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125. A Survivor · Your Enriched Self

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  So back in two thousand, there was a show called Survivor that aired on
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  CBS, and I was obsessed. And it was a family obsession because every
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  Thursday night it was a must see TV night, where my husband and I
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  would go to his mother's house and we were all obsessed together. We had
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  a Survivor menu, We were in community about this show. We had our
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  favorite contestants, We did the whole thing. It was a family affair.
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  I don't regret it. I loved it. I loved every minute of those
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  memories that we had. Now, what's cool about Survivor. I want to
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  say it was one of the first reality shows sort of. But what's interesting
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  about this reality show is these contestants weren't allowed to take a whole lot with
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  them. I believe they had like two handheld items that they were allowed to
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  take into the camp and nothing more. And these were more like emotional items
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  such as like family photos or jewelry or something that was meaningful to them.
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  It was really no hygiene products. A lot of those things were just not
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  part of the experience on the show. Nevertheless, I think about how so
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  many of us are survivors right here right now in the year that you're in.
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  In the many years that you've lived on this earth, you have been
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  surviving. Now I have a question for you. What if you had a
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  cheat sheet and you knew you were going to be a cast away, much
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  like these contestants on the show Survivor, But in this Survivor scenario, you
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  were allowed to bring whatever you wanted, as much as you can carry.
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  Because there were no ubers, there was no public transportation. These people were
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  literally just walking the island and literally finding means to survive, things to eat,
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  things to drink, all of the things. Whatever it took to survive
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  was their role and responsibility as a contestant on the show. But what if
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  you, unlike these contestants, were allowed to bring whatever it is you want,
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  but you would have to bear the load of it. What would you
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  pick? What would you strategically choose to carry with you into this new scenario,
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  into this survival land. And I want you to think about that as
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  you march out of twenty twenty three and march into twenty twenty four. You
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  already know you're going into a new year. You know some of the lessons
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  you learned in twenty twenty three, So what are you going to bring into
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  twenty four Are you going to bring some baggage that you have to carry around
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  all year or are you willing to put some things down to pick up some
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  new things. Hello, my friends from all across the globe and welcome to
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  the Urine rid Self Podcast. I am your host, my Lee Noir.
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  I am a mindset coach and your mindset advocate. And what that means is
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  I am here for you. I want you to become more of your rich
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  self, and so I know it's going to start from within. And your
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  mind is the beginning of everything. It's the beginning of the things and the
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  ideas and the innovation and the insights and all of the things that you are
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  going to produce while you're here on this earth. It all starts with your
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  mind making a decision and being consistent and in doing so. On this podcast,
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  I explore with you mindset fusion topics, self care, soul care,
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  intentional thinking, because we all know that your words are inspired by your thoughts,
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  and your thoughts dictate the action and the activity that you will do as
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  you are out in the world. And if I know you and you're listening
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  to this podcast, you want to be the best version of yourself, and
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  so that's what we do each and every week. I help to facilitate these
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  conversations with you so that you can become more of your enrich self. And
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  so if you are new to this podcast, I want to welcome you.
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  I want to thank you for being here. And if you are a repeat
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  listener, you have been on this sho journey with me. Whether you started
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  in the beginning or you jumped in in the middle, I want to thank
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  you for being here all these weeks. We are episode one hundred and twenty
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  five, I believe, and we are doing this thing together. Thank you
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  for being on this journey to be the best version of you. Now,
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  before we get into this week's episode, if you know, you know,
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  before I get started, I make a deposit into the bank of you,
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  and I do that by way of affirmations. Affirmations are a great way to
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  start your day and to command your morning. And this week's affirmation is failing
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  means that I'm learning. Failing means that I'm learning. Failing means that I'm
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  learning. Now, let's get ready for this week's episode of Your Enriched Self
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  podcast. I think it's safe to say that one of the experiences of her
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  survivor is an experience of failure. And for all of you listening out there,
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  I know that there were points in this twenty twenty three where you had
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  some challenges and some of those challenges sat you down, kept you back,
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  put you on pause, made you sit still for a minute. And for
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  some of us who like to go and get into this grind world that we
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  are and have been assimilated to, we feel like we've been a failure.
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  And then there are things we just flat out failed at. We were learning,
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  we were trying, and it wasn't the outcome we wished it would be.
