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From Chaos to This: Our Unexpected Journey · Mom Gone Mild

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Hey guys, welcome back to Mom Gone Mild.
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I'm your host Lex, and I hope you guys had an amazing week.
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I know I have finally, finally, finally I'm seeing the light at
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the end of the tunnel. Axel is getting better with
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because he was suffering from a cold.
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So that was a nightmare. But you know, we're getting
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through it and talking about we I have a very special guest this
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week. I have my husband Randy.
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I know I finally convinced him to come on the show and we're so
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excited to have him on. So let's see what we get into.
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Have a very special guest, my husband Randy.
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You guys know I talk about him all the time.
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So Randy, we're so glad to have you here and mom gone.
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Mild welcome. Thank you for having me.
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He's really the shy one. I'm obviously the one that can't
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stop talking. So but you know, we're so
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excited to have you here and I'm always talking about like
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different point of views of my side.
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So I can't wait to kind of get into that, but a little bit more
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of that later. So let's start from the
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beginning, Randy, How long have we kind of known each other?
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I know like we weren't like super close in the beginning,
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but. Oh, definitely not.
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We were, and we knew each other through mutual friends.
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Yeah. And I was living at our mutual
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friend's house at the time, being where I really met you.
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And. Yeah.
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And you had a girlfriend. Yeah, I had a girlfriend at the
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time. No overlap at all.
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I mean, I personally had zero chemistry with you.
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Oh. I was stuck in the bedroom the
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whole time. She like locked me away from any
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female that walked in the. House.
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Yeah, that's true. It's interesting.
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Hardly saw you, but that's just how it is.
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And then, just years later, we reconnected.
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I slid into your DMS. You slid into my DMS, I was dropping the
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seeds on your comments section. Yeah, you were kind of in there.
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Yeah, for sure. So years later we got together,
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I slid into DMS and I don't know, like what were your
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thoughts? I guess like when I did that,
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did you think that it was going to be serious?
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Did you think it was going to be a one night stand?
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I, I really couldn't tell because I mean, obviously I
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showed interest a few times over social media and yeah, I wasn't,
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I was just kind of going in open minded thinking, hey, this could
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go somewhere or it's just going to be a one night stand like you
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just mentioned. Well, I won't lie, I thought it
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was going to be a one night stand.
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It really felt like it, but I think the amount of times we
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were talking up until we hung out, I think that's kind of
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changed over time, yeah. And then like I always joke
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around with my friends, like I literally went to your house and
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just like never left. Yeah, pretty much every time she
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showed up, it was like more clothes would end up in my
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closet. So I.
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Know I remember just like bags on bags.
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I was such a hobo back then, like literally with I don't
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know, I kind of just went to not like other people's houses like
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guys, but like even with my friend's house, like Nina's
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house, I would like show up with like ton of bags.
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So I guess that was just my thing, but So what made it feel
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like different? I mean, I think it was just the
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fact that we immediately bonded like friends, but there was, you
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know, the chemistry and I don't know, we just enjoyed the same
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shows we want. We binge watched a lot of The
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Office the. Office non-stop.
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I think like that was my first time ever.
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Like really going through the office and I was so freaking
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obsessed. It was like wake up office, like
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just through the whole day. We finished that series so fast.
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Yeah, we finished the weekend watching Archie, if you
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remember. Oh, Riverdale.
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Riverdale That's that's. A Oh my gosh, she's blast from
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the past. Like that was a good first
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season, but the second season was awful.
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Sorry, it got really bad. So we're going to like play a
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little game kind of to warm you up and just make you feel
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comfortable. It's who said what first?
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Oh my God, if you remember. I don't.
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I, I mean, I think I remember, but I guess we'll see.
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So who said I love you first? You did.
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I'm pretty sure you did. You said it by accident when we
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were saying goodbye on the phone.
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Oh my gosh, I don't even remember that.
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Yeah, I have a good memory. I have a terrible memory, like
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I'm awful at that stuff. Who would like text more, me or
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you? It depends, like if you were out
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or if I was at home board I would be blowing your stuff.
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Up okay so it's so funny because I wasn't gonna bring up this
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story, but now that we're on that do you remember New Year's
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Eve when I went to. Vegas.
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Yeah, I remember blowing your phone up because I was like
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drunk and I guess I was getting possessive.
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Yeah, no, I like had. I was like up at Dre's, we're
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celebrating. I had no cell service at all.
