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How I Got Here, Getting Results Without Being Overly Strict, and What's Wrong With "I've Tried Everything" · Baddie In Progress Podcast

• 0:00
  SPEAKER_00: Hey guys, welcome to episode two of Batty in Progress podcast.
• 0:07
  SPEAKER_00: I am super excited for this next episode.
• 0:11
  SPEAKER_00: I'm not gonna lie, I feel like I was I feel like I was just like super nervous in the last episode because I didn't know what the fuck I was doing.
• 0:23
  SPEAKER_00: Also, I don't know, I guess I'm still kind of a little nervous.
• 0:27
  SPEAKER_00: It's just I'm figuring out how to podcast, I guess.
• 0:32
  SPEAKER_00: It's just a little weird talking into a mic and just talking by myself.
• 0:39
  SPEAKER_00: Um, but we'll figure it out, we'll figure it out together.
• 0:44
  SPEAKER_00: I'm super excited for today's episode.
• 0:48
  SPEAKER_00: Today is gonna be a little bit of a get to know me and a little bit of hot takes.
• 0:54
  SPEAKER_00: So I have a little bit of interview questions to ask myself because I mean obviously you can't ask me these questions.
• 1:02
  SPEAKER_00: Um so yeah, we're just gonna get right into this.
• 1:07
  SPEAKER_00: Also, I did just teach four classes.
• 1:10
  SPEAKER_00: If you don't know, um I am a Pilates instructor as well, and I teach in-person classes, and man, the way that my voice just like gives out at the end of the day.
• 1:22
  SPEAKER_00: I'm like the type of person that needs to go on mute after having a full day of teaching.
• 1:29
  SPEAKER_00: Like I just need to go like radio silent and just not talk anymore.
• 1:33
  SPEAKER_00: So it's interesting that I'm recording a podcast right after teaching.
• 1:40
  SPEAKER_00: Not the best idea, but who cares?
• 1:43
  SPEAKER_00: We're we're just gonna get this done.
• 1:46
  SPEAKER_00: Um and yeah, also I just recovered from being sick.
• 1:51
  SPEAKER_00: I was sick over the past two weeks, so my throat is just honestly going through it.
• 1:56
  SPEAKER_00: It's still not fully I would say yeah, like it's still not even fully recovered yet.
• 2:02
  SPEAKER_00: Um, I think it's just been taking so much longer to recover because I'm constantly like projecting my voice every day.
• 2:12
  SPEAKER_00: Um but yeah, just bear with me.
• 2:15
  SPEAKER_00: But yeah, let's get into these interview questions.
• 2:18
  SPEAKER_00: The first question that I have here is what made you become a coach, but also like tell the real story of how the fuck you even got here.
• 2:33
  SPEAKER_00: And my answer to that goes, oh my gosh, like way back to college at this point, and maybe even high school.
• 2:42
  SPEAKER_00: I mean, I don't know.
• 2:44
  SPEAKER_00: Back when I was in high school, I really thought that I was gonna be a professional dancer, even part of college, I believed that as well.
• 2:55
  SPEAKER_00: And honestly, I feel like I was a really good dancer and am a very good dancer.
• 3:02
  SPEAKER_00: Um, I just have been out of practice for a while.
• 3:07
  SPEAKER_00: I started dancing when I was really little.
• 3:09
  SPEAKER_00: I guess we're just gonna go totally way back until like I was out of the womb, I guess.
• 3:13
  SPEAKER_00: I don't know.
• 3:15
  SPEAKER_00: But I have been dancing since I was really, really little.
• 3:20
  SPEAKER_00: I want to say I was like three or four years old.
• 3:23
  SPEAKER_00: I started off by doing cultural dance, and then um from there I kind of just kept doing that up until the age of maybe like I don't know, I want to say like 12.
• 3:37
  SPEAKER_00: And then from age 12 and on, I started doing sports.
• 3:41
  SPEAKER_00: I started playing soccer, I started playing baseball, I did cheer, I did dance again, and then when I was in high school, I also did um cheer and I got injured, I got severely injured actually on my lower back.
• 3:58
  SPEAKER_00: I actually still have the pain till this day, which is crazy because it's been like over 10 years now.
• 4:03
  SPEAKER_00: Um, but yeah, super rambly, sorry.
