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What's Your Secret Sauce 4/7: The Answer is Not Out There--It's in You. #TRUSTYOURSELFTHURSDAY · Dr. Derek H. Suite MD - The SuiteSpot

• 0:06
  Speaker 1: All right now, welcome.
• 0:07
  Speaker 1: Welcome back to the sweet spot.
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  Speaker 1: It is trust yourself Thursday here on the sweet spot, and I am personally delighted that you're here and that you're listening and that you're joining me for yet another insightful conversation around the idea that we've been discussing, which is the secret sauce.
• 0:27
  Speaker 1: So if you haven't heard Monday's, tuesday's and, when it all, wednesday's insights around the secret sauce, well, you're missing out and I definitely want you, when you have a moment, to go back and listen, because everything is building on everything here.
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  Speaker 1: On Trust Yourself Thursday, we are now adding in the fourth ingredient into the secret sauce.
• 0:55
  Speaker 1: So I'm Dr Derek Sweet.
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  Speaker 1: I'm a board certified psychiatrist, as you know.
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  Speaker 1: I'm a high-performance coach and I'm your guide, your guide and your chef today as we think about the fourth ingredient in the secret sauce.
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  Speaker 1: So, listen, we're in the heart of this secret sauce series.
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  Speaker 1: We're deep in now and we are realizing more and more that success isn't a lucky break, it's not a viral moment.
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  Speaker 1: That's just the juice.
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  Speaker 1: The secret sauce is about that recipe for legacy.
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  Speaker 1: Every one of us has the sauce.
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  Speaker 1: We also have the juice, but we know that the juice from previous discussions.
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  Speaker 1: The juice is temporary.
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  Speaker 1: The sauce it's forever We've been breaking down what makes your flavor unique in this series.
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  Speaker 1: So far we've stirred in self-awareness, alignment and unapologetic expression.
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  Speaker 1: That's the S-A-U in the S-A-U-C-E for SAUS.
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  Speaker 1: The self-awareness is important because you can't master what you don't know.
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  Speaker 1: So that's why that's the first part of the acronym for SAUS.
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  Speaker 1: The S?
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  Speaker 1: A is alignment.
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  Speaker 1: Alignment is very important.
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  Speaker 1: We talked about that on Take Action Tuesday that your actions have to be aligned with your values for you to have integrity and to see lasting results and also to have some happiness in what you're doing.
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  Speaker 1: So the alignment is important because direction always beats speed.
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  Speaker 1: You got to have some happiness in what you're doing.
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  Speaker 1: So the alignment is important because direction always beats speed.
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  Speaker 1: You got to have a direction.
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  Speaker 1: You have to be aligned in a direction.
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  Speaker 1: It doesn't matter how fast you're going if you're going in the wrong direction or you don't know which way you're going or heading.
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  Speaker 1: And then the U in sauce is unapologetic expression, because your authenticity is what's going to amplify your message.
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  Speaker 1: And here's the truth If you don't trust your own voice, you live performing for others.
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  Speaker 1: You live performing for others.
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  Speaker 1: If you don't honor what's inside your gut, what your spidey senses are saying to you, you'll find yourself outsourcing your purpose to the loudest voice or the loudest opinion in the room.
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  Speaker 1: That's why this stuff matters.
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  Speaker 1: That's why we're having the conversation about your unapologetic expression, about you being your authentic self.
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  Speaker 1: This is Trust Yourself, thursday, and we're looking for the fourth hidden ingredient, and this fourth ingredient is intuition.
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  Speaker 1: And this fourth ingredient is intuition.
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  Speaker 1: For those of you who missed Monday, we talked about courage.
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  Speaker 1: If you missed Tuesday, we talked about alignment.
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  Speaker 1: If you missed Wednesday, we talked about resilience.
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  Speaker 1: Those were the three other ingredients.
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  Speaker 1: Today, intuition is the hidden ingredient, and your intuition isn't some soft whisper.
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  Speaker 1: That's not what I'm talking about.
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  Speaker 1: That's part of intuition.
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  Speaker 1: Intuition what I'm talking about is a guide.
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  Speaker 1: It's like an internal GPS, an internal compass that you have, an unapologetic expression of who you are always alive, always beaming and bursting inside of you, just waiting to tell you which way to go and what to do, unapologetically, but something you stifle, something you hold back, something we ignore from time to time.
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  Speaker 1: And you know, it's very important that we trust that inner voice and we let that unapologetic expression inside of us out, because when you do, your brain, the neuroscience will support you.
