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Stop Racing, Start Reseting: The Tiny Rituals That Prevent ADHD Burnout | 025 · Quick Wins for ADHD Moms - Short Episodes, Real Solutions for Burnout and Overwhelm

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  SPEAKER_00: Well, Kaylee, we are so excited about having you on the podcast again.
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  SPEAKER_00: We just love having you and all your thoughts and your quick tips and your lived experience.
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  SPEAKER_00: So we appreciate you on the show again today.
• 0:11
  SPEAKER_01: Oh, thanks so much.
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  SPEAKER_01: I know I'm you get you can't get rid of me, honestly.
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  SPEAKER_01: Like it's it's been a lot of fun.
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  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
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  unknown: Yeah.
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  SPEAKER_01: But there is so many, there are so many things.
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  SPEAKER_01: I mean, ADHD is hard.
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  SPEAKER_01: It's so hard.
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  SPEAKER_01: And having been through it as, you know, a young person, an older woman getting diagnosed, a physician with kids, like we see it everywhere, obviously.
• 0:32
  SPEAKER_01: And it's nice, it's nice to have some things that I can share that might be helpful to others.
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  SPEAKER_00: Just because I think we live in our brain so much and so much of our life trying to like process all of these things.
• 0:44
  SPEAKER_00: And I don't know that we realize like there's a whole community out there of other women and moms who are like are discovering this.
• 0:53
  SPEAKER_00: And so it's nice for them to be able to have something to listen to and go, okay, that makes sense now.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm not alone on that.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
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  SPEAKER_00: Absolutely.
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  SPEAKER_00: All right.
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  SPEAKER_00: Well, before we dive into the rest of the show, um, and I'm excited what we're talking about because we kind of talked about this a little bit before.
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  SPEAKER_00: The well, I'll let you just introduce the quick win for today.
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  SPEAKER_01: Sure, absolutely.
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  SPEAKER_01: So one of the sort of domains that is impacted by um ADHD certainly is the stress tolerance, right?
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  SPEAKER_01: That emotional um buffer zone that we don't have ours isn't as big usually as everyone else.
• 1:29
  SPEAKER_01: And I find it really unfortunate.
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  SPEAKER_01: I I've noticed certainly that the trend is, you know, on social media, we see this for kids all the time, right?
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  SPEAKER_01: Like your kid goes to school and they keep it together at school and then they come home and they totally break down, right?
• 1:42
  SPEAKER_01: And how to manage that.
• 1:43
  SPEAKER_01: We see that, but that happens to adults too.
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  SPEAKER_01: That happens to us too, but no one talks about it in the same way, right?
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  SPEAKER_01: And so when we're keeping it together all day, and then we come home and we're afraid and we snap and we snap at our kids, we snap at our partners, whatever it may be, and that makes us feel guilty, and then it just compounds.
• 2:05
  SPEAKER_01: And it's this big sort of circle of H-E-Double hockey sticks.
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  SPEAKER_01: Um, but one of the things that I found to be so helpful for me, and again, it's it's not gonna work for everybody, and you're gonna have to find your own method.
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  SPEAKER_01: But I try very hard to build in what I call transition buffers.
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  SPEAKER_01: So if I've just finished a really hard day at work, like I've had a really emotionally exhausting day in the ER, or I've had a really mentally grueling day in the office, whatever it might be, to build in some time before I move on to the next high stress task.
• 2:44
  SPEAKER_01: And picking up my kids from school and having my kids, like that is by definition, like that's a high stress job, right?
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  SPEAKER_01: You're constantly worried about them.
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  SPEAKER_01: You got to feed them, you got to keep them alive.
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  SPEAKER_01: They're death and dismemberment magnets, right?
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  SPEAKER_01: Like it's it's a full-time chaotic.
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  SPEAKER_00: Mom, watch this, watch this, look at me.
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  SPEAKER_00: Get off.
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  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
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  SPEAKER_01: And they're constantly, you know, trying to grab your attention, you're trying to cook dinner, and they're both talking to you on both sides.
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  SPEAKER_01: And and it's hard and to not snap and be like, I just stop for a second.
• 3:12
  SPEAKER_01: Like, I need to, I'm cooking dinner.
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  SPEAKER_01: I can't.
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  SPEAKER_01: I can't right now, right?
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  SPEAKER_01: That's it's so hard.
