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Ep 30: Anger Isn't Bad: Sacred Rage, Spiritual Bypassing: Learning to Feel, Release & Heal · Real Talk Real Healing

• 0:01
  SPEAKER_01: Hey y'all, this is Desi.
• 0:03
  SPEAKER_01: And this is Lisa.
• 0:05
  SPEAKER_01: Welcome to our podcast, Real Talk Real Healing, where we support women through their healing journey.
• 0:10
  SPEAKER_00: Through raw stories, authentic dialogue, and uncomfortable but very necessary conversations, we explore the full range of emotions, energetic, spirituality, and physical well-being that come with being human.
• 0:21
  SPEAKER_01: We believe in a world filled with filters and surface-level messages that healing begins with truth and a little bit of magic.
• 0:30
  SPEAKER_00: Hello, welcome to episode 30 with Lisa and Desi.
• 0:35
  SPEAKER_00: We're so excited to be here today.
• 0:36
  SPEAKER_00: We're gonna be talking about sacred rage, astrology, spiritual bypassing.
• 0:41
  SPEAKER_00: But first we're gonna start with a little shout out to one of our favorite listeners who's been here since the beginning.
• 0:48
  SPEAKER_00: And she sent me a message and she's like, Do you know that scene in Mean Girls?
• 0:53
  SPEAKER_00: I'm sure you've seen Mean Girls.
• 0:54
  SPEAKER_00: I'm like, Yeah, I've seen Mean Girls.
• 0:56
  SPEAKER_00: Um, and everybody's together is like the cafeteria, and she's like, Okay, raise your hand here if you've ever felt victimized by Regina George, right?
• 1:03
  SPEAKER_00: And everybody like raises their hand.
• 1:05
  SPEAKER_00: And she's like, that's how I feel with real talk, real healing.
• 1:08
  SPEAKER_00: And it's not a bad thing.
• 1:09
  SPEAKER_00: I'm not I'm 100% joking, but like also there's some truth to it.
• 1:13
  SPEAKER_00: And I just giggled and I was like, I gotta share this with Lisa because if you have felt personally victimized by Real Talk, Real Healing, it is with so much love and it's with so much grace for your journey and for us, but it's just truly where we've been and where we have already taken steps in the direction of like healing or whatever it may be.
• 1:33
  SPEAKER_00: And it's really just a past version of ourselves that we're talking to.
• 1:36
  SPEAKER_00: So we are also on this path, and a lot of it is relatable because we have literally dealt with it and we are either going through it or we have just gone through it and we're bringing it here to you guys to real talk, real healing.
• 1:48
  SPEAKER_00: And that's kind of what it's all about, right?
• 1:51
  SPEAKER_00: It's like, well, there's a little bit of truth to it to make us uncomfortable so that we make the changes so we hear the thing and it makes us move because when we're comfortable, we don't change, right?
• 2:00
  SPEAKER_00: We just kind of stay in the same thing and do the same things and we're just like comfortable, but then we're not actually not really taking the step into where we want to go.
• 2:07
  SPEAKER_00: So that is a little bit of what we've been creating here.
• 2:10
  SPEAKER_00: And so to hear that from one of our listeners, we actually feel very honored.
• 2:14
  SPEAKER_00: Yes.
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  SPEAKER_01: Lisa, if you want to add anything to that, yeah, I think it's it's funny that in the way that she shared it, because obviously we totally resonate with mean girls in that whole movie and scene.
• 2:26
  SPEAKER_01: And I think it's just it's a testament and test like you know, testimonial for us and or a validation of why we created this podcast.
• 2:35
  SPEAKER_01: Because again, we're we wanted to have these conversations that helped other people see them in our own stories and in our own vulnerable moments that like you were not the only one experiencing this.
• 2:46
  SPEAKER_01: So thank you to you, um, our listener, because we just thank you so much for sharing this.
• 2:53
  SPEAKER_01: And we've definitely gotten a couple of feedbacks lately that have been sharing like how people resonate with certain episodes.
• 3:00
  SPEAKER_01: And like we love reading them and we love when you guys share this.
• 3:04
  SPEAKER_01: So please keep sharing them with us and let us know what your favorite practices are in the or favorite episodes in the um when you hear them, when you listen to them, what you pick up with your little aha moments, because again, it just reminds us and validates that we did this for a reason and we're not stopping.
• 3:22
  SPEAKER_01: So keep them coming and it gives us also ideas of how to expand on different things as well.
• 3:29
  SPEAKER_01: So, you know, we can make things more relatable and do things when you guys have questions or when you really like a certain episode and we can expand on it in a different way.
• 3:38
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, I think that's really helpful to just kind of hear where you guys are at, what's landing, and if there's anything that you guys ever want us to go deeper in, like this isn't like a podcast, we're not people that like you can't get a hold of or you like you can't talk to, right?
• 3:50
  SPEAKER_00: Or there's like a million messages in our inboxes, like not yet, anyways.
• 3:54
  SPEAKER_00: And so we want to be interactive with you guys.
• 3:57
  SPEAKER_00: Like we want to have those conversations, like we're just, you know, two little peas in a pot over here, uh, working through life, just like you guys.
• 4:03
  SPEAKER_00: And so if there are any topics or anything that's near and dear to your heart, yeah, please share that with us because we would love to go deeper on those topics.
• 4:10
  SPEAKER_01: Yes, yes, yes, yes.
• 4:12
  SPEAKER_01: So we are doing a little check-in today and sharing kind of what's coming up for us um again, because we definitely have some things coming up.
• 4:21
  SPEAKER_01: So we want to share exactly that today.
• 4:24
  SPEAKER_01: And really quickly, we want to do a quick check-in because this last episode I talked about the Scorpio season coming in.
• 4:31
  SPEAKER_01: Now we're at the week of Halloween, and there's definitely some cosmic stuff going on in this guy.
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  SPEAKER_01: So this is the perfect time to really check in once again with how you're feeling.
• 4:43
  SPEAKER_01: So we had the full moon in Taurus, and if you missed seeing that outside, you missed out on a big, beautiful moon.
• 4:50
  SPEAKER_01: Like it was so pretty and huge.
• 4:53
  SPEAKER_01: And oh my god, I we went to the park the one night and I was just like, oh my god, I just love seeing it.
• 4:59
  SPEAKER_01: I was like, Steve, take a picture because I have no space on my phone.
• 5:03
  SPEAKER_01: So I'm running out of space on my phone too.
• 5:06
  SPEAKER_01: It's a problem.
• 5:06
  SPEAKER_01: It's a problem.
• 5:07
  SPEAKER_01: It's ridiculous.
• 5:08
  SPEAKER_01: I think a lot of us are dealing with that right now too.
• 5:11
  SPEAKER_00: So if you're also in the in the group with us, I downloaded an app to try to help, like, you know, like delete your duplicates and all that stuff.
• 5:19
  SPEAKER_00: And I'm like, okay, great, but you like you still have to go through it.
• 5:21
  SPEAKER_00: Like it's not, you know, and I'm like, well, it's taking time, but like I don't have an option, so we're doing it.
• 5:26
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, yeah.
• 5:27
  SPEAKER_01: Tedious.
• 5:27
  SPEAKER_01: I got an SD card or SD, like it's like a memory stick, but you plug it into your phone and then you use a memory card that you can use card and you can download it to that.
• 5:38
  SPEAKER_01: I still need another one because there's definitely I think what's the problem is the new pictures and new videos and stuff, they just upload in such a different resolution.