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  And that's all failure is. You have an expected outcome, but what
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  you expect is not the result. That's what failure is. It doesn't mean
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  you did anything wrong. You are literally trying and in trial and error in
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  your life unless you didn't know that. That's the fact of life and the
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  fact of your life. So stop making failure fatal. Stop making failure a
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  fault and a default to why you won't do something, because a lot of
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  you are hiding in the shadows of not wanting to fail by not doing,
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  not trying not putting yourself out there. That can't be how you do your
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  next year. You're going to build some things from failure. You get to
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  build resilience and you become durable when you deal with stressful situations, and these
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  things make you a survivor. You learn to adopt and to quickly navigate through
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  life. After having gone through these failures, you learn to be a better
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  survivor. That's what happens. You get better at failing, you get better
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  at surviving out here in these streets. When the adversity comes, you're not
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  going to shy away from it. You're going to go into it. And
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  there are several names for people that we call survivors. Maybe people have said
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  this to you. You're a trooper. You're a fighter, You're a hero.
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  You are a winner, you're a champion. You are a conqueror.
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  You are a victor, and you are an overcomer. Have you ever thought
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  of yourself as a conqueror? You know, describe yourself in a different way.
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  You were a big in twenty twenty three. There were some really challenging,
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  complicated things that only you could figure out. People came to you for
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  it. You knew how to navigate it even though you had never done it
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  before, and you came out on the other side. Give yourself a round
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  of applause. Give yourself some credit. If I know you and you're listening
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  to this, you don't want to give yourself credit because it didn't look the
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  way you expected to look. You wanted to come out of this thing shiny
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  and beautiful and sparkling, and you came out sweating and drippy and messy.
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  Welcome to survivorhood, Welcome to being a winner and a champion. If you've
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  seen your favorite sports team play, when they come out with that, do
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  w even if it's one point ahead of the other team. It's not a
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  p pretty journey. There were some ups and downs. There were some fouls,
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  there were some points that shouldn't have been scored, there were some turnovers.
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  There were all kinds of messiness in that game. But the result was
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  a win. And I know that you probably scraped and you crawled, but
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  you did it. So take a moment, okay, and give yourself credit
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  for the w We like to claim the losses. You know, I took
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  an l on this, and I took another loss on that. And when
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  you get the W because it's not a pretty W and you didn't score like
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  thirty points ahead of the team or thirty points ahead of the last time you
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  did the thing. You doubt yourself and you dig yourself and you start to
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  damage yourself. And now you have scars and now you have baggage. What
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  are you gonna do with it? Are you telling me that you're gonna take
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  that into a new space? You are a champion. I want you to
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  recognize who you are. We've taken on identities of so many things that we've
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  allowed culture to tell us that we are, that we've allowed other people to
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  tell us who we are, and we're not recognizing our own strength. We're
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  not recognizing that we are literally crafting our story. I don't know if you
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  know this, but you just wrote a book. You got how many days
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  left in the year, like ten days something like that before you finish the
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  chapter of twenty twenty three. Whether you know it or not, you have
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  I've navigated this year moment by moment, hour by hour, day by day,
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  week by week, month by month, and here we are in this
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  last ten days of the month. Every day you took a step into action
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  or you didn't take any action. Every day you were disciplined or you were
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  undisciplined. There were days where you took winds, and there were days that
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  you took some losses. There were days that were up and there were days
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  that were down. There were highs and lows, and joys and pains,
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  and sunshine and dark clouds. You did it all. Congratulations, you lived,
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  you thrived, You survived twenty twenty three. And guess what get to
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  do this? Moment by moment, minute by minute, hour by hour,
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  the whole nine yards with a fresh new year ahead of you. How do
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  you want twenty twenty four to end? What do you want to look back
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  on as your greatest accomplishments. I'm gonna pause for a minute because this might
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  be a good time to write down some questions that you need to be asking
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  yourself and providing yourself sort of a roadmap on how you're gonna get to where
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  you want to go. I'm going to repeat the first two questions because I
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  got a few more for you, So again, you want to write these
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  down. How do you want twenty twenty four to end? What do you
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  want to look back on as your greatest accomplishments? If you could define your
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  greatest accomplishment in twenty twenty four was what are you gonna write down? What
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  lessons are you finally willing to learn? In twenty twenty four? You know
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  I'm asking you that question because if I know you, you've been taking this
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  same class of life every single year, showing up late to the class.
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  You don't want to take notes because you think you know it all. You
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  are a repeating student, have to retake this class in order to graduate to
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  the next one. You got to repeat this class in twenty twenty four?
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  What lessons are you willing to learn? Because you know how life goes.
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  Until you learn that lesson, you're gonna be asked to relearn the lesson again.
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  So what lessons are you finally willing to learn? In this new year?
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  How will you change your daily routine to win? When you think back
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  on how you want to finish the year, how will you change your daily
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  routine to win? Are you in a community or are you in community that's
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  conducive to your win? Are you setting yourself up in a right environment with
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  the right circles of people for your win? Think about again, your favorite
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  team, maybe your favorite player and We've seen players like Lebron James in the
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  NBA and many of players in the NBA, NFL wherever that have left teams
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  to go with a franchise that has the best opportunity to win, so they
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  can win a championship. Everybody wants to be in an environment to win.
