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143. Life Patterns · Your Enriched Self

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  I'm sure you're familiar with this when you are on an airplane and a flight
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  attendant instructs you to put on your oxygen mass before helping others. And the
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  importance of that is that this is a survival rule. It's a survival technique
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  because if you are putting on somebody else's mass and you run out of oxygen,
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  you're not going to be able to help them, and you most likely
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  aren't helping yourself. So if that is the case with a survival technique,
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  why are you not establishing and maintaining the boundaries that you set for yourself?
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  Because keep this in mind, if you continue to breach your own boundaries,
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  how can you be there and pour from this cup of overflow when you have
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  nothing left. This is a reminder that your boundaries are important. They're important
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  for those outside of your life to understand, they're important for those inside of
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  your life to understand, but most importantly, for you to survive and thrive
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  in your life, it is critical that you establish and maintain your boundaries.
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  Listen, your thoughts today are going to influence how you live tomorrow, just
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  I want to thank you, thank you, thank you. Now before we
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  get into this week's episode. If you know, you know, one of
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  the things that I do each and every week is I make a deposit into
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  the bank of you, and I do so by way of affirmations. Affirmations
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  are a great way to start your day and to command your morning. And
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  this week's affirmation is I am ready to write a new chapter in my life.
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  I am ready to write a new chapter in my life. I am
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  ready to write a new chapter in my life. Now, let's get ready
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  for this week's episode of the Your Enriched Self podcast. Question for you,
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  what are the patterns of your life? I want you to think about that,
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  because this week I want us to do some work, some real live
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  work on understanding the patterns of your life. And I want us to spend
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  time dissecting what that means. What, what are the patterns of your life.
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  So I want you to think about patterns like this. What are the
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  regular, repeated activities in your life, the things that you do regularly that
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  you repeat over and over in your life. Patterns are also a predictable manner.
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  It predicts from day to day, from moment to moment, from week
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  to week, from year to year. For some people what the patterns of
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  their life look like. The cool thing is, just like we talked about
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  with the affirmation, you can write a new chapter of your life. You
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  can design a new pattern for your life. But in order to do that,
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  you're gonna have to take some inventory of the patterns of your life.
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  Now, the inventory are those behaviors, those habits, those routines that you've
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  been engaging in on a regular basis. Some of them are negative, some
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  of them are positive. These are the rhythms of your life. They're like
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  the drum beats to your life. You know, people say, I'm dancing
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  to the beat of my own drum. That's what that is. You're dancing
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  to the beat of your own drum. And for some of you it can
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  be chaos. It can be chaotic because it's negative. It can be chaotic
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  because it's frustrating. And if you right now are finding yourself in a situation
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  where you feel like you're stuck in a rut, if you right now are
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  finding yourself in a situation where you have started something and you have stopped,
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  and you are starting again, and you are tired of that pattern of starting
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  and stopping and restarting. If you are in those types of patterns of your
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  life, this episode is for you. It's important for us to dissect these
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  patterns of your life so that you can start to redesign a new pattern for
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  your life. Now, I'll give you an example of something that was a
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  pattern in my life that I recognize and I had to make a change.
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  One of those patterns was when we started going back to the office my business.
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  We started going back return to office last year. I believe it was
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  some time in July. I recognize around that time that when I would get
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  off work, I would come home and go take a nap. That pattern
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  was not representative and it did not reflect the type of growth trajectory I wanted
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  to be on in my life. I knew that if I kept doing that,
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  I wouldn't get the things that I needed to get done in my five
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  to nine. So I had to make some changes. One of the things
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  that I did was I decided, you know what, if I'm going to
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  break this pattern, I have to do it real time and I have to
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  do it now. And so I decided that when I got home, instead
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  of going upstairs and getting in my bed, I would instead put on some
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  work out gear, put on my tennis shoes, and go for a walk.
