah.
49:55
Well, my boyfriend's family is really notorious for having
49:58
boys, but I really want a girl. So I think at three, if I don't
50:04
have a girl, I I think I'm just going to like stop at that.
50:07
Oh my God, three boys shoot me. If I get the girl first try,
50:12
maybe I'll have one more. Yeah, honestly, yeah.
50:15
But but yeah, honestly, like you are literally like I literally
50:22
look up to you like so much now. Like like I know how my future
50:27
should look and like, now I have expectations for that.
50:31
And I feel like that's I've. Are you gonna cry?
50:36
No, no. But I'm like, relax girl.
50:39
Obviously. Let me just say really quick,
50:41
sorry, but she's never this nice.
50:44
I feel like she's putting up a front, but go ahead.
50:47
Maybe a little no, no, but like I do really respect you and like
50:52
I feel like obviously like all our parents are divorced and
50:56
like whatever. And so like this is like a very
51:00
good example for me of like healthy relationship and like
51:04
how to work through like things. And like, I think one thing that
51:09
I definitely learned is that like when you choose a partner.
51:12
Yeah. Obviously if you can't handle
51:15
each other. Sorry my.
51:17
Like without a kid, without a house, like things that you
51:20
don't have to worry about that will be added stresses going
51:23
forward in your relationship. Like if you're already not like
51:26
meshing or like, you know, like it's just not.
51:29
It's just like the. Flag's already there, but you
51:31
continue going. Exactly, like what do you think
51:34
is going to happen once you have to pay a mortgage or like once
51:37
you have to go and get a crying baby at the in the middle of the
51:40
night? Like I think it's really
51:41
important, like who you choose as your partner.
51:44
For that very, very. And I always say that it's like
51:47
with Randy, I mean, I've told you before, like he gets up to
51:51
like change diapers, feed him. We have like a shift where it's
51:55
like I go to sleep from like 9:00 PM to 2:00, then he goes to
51:59
sleep from like 2 to the rest of the morning.
52:02
And it's just like, if I didn't have that.
52:05
I see why a lot of couples, like especially in the first year of
52:08
having a baby, like argue all the time.
52:11
I mean, I'm in mom groups that literally some of them are like,
52:14
I hate my husband. I sometimes want to punch him in
52:18
the face and it's just like, of course we're not perfect.
52:21
We get in like little tis, but it's like I've never once been
52:25
like I hate him so much. It's crazy.
52:27
Like I'm just like and then like there's some moms are like this
52:31
is an unpopular opinion, but I really love my husband.
52:35
And it's like, that shouldn't be an unpopular opinion.
52:38
I just see like if you already had so many red flags in the
52:42
beginning, don't have a kid with somebody.
52:44
It's just like, I feel like it's that simple.
52:46
It's like, obviously things happen and there's not much, you
52:50
know, like, sometimes you just can't avoid that.
52:52
But if you already know going into it like this is red flag,
52:56
just stop it right there. Yeah.
52:59
It's just not for you because, like, what's the point of having
53:02
a kid then later on getting divorced?
53:05
Yeah. And then that kid just now has
53:07
to, like, do everything separate.
53:09
And I don't know. That's always been, like, one of
53:11
my goals. I knew that like going forward,
53:14
since I did come from a divorce family, I just wanted to make
53:18
sure I picked the right person and that like, even if times got
53:22
rough, we wouldn't just give up on each other.
53:25
And I think that that also has to do with Randy because he came
53:28
from a divorce, you know, parents as well.
53:33
So we both kind of were like fighting for like, you know,
53:36
it's not always easy, but like we know that like kind of like
53:39
giving up is like our not even on the radar for us.
53:43
It's like we'll like, yeah, we'll work it out until it's
53:47
worked out. You know what?
53:48
Yeah. Well, like people in happy
53:50
marriages are always like, marriage is not like easy, but
53:54
it's about like choosing, like choosing each other at the end
53:58
of the day, no matter what. Yeah, exactly.
54:01
And I think that this happens a lot too.
54:03
When you first have a kid, you want to, especially if you have
54:07
one kid, because I've noticed this.
54:08
It's like sometimes I'll realize like, Oh my gosh, my whole life
54:11
is Axel, but I have to remember like one day Axel is going to
54:16
get older and he's going to create his own life and then
54:19
what? I'm just going to end up hating
54:20
my husband. It's like, no, like I want to
54:22
build this life with my husband, make sure Axel has everything he
54:27
needs and wants and then make memories with him and then
54:31
eventually, like, I don't want to be like that mother that like
54:34
is like obsessed with her son when he gets married, you know,
54:38
it's like, no, I had my time with you.
54:41
Now it's like time for you to grow up.
54:43
And you know, so I just want to always be that.
54:46
That's why I think I only want one because I can't put that
54:48
much attention to like two kids. They drive me crazy.