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  SPEAKER_01: So my transition buffer probably looks different to somebody else's transition buffer.
• 3:22
  SPEAKER_01: And the easiest one, the easiest one is to take 10 minutes in your car, right?
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  SPEAKER_01: When you get home, is to take that time and just decompress before you walk into your next and not be on your phone.
• 3:34
  SPEAKER_01: And not be on your phone, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Like just if maybe you're just a sleeping.
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  SPEAKER_01: Or just or just two minutes, like whatever it might be, right?
• 3:43
  SPEAKER_01: Um, I find that for some reason for me, I need to be horizontal.
• 3:47
  SPEAKER_01: Like that's my like I carry a lot of my stress in my shoulders and my neck.
• 3:51
  SPEAKER_01: And if I just like and sometimes like I'll just lay down on the floor, right?
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  SPEAKER_01: Like sometimes I just need to lay down so that I can get rid of some of the physical stress.
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  SPEAKER_01: And if I don't have the time, I find that that works for me because if I don't have the time to spend five minutes in the car because I'm, you know, I'm going to pick up my kids from work at school and I don't have that moment.
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  SPEAKER_01: When I get home with them, I'll just lay down on the floor and play with them on the floor.
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  SPEAKER_01: And just being physically decompressed helps me to mentally decompress.
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  SPEAKER_01: Or giving myself that space before I start cooking dinner.
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  SPEAKER_01: Do I have to start cooking dinner right this minute, or can I spend five minutes with them with just that on my mind before I move on?
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  SPEAKER_01: Um, and even, I mean, even the other day, actually, um, when I was brainstorming some of my quick wins that I wanted to talk about, I remember I just I went, I went, I had five minutes before I had to go pick my kids up.
• 4:45
  SPEAKER_01: And so I just lay down on the couch and I was doing some of that because it was interesting for me.
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  SPEAKER_01: It was engaging.
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  SPEAKER_01: I liked that work.
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  SPEAKER_01: And it was a low stress thing that I could be doing to sort of reset, right?
• 4:57
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, that's fantastic.
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  SPEAKER_00: Cause I think thinking ahead of time about what those things are is really helpful because in the moment you're overwhelmed and stressed, and there's there's no thinking left, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: And so if you think ahead of time, those decompression moments and then build those in, and it's not gonna happen overnight.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, but getting used to build building in those decompression moments is really important.
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  SPEAKER_01: And I remember they talked a lot about it actually in medical school, even for people who don't have ADHD, is when you go from one emotionally charged room and you're about to knock on the next door to see the next patient.
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  SPEAKER_01: If you take even five seconds, right?
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  SPEAKER_01: Big breath in, big breath out, because you're still carrying what you just dealt with in room number one.
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  SPEAKER_01: So take five seconds before you knock on the next door, right?
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  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then go.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 5:51
  SPEAKER_00: Wow, that is really interesting from because you you work in the ER, you're in labor delivery, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: And so that's crazy high stress situation.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then you come home to kids, and so I can see that like all of this high stress builds up.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so um, one of the things you mentioned was just laying flat on the floor.
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  SPEAKER_00: I love that.
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  SPEAKER_00: There's something about like laying flat and just let letting the stress like just go out of your fingertips and just go out of your toes, and just like imagine it, visualize it, just leaving your body and sinking into the floor.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I actually did that um a couple days ago.
• 6:29
  SPEAKER_00: The cat was laying on the floor in the sunshine, and I was like, that's a good idea.
• 6:34
  SPEAKER_00: I'm gonna go lay by the cat and yeah, just go lay in the sunshine.
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  SPEAKER_01: Right, just for a few minutes.
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  SPEAKER_01: And and even just having those few minutes really can.
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  SPEAKER_01: And I honestly I kind of laugh a little bit at the you know, sort of refill your bucket, but it they really can.
• 6:49
  SPEAKER_01: It can refill your bucket, right?
• 6:51
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, oh, it's so true.
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  SPEAKER_01: My daughter is yes, with especially with young kids.
• 6:55
  SPEAKER_01: My daughter is is three, my my son is six.
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  SPEAKER_01: Um I find that I can still be productive when I'm laying on the floor because she'll just use me as a jungle gym.
• 7:02
  SPEAKER_01: Cool.
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  SPEAKER_01: I'm laying on the floor and I'm still engaged with them too, right?
