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253. Stop Asking "Why Me?" · Your Enriched Self

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  Speaker 1: In nineteen seventy two, the United Negro College Fund UNCF
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  Speaker 1: adopted a slogan, a mind is a terrible thing to waste,
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  Speaker 1: and I think it's a great slogan. I want you, however,
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  Speaker 1: to think about that slogan about how many thoughts you
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  Speaker 1: are wasting in the wrong direction. A few years ago,
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  Speaker 1: I had made a post that worry is affirmation in
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  Speaker 1: the wrong direction, because you can choose to affirm yourself
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  Speaker 1: and go into a direction of elevation, or you can
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  Speaker 1: choose to worry and descend or have a low vibrational elevation.
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  Speaker 1: And I would think if you're listening to this podcast,
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  Speaker 1: or if you are just out there in the world
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  Speaker 1: trying to make best of the situation you're in, you
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  Speaker 1: would want to elevate. But it's so strange that as
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  Speaker 1: much as we want that, as much as you might
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  Speaker 1: want that, it's so easy to dig down into the
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  Speaker 1: depths of nowhere and waste your thoughts into places that
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  Speaker 1: you have no business in. It won't serve you. It
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  Speaker 1: doesn't help you dig yourself out of the hole. It
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  Speaker 1: doesn't help you realize what is ahead for you and
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  Speaker 1: what you can potentially achieve if you stay grounded in
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  Speaker 1: the notion that life is not happening to you. You're
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  Speaker 1: not a victim of life. You can be victorious, but
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  Speaker 1: it's all about shifting your mindset, not wasting your thoughts,
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  Speaker 1: and go into a season where you use what has
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  Speaker 1: happened or what is happening through you to empower you. Hello,
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  Speaker 1: my friends from all across the globe, and welcome to
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  Speaker 1: your Enriched Self podcast. I am your host, Smi le Noir.
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  Speaker 1: I am an emotional wellness and empowerment coach. And what
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  Speaker 1: that means is it's important for you to walk through
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  Speaker 1: your life, walk through your day empowered. Listen. You may
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  Speaker 1: not know everything, but you know enough to know that
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  Speaker 1: you are capable to take one step and another step,
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  Speaker 1: and that is what forward motion is. Yeah, you may
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  Speaker 1: look around in your life, in your world and you
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  Speaker 1: see people taking multiple steps ahead, or surging ahead or
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  Speaker 1: sprinting ahead. That may not be your race, It surely
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  Speaker 1: may not be your pace. But if you take it
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  Speaker 1: one step at a time, you can empower yourself from
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  Speaker 1: that moment to the next moment and so on. And
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  Speaker 1: that's what we talk about on this podcast. Listen, I
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  Speaker 1: want you to become the best version of yourself. And
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  Speaker 1: it's going to take doing this work every day so
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  Speaker 1: that you can become more of your enriched self. And
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  Speaker 1: if you are new to this podcast, if you stumble
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  Speaker 1: upon this podcast, listen, I know. I know that, I
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  Speaker 1: know that, I know that you are brought here on
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  Speaker 1: purpose for a purpose. And if you are a repeat listener,
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  Speaker 1: I want to thank you. We have been going through
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  Speaker 1: these episodes for hundreds of episodes, and you've been patient
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  Speaker 1: with me, and I appreciate that because I know that
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  Speaker 1: I wasn't perfect on this journey. But life is not
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  Speaker 1: about being perfect. It's about a journey of being perfected,
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  Speaker 1: getting better with each iteration, each version of yourself as
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  Speaker 1: the years, as the days, months, as the weeks, as
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  Speaker 1: the moments go by. Yes, that's what we do here.
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  Speaker 1: So I want to thank you because you are my
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  Speaker 1: ride or dies. You've been doing this with me from
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  Speaker 1: the start, So thank you for being here from the start. Now,
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  Speaker 1: if you know, you know, before we start the podcast,
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  Speaker 1: I want to make sure you walk into this life,
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  Speaker 1: into this day, into your situation, wealthy and abundant. And
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  Speaker 1: I do that by making a deposit into the bank
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  Speaker 1: of you. And I call that affirmations. Affirmations are a
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  Speaker 1: great way to start your day and to command your morning.