54:51
OK, Well, that's good that you're, yeah, you're aware.
54:53
Yes, yeah. So people can stop asking me if
54:56
I'm going to have another because the answer is no.
55:00
There you go. Unless if you want to come over
55:01
and babysit at 3:00 in the morning, then you're more than
55:04
welcome. But if not, don't ask me.
55:06
And I say that with love because everyone in my family asks me
55:10
that. All right, so we're kind of
55:13
going to wrap it up a little, but I have one more kind of like
55:20
questionnaire thing. So what's let's talk about one
55:26
thing that we love about each other and one thing that we hate
55:29
about each other. I saved the juicy one for life.
55:33
OK, All right. You want to go first?
55:35
Yes. OK, I love that you have a big
55:39
heart. OK.
55:40
Yeah, I feel like obviously Sisterly Bond is like literally
55:45
so special and like no other, you know, like you always like
55:50
check on me and like obviously we like have lived so far away
55:53
for like a while, like an hour drive basically.
55:57
But like you still check up on me and I'll like text you and
56:00
like I feel like I'm comfortable, like letting you
56:03
know all of the details in my life.
56:04
And I'm like, and I feel like you don't.
56:07
Well, no, I think you do judge me sometimes, but you say it in
56:14
a way that is constructive. And it's like, I like I'm
56:18
feeling for you. And I just want you to know
56:20
like, I'm here for you. Well, I always want the best for
56:23
you. And sometimes wanting the best
56:25
for someone is telling them the truth.
56:29
Like the truth that sometimes they don't want to face.
56:32
So I do it in the nicest way possible.
56:35
But yeah, I do want the best for you always.
56:37
Oh, thank you. Oh, my gosh.
56:39
I think this little junkie is getting to me because I'm
56:42
getting a little sentimental here.
56:45
All right, Kate. I guess I'll go back to the
56:49
emotional thing. See, Like, she's very loving.
56:53
So loving. Big heart, am I too?
56:54
Loving. I know what you're gonna say.
56:58
What am I gonna say? They crash out of me.
57:00
Yeah, sometimes my emotions get too high, yeah.
57:06
Yeah, I think it's just we're very like opposite in the way of
57:11
like if we're in a fight, I'll kind of like brush it off and be
57:15
like, OK, whatever. Like I'll talk to you later.
57:17
But she will want to kind of like resolve not, not, I don't
57:21
even know if she wants to resolve it, but she wants to
57:22
address it like right then and there.
57:24
Yeah. And I'm just kind of like not
57:27
I'm just not with it. Like I'm just like, I'll I just
57:30
want to let you cool down, whatever.
57:31
But she's like heated and then she gets even more mad that I'm
57:34
like too calm about it, you know, yes, and then she's like,
57:37
but you started this like, why are you not mad?
57:39
Why are you not as mad as me? But you started.
57:41
Literally. I will say, yeah, that's
57:44
probably, it's like a hate, but I think it's also like we have
57:48
very high highs and then we have very extreme like fights, you
57:52
know, but I think that's just like part of it.
57:55
Yeah, I feel like that's part of like being siblings and just
57:58
having like that relationship because we do know each other
58:02
really. Really well, like I know how to
58:04
get. Yeah, exactly.
58:06
And I know how to get under hers.
58:07
So, and to be honest, like, I don't know, I feel like this is
58:12
like a part of me sometimes I feel like this is so toxic to
58:17
say, but I feel like sometimes it makes me like laugh getting
58:20
under people's skin. And I don't know, like, it's
58:24
always been like a thing of mine.
58:26
Like sometimes I'll say like little things that I know are
58:28
gonna like, piss people off and like, deep down it just like
58:32
makes me laugh. Yeah, I feel like that's a
58:34
little toxic, but love that. Love that.
58:38
But all right, so to you. So I love our relationship now.
58:45
Of course I love. She's such a good auntie to
58:48
Axel. Oh, my gosh.
58:50
Like, I remember the first time she was a little scared to hold
58:53
him. Yeah, but that's because, like,
58:55
we haven't really had babies around us since, like, Jonathan
58:58
and Jaden. And they're old as hell now, by
59:01
the way. No, we're old because we're
59:03
Unks. We are.
59:04
That's another generation. What is he?
59:07
Who? Alpha, Jonathan.
59:11
No, I think. He's no, he's no he's.
59:13
He's like right off the cut off maybe, yeah.
59:15
So he's alpha because I know my son is beta or some crap.
59:20
Yeah, I don't know. Yeah.
59:22
Anyways, so we haven't had babies since then.
59:26
I was even scared to hold him. But like, after that, like,
59:29
she's so good. She always, like, asked about
59:31
Axel. I text in the group, like,
59:33
pictures of him almost every day because, you know, I just want
59:37
you guys to have a really good relationship.
59:40
I feel like, with my aunt, I love her so much, but she's
59:43
like, really far. So it's like a hard thing.
