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41: Understanding How Emotions Work To Live A Happier Life (Pt 1) · She's Next Level

• Darshna Patel: Hello everybody and welcome back to the She's Next Level podcast. It's your girl Jarsh. If you are new here, welcome to my world. I help women look hotter, feel healthier, and be happier, So if you want to do that, you want to achieve that, ⁓ then stick around. Also, if you hear any noise, I am outside ⁓ by the park. I felt the pull to like record here today. So ⁓ please excuse that if you do hear that the background. also before I get started, I do have a couple spots open for one-on-one sessions for this month. ⁓ So if you are interested in healing body energetically, physically, 100% for anything that you have going on with your body, whether it's hair issues. So if you have hair loss, white hair, hair thinning, anything like that, or anything going on physically in the body, I help women heal from the inside out. Be sure to apply for a one-on-one session if you're interested. everything is in the description box below. But without further ado, let's get into this topic today because ⁓ my Gucci. my Gucci. I this is I haven't been excited about a topic in a while. And obviously I love everything I talk about, but this has been. ⁓ Something that has been one of the bane of my existence, and I also know that this is something that I am meant to master, that my soul wants to really understand all the workings of what it actually means to master your emotions and use your emotions to work for you to get you what you want in your life, and so this has been something that has been near and dear to my heart, like it has been a journey. I have been Working on emotional mastery for the past couple of months more extensively. And it's been really cool to see how I have been able to just shift my emotional state within minutes, to just feeling a crappy way to like feeling good again. And it's been really, really cool. ⁓ I feel a fucking wizard. Like it's so cool. ⁓ And so really excited to share ⁓ a little about that with you guys and really help you guys. understand your emotions better because I feel majority of the world has it wrong. Like most women have it wrong when it comes to emotions because ⁓ we just not been taught in how to ⁓ use our to work for us and how to manage our emotions, how to control our emotions, how to actually ⁓ deal with emotions. ⁓ And so this is I'm passionate about this because I was like, this has been a game changer. one of the first things that I want to talk about, if you know, maybe you're new to emotions, or maybe you haven't ⁓ been able understand emotions the way that you want to, is really debunking a lot of the shit that's going on in the world when people are talking about emotions. Cause I feel like there's just ⁓ so noise on TikTok, on Instagram, on YouTube. Even personally in my journey, like ⁓ I always been curious about manifesting ⁓ and how like, you know. Use your emotions, especially when it comes to feminine energy, because there's always talked about like feel your emotions or like know your emotions, like get to connect with yourself and your emotions and like feel them. It's okay, right? And I feel like there is a lot of misinformation out there regarding the whole concept around feeling your emotions and how we go about dealing and handling our emotions. Because personally in my experience, you know, I Definitely can say that I am yes, an Aquarius and also definitely fucking emotional. Like if you are any ounce of an intuitive, meaning everyone's an intuitive, but like if you feel like you have been emotional your entire life, and if you have felt emotional like me your entire life, meaning someone said something and your feelings got hurt, or maybe you were able to like feel Feel the way someone is feeling about you, or you could just sense into things. Congratulations, you're fucking intuitive, you're talented, you're gifted, everybody is. But if you really felt like you were just too emotional and you just didn't know what to do with them and you just felt you didn't feel safe to express your emotions because nobody else took them well or because everybody else doesn't know what the fuck to do with their emotions. So it just didn't feel just emotionally safe. And I will say this is that as women, whether you claim yourself to be emotional or not, as women, we need emotional connection. We need that emotional availability, especially towards ourselves and with people. That is the way that we feel that we connect that we create. And so going back to the whole like Misconception and like everything going on in the world and what people are talking about when it comes to emotions, I feel like ⁓ the ⁓ thing fucks a lot of women up ⁓ is understanding how emotions work and how to manifest with having emotions work in your favor, how manifestation even works to understand this on a deeper level. what I want to start with ⁓ is the understanding of how emotions work. ⁓ we all have an electromagnetic field, ⁓ that is in science called the field. I call it the creator field. You can call it what the fuck you want, but it's essentially our energy. It's our energy, our emotions, ⁓ our thoughts, our beliefs, our actions, our But truly what it stems down to is the beliefs that you hold about yourself. Because the beliefs that you hold about yourself essentially are emotions that are created from those beliefs. And so that is essentially your emotions. That is what creates your reality, is your creator field. So when you start to understand this and how everything is created from the beliefs that you hold, from the emotions that are stemmed from those beliefs, right? That is when you start to gain more emotional control. You start to realize actually, I have a lot more control in my life than I realize. Because at the end of the day, your reality that you experience is an accumulation of the emotions that you have, the beliefs that you hold that are radiating off of your EMF field because ultimately life is a mirror. It's always responding to you. And a lot of this is. Unconscious, so I don't want you to beat yourself up because that's not something that we do here. That