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  Speaker 1: And this week's affirmation is, I am the constant in
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  Speaker 1: my life. Every experience flows through me and shapes me
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  Speaker 1: into who I am becoming. I am the constant in
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  Speaker 1: my life. Every experience flows through me and shapes me
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  Speaker 1: into who I am becoming. I am the constant in
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  Speaker 1: my life. Every experience flows through me and shapes me
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  Speaker 1: into who I am becoming. I love being outside, I
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  Speaker 1: love nature. I love early morning what I call holy moments,
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  Speaker 1: quiet moments, moments where I get to connect. I get
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  Speaker 1: to reconnect with me, but then connect to God, connect
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  Speaker 1: to my Creator. And as I was in prayer this morning,
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  Speaker 1: I Am something came to me and it helped me
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  Speaker 1: to understand that when life is happening, it's not happening
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  Speaker 1: to me, it's happening through me. And I know that's
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  Speaker 1: a hard concept because we are so about us, and
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  Speaker 1: we are so about what's happening to us, and we
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  Speaker 1: live often with a pass that reminds us of what
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  Speaker 1: happened to us. But when you think about it, and
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  Speaker 1: that's the challenge that I have for each of you
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  Speaker 1: each week, is to really spend time in your thoughts.
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  Speaker 1: And as I was spending time in my thoughts, it
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  Speaker 1: came to me that whatever is going to happen in life,
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  Speaker 1: that's going to meet me or I'm going to meet it,
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  Speaker 1: and we're going to have this face off because you
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  Speaker 1: have these moments where you have to face off with
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  Speaker 1: the challenge the obstacle, whether it be a person, a place,
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  Speaker 1: a thing, a past right that you have to face
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  Speaker 1: off with. I say that it's not going to happen
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  Speaker 1: to me, and I say that because it's going to
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  Speaker 1: pass through. I want to have a thought that lets
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  Speaker 1: me know that if in fact I will and I
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  Speaker 1: will deal with life circumstances, that I'm not a victim.
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  Speaker 1: When we get into this mindset of it's happening to me, again,
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  Speaker 1: why is this happening to me? I want you to
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  Speaker 1: shift that into its happening through me, which means there
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  Speaker 1: is an entrance and an exit to and through what
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  Speaker 1: you're dealing with, and that lets you know, which is
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  Speaker 1: something I've said in the past to myself to help
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  Speaker 1: me get through a tough season or help someone else
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  Speaker 1: get through a tough season. This is not the end
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  Speaker 1: of your chapter. This may be or the end of
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  Speaker 1: your book. This may be a chapter, This may be
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  Speaker 1: a paragraph in your book. This may be a sentence.
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  Speaker 1: Do not let this season define you now. Challenges do
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  Speaker 1: define us because they tell us when you go through
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  Speaker 1: a season, a tough season, the way you respond that
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  Speaker 1: helps you understand how you're going to be in the
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  Speaker 1: next season. That will reflect something similar because when you
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  Speaker 1: know you can overcome something and you in fact have,
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  Speaker 1: you now have a god confidence is what I call it.
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  Speaker 1: But you now have a confidence that you can walk
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  Speaker 1: into the world with knowing that I can overcome and
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  Speaker 1: I can do hard things. It's the same confidence I
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  Speaker 1: have when I go to boot camp and I walk
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  Speaker 1: through a tough workout, a tough activity that at Glens,
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  Speaker 1: when I watch the trainer showcase how it's to be done,
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  Speaker 1: I'm thinking, there's no way I can do that. But
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  Speaker 1: that's the first thought that pops in your mind, right,
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  Speaker 1: that negative thought, that thought that I can't, I won't,
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  Speaker 1: I don't have what it takes. But then when you
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  Speaker 1: take a closer look, when you get closer, you realize
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  Speaker 1: that why not try it, why not see what I'm
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  Speaker 1: made of. That's what I tell myself, at least I
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  Speaker 1: want to know what I'm made of. Can I do this?
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  Speaker 1: And once I change my mindset again, that helps me recalibrate.