• 5:47
  SPEAKER_01: And so as soon as I delete stuff, I'm like, that should definitely clear something out, and it's like nothing.
• 5:52
  SPEAKER_00: I had to go through all of my text messages.
• 5:54
  SPEAKER_00: I raced Jason and I's text messages, and it was like 14-15 gigabytes.
• 6:00
  SPEAKER_00: It was like 10 years of conversations and it freed up a lot, but a lot of the messages, so I've been deleting a lot of messages, a lot of pictures and and videos and messages too.
• 6:09
  SPEAKER_00: And but that's tedious too, because you have to go one by one by one.
• 6:11
  SPEAKER_00: I'm like, there has to be a better way to do this, guys.
• 6:13
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, I know.
• 6:14
  SPEAKER_01: I think it's just doing it more consistently.
• 6:17
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
• 6:17
  SPEAKER_00: I'm organized now.
• 6:18
  SPEAKER_00: I'm getting more organized.
• 6:19
  SPEAKER_00: I'm finally growing up, guys.
• 6:20
  SPEAKER_00: I'm like getting all my folders organized, and it's been making my content so much easier.
• 6:24
  SPEAKER_00: I'm like, why did I not do this sooner?
• 6:26
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, same for sure.
• 6:28
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, so funny that we are talking about this and we're going through um, you know, cleansing and, you know, it's a little bit of Scorpio season, death and rebirth, and really like being the detective of how to like solve it a little bit, um, and being a little obsessed with, you know, all the things.
• 6:43
  SPEAKER_01: And and sometimes it's really hard to let go of those things.
• 6:46
  SPEAKER_01: So that's okay as well.
• 6:47
  SPEAKER_01: But right now we are still in the full moon in Taurus energy.
• 6:51
  SPEAKER_01: So I had I don't remember exactly what I shared in the last episode.
• 6:55
  SPEAKER_01: So I might be repeating myself a little bit, but it's always good information and reminder.
• 6:59
  SPEAKER_01: So whenever we have an earth sign that we're doing a full moon, I always recommend doing some earth grounding practices.
• 7:07
  SPEAKER_01: So this is your reminder if you feel like you need a little grounding right now, it's so perfect because we're in Scorpio season, so that's water, it's deep water, and sometimes you can get lost in the sauce with the water and not have the words for anything.
• 7:22
  SPEAKER_01: So it's kind of coming back to earth a little bit and staying grounded as different emotions are coming up because Scorpio is about going deep, releasing different emotions and having a death and rebirth.
• 7:34
  SPEAKER_01: So things might be crashing a little bit in your life.
• 7:36
  SPEAKER_01: And if if it is, it's just the Scorpio season moving through.
• 7:40
  SPEAKER_01: So definitely finding your grounding is gonna be super helpful and super supportive for you.
• 7:45
  SPEAKER_01: And if the other thing too with water season, especially Scorpio, especially my Scorpio moons, um, you guys are taking on so much energy right now.
• 7:54
  SPEAKER_01: So I need you to be really, really careful what energy you're taking in and releasing it every single day because that is gonna help you again find your energy and really stay in that grounded, stable state that is not going to allow you to waver and not allow you to really go off the wall a little bit and off the edge because it's so easy to do that sometimes, especially when the full moon is really big and bright.
• 8:20
  SPEAKER_01: Because again, we get that full moon, everyone's crazy, you know, type situation.
• 8:25
  SPEAKER_01: So this is a really important time um to really ground yourself and find those cleansing practices.
• 8:31
  SPEAKER_01: So definitely some Epsom salt baths would be amazing for you to cleanse and release in an actual ritual or actual like intention of releasing everything down the drain.
• 8:41
  SPEAKER_01: You can even do a shower, it doesn't have to be like super crazy, but Taurus full moon, Taurus loves luxury, so like pairing them together is also a really great thing.
• 8:50
  SPEAKER_01: So do a nice bath and like treat yourself and like take your time and really soothe yourself in that way, it would also be beneficial uh for both.
• 8:59
  SPEAKER_01: And if you do have any questions or anything, of course, you can reach out to me.
• 9:03
  SPEAKER_01: And I do have a full moon activation practice that I did.
• 9:06
  SPEAKER_01: So you're welcome to reach out and get that because um it's super helpful.
• 9:10
  SPEAKER_01: And there's an activation practice, which is a Kundalini practice that's going to allow you to manifest if you did that um repetitive repetitively.
• 9:20
  SPEAKER_01: But full moon and Taurus, full moon in general, you want to release things.
• 9:24
  SPEAKER_01: So where can you forgive yourself?
• 9:26
  SPEAKER_01: What values are coming up for you during this season?
• 9:29
  SPEAKER_01: And allow yourself to ground into them to find that stability, find that foundation because this is a six-month cycle that you're ending or finding some clarity around since May, right?
• 9:41
  SPEAKER_01: Because the new moon in Taurus was in May.
• 9:43
  SPEAKER_01: So allow yourself to just reflect and see what's coming up again.
• 9:47
  SPEAKER_01: I have some practices and some journaling.
• 9:49
  SPEAKER_01: If you're curious to go a little bit deeper, by the time this is out, it's gonna be a little past the energy, but um, you're still welcome to come back to it.
• 9:57
  SPEAKER_01: Um but this is this is a big week that we have going on too, astrology-wise, because Mercury now is in retrograde, which basically means it's going backwards in the sky.
• 10:07
  SPEAKER_01: So Mercury retrograde kind of gets a bad rep because it's like Mercury's in the microwave and like everything's on pause.
• 10:15
  SPEAKER_01: But the reason why they say that, astrology says that, is because Mercury rules the mind.
• 10:21
  SPEAKER_01: Okay, it is it rules communication, it rules the mind, it rules the tech and travel a little bit as well.
• 10:28
  SPEAKER_01: So it is one of those things where if you are having things go wrong, it could be Mercury retrograde.
• 10:35
  SPEAKER_01: But it's also a great time to reflect, to allow yourself to see what's actually happening in your life and reflect and revisit things.
• 10:45
  SPEAKER_01: So that's anytime we say retrograde, it's it's an RE word.
• 10:49
  SPEAKER_01: It's a revisit, it's a refine, it's a um reflection.
• 10:54
  SPEAKER_01: So once it goes back direct, you're able to take the lesson with you, see what's actually coming up for you.
• 11:00
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, definitely some things going on in the sky.
• 11:03
  SPEAKER_00: Well, I think for Mercury Retrograde does get a bad rep because it does mess up a lot of things with technology.
• 11:08
  SPEAKER_00: You're like, the thing's not posting or it's not working, you're like, what's happening?
• 11:12
  SPEAKER_00: And then it's like, oh, wait a minute, I gotta practice patience here, or I gotta just like take a deep breath, or I gotta put it, uh, I gotta take a beat, or actually maybe I'm not supposed to be posting and doing this right now.
• 11:20
  SPEAKER_00: So it's almost like, how can I trust energy a little bit more?
• 11:23
  SPEAKER_00: Um, even though it can be really frustrating because it does make things messed up in technology, that's for sure.
• 11:28
  SPEAKER_01: It can absolutely be frustrating, especially like I hear stories about traveling and like different things happening, and and you do want to be careful, of course.
• 11:36
  SPEAKER_01: It doesn't mean that it's just to bypass it and like but again, like it's just using things for information and just for like intel on like what might be happening for you.