doesn't get you anywhere closer to where you want to be. I just want you to be curious. I want you to stay curious in this entire episode because curiosity is what's going to help you actually, is what's helped me become more emotionally intelligent and be able to use my emotions and navigate through my emotions in a way where I'm able to shift my emotional states into obviously feeling happier, feeling more aligned, feeling more present, feeling more at ease, feeling at peace. Like these are the things that we genuinely on a soul level want to feel. So when we're about beliefs and we're talking about the brain, because the brain holds the beliefs, the brain ⁓ has these neuropathways create more ⁓ of the beliefs that we hold, more of that reality Because the brain is a predictive machine. The brain's job is to just keep you safe. And it's always doing its job. It's always looking for what's familiar in your life. and that is why takes a lot of time, patience, dedication ⁓ to create new habits, to break from a certain belief that had. Because ⁓ your brain is like wired in a certain way. And so when unwiring the stuff. It takes some time and that is okay. ⁓ But once you understand it actually helps you detach from emotions because understanding this helps you detach from your emotions because it helps you understand that. ⁓ Your emotions are not your identity. I think a lot of people end up taking on their emotions as to what their identity is and what it means about them. And because I get it, it feels so real in the moment when you're experiencing, you know, sickness or anything going on in your body, when you're experiencing discomfort, when you're experiencing an experience that you don't want to experience. That was funny. you don't want ⁓ Take that on because the moment you start taking it on, you are taking on technically a belief that is becoming more hardwired in your brain, ⁓ and that emotion is becoming stronger and And so, in the event ⁓ where you do want to start rewiring it becomes harder for you to do so because you have become so accustomed in a certain way. Now, if you've been doing this for a long time, it's okay. ⁓ There are certain tools, there are certain ways to be able to get more in control of your emotions and stop this pattern going on in your brain. There are ways to do so. But today, the real intention of this podcast is to really help you guys understand what's going on here and also to start working with your brain versus against your brain. So, one of the things that I was mentioning earlier about how a lot of people talk about feeling your emotions, And allowing your emotions to f move through your body And I feel like in a way it's fine, it's great to be able to what your emotions are telling you. the problem with feeling your emotions is that most people end up dwelling on them. And that is the issue that happens when you yourself to really feel through your emotions ⁓ Instead of feeling your emotions to be curious of your emotions from a third-party perspective of like, okay, what's going on here? Because you know that your emotions aren't real, they are simply just feedback. They are simply just telling you a limiting belief that is going on in your brain and in your life that is not in alignment with who you truly are. And that is truly what emotions are always telling you. And that's why you feel the disconnect. That's why you feel The uncomfortable emotions. It's because it's all stemming from a limiting belief that we may have taken on from society, from upbringing, from anywhere that is not in alignment with our true selves and who we truly are. And so the very first thing that I always recommend for everybody, and I've been doing this myself and it's been a game changer, ⁓ is that I am not allowing myself to ⁓ actually my emotions as the first thing. Anytime I a a trigger, like I'm emotionally triggered, or anytime I have a thought that is not in alignment with my true self and I know it's a limiting belief. Like you guys know when you're feeling that emotional disconnect from who you truly are. You guys know when you're feeling a limiting belief or you're feeling off, right? Maybe you don't even know what the belief is, but you're feeling off in your body or you're feeling just like your mood has shifted. That is a great telling sign that there is an emotional imbalance going on. And instead of making yourself and allowing yourself to feel it, I want you guys to start pattern interrupting by going, hey, there's something going on feeling off. This doesn't mean anything about me. This is actually giving me feedback. It's actually getting me closer to more alignment, to more happiness in my life. What is going on here? And this is going to help you to again stop that trigger of like feeling into it, because the moment you start feeling into it, you lose yourself. And what happens when you start feeling your emotions and you get into that highly emotional state is that all of the blood that's in your brain rushes into your body because then you go into a fight or flight state and your nervous system's like, hey, we gotta survive. Like there's a threat, there's something going on. And so then you're not able to think straight, you're not able to problem solve, you're not able to access the genius in your brain to be able to move and take the next step. In alignment, and that's what makes people ⁓ do things that that is not even alignment with them to do. That is what makes people stay in relationships longer than they may need to. That is what makes ⁓ people create sickness and disease in their because everything stems from an emotional imbalance, an emotional disconnect from who they truly are. ⁓ That is what creates. The job situation of them not getting a raise that they desire, that's creates the financial hardships and ⁓ making crazy decisions that may not be in alignment with them. Like that is what creates all of these crazy things that people do ⁓ that is in alignment with who they are because of their emotions, because ⁓ they are ⁓ on an imbalance that is not real, that is not authentic to them. And so it's so important. ⁓ To be able to get a hold of your emotions and get in control of them. And I know it's