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Ep 14: Why Growth Feels So Uncomfortable (And How to Keep Going Anyway) · Real Talk Real Healing

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  SPEAKER_01: Hey y'all, this is Desi.
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  SPEAKER_01: And this is Lisa.
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  SPEAKER_00: Welcome to our podcast, Real Talk Real Healing, where we support women through their healing journey.
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  SPEAKER_00: Through raw stories, authentic dialogue, and uncomfortable but very necessary conversations, we explore the full range of emotions, energetic, spirituality, and physical well-being that come with being human.
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  SPEAKER_01: We believe in a world filled with filters and surface-level messages.
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  SPEAKER_01: That healing begins with truth and a little bit of magic.
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  SPEAKER_00: Hey there, welcome back to another episode with Desi and Lisa.
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  SPEAKER_00: Today we're gonna be talking about the growth that rarely feels comfortable.
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  SPEAKER_00: In today's episode, we're gonna share what it looks like to say yes to the things that actually scare you.
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  SPEAKER_00: Trust yourself through the uncertainty and realize that expansion always asks something more of you.
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  SPEAKER_00: So why does it feel so uncomfortable to grow?
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  SPEAKER_00: Your comfort zone is that little area in between.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like I feel like it's like one of those like two circles, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: And then it's like what you want is here and where you're here.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then, like, you know, it's like that cut where you want to go is outside of that comfort zone.
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  SPEAKER_00: And it's going to feel uncomfortable.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I know Lisa and I wanted to do this episode today because we've been moving through some stuff.
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  SPEAKER_00: We've been expanding, we've been uh running events, we've been taking new courses, we've been doing so many new things in our lives, and it's been really, really pushing our edges.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so today we're gonna be diving into that.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so we want to say around the growth um is that it is going to feel uncomfortable, but it's so necessary, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: That it is part of the expansion.
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  SPEAKER_00: And if you think of like pregnancy, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: And like having a baby come out of a woman's womb, like that is uncomfortable.
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  SPEAKER_00: And one of the most beautiful things comes out of that womb, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: And so, like, there is so much beauty in the expansion, even though it is very uncomfortable.
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  SPEAKER_00: So your nervous system prefers what's familiar over what's possible.
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  SPEAKER_00: So it's gonna tell you to stay small.
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  SPEAKER_00: The ego is gonna be like, that's too hard.
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  SPEAKER_00: I can't do that.
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  SPEAKER_00: Why would we do something like that?
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm gonna give you a million and one reasons why you shouldn't invest in yourself.
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  SPEAKER_00: You shouldn't say yes to the mentor, you shouldn't, you know, X, Y, and Z because it's meant to keep you safe.
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  SPEAKER_00: But in keeping you safe, it's actually keeping you really small.
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  SPEAKER_00: Self-doubt often gets loud right before your next level, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Like, I don't know if I can do this, I don't know if I have the money, I don't know if I have the time, I don't know if I'm gonna get what I think I'm gonna get out of it, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: All those excuses start coming in and that doubt starts getting really loud right before the next level.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so the expansion isn't a sign that you're doing something wrong.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's really the sign that you're moving in the right direction.
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  SPEAKER_00: So one of uh the books that I really love, me and Lisa have both read it is the big leap.
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  SPEAKER_00: Who is it by?
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  SPEAKER_00: Gary something, I think.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, um, I have it around here somewhere.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, so the big leap, and it talks about your different upper limits.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like we we hit these points that are our upper limits that start to feel really uncomfortable.
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  SPEAKER_00: So it'll bring us back down because we're not actually we're, I guess essentially what talking our way out of it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Or how would you explain it, Lisa?
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  SPEAKER_01: I think, well, it's it's our mind.
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  SPEAKER_01: It's our mind just, you know, playing tricks on us, basically.
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  SPEAKER_01: Because when you're in your mind, when you're and as Tony Robins says, when you're in your head, you're dead.
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  SPEAKER_01: You know, you don't want to get into your head because solving anything from your head and from the logical space, because it's all based on your past memories and your your own experiences of life.
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  SPEAKER_01: So a lot of times it isn't evidence that's going to support your next level.