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It was kind. It was annoying because I was
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trying to text you and stuff. But then like I went back to the
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room and I got like all these calls, texts.
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I was like I'll bling. Thankfully I like actually broke
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my phone that night. Oh God.
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Yeah, well, I mean, it wasn't like I broke it from drunk
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stupidity. Well, kinda.
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I left it outside and it was the harbor and yeah, it was
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extremely cold and yeah, that thing froze and broke.
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Oh well, lesson, don't leave your phone outside when you're
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at the harbor. And don't be a psycho when
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you're first engaging with a girl.
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That's very true. I'm actually really actually I'm
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not that surprised because on my side I'm like, I'm used to being
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the psychotic 1. So I was like, OK, this is kind
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of hot. Somebody being like this towards
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me. Toxic talking about toxic.
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The next question, who was more toxic in the beginning?
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In the beginning, I drank and had a lot of fun, and that kind
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of stuff can get very toxic. Yeah, yeah, definitely,
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definitely. I was at my stage of exiting
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drinking like you were, so I was more tame.
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You were a bit of a wild one. Yeah, Wild, wild, wild.
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Yeah, that was years and years of that.
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But you know what? We got through it and we got
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through it stronger, I think. I mean, we ended up married,
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having a house and a baby. So that's true.
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That's true. I think we we got somewhere.
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Yes, I think. We're OK.
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And like, you know, I love being like, honest.
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So in the beginning, I feel like we did argue a lot.
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We had our fair share of arguments and stuff like that.
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So what just made you kind of just want to stay around and be
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like, all right, I'm going to work it out with her?
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Just the fact that I wouldn't feel like I'm losing someone I
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actually love. I'm losing my best friend
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because we were hanging out and it just, I don't know, just felt
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right. I.
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Mean it's just. Yeah, I just enjoyed your
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company. And if I, you know, you would
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think the next day if you're not with that person, you're not
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communicating with them, would you miss them?
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So that kind of got me a little bit deeper into the into us.
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That's sweet. OK.
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Yeah. Well, I'm going to bring this up
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because, well, I'm going to bring this up for the rest of
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our lives because it really pissed me off.
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So it took you 6 years, Six years to propose?
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Yeah, and you told me don't propose on New Year's Eve.
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And I mean what better time to propose to you?
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No, what I said was this is my ultimatum.
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Yes, I am a psycho. I gave him an ultimatum.
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I told him you have until New Year's Eve or else I'm out.
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And what did you do? I propose New Year's Eve.
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Past midnight, by the way, that was a crazy night because it was
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like, I don't know, LA had it's like first tsunami and like, and
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I was so wild, like things were falling over.
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It was just like crazy rain. And but that moment was so
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special when you propose and then it just all went downhill
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after. Yeah, you're going to bring that
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up? Oh.
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I'm going to go into details, but it got really ratchet, Not
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like between us, but like we went to like a New Year's Eve
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party and it just got ghetto. Let's be honest.
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A house party in Simi Valley on New Year's Eve.
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Yeah. It got you could definitely see
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the rest. Yeah, definitely.
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It got to the point where it was like, OK, we need to leave, Cops
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came. It was like definitely one of
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those stories that like you don't go into great detail, but
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it's something that really solidifies the night and just
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makes it even more memorable. But that was wild and.
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To say the least, yeah. Literally like Crazy Legs came
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out that night but it wasn't towards you so.
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Surprise. Surprise, surprise, surprise.
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But yeah, anyway, so I want to Fast forward a little to where
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kind of we were, Can you believe it's going to be 9 months, nine
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months ago pregnancy. Yeah, time is flying.
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Literally I'm like, we're already planning his first
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birthday. It's just so, it's moving so
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damn fast. I don't know.
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It's just like people always say like enjoy it.
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It's just like always going to happen so fast, but you don't
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really notice until like you're living it and you just see every
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day that he's growing. And anyway, this is to get into
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pregnancies. So I want to know like when what
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was your first reaction to find out?
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Like, hey Randy, I'm pregnant. I was excited.
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I just instantly wanted to know the gender of it.
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Yeah. And I just felt like this time
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it was right. Yeah.
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I felt like it was just a sure thing.
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And the excitement was just, yeah, it was really up there and
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I was really high and I just wanted to tell the world.
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So yeah, I was. I was stoked.
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Yeah, for sure. So my pregnancy, like I tell you
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guys, you guys can go back to listen to my birth story, my
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point of view, but pregnancy was like really high risk.
