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The Train of Life · My Sexy Menopause Body

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  SPEAKER_00: Welcome to my sexy menopause body.
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  SPEAKER_00: Not just a podcast, but a moment.
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  SPEAKER_00: Menopause isn't something to dread.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's something to own with strength, confidence, and yes, sexiness.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because menopause doesn't mean fading into the background, it means stepping fully into who we are.
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  SPEAKER_00: And now here's your host, Kim Nicholson.
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  SPEAKER_00: Let's get started.
• 0:35
  SPEAKER_01: What if one of the biggest mistakes we make in relationships is believing that everyone who matters to us is supposed to stay?
• 0:44
  SPEAKER_01: Now think about that for a second.
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  SPEAKER_01: Because some of the people who have changed your life the most may not even be in your life anymore.
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  SPEAKER_01: And maybe that doesn't mean anything went wrong.
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  SPEAKER_01: Hi, I'm Kim and welcome to my Sexy Menopause Body, the podcast where we have real conversations about your body, your health, your relationships, and what it means to live really well on the other side of menopause.
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  SPEAKER_01: And so today's conversation is a little di different.
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  SPEAKER_01: I'm not going to be talking about supplements today or protein targets or strength training recommendations.
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  SPEAKER_01: No latest health study.
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  SPEAKER_01: So it's a completely different topic.
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  SPEAKER_01: But today I want to talk about people because it's still one of the pillars of health.
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  SPEAKER_01: The people who come into our lives, the people who stay, the people who leave, the people who we thought would stay but didn't.
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  SPEAKER_01: And maybe most importantly, the people we haven't even met yet.
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  SPEAKER_01: There is a poem that really got me thinking, and I posted about it years ago, and it has been reposted many, many, many times.
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  SPEAKER_01: And it's uh been circulating for years, and it's called The Train of Life.
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  SPEAKER_01: You may have seen it.
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  SPEAKER_01: And I mentioned it before because it I want to mention it, but I also want to mention too that I am not quite sure who uh the poem is attributed to.
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  SPEAKER_01: Some people say it's a French writer, uh Jean de Oumison, and others uh attribute it to Jessica Smith, and I've also seen it listed as anonymous.
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  SPEAKER_01: So I couldn't find a definitive original author.
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  SPEAKER_01: So rather than give credit to somebody who may not have written it, I'm simply going to say that its authorship appears to be uncertain.
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  SPEAKER_01: But the idea stayed with me.
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  SPEAKER_01: What this poem says is it begins with this beautiful image.
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  SPEAKER_01: At birth, we boarded the train of life, and then it imagined it imagines our entire life as one long train journey.
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  SPEAKER_01: People get on, people sit beside us, some travel with us for years, some get off much sooner than we expected.
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  SPEAKER_01: New people board, seats that were once occupied become empty, and the train keeps moving.
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  SPEAKER_01: The more I thought about this, the more I thought, oh my goodness, this really is life.
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  SPEAKER_01: I mean, can't you imagine yourself on a train and the people that come on and off the train, the ones who sit next to you?
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  SPEAKER_01: It's just a completely fascinating poem.
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  SPEAKER_01: So when we first get on the train, think about this when you're little, okay?
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  SPEAKER_01: You don't understand the people that come and go yet, right?
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  SPEAKER_01: Your parents are just there.
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  SPEAKER_01: Your siblings are there, your grandparents are there, your little neighborhood is there, your friends are there, and you don't look around the dinner table when you're eight years old and think, oh, I better appreciate this because someday all these all this is gonna change.
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  SPEAKER_01: Of course you don't.
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  SPEAKER_01: You assume this is how life works.
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  SPEAKER_01: These are my people, this is my house, this is my family, this is my world.
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  SPEAKER_01: And everybody will just keep sitting in their assigned seats forever.
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  SPEAKER_01: But then, of course, life begins moving, right?
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  SPEAKER_01: Someone moves away, your best friend changes schools, um, you go to college or you get married, maybe you even move across the country and your parents get older, children arrive, careers change, people enter and then people leave.
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  SPEAKER_01: And somewhere along the line, we discover something that nobody really teaches us when we're young.