• 7:05
  SPEAKER_01: So it it works, like it's kind of a win-win.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know, I can't sit and play like those moments.
• 7:10
  SPEAKER_00: As long as they're not like beating you up and you're like Right, yeah.
• 7:14
  SPEAKER_00: And I broke a rib.
• 7:16
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
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  SPEAKER_01: Yes.
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  SPEAKER_01: As long as we avoid those moments.
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  SPEAKER_01: But absolutely.
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  SPEAKER_01: And so it and again, so it might not be laying on the floor, like maybe that's not your jam.
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  SPEAKER_01: Um, but there's probably something that you could do to decompress in another way.
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  SPEAKER_01: And you might, it might take some experimentation, but being able to take those moments to really get rid of all your bad juju, we'll call it bad juju, before you have to be in that next high stress environment, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
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  SPEAKER_00: So when you, you know, coming from a clinical standpoint, how do you you let that go?
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  SPEAKER_00: And and you're not, I mean, the you care about your patients, but it's not like a relationship where you see every day and you come back to that same stress, right?
• 7:59
  SPEAKER_00: So is would that be different than working with patients compared to coming home and being in the uh same stressful situation at home that keeps coming up?
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  SPEAKER_00: You know, does that make sense?
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  SPEAKER_00: So, like, if how do you manage stress that's kind of the same stress compared to, well, let's it's a patient, I can let that go.
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  SPEAKER_00: Whereas like these are my kids.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like I bring my stress with me, but I can't get rid of this.
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  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, it's it's absolutely different.
• 8:27
  SPEAKER_01: Of course, it's way different.
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  SPEAKER_01: It's way harder at home.
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  SPEAKER_01: And I and I mean again, they say that we talk about this with kids with ADHD all the time.
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  SPEAKER_01: And actually, kids without kids in general, they're going to be better behaved in other environments and then they come home and they melt down because that's their safe spot, right?
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  SPEAKER_01: They are safe to not be all put together all the time.
• 8:51
  SPEAKER_01: So if your kids are losing their crap around you, that's actually that's good because that means that they are emotionally secure and that they feel safe with you.
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  SPEAKER_01: That's a good thing, right?
• 9:00
  SPEAKER_01: But you flip that and you can't be that way with your kids.
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  SPEAKER_01: Like it doesn't work both ways.
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  SPEAKER_01: I can't come home and melt down because my kids don't understand that.
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  SPEAKER_01: Oh, it's okay that mommy's melting down because I'm her safe space.
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  SPEAKER_01: Like you can't, I can't do that to them.
• 9:19
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
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  SPEAKER_01: So so it is, it is monumentally more difficult, especially as a parent.
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  SPEAKER_01: So you can keep it together at work because it's not it's not as hard.
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  SPEAKER_01: And you can sort of detach yourself a little bit clinically from that situation, to then being at home.
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  SPEAKER_01: And and all of the things that irritate you a hundred times a day, you're gonna have them again, a hundred times again today, right?
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  SPEAKER_01: And and so it's the same things.
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  SPEAKER_01: So you can't get a break from that.
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  SPEAKER_01: So it is, it is much more difficult.
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  SPEAKER_01: Um, and I think for me, I don't, it's not so much a decompression technique.
• 9:51
  SPEAKER_01: Well, maybe it is, but is again to just it just to not take it seriously, right?
• 9:57
  SPEAKER_01: Is to change stress to playfulness as much as you can.
• 10:02
  SPEAKER_01: Oh, I like that.
• 10:03
  SPEAKER_00: Change stress to playfulness.
• 10:05
  SPEAKER_00: Oh, that's brilliant.
• 10:06
  SPEAKER_00: Right.
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  SPEAKER_01: So so if something is is irritating me and they're whining, you know, and my husband does this all the time, he'd be like, oh, that was that was good.
• 10:14
  SPEAKER_01: Okay, my turn, my turn.
• 10:16
  SPEAKER_01: Mommy.
• 10:17
  SPEAKER_01: Right.
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  SPEAKER_01: And so we'll make it sort of we'll we'll take turns whining.
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  SPEAKER_01: And then it becomes something that's funny instead of something that is irritating.
• 10:26
  SPEAKER_01: Right.
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  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
• 10:27
  SPEAKER_00: And your kids get to see, like, oh, that's kind of weird that dad's doing that.
