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When Temptation Knocks: A Job Offer, Two Exes, and a Family to Protect🥴 · She Rises with Ashy & Tijana

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  Speaker 1: Apologie Production.
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  Speaker 2: Welcome to She Rises, Pretty Friday, Secrets, Horror Scandal, Mysterios Wild.
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  Speaker 1: Thanks for joining us today. We've got a big episode, well,
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  Speaker 1: a long story this one. When I read this one,
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  Speaker 1: I was like, oh, dear girl is intrrouble Girl is
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  Speaker 1: in trouble. Girl is a look at a lot of things.
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  Speaker 1: Stephanie and Tatiana I hear hosting today's episode. This is
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  Speaker 1: an anonymous submission, so we have no idea who's written
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  Speaker 1: this in. But let's get into it and we'll give
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  Speaker 1: our two cents. I'm asked for two cents, Okay, well
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  Speaker 1: it was asked for. Yeah, technically it is. You're going
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  Speaker 1: to get the spice, all right. I have a partner
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  Speaker 1: and two children. My relationship with my partner has been
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  Speaker 1: very rocky and we have discussed breaking up. However, he
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  Speaker 1: doesn't want to end the relationship and said it would
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  Speaker 1: be up to me to decide. I've been offered a
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  Speaker 1: fly in fly out job and when I was flying
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  Speaker 1: to the interview, my ex of three years was on
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  Speaker 1: the plane and happened to work on the same site
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  Speaker 1: that I was interviewing at. We had broken up simply
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  Speaker 1: for the fact that I wanted to move close to
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  Speaker 1: my family and he didn't. We thought it was best
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  Speaker 1: to end it. I noticed him when I was walking
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  Speaker 1: to the toilet when we got off the plane. We
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  Speaker 1: got chatting and he asked me on a date. I
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  Speaker 1: told him I have a new partner and children. To him, now,
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  Speaker 1: this next past seems almost unbelievable. I went to the site,
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  Speaker 1: I did the interview, and when I was finished, I
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  Speaker 1: had a tour of the site, including the kitchen area,
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  Speaker 1: Jim Cabins office areas and pool. As we were walking
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  Speaker 1: past the pool, a man was walking towards us with
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  Speaker 1: only a towel on and he had just got an
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  Speaker 1: out of the pool. As he walked closer, he said
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  Speaker 1: my name. I turned around and there was one of
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  Speaker 1: my exes of ten years walking towards me. Another one
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  Speaker 1: another one the second X stop it. We had a
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  Speaker 1: quick chat and he asked if I was seeing anyone
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  Speaker 1: and that we should go on a date. And when
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  Speaker 1: we were both back in the city where we were from,
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  Speaker 1: I quickly told him I had a partner and children
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  Speaker 1: and that would not be possible. Commodity good girl. The
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  Speaker 1: following day, I was made an offer to work on
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  Speaker 1: the site, and the salary is three times what I
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  Speaker 1: currently earn. I want to take the job as we
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  Speaker 1: desperately are in need of more money to survive. However,
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  Speaker 1: I am scared. I'll give two temptation to one of
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  Speaker 1: the two ex's of mine that are on the site,
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  Speaker 1: or I will be doing a two week on and
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  Speaker 1: one week off roster. Yeap, what would you do? You're
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  Speaker 1: in travel gal. If you think you're going to be tempted,
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  Speaker 1: you're one hundred percent going to be tempted, and I
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  Speaker 1: think you're going to go there.
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  Speaker 2: Oh well, the fact that you're saying that you think
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  Speaker 2: that you're going to be tempted and you haven't even
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  Speaker 2: gone yet, like you already know where your head is at.
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  Speaker 2: And also you said in the beginning that the foundation
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  Speaker 2: of your current relationship is.
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  Speaker 1: Rocky and he doesn't want to split up, but it
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  Speaker 1: sounds like you do. He even said, I'll leave it
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  Speaker 1: up to you.
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  Speaker 2: There's cracks in your relationship, yeah, Like for him to
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  Speaker 2: be so blase about like leaving and breaking up, like
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  Speaker 2: there's something not right, And the fact that.
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  Speaker 1: She's already said that though, like he doesn't want to
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  Speaker 1: end the relationship, but they've discussed breaking up, so they
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  Speaker 1: know there's big cracks. Yeah, I think you need to
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  Speaker 1: you big girl pants on and the relationship. Yeah, agree,
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  Speaker 1: all in. We spoke with this a little while ago.
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  Speaker 1: I just feel so ton of visual with Steve. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: I don't have the wandering eye. If you have got
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  Speaker 1: a wondering eye and looking at your ex's like that
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  Speaker 1: and you're worried about temptation, yeah, I feel like you're
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  Speaker 1: tapped out already or you're emotionally not all in and
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  Speaker 1: he deserves and you deserve to be with someone that's
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  Speaker 1: all in. Agreed. Your poor husband, I just think you
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  Speaker 1: need to set him free.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, and also yourself as well.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, you've got a decision and a choice.
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  Speaker 2: Now.
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  Speaker 1: It will hurt to break up the relationship because he
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  Speaker 1: doesn't want it to, but it will hurt ten times
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  Speaker 1: more if you betray him and cheat on him with
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  Speaker 1: an X. Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: And also as well, that shows as well, like if
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  Speaker 2: you're tempted by your ex, if I saw my ex now,
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  Speaker 2: I would not be tempted.
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  Speaker 1: Oh my god, you know what I mean. So it's
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  Speaker 1: like it's paying attention awkward. Yeah, okay, you haven't seen
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  Speaker 1: your nabors.