• 4:08
  SPEAKER_00: But I really thought that I was gonna be a dancer when I was in high school because I one had a huge passion for it, and two, it felt like I was a really good dancer, and so I went to college.
• 4:23
  SPEAKER_00: Um, I am from LA, I'm born and raised in LA, but I went to college in Orange County in Fullerton, and yeah, first year I was basically undeclared, I didn't know what the fuck I wanted to do with my life.
• 4:38
  SPEAKER_00: I was going through a lot at the time because I had just lost my mom.
• 4:45
  SPEAKER_00: Um, that's a whole other story for a whole different day, but yeah, I was just very lost, first generation college student, and I had no idea what the hell to do with my life.
• 4:59
  SPEAKER_00: Thought I could be a dancer, also didn't have the best support system at the time to get me through something like that.
• 5:08
  SPEAKER_00: Um, so I kind of just defaulted to what I felt good at in a secondary sense.
• 5:16
  SPEAKER_00: I don't know if that makes any sense, but um the second thing that I was most good at.
• 5:22
  SPEAKER_00: And so I decided to major in math.
• 5:27
  SPEAKER_00: I know crazy nobody majors in math.
• 5:31
  SPEAKER_00: Um yeah, I just felt like I was good at it, so I decided to major in it, and crazy story there too.
• 5:39
  SPEAKER_00: I went on to like accept research fellowships and like all this other crazy stuff.
• 5:46
  SPEAKER_00: Turns out I was really, really good at math, and yeah, ended up doing research projects out of state and getting paid to like fly out to conferences and stuff, which was really cool.
• 5:59
  SPEAKER_00: But that is besides the point.
• 6:03
  SPEAKER_00: Um, that got me.
• 6:05
  SPEAKER_00: Um, sorry, I graduated from um the university that I went to in Fullerton, and then I from there went on to work for huge corporations.
• 6:19
  SPEAKER_00: Don't want to name the names because like uh don't really like them anymore.
• 6:25
  SPEAKER_00: But yeah, I went on to corporate America.
• 6:30
  SPEAKER_00: I was working in data for a while, and then I was working in pricing, and then my last job, the pricing job, was what ended up making me quit corporate because I was just treated very, very, very poorly.
• 6:49
  SPEAKER_00: The manager I had at the time was just the worst, and I don't know.
• 6:55
  SPEAKER_00: I also just didn't have a community there, like I didn't really have anyone that I considered a friend, and it was just not the vibe, it was not the vibe for me.
• 7:07
  SPEAKER_00: It was a little too crazy and mean, terrible environment.
• 7:14
  SPEAKER_00: So I was just like, you know what, I have to get out of here.
• 7:19
  SPEAKER_00: But in that same process of me wanting to get out of there, I was also putting myself through a fitness journey because I had gained weight after college that I was not comfortable with, honestly, because I will say most of my life I had been very like thin and fit, and so it was very out of the norm for me to have gained weight, and it was just not something that I felt comfortable with, and I know like it happens, obviously, people's bodies fluctuate and everything, but it was just very foreign and like new to me.
• 8:02
  SPEAKER_00: So when it happened, it almost felt like it hurt my identity or like the way that I viewed myself.
• 8:12
  SPEAKER_00: Um, so yeah, I just did not feel confident or comfortable in any of my clothes, like nothing that I wore felt like me, like I did, I just didn't feel like myself anymore.
• 8:25
  SPEAKER_00: So while I was going through all of this work BS being treated like crap and all that stuff, I was also on my fitness journey, and I was honestly making a lot of great progress, you know, after have had like after I had gained weight and stuff after college, which I was working in corporate for three years after college, before I ultimately decided to quit.
• 8:57
  SPEAKER_00: So I was kind of there for a while.
• 8:59
  SPEAKER_00: Um, and I didn't just like immediately gain weight, it was just like something that progressively over time happened, and I noticed that it happened by me saying yes to basically everything that I was invited to because oh my gosh, like my husband, I love him so much, but he is just too likable, like he's just too too sweet, and we just get invited to everything because he's just an awesome person.
• 9:36
  SPEAKER_00: And I don't know, I felt like I I mean some of these events were also my events that I was invited to, but um, I would say the amount of social interaction that we had just kind of like doubled and tripled in size, and we were just constantly saying yes to everything that we were going out to, and then like overindulging at all of the events that we were invited to.
