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265. Can Sex Ever Be "Just Sex"? · She Rises with Ashy & Tijana

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  Speaker 1: Apodge Production. Welcome to the shep Risers Podcast. I'm Ashy
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  Speaker 1: and I'm Tiana. This podcast is about female empowerment.
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  Speaker 2: And encouraging you to be your biggest, boldest, and most
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  Speaker 2: authentic version of yourself.
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  Speaker 1: We help you shed the shame, grow to a new level.
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  Speaker 1: We're gonna laugh, cry, and talk about the topics everyone
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  Speaker 1: else is too afraid to talk about.
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  Speaker 3: Get ready for your next level of self.
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  Speaker 1: We're now discussing the rules and how you want to
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  Speaker 1: be and what feels good for you, but then also
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  Speaker 1: your values, yes, and when your body feels safe. I'll
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  Speaker 1: let you elaborate more. But it's such a cool conversation
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  Speaker 1: because I can really see both sides of it now.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, So it was a really interesting conversation to have
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  Speaker 2: because I really notice these rules and things that I
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  Speaker 2: have on myself and just from conditioning as well, I'm like, oh, okay,
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  Speaker 2: I'm allowed to do this.
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  Speaker 3: I'm not allowed to do this. I shouldn't want that,
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  Speaker 3: you know.
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  Speaker 2: And now I'm in just like a beautiful place now
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  Speaker 2: that I'm single as well, where I'm like, okay, would
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  Speaker 2: I want to explore having somebody that I get to
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  Speaker 2: spend time with and be into my with and all
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  Speaker 2: those things. But then when we had a conversation about
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  Speaker 2: it and you were like, do you want to fuck buddy?
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  Speaker 2: I was like, to be honest, I don't really like
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  Speaker 2: for me personally, I need to connect with somebody. I
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  Speaker 2: need the emotional connection, I need the intellectual stimulation. I
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  Speaker 2: need all of those things. And I've had a one
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  Speaker 2: night stand once in my life. I was probably fresh eighteen,
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  Speaker 2: and I never did it again. It just didn't feel
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  Speaker 2: good for me, you know. But no judgment to anybody
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  Speaker 2: who does it. If that feels good for you and
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  Speaker 2: that's how you get pleasure, fucking go for your life.
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  Speaker 2: I love that for you. But for me, and even
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  Speaker 2: now in this season in my life, I'm like, ooh,
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  Speaker 2: is that something that I would want to explore?
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  Speaker 3: You know, It's cool.
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  Speaker 1: I just asked you that question the other day too.
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  Speaker 1: I was like, you said, you know, when I was younger,
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  Speaker 1: it had that experience. I said, when you're younger, it
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  Speaker 1: was a hard no. After that, Yeah, does it look
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  Speaker 1: different now as a twenty seven year old woman. I
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  Speaker 1: think you'd come to the conclusion that it doesn't because
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  Speaker 1: you still requiet that connection.
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  Speaker 2: I feel like it still is the same for me,
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  Speaker 2: because like what you were talking about with the value
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  Speaker 2: side of things, it's like, well, for me, I value connection,
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  Speaker 2: and I value intimacy, and I value being with one person.
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  Speaker 2: So for me, I'm like, well, I wouldn't feel good
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  Speaker 2: wanting to go bounce like you know, from different person
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  Speaker 2: or have a fuck buddy or something like that. Again,
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  Speaker 2: not saying that it's wrong, I just forgot. It's just
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  Speaker 2: for you, Yeah, get emotionally attached, and that's what you're
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  Speaker 2: talking about. Like you're like, okay, so how do you
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  Speaker 2: do this?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, what if one person starts like in the other
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  Speaker 1: and the other doesn't, Yeah, cut that off and yeah,
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  Speaker 1: hurt their feelings and then they're in love with you
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  Speaker 1: or you're in love with them, and you both can't
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  Speaker 1: have what you want. And then so that fun sex
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  Speaker 1: isn't so fun in him.
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  Speaker 2: No, because someone's got an emotionally hurt out their emotions involves.
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  Speaker 2: And then I was talking to my other girlfriend about
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  Speaker 2: it and she's like, yeah, you just like, you know,
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  Speaker 2: separate your emotion from it, be really clear about what
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  Speaker 2: you want in the beginning, and then that way you like,
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  Speaker 2: you know, you know that you're not going to be
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  Speaker 2: in a relationship with him, And I'm like, but how
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  Speaker 2: do you not fall for them?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah? Because for you sex is love and connections yeah,
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  Speaker 1: and start to grow.