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  Speaker 1: There is a neuroscience that's tied into self-trust and the regions of the brain that are involved are called the ventromedial prefrontal cortex, the anterior insula and the amygdala.
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  Speaker 1: You don't have to know these.
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  Speaker 1: There is no test, there's no exam.
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  Speaker 1: I just want you to know that the way we're designed, our brain okay has these structures that work like a backstage crew, reading our emotional signals, looking at our past patterns and looking at all the subtle cues in real time, and they, if we would only check in with them, would give us information.
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  Speaker 1: We call that the gut feeling.
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  Speaker 1: I just wanted you to know which brain structures were involved in that.
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  Speaker 1: It's not magic, it's memory, experience and subconscious processing all working together.
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  Speaker 1: Why does this matter?
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  Speaker 1: Because, my friend, when you ignore intuition, your brain has to work harder.
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  Speaker 1: Your stress levels go up and the research says that your confidence will drop.
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  Speaker 1: But when you trust it, when you trust your spidey senses, when you trust your intuition, when you trust that Holy Spirit inside of you, you move smoother, you recover faster and you lead stronger.
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  Speaker 1: But you've got to trust yourself.
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  Speaker 1: That's a big, big insight.
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  Speaker 1: The bottom line is that self-trust isn't risky.
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  Speaker 1: It's actually regulated in your brain.
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  Speaker 1: Your body knows what your mind is still trying to catch up and fix and get done.
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  Speaker 1: There's a deeper wisdom inside of you.
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  Speaker 1: There's a deeper wisdom inside of you and you know that deep wisdom, that part of you that's deep inside.
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  Speaker 1: That's your sauce, that's the intuition I'm talking about.
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  Speaker 1: So many of us are so freaked out because we always look at the facts and we always look at the statistics.
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  Speaker 1: I'm not saying that that's wrong.
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  Speaker 1: That's actually kind of good to look at those things.
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  Speaker 1: But never let external circumstances and external things override your gut feeling, your intuition, because that intuition is your secret sauce.
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  Speaker 1: And there are many things in this world that will compete for your secret sauce, things in this world that will compete for your secret sauce to silence your inner sauce, to silence your intuition.
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  Speaker 1: One thing is when we overthink, when we start overthinking.
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  Speaker 1: Another thing is when we're so afraid of rejection we kind of blend in and we don't have a voice because we are so busy trying to fit in that we silence our voice.
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  Speaker 1: Sometimes we're dragging shame from an old mistake around like extra luggage and that silences us.
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  Speaker 1: We don't think we have a right to say something or speak on a topic or be seen or heard because we are living from an old mistake.
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  Speaker 1: Sometimes you so want to fit in, because you don't make mistakes and you won't stand out, that you ultimately have no voice.
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  Speaker 1: Those are the things that can silence your sauce and ruin its flavor, but the real ones, they don't need permission, they need presence.
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  Speaker 1: You know, kendrick Lamar, hip-hop music.
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  Speaker 1: Sometimes you have to go there because there's information everywhere.
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  Speaker 1: Kendrick said I can't fake humble just because your butt is insecure.
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  Speaker 1: I had to change the language.
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  Speaker 1: He didn't say butt, he said the other word All right, I can't fake humble just because you know what is insecure.
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  Speaker 1: You know how that translates.
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  Speaker 1: Don't dim just because someone else can't handle your brightness.
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  Speaker 1: Don't dim your light because somebody else is a hater, jealous or trying to tune you down.
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  Speaker 1: Don't let it happen, lauren Hill.
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  Speaker 1: She said don't be a hard rock when you're really a gem Another unapologetic expression about letting your true shine come through.
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  Speaker 1: By the way, if you haven't heard our series on the power of your shine, go find it.
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  Speaker 1: We did that a couple of months ago.
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  Speaker 1: We did a whole week on letting your light shine so powerful.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, so we're talking about intuition.
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  Speaker 1: We're talking about your authentic self.
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  Speaker 1: We're talking about listening to the deep voice within.
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  Speaker 1: We're talking about letting your brain help you trust what your body and your gut is telling you.
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  Speaker 1: And the ancient scripture oh, you know the ancient scripture is never left out.
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  Speaker 1: It is never, never left out.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, so part of trusting yourself is knowing who you are, knowing how you're made, knowing that you're fearfully and wonderfully made, as the ancient scriptures tell us.
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  Speaker 1: And in Jeremiah there's this really cool line that goes like this before I formed you in the womb, I knew you and before you were born, I set you apart.
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  Speaker 1: That means your flavor was custom made.
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  Speaker 1: My friends and your intuition is part of that divine download.