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I had a lot of issues going on. Oh, you did?
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Yeah. So I want to know like, what are
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like, what did you think, like going through that?
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Because obviously I can only tell my side of the story.
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I mean, I knew there was going to be some complications and
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there was going to be some moments where it was just going
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to get intense. And it was scary for the for the
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most part because your body was going through such a massive
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change. And some of the times like your
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body was reacting in such a way. I was just like, what's
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happening? Like, yeah.
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And I I already was accustomed to not sleeping well before Axel
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was. Born.
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Yeah. When we got to the the part
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where your blood pressure became a concern, holy crap, that was
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yeah, every night we'd be awake checking and.
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Oh my gosh, I know. It was, it was really tough.
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But yeah, you were really good at listening to your body.
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You, you, you jumped to the the opportunity when you did.
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And yeah, it was impressive how you just kind of knew what to
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do. Well, I feel like that had a
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little bit to do with my nursing background.
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Like I knew I can just feel my body.
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It was changing. For those of you that haven't
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watched, you know, I had a really bad preeclampsia.
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My blood pressure was skyrocketing.
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I had, I'm already a diabetic so diabetes was out of control too.
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And it was just like so many up and downs.
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I was in and out of the hospital non-stop.
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So yeah, it was a lot to deal with.
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What? There was 0 sleep.
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Yeah, I can't even count how many times we were at the
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hospital. Oh, I know we were so many and I
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was like, I'm literally running away.
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I I was like, I need to go. I can't be at this hospital
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anymore. But shout out to the hospital
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because all the nurses, everyone was so chill.
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So thank you for that. Especially the one that taught
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me how to swaddle. Asshole.
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Yes, she was the best. She was the best.
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So what about picking Axel's name?
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Like, I don't know, like I don't remember how we ended up picking
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it. Like people asked me like, where
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did you come up with that name? And I I literally can't even
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remember. Well, we were just going through
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the normal baby lists you find online.
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Yeah, you look them up on TikTok, look them up on Google.
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And a lot of them, I'm like, these are just so I hear them
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all the time. And I wanted something a little
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bit more, something more unique, something that was also unique
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to us. And we came across this list of
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names that were uncommon. And Axel came up and I wanted to
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look up the definition. And I guess it's a Scandinavian
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name. And it, I guess it, it's meant
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for, you know, from when you were born up until you're a man,
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you already carry the instinct of fatherhood.
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So I kind of feel like that's a good a good in, you know, a good
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life to lead for Axel and just having a good.
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Start a good start. And plus, if you say it out
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loud, it kind of sounds like a mix of both of our names.
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That's true. But I did want like a Benjamin
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or something or like, what was the other one thought like my
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son is going to be like going to Harvard something.
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So I was like, he needs to have like an elite name.
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But Axel is a great name and I'm so excited that that's his name.
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He totally fits an Axel. His personality is Axel, yeah.
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And so when he's a bad boy, he's Alex.
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Yeah, or AJ. Sometimes he acts like an AJ for
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sure. Yep.
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So all right, so pregnancy. That was crazy.
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But you know what's even crazier?
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The birth story. I have told this story I feel
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like so many times, but I, I always like, I'm like, I wonder
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what it was like for you because we haven't really talked about
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it that much. I feel like it just happened and
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we kind of just were so excited, you know, with having axles.
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So I just kind of want to know a little bit.
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How is your point of view of the birth story?
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By the way, I had AC section emergency C-section so.
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Yeah, Yep. I was at home getting the dogs
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ready, getting packed up and kind of just prepping because
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you were induced. And I knew it was coming, but I
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didn't think it was coming that night.
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So I wasn't ready. I was starting to kind of turn
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in, go to bed, and thankfully I had like every alert with sound
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turned on because yeah, Alexis calls me at 11 saying, well.
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First of all, let me explain. Like you didn't just ditch me at
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the hospital. Like we had our dogs so we
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didn't have anyone to watch them or and it was so like, like we
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everything happened so fast that I just stayed at the hospital
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and they told me like, you wouldn't have the baby until
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like maybe 48 hours. And you also had a a list of
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things you required at the hospital.
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So I had to get. You together.
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So definitely you got it. Wasn't me just leaving her dry
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and dry like I. Really.
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In some way. Tomorrow.