easier said than done, but with some practice, like this is totally achievable. I've been able to do it myself, do it every single day. I actually look forward to every day like catching the, you know, emotional imbalances or limiting beliefs and being able to shift them in real time by not allowing myself to feel them and instead approaching them from a place of curiosity. And so one of the things that I usually do that has been helpful for that triggers me, any emotional imbalance that I experience ⁓ to get present and grounded. So ⁓ you guys ever experience like an emotional trigger or something that ⁓ you feel off, or maybe it wasn't something, but you just end up feeling off right during your day, you want to get In the present moment. You want to get grounded because your nervous system is obviously fight or flight mode or freeze mode or whatever mode it it is in. And so you obviously are emotional. And so to get your emotions down, that is always the first protocol. The first thing to do is get your emotions down. So one of the best ways is to tune into all your five senses and your surroundings and seeing how supported you are by your surrounding because technically, guys, we are always safe. And this is something that I started telling myself throughout like the journey when I was practicing this. I would be like, How am I actually safe right now? Like there is no lion, there is no actual threat around me. And I would tell myself, like, no, I am actually safe. Like I am actually safe right now in my body, in my surrounding. And then that would help me get my emotions down to gain that emotional control and then be able to be like, okay, what the fuck is going on? Like, why am I feeling this way? What's going on? doing from a place of curiosity. ⁓ And so is why I'm so against of like feeling your emotions, because that is not the first step. ⁓ That is not the first step to even process them out of your body. ⁓ Because if don't ⁓ shift the imbalance that's going on in your body and your creator fields, you are gonna create it if you don't address it and you don't rewire the newer pathway at that same time. Like you are going to feel it again. And this is why, like when women ignore their emotions, right? If they ignore the way that they're feeling and they're not spending time with themselves, not being emotionally available to themselves, when they're not doing these things, this is why the emotion just gets louder and louder. It pops up into another area of their life to their attention because they are not operating from their potential that they know and their soul knows, their higher self knows that. They have the capacity for. And that's truly what happens. This is why feel emotions, because emotions what creates our reality. Like we're able to literally manipulate reality and create the life and the and the the outcomes ⁓ that we want off of our emotions, because our emotions, our beliefs is what guides us to these things, to do anything that we desire to do. ⁓ And so it is important. It is a key, key aspect into gaining control of your body, brain, your energy. So just wanted to mention this piece because I do feel like starting here is really, really important because it helps you not go down into that spiral. And that's what happens when you start to allow yourself to feel your emotions ⁓ as the first as the first method of like what the fuck to do when I feel emotionally triggered or off ⁓ is When you start to allow yourself to feel, you get into that spiral and you start going down that spiral. And then what happens is you don't do. And so you create a distraction to help you not feel it anymore because you don't want to feel that way. Like it doesn't feel good. And so instead, the first step is to stop that spiral by gaining control, by getting into the present moment, by calming your nervous system down, getting your body more grounded. Maybe go out for a walk. I love going out for a walk. Anytime I'm like emotion trigger, I'm like, let's go out for a walk. Like, let's ground into the present moment and then not to ignore what the fuck just happened, but to inquire, to ask what happened. And I feel like a lot of women struggle with feeling their emotions too, because of like society telling them that, hey, it's to feel a certain way or you know, just feeling guilty of feeling certain emotions. But again. ⁓ Those emotions are helping you get to where you wanna be. don't make any sense for you to create the life that you want to create by bringing those emotions on. and that's something else that I want to bring on in today's too is emotional And so lot of us do things because we think that we're gonna feel a certain way by achieving them, right? A lot of us wanna feel happy. And so we do a lot of things that we've been told from society That makes us feel like if I have more money, if I have more success, if I have more friendships, if I'm treated a certain way, then I will be happy that is what I want, but that is not essentially what you actually want. what is actually going to set you free. ⁓ From being able to not only have those things, because it's totally okay to have the things that you desire, but to actually also feel worthy and like feel good with having them is by giving yourself the emotions that you want to feel underneath having them. Because essentially, especially because life is an emotional game, it is literally manifestation, emotions. Hello. You want to give yourself the emotions that you desire to feel because when you do that. You are not gonna need anything outside of you to feel that way. And your cup is going to be full. It's going to be in overflow. And so you actually become more in your power. You're rooted more into your authentic self. You start moving from a place of alignment. You start making more decisions from that place of true authentic self and true desire. And that is when you start to create. A life that you actually enjoy. So I think it's really, really important to mention this piece too, because I've been working on this lately. There are certain emotions that I was like noticing that were technically holes in my creator field of like, what is it that my soul actually wants to feel right now in