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  Speaker 2: And then also connection. But she's like, yeah, but you
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  Speaker 2: don't see them for anything else. And I'm like, how
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  Speaker 2: do you do that?
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  Speaker 1: And I don't understand how you do that hither because
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  Speaker 1: I've never had a one night stand. But when I'm
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  Speaker 1: kissing Steve and making love with him, that's love. So
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  Speaker 1: when you're doing that with a stranger or someone you
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  Speaker 1: don't really know, do you still kiss the same as?
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  Speaker 1: It still really intimate? You're into each other and then
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  Speaker 1: like see yea go about your day. Yeah that feels
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  Speaker 1: foreign to me?
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  Speaker 3: Or or is it like less intimate and then more yeah?
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  Speaker 1: Just a fuck? Yeah not.
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  Speaker 2: Love making is a different energy. I don't think you
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  Speaker 2: could love make? Can you love make with somebody? Who's?
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  Speaker 3: Need to ask her?
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  Speaker 1: I need to call her, honestly, dullah love Oh my god?
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  Speaker 1: Would she?
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  Speaker 4: I don't know.
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  Speaker 1: Let's try it. That'll be so cool.
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  Speaker 2: Hi, we've got you live on the air, babe, amazing,
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  Speaker 2: Like I did not expect this to Monday morning.
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  Speaker 1: So good.
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  Speaker 3: Okay, we want to ask you a question.
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  Speaker 2: Yes, so we wanted to know if you think it's
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  Speaker 2: possible to not be let's say, one night stand or
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  Speaker 2: something like that. Do you think it's possible to love, make,
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  Speaker 2: or have like true intimacy with somebody that you're not
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  Speaker 2: emotionally connected with.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, I definitely think it's possible.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, for sure. I feel like when you're with somebody,
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  Speaker 4: if you still have like a connection in a lastful,
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  Speaker 4: sensual way, like I still feel like it can be,
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  Speaker 4: you know, just as connected as if it were with
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  Speaker 4: your partner that you are in love with. You know,
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  Speaker 4: you're comfortable and you feel safe. And I definitely think
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  Speaker 4: it's possible.
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  Speaker 1: Because I feel like when I'm making love with Steve
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  Speaker 1: and we're looking at each other's eyes and like we're
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  Speaker 1: holding each other and there's just so much love pouring
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  Speaker 1: out energetically and physically and spiritually. It's just this depth
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  Speaker 1: of connection. Like I can't imagine being with someone that
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  Speaker 1: I don't know and still looking at like do you
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  Speaker 1: still look in the eye, you still kiss them passionately,
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  Speaker 1: and then you're like Okay, see, y'ah, thanks for a
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  Speaker 1: great time, Like how does that work?
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, I don't know I think you have to be
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  Speaker 4: fully like comfortable and vulnerable in that space. Still, you know, like,
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  Speaker 4: obviously it's not the same as if it were your
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  Speaker 4: husbands that you have children, Like it's never going to
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  Speaker 4: be that same exact feeling. But I still think you
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  Speaker 4: can get that level of connection with somebody if, yeah,
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  Speaker 4: if you both have an understanding and respect for each
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  Speaker 4: other and you know, are friends with benefits situation where
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  Speaker 4: you you are actual friends but you both know that
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  Speaker 4: it's not going to be like a relationship, but you
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  Speaker 4: can still enjoy each other's company. And I don't know
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  Speaker 4: from personal experience, I've had a friends with benefits situation,
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  Speaker 4: and this sex was incredible and passionate and it was amazing,
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  Speaker 4: and I did feel connected on a deeper level. And
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  Speaker 4: it was nice because like, you know, after we were done,
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  Speaker 4: we just hang out, have a cuddle, and then I
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  Speaker 4: go home, and I didn't feel like I needed to
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  Speaker 4: overthink anything or overanalyze anything or question how he felt
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  Speaker 4: about me and all these things. Great. I had an
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  Speaker 4: amazing that is sex, and now I can go home
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  Speaker 4: and chill out.
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  Speaker 1: You know, I love that. And then there's like there's
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  Speaker 1: also no strings attached to you both know where you're at,
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  Speaker 1: and you just enjoy each other's body and you're you're like,
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  Speaker 1: you're a woman that love sex, so.
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  Speaker 3: You get to enjoy that. Yeah, And do you think it?
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  Speaker 3: Do you think that you can do it?
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  Speaker 2: You hear that, ladies, So do you think that it's
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  Speaker 2: possible to be able to have that same level of
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  Speaker 2: like intimacy and connection and like more passion even if
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  Speaker 2: you aren't spending like super quality time with that person,
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  Speaker 2: you know? Because obviously, like would you have to have
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  Speaker 2: boundaries around that? Do you have to do you know
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  Speaker 2: what I mean? Like do you spend time with them?