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Yeah, cool. Yeah, I'm like, yeah, no, it
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wasn't like that at all. So let me just get that out
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there. Yeah, I mean, weird, but yeah,
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that night was crazy because yeah, I was pretty much half
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asleep, ready to turn in and had to get the rest of the bag
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packed up after Alexis called and said it's time to go.
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And I just remember getting two big bags packed and grabbing my
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work laptop and just jamming out the door driving probably 90.
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Plus shout out CHP for not pulling me over that night.
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And it was also terrible because the lanes were shut down to only
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two lanes on the freeway to get there.
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So zigzagging between trucks and that was scary.
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And also getting to the hospital was a pain in the butt because
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it was late at night. The front door was locked so I
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had to go through the ER and the security guard wanted to go
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through the entire boat bags and I'm telling him in real time
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like. Luggage that we had.
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Luggage. Like the big luggage?
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Yeah, and I'm trying to tell the guy like my son is about to be
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born. I gotta go.
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Like, yeah, time is good. He he was taking a sweet ass
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time and he thought he was helping me.
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But yeah, he was a Jackass. No shout outs for that guy.
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Well, yeah, once I got up there, they got me dressed up ready to
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go and they said you're going to meet your son within 10 to 15
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minutes. And I was sweating bullets like
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I was panicking. I had the N95 mask, the whole
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gown and cap and everything. And when I went in there, it was
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it was not what I expected. I didn't expect the ER nurse
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next to me to be just some chill guy just laughing going your
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wife is asleep, she's not supposed to be sleeping.
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And I'm like, what do you mean she's not supposed to be
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sleeping? I guess she was having a panic
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attack. I didn't have a panic attack.
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It was crazy. I, like, wanted to jump off the
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table. They were like, we need to put
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her to sleep. It was that training.
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Yeah, literally. I was just like, I think that
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was the last moment I've ever enjoyed of sleeping again.
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So my body probably knew like girl, just take a nap.
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Yeah, that was crazy. And they were telling me that,
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you know, where I was sitting, there's no way I'm going to see
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anything. And I asked the hard nurse, why
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do I see everything through the reflection on this big window?
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I'm literally seeing all of her guts being taken out of her.
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So that wasn't fun. And the moment they were pulling
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Axel out, that was, I mean, I don't know if you're going to
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cut this out, but they started to pull him out and the pressure
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of him coming out, all this blood started to just build up
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and spew. And they had this, these two
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tubes routing, all the blood spewing into a bucket.
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It was nasty. I was freaking out saying, is
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this normal? The guy was laughing.
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I'm sure he was stoned out of his mind.
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I feel like he was. He was.
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So chill. I'm like bro this is weird why
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are you so chill? Anyway he was just laughing and
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kind of calming me down through the process which was
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appreciated. But at that moment, like they
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pull Axel out and I just remember seeing that big head of
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hair and I'm like, he is so cute.
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I usually think, I'm sorry to say, but I usually think babies
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are ugly. Well, A.
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Lot of newborns. Well, they just look like
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aliens. Yeah they all look like aliens
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but I just might be biased because axles are sun.
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But he was super cute. Yeah, yeah, I remember just
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saying to you, we're lucky he's cute.
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Yeah, I remember, like, woke up and I was like, wait a second,
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where am I? I don't know.
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I heard a baby crying. Then the baby was like next to
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my head. And I was like, OK, yeah.
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And yeah, it was. It was crazy.
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So that was the experience of our delivery.
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And Axel made it into the world. And you know I.
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I don't know, like we're going to get into something a little
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bit deeper, obviously. So I, I talk about this a lot.
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I suffered really bad postpartum depression, postpartum anxiety,
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which a lot of women suffer. It's nothing that is abnormal.
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But yeah, so I just feel like it hit me really hard.
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I don't know. Did you like, realize something
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was going on or did I hide it well in my mind?
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I thought I hit it well. No, you didn't hide it well.
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OK. I mean, to your credit, yes, you
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hit it in front of people that didn't know like your
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characteristics and me. You can't bullshit a bullshit or
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I I could spot you from a mile away if you're upset, you're
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down. So it's it's kind of easy for me
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to spot out, but that was a different wave of depression
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I've never witnessed. Yeah.
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I don't know what was like the hardest part for you because I
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can obviously talk about my hardest parts which I have, but
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I don't know what was like your point of view of this.
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There would be points where I would just see no emotion out of
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you and that was really concerning.
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Yeah, yeah, it was scary. Yeah.
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That part was pretty tough. Yeah, yeah.