• 10:32
  SPEAKER_00: That is kind of okay.
• 10:33
  SPEAKER_00: Maybe I shouldn't be whining about that.
• 10:36
  SPEAKER_00: Right.
• 10:37
  SPEAKER_00: So Yeah.
• 10:38
  SPEAKER_00: Making it very playable.
• 10:41
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, it's an i mean easier said than done, right?
• 10:43
  SPEAKER_01: But if you can, um, you know.
• 10:45
  SPEAKER_01: And I remember uh there was what so I can't take credit for this.
• 10:49
  SPEAKER_01: I was watching something on Instagram, um, where she pretended like there was a moose in her house because her kid was making this like sort of grumpy whining noise.
• 10:58
  SPEAKER_01: And she was going, Oh, do you do you hear that?
• 11:01
  SPEAKER_01: I think, I think I heard a moose.
• 11:03
  SPEAKER_01: There's a moose in the house.
• 11:04
  SPEAKER_01: And that was how she sort of took that whiny moment and made it playful, right?
• 11:09
  SPEAKER_01: And I thought that was just brilliant.
• 11:12
  SPEAKER_00: And the kid is probably like, What?
• 11:14
  SPEAKER_00: What?
• 11:15
  SPEAKER_00: I I don't hear it.
• 11:17
  SPEAKER_01: Right.
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  SPEAKER_01: And then they and then they get caught up in the game.
• 11:19
  SPEAKER_01: And and it completely changes the dynamic.
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  SPEAKER_01: So you can really diffuse stress with play.
• 11:25
  SPEAKER_01: Like that's huge in our household, is we try to diffuse bad situations with distraction, right?
• 11:31
  SPEAKER_01: Like, and that's something that I think a lot of people do.
• 11:34
  SPEAKER_01: And instead of this dangerous thing that we're doing right now, like, why don't we go do this?
• 11:37
  SPEAKER_01: And then, especially with kids who have ADHD as well, when they want to do something dangerous, they hear all the time so many times more than kids without ADHD.
• 11:48
  SPEAKER_01: Like it's an absurd amount, like it was like 30,000 times more a year or something absurd.
• 11:52
  SPEAKER_01: They hear the word no.
• 11:53
  SPEAKER_01: So instead of saying, no, you can't climb that, be like, that is a great idea.
• 11:58
  SPEAKER_01: It would be super fun to climb that.
• 12:00
  SPEAKER_01: But instead of doing that, why don't we go over here and climb this?
• 12:02
  SPEAKER_01: Let's see how fast you can climb that.
• 12:04
  SPEAKER_01: Right.
• 12:04
  SPEAKER_01: So redirecting that, and you can do that for yourself too, right?
• 12:08
  SPEAKER_01: If you're in a stressful situation, redirecting whatever it is, that input that you're getting that is stressing you out, change it, change the narrative, right?
• 12:18
  SPEAKER_01: Again, easier said than done.
• 12:20
  SPEAKER_00: Right.
• 12:21
  SPEAKER_00: And I think I think that's where learning, learning scripts to memorize and to say so that when you are in that situation, it's it just kind of flows out.
• 12:33
  SPEAKER_00: Um, a lot of that is like mindset, like a mindset shift.
• 12:36
  SPEAKER_00: Um, and eventually you do get better, like when you practice it and you practice those scripts and changing the focus and input to something else.
• 12:45
  SPEAKER_00: Um, you do get better at it.
• 12:47
  SPEAKER_00: And it takes practice, and we're not going to be good right away.
• 12:50
  SPEAKER_00: Like we're we're learning.
• 12:52
  SPEAKER_01: And you're allowed to have moments where you're stressed and where you snap.
• 12:56
  SPEAKER_01: Like as long as you come back to repairing, right?
• 12:59
  SPEAKER_01: And recovery and don't just sweep it under the rug.
• 13:02
  SPEAKER_01: So I know that that is particularly harmful for kids, especially if they're in a high stress situation, and then we ignore it and pretend like nothing happened.
• 13:09
  SPEAKER_01: It was distressing for them, it was upsetting for them, but they're learning from you that it's not a big deal, it's not important, we don't have to talk about it.
• 13:15
  SPEAKER_01: Right.
• 13:15
  SPEAKER_00: We don't know, we're just yeah.