• 11:47
  SPEAKER_01: And it's like we're talking about today is like uh you know, trying not to bypass what we're actually feeling.
• 11:53
  SPEAKER_01: So it's kind of that reminder of like, oh well, if something's going wrong, let's not force, let's not do that right now, you know, and like we just we just don't realize and we forget because of course we go through life and we we think everything's gonna be fine and dandy, which you know it's some day most days it can be, but again, it's not always.
• 12:13
  SPEAKER_01: So how do you react when things go a wire and like tech happens?
• 12:19
  SPEAKER_01: And you know, sometimes we just we just assume that everything's gonna work out, and it's not that that's a bad thing, but we kind of forget the like little things that bring us back to human life and human nature.
• 12:30
  SPEAKER_01: Like my aunt shared a shared a story over the weekend, and her nephew, um her grandkid, was over and was waiting for a call for a job and to get a job, and she was like, Be careful and make sure you come upstairs because the phone doesn't really work well in the basement.
• 12:48
  SPEAKER_01: And he didn't.
• 12:49
  SPEAKER_01: And then she was like, Did you get a call?
• 12:52
  SPEAKER_01: And he was like, No, I don't know why.
• 12:54
  SPEAKER_01: I've been waiting, and so tried and like nothing was happening.
• 12:58
  SPEAKER_01: And she's like, You probably have to turn your phone off, turn it on, da da da.
• 13:01
  SPEAKER_01: Like they were just trying the things, you know, of like reset and do all the things, and and like she's trying to call his phone, and then she's like, Well, your phone's not working, like this is why.
• 13:10
  SPEAKER_01: And it was just like one of those things where it's just like we just assume technology is gonna work all the time, but like that's not always the case.
• 13:18
  SPEAKER_01: Like, let's look at it from a different lens and and you know, revisit it and reflect on like what else can I try?
• 13:24
  SPEAKER_01: Because we also do this thing where we're like, I tried everything, but really did we like we usually don't like if we really tried everything, something would have worked, something would have happened and shifted, but again, it's just that reminder that like force will is not the way, right?
• 13:41
  SPEAKER_01: Just allow yourself to feel through it and just kind of take a pause, see things for a different point of view, and then maybe you'll find an answer.
• 13:49
  SPEAKER_00: Well, I think there's such a fine line between like trying and force and like pushing a square peg and a round hole.
• 13:56
  SPEAKER_00: And I think we're all so guilty of that.
• 13:58
  SPEAKER_00: Like it has to work, or I have to stay in this relationship, or I have to make this work.
• 14:01
  SPEAKER_00: And it's like we get into this like scarcity, survival, like worried energy.
• 14:05
  SPEAKER_00: Like, if it doesn't work out, then it's this or nothing, it's a this or nothing when there's like a million different paths, a million different things that can happen.
• 14:13
  SPEAKER_00: And so we can very easily get like caught up into that, you know, um, over and over again, just kind of beating a dead horse.
• 14:20
  SPEAKER_00: And I know I'm especially guilty of this, and I've been like really shifting it, and I feel like we're doing a little check-in with this full moon, and I've actually had a pretty easy uh luteal phase, and which was really nice because last month it was like really and uh you know I found out that my iron was low, and so I've been working to supplement that, but that like takes a while, and then today I'm like heavy on my menstrual and it's a full moon, and I'm like super fatigue all day today, but it's actually worked out because I planned ahead, which was nice because like last month I was like, okay, if I'm gonna feel like I did last month, then I want to prepare better and give myself more space, work a little harder before I know I'm gonna get there, spend a little bit more time preparing.
• 15:02
  SPEAKER_00: And obviously, I had been doing some things with my body and taking care of my body, eating better, all the things, and um it made a difference.
• 15:08
  SPEAKER_00: And then yesterday I was gonna take kind of a slower day, but I ended up being more busy, and today I was like, I'm not doing anything.
• 15:14
  SPEAKER_00: I was like, I really didn't even want to get on here to record.
• 15:16
  SPEAKER_00: Part of me was we had changed our recording days a couple days early, and then I was like, and I had already made plans for the day that we're on Thursday when we usually record, it's like, well, we have to do it, right?
• 15:25
  SPEAKER_00: But then as soon as I like turned on the camera and saw Lisa and started talking, I was like already feeling better, right?
• 15:30
  SPEAKER_00: And so, you know, sometimes the things that we don't want to do is actually things that we need to do, and so there's just like such a fine line, and that's when you have to like really go into that discernment, which we talked about in episode 25.
• 15:41
  SPEAKER_00: So if you like really understanding what is true for you in the moment, and like sometimes we can put on these protectors that it's like, oh, I can't ask for help, or like I'm too tired, I can't do that, or whatever.
• 15:52
  SPEAKER_00: It's like keeping us small and like this protection, but that's like actually that's what we need to like break free from.
• 15:57
  SPEAKER_00: And I think sometimes so often we can't see the bigger picture because we've had these blinders on, is really what I've been seeing these protectors on lately.
• 16:05
  SPEAKER_00: And these protectors are like really, really hard to get past because they've kept us safe for so long, especially since childhood.
• 16:12
  SPEAKER_00: And so they seem like so necessary.
• 16:15
  SPEAKER_00: So, where might you be, you know, holding on and gripping so tightly and actually not letting go?
• 16:20
  SPEAKER_00: And like again, like Lisa was saying, like this full full moons are all about like letting go.
• 16:23
  SPEAKER_00: And then maybe during this month, you're gonna pay attention to like those things that you've been holding on to or the things that are really hard to let go, and then this next full moon doing some of your rituals.
• 16:32
  SPEAKER_00: I know we've been talking about uh, you know, doing rituals, and uh Lisa has a uh 21 days of Kundalini, which I think will be something so good for people to commit to coming up, right?
• 16:42
  SPEAKER_00: Because it's like how do we start releasing these things when we become really uh aware of them?
• 16:47
  SPEAKER_00: When is the next full moon?
• 16:48
  SPEAKER_00: Do you know?
• 16:49
  SPEAKER_00: Would it be like a month from like I don't know how they were because I feel like it's always a little different?
• 16:54
  SPEAKER_01: So we just had the full moon, I know, and things are a little off right now.
• 16:58
  SPEAKER_01: Um, so it'll be the next full moon.
• 17:01
  SPEAKER_01: So we're in Scorpio season.
• 17:03
  SPEAKER_01: Next will be Sag season.
• 17:06
  SPEAKER_01: So it'll be full moon in Gemini next.
• 17:10
  SPEAKER_00: So it'll be oh, it's on my birthday.
• 17:13
  SPEAKER_00: Is this right?
• 17:14
  SPEAKER_00: Is it?
• 17:15
  SPEAKER_00: Full moon, yes, on November 24th.
• 17:17
  SPEAKER_00: Shout out to me.
• 17:18
  SPEAKER_00: I probably that means I'm gonna be on my cycle and it's gonna be the full moon and it's gonna be my birthday.
• 17:22
  SPEAKER_00: Oh fun times, fun times getting ready.
• 17:26
  SPEAKER_00: Oh yeah, uh bubble baths and doing nothing.
• 17:28
  SPEAKER_00: That's hilarious.
• 17:29
  SPEAKER_00: I think my birthday is on like a Tuesday this year, so it's like a Tuesday or Wednesday.
• 17:34
  SPEAKER_00: So Tuesday or Wednesday, yeah.
• 17:36
  SPEAKER_00: When is my birthday here?
• 17:37
  SPEAKER_00: Let's see.