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  SPEAKER_01: So you have to get out of your head, you have to get into the heart space, you have to get into the space that connects you to what your vision is, to that that part of you that believes it's actually possible instead of your mind and your ego and the place that's just trying to protect you to keep you safe and stay small.
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  SPEAKER_01: So the big leap is by Gay Hendricks.
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  SPEAKER_01: Okay.
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  SPEAKER_01: I was like, and and the the thing that he does talk about is that he had a moment where he was ready to had a really big win in his business and he was celebrating.
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  SPEAKER_01: And then literally just a few minutes later, or like, you know, within the next half an hour after celebrating, his whole energy shifted because then all of a sudden he was thinking of his daughter or his kid being somewhere and and all of a sudden putting all of these experiences and thoughts onto them and getting so worried and caught up in, you know, that energy all of a sudden, instead of staying in this celebration, instead of just being in this expansion and being like, wow, I just accomplished that.
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  SPEAKER_01: I just can celebrate that.
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  SPEAKER_01: And so it really shifted because he had a conversation with the person, the like counselor or whoever that he talked to that was there and was like, you know, is she okay?
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  SPEAKER_01: And da-da-da.
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  SPEAKER_01: And she's like, it's normal for parents to feel this way, it's just because you miss her so much and you just want to check on her.
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  SPEAKER_01: Like she's fine, you know.
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  SPEAKER_01: And sometimes it's it's these things where we just get caught up in these stories.
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  SPEAKER_01: And that's why our mind is really just doesn't support us because it's trying to protect us.
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  SPEAKER_01: And so one thing he says in this book that I keep coming back to as well and and keep listening to is that he says, I want you like in the book as like a practice, is how can you spend every single day and just a couple extra moments of feeling good, of allowing yourself this expansion, allowing yourself this part of you to feel happy, to feel joy, to feel loved.
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  SPEAKER_01: You know, we we want these feelings.
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  SPEAKER_01: We we are always striving for these feelings, but a lot of times when you actually get there, we don't allow ourselves to fully feel it.
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  SPEAKER_01: Or it's not very long, right?
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  SPEAKER_01: And so this book is really gonna be supportive if you resonate with this, and it's just gonna really help you to get out of that comfort zone and to really allow you to expand because you need things that support the expansion, not diminish it and not keep you small.
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  SPEAKER_01: You gotta I lately a quote that keeps coming to me too is you know, when nothing changes, if nothing changes.
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  SPEAKER_01: So you gotta, you gotta get onto this, this part of you, and and it's usually identity, you know, uh death and stuff like that, where this identity and this version of you is pretty new a lot of times when you have a vision like we have.
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  SPEAKER_01: Like we can't carry our old life going into this new vision that is really big and and beautiful for us.
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  SPEAKER_01: Like we have to let go of parts of ourselves or habits or things that are not no longer going to serve us in that version of us, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
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  SPEAKER_01: Okay.
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  SPEAKER_01: So now we're gonna get into a couple of like personal things.
• 6:31
  SPEAKER_01: So as I just shared and and riffed on that, because it is something that I am really working through myself because I have been, you know, me and Desi have have learned our life coaching certificate back in 2019.
• 6:46
  SPEAKER_01: So like it's been quite a few years, and I have been on and off coaching for a while, and I I get new out modalities in my toolbox and I'm excited about them.
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  SPEAKER_01: And then I don't believe in myself to fully go all in on myself and to fully go all in on my business.
• 7:02
  SPEAKER_01: And so I'm finally like, I've had enough, I'm done with with doing this wishy-washiness, and so I'm listening to daily and being like, how can I become this version of myself?
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  SPEAKER_01: How can I create the frequency of attracting all these things, of becoming this version of myself that I know I'm meant to be, that I know actually expand me in new ways and feel really great and I'll finally achieve all these things, right?
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  SPEAKER_01: And so I have to say yes to the version of me that is there already, instead of saying yes to this current version of me.
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  SPEAKER_01: So I have to get out of my comfort zone.
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  SPEAKER_01: I have to get out of my my safety net right now.
• 7:41
  SPEAKER_01: Um, so I have been shifting direction this year, and actually my word for the year is bold.
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  SPEAKER_01: So I've been doing it.