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  Speaker 2: You know, have you doing well, like you know, because
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  Speaker 2: you have love, like the love never goes away. You
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  Speaker 2: still have that for them, and you still have the
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  Speaker 2: respect and all the things. But not to the point
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  Speaker 2: where you're like, I'm going to go back there.
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  Speaker 1: You know, it's a very different feelings.
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  Speaker 2: So yeah, I mean, definitely have something to look at
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  Speaker 2: in terms of before you make the decision to take
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  Speaker 2: the job, look at your relationship first.
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  Speaker 1: Make the decision there.
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  Speaker 2: Decide you're either in or you're out, like there's no
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  Speaker 2: in between.
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  Speaker 1: No, And if you take this job and you would
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  Speaker 1: to cheat on him, just put yourself in that situation
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  Speaker 1: of how shit you're gonna feel if you feel so
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  Speaker 1: guilty there's children involving you and your kids looking on
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  Speaker 1: mum cheated on dad. Yeah, Like it's not the wrong
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  Speaker 1: model you want to be. I know you wouldn't feel
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  Speaker 1: good doing that. I almost guarantee it asn't align with
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  Speaker 1: your values as to who the person you are, the
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  Speaker 1: woman you are, and you don't do that to your
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  Speaker 1: partner now.
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  Speaker 2: And you know what as well, if you want to
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  Speaker 2: go and be with other people, there's nothing wrong with that,
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  Speaker 2: but make the decision to disconnect from this person first
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  Speaker 2: on your partner, because at least that way you can
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  Speaker 2: keep your integrity intact. You won't have to go through
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  Speaker 2: the motions of feeling the guilt and shame of being
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  Speaker 2: someone who is unfaithful, disloyal, deceitful in all of those things,
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  Speaker 2: and you'll actually be able to go with a clean
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  Speaker 2: slate and a clean break. This is what I am
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  Speaker 2: now choosing. You have to make the hard decision first
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  Speaker 2: before you get to have that.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, we are totally in all support of making sure
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  Speaker 1: that all if your emotional, physical desires and needs are
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  Speaker 1: getting men If they're not getting met in this relationship,
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  Speaker 1: you have all rights to honor yourself and what you
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  Speaker 1: want in this relationship one hundred percent. You just don't
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  Speaker 1: have to hurt your husband in the process by being
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  Speaker 1: deceitful and betraying his trust, breaking his heart. Yeah, through
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  Speaker 1: having a one night cheating, yelling, or more.
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  Speaker 2: Honestly, though, what are the odds if you're having to
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  Speaker 2: oh same your workplace.
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  Speaker 1: I can't believe that it's crazy. That's like unheard of.
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  Speaker 1: And for the job and for the job to be
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  Speaker 1: three times the amount that you're making now, like you're
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  Speaker 1: going to take the job, and then how does that work?
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  Speaker 1: I'm so curious. I mean, this is so generalized, but
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  Speaker 1: I suppose I've only known men to do the fly
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  Speaker 1: and fly out. So just two weeks away one week home,
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  Speaker 1: that'd be really hard for a mom, I feel, And yeah,
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  Speaker 1: you have children, Yeah, I wonder what that would look like.
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  Speaker 1: And then I'm guessing, yeah, dud just has them while
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  Speaker 1: you're away and then you come back, soppos, when they
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  Speaker 1: come back, they get a full week to be fully
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  Speaker 1: fully present. We would love love, love love if you're
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  Speaker 1: open to it. And update are you staying? Are you
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  Speaker 1: taking the job? Are you going to work things out
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  Speaker 1: with the part? Because that's the thing too, Like, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: he wants to say in the relationship, is there any
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  Speaker 1: part of you that wants to work it out? Have
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  Speaker 1: you guys got counseling? Have you discussed what that may
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  Speaker 1: look like? Is it any part of you that wants
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  Speaker 1: to stay? And you tapped out?
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  Speaker 2: And then also with the exes, like is there still
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  Speaker 2: feelings there?
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  Speaker 1: Do you want to be there?
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  Speaker 2: Because like for you to be intimately tempted by them,
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  Speaker 2: there's got to be something there is just.
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  Speaker 1: Good sex or is this feelings there? But after what
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  Speaker 1: was it, ten years, surely there's not still feelings there.
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  Speaker 2: And I'm telling you right now, I'm definitely not tempted
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  Speaker 2: by my exes of ten years.
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  Speaker 1: No way, it's a hard no. So it must have
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  Speaker 1: been maybe a sexual attractions described him walking out of
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  Speaker 1: the pool. I'm guessing this hot guy fixed pack. He's
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  Speaker 1: dripping wet in aw.
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  Speaker 2: Wow, you know what that Maybe there's a lack of
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  Speaker 2: intimacy there in the original one.
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  Speaker 1: I think definitely there is very rocky. If you're very rocky,
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  Speaker 1: you're not normally are beautiful intimate few times together? Yeahs nay.
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  Speaker 1: You'd love to hear from you, Yes, thank you for
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  Speaker 1: writing this in good luck and we'd love to hearing
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  Speaker 1: up to Yeah, bring it in.
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  Speaker 2: And anyone who has any stories. Honestly, it doesn't have
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  Speaker 2: to be in just one category. It doesn't have to
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  Speaker 2: do sexual. It doesn't have to be scary, spooky. It
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  Speaker 2: can be anything that you want. It could be a
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  Speaker 2: struggle that you're dealing with in a workplace. It could
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  Speaker 2: be a relationship that you had with a.
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  Speaker 1: Boss, or crazy story to parties.
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  Speaker 2: Something that you think is like so like out of
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  Speaker 2: this world, and.
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  Speaker 1: It just feels you're only seen in movies.
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  Speaker 2: we want to give you our most unfiltered advice on it.
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