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  SPEAKER_01: There are no assigned seats.
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  SPEAKER_01: Hmm.
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  SPEAKER_01: The people who are there for only a few stops.
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  SPEAKER_01: I started thinking about the people who were once incredibly important in my life, who I don't even talk to anymore.
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  SPEAKER_01: And I bet you can think of someone right now too.
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  SPEAKER_01: Maybe it was your college roommate.
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  SPEAKER_01: For or for three or four years, you knew practically everything about each other.
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  SPEAKER_01: You even shared each other's clothes, you knew she was dating, she knew when you'd have a terrible day even before you said anything.
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  SPEAKER_01: You probably ate, um, I don't know, terrible food together at midnight.
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  SPEAKER_01: And I know I have.
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  SPEAKER_01: And then graduation happens, right?
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  SPEAKER_01: Jobs happen, marriage happens, kids happen, and one person moves east while the other person moves west.
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  SPEAKER_01: And at first you call every week.
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  SPEAKER_01: Does that sound familiar?
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  SPEAKER_01: And then maybe it only happens every month, and then it's Christmas cards, and then Facebook birthdays, and eventually you realize you actually haven't had a conversation in years.
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  SPEAKER_01: So, was that friendship unsuccessful?
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  SPEAKER_01: Well, I don't think so.
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  SPEAKER_01: Maybe she sat beside you for exactly the part of the ride when you needed each other.
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  SPEAKER_01: Or think about the mother you became friends with because your children were inseparable, right?
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  SPEAKER_01: You spent years at soccer games together, birthday parties, school event, or you know, sleepovers.
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  SPEAKER_01: You knew her kids and she knew yours.
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  SPEAKER_01: Then the kids grew up and went different directions.
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  SPEAKER_01: And strangely, so did you.
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  SPEAKER_01: She wasn't fake and you weren't being fake.
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  SPEAKER_01: Maybe that relationship simply belonged to that chapter in your life.
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  SPEAKER_01: And this is something I think we have trouble accepting.
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  SPEAKER_01: We tend to judge relationships by how long they last, right?
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  SPEAKER_01: 50-year friendships successful, three-year friendships?
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  SPEAKER_01: Oh, something may have happened.
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  SPEAKER_01: But why?
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  SPEAKER_01: Why do we do that?
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  SPEAKER_01: Why is the length uh the the way we measure our friendships?
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  SPEAKER_01: It shouldn't be.
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  SPEAKER_01: Someone can know you for two years and profoundly change your life.
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  SPEAKER_01: Someone you know for 44 years, uh, maybe they barely know you at all.
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  SPEAKER_01: So maybe the better question isn't how long did this relationship last?
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  SPEAKER_01: Maybe it should be, what did we give each other while we were traveling together?
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  SPEAKER_01: That changes everything.
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  SPEAKER_01: Now, here's another thing I've been thinking about.
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  SPEAKER_01: We seem to think that when a friendship or a relationship ends, somebody has to be at fault.
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  SPEAKER_01: She changed or he changed, or they stopped trying, or they hurt my feelings, or they were selfish.
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  SPEAKER_01: And sometimes that that's absolutely true.
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  SPEAKER_01: But sometimes relationships end, someone behaved badly.
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  SPEAKER_01: Sometimes boundaries needed to be drawn.
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  SPEAKER_01: Maybe sometimes walking away was healthy.
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  SPEAKER_01: But I also wonder whether we've forgotten another possibility.
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  SPEAKER_01: Sometimes two lives simply stopped traveling in the same direction.
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  SPEAKER_01: Nobody cheated, nobody betrayed anybody, nobody needs to be the villain.
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  SPEAKER_01: You simply became different people.
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  SPEAKER_01: And maybe the thing that originally connected you isn't there anymore.
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  SPEAKER_01: Maybe your priorities have changed, or maybe hers did.
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  SPEAKER_01: Maybe you were trying to force a relationship to remain what it was, you know, what it was 15 years ago instead of acknowledging how it is today.
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  SPEAKER_01: Have you ever done that?
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  SPEAKER_01: I know I have.
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  SPEAKER_01: Or held onto a friendship mostly because of its history.