• 10:06
  SPEAKER_00: So it was like a combination of overextending ourselves plus overindulging in like food and also alcohol, dude.
• 10:16
  SPEAKER_00: Like alcohol, yeah, it's fun, and having a couple drinks is cool.
• 10:22
  SPEAKER_00: But girl, like the empty calories in there, there's no nutrition, and you're just taking in a bunch of empty calories that are not benefiting your body at all.
• 10:34
  SPEAKER_00: Ugh, and that was like one of the silent, silent killers, you know.
• 10:40
  SPEAKER_00: But, anyways, that's I'll get into that a lot later.
• 10:43
  SPEAKER_00: But the point is, I had gained weight, I was not comfortable, I also hated my job.
• 10:50
  SPEAKER_00: Oh my god.
• 10:51
  SPEAKER_00: I think that was probably adding to it to everything.
• 10:55
  SPEAKER_00: But while I was going through all of that stuff and I was making real strides in my fitness journey, I started to realize that I had a serious passion for moving my body again.
• 11:13
  SPEAKER_00: And I felt like that kind of stemmed from my love of dancing.
• 11:19
  SPEAKER_00: It almost felt like a whole full circle moment once I realized that this was something that I was passionate about and that I can see myself doing as a career.
• 11:34
  SPEAKER_00: Once I started seeing the results that I was able to create on my own, I was like, oh my gosh, I well, I was already giving like fitness advice to my friends, just like as a friend.
• 11:48
  SPEAKER_00: But then I started to realize that I was actually good at it.
• 11:52
  SPEAKER_00: Like I was actually good at explaining and talking about this and helping people and getting results of my own.
• 12:00
  SPEAKER_00: So that's really what ultimately led me to the decision to start my business and actually train women to get the results that they're looking for.
• 12:10
  SPEAKER_00: And on top of that, I just honestly, I feel like my whole life I just wanted a job that really helped people.
• 12:19
  SPEAKER_00: I didn't know how I wanted to help people, I just knew that I wanted to do that, or I just felt like I wanted my job to mean something.
• 12:27
  SPEAKER_00: Like I didn't want to just be crunching numbers, no offense to my husband, but I didn't want to just be crunching numbers behind a desk for some huge corporation.
• 12:40
  SPEAKER_00: I wanted to do something that I felt was actually making a difference in somebody's life, and it's funny because my my husband actually does that for a living, so no offense.
• 12:52
  SPEAKER_00: But honestly, it was more than even just that alone.
• 12:56
  SPEAKER_00: I felt like I wanted to do something that also helped women in some way, and given that I myself had been in a position where I just was not feeling confident in my body, I know how like that can just emotionally impact you, you know.
• 13:16
  SPEAKER_00: Like, like I said, I felt like I had lost a part of myself, and by that I mean the part of myself that always felt so like pretty and sexy and like all that stuff.
• 13:29
  SPEAKER_00: I felt like I lost that version of myself, and I just hated not feeling like that, like I hated not feeling attractive anymore, so I decided to do something about it and change my habits.
• 13:43
  SPEAKER_00: Um, and I feel like I learned a lot in the process, and that's what ultimately led me to wanting to work exclusively with women because I know that other women have been through the same thing that I have, and I feel like I can seriously help women overcome that.
• 14:03
  SPEAKER_00: So yeah, um I guess what ultimately made me become a coach was having a shitty corporate job that pushed me to start this business while I was still in that corporate job.
• 14:20
  SPEAKER_00: But what also pushed me was me also going through that same struggle, that same struggle of not feeling confident anymore and doing something about it finally, and coming out on the other side and realizing that I can help women do the same thing.
• 14:37
  SPEAKER_00: I feel like women deserve to feel happy, they deserve to feel sexy, they deserve to feel feminine.
• 14:45
  SPEAKER_00: And to me, there's like nothing more feminine than putting on a cute outfit and actually feeling confident in what you're wearing.
• 14:53
  SPEAKER_00: Like wear the clothes and feel confident.
• 14:55
  SPEAKER_00: Don't don't just hide behind an oversized t-shirt because you're uncomfortable in your body.
• 15:01
  SPEAKER_00: Do something about it, do something about it so that you can wear the cute stuff.