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  SPEAKER_01: Um and it's still bringing up a lot of things for me.
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  SPEAKER_01: And the biggest thing is as I say yes to these versions of me, these habits and these things that sometimes don't take logic make logical sense, like certification, like another my uh mastermind, you know, where I'm like, I don't know what's gonna happen and I don't know how like logically that and financially doesn't make sense.
• 8:11
  SPEAKER_01: But the version of me that wants that life, I know time's gonna go by anyway.
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  SPEAKER_01: So would I rather be working on something that I'm going to expand and fulfill me and you know, be where I can actually change my life, you know, in that same amount of time, instead of just trying to do everything myself.
• 8:28
  SPEAKER_01: So I have to trust the process, I have to to deepen the practice and deepen my trust in my own self and the courage and the courage and confidence have to come with it.
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  SPEAKER_01: So instead of staying in my head at the end of my day and being like, I'll do it tomorrow, you know, instead, which is exactly what's been happening this week for me.
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  SPEAKER_01: And um, you know, how do I get into the energy of, oh, I am so powerful.
• 8:53
  SPEAKER_01: I I do know what I'm doing, I am so proud of myself, I am confident in the ability of that I have.
• 8:59
  SPEAKER_01: I have I'm in conversations with people, and I had two clients tell me that you know, they're like, You're a breath work, you're so sincere, you're genuine.
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  SPEAKER_01: We know you're trying to help people.
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  SPEAKER_01: Like, of course it's a yes for me to join this.
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  SPEAKER_01: Like, absolutely.
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  SPEAKER_01: And I'm like, oh my God, okay, people feel my energy, like I know what I'm doing.
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  SPEAKER_01: And sometimes you do that, need that little bit of pat on the back, a little bit of me.
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  SPEAKER_01: People are resonating, of course.
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  SPEAKER_01: But what I have been doing is this this kundalini practice and this kunalini certification that I've been doing is committing to my own practice every single day because it shifts my energy.
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  SPEAKER_01: And the energy has created a more clear version and vision for myself, and being like, that's right.
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  SPEAKER_01: Like there's no, there's a reason why I'm doing this, there's a reason why I'm doing this.
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  SPEAKER_01: And it has shifted a lot of layers already.
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  SPEAKER_01: I've been working through it.
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  SPEAKER_01: And this is where now all of a sudden I've been doing these practices and in a supportive group of women.
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  SPEAKER_01: And all of a sudden I'm like, oh, I know my next step.
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  SPEAKER_01: Oh, I know what to do next.
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  SPEAKER_01: Oh, I know who to reach out to, I know what to do.
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  SPEAKER_01: And it all comes from a little idea that I have the courage to show up for.
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  SPEAKER_01: And my if if you're unfamiliar with with my free midweek reset that I've been doing, I was doing it every Wednesday for almost four months.
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  SPEAKER_01: And it's still part of me and I still love it.
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  SPEAKER_01: I feel so good afterwards.
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  SPEAKER_01: I was doing it every morning because I was missing a morning practice.
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  SPEAKER_01: And so I pull an oracle card and I share a breathwork breathwork practice.
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  SPEAKER_01: And the people that have been joining it are like, yes, we love this.
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  SPEAKER_01: It's shifting us.
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  SPEAKER_01: Thank you so much.
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  SPEAKER_01: Like it's been working for people because I know it worked for me.
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  SPEAKER_01: And what I finally had the clarity over is committing to this practice for now almost 80 days.
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  SPEAKER_01: It's crazy, is that the things can shift so quickly for you because time goes by anyway.
• 10:50
  SPEAKER_01: So what are you working on?
• 10:52
  SPEAKER_01: I when I don't work on my energy, uh, my day is different.
• 10:56
  SPEAKER_01: So I have to commit to that every single day and throughout the day.
• 10:59
  SPEAKER_01: You know, I'm I'm I'm still human and I still get into my head a lot throughout the day.
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  SPEAKER_01: And even during my practice, I'm like, wow, my thoughts are just coming at me today.
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  SPEAKER_01: And I'm just like, why can't I get into the to the good feelings, you know?
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  SPEAKER_01: But when you are able to and when you're allowing this energy to work for you and feeling inspired, whatever that looks like, it doesn't have to be breathwork.