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  Speaker 1: We rethink, right, what the art of possible is for
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  Speaker 1: my life. Listen to those birds with me, Listen, this
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  Speaker 1: is what life is all about. I really want you
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  Speaker 1: to rethink how you see and how you experience life
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  Speaker 1: and the challenges that will come with it. Right. And
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  Speaker 1: doing so means you have a mindset now that says
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  Speaker 1: nothing is happening to me, it's happening through me. That
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  Speaker 1: means something came to me. It's going to enter my ecosystem, right,
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  Speaker 1: it's going to enter my thoughts. Yes, you're gonna have
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  Speaker 1: thoughts about it, You're gonna think about it, but you
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  Speaker 1: need to let that thing know without a shadow of
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  Speaker 1: a doubt. There's no room here in this space, in
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  Speaker 1: this room of my mind. I like to think of
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  Speaker 1: my mind as a room. There are certain doors that
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  Speaker 1: are open, there's certain doors that are closed. And the
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  Speaker 1: door that is open is where this situation, this circumstance,
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  Speaker 1: this challenge is going to march in and you're going
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  Speaker 1: to give it an exit to march out, and it
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  Speaker 1: may not happen overnight. Sometimes we sit with these things.
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  Speaker 1: But I want you to realize and recognize and be
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  Speaker 1: very very strong in your thought that it will not
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  Speaker 1: take residence there. This is where a lot of us,
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  Speaker 1: a lot of you, fall into victimhood. You allow this
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  Speaker 1: thing that you're dealing with, this person, the situation, to
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  Speaker 1: now take full time residence in your mind, in the
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  Speaker 1: rooms of your mind, in the real estate of your mind.
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  Speaker 1: You know how people say, this lives in my head
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  Speaker 1: rent free. You let that thing, that person, that situation
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  Speaker 1: live in your mind rent free. They're not even paying
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  Speaker 1: to be there. They're actually taxing you and leaving you mentally,
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  Speaker 1: sometimes spiritually, physically bankrupt. You cannot afford that. What you
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  Speaker 1: can afford and what you should focus on is movement
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  Speaker 1: through the process. I know it's hard. I've been in
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  Speaker 1: hard seasons as you have been. Let's draw from that
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  Speaker 1: hard season. Let's build a way for that thing to
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  Speaker 1: exit and not take residence. Let's be intentional about how
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  Speaker 1: we show up and when we show up and what
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  Speaker 1: we show up doing. This is why I always say
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  Speaker 1: movement matters. It's so important to keep moving, not just
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  Speaker 1: moving your thought, moving your body. I make it a
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  Speaker 1: point every day to move and I tell you what,
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  Speaker 1: the last few weeks has been very difficult because of
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  Speaker 1: just work and life and trying to rebuild a balance
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  Speaker 1: and get the balance steady again. And that happens right
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  Speaker 1: when everything is happening and you're trying to get your
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  Speaker 1: balance back, and sometimes it's challenging to get that intentional movement.
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  Speaker 1: I mean, of course I'm moving around, but for me,
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  Speaker 1: it's working out, it's taking a high upstone mountain, it's
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  Speaker 1: doing the things that bring me joy. And we need
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  Speaker 1: to find joy in our lives. You know, people talk
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  Speaker 1: about generational wealth. I love generational joy, and it starts
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  Speaker 1: with you. It starts with your every day. It starts
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  Speaker 1: with your every thought, it starts with your every action,
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  Speaker 1: your every movement. Generational joy is something that you can
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  Speaker 1: continue to deposit into your life. And if you haven't
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  Speaker 1: started a generational Joy account, I encourage you to create
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  Speaker 1: one and all you do to create one. I don't
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  Speaker 1: need your email, I don't need your password, I don't
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  Speaker 1: need anything from you. I need you to be intentional
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  Speaker 1: to say that I'm going to be intentional every day
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  Speaker 1: to look for joy, to look for moments of joy
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  Speaker 1: and deposit that into my generational account. I'll tell you this,
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  Speaker 1: when you start looking for something, you'll find it. You'll
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  Speaker 1: find it. I remember when I was looking for a
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  Speaker 1: vehicle last summer. My car had broke down on me
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  Speaker 1: and to go buy another car, and I had found
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  Speaker 1: a car was interested in. And it's so interesting. Soon
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  Speaker 1: as I found the car, the color everything, I started
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  Speaker 1: seeing that car multiple times because I had been looking
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  Speaker 1: for a car. And so I know we've all been