• 15:07
  SPEAKER_00: What honestly changed everything for me was this one day that I was getting dressed and my jeans were just like a little too tight.
• 15:17
  SPEAKER_00: They were like okay, you know, like they still fit, but they were like a little tighter than normal.
• 15:22
  SPEAKER_00: And I was also trying to wear this tank top because it was hot, like it was summertime, and I just hated how puffy I felt.
• 15:30
  SPEAKER_00: I just didn't feel like myself anymore.
• 15:33
  SPEAKER_00: I didn't like what I saw in the mirror.
• 15:36
  SPEAKER_00: Like I told you, it's it's it's the identity piece, and I just didn't identify with that body, and that's honestly what really pushed me at the end of the day.
• 15:50
  SPEAKER_00: I was just like, okay, I keep complaining and I keep thinking that maybe one day I'm gonna fit into this again, or maybe one day I'm gonna be confident again, and yeah, maybe one day you are, but if you keep pushing it off, it's never gonna happen.
• 16:05
  SPEAKER_00: You have to start now, like you have to start today, that very second, okay.
• 16:12
  SPEAKER_00: And then honestly, that's what really propelled everything for me was just deciding that that was gonna be the time that I started.
• 16:20
  SPEAKER_00: Even right now with this podcast, I kept pushing it off.
• 16:25
  SPEAKER_00: I told you in the last episode.
• 16:26
  SPEAKER_00: I kept pushing it off for like six months, and here I am starting the podcast, and it's six months later.
• 16:35
  SPEAKER_00: I probably would have been in a completely different spot if I would have started this six months ago.
• 16:41
  SPEAKER_00: But nope, I put it off and we're starting it now.
• 16:44
  SPEAKER_00: And guess what?
• 16:45
  SPEAKER_00: I also didn't start it during the best time ever.
• 16:49
  SPEAKER_00: I have been sick over the past few weeks, and I'm still starting it crazy.
• 16:56
  SPEAKER_00: Anyways, sorry, I did go on a little bit of a tangent, but I just wanted to let you know the real story of what made me become a coach, and it was me just honestly falling in love with movement all over again, and almost like rediscovering that this is the life that I was actually meant for.
• 17:20
  SPEAKER_00: I feel like I was born to work in movement and in fitness, or you know, just in the fitness industry overall, and specifically work with women, helping them build their confidence again, and just become healthy, strong women, you know.
• 17:37
  SPEAKER_00: Anyways, um, yeah.
• 17:40
  SPEAKER_00: We'll move on to the next question here because I did get a little deep into that first question.
• 17:48
  SPEAKER_00: The next question is what's a belief you have that most coaches would disagree with?
• 17:56
  SPEAKER_00: For me personally, I feel like you don't have to be super strict, especially, I mean, in terms of diet, uh, to get results.
• 18:08
  SPEAKER_00: Um, because I personally am not super strict with my nutrition.
• 18:14
  SPEAKER_00: Um, I definitely hit my targets every day, but I'm not super strict with myself as in restricting myself with like certain foods and stuff.
• 18:26
  SPEAKER_00: Like, for example, today I ate half a cinnamon roll.
• 18:31
  SPEAKER_00: Would a person who's normally on their fitness journey trying to get results have a cinnamon roll or any kind of sweet treat for that matter?
• 18:42
  SPEAKER_00: I mean, in your idea of somebody getting results, probably not.
• 18:50
  SPEAKER_00: Um, but I'm honestly the type of coach that doesn't let my clients restrict things from themselves.
• 18:58
  SPEAKER_00: If anything, I feel like restricting from having sweets or restricting from having foods that you like.
• 19:07
  SPEAKER_00: It's just gonna cause you to derail your fitness journey, and you'll probably end up binging later because you're restricting yourself from having all the things that you enjoy.
• 19:18
  SPEAKER_00: You're probably gonna end up quitting in like a few days.
• 19:23
  SPEAKER_00: This is just gonna cause you to binge a whole bunch of food that you know you shouldn't be eating that's not good for you, and you're just gonna quit, and then you're gonna be stuck in this cycle of starting and stopping, starting and stopping because you don't have a fitness journey that's sustainable for you.