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  SPEAKER_01: And you keep saying, but we've been friends for 30 years.
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  SPEAKER_01: Well, okay, but what's happening now?
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  SPEAKER_01: Sometimes we're so loyal to someone who's been in our life that we don't even notice whether the relationship still fits in the life that we're actually living today.
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  SPEAKER_01: And I don't mean you should start cutting people out of your life because they annoy you.
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  SPEAKER_01: Please don't listen to this episode and text five people saying, well, Kim told me to let you off my train.
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  SPEAKER_01: That's not you're getting off at the next stop.
• 8:51
  SPEAKER_01: That's not what I'm saying.
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  SPEAKER_01: I am saying that maybe every relationship doesn't have to last forever in order for it to have been a real relationship.
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  SPEAKER_01: That's different.
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  SPEAKER_01: Now remember, there are some people we don't want to let off our train, and there are some people we desperately want them to just keep sitting next to us.
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  SPEAKER_01: This one is a little harder.
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  SPEAKER_01: Maybe it's a friendship that's changing and you can feel it.
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  SPEAKER_01: You maybe you initiate every conversation, and or maybe you have to make every plan, or you're the one trying to keep something alive that the other person seems to have already released.
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  SPEAKER_01: You know what?
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  SPEAKER_01: Because that can be painful, right?
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  SPEAKER_01: Because when somebody leaves our life, we don't usually just think, oh, well, she's at another station now.
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  SPEAKER_01: She got off at the last stop.
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  SPEAKER_01: We make it, I don't know, we we overthink it sometimes, we make it mean something.
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  SPEAKER_01: Like, all right, what did I do?
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  SPEAKER_01: Why wasn't I important enough to remain in her life?
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  SPEAKER_01: Or something like, why doesn't she want me anymore?
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  SPEAKER_01: Or was the friendship ever real?
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  SPEAKER_01: And sometimes there may be answers to those questions, but you know what?
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  SPEAKER_01: Sometimes there's not.
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  SPEAKER_01: There's another thing I think we struggle with.
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  SPEAKER_01: We want closure to come with an explanation, right?
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  SPEAKER_01: We want someone to sit across from us and explain everything.
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  SPEAKER_01: Here's why I pulled away, here's why I got out of that seat, here's what happened, here's what it meant.
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  SPEAKER_01: Now everything makes sense, except life doesn't always give us that conversation, right?
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  SPEAKER_01: Sometimes people simply just disappear from our lives gradually.
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  SPEAKER_01: And maybe closure isn't always getting that explanation.
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  SPEAKER_01: But maybe sometimes closure is just accepting that I'm not going to get one.
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  SPEAKER_01: I'm not going to get an explanation.
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  SPEAKER_01: It just happened.
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  SPEAKER_01: And guess what?
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  SPEAKER_01: I can still move forward.
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  SPEAKER_01: So people can leave without erasing what was real.
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  SPEAKER_01: This may be one of the most important things I've taken from this whole train idea.
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  SPEAKER_01: Someone leaving your life doesn't erase the journey you shared.
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  SPEAKER_01: Think about that.
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  SPEAKER_01: If you've had a beautiful relationship with someone for 15 years and then the friendship just ended badly in year 16, those first 15 years didn't suddenly become fake.
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  SPEAKER_01: Now think about it.
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  SPEAKER_01: In those 15 years, you still laughed, you still showed up for each other, you still raised children beside each other.
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  SPEAKER_01: You maybe even took a take trips together.
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  SPEAKER_01: You still knew each other's stories, and maybe she helped you through some something difficult, or maybe you helped her.
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  SPEAKER_01: The ending doesn't get to rewrite every chapter that comes before it.
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  SPEAKER_01: And I think sometimes we do that.
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  SPEAKER_01: You know, we have a painful ending, and suddenly we throw the whole relationship into a mental trash can.
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  SPEAKER_01: We, well, obviously she really didn't care about me.
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  SPEAKER_01: But maybe she really did.
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  SPEAKER_01: Maybe both things can be true.
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  SPEAKER_01: Maybe the relationship mattered and the relationship ended.
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  SPEAKER_01: That's life.