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  And that might not be everybody's jam, but that's mine. I love
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  the outdoors, I love walking, I love things fitness. It worked for
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  me. I don't know what works for you, but what I do know
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  is if you are tired of being stuck in a rut, you are frustrated
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  with the patterns of your life, you need to make a change. And
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  I'm gonna encourage you not to come up with this conjured up plan. I
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  need you to do things that are real time and now. One of the
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  things that I pride myself into is practicality. I know it's important to have
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  strategy and to have approaches, and to have different ways to get things done,
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  to be innovative. Sometimes it's just getting back to the basics. It's
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  doing things simple and doing those things repetitively, okay, until you develop a
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  new pattern. And that's what this episode is all about. So what I'm
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  gonna need you to do because I'm gonna give you a few more examples of
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  how I took a pattern that was not so positive, that was not productive
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  for my life and what I wanted to do, and I found a replacement
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  which would then be something that is more positive and in fact, a more
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  productive way to spend my time. Because what I want you to recognize patterns
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  is I want you to recognize that patterns are also how you engage or spend
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  your energy. These repeated regularities become how your energy is spent. And we'll
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  get to that here in a moment. I want you to get two columns
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  down, a column of the things that are not so great, the patterns
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  you've identified. First of all, you got to identify the patterns that are
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  not serving your life today. And then I'm going to help you through my
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  own exercise of the patterns that I've used to replace those patterns in my life
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  that were not serving me. Now, one thing about patterns is that you
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  can start to repeat patterns that you see some of us have repeated patterns.
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  We've seen our parents do, friends do, etc. I've noticed this pattern
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  network where the majority of the people are in fact eating their lunch in front
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  of their screen. One of the things that I did to change that pattern
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  is I decided to do two things. Actually, one, I put a
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  schedule on my calendar for a certain time of the day that I would take
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  lunch. And I decided that taking lunch would not look like the regularities I
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  saw around me. Taking lunch would now mean I am leaving my desk,
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  going downstairs of the cafeteria and having lunch there. So I did two things.
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  One blocked off my calendar and two, I physically leave my desk and
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  find a place for me to enjoy my lunch. The fact of the matter
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  is, more times than not, I am stepping away from my desk and
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  I'm having an enjoyable lunch. But I have now prioritized how important my time
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  is for me to do things that I need to do. Need to make
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  a phone call, maybe I need to do some research on something. I
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  don't know what it is that you need to do, but I know my
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  time is now being reclaimed by me leaving my desk and going to do something
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  that's meaningful and productive for me. When I first started my run journey,
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  I had a run coach. She gave me the best hack. Ever,
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  now here's what I used to do. I would get up in the morning
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  and I would start looking for what it is that I needed to wear for
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  my workout on that day. Now that's stressful, it's crazy, it's dark.
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  When you're moving around, it's a lot happening. And oftentimes what that
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  would mean is I would forego the whole activity and just get back in bed
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  because it was easier for me to get back in bed. What my run
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  coach advised me to do is make your morning routine simple. Make your morning
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  routine easy. Put your workout gear out the night before. Everything you're going
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  to need, your light if you're running, your socks and shoes and all
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  the things you're gonna need to set yourself up for success in the morning because
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  if you have to start thinking about what you need to do, you're likely
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  not going to get up to go do it. But if you know it's
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  already done, you're just literally jumping into that situation. Right, I already
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  have it. I have it designated in a space in my room. I
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  go to that space every morning. It's there, I can put it on,
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  and I can make it very simple for myself. And so that simple
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  change, right, that replacement, that I was able to do the next
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  day, Right, we talked about it that day and the next day or
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  that same day, I went home. I put all my stuff away so
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  that the next workout, which will be the next day, I was ready
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  to go. So that prepping took all the brain work out of it and
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  kept it very simple. There's another pattern I recognized in my life. I
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  was indulging in fast food. Now, fast food is not just drive ups
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  or drive throughs or pickups. Fast foods are sometimes just junk food things that
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  you buy very easily in a store. You pop it on your shelf,
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  you come home, you get hungry, you pop that bag open, you
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  pop it in your mouth. That's fast food. It's fast. Now.
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  When I joined the boot camp, I knew that the time I would spend
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  at the gym and the time I would spend in the kitchen, I would
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  have to change that pattern up a bit because I would not sabotage myself by
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  going in the fast food route. I had to change my pattern. My
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  replacement was meal prepping, and meal prepping was definitely a game changer for me
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  in my boot camp. It was a game changer for me in my life
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  because I went from spending a lot of times trying to figure out what I
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  was going to take for lunch and oftentimes grabbing fast food versus now I have
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  everything prepped, I know what I'm gonna have, and not only am I
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  saving time, I'm also saving money. So that effort, although it was
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  a lot of front end work, on the back end makes it very very
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  easy, very very simple. If you notice, I like easy and simple.