• 13:18
  SPEAKER_01: Oh, that didn't happen, we'll just ignore it.
• 13:20
  SPEAKER_01: But if you if you snap, it's okay.
• 13:22
  SPEAKER_01: You say, Oh my gosh, I'm so you know what?
• 13:24
  SPEAKER_01: Man, mommy's in a bad mood.
• 13:26
  SPEAKER_01: I'm so sorry.
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  SPEAKER_01: Right.
• 13:28
  SPEAKER_01: Oof.
• 13:29
  SPEAKER_01: Right.
• 13:29
  SPEAKER_01: And and talking about it and saying, Yeah, that that didn't feel very good for me.
• 13:32
  SPEAKER_01: Did it feel very good for you?
• 13:34
  SPEAKER_01: No.
• 13:34
  SPEAKER_01: No.
• 13:35
  SPEAKER_01: We should maybe we should maybe go do something that feels more good, right?
• 13:38
  SPEAKER_01: So yeah, yeah.
• 13:40
  SPEAKER_00: And they I've I know I've done that to my kids because I you you just lose it and you're just like, oh I'm so sorry.
• 13:49
  SPEAKER_00: And just that moment of just that exhale moment with your kids teaches them that nobody's perfect.
• 13:59
  SPEAKER_00: We're not trying to be perfect all the time, we're gonna mess up, it's okay.
• 14:04
  SPEAKER_00: Um, that does relieve a lot of stress because I think stress is also like we have to be perfect all the time.
• 14:10
  SPEAKER_00: Everything has to be perfect and it has to run this way and it has to be like this.
• 14:13
  SPEAKER_00: And if we take that layer off, it it does take a lot of the stress.
• 14:19
  SPEAKER_01: Absolutely.
• 14:19
  SPEAKER_01: I was literally just thinking that too.
• 14:21
  SPEAKER_01: I was like, yeah, like that, even knowing that you don't have to worry about not snapping, it will also make it easier to not snap.
• 14:29
  unknown: Right?
• 14:30
  SPEAKER_01: Because you're not gonna be on edge and trying to hold it in all the time.
• 14:33
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 14:34
  SPEAKER_00: And I think we don't know that we're building, I think we we build up and build up and build up and not realize I don't because I do a lot of coaching with different clients, and uh there's a lot of people who don't realize I have no fun in my life anymore.
• 14:51
  SPEAKER_00: I'm doing everything for everyone else.
• 14:54
  SPEAKER_00: Like I have no joy moments.
• 14:57
  SPEAKER_00: And so it it's all right, well, what do you like?
• 15:01
  SPEAKER_00: What does bring you joy?
• 15:02
  SPEAKER_00: And it's like I don't know.
• 15:05
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, do you even remember it, right?
• 15:07
  SPEAKER_01: That's one of the big questions.
• 15:08
  SPEAKER_01: I don't remember what I used to like even before I had kids and and and I've given up everything, you know?
• 15:14
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, I think taking a few minutes to what what does bring you joy?
• 15:20
  SPEAKER_00: And it doesn't have to be something people will say, well, you know, I used to I used to play volleyball or I used to go skiing, but now like my knees just aren't the way they used to be.
• 15:32
  SPEAKER_00: And so maybe I don't have joy anymore, you know, because that's what I used to do, and now I can't do it anymore.
• 15:38
  SPEAKER_00: And I think it's that yeah, but what did you like about skiing?
• 15:43
  SPEAKER_00: Was it being outside?
• 15:45
  SPEAKER_00: Was it the movement?
• 15:47
  SPEAKER_00: And so, and you don't have a lot of time as parents, you know, you can't take a day and go skiing every every day, every few days.
• 15:54
  SPEAKER_00: So what are those little micro things that you can do that that brings joy to you again?
• 16:01
  SPEAKER_00: And those type of things does lower stress.
• 16:06
  SPEAKER_01: Mm-hmm.
• 16:06
  unknown: Absolutely.
• 16:07
  SPEAKER_00: And even asking your kids that too.
• 16:09
  SPEAKER_00: You know, asking your kids what what brings you joy?
• 16:12
  SPEAKER_00: What do you enjoy doing?
• 16:13
  SPEAKER_00: And how can you build that into their days as well?
• 16:18
  SPEAKER_01: Absolutely, yeah.