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  Speaker 2: Or is it just like an in and out kind
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  Speaker 2: of thing.
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  Speaker 4: I mean, I can't speak for everyone, but I've had
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  Speaker 4: probably two situations where it has been a friend of
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  Speaker 4: benefits thing where we know that there's no future and
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  Speaker 4: like there's just an understanding of that, but we still
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  Speaker 4: enjoyed each other's company, listened to music, had a good time,
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  Speaker 4: had great sex. Like I never felt like either of
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  Speaker 4: us were annoying each other. We were just friends and
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  Speaker 4: still had deep conversations at certain times, but then it
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  Speaker 4: was like, you know, good morning, Kye, And I was
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  Speaker 4: like ooh, I'm just going to get on with my day.
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  Speaker 4: Thank you for a great time, you know. But it
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  Speaker 4: was just like it both like an understanding and respect
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  Speaker 4: that we both had for each other. We still enjoyed
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  Speaker 4: each other's company, and it was passionate and it was
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  Speaker 4: it still meant something, you know. It's just that I
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  Speaker 4: wasn't the type of like I still am a human being,
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  Speaker 4: real sex beans, we'll want to have sex. I mean,
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  Speaker 4: I having sex, but I don't want to sleep with
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  Speaker 4: you know, a thousand people when I that's just hurt
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  Speaker 4: me personally. Even if you are doing that. Love that
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  Speaker 4: as well for support. But you know, I was like,
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  Speaker 4: I still want to be able to have passionate sex
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  Speaker 4: with somebody that is you know that I'm comfortable with
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  Speaker 4: respects me and I respect them. Yeah, you know, I
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  Speaker 4: didn't want a relationship at the time with that person.
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  Speaker 3: Oh I love that. Yeah cool. Thank you so much, fabe,
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  Speaker 3: Thank you. We appreciate you.
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  Speaker 1: We'd love you.
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  Speaker 3: I'll talk to you later, okay, guy, we'll do We'll
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  Speaker 3: be calling you for more questions.
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  Speaker 1: Love me, babe, Bye bye.
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  Speaker 2: It's a hard thing to know when you haven't had
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  Speaker 2: a lot of one night stands. You know, whether you
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  Speaker 2: can have love making with them or is it just
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  Speaker 2: like disconnected and you're just there for the physical act
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  Speaker 2: and the art of pleasure.
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  Speaker 1: Yes. So I think if you win in with that
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  Speaker 1: intention that it's just pleasurable, could be really good.
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  Speaker 2: I just don't know how you can emotionally detach like that.
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  Speaker 2: For me, I'm just like I need the emotional connection.
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  Speaker 2: I need to be connected to them. They need to
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  Speaker 2: make me laugh, We need to have good band to
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  Speaker 2: have deep conversations, and then that way my body opens.
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  Speaker 3: Whereas like, if I don't have that, I'm like, don't
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  Speaker 3: fucking touch me.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, you know sure, And it would be hard if
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  Speaker 1: you caught feelings for them and then they reject you
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  Speaker 1: and like, oh, we can't do this anymore, and then
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  Speaker 1: you have to cut it off and then you lose
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  Speaker 1: that person.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, abandonment we're in Tello.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, or vice FIRSTA. If they started to fall for you,
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  Speaker 1: you'd be like, ooh, with how to cut this off? Now?
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  Speaker 1: I can't keep bleeding you on because I don't want
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  Speaker 1: anything further rat. I just wanted to have fun with you.
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  Speaker 2: But the thing that I wonder about is if you're
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  Speaker 2: not actively spending time with them and having the deep
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  Speaker 2: conversations with them, But you're only in it for the
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  Speaker 2: physical art of the act. Then would you not build
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  Speaker 2: emotion for them? Would you not catch feelings for them?
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  Speaker 1: I think you could care about them, but I don't
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  Speaker 1: think you'd always fall in love with them.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: So I think some people are just you could be
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  Speaker 1: physically attracted to, but not want to pursue a relationship
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  Speaker 1: and get married to them. Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: I don't know, like find them attractive, you think that
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  Speaker 2: they're a great person, you're sexually chemistry.
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  Speaker 1: I think you definitely could just enjoy the act of
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  Speaker 1: sex with someone without falling for them, because it's different.
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  Speaker 1: But friendships, you meet so many friends and you love
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  Speaker 1: them for who they are, and they've got different attributes
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  Speaker 1: and you have different fun with different people for different reasons.