• 17:38
  SPEAKER_00: Why aren't you working?
• 17:40
  SPEAKER_00: Oh, it is Tuesday.
• 17:41
  SPEAKER_00: So you're starting.
• 17:42
  SPEAKER_00: Oh, tell us about your 21 days, please.
• 17:44
  SPEAKER_00: I'm so excited.
• 17:45
  SPEAKER_00: I'm signed up, I'm ready to rock and roll.
• 17:47
  SPEAKER_00: I have a little bit of commitment issues, so I'm excited to commit to this.
• 17:52
  SPEAKER_01: I mean, we all do, to be honest, you know.
• 17:55
  SPEAKER_01: Because and and that is a big part of like, you know, what I have been going through too is since I joined in April with my certification that I've learned kundalini now.
• 18:08
  SPEAKER_01: I was not ready for that full commitment that I've told you about and I've shared on you before for that like early, early morning practice called morning sadna.
• 18:18
  SPEAKER_01: And it was, I was like, oh shit, like what did I sign up for?
• 18:22
  SPEAKER_01: And I was like, okay, well, I might as well go all in now, you know, and that was one of my moments of like, okay, let me go all in.
• 18:30
  SPEAKER_01: And I did it, and I think maybe I missed one day out of it.
• 18:34
  SPEAKER_01: And and even up till now, like I kept doing practices and a few days here and there that I've quote unquote missed, but like I've stuck with them.
• 18:43
  SPEAKER_01: And I so, you know, that's a lot of hours that I've been doing some energy work, and that's where I finally realized because I was not consistent for the longest time, and that's where when I fall off and I don't have a consistent practice, whether it's energy, of course, energy practice is important, and that's one of my priorities, but it's also movement.
• 19:03
  SPEAKER_01: I love movement, movement in my body, first thing in the morning.
• 19:06
  SPEAKER_01: I do an energy practice meditation or kundalini, and I then I go into um movement.
• 19:12
  SPEAKER_01: So, whatever that looks like for me, this morning I went for a run, and and I have been consistent with that since June.
• 19:19
  SPEAKER_01: And that also has been giving me so much more life, and I built built this trust within myself.
• 19:25
  SPEAKER_01: I find that things are a lot easier in my life.
• 19:28
  SPEAKER_01: Like I lost a lot of the food cravings that I used to have.
• 19:31
  SPEAKER_01: I don't drink alcohol now.
• 19:33
  SPEAKER_01: My energy is clear because I'm very consistent now, and you know, and it's it's sometimes it is hard because we we joke about it about like having commitment issues, but honestly, like what can happen if you commit?
• 19:46
  SPEAKER_01: Right?
• 19:47
  SPEAKER_01: It's like it's kind of that edge, and then that's that's where we're uncomfortable sometimes with commitment.
• 19:52
  SPEAKER_01: And of course, you know, commitment we can talk about in so many different ways and right areas of life, but Kundalini specifically, and doing a practice that you are going to get better every single day and you're gonna shift your energy.
• 20:06
  SPEAKER_01: What is possible when you do that?
• 20:09
  SPEAKER_01: And that's where I've realized, and I'm so excited to do this 21 days of free Kundalini practice because it really does shift things.
• 20:18
  SPEAKER_01: And you've been in instant shifts where I've shared practices, and that's about five weeks long where you're doing a practice every week.
• 20:24
  SPEAKER_01: It's not the same practice every week, but you're doing practices for the majority of five weeks.
• 20:29
  SPEAKER_01: And the reasoning is behind that is because again, I know how important it is to be working on your energy every single day, and over about a month, and especially when you hit that 20-day mark, it's like things really shift and get more clear.
• 20:43
  SPEAKER_01: Like you start to see things like, oh, I'm rewiring my mind, I'm rewiring my body.
• 20:49
  SPEAKER_01: And that is what Kunali is about.
• 20:51
  SPEAKER_01: It's awakening your own life force energy from within because everyone's born with it, and it's reawakening this energy that is literally so much more thing, so many things are possible when you awaken it.
• 21:03
  SPEAKER_01: So you're step back into your power when you awaken your pro awaken your own energy.
• 21:08
  SPEAKER_01: And that's really what happened for me.
• 21:10
  SPEAKER_01: The transformation is I took my power back.
• 21:12
  SPEAKER_01: I'm able to hear my intuition and and and have like very intuitive messages.
• 21:18
  SPEAKER_01: Um, I was told my third eye is just really opening right now from a session, from another session.
• 21:24
  SPEAKER_01: So all the things that you feel, all the things that you have, these nudges, we dismiss them because we don't trust them and we don't we don't know what to do with them.
• 21:32
  SPEAKER_01: But when you practice on whether it's meditation or kunal cunalini and join us in this 21-day challenge, it is going to shift everything for you.
• 21:41
  SPEAKER_01: Because when you practice your own energy, when you understand your own energy, I that is when things get more clear and you are able to move front with this energy of clarity, of confidence, of trust.
• 21:53
  SPEAKER_01: And I I feel like that's the missing key when we when we have commitment issues.
• 21:57
  SPEAKER_01: We we don't trust ourselves.
• 21:59
  SPEAKER_01: We don't.
• 22:00
  SPEAKER_01: We don't have the confidence to do the thing that we say we want to do.
• 22:03
  SPEAKER_01: And that's actually the the biggest form of self-love.
• 22:05
  SPEAKER_01: I believe now that I'm on this side where I'm like, no, I I take care of myself.
• 22:10
  SPEAKER_01: I am healthy.
• 22:11
  SPEAKER_01: I I do take care of myself because if I don't take care of myself, I go to my bad habits and I I fall short on life.
• 22:18
  SPEAKER_01: Like, you know, it's not the life that I want to live anymore.
• 22:21
  SPEAKER_01: Um, you know, and so that's where I I'm doing this this free challenge for 21 days.
• 22:26
  SPEAKER_01: I'm doing a three-minute practice to alchemize fear.
• 22:30
  SPEAKER_01: And so it's gonna be a quick practice, and we're going to release fear in time for the holiday season because anyone else like me, you get a little stressed and overwhelmed, but even just thinking about the holidays coming up.
• 22:41
  SPEAKER_01: And that's totally been me lately.
• 22:42
  SPEAKER_01: And I'm like, oh my god, I'm doing so many things.
• 22:44
  SPEAKER_01: How am I gonna have time for these things?
• 22:46
  SPEAKER_01: And then, of course, the money piece around it as well.
• 22:49
  SPEAKER_01: It's like just the pressure that like happens during the holidays.
• 22:53
  SPEAKER_01: And I'm like, I don't want to go into the holidays that way.
• 22:56
  SPEAKER_01: So, in order to shift that, we're going to do this three-minute practice every single day.
• 23:01
  SPEAKER_01: Okay, we're going to do a kickoff call uh on the morning of November 2nd.
• 23:06
  SPEAKER_01: And then we're going you're going to get a pre-recorded practice to come back to every single day.
• 23:11
  SPEAKER_01: And you're gonna get journal prompts every single day that if you want to, and the biggest thing is tracking, tracking how you're feeling because again, when you're working with your life force energy, you start to align and co-create with the universe gods, or spirit, whatever you want to call it.
• 23:25
  SPEAKER_01: So you start to see things shift and things happen a lot easier.
• 23:29
  SPEAKER_01: We start to work with our energy instead of against our energy.
• 23:32
  SPEAKER_01: So that is really what we're talking about as well on this episode because there's a difference when you work against it, when you avoid like me, and I just have to keep back to the practices.