• 16:19
  SPEAKER_01: And anything that you can do really to bring that stress level down, um, even if it is just for, like you said, a micro moment, even if it's just for a very, really small period of time.
• 16:28
  SPEAKER_01: If it's laying on the floor, it's laying on the floor, whatever it is, right?
• 16:31
  SPEAKER_00: It does wonders.
• 16:32
  SPEAKER_00: It really does wonders.
• 16:34
  SPEAKER_00: One of uh one of my very good friends, her, she was just like overstimulated stress, and she's like, I just dropped to my kitchen floor.
• 16:42
  SPEAKER_00: And the kids were like, Dad, mom's on the floor, you know, and it's like just need a moment, and it's nice, it's okay to do that in front of your kids and just say, I need a moment.
• 16:53
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, absolutely.
• 16:55
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, mommy just wanted to be on the floor for a minute.
• 16:57
  SPEAKER_01: Is that okay?
• 16:58
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
• 16:59
  SPEAKER_00: Come join me.
• 17:00
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, absolutely.
• 17:02
  SPEAKER_00: Grab a broom when you're done.
• 17:03
  SPEAKER_00: You can sweep the floor when you're done.
• 17:05
  SPEAKER_00: Because there's a lot of crumbs down here.
• 17:08
  unknown: Right.
• 17:09
  SPEAKER_01: You're like, oh, this is just one more thing I need to deal with.
• 17:12
  SPEAKER_01: Okay, I'm gonna pretend I didn't see that.
• 17:14
  SPEAKER_00: Wipe my back off as I get up.
• 17:16
  SPEAKER_00: Uh yeah.
• 17:18
  SPEAKER_00: Awesome.
• 17:18
  SPEAKER_01: Like, there's nowhere that I can lay down without laying on Lego.
• 17:22
  SPEAKER_00: Oh, Legos hurt so bad.
• 17:24
  SPEAKER_00: They are so hard to pick up.
• 17:26
  SPEAKER_00: Well, Kaylee, thank you so much for being on the show today.
• 17:29
  SPEAKER_00: Before we leave, can you just recap your quick win for today?
• 17:34
  SPEAKER_01: Yes, absolutely.
• 17:35
  SPEAKER_01: It is all about stress tolerance, which everyone will struggle with at some point, but particularly with ADHD because we carry so much more.
• 17:43
  SPEAKER_01: And building in what I call transition buffers.
• 17:46
  SPEAKER_01: So if you know that you're going from one task that takes a lot out of you to another task that's going to take a lot out of you, building in whatever amount of time you have to refill your bucket.
• 17:58
  SPEAKER_01: And I I hate, I hate that cliche, but it really does work, right?
• 18:02
  SPEAKER_01: It's a good visual.
• 18:03
  SPEAKER_01: It's a good visual.
• 18:04
  SPEAKER_01: It is.
• 18:05
  SPEAKER_01: It is.
• 18:05
  SPEAKER_01: So you find something to help you decompress.
• 18:08
  SPEAKER_01: For me, it is being horizontal.
• 18:10
  SPEAKER_01: Sometimes that's on the floor, and just letting all of the stress leave.
• 18:14
  SPEAKER_01: And sometimes I'm there for two minutes, sometimes I'm there for 10.
• 18:18
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
• 18:18
  SPEAKER_01: But, you know, just take that moment, reset, and then find yourself a little bit better moving into the next, the next item on your list.
• 18:28
  SPEAKER_00: That's wonderful.
• 18:29
  SPEAKER_00: Thank you so much.
• 18:30
  SPEAKER_00: Appreciate you being on the show today.
• 18:32
  SPEAKER_01: Of course.
• 18:33
  SPEAKER_01: It was my pleasure.
• 18:34
  SPEAKER_01: Thanks again for having me.
• 18:35
  SPEAKER_00: Absolutely.
• 18:36
  SPEAKER_00: Well, thanks again for joining us on Quick Wins for ADHD moms.
• 18:40
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• 18:43
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• 18:45
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• 18:45
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• 18:47
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• 18:48
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• 18:53
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• 18:57
  SPEAKER_00: You can email me directly, Jessica at theadhdmom.com.
• 19:01
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• 19:06
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• 19:14
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• 19:19
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• 19:22
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• 19:25
  SPEAKER_00: So until next time, have a great week.