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But, you know, I feel like we got through it and I don't know,
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you were just really there for me throughout the whole
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experience. Like, we didn't really like,
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talk about like, oh, you're depressed.
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Like you were just there for me. You did a lot of stuff.
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I mean, just like, you know, helping with Axel, doing the
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chores, just like just letting me, I asked like, just be able
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to express myself. So that was like a big thing
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because sometimes couples, they can argue and, you know, I can
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make the relationship worse. Yeah, I mean, if you're not a
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selfish person, it's pretty easy.
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Yeah, that's true. Or you just don't know, you know
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how to handle it. Most people don't know how to
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handle, like, mental health or like, deal with it.
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But I just feel like you gave me, like, enough space.
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The word is also there for me. So thank you.
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Well. Thank you for birthing our
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beautiful baby boy. Yes, yes.
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All right. So now something a little bit
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more light hearted, I want to talk about this.
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I'm going to call our an era because this literally was an
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era, a DoorDash era. We literally should have been
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sponsored because I don't know. I just remember one day we
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literally ordered breakfast, lunch, dinner and I think like a
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coffee. Or or Jamba Juice.
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Yeah. Or, Oh my gosh, I was so
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obsessed with Jamba Juice. It was crazy.
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Just it was really. Bad.
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We probably spent over $100 on just Jamba in a month.
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Probably. And I just like, you know, like
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I have, we have that rocket money and it's just like it
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keeps telling us now, like congratulations, you're saving
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so much money. And it's just like, damn, we
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really. I'm telling you, we should have
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been sponsored by DoorDash for sure goes into us like when we
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first started dating, you know, we were both like really in
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shape and then obviously you get comfortable.
23:20
Too comfortable. We didn't want to go anywhere.
23:22
We just wanted to hang out. Yeah.
23:24
Watch, binge watch. Watch movies.
23:27
Yeah, binge eat. Binge eat.
23:29
Holy crap, we tried a lot of different things.
23:33
Yeah, that was it's. Embarrassing to say.
23:36
It is embarrassing, but I feel like we, you know, it's just
23:40
like it happens to a lot of people.
23:41
You just like find the comfort in your own home and it's like
23:45
you don't want to leave. And it's just like kind of like
23:47
we fell into like a cycle and it was just comfortable for us.
23:51
Feel like we have broken that cycle because we both are, you
23:54
know, we're in the middle of 75 hard.
23:56
I think we're on the 52nd, 3rd date. 53rd. 53rd day, so we're
24:03
almost done. So talking about 75 hard, what
24:06
was like the easiest? What was the hardest part?
24:10
Oh. What has it been?
24:12
I mean, we're not done, but. Oh no, yeah, we're not done and
24:16
I don't think we're going to be done after.
24:17
This No, I think, well, I'm going to do 75 soft.
24:21
I don't know about you if you want to do it with me, but.
24:24
Yeah, most likely. I really do like the lifestyle.
24:27
So calling a lot of the things hard was I guess I would say
24:32
it's more inconvenient because I don't mind working out twice a
24:36
day, quite frankly and I love walking my dog outside.
24:39
But there are those cases like the weather, yeah.
24:44
Oh my. Gosh, like today it.
24:46
Rained and I was like, it was. Great.
24:49
From what we've dealt with, it was.
24:50
Previously it was, it was, but like sometimes I'm like, I don't
24:53
want to take out Axel because, you know, he had a cold just
24:56
recently and it's like it's hard and it, it like he said, it's,
25:00
it can be inconvenient. But I have learned if I'm able
25:05
to do 2 workouts a day, there is absolutely no reason why I
25:08
shouldn't do one workout. About freaking time, girl.
25:12
And honestly, I hate working out.
25:16
That's my one thing. I feel like in the beginning,
25:18
working out was the worst part for me because I'm just so used
25:22
to be like, I'm going to be honest, a couch potato,
25:25
literally. And I had a very like, I don't
25:28
know, I forgot the words that it might mean.
25:32
I try to say, but where you're sitting down all day at work and
25:38
yeah, I don't know, that was just like the hardest part.
25:40
But what was the easiest part for you?
25:43
So the hardest part is just making sure you actually hit
25:47
that gallon goal. Sometimes you you don't want to
25:52
just drink water. I I don't blame you.
25:54
Sometimes water just is so boring.
25:58
Like I feel like it's good and then you're like forced to drink
26:01
1 gallon and you're like damn, you don't realize.