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  SPEAKER_01: There's something incredibly freeing about allowing those two truths to exist at the same time.
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  SPEAKER_01: And yes, some people leave before we are ready.
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  SPEAKER_01: This is a tough one.
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  SPEAKER_01: You know, there are also those people whose departure we absolutely did not choose.
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  SPEAKER_01: And I'm not going to make this episode heavy, so don't worry, because that's not what I want this conversation to be all about.
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  SPEAKER_01: But we we can't talk honestly about leaving people leaving our train without acknowledging this.
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  SPEAKER_01: That sometimes parents die, friends die, spouses die, people we love leave before we're remotely prepared for the empty seat.
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  SPEAKER_01: And there are other kinds of departures too.
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  SPEAKER_01: Children grow up and move away, right?
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  SPEAKER_01: I know mine did.
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  SPEAKER_01: You leave a career after 30 years and suddenly the people you talk to every day aren't a part of your life anymore.
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  SPEAKER_01: It's a change, it's a big change.
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  SPEAKER_01: Or you move from the neighborhood where you raised your kids, or you retire, or someone gets divorced, and then of course the entire social circle changes, right?
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  SPEAKER_01: Or, you know, life just rearranges the seating chart.
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  SPEAKER_01: Sometimes gently, but sometimes overnight.
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  SPEAKER_01: And sometimes it takes us a long time to stop staring at that empty seat.
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  SPEAKER_01: Which brings me to the part of this metaphor I may love the most.
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  SPEAKER_01: Who is sitting beside you right now?
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  SPEAKER_01: You know, we're incredibly good at noticing who's missing.
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  SPEAKER_01: I know I am.
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  SPEAKER_01: Think about that.
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  SPEAKER_01: The friend who stopped calling, or the parents who are gone, or the child who moved away, or the relationship that changed, the person who disappointed us.
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  SPEAKER_01: That empty seat can become so visually enormous in our minds that it's all that we see.
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  SPEAKER_01: But here's a question I want to ask you.
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  SPEAKER_01: Who's sitting beside you right now?
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  SPEAKER_01: Who has been there so consistently that you've almost stopped noticing?
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  SPEAKER_01: Maybe it's your husband, maybe it's your brother, maybe it's your best friend, maybe it's a neighbor who quietly became part of your family, maybe it's someone you met later in life whom 20, you know, 20-year-old of you wouldn't have even imagined having this person in your life, and now they're a really close friend of yours.
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  SPEAKER_01: So when was the last time you really looked at that person and thought, hmm, you are one of the people on my train?
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  SPEAKER_01: Not because they have to be, because somehow, through all the stations and all the changes and all the years, they're still there.
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  SPEAKER_01: We spend so much time processing the people who left that we forget to appreciate the people who stayed.
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  SPEAKER_01: And I don't want to do that.
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  SPEAKER_01: I don't want to wait till someone's seat is empty before I understand what their presence meant to me in my life.
• 15:18
  SPEAKER_01: And you know what?
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  SPEAKER_01: Some people surprise us by staying.
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  SPEAKER_01: And isn't this kind of funny too?
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  SPEAKER_01: Because sometimes the people you were absolutely would stay forever, they don't.
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  SPEAKER_01: And then someone you never expected to become important does.
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  SPEAKER_01: But that's life, right?
• 15:37
  SPEAKER_01: But maybe you met somebody through work, or maybe another woman sat next to you in that exercise class that you drew you you started a friendship with.
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  SPEAKER_01: Maybe your kids introduced you, or maybe you met because you both happen to walk your dogs at the same time every morning.
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  SPEAKER_01: And suddenly, 10 years ago, 10 and suddenly 10 years go by, right?
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  SPEAKER_01: And she's still one of your people.
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  SPEAKER_01: She's still sitting in that seat next to you.
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  SPEAKER_01: So there are relationships that we choose, and relationships we're born into, and then relationships that are sometimes created by circumstance.
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  SPEAKER_01: And relationships that almost feel like they found us.
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  SPEAKER_01: That's a part of what makes life so interesting.
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  SPEAKER_01: We really don't know who's going to matter to us in the long run or in our long train ride.