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  Speaker 1: You've been fearfully made, you've been wonderfully made.
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  Speaker 1: You're known to the most high and you've been set apart for greatness, to do great things, to do powerful things, to make a difference.
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  Speaker 1: And you've already done that.
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  Speaker 1: And sometimes we don't trust ourselves because we don't step back, reflect and meditate on all the powerful things that God has done for us and all the ways in which we've made a difference Right.
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  Speaker 1: So trusting your gut is trusting your God-given wiring.
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  Speaker 1: You were set apart.
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  Speaker 1: You're fearfully and wonderfully made.
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  Speaker 1: You're not being reckless.
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  Speaker 1: When you trust your gut, you're being real.
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  Speaker 1: You were made to be understood by everyone, just to be honest with yourself.
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  Speaker 1: That's why you were made To start with your own integrity, to love your neighbor as you love who Yourself.
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  Speaker 1: But to love something and someone, you have to trust it.
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  Speaker 1: So you have to start trusting yourself, really trusting yourself.
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  Speaker 1: So you have to start trusting yourself, really trusting yourself.
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  Speaker 1: Stop trying to be palatable, likable and everything to everyone.
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  Speaker 1: Start being powerful.
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  Speaker 1: Start saying no to certain things and to other people.
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  Speaker 1: Start speaking your mind.
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  Speaker 1: I'm not saying be rude, but be honest.
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  Speaker 1: Your sauce ain't for everybody everybody, but it's for somebody.
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  Speaker 1: Listen, when you go to the restaurant and you try certain dishes, sometimes you don't like that sauce, and that's okay.
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  Speaker 1: You can order something else.
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  Speaker 1: The sauce isn't there to please everyone so that everybody would love it.
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  Speaker 1: That's not the idea.
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  Speaker 1: Let people find you because you're the authentic source that you are.
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  Speaker 1: Let your people find you by being the fullest you, so that they don't have to be surprised that you're something else later.
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  Speaker 1: Be honest, be an unapologetic expression of who you are.
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  Speaker 1: Trust that Just being self-expressed and being honest and sharing your real self, that isn't ego.
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  Speaker 1: That's evidence of who you are, evidence that you have made peace with your purpose.
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  Speaker 1: You've made peace with yourself and you're okay.
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  Speaker 1: Imperfections and all.
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  Speaker 1: None of us is perfect.
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  Speaker 1: None of us is perfect, right?
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  Speaker 1: So the word, the ancient wisdom says let he or she, without a blemish or a problem or a challenge or a sin, throw the first stone.
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  Speaker 1: You know what?
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  Speaker 1: No one's going to pick up a stone and throw it, because everybody got something somewhere in their closet.
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  Speaker 1: So today's challenge, what's?
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  Speaker 1: One way you've been diluting your voice to make other people comfortable Were you setting yourself on fire so that somebody else can be warm?
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  Speaker 1: We're done with that.
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  Speaker 1: We're letting go of that.
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  Speaker 1: Today, speak with clarity, act with truth and express without apology.
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  Speaker 1: I'm challenging you to do that, doctor's orders.
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  Speaker 1: I'm challenging you to do that, doctor's orders, whether it's what you wear or how you show up, what you say or you don't say, stand in unapologetic expression of your truth.
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  Speaker 1: Stand in it, be confident, be authentically you, that's important.
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  Speaker 1: And then trust your intuition.
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  Speaker 1: Trust those senses insideically you, that's important.
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  Speaker 1: And then trust your intuition.
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  Speaker 1: Trust those senses inside of you.
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  Speaker 1: And the way you find that is by being silent for a moment, checking in, because when you mute your voice, you lose your way, but when you trust your truth, you unlock your power.
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  Speaker 1: That's the you in your sauce.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, now you've been listening to the Sweet Spot.
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  Speaker 1: Today's Trust Yourself Thursday, it's about intuition as your fourth ingredient.
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  Speaker 1: Tomorrow, on Finish Strong, friday, we're taking and talking about consistency how showing up day after day makes you very, very formidable to deal with.
• 15:52
  Speaker 1: How showing up every day makes you powerful.
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  Speaker 1: How showing up day after day makes your sauce unforgettable.
• 16:02
  Speaker 1: We break down the neuroscience of habit, the soulfulness of rhythm, and how one small step a day keeps your flame alive and catapults you to the finish line.
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  Speaker 1: Thank you so much for listening.
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  Speaker 1: I'm Dr Derek Sweet.
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  Speaker 1: Absolutely, follow your intuition, trust your gut and I'll see you tomorrow so we can finish strong.