• 23:42
  SPEAKER_01: So it's literally my own medicine.
• 23:45
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, so this is gonna air on Thursday the 29th, and the challenge starts on that Monday, the second.
• 23:53
  SPEAKER_00: So you guys can look in the show notes, you can get signed up for it if it's anywhere within the next 30 days after this, or however you want to do it, right?
• 24:00
  SPEAKER_00: So you guys can sign up at any point if you're listening to this and we can update it or whatever.
• 24:04
  SPEAKER_00: So yeah, get signed up for that.
• 24:06
  SPEAKER_00: I'm excited.
• 24:06
  SPEAKER_00: So for me, it's always I always start out so strong.
• 24:09
  SPEAKER_00: Like I'm always like, I got this, da-da-da.
• 24:11
  SPEAKER_00: Like the first week is always like so easy for me because I'm like in it or whatever.
• 24:14
  SPEAKER_00: And then like something will happen, life will happen, my my cycle will happen, or whatever.
• 24:18
  SPEAKER_00: I get tired, I forget, and then like that's kind of what happens, like the cycle for me.
• 24:22
  SPEAKER_00: So I always start start off real strong.
• 24:24
  SPEAKER_00: And I know that if I put my mind to it and I I can just always keep coming back to it, right?
• 24:29
  SPEAKER_00: So, like, it's not like I have to like stop because I forgot for like three days, right?
• 24:32
  SPEAKER_00: I can pick it back up.
• 24:33
  SPEAKER_00: And so um, I'm really excited to dive into that.
• 24:35
  SPEAKER_00: And it's on my calendar, and it's yeah, I think it's gonna be beautiful leading up to my birthday, realizing now that it's a full moon.
• 24:41
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, I think it will.
• 24:42
  SPEAKER_01: And and again, it's not it's about the commitment piece, it's not about being perfect and about like needing to show up and doing it perfect every single day.
• 24:50
  SPEAKER_01: Because guess what?
• 24:51
  SPEAKER_01: When I was doing the practice in the beginning, I am still not perfect.
• 24:54
  SPEAKER_01: There's days where I'm so tired and I half ass it a little bit.
• 24:57
  SPEAKER_01: Like, you know, it's okay.
• 24:59
  SPEAKER_01: It's okay, but it also is like a big learning piece for yourself.
• 25:03
  SPEAKER_01: Like when you show up in your practice every single day, you start to see what patterns you actually have.
• 25:10
  SPEAKER_01: And that's what happened during my big morning sadna is we really learned like what happens when we meet resistance, like what do we actually do?
• 25:18
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, and it's you know how you show up in things and how you show up in life, it like it really does translate in that same way.
• 25:24
  SPEAKER_01: Like, how do you show up when you're alone doing a practice that feels hard and that but you know is gonna be good for you, right?
• 25:33
  SPEAKER_01: And so sometimes we do have to just remind ourselves that like it's so worth it to push through a little bit just because on the other side there's so much more possibility, or we're we know we're gonna feel good afterwards because of working with their energy and releasing what's not serving you.
• 25:48
  SPEAKER_01: So you have to do go through the uncomfortableness, you know, a little bit.
• 25:52
  SPEAKER_01: But it's only three minutes, especially for this one.
• 25:54
  SPEAKER_01: So it's worth it.
• 25:57
  SPEAKER_00: Well, I know another topic that we wanted to touch on today is like sacred rage and anger, and really moving through that.
• 26:05
  SPEAKER_00: Uh, in the last uh episode we talked about like the seasons and things like changing and like shifting, and you know, there's a lot of things that are happening just in the world that like we feel feelings towards.
• 26:16
  SPEAKER_00: There's things that we have like in our life that we're feeling feeling towards.
• 26:20
  SPEAKER_00: And I know we've talked about it on this podcast before, and I'm sure we'll talk about it many more times, but like feeling that feeling all the way through.
• 26:27
  SPEAKER_00: And so just in the topic of like anger and rage, and you know, if you grew up in a household like me, yelling and anger was very scary.
• 26:36
  SPEAKER_00: And you know, we get go in a car and there's road range, and that's scary as a kid, right?
• 26:41
  SPEAKER_00: And we have like a mad uncle or whatever it is, or we're getting in trouble by our aunties, or you know, our our parents are grandparents or our teachers, right?
• 26:49
  SPEAKER_00: Like there's like depending on how uh these figures as we grow up are like expressing their anger, like we get um, you know, our own belief systems around what anger is.
• 27:01
  SPEAKER_00: And so for me personally, my a mine was like anger, anger is scary, yelling is scary, um, big emotions and anger is scary because I didn't know how to process them.
• 27:11
  SPEAKER_00: So I would yell and I would take it out on people and I would uh project my anger onto all like my relationships, and like I haven't really done that to like friends, but like my close people, like my family and like the relationships I was in.
• 27:23
  SPEAKER_00: I like projected a lot of my anger onto other people in a very unhealthy, unsafe way.
• 27:29
  SPEAKER_00: And I didn't know any other way for so many years.
• 27:32
  SPEAKER_00: And so I always always just thought anger was bad and wrong and I shouldn't be angry.
• 27:37
  SPEAKER_00: And it wasn't until our coaching certification in 2019 where I was like taught that anger is actually really sacred, and anger, anger is part of our human evolution, it's a part of our human experience, it's a part of the range of emotions that we feel naturally as humans, and when we channel it properly and we channel it safely, it is so beautiful.
• 27:59
  SPEAKER_00: And I know for me this morning, I again in my in my deep in my cycle, like feeling all the emotions.
• 28:06
  SPEAKER_00: And I was like, I had just told a client to do a rage letter, and I suggest this to like everybody uh is to write out a rage letter, like whatever thing you're having emotions about.
• 28:16
  SPEAKER_00: It could be a person, place, or thing, it can be a behavior, it could be a pattern, it could be anything really that you're feeling some kind of emotion towards, and you write down like all the things like you're mad about and you're upset about, and like I was like, I'm I'm hurt, I'm sad, I'm angry, I'm pissed, I'm not okay.
• 28:32
  SPEAKER_00: This is bullshit, da da-da-da.
• 28:33
  SPEAKER_00: And I'm just like raging on the page, it is not pretty.
• 28:36
  SPEAKER_00: I'm getting it out because not only am I processing it like, you know, uh emotionally at the same time, I'm writing it down, right?
• 28:42
  SPEAKER_00: So that's like a whole nother way for our body and our subconscious to really um process it.
• 28:47
  SPEAKER_00: And so I'm like, you know, getting it all out, and then I'm like crying, I'm feeling the emotions.
• 28:51
  SPEAKER_00: I'm like getting up, I'm like stomping on the floor, I'm putting on the music, I'm like allowing the whole emotion come all the way out in a safe space, right?
• 28:59
  SPEAKER_00: And so I wish I would have learned that 10 years ago.
• 29:02
  SPEAKER_00: Well, I guess I've learned that in the last like eight years, so maybe like 20 years ago, damn things.
• 29:06
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, right.
• 29:07
  SPEAKER_00: You know, if I would have learned that 15 years ago instead of like taking all my anger out on my relationships and just like exploding and then like, you know, rupturing over and over again my anger.
• 29:16
  SPEAKER_00: And so, like, once I learn how to process it, one of my other favorite things to do too is like yelling in the car, crying in the car, driving around, listening to Screamo music, and just like giving it the safe space.