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  SPEAKER_01: And here's the part I really want us to remember.
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  SPEAKER_01: There are still people who haven't even boarded your train yet.
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  SPEAKER_01: They're in your future.
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  SPEAKER_01: I think this may be the part that we forget as we get older.
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  SPEAKER_01: When we're 20, we assume that we're going to meet all kinds of people, you know, new coworkers or new friends or new loves or new neighbors or new experiences.
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  SPEAKER_01: Everything seems to be ahead of us.
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  SPEAKER_01: But somewhere along the way, we start unconsciously acting as though the cast has already been chosen.
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  SPEAKER_01: These are my friends, these are my family, these are my people.
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  SPEAKER_01: But what if that's not true?
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  SPEAKER_01: What if one of your closest future relationships hasn't even happened yet?
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  SPEAKER_01: Seriously.
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  SPEAKER_01: You know, what if you're going to meet her at 68 years old or 72 or 78?
• 17:13
  SPEAKER_01: What if someone you're going to sit beside on an airplane who becomes important to you?
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  SPEAKER_01: Or you meet somebody at a conference or in a painting class or someone who moves into your neighborhood, or someone you meet, I don't know, volunteering.
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  SPEAKER_01: Someone you haven't even met because you haven't decided to do that thing yet that puts the two of you in that same place.
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  SPEAKER_01: I love thinking about that.
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  SPEAKER_01: Because it challenges one of those quiet beliefs we can pick up about getting older, that all the important people and experiences are behind us.
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  SPEAKER_01: Why would that be true?
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  SPEAKER_01: Your life is still happening, right?
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  SPEAKER_01: People are still boarding your train.
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  SPEAKER_01: And another thing I thought about this train metaphor is sometimes we have to move our seats too.
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  SPEAKER_01: So maybe we're not always supposed to sit in the same seat either.
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  SPEAKER_01: Maybe we need to change.
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  SPEAKER_01: Maybe we need to come, I don't know, braver or quieter.
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  SPEAKER_01: We become less interested in impressing people, or we become more interested in people who make us feel peaceful instead of people who make life exciting and chaotic.
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  SPEAKER_01: Things that mattered at 30 years old may not matter at 60 years old.
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  SPEAKER_01: Things we tolerated at 40 may make absolutely no sense anymore to you.
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  SPEAKER_01: Things that we're afraid to do 10 years ago all of a sudden don't seem to be so frightening.
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  SPEAKER_01: Because guess what?
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  SPEAKER_01: We're moving too.
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  SPEAKER_01: And perhaps part of growing is realizing that I don't need everyone from every chapter of my life to understand the person I'm becoming.
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  SPEAKER_01: Because some will, some won't, some will stay with us, and some won't.
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  SPEAKER_01: And that's okay.
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  SPEAKER_01: Another thing that I thought of is I thought, what kind of passenger am I?
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  SPEAKER_01: You know, we've been talking about all the people that come and sit next to you throughout your life, throughout the stations of your life on this train.
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  SPEAKER_01: But then I had this train metaphor turned around on me.
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  SPEAKER_01: It came to me one night when I was laying in bed thinking about this metaphor.
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  SPEAKER_01: Because it's easy to sit here and evaluate everybody else who's come into our life, like who stayed, who left, who disappointed me, who showed up.
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  SPEAKER_01: But then I thought, oh wait, I'm on other people's trains too.
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  SPEAKER_01: So what kind of passenger have I been all these years?
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  SPEAKER_01: Have I been fully present for them?
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  SPEAKER_01: Have I listened?
• 19:54
  SPEAKER_01: Have I checked in?
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  SPEAKER_01: Have I made people feel important?
• 19:59
  SPEAKER_01: Have I assumed somebody knew I loved her without actually having to tell her?
• 20:05
  SPEAKER_01: I have been so busy thinking about my own journey that I forgot that I'm a part of somebody else's journey as well.
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  SPEAKER_01: That question, I don't know, makes me feel a little uncomfortable.
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  SPEAKER_01: And even though I've been thinking about it for the last couple days, it still makes me feel uncomfortable, but maybe that's good.