26:04
First of all, I didn't realize how much a gallon is a day.
26:07
And but like the maybe like the third day out was like, OK, I
26:12
feel like this might be the reason why I don't finish
26:15
because it made me kind of nauseous.
26:17
But you are also making it easier.
26:20
You're finding a little hacks like these little water bottles
26:23
that we got here. Honestly, like there's no plug.
26:26
I'm not going to tell the brand name, but only a couple of
26:30
these. You already had a gallon.
26:31
Honestly I'm already this is my last one for today.
26:35
Yeah, well, I feel like in the beginning, like everything's so
26:39
new. Like we did it like where it was
26:41
like we didn't weren't like working out every day.
26:43
It's just like we kind of jumped into it.
26:45
So it's like now we know like hacks, you know, like I'm so
26:49
glad that we did like the research of the diet because I
26:53
feel like no offense, but personally I wouldn't have been
26:56
good on like, I don't know, like a low fat diet or carb free
27:01
diet. I just feel like that for me is
27:03
not sustainable. Like your girl needs bread and
27:06
like we can now have sourdough. So it's just like little hacks
27:10
here and there. They just it changes everything
27:13
and doing it together. Yes, yes, I would say because of
27:20
you, I've actually found the diet being the easiest because
27:23
you're bringing in your Cuban, Ecuadorian flavors.
27:26
Into what also helps that I cook everything, everything,
27:30
everything. Like, yeah, I mean, sometimes I
27:32
help, but yeah, I just hate my cooking.
27:35
I like yours. Yeah, I hate your cooking too.
27:38
But anyways I make a. Good sandwich.
27:42
Oh yes, a sandwich, Yes he does. How do you feel compared to like
27:48
day one? We're on day 53, how do you
27:50
feel? Day one, I was sore.
27:54
I felt a lot of my stomach getting in the way.
27:58
Yeah, I I feel like a lot. I mean, I feel really thinner
28:04
and. Yeah.
28:07
Definitely not close to the goal yet, but yeah, I I see a lot of
28:11
results that I'm already encouraged by, so yeah.
28:15
Nice fatherhood. What has changed?
28:19
Yeah, I feel like this is a good topic because obviously we're
28:23
both first time parents. I know what has changed for me
28:27
and motherhood is basically everything, but what has changed
28:32
for you so far? Has it changed you that much, do
28:34
you feel like, or was it kind of in the beginning?
28:38
Now it's like you're back to, I don't know.
28:43
In the beginning I was really cautious just because we have
28:47
this tiny little brittle human being that we have to carry.
28:51
It was it. I just was walking cautiously
28:56
everywhere, every step, like holding him like just a piece of
29:02
China glass. Like I, I was really scared to
29:04
hold him all the time. So I would, you know, obviously
29:08
not do the things I would typically like to do.
29:11
I don't like to. I mean, I like to hang out and
29:14
do you know, I'll play video games with my buddies or go out
29:17
and go hit the gym. But I just needed to be around
29:21
and be present and be with him just to understand him, get to
29:25
know him. And over the course of time, I
29:28
mean, now it's like I'm just kind of back to my normal
29:31
routine. Yeah, you know, sometimes it's a
29:35
little difficult because you know, he's dealing with
29:37
something or he's hitting a new milestone, especially with the
29:40
teething. Oh my gosh, the teething.
29:43
I didn't think babies at this age had this many teeths.
29:46
Oh, and we counted. He has seven teeth.
29:49
Not 6. 71 just popped out so. So what has been your favorite
29:55
part? What has surprised you the most?
29:58
What are you like excited for? I'm excited for him to start
30:02
talking to us straight up. Yeah, I want to have a
30:05
conversation. He does see Mama, though.
30:07
Every time he cries. You know what that means?
30:10
He's comfortable with me, but yeah.
30:12
Yeah, yeah. It's really exciting just
30:16
because you get to see this little human evolve every single
30:19
day. He's changing all the time.
30:23
He's just a new human, like every day.
30:25
It's it's. Some new characters wake him up
30:28
and I'm like, did this guy grow? He like looks more older, just
30:32
like just something in him change overnight.
30:35
It's crazy. You're not wrong.
30:37
He's he just keeps growing too. He's a yeah.
30:40
He's a also, we have a big boy. Yeah.
30:43
He's in the 99%, yeah. But I don't know, he's got like
30:48
a build that doesn't make him look fat, so.