• 29:26
  SPEAKER_00: And I know sometimes I can feel so awkward.
• 29:28
  SPEAKER_00: I have so many clients that are like, that's awkward, like, I don't know, it's just not my thing.
• 29:33
  SPEAKER_00: And like, okay, I get it, it's not your thing.
• 29:35
  SPEAKER_00: But like all of us feel the frustration at some point in our life.
• 29:39
  SPEAKER_00: And if you don't give yourself permission to feel it, then it's gonna probably feel like something like it's not for me, it's for them, it's not for, you know.
• 29:46
  SPEAKER_00: But I also think that's a little bit of a protector.
• 29:48
  SPEAKER_00: Like maybe you've been scared of your own emotions before, or maybe you were ashamed for having big emotions, so you just kept them inside.
• 29:54
  SPEAKER_00: So it's like, well, I don't feel anger like that.
• 29:56
  SPEAKER_00: I don't do anger like that.
• 29:58
  SPEAKER_00: Well, okay.
• 29:59
  SPEAKER_00: But we also can come into the space of sacred rage and sacred anger where it's not scary and it's not a bad thing, and it's a space that we can give it.
• 30:08
  SPEAKER_00: And it's like radically changed my life.
• 30:11
  SPEAKER_00: And I know one of our mentors was like, get a pool noodle and like hit the bed with the pool noodle, but like the pool noodle, like I needed like a baseball bat.
• 30:18
  SPEAKER_00: I felt like I wanted.
• 30:19
  SPEAKER_00: So one of the things that I like to do is um like I'll put my pillow, like a big fluffy pillow on the floor, and I would just like hit the pillow on the floor, like just like letting it out, like crying, whatever it is, like just like using a little bit more of those that muscle like tension for me really is really, really helpful.
• 30:36
  SPEAKER_00: And I've really, really uh enjoyed that.
• 30:38
  SPEAKER_00: Another thing that one of our mentors does is like pushing the wall.
• 30:41
  SPEAKER_00: So if you're just like like talking to the wall and like pushing it and like speaking, whatever's coming out, and just like pushing it and like getting out the vibe, the vibrations really and the energy and like pushing that.
• 30:52
  SPEAKER_00: And uh another one too is like getting a tell and then like ringing it out, like ringing it out and like really letting that energy move through.
• 31:01
  SPEAKER_00: Those are all safe ways to do it, right?
• 31:03
  SPEAKER_00: We're not yelling at our spouse, we're not slamming the door, we're not having road rage, cutting people off, we're not getting mad at the people who are cutting us off because you already processed your anger and your frustration.
• 31:12
  SPEAKER_00: You're like, yeah, dude, okay, if you think one car is gonna make a difference, yeah, go around me, cool, whatever, right?
• 31:17
  SPEAKER_00: Like, yeah, it's you giving the space for that sacred rage and sacred anger to have a space is gonna open up so much more lightness and flow and understanding and less frustration and sadness and really controlling and gripping.
• 31:32
  SPEAKER_00: I think a lot of times I was controlling and gripping so much more because I had all this like anger and frustration in my body, and it just was sitting right there.
• 31:41
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, it's so true because again, and I'm sure we've shared this before, but when you hold on to an emotion like this and you don't allow it to be expressed, you push it down, you push it down, push it down, and then obviously you're gonna pop at one point.
• 31:56
  SPEAKER_01: Just like you're shaking up a soda bottle and you're shaking it and shaking it and shaking it, eventually it's gonna pop.
• 32:01
  SPEAKER_01: It's going to blow its top, you know, and it's not and it's never as big of a deal when that happens, of course.
• 32:09
  SPEAKER_01: So we really want to remind you that when you are feeling anger, frustration, um, annoyance, whatever that is, it's really important to release it in a way that feels good to you.
• 32:20
  SPEAKER_01: And of course, yeah, I'm definitely one that was not comfortable with rage and anger in the beginning as well.
• 32:26
  SPEAKER_01: And it was like, oh, I I definitely had stories again, like that anger is bad and yelling is bad, and like all these things.
• 32:32
  SPEAKER_01: And I've definitely come back to like screaming into a pillow when things are getting frustrating.
• 32:37
  SPEAKER_01: That's definitely my one of my go-to's for sure.
• 32:41
  SPEAKER_01: Um, and again, it's it's just it's uncomfortable sometimes because you know, of course, we're doing the healing work and it's like we have to be careful who's in the house or something like that to be like the dogs do not like it.
• 32:51
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, it's like making sure everyone is knows what you're doing before you like have a fit and they're just like, Are you going psychotic or what's happening?
• 33:01
  SPEAKER_00: You know, that's why the car is so good.
• 33:03
  SPEAKER_00: The car is good, no one's gonna see you again.
• 33:06
  SPEAKER_01: Yes, yeah, and sometimes we do need that, and you know, whatever way you process is really just gonna be supportive of you.
• 33:14
  SPEAKER_01: So try something that we shared.
• 33:16
  SPEAKER_01: Um, I really like the towel one, and um, I remember hearing somebody else say that like you can you can take the towel and like um uh like wring it, but and then like hit it against like the wall or something, so you hear that like thwack like at the wall, and that's kind of like another way to like get that satisfaction of like part of like a you know um that you're doing something, you know, in a way.
• 33:42
  SPEAKER_01: So that those could any of those could really work for you, but again, it doesn't have to be it's sacred.
• 33:48
  SPEAKER_01: Anger is literally just passion, it's passionate energy.
• 33:51
  SPEAKER_01: I remember like that learning that in in our certification that really has stuck with me because I know that like our anger is literally just a passion energy.
• 34:01
  SPEAKER_01: They're just you're just putting this passion in in an aggressive way, unfortunately.
• 34:06
  SPEAKER_01: And that's where just learning like how to be healthier about it, you know.
• 34:10
  SPEAKER_01: Sometimes, you know, especially some some fire signs, you know, they express a little explosively and aggressively sometimes.
• 34:17
  SPEAKER_01: And sometimes people don't love it.
• 34:19
  SPEAKER_01: And I had a conversation with someone recently and they were like, they're they definitely have that fire energy, and they're like, Wow, I really have like the correct partner because the partner knows that like they're gonna blow up a little bit, but like be okay 20 minutes later because again, like the fire kind of burns out really quickly, but like it can be really quick to also like light up and like just need that safe space to like let things go, but know that the other person is not taking on necessarily personally.
• 34:47
  SPEAKER_01: So that is also a big piece of expressing your emotions because if you can't, if you don't have a safe partner or a safe place to express, then that is a lesson, that is a learning curve because you probably hold a lot of it in.
• 35:02
  SPEAKER_01: And what we know to be true is if you do not express emotions, they become physical symptoms, they become physical ailments.
• 35:10
  SPEAKER_01: So you hold on to things into your body that creates inflammation, that creates tension, pain, contraction in the body.
• 35:19
  SPEAKER_01: And so this is exactly where you know we work through this all the time too.
• 35:22
  SPEAKER_01: And we have a couple of books, if you're curious, to have um some recommendations that you can look through.
• 35:28
  SPEAKER_01: But emotions are just energy and motion, they are just information for us to work through.
• 35:34
  SPEAKER_01: And even if it's not anger that you're feeling, it could be sadness, it could be shame, it could be guilt.