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  Speaker 3: It's a good point. You don't meet a guy.
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  Speaker 1: And think, oh, I have to marry him. You just
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  Speaker 1: enjoy different things about him, Like you just enjoy his cock. Sorry,
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  Speaker 1: we were just having this conversation the other day. I
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  Speaker 1: love said cock and not dick. Like I've had a
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  Speaker 1: girlfriend who is with this guy and she knew she
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  Speaker 1: was never going to marry him, but she just could
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  Speaker 1: not get away from him because the sex was so good.
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  Speaker 2: Wow.
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  Speaker 1: Their sexual chemistry was just like magnetic. They could not
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  Speaker 1: get enough of each other. But she was like, oh
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  Speaker 1: everything else about him, like I would never want him
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  Speaker 1: to be the father of my children. Yeah, well I
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  Speaker 1: don't want a life with him, Like I don't eve
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  Speaker 1: want a relationship with him. I'm almost like embarrassed to
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  Speaker 1: say how much I have sex with him. But the
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  Speaker 1: sex is so good. But she was emotionally not not
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  Speaker 1: into him, but the sex was just that good she
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  Speaker 1: couldn't keep away from him.
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  Speaker 2: Wow.
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  Speaker 1: In my head, that's why I imagine for you, like,
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  Speaker 1: if you're not wanting to be in alationship but you
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  Speaker 1: love sex, then that can be an option. But also
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  Speaker 1: everyone's so different, you know.
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  Speaker 2: But then I think what gets me is like the
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  Speaker 2: you know, having to get to know someone. What if
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  Speaker 2: the sex isn't good. Yeah, and then energy, it's a
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  Speaker 2: lot of energy out.
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  Speaker 3: I'm like, I already have a lot of energy out.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, that's the conclusion we came to the other day.
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  Speaker 1: For you.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, I was like, who else the time?
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  Speaker 1: My big rader.
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  Speaker 3: Honestly, I've been using that girl every day that this.
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  Speaker 1: Is us just talking raw about it, have answers and
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  Speaker 1: there's no wronger rite you know.
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  Speaker 3: What else is interesting?
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  Speaker 2: Tell me what's you know how we talk about you
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  Speaker 2: guys are gonna laugh when we talk about Fanny flutters.
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  Speaker 1: Yes, fatter We heard this O my eyebrown lady. She
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  Speaker 1: told me she had them, and I just had not
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  Speaker 1: heard that in the years, And I told you, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: she brought it in to the conversation.
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  Speaker 2: Who just thought it was so funny and it's so
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  Speaker 2: true that if you've ever experienced it, you know that
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  Speaker 2: feeling that you kind of get in your pussy when
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  Speaker 2: like you're really turned on by someone, or you're really
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  Speaker 2: attracted or they say something and it just hits the
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  Speaker 2: right spot and you're like, oh, that was a bit cheeky,
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  Speaker 2: like fun and playful. Does that happen when you're wanting
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  Speaker 2: to just sleep with somebody?
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  Speaker 1: I would think so surely. Yeah, you're going in with
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  Speaker 1: intention to have sex, Yeah, to be turned on and
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  Speaker 1: have fun.
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  Speaker 3: See, I feel like I would need that feeling. Yeah,
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  Speaker 3: I don't know I would do it without that.
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  Speaker 2: No, Like there are men that I find attractive, but
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  Speaker 2: I don't have that feeling with do you know what
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  Speaker 2: I mean?
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  Speaker 1: So that I'm like, there was a conversation around listening
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  Speaker 1: to your intuition, yes, because you would say, oh, I've
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  Speaker 1: met this guy, da da da, Oh, but XYZ doesn't
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  Speaker 1: feel good for me. That's a red flag for me.
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  Speaker 1: I'm like, well, there's your answer. Yeah, you know what
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  Speaker 1: to do here. Yeah, you know it's not worth your
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  Speaker 1: energy out for sure. Your time's precious. Yeah, your gut's
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  Speaker 1: already giving you the red flag.
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  Speaker 4: It's on.
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  Speaker 2: And it's just because somebody shows you interest doesn't mean
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  Speaker 2: you automatically have to show interest back.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: I think that's just a cool little thing to kind
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  Speaker 2: of pay attention to. Definitely, I remember saying to you
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  Speaker 2: just being like, oh, I just don't have the energy
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  Speaker 2: to entertain this or do this, or have the want
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  Speaker 2: to continue talking or.
