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Episode 603: Why Moving On Attracts An Ex · The Art of Love With Lucia

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  Hi, this is the chian with the art of love.
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  I'm a dating and relationship. Experts specializing in helping
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  you get your ex back or to get over your ex this week.
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  I want to talk about why moving on attracts an X.
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  Now, I know when you saw the title, you may have freaked out
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  a bit and thought I don't want to move on.
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  Don't worry, you don't actually have to move on.
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  You can appear as if you moved on.
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  Remember what I said in last week's video, which if you saw
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  it if you were a good little soldier then you may remember, I
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  said fake it till you make it. So if you haven't really moved
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  on or don't want to, it's okay, you don't have to as long as
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  your ex thinks that you have All is fair in Love and War, okay?
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  But first, I want to welcome back, my no contact Army and
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  remind you that my app silencio to help you.
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  Go to no contact secrets.com, and you can read to fee chapters
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  before you purchase the book. So stay tuned till the end,
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  because I will tell you how to move on or how to make it seem
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  as if you moved on correctly. There's a right way to do it.
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  Do it and a wrong way to do it. Don't do it the wrong way, it's
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  going to backfire, okay? So the first reason why moving
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  on the tracks and X is because people want what they can't have
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  and it would appear that we're born this way.
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  Because when you think of little kids playing, I'm sure you've
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  seen it. If you've had kids or if you
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  were a kid. You know, kid a has a toy kid
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  becomes along those. I want to play with that and
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  Kitty goes. No it's mine.
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  I'm playing with it. No, I want it.
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  No, I want it and a fight ensues and this becomes a teachable
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  moment for the mother or the parent and the teacher, or the
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  teacher saying. Now, this is what happens when
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  you want something that someone else has to ask.
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  Politely blah blah blah. So if we're that way is kids,
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  then why would we not be that way as adults?
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  So when your ex broke up with you they thought that they'd be
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  able to get you back in any time since you didn't break up with
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  them there for you didn't want the breakup.
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  However, when they see that you moved on that destroys their
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  illusion, that you will always be available and it's a wake-up
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  call. Now they can't have you because
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  someone else is playing with you, so to speak, ha, ha.
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  Okay, the next reason, Why moving on will attract your ex
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  is because by not chasing them after the break up, leaving them
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  alone and moving on or appearing to you.
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  Now, come across as high value when someone refuses to accept a
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  breakup and continues to reach out to Annex the unspoken
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  message. They're sending is that they are
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  not whole without the dumper and they can't live without them.
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  A you. That's not a message you want to
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  send even if right now is true, okay, don't do that.
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  When you don't do that, you don't chase them, you leave them
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  alone and you move on with someone else.
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  It's a huge blow to their ego. They expected you to at least
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  contact them at some point or try to get them back and when
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  you don't you're sending the message that they're really not
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  that valuable to you because you were able to quietly move on to
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  someone else. So in essence, you've now
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  rejected them and as dating coach Vincent, Vos said
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  rejection, there's nothing more attractive Active than
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  rejection. And as I've said before it
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  rejection causes Obsession and as Da Club has said rejection
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  raises interest level. It's all about rejection,
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  rejection rejection, so your ex rejected you and look how
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  interested you are so if you turn the tables and make them
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  feel rejected, it's very possible their interest level
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  will go up. Also the third reason why moving
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  on attracts an ex is social proof, you've probably heard the
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  term before basically social proof means that Other people
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  aren't interested in a product or a person there for that
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  product, or person must be valuable since other people are
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  interested in it. So if you start going out on
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  dates, there's a very good chance.
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  It'll get back to your ex and they'll be curious what you're
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  up to. If they haven't heard from you
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  and then even assume that you're dating, so they'll be on the
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  lookout for that. They'll look at your social
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  media and try to find out from colleagues.
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  And they may think well, I'm single.
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  I haven't moved on but the person I dumped because I
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  thought I could do better now. Has someone else or several?
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  Someone else is interested in them.
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  Hmm. Maybe I made a mistake.
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  And here's a dark tactic, if you can date someone or appear to be
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  dating, someone who would make your ex jealous or insecure even
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  better. So if your ex was a guy and
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  let's say he was short and he had an issue with that, then you
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  would date someone tall. And if your ex was uncomfortable
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  with their body type, then you would date someone who has the
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  body type that they wanted to have.
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  This will definitely be a massive ego blow.
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  No wonder if you secretly wanted someone that was the opposite to
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  them all along. And maybe that's why you so
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  easily agree to the breakup and maybe that's why you so easily
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  moved on and maybe they made a mistake.
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  Oh no! Okay.
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  And the final reason why Moving on, will attract an ex is
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  because mystery is attractive. Everyone loves a good mystery,
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  right? So your ex thought they knew
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  you, they thought that they could predict how you were going
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  to behave after the breakup and now you're behaving
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  unpredictably you're being mysterious without even trying.
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  You're not contacting them, you're leaving them alone and
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  now you're moving on. Wow.
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  Do you ever even care about them in the first place?
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  Who does that? Who is this person?
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  Your ex wants to know and this mystery will raise their
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  interest level, which is what you're going to need to happen
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  if you want your ex to change their mind and wonder if the
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  breakup was a mistake. So, as I mentioned earlier, I
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  want to talk about, moving on correctly.
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  Now, what do I mean by that? Well, it means that you don't
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  make it look as if you moved on a week after the breakup because
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  they will accuse you of cheating or even a month is a bit too
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  soon, usually because they'll assume it's our Bound or again,
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  they may assume that you're cheating.
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  If you could be dating someone within a month, which is kind of
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  fast So you can actually be dating someone.
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  Hey, you could be dating someone the next day just don't let your
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  ex find out, okay until at least two months have passed and I
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  think that's a good amount of time because by then you've done
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  no contact for 60 days. So if they haven't tried to get
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  you back or to contact you then, hey what do they expect?
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  You're not going to sit around waiting forever.
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  And now you've moved on. So the plan is for this to light
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  a fire under them so that they will take some action because
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  now they know that if they don't contact you, when they've been
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  having doubts about the relationship that you may not be
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  available if they reach out, it's like a sail.
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  There's now a deadline, if you don't buy this item by Friday,
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  the price is going up. So if they don't contact, you
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  sooner, rather than later, the price of getting you back, will
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  actually go up in a sense. Now that they're going to have
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  To figuratively, fight it out with someone else, to get you
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  back and the degree of difficulty will be harder than
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  if you weren't dating someone. Okay, so to recap the reasons
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  why moving on will attract your ex people want what they can't
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  have. You come across as high value
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  social proof. Other people want you.
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  Therefore you must be valuable and find that mystery which
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  raises interest level. So now I want to hear from you.
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  Are you going to try this? Are you going to either move on
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  or appear to move on or maybe you've already done.
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  So let me know in the comments below and if you'd like my help
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  to get your ex back, you can contact me at the art of love
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  dotnet. The direct link is below will
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  send you the rates. And I can help you figure out
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  how to make it seem as if you moved on.
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  If you haven't really moved on, if you found this video helpful,
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  and finally remember that love inspires and powers uplifts and
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  enlightens.