• 35:40
  SPEAKER_01: Um, sacred rage is definitely a really good one because you know, when you do have that frustration, especially with the holidays coming up and you're around family and you get triggered, this is a really great time for you to just find that car or go outside real quick or take a pillow and like scream into it real quick when you need to release something because again, you don't want to have it build up later and and blow up in a way that doesn't feel good and that isn't as healthy.
• 36:05
  SPEAKER_01: Um, and you kind of take it out on somebody else.
• 36:08
  SPEAKER_01: But for me, I know I avoid.
• 36:11
  SPEAKER_01: I love to avoid.
• 36:13
  SPEAKER_01: And you know, sometimes I definitely have the frustration and I avoid that.
• 36:17
  SPEAKER_01: So I, you know, I sometimes spiritual, I used to spiritual bypass a lot more.
• 36:22
  SPEAKER_01: I've definitely gotten better.
• 36:24
  SPEAKER_01: And I had this a little bit, you know, in the last couple weeks where I was feeling that scarcity about my trip.
• 36:29
  SPEAKER_01: And you know, I I have the capacity now and I have supportive people around me and safe people around me, like Desi and like my boyfriend, to like express what I'm feeling when I am realizing it.
• 36:40
  SPEAKER_01: And of course, sometimes it takes a moment to realize that I'm avoiding something, but when we come down to the energy, we realize things aren't working.
• 36:47
  SPEAKER_01: We're like, oh, what do I need to see here?
• 36:50
  SPEAKER_01: How can I actually um allow myself to feel these fit these things?
• 36:55
  SPEAKER_01: And I have double air in my chart, my big three.
• 36:59
  SPEAKER_01: So my moon and my emotions are Aquarius energy, and Aquarius energy likes to detach a little bit, so it does not like to feel the feels.
• 37:09
  SPEAKER_01: And of course, talking it out is definitely better and usually does help me, but feeling the feels all the way through is definitely something that I've had to learn and I still practice all the time.
• 37:21
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, such a good reflection of like knowing yourself and learning yourself and understanding yourself.
• 37:26
  SPEAKER_00: And I think spiritual bypassing is so easy because it's like, well, just think a better thinking thought.
• 37:30
  SPEAKER_00: Just go do meditation, you know, just go do this, right?
• 37:34
  SPEAKER_00: And so when we do that though, again, we're not feeling that emotion all the way through, which can then get stuck in the body and then create more of what we don't want, and then the sickness, and then we're attracting things that we thought we already let go of, and like the cycle really kind of continues.
• 37:47
  SPEAKER_00: And so I think that's been a little bit of a toxic part of the spiritual community is like, oh, we have all these tools to make ourselves better better feel better, so then I don't have to do anything.
• 37:55
  SPEAKER_00: But I think that was one of our biggest, biggest lessons that we learned right off the bat in our coaching certification.
• 38:01
  SPEAKER_00: It's like, uh-uh, you're not you're not doing that, you're feeling your emotions, it's going all the way through.
• 38:06
  SPEAKER_00: Like, that's not what we're teaching here.
• 38:09
  SPEAKER_00: That's not what our mentor taught us, and uh really good, I think, foundation, find foundational practices that we learn like right off the bat.
• 38:16
  SPEAKER_00: Um, and yeah, I think the energy, the energy, um, energy is obviously so important and like having practices to do when you're feeling those emotions and like you know, knowing yourself or going to the journal.
• 38:30
  SPEAKER_00: Um, I know Lisa has a few practices that she's gonna be sharing uh that could really help for something like this as well.
• 38:38
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, I think I think also, you know, again, when it's a full moon, it's it's easy to like tap into those practices with the with the grounding and with the with the water, of course.
• 38:49
  SPEAKER_01: But I think also the other thing, uh it's just about coming to a practice of some sort, you know, or like uh have that safe space for you.
• 38:58
  SPEAKER_01: So because that is really the biggest thing, because what we know, and we know with our certifications and with our understandings about ourselves and going through it, when we uh let something go, when we avoid it, or when we push it to the side and say we're gonna deal with it later, again, it builds up and it and we stays stuck in our system.
• 39:17
  SPEAKER_01: And whether we realize it subconsciously, uh um, and normally it stays in the subconscious instead of being conscious choices, we are literally have stories and meanings and feelings stuck in the background.
• 39:30
  SPEAKER_01: So when we take a meaning of, you know, or or hold on to this frustration, hold on to this, you know, avoidance or whatever it is that we're feeling, we literally validate that it's okay to feel this and that this is basically gonna be running in the back of our mind, whatever we're making meaning of it.
• 39:49
  SPEAKER_01: So, you know, the frustration of meaning like I've tried everything and nothing's working and it's never gonna work and I'm just a failure and whatever else, it's just gonna you're gonna keep spiraling when you allow that energy and that emotion to keep coming back and and validating it.
• 40:04
  SPEAKER_01: So when you release it instead, it allows you to clear space in your mind, clear space in your body to allow the positive emotions to come through, allow yourself to shift the frequency.
• 40:17
  SPEAKER_01: So again, doing klunalini practice, doing meditation, doing the practice, like we said, as you release that the emotion, you start to realize what belief or what thought is coming up that is attached to this feeling.
• 40:29
  SPEAKER_01: Because what we know is that your uh your actions, everything that you do every single day is driven by your feelings.
• 40:38
  SPEAKER_01: And those feelings are driven by your thoughts, which are also driven by your beliefs.
• 40:43
  SPEAKER_01: So we always talk about this with our clients and we talk about this in general and and even with each other.
• 40:49
  SPEAKER_01: It's like when you're feeling a frustration, it's like what is actually underneath that?
• 40:52
  SPEAKER_01: What is actually going on?
• 40:53
  SPEAKER_01: What are you feeling?
• 40:54
  SPEAKER_01: What memory is coming up that's causing you to understand this or feel this?
• 40:59
  SPEAKER_01: And they're all just information.
• 41:01
  SPEAKER_01: It's not to really like you know, push and like have to go like super deep on like one thing, but uh it's allowing ourselves to create that space.
• 41:10
  SPEAKER_01: We know like Desi has these energy leaks, her energy leak book.
• 41:14
  SPEAKER_01: It's so important to know that like this frustration or this thought is really taking your energy.
• 41:21
  SPEAKER_01: And once you get out of that loop and you release that energy, then you're able to have clarity and actually go for what you want.
• 41:29
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, another like tip that I've been learning lately from my coach, because you know, we're I'm meeting with her weekly and I'm in my like cycle, my luteal phase, and I'm like, I'm feeling this, and da-da-da.
• 41:41
  SPEAKER_00: She's like, great, you know, bringing to the surface, right?
• 41:43
  SPEAKER_00: Like when we're in our luteal phase, when we're like, you know, menstruating, like for women, this is a in a time where we can look at the things that have been hidden in the shadow that are now coming to the forefront in the in this phase of our of our cycle and being like, oh, okay, like I'm feeling frustrated, like I was feeling frustrated with my business.
• 42:01
  SPEAKER_00: Like, okay, that's what's there for me.
• 42:02
  SPEAKER_00: So uh I did an Akashic trade with uh my girlfriend the other day, and you know, the akasha was like, Yeah, you have like a good rant in you.
• 42:10
  SPEAKER_00: And I was like, okay, but I'm like, oh, I'm not gonna force it, right?
• 42:12
  SPEAKER_00: Because I could, but like better if it comes natural.
• 42:15
  SPEAKER_00: And this morning I really felt it, and I'm realizing so much that like I know we can villainize like before our periods or on our periods, and like, yeah, there's like so many things that happen at that time, right?