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  SPEAKER_01: It could be a dance class, it can be going out in nature, like Desi loves to paddle board, like she feels like herself mostly when she's there.
• 11:28
  SPEAKER_01: So whatever practice and and fun that makes you feel the most alive, that things just feel really good for you, is going to shift your energy enough to uh give you that courage, to give you that confidence to pursue and to see that vision and to see the clarity and to receive the message of what you need to do next.
• 11:45
  SPEAKER_01: Because a lot of times in manifesting and creation and visioning, you want the whole damn map and you want the whole step by step, but that isn't usually possible.
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  SPEAKER_01: So I I finally trusted myself.
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  SPEAKER_01: I finally had the vision and I'm like, oh my God, I need to do it like right now.
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  SPEAKER_01: And I I did, I created it, I created something from my mid-re reset.
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  SPEAKER_01: It's an evolved version of it.
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  SPEAKER_01: I'm so excited about it.
• 12:08
  SPEAKER_01: I've never felt so excited about something.
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  SPEAKER_01: And I'm like, this is it, this is it, and this is what it can feel like when you are tuned in, when you are working on your energy in that capacity.
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  SPEAKER_01: So I am so excited to finally put something forth, have people say yes, and bring it to back to the world once I go through a beta round of it.
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  SPEAKER_01: And you know, just keeping in that vision is going to help me to keep pursuing it, keep going day by day, instead of getting my head self-doubt, procrastinate.
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  SPEAKER_01: And this way I'm I'm leaning into these edges, I'm giving myself permission to expand instead of listening to this version of me that's like, nope, I I I don't think so.
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  SPEAKER_01: I don't think so today.
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  SPEAKER_01: Or why would you think that anyone would sign up for this?
• 12:51
  SPEAKER_01: Or, you know, why would anyone even listen to my videos, you know, that I post my content and my Oracle cards or whatever?
• 12:58
  SPEAKER_01: But like there is people that do want it, and I have to trust my own magic over anything.
• 13:03
  SPEAKER_01: And that is getting into the energy of what I'm working through and trusting the process is such a spiritual spiritual process as well.
• 13:13
  SPEAKER_00: I would love for you to invite anybody who may be listening into this next thing that you're creating.
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  SPEAKER_01: So I am creating a five-week course, um, more of like a it's to be a 30-day practice because again, I've been doing these 40-day practices.
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  SPEAKER_01: Now I'm in my through going through my second round of it and trying to practices.
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  SPEAKER_01: And what I've noticed is that when I'm committed and when I let let it do its work and the energy around it, I am able to shift things and have those aha moments on day 20.
• 13:45
  SPEAKER_01: Around day 20.
• 13:46
  SPEAKER_01: It's like halfway through, I'm like, ooh, okay, this is this is what's unf unfolding and this is what's evolving.
• 13:52
  SPEAKER_01: And I'm able to be like, here's the clarity piece that I've been looking for.
• 13:56
  SPEAKER_01: So I I I do feel like getting into this energy, practicing your own energy because we're just distracted all day long from social media and from other people and work and whatever and everything.
• 14:08
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, every single thing.
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  SPEAKER_01: And so tuning into my own energy with these practices, whether it's breathwork, whether it's oracle cards, whether whatever it is, um, it's really helped me.
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  SPEAKER_01: It's really helped everything shift for me.
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  SPEAKER_01: So I created a program called Instant Shift and it is going to be a five-week course, aka 30 days to really allow yourself to create to have your own practice and really see what happens when you're consistent in it.
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  SPEAKER_01: Because that is the biggest thing.
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  SPEAKER_01: When you're logging it, when you're uh tapping into the feelings, when you're allowing yourself to really see what resonates with you as well.
• 14:41
  SPEAKER_01: And this instant shift is going to be um really, really expensive for people that do join it because I'm giving you different practices.
• 14:49
  SPEAKER_01: We're gonna work together on it, especially with your astrology and see what actually you need.
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  SPEAKER_01: So that way you're also not going against your own energy.
• 14:57
  SPEAKER_01: But when you find that practice that works for you, whether it's a simple breath work, whether it's a simple meditation, it's uh things can shift because again, who do you want to be?