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  SPEAKER_01: Because I can't control who stays in my life forever, and neither can you.
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  SPEAKER_01: And I can't control when somebody else's path changes.
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  SPEAKER_01: And I can't make another person sit beside me.
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  SPEAKER_01: But you know what I can do?
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  SPEAKER_01: I can decide what kind of person I am while I'm here.
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  SPEAKER_01: So, one little thing I want you to do.
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  SPEAKER_01: So I'm gonna give you just one thing to do after this episode.
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  SPEAKER_01: Not five, not a challenge, just one little thing.
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  SPEAKER_01: Think of somebody who's sitting beside you on your train right now.
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  SPEAKER_01: Who's sitting right next to you on that seat, right next to you.
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  SPEAKER_01: Someone you may have started taking for granted simply because he or she's been there.
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  SPEAKER_01: And you know what I want you to do?
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  SPEAKER_01: I want you to tell her.
• 21:08
  SPEAKER_01: Send the text or make a phone call or just simply say, you know what?
• 21:12
  SPEAKER_01: I was thinking about you today, and I'm really glad you're in my life.
• 21:16
  SPEAKER_01: That's it.
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  SPEAKER_01: You don't need to explain this podcast, you don't need to make it weird or anything.
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  SPEAKER_01: Just simply tell somebody while she's still sitting there how important he or she is in your life.
• 21:29
  SPEAKER_01: Because maybe one of the lessons from this whole metaphor is that we spend too much time appreciating people retrospectively.
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  SPEAKER_01: What if we got better at appreciate at appreciating them presently?
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  SPEAKER_01: So here's my closing reflection.
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  SPEAKER_01: Maybe the goal of life isn't to keep every person who ever boards our train.
• 21:53
  SPEAKER_01: Maybe that's not our goal.
• 21:55
  SPEAKER_01: Maybe that's not what it should be, is to is to keep every person on that train because that's impossible.
• 22:02
  SPEAKER_01: Maybe we're supposed to notice them while they're here and love the people who stay and appreciate the ones who were only meant to travel for a few stops.
• 22:14
  SPEAKER_01: You know, let's let some people leave without deciding their departure means the entire relationship was a mistake.
• 22:22
  SPEAKER_01: So stop staring so hard at every empty seat that we miss the people sitting right beside us right now.
• 22:30
  SPEAKER_01: And then leave a little room because that's the part I keep coming back to.
• 22:35
  SPEAKER_01: That there are people you haven't even met yet.
• 22:38
  SPEAKER_01: I don't care how old you are, there are people you haven't met yet, friends you don't even know exist, conversations you haven't even had yet, places you haven't even gone, because people whose lives will intersect with yours for reasons you can't possibly even know today.
• 22:54
  SPEAKER_01: Because guess what?
• 22:55
  SPEAKER_01: Your train is still moving, and you have no idea who might get on next.
• 23:02
  SPEAKER_01: I love that thought.
• 23:04
  SPEAKER_01: I just love that thought.
• 23:06
  SPEAKER_01: Well, I'm Kim, and this has been my sexy menopause body.
• 23:11
  SPEAKER_01: And if today's episode made you think of somebody who's been a part of your journey journey, send it to her.
• 23:18
  SPEAKER_01: Send her this podcast.
• 23:19
  SPEAKER_01: And maybe that's all she needs to hear today.
• 23:22
  SPEAKER_01: That the time she spent sitting beside you mattered to you.
• 23:27
  SPEAKER_01: So until next time, keep taking care of that body that's carrying you through everything you still want to do.
• 23:35
  SPEAKER_01: Until next time.
• 23:42
  SPEAKER_00: Thanks for being here with us on MySexy Metapolis Body.
• 23:47
  SPEAKER_00: Remember, this is your journey, your chance to own your body, money, and spirit.
• 23:53
  SPEAKER_00: And define sexy on your terms.
• 23:56
  SPEAKER_00: If today's episode resonated with you, subscribe, leave a review, and share it with others.
• 24:02
  SPEAKER_00: Let's keep building this conversation and this community together.
• 24:07
  SPEAKER_00: Until next time, take care of yourself and keep showing up.