• 42:25
  SPEAKER_00: And some of us are starting pre-menopause and like all this kind of stuff, right?
• 42:29
  SPEAKER_00: And so it's like actually, this is just shining the light on the areas that I need can clean up real quick here while I'm in this phase, so I could feel so much better when I'm in the other two weeks of my life, that I can hit the ground running harder, that I can move out the bullshit sooner, that I don't have to like continue to like have those blocks when I when I'm feeling better, when I'm in my follicular phase and I'm ready to go and all the things.
• 42:50
  SPEAKER_00: It's like, oh, actually, if I can use that, and that's what I really did last month, is like I used that like knowledge to feel better this month.
• 42:57
  SPEAKER_00: And I'm thinking, okay, so my because I'm still stuck on my birthday and the full moon and my psycho coming in.
• 43:02
  SPEAKER_00: I was like, but I started my iron supplements.
• 43:05
  SPEAKER_00: I'm, you know, feeling my body with the right uh food.
• 43:09
  SPEAKER_00: I am already making all these shifts.
• 43:11
  SPEAKER_00: And so by the time my birthday comes around, like I might feel like a million bucks, and like that's what I'm gonna put out there, right?
• 43:16
  SPEAKER_00: Like, I'm gonna give myself the space because we're not gonna put any kind of um, you know, I'm not gonna put any expectations or like anything like that, but like also it gets to be so good too.
• 43:26
  SPEAKER_00: And so sometimes I think we can get into that like it has to be this way or it's going to be this way next, it's gonna be the it's gonna be like that next month because it was that like that this month, and like we get stuck in that.
• 43:35
  SPEAKER_00: I see that a lot with people.
• 43:36
  SPEAKER_00: It's like, oh, but just because it's like did it, it's like, well, actually, no, we can change it.
• 43:39
  SPEAKER_00: And I feel like I really was able to change it over this last like month and a half.
• 43:43
  SPEAKER_00: And so wherever you're at in your phase um and you're wanting to start shifting it, I think that could be a little good like tidbit for you to be like, Okay, well, whatever frustration is coming up.
• 43:51
  SPEAKER_00: So if it's like the house is messy and it's frustrating you, right?
• 43:54
  SPEAKER_00: Like if there's like little things that aren't getting done that are frustrating you when you're in your little phase, it's like, oh, okay, well, maybe.
• 44:00
  SPEAKER_00: These are the things that these are the areas that I need to address.
• 44:03
  SPEAKER_00: And this is where I can put my energy when I have energy, when I'm feeling a little better.
• 44:07
  SPEAKER_00: Or maybe you're just like have a little pocket of energy and you're like, I'm gonna clean out this right now.
• 44:11
  SPEAKER_00: And it's like bugging me, right?
• 44:12
  SPEAKER_00: It's like we can use the energy that we're in when we're feeling more tired in those little spaces.
• 44:17
  SPEAKER_00: And so that's what's been really helpful for me.
• 44:20
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, it's so true.
• 44:21
  SPEAKER_01: And and again, I think every single day it's about getting like just a little bit better, or like doing something for your future self, right?
• 44:28
  SPEAKER_01: Like one step better.
• 44:29
  SPEAKER_01: And that's where having a ritual, having some kind of practice, maybe you do need to scream in the car every single day.
• 44:35
  SPEAKER_01: Maybe you need to release some shit, you know?
• 44:37
  SPEAKER_01: And like that's okay.
• 44:38
  SPEAKER_01: But like coming to some kind of practice, maybe it's just a couple of deep breaths, you know, it can be so simple or it can be like really intense, whatever you're feeling.
• 44:48
  SPEAKER_01: And I think because again, it's it's having, you know, you could say this is a commitment, right?
• 44:52
  SPEAKER_01: To a devotion to yourself to shifting your energy because when you do release things, you change your frequency, you change your energy.
• 44:59
  SPEAKER_01: And of course, all the things you desire are on a different frequency.
• 45:02
  SPEAKER_01: So it's allowing yourself to raise your frequency to in order to receive what you actually desire.
• 45:08
  SPEAKER_01: And then, you know, just like you said, like you're like last month was terrible, and now I'm setting up, and before you're you're repeating all these thoughts of like next month's gonna be terrible, like you're basically putting it out there, you're gonna stay in that vibration and you're gonna obviously manifest that exact same situation happening versus improving and taking the information of oh, I need some more iron.
• 45:30
  SPEAKER_01: You're taking steps every single day.
• 45:32
  SPEAKER_01: So in hindsight, you look back and you're like, oh, that's the reason why things are working out for me, because I've taken these little steps every single day in order to feel better.
• 45:40
  SPEAKER_01: And I definitely realize that too with my cycle lately, where it's like I'm eating a lot healthier, not eating as much sugar.
• 45:46
  SPEAKER_01: I haven't been sick, which like thank God, because you know me.
• 45:50
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, and like I really think eating healthier and because of this different frequency that I'm feeling, like I'm so much more intentional with my food, with my intake.
• 46:00
  SPEAKER_01: And of course, that's everything.
• 46:01
  SPEAKER_01: That's not just food, it's it's uh supplements, it's water, it's yeah, uh, your their phone movement, things, you know, it's movement.
• 46:09
  SPEAKER_01: So it's really noticing all these things that just and again, you don't have to do everything at once, it's not an overhaul, but one thing at a time, and then looking back and being like, Oh, this is all the evidence that happened.
• 46:19
  SPEAKER_01: Because I feel like my cycle has completely shifted where I'm not as like crabby and you know, have these big mood shifts because again, I think everything's been adding up slowly.
• 46:30
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, so it just little things, little things.
• 46:33
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, yeah.
• 46:34
  SPEAKER_00: So good.
• 46:35
  SPEAKER_00: Well, this is such a good episode today, such a good topic.
• 46:40
  SPEAKER_01: Yes.
• 46:41
  SPEAKER_01: So hopefully this resonates with you and let us know what practice you're gonna try or come back to.
• 46:48
  SPEAKER_01: Um, let us know if you tried any of these practices.
• 46:51
  SPEAKER_01: We would also love to hear what you feel, or if you resonate with Desi with the sacred rage, or you resonate with me with avoiding all the feelings.
• 47:00
  SPEAKER_00: Oh man, if I didn't like have the sacred rage, I don't know where it would be.
• 47:04
  SPEAKER_00: So yeah, I'm grateful for that for sure.
• 47:06
  SPEAKER_00: Grateful, so grateful.
• 47:07
  SPEAKER_00: So um, thank you guys so much for being here.
• 47:10
  SPEAKER_00: Have a wonderful and safe Halloween.
• 47:14
  SPEAKER_00: It's on a Saturday.
• 47:15
  SPEAKER_00: I got invited to a Halloween party, and I'm so excited because fun.
• 47:18
  SPEAKER_00: Don't know the last time I got invited to like an adult party in general, so I'm very excited.
• 47:23
  SPEAKER_01: That's so fun.
• 47:24
  SPEAKER_01: We have football on Friday, and some of the friends invited us over, and I was like, we have football, so we're not gonna be able to make it.
• 47:30
  SPEAKER_01: So definitely a bummer, but we'll have fun on Saturday.
• 47:33
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, there you go.
• 47:34
  SPEAKER_00: There you go.
• 47:34
  SPEAKER_00: Okay, guys, we'll see you next week.
• 47:36
  SPEAKER_00: Bye.
• 47:37
  SPEAKER_00: Bye.