my high value areas of my life? And maybe this is something that you guys can do at home as well is start thinking about like, where my areas of my life am I feeling. emotionally out of balance. And if you don't know, like that is okay. What you can do is you can look at your actions. And that sometimes like tells me everything because the intention behind the action is always going to tell you everything you need to know. So I'll look into like, okay, what actions am I taking? Am I actually happy taking those actions or like are those actions actually feeding a sense of increase in my life of a sense of happiness and fulfillment in my life by doing those actions? Usually, if you are in alignment, they will. And if you're not, and if there's an emotional imbalance going on, then you won't. And that'll give you more insight and feedback around okay, what is going on here? Like why am I taking this action? What's the intention behind it? What's the reason behind it? ⁓ to really sit with yourself and understand yourself better in these ways. And I would start with your high value areas of life because that's usually where a lot of these imbalances are, ⁓ ⁓ They're high value. Like it's something that is important to us that we care about. And so those areas of our life is going to give us the most amount of growth and the most amount of emotional imbalances. But it's perfect because it's all helping us grow. And I would suggest, you know, if you want to take the next week to do so, just do this and just start with the awareness because awareness will give you data to then be like, okay, what's next? Like what can we do here? And then I would say once you get that down, then look into like implementing the emotional control tool that I share with you guys around like anytime you do then experience any triggers. Ground yourself, get into the present moment, remove yourself from the situation if you need to. Do what you gotta do to get yourself in the present moment and then start asking yourself, why am I feeling this way? How do I feel like this situation is being towards me? What's going on? Start digging deeper into what's going on a place of curiosity because it will give you the to understanding your emotions. ⁓ And that do a lot more for you than to ignore them give grace with this process because you're not gonna get it right off the bat the first try. Maybe you will. ⁓ But you don't, give yourself that grace because it's definitely ⁓ something requires practice. But once you get it, it clicks like it doesn't take that long for it to click ⁓ when start training your brain to operate in this way anytime it's emotionally triggered because ⁓ the point of this is to interrupt that pattern. ⁓ And to start shifting your emotions into the way that you actually want to feel ⁓ understanding what's actually going on. So this is what I wanted to go over today. I know there's a lot more to come ⁓ just this piece, but you know, the moment you actually start to ⁓ yourself that time and space to understand your emotions by not feeling into them and going into that spiral, but actually controlling them by ⁓ stopping what's going on, getting in the present moment, and then asking yourself why and digging deeper into what's actually happening and what area of life it's coming from, that is when you start to gain more power and control over your life because you're not feeding into the same habits and the same patterns and you're not making it personal. You're not making it about you. And that's the biggest thing is like a lot of people make their emotions and the things that they're going through. ⁓ my God, especially when it comes to healing the body. They make it so personal. They make it like this is an identity. And it's not a fucking identity. It's an experience. And it's just an emotional imbalance. And just as it was created, we're also able to uncreate it. We're also able to shift it, right? Because ⁓ technically, isn't ever created or destroyed. It's just shifted. And so we can shift those low frequency feelings into higher frequency feelings and create a more ⁓ expansive, frequency life. And also ⁓ Our health. So I want you guys to start with this today. Like I said, there's a lot more to come with this. There's a lot more that goes into emotional mastery. There's a lot of different pieces that tie into it, but I didn't want to overwhelm you guys with it. I want you guys to start here and implement this, get good at this, and then we can add on. If you guys do want another podcast episode, ⁓ to give guys like another piece how to actually shift your emotions, then let me know on Instagram. Reach out to me. My Instagram is Darsh Vibes D-A-R-S-H V-I-B-E-S. Let me know your thoughts, your feedbacks, your experience from implementing this. ⁓ I would love to hear about it. ⁓ we will continue on if you guys do want to learn more about this. I've healed a lot of things ⁓ has happened ⁓ the past year. And the more I notice that it all has to do with your emotions. It all has to do with the emotional imbalances, ⁓ how to get to the root of them, shifting them, it's been fucking game changer. So ⁓ is something that I'm super passionate about. That I may even do like a ⁓ type of program one day or something around it Especially if you've been wanting to be more in your feminine energy, like this is the piece. Like this is one of the biggest pieces. And this is also a big piece to being able to connect with your intuition better because your intuition is only as good as keeping your emotions down, as good as your emotional control. Because your emotions can again sway your judgment based on the limiting beliefs. ⁓ you want to make sure that you are able to gain emotional control over your emotions so that. You're able to tap into your intuition better If you enjoy this episode, please give it a five-star review share it with a friend. Let's get more women with the right information and tools that they need to create the life that they desire. Because that is the whole fucking point ⁓ of living our best lives. we deserve to. And if you are interested working one-on-one with me, ⁓ everything is in the description box below. And I will catch you guys in the next episode. Bye.