30:51
Yeah, he's. He's got roles, but he's also a
30:55
big, big boy. And just like, so I just can't
30:59
wait. Like he's a boy, obviously.
31:00
So I can't wait for him to do like boy things.
31:03
I want him to like skateboard. I want him to try all the
31:05
sports. I just, I'm so excited that you
31:08
get to like experience a lot of like his first with you.
31:13
You know what I mean? Just because I feel like that's
31:15
a father thing and that's just going to be so exciting for me
31:18
to watch. And you guys are my boys and I
31:21
just can't wait. And one last question cuz we get
31:25
asked this all the time. Are we really one and done?
31:34
Being in Southern California makes it kind of 1 and done.
31:37
Yeah, it's just like really expensive out here.
31:39
And it's just like realistically it's just, it's really hard.
31:44
But I mean, it's doable. A lot of our friends do it, but.
31:48
Yeah, I mean, it's if it happens, it happens, but I'm
31:55
also not trying to have a second one right now.
31:57
I'm kind of just goal oriented financially right now, trying to
32:01
get healthy. I just want to give Axel the
32:03
best life. Yeah, yeah.
32:05
So build that foundation, but don't ask us anymore.
32:10
Shut up with that. I know.
32:12
And all right, So really quickly because it's about me, I'm just
32:18
kidding. So what's something you
32:19
appreciate about me? And I'll tell you.
32:25
Oh, there's just a huge list. I don't know which one to pick
32:28
from the top. I feel like that's such a safe
32:30
answer. Well, no, it's, I've said it
32:34
like probably two or three times.
32:35
You are my best friend. Yeah, I can't.
32:38
I don't know. I just don't like my days
32:40
without you. Like if I'm out of town or
32:43
you're out of town, it's just sucks.
32:45
Just doesn't feel right and I mean your company is most
32:49
important to me. It's because I'm so fun.
32:52
Totally. All right, So what I appreciate
32:56
about you the most is a, you're obviously a really good father
33:02
because I know a lot of guys are fucking losers and they're not
33:06
good fathers. So thank you for that #2 You're
33:09
really loyal and you're, I feel like this makes me sound like
33:15
kind of bad, but you're a provider and that really means a
33:19
lot to me because I feel like that's such a hot treat to have.
33:23
So. And of course, I love you and
33:24
you're my best friend. Let me make sure to add that
33:28
part. I'll be honest, I married you
33:30
for your cooking. OK, why didn't marry you for
33:33
your money? Because back then we didn't
33:35
really have money. We're going to get to my
33:40
favorite part because yeah, it's just my fucking favorite part.
33:44
This game, it's called Hype or Not Marriage Edition.
33:49
So basically, is it worth the hype or is it not?
33:53
Or do you agree with it or do you not basically.
33:56
So going to bed mad. That's such a bitch thing to do.
34:02
I I don't get it like some people.
34:04
We never do that. Yeah, we've done it probably 2
34:07
times in our all the time of being brother, but no it's.
34:12
And if not, like, we'll wake each other up like in the middle
34:15
of the night, like, hey, like, yeah, we can we just not be mad
34:18
at each other because that's stupid.
34:20
Yeah. And then we'll talk about it in
34:21
the morning. But I just feel like that's so
34:24
lame to do. Go to bed mad.
34:25
Like I mean, there was one time he did go to bed mad because we
34:30
into Fridays and they sing you happy birthday.
34:36
I'm telling you, he is the shyest guy.
34:38
He's turning. Dude, the fact that it wasn't my
34:43
birthday and we were in a crazy argument that.
34:47
We argued with one of our. Friends at Fridays and they all
34:51
just collectively thought it was great to just, yeah, let's get
34:55
ice. Cream for free and just.
34:57
Put the birthday celebration on Randy.
34:59
Yeah. That wasn't one time though.
35:01
You went to bed and you're like I'm mad and then turned your
35:07
anyways I cracked myself up. So sharing locations.
35:14
I mean, what's, what's the harm in that?
35:16
I don't care. It's.
35:17
We do it. So I know a lot of couples don't
35:20
do it. I don't.
35:21
I mean, I just feel like we do it for our safety.
35:24
What if like, I get kidnapped or something?
35:26
Yeah. Or like what if I'm like?
35:29
If you're with Axel. Yeah, yeah.
35:31
But like I used to like check his location, like when I said
35:34
like I would do the dishes or something or clean the house and
35:37
I saw him on his way home and I would just do them really quick.
