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How to Build a Healthy, Compassionate Relationship With Yourself · Stacked Intent: Your Guide to Authentic, Intentional Living

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  SPEAKER_00: Hello, my name is Becca Stackhouse Morton, and I am ready for you to tune in each episode to hear ways to become you.
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  SPEAKER_00: Looking at ways you can be your authentic and intentional self, you'll finish each episode motivated to live life more authentically.
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  SPEAKER_00: I learned how to be truly me through relationships, chronic disease, finances, and taking each journey along the way.
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  SPEAKER_00: Talk about the real aspects of life?
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  SPEAKER_00: Of course.
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  SPEAKER_00: Relationships, finance, nutrition, hardships, exercise are all topics that we will discuss.
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  SPEAKER_00: Pull up a seat, drive safely down the road, or get into that workout groove to be challenged, motivated, and encouraged to be you.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is the Stacked Intent Podcast.
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  SPEAKER_00: Hello and welcome up to our next episode of Stacked Intent.
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  SPEAKER_00: Let's talk a little bit about healthy self-relationships.
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  SPEAKER_00: So when you first think of that simple word relationships, what is that first thing that comes to mind?
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  SPEAKER_00: A lot of times when I have asked this question to participants in my programs or just to people across or friends, a lot of times that first thing that comes to your mind is a romantic relationship.
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  SPEAKER_00: But you really have to look at this in a different way than just a relationship like that, just so that it's not just romantic.
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  SPEAKER_00: It is your relationship with yourself, it's the relationship you've got with food, finances, it's the relationship you have with your sister, your brother, your aunts, uncles, family, parents, coworkers.
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  SPEAKER_00: A relationship is one of those things that applies in so many aspects of our life.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so this is a way that we understand, talk about it, and we're responsive to ourselves, but we're also responsive to those needs.
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  SPEAKER_00: And it may come through what our mood is, our mindset is, or even what our behavior is.
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  SPEAKER_00: A lot of times, how many of us think that self-relationship is that funny concept?
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  SPEAKER_00: But this is really important because once you learn the ins and outs of yourself, you are able to be that more intentional and authentic you.
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  SPEAKER_00: So, did you know that relationship with yourself also affects what your self-esteem is?
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  SPEAKER_00: So you want to embrace it, strengthen it, find opportunities to strengthen it.
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  SPEAKER_00: So it's looking at how do you feel about yourself?
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  SPEAKER_00: How do you treat yourself?
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  SPEAKER_00: How do you make decisions for yourself?
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  SPEAKER_00: A self-relationship is something that sometimes, if it's negative, it can hold us back from a goal.
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  SPEAKER_00: Have you ever had a goal that you are the one that held yourself from it?
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  SPEAKER_00: So this might be because negative relationship with ourselves, it causes us to stop thinking, trying, or pursuing what our dream or a goal is that we have.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is something that impacts what our mental health is.
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  SPEAKER_00: It can increase our stress, it can increase our anxiety, our social anxiety, or it can even increase your depression.
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  SPEAKER_00: When we talk about a healthy self-relationship, here are a couple of tips of ways that you can kind of look at your healthy relationship and see what you can do with them.
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  SPEAKER_00: So it's checking in with yourself.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's checking in to see if you're honest.
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  SPEAKER_00: Take a moment to see how do you feel?
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  SPEAKER_00: Are you being yourself?
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  SPEAKER_00: Are you being authentic?
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  SPEAKER_00: Are you thinking about you?
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  SPEAKER_00: Validating your own feelings.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's okay to have feelings, but you want to do this without judgment on yourself.
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  SPEAKER_00: How many of you are the hardest judgment on your own self?
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  SPEAKER_00: It's also remembering that it's okay for you to say no.
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  SPEAKER_00: No might be difficult, but it's setting some things up so that you're okay to say no.
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  SPEAKER_00: No, that doesn't align with my goals right now.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now, no, that doesn't fit into what I'm working on.
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  SPEAKER_00: It doesn't matter who it comes from.
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  SPEAKER_00: It can come from your friends or your family.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's okay to say no.
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  SPEAKER_00: Making time for yourself and enjoying those things that you do.
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  SPEAKER_00: So, what would you do for two hours?
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  SPEAKER_00: What would you do for a whole day by yourself?
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  SPEAKER_00: It's looking at what boundaries look like that are set for you and you stick to them.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's holding yourself accountable for your boundaries, reminding yourself that it's not too selfish to take care of you.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's also looking at journaling, jotting out the ins and outs of your thoughts with an ebb and flow of writing that list or that journal entry or your big accomplishment for the day.
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  SPEAKER_00: Find a way so that you really start to learn who you are.
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  SPEAKER_00: Then if a therapist is needed for you, or you'd like to have one help you, challenge you, give you new perspectives, research those out.
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  SPEAKER_00: Our physical well-being is another aspect that's really important to that healthy self.
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  SPEAKER_00: So that physical well-being, it's investment in yourself of your overall wellness, how you eat, how you have activity, how you sleep, healthy eating.
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  SPEAKER_00: We talk a lot about that on this podcast and our nutrition episodes of what healthy eating looks like.
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  SPEAKER_00: Physical activity.
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  SPEAKER_00: Did you know that it's important to get 150 minutes a week of moderate exercise at least?
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  SPEAKER_00: And then sleep.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you are older than 18, you need seven or more hours a night of sleep.
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  SPEAKER_00: So it's a healthy self-relationship.
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  SPEAKER_00: Look at some ways to take care of your own needs that make you feel great.
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  SPEAKER_00: What are some hobbies that you can enjoy doing alone?
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  SPEAKER_00: I like to do my workouts.
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  SPEAKER_00: Once I kind of figured out what my workout routine could be alone, I enjoy that time of accomplishing a healthy routine for myself.
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  SPEAKER_00: I also love binging on really bad TV shows or movies that are cheesy and you already know the outcome, but I like doing it alone sometimes because I don't like other people's commentary on it.
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  SPEAKER_00: What's something you like to do alone?
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  SPEAKER_00: Or another hobby.
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  SPEAKER_00: I do enjoy my jujitsu, and I'll walk in a room even when I don't necessarily know people.
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  SPEAKER_00: Those are some of my hobbies I enjoy.
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  SPEAKER_00: What's an activity that you can do with others that make you feel good?
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  SPEAKER_00: Jiu Jitsu is one I do with others too.
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  SPEAKER_00: I also love to go out on our boat with my family and our friends.
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  SPEAKER_00: There's lots of things that we're able to do together.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I would challenge you in this episode from this relationship, some quick tips on how to have that healthy relationship with yourself.
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  SPEAKER_00: I challenge you guys to take a minute and plan a two-hour date or a whole day date with just yourself.
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  SPEAKER_00: What is something you will do?
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  SPEAKER_00: And when you do it, share it with us by tagging us on your social media platform at Stacked Intent.
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  SPEAKER_00: Guys, I've enjoyed talking to you about kind of look at a relationship as more than just a romantic one.
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  SPEAKER_00: Look at it as an overall thing that is so important for your concept and aspects in life.
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  SPEAKER_00: Thanks for joining me this week on Stacked Intent.
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  SPEAKER_00: That brings us to the end of this episode of Stacked Intent.
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  SPEAKER_00: New episodes are going to be dropped on Thursdays.
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  SPEAKER_00: Until then, this is Becca, and don't forget, enrich your life by being intentional.
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  SPEAKER_00: This podcast was created, produced, recorded, and edited by Stacked Intent.