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  Are you in the right community that's conducive to a win? How will you
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  handle losses? Because again we talked about the joys, the pains, the
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  ups, the downs, there are going to be moments where you take a
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  loss. How do you handle yourself in those moments. The thing about it
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  is you have the power to learn from your past. I want you to
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  think of twenty twenty three that your superpower is everything you went through. Think
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  about your superpower, and it's going to be individual for you, because what
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  my superpower is and what your superpower is are too different. We have a
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  different signature on our unique individual superpower. So your superpower is that you get
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  to learn from your past. And here's the thing about your past. You're
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  the only one that's gone through with and even though there are people that were
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  maybe in the same space, think about like your siblings, right, like
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  we all grew up in the same household, we have the same parents,
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  we ate the same food, blah blah blah, but we all had a
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  different past because we all had a different perspective, because we had a different
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  point of view, because we had a different understanding, a different level of
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  maturity, a different level of emotional intelligence. That would make how we experience
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  that past uniquely different. So your superpower is all the things you learned,
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  which is going to be different from how I learned it and how I received
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  it. So trust your power. Know you have power. I want you
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  to have a proactive approach to your personal development, as you know from this
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  podcast. That's what this is all about. Being the best being you can
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  be, and that's going to require some development of that being. That's going
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  to encompass setting goals for yourself. I know it seems cliche. It's like,
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  oh, start a new year, gets your goals. You gotta do
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  it. There are things you want to accomplish. You're not going to accomplish
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  them by just thinking about them. Got to set goals so you can get
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  to that thing. Another way that you're going to be proactive is to embrace
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  and cultivate positivity and That's why I always talk about the gratitude hack. Nothing
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  new comes into your life until you are grateful for what you have. Now.
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  There's too much murmuring and complaining about how things should be, or how
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  things could be, or how things were. What about what you have?
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  The fact that you have life and you are here and you survived. That
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  should count for something. You have lessons that are now your superpower to help
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  you show up in power. That should count for something. Engage, embrace
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  new opportunities. Some of my best experiences in twenty twenty three and even the
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  years Last year twenty twenty two, when I did my first Woman's event,
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  it was embracing something new. This year, I worked on a project that
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  I was completely foreign to. You might as well have put me in the
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  Ukraine and left me there with no translator, no person helping me navigate my
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  way through. I learned from just a ground up, from asking questions,
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  from being vulnerable, literally embracing a new opportunity, and that opportunity has brought
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  me so much pain, but a lot of joy, a lot of downs
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  and so much ups. Like That's what it did for me, and you
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  too will have the same thing. But it starts with embracing it. It
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  starts with saying yes. And you know me, I'm a good boundary person.
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  I'm working on my boundary queendom right now. But there are some things
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  you should say yes to, especially if it's going to help to cultivate,
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  especially if it's going to help cultivate the inner you. Because if you're working
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  from within, you're gonna win on the outside. And I found me some
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  wins this year because of opportunities like that. The next big thing I'll just
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  say to wrap this up is to live with intention, act with intention,
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  Speak with intention. I know sometimes we say things that we don't mean,
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  but you can speak with intention by apologizing when you say something that was out
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  of pocket that you should not have said. Right. I will say,
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  in the last several years, and my husband can attest to this, I
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  was it was hard for me to apologize. It was hard for me to
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  acknowledge my flaws. Yes, I have flaws. It was hard for me
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  to acknowledge that. And as I am living with intention, I recognize that
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  I'm going to miss the mark sometimes and that's okay. I'm not going to
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  chastise myself for it. I'm not going to shame myself over it, but
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  I can make corrections from it, and I have been intentional about that.
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  So actuid intention, Speak with intention, Grow with intention, show up with
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  intention. However, you need to show up in your spiritual life, in
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  your physical life, in your financial life, in your educational life. There's
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  so many lives you're living in this one being, and you have to show
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  up with intention in these lives so that you can be the best version of
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  you, So that you can become the best version of you. All I
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  know is this, you are in a position to rewrite your story. Not
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  every year, not every month, not every quarter, but every day,
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  every day. And what that tells me is that every day you have a
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  chance for a renewed approach to your life. And with that you'll get progress.
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  You'll be progressing through life, not perfect, but you'll have progression.
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  Not perfect, but you'll be progressive and progress sing but that perfect, And
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  that's okay. This journey is continuous, and if you approach it this way
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  and you embrace it in such a way, you're gonna enjoy this journey.
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  And that's what it is. Fine, joy on the journey. It's a
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  continuous journey. Of self development and self improvement and the good news is you
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  get to write it. I hope you enjoyed this week's episode of the Urine
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  notes. In the show notes, we have the affirmation of the week,
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  and sixty eight hours so that you can become more of your enriched self until
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