• 19:39
  SPEAKER_00: Nutrition is honestly the hardest part of fit of being on your fitness journey.
• 19:45
  SPEAKER_00: It's so funny that it is because really the hard part is working out and lifting heavy weights, but we just don't have any self-control around nutrition as a general population, I feel, and I feel like that's why it ends up being the hardest part, is because we're so conditioned to over-consume and over-indulge, but that's not the way that nutrition is supposed to be.
• 20:15
  SPEAKER_00: You're supposed to prioritize portions and macros, how much fat you're having, how much carbs you're having, how much protein you're having.
• 20:24
  SPEAKER_00: Like that's the real way of handling your nutrition.
• 20:29
  SPEAKER_00: But I understand that this isn't sustainable, um, which is why that's not exactly why what I prioritize with my clients.
• 20:39
  SPEAKER_00: With my clients, I prioritize, yes, we're gonna be tracking our macros, checking our portions and stuff, but you're also not gonna restrict yourself from having things you like.
• 20:52
  SPEAKER_00: Like I said, I had a cinnamon roll today.
• 20:55
  SPEAKER_00: I still hit my macros, I still ate all my protein, I still had all the things that I need for proper results.
• 21:03
  SPEAKER_00: It's okay for me to have a little bit of a cinnamon roll.
• 21:07
  SPEAKER_00: You know, like if I'm following my protocol most of the time, 80 to 90 percent of the time, having a little bit of a cinnamon roll is not gonna derail my progress.
• 21:19
  SPEAKER_00: What is gonna derail my progress though is if I'm super, super strict with my nutrition, and then one day I decide I can't do this, and then I just quit and binge a whole bunch of junk food.
• 21:34
  SPEAKER_00: That's what's actually gonna derail your progress.
• 21:37
  SPEAKER_00: So for me personally, I don't feel like you need to be super, super strict on your nutrition to get the results that you're looking for.
• 21:48
  SPEAKER_00: Because personally, I'm not even strict on my nutrition.
• 21:52
  SPEAKER_00: Like I said, I hit my targets, but I still allow myself to have the things that I want.
• 21:57
  SPEAKER_00: Okay, I think we only have.
• 22:00
  SPEAKER_00: Time for one more question because I really need to drink some tea.
• 22:06
  SPEAKER_00: Like I said, I'm recovering from being sick, and also I just taught four classes today, so my voice is cooked.
• 22:15
  SPEAKER_00: Like I'm I'm pretty done for the day.
• 22:20
  SPEAKER_00: Okay, so last question I have here is what's something you tell the woman who's already tried everything and has given up?
• 22:31
  SPEAKER_00: Well, first of all, I would say you definitely haven't tried everything because you haven't tried working with me yet.
• 22:40
  SPEAKER_00: I'm just kidding.
• 22:41
  SPEAKER_00: Um, yeah, I feel like we can definitely get to this point where we feel like we've tried everything, but I feel like most of the time you might have not just been consistent enough to see results.
• 22:58
  SPEAKER_00: And let me explain in order to see real results in fitness, unfortunately, you just have to stick to it for long enough to actually see results, you need to build that consistency, you're not gonna get results unless you are consistent, and I'm sure you've heard this a thousand times, but the reason you've heard it a thousand times is because it's the truth.
• 23:28
  SPEAKER_00: Unfortunately, the best things in life happen very slowly, they happen over time, and honestly, our muscles just kind of take a while to grow.
• 23:41
  SPEAKER_00: Um, I don't know if you know anything about how muscles actually grow, but we have to tear our muscle fibers down in order for them to repair themselves and get stronger.
• 23:56
  SPEAKER_00: If you want me to bore you with the details, the way this happens is we lift weights in the gym, right?
• 24:05
  SPEAKER_00: Anytime you're lifting weights that are heavy enough to challenge you, you're creating micro tears in your muscle fibers.
• 24:14
  SPEAKER_00: And then when this happens, your body gets the message that okay, well, we need to repair these muscle fibers, only this time we need to repair them stronger, and so your muscle fibers repair themselves by getting stronger and bigger, right?
• 24:31
  SPEAKER_00: But this can't happen unless you give yourself enough protein in your diet.
• 24:37
  SPEAKER_00: You need to make sure you're eating enough protein so that your muscles can repair themselves.