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  I like to remove chaos, and these are the things that helped me
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  kind of take my world from chaotic to simplistic and ease, ease and grace.
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  That's how I like to move. One of the patterns that I had
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  was that I had a regular routine of irregularities when it came to the patterns
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  of my life about fitness. Although fitness was important to me, and yes
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  I was making it to the gym, chaos ensued because some days I would
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  get up at five, some days I would get up at six, Some
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  days I would get up a seven eight. It just was all over the
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  place. Although I was getting to the gym, the activity time was not
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  consistent. And again, when you have inconsistencies, you have things that frustrate
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  you. You start living in chaos. I found myself living in chaos.
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  That was a pattern I recognized. So what I did is I joined the
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  boot camp and that was about eight weeks ago. I joined boot camp.
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  And here's what boot camp did for me. It established consistency. It set
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  me up in a space of community, and it gave me accountability. That
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  was helpful for me. That made my life more productive. And although those
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  early mornings going to the gym was not something I felt like I wanted to
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  do, it was something I know I needed to do and in doing it,
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  I'm now seeing the results. And so that's how productivity is built.
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  But it started but recognizing the patterns that are not working for you and then
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  finding a replacement. So I encourage you to do that exercise. Be intentional
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  about it. And once again, when you start to identify those patterns,
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  please make sure when you replace it with something productive, it is something you
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  can go do almost immediately. Don't make it a whole trivia, a whole
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  maze. That you got to go run this down and that down and come
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  back in two weeks. Make it something you can go do. Now,
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  Okay, why is it important for you to recognize the patterns? I hope
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  you saw what I saw for my life about recognizing patterns because what it helps
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  you understand You start to understand how you are spending your time and energy.
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  And remember I talked to you about this is an energy space too. Imagine
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  I was spending time. I'm looking for something to whar to go through the
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  gym in the critical early moments of the morning, those were the moments that
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  I was contemplating already getting up or going back to sleep. So it's a
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  mindset moment, right. I want you to recognize something. Your energy is
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  currency and your time is a currency. These patterns of your life that are
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  creating inconsistency, that's creating chaos. They are depleting your energy, so they're
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  depleting your currency. Although time and money are in fact currencies of your life,
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  the worst to waste is time because unlike money, you can never replace
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  that time. You can replace that money. Now, the patterns of your
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  life are the past, and understanding the past is critical to understanding the future,
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  or otherwise said, understanding the past. It's critical to understanding the destination.
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  So you're past these patterns, they're giving you insights to where you are
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  currently. So again, if you are stuck in a rut, if you
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  are starting and stopping and restarting, I think you understand the insights of why
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  that is. It is likely because of the patterns of your life. So
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  the future is now you choosing your destination. And choosing your destination is making
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  sure you understand what will make me more productive now in your life. When
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  you recognize these patterns, they will help you understand and identify your strengths and
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  weaknesses. It will help you set goals and make plans. It helps you
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  make better decisions, it helps you to avoid or minimize the negative consequences,
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  and ultimately you're getting to live a more enriched life. And that's what this
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  is all about. Now, if you don't recognize these patterns, here's what
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  happens. You're likely to repeat the same mistakes. So, just as we
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  describe right, you start, you stop, you restart, You're back in
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  discycle this hamster wheel over and over again. Recognizing this now helps you to
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  a not repeat the same mistakes, b get stuck in that rut back and
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  forth. See miss out on opportunities. You might not be in the right
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  place at the right time, and there's the opportunity miss because you don't have
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  your life in a pattern that is productive for you. So this is your
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  work this week. What I want you to do is do this exercise for
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  yourself. Do the research, identify your past, these past patterns that have
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  led you to the current state you're in, and then find a replacement for
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  it, something that you can do immediately, something you can do to replace
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  that activity. This journey of life is yours. And as I've said before,
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  I'll say it again. You are the common denominator to your life experiences.
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  You're the common denominator to living the enriched and fulfilled life that you want
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  to live. And so by understanding your patterns, you can make changes to
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  redesign the patterns in your life, improve your life, and begin to reach
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