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  Speaker 1: I think, and it could be a generalization, but I
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  Speaker 1: think when you meet someone you will want to go
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  Speaker 1: on that date. If you don't want to, I think
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  Speaker 1: it's a big intuition. It's a big saying no, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: if your body's not a full yes, I think listen
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  Speaker 1: to that so interesting, We've gone really off topic.
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  Speaker 3: They really have you know, it's actually funny.
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  Speaker 2: Yes, Laiala Hall Mosey talks about dating like it's a
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  Speaker 2: numbers game, as if it's business. She's the only person
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  Speaker 2: that I've heard talk about it like this, And I
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  Speaker 2: actually respect her so much for it because she talks
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  Speaker 2: about dating as in like, of course, you're not going
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  Speaker 2: to meet the person that you meant to be with
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  Speaker 2: or the love of your life or you know, someone
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  Speaker 2: that you actually gel with if you aren't going on dates.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, And I just.
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  Speaker 2: Found it so interesting because for her, for a year
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  Speaker 2: and a half before she met Alex, which is her
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  Speaker 2: now husband, she went on a date every single week
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  Speaker 2: for a year and a half. Wow, And like, respect
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  Speaker 2: to her for doing it.
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  Speaker 3: It's a lot of energy. I don't think I could
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  Speaker 3: do that, A lot of small talk.
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  Speaker 2: And she said on her lunch breaks she was on
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  Speaker 2: dating apps and stuff like going on dates and talking
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  Speaker 2: to people, and she's like, of course, because it's a
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  Speaker 2: numbers game, she think I'm going to find like my personal.
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  Speaker 1: Said that, you know, yeah, he gave it the advice
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  Speaker 1: to someone that was really against dating apps. Can't remember
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  Speaker 1: her it was, but he basically said, like, if you're
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  Speaker 1: not on there, everyone else is your turn sets behind.
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  Speaker 1: This is spodern day dating. Yeah, wow, very Yes you
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  Speaker 1: can meet people organically for sure, but most people are
• 13:13
  Speaker 1: on there. Yes, and yes there's a lot of fucking
• 13:15
  Speaker 1: around on there. I'm sure I've never been on there,
• 13:16
  Speaker 1: but from what I've heard from friends, there's a lot
• 13:19
  Speaker 1: of fucking around and sifting through the potential candidates. Sounds exhausting,
• 13:23
  Speaker 1: but yeah, if you're not on there, then nine of
• 13:25
  Speaker 1: us in the population is. So they're putting theirselves out there.
• 13:28
  Speaker 1: They're more likely going to meet someone. Most people I
• 13:30
  Speaker 1: know have met on dating sites. Steve and I met
• 13:32
  Speaker 1: on Facebook, my mum and her partner of like over
• 13:34
  Speaker 1: ten years now, I bet on a dating app. Steve
• 13:36
  Speaker 1: sent you a screenshot.
• 13:37
  Speaker 4: The other day.
• 13:37
  Speaker 3: Oh my god.
• 13:39
  Speaker 2: So Steve sent me this thing and he was like,
• 13:43
  Speaker 2: He's like, I found you a keeper.
• 13:46
  Speaker 1: Steve on the Hunts fift.
• 13:48
  Speaker 3: So it's like Martin thirty seven. Mind you.
• 13:51
  Speaker 2: He's got like the bull piercing in his nose. You know,
• 13:54
  Speaker 2: I don't know what it's called.
• 13:55
  Speaker 1: Beard full big beard.
• 13:57
  Speaker 2: Stretches in his ears and he goes about me, five
• 13:59
  Speaker 2: foot eight, straight man, less than a mile away.
• 14:02
  Speaker 3: I'm a single father of three. They are my world.
• 14:04
  Speaker 2: If you don't have what it takes to help me
• 14:05
  Speaker 2: raise my kids, then move aside. Let a real woman
• 14:07
  Speaker 2: step up. If you want me alone, you have to
• 14:09
  Speaker 2: pay for the babysitter. Must help pay for beard and
• 14:12
  Speaker 2: hair care. Being this beautiful isn't cheap. Wing face. Must
• 14:16
  Speaker 2: have your own car, preferably a seven seater, must cook clean,
• 14:20
  Speaker 2: be submissive, and no taller than five to seven, no
• 14:22
  Speaker 2: heavier than one hundred kilos. Must be fit and have
• 14:25
  Speaker 2: your own source of income and your own teeth.
• 14:29
  Speaker 1: What the actual fuck I wish I could show you.
• 14:32
  Speaker 1: I'm already out. I'm fine nine, so I wouldn't have
• 14:35
  Speaker 1: I wouldn't even have a chance to don I'm five six,
• 14:38
  Speaker 1: but I don't know