59:47
Like, I don't always see her. She's super busy now.
59:50
But, you know, I always looked up to her.
59:52
So I want, like, that relationship with you and Axel.
59:55
Me too, yeah. And then the thing that I hate,
59:59
honestly, it's so funny that you said that about the fighting
1:00:01
because I hate that. Like, sometimes like we're in a
1:00:05
group chat and like she says something like, so wild.
1:00:10
I'm just not going to come. Like, I plan, OK.
1:00:12
Like, for example, Christmas, that drove me nuts.
1:00:16
I literally cried because I'm the type of person that goes all
1:00:20
out. For like decorations, food,
1:00:23
like, you know, I had been planning everything and then I
1:00:26
told her the time and she's like, I can't make it at that
1:00:28
time, can I come later? And I was like, that's kind of
1:00:31
Axel's like bedtime. So it's hard.
1:00:35
And then I was like, no, I can't change it.
1:00:37
And she's like, OK, well, I'm not just coming.
1:00:38
I'm just not going to come. I'm like, what the hell, Like.
1:00:44
OK, see we have two different perspective on perspectives.
1:00:47
Sure. What do you think happened?
1:00:49
I think what happened was, I think obviously I was at fault,
1:00:53
but obviously you're already stressed like this is your first
1:00:56
time. Hosting.
1:00:57
Yeah, yeah. And with a baby and with a lot.
1:01:01
So I think what happened was I was like, I have to go to my
1:01:05
dad's house and I have to come here.
1:01:07
So do you want me to come early or do you want me to come late?
1:01:09
Like which shift do you want you to do?
1:01:12
And I think she just was so stressed that she didn't really
1:01:15
have time to or like capacity to even like think about my that's
1:01:18
my issue, you know what I mean? Yeah, I'm just gonna really
1:01:20
comprehend her side. OK, I never said I wasn't
1:01:24
coming, you told. Me if you.
1:01:26
Can't make the time? Then just don't come.
1:01:30
I have the text but I'm not even going to pull it up because
1:01:34
that's a lie. She literally was like, I'm not
1:01:36
coming then and then that was the end of the.
1:01:39
Time because she told me not to come.
1:01:40
I was like, OK, then I won't come.
1:01:42
Anyways, I showed up. That might have happened.
1:01:44
Actually, that part actually might have happened.
1:01:46
And you were like, OK, I'm not coming.
1:01:48
Yeah, but honestly, like, obviously she, I didn't need to
1:01:52
ask her. I should have just like decided
1:01:53
on my own, like, yeah, not made her think about it.
1:01:55
Yeah. Anyways, I came anyways.
1:01:57
And yeah, yeah, yeah. We started off the day with like
1:01:59
a fight in the kitchen and then it was fine.
1:02:01
It was fine. We fight all the time, but it's
1:02:04
like we're sisters at the end of the day.
1:02:06
So those fights aren't aren't like if it was a friend fighting
1:02:10
with me, like I wouldn't ever hold it against her.
1:02:13
Like I'm not gonna laugh about it.
1:02:14
Like, yeah, no, no, nothing like that.
1:02:17
But actually, I do apologize because I feel like obviously,
1:02:21
again, coming from a child of divorce, I did have to make
1:02:25
those decisions too. Like because and especially like
1:02:27
my parents, we don't have the same dad, but my parents, they
1:02:31
live so freaking far from each other, Newport and LA.
1:02:36
And it's like, yeah, it's not that far.
1:02:37
But if you have to drive on Christmas or Thanksgiving.
1:02:40
But you're coming all the way from.
1:02:42
Yeah. And then I would be coming all
1:02:43
the way from Simi. So it's like then I would have
1:02:45
to like decide. And I kind of was like, well,
1:02:48
I've made the decision. Can't you just decide on your
1:02:50
own? That was kind of kind of like my
1:02:51
whole spiel, but you know. We're.
1:02:55
I know there's this plant in the way.
1:02:59
All right, so we are going to kind of wrap it up.
1:03:03
I hope you guys had a really good time with us.
1:03:06
This was my first YouTube episode and I'm so excited.
1:03:09
I had my little sister as my guest.
1:03:13
And what do you think? How do you think it went?
1:03:15
I think it went amazing. I think I did a great job.
1:03:17
I. OK, relax.
1:03:20
So anyways, I do want to say, you know, this is my first
1:03:25
episode on YouTube, but I do have a platform on Spotify,
1:03:32
Amazon podcast, Apple podcast, and there's episodes one through
1:03:37
4 over there. So if you want to binge those,
1:03:39
go right ahead and please, please, please subscribe.
1:03:45
All right, this is Monk on mild with Lex.
1:03:48
And so all right, bye, guys. Have a good one.
1:03:53
Same time, same place next week, Mondays at 6:00 AM we drop.
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