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  Speaker 1: there where you're looking for something, or you intentionally want
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  Speaker 1: to find something, and then you continuously see it and
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  Speaker 1: it shows up in places that you didn't even think
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  Speaker 1: it was. And so I need you to start looking
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  Speaker 1: for joy. That joy is going to help you in
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  Speaker 1: the seasons when you that joy account is going to
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  Speaker 1: help you in the seasons when you are going through
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  Speaker 1: something and you realize that it does it's not happening
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  Speaker 1: to you, it's happening through you. And oh, by the way,
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  Speaker 1: I have joy at the end of that line. I
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  Speaker 1: have to I have joy at the end of that tunnel,
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  Speaker 1: that pathway. It's the light that is at the end
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  Speaker 1: of that tunnel, at the end of that road. At
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  Speaker 1: the end of that season. That's what you need when
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  Speaker 1: you come out. Remember, we need an We know the entrance, right,
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  Speaker 1: it is a situation, but we know the exit. We
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  Speaker 1: need to have joy on the other side. There's a
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  Speaker 1: scripture that says joy comes in the morning. Yeah, that's
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  Speaker 1: your morning, that's your sunrise, your sunlight. When you get
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  Speaker 1: to the other side, when you realize that this didn't
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  Speaker 1: happen to you, it happened through you, And happening through
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  Speaker 1: you simply means that there is something that you were
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  Speaker 1: supposed to learn. There was something you were supposed to
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  Speaker 1: live through to help you live through the next season.
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  Speaker 1: And perhaps because I believe that we were brought here
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  Speaker 1: to serve others, you going through that season is now
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  Speaker 1: going to help you serve the next person. See, that
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  Speaker 1: season was a season where you were able to bring
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  Speaker 1: forward some fruit, and that fruit now can feed others. So, yes,
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  Speaker 1: what happened through you didn't happen to you, and what
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  Speaker 1: happened through you was intended to do a bigger thing,
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  Speaker 1: a larger thing, something you could not even imagine. But
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  Speaker 1: the way it will serve generationally the people around you,
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  Speaker 1: the people in your inner circle, the people that are
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  Speaker 1: watching you in the outer circle, your family, your friends,
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  Speaker 1: your community. Your experience was not in vain. One thing
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  Speaker 1: I know about God, he wastes nothing. You can look
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  Speaker 1: at every type of story in the Bible and every
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  Speaker 1: experience was not wasted. Every experience was meant for a reason.
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  Speaker 1: There's some powerful stories in the Bible. But one that
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  Speaker 1: comes to mind is a story about two sisters, Rachel
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  Speaker 1: and Leah, and one of the and Leah was rejected
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  Speaker 1: because she was not seen to be a beautiful sister,
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  Speaker 1: and God opened her womb. She couldn't have children, and
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  Speaker 1: God opened her womb to her husband and through this
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  Speaker 1: woman was a son named Judah. And that is the
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  Speaker 1: lineage of Jesus himself. So that's how intentional God is.
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  Speaker 1: When we think that our story, our situation is not important,
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  Speaker 1: think about your own story. The thing you went through
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  Speaker 1: was intended for you to serve. And it may not
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  Speaker 1: be the season right after, it may not be the
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  Speaker 1: hour after, it may be years later that you're like, wow,
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  Speaker 1: I went through that, and now I can share that
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  Speaker 1: in this space right now. So that's why I know,
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  Speaker 1: and I know you know deep down that your story
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  Speaker 1: is not in vain. It is not wasted. And so
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  Speaker 1: as those things are going through you, remember those things
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  Speaker 1: are there to serve the next the next person, the
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  Speaker 1: next family member, the next coworker. It shall be used
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  Speaker 1: for the good. I'm excited for this revelation and I
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  Speaker 1: want you to think through your day, your moments where
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  Speaker 1: you want to fall into the space of victimhood, that
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  Speaker 1: the this is happening to you, and I want you
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  Speaker 1: to recognize that, in fact, it is happening through you.
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  Speaker 1: And then at the other side is your joy bank
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  Speaker 1: you get to deposit, and maybe perhaps you need to
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  Speaker 1: take a withdrawal because some of those seasons are certainly
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  Speaker 1: very taxing. But if you continue looking for joy every day,
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  Speaker 1: every moment, then you'll find it, and you make those deposits,
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  Speaker 1: you'll walk through this life even in your toughest season, abundant.
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