• 24:41
  SPEAKER_00: This is why protein is so important.
• 24:44
  SPEAKER_00: This is why you hear protein this, protein that.
• 24:47
  SPEAKER_00: It's super, super important.
• 24:49
  SPEAKER_00: But also, what's just as important is sleep because our muscles repair themselves when you're at rest, when you're sleeping.
• 24:59
  SPEAKER_00: So it's like a whole formula, really.
• 25:02
  SPEAKER_00: You need to go to the gym, you need to lift heavy weights that challenge you.
• 25:06
  SPEAKER_00: You need to eat enough protein in your diet so that your muscles can repair themselves.
• 25:12
  SPEAKER_00: You need to sleep good so that your muscles can actually get that time to repair themselves.
• 25:20
  SPEAKER_00: I know you didn't sign up for a science class, but I just wanted to get this information out there so that you can understand what I mean.
• 25:30
  SPEAKER_00: Because for the woman who feels like they've tried everything, but they've given up, I promise, I promise you have not tried everything.
• 25:43
  SPEAKER_00: You have also probably not stuck to it long enough to be able to see the real result.
• 25:50
  SPEAKER_00: Unfortunately, these kinds of results just take a while.
• 25:55
  SPEAKER_00: It took me a few months to get to the point where I'm at right now, and this is why it's important to stick to something for a few months.
• 26:05
  SPEAKER_00: You know, you need to be able to build that consistency because growth and results only come when you're being really consistent.
• 26:15
  SPEAKER_00: For example, the program I have right now for my clients is a four-month program, and I help them build that consistency there.
• 26:24
  SPEAKER_00: I help them build consistency with their workouts, consistency with their nutrition.
• 26:30
  SPEAKER_00: We also even work on our mindset and our identity.
• 26:35
  SPEAKER_00: What makes it even better is that it's a program designed specifically for you.
• 26:40
  SPEAKER_00: So that's something that I would tell the woman who feels like she's tried everything and unfortunately has given up.
• 26:49
  SPEAKER_00: You need a program that's tailored exactly for you.
• 26:52
  SPEAKER_00: Like you can't be following stuff that you see on the internet because that stuff is not built for you, it's built for them.
• 27:00
  SPEAKER_00: It's also usually built for men, which is super annoying.
• 27:05
  SPEAKER_00: And which is why I only work with women.
• 27:07
  SPEAKER_00: But well, one of the many reasons why I only work with women.
• 27:11
  SPEAKER_00: But a lot of the stuff that's out there is built either for men or it's built for women that are not like you.
• 27:19
  SPEAKER_00: Women who, you know, maybe have a crazy social life like I did and had gained weight from their social life, or women who have nine to five jobs, you know, women that are busy as hell and and don't have time for all these stupid influencer workouts.
• 27:36
  SPEAKER_00: I mean, come on, an influencer workout is not gonna be tailored to your life.
• 27:41
  SPEAKER_00: An influencer has way more time than you do.
• 27:44
  SPEAKER_00: If you work a nine to five, when are you gonna have time for this influencer workout that is like three hours long?
• 27:51
  SPEAKER_00: No, no, girl.
• 27:52
  SPEAKER_00: Like, you're not gonna have time for that.
• 27:54
  SPEAKER_00: You need a plan that's designed for you and your life.
• 27:59
  SPEAKER_00: Anyways, yeah, that's what I would tell her.
• 28:03
  SPEAKER_00: We are just gonna have to pick this back up on the next episode of the podcast because girl, my throat, oh my god, like my throat is so sore, I really need some tea.
• 28:16
  SPEAKER_00: I think I'm gonna need like three of them.
• 28:20
  SPEAKER_00: But yeah, anyways, thank you so much for listening in to this second podcast episode.
• 28:28
  SPEAKER_00: I honestly will say I did feel a lot more comfortable this time around, which feels great, you know.
• 28:35
  SPEAKER_00: Growth, awesome.
• 28:37
  SPEAKER_00: I appreciate you so so much for being here.
• 28:40
  SPEAKER_00: I hope you really enjoyed this episode.
• 28:42
  SPEAKER_00: I hope you got something out of it.
• 28:44
  SPEAKER_00: I hope you learned something new, and yeah, I will see you in the next episode.
• 28:52
  SPEAKER_00: Bye.