35:42
This is shocker. It wasn't like ever like trying
35:46
to see like, where is he? Where is he?
35:48
But all right, separate bank accounts.
35:55
That's a good one because we have.
35:59
We have. Some I honestly don't care.
36:01
Because your girl is a spender. I spend a lot.
36:05
You should see how many Amazon boxes come here today.
36:08
Oh my gosh. One thing I don't know.
36:10
Like I feel like we used to do this a lot but we don't do it
36:12
anymore. OK.
36:14
When like couples Venmo or Zell each other back for every little
36:18
thing like oh I had a coffee, you paid for it.
36:20
Let me zell you or something back.
36:23
Unless it's like a big spend, like, yeah, I know that you
36:25
spent like quite a bit on groceries and yeah, I'm gonna,
36:30
I'm gonna chip in. That's yeah, that sucks.
36:32
But like. Getting each other back for
36:34
coffee or stuff like that. I feel like that's lame.
36:36
Sorry if you I mean. Yeah, I don't.
36:39
I don't expect to be reciprocated.
36:42
So if you're a guy expecting it to be returned all the time,
36:46
then you're kind of a bitch. OK, well, all right.
36:50
The same. And OK this is the last 1 I
36:54
actually have two more. So liking other girls photos or
36:59
me liking other guys photos? Well, I don't care what you
37:02
like, that's really. Usually like actors and stuff
37:06
like that. I know I'm like.
37:08
I'm a big TV fan, big movie fan, big reality fan, like, but I
37:16
don't really like like people that we know their photos.
37:20
I'll like, I'll like, like our friends, you know, our mutual
37:23
friends photos. But if it's like a thirst trap,
37:26
obviously I ain't going to fucking like it.
37:28
So it's no offense, I support you, but hey, I'm not liking it
37:33
because you're getting into that shit.
37:34
Show no. OK, all right, So what about
37:40
having a working wife? As you guys know, I'm trying to
37:44
be a stay at home mom. So you know, I'm just planting
37:48
the seed. Planting the seed.
37:53
Don't you want to make me a stay at home mom?
37:56
I. Want to be a stay at home dad?
37:57
What are you talking about? When is this going to blow up?
38:01
True. So subscribe, like and comment
38:04
and share. But anyway, so this just brings
38:07
us basically to the end. Randy, you have survived an
38:11
episode of Mom Gone Mild. Congratulations.
38:14
You can now go back to being a producer editor.
38:20
But it wasn't that bad, was it? No, not at all.
38:24
This was pretty easy and yeah, you made it comfortable as your
38:27
guest typically said so. Yes, that is my number one, kind
38:32
of like I guess. Oh my God, it's a trait.
38:35
Is that a trait or a compliment or whatever the hell it's called
38:39
is? So we went from, you know, being
38:41
friends to being like, you know, in a relationship to getting
38:47
married to having Axel. And I just can't wait to see
38:51
what the feature holds for us. And I'm just excited and I love
38:55
you and I appreciate you being here.
38:58
You are doing awesome with this show by the way.
39:01
I'm so, so proud. To me and my 50 subscribers.
39:05
I'm so proud of you. I love you.
39:07
You're doing a great job. All right, last question, when
39:11
are you to make me a stay at home mom?
39:12
No, I'm just kidding. But but I love you and thank you
39:17
so much. And yeah, so this has been mom
39:20
gone mild and you guys please, please, please subscribe, like,
39:25
comment, go back, binge episodes.
39:28
One, I think I'm at 20 or something like that.
39:31
I don't really remember. Listen to episode 2 because that
39:34
one I want as a video that is. Oh my gosh, I.
39:37
Know still my favorite story. Like I could actually see that
39:41
as an animation. I know, like I feel like I have
39:44
to rerecord that somehow because that was like my favorite
39:47
episode. I say it a lot.
39:48
Like it was my favorite episode, but that was just so crazy
39:52
because I did start this as Mom Gone Mild because I used to be
39:55
wild. So if you guys want to hear some
39:57
crazy stories, go back to like early episodes.
40:01
But yeah, thank you so much for being here and love you.
40:07
Alright guys, that was Mom Gone Mild and.
40:11
Actually, this one, I think I'm going to title it Mom and Dad
40:14
gone mild. So I had so much fun with my
40:16
husband and I'm so thankful that he wanted to come on or he let
40:22
me force him to come on, whichever one anyways, so please
40:26
go back and watch all my previous episodes and have an
40:31
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