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  SPEAKER_01: If you want to show up in your own version and show up in this authentic version of you and with the best energy, it's going to shift everything else around you.
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  SPEAKER_01: You're going to be your eyes are open to being present.
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  SPEAKER_01: Your eyes are open to having, you know, showing up for your for your partner, for your work, for everything.
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  SPEAKER_01: It's just gonna fall into place a lot easier when you have that energy.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, love that.
• 15:31
  SPEAKER_00: Well, we'll put in the show notes for them to reach out to you if they're wanting that quick instant shift over 30 days.
• 15:36
  SPEAKER_00: And I know you're gonna be putting in a lot of amazing practices together for us.
• 15:40
  SPEAKER_00: And I was just doing a breathwork practice, kundalinian breathwork practice with her as well.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I'm excited to join that and have fun with that.
• 15:48
  SPEAKER_00: Um, and yeah, I was just reading a little bit more.
• 15:51
  SPEAKER_00: I did read The Big Leap a while ago, but uh I was just refreshing my memory.
• 15:55
  SPEAKER_00: And so the upper limit is the upper limit problem is when we have a tendency to start self-sabotaging ourselves.
• 16:02
  SPEAKER_00: So who here has self-sabotaged themselves and something good is happening with like the self-doubt that we're talking about?
• 16:09
  SPEAKER_00: Like we get into our own heads.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I personally have been moving through a lot of big expansion because I have just ran an eight-day online live event for my business, the biggest production that I put on my whole career as a business owner, as running, you know, this online, spiritual, in-person, all these different, you know, ways that I'm like leading as a business owner.
• 16:31
  SPEAKER_00: But I put together this online program and it took a lot of expansion.
• 16:36
  SPEAKER_00: I was really, I gave myself so much room over the two weeks that I led this to like not put a lot of pressure on myself.
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  SPEAKER_00: I didn't like book a lot of things on my calendar or a lot of clients.
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  SPEAKER_00: I kind of just really made it very spacious.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I'll have to say, it did take a lot of energy out of me.
• 16:51
  SPEAKER_00: It really did.
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  SPEAKER_00: I was really feeling it, it was really expanding me in so many ways.
• 16:55
  SPEAKER_00: And then since the calls weren't at like till 5:30 at night, it's like, you know, I was like, okay, well then and then they have all this energy after the calls, and I'm like, ooh, I can have all this energy, and then I can't sleep, and then you know, this whole thing.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so right after I did that eight-day live event online, I went to Mexico for three days because now I'm an international facilitator.
• 17:15
  SPEAKER_00: Um, yeah, whoop, whoop.
• 17:17
  SPEAKER_00: So I went to Mexico for a couple days and I facilitated breath work and uh inner child workshop.
• 17:24
  SPEAKER_00: I did new breath work that I'm learning, EDM breath EDM breath work.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so that was been a lot of expansions because I could feel myself like sometimes being like, Oh, I don't know if I can do this.
• 17:35
  SPEAKER_00: Like, you know, I'm all the fear, like, how am I gonna do that?
• 17:38
  SPEAKER_00: How am I gonna facilitate like three things in like 48 hours or whatever it was?
• 17:43
  SPEAKER_00: It was like three or four things that I was gonna do, have to do, and like I was just like feeling like I don't know how to do that.
• 17:48
  SPEAKER_00: Like all the doubt, all the fear, all the what-is, all the I can't, all of the uncertainty was like really coming to the surface for me.
• 17:54
  SPEAKER_00: And so I had to keep meeting myself and being like, we can do this, I can do this, taking deep breaths, speaking to my mentor, talking to my girlfriends, talking to Lisa, talking to my friends, right?
• 18:06
  SPEAKER_00: Like getting the support that I needed because I was and am stepping into the greater visibility and more of that leadership.
• 18:14
  SPEAKER_00: And then through all this really big online program that I was putting together or that I was running online in the middle of that, I got a text from my dad telling me that he I somehow offended him and made him really upset.
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  SPEAKER_00: I I don't know what I did to this day, um, but that he no longer wants to speak to me.
• 18:33
  SPEAKER_00: And I'm just like dumbfounded by this text message because I don't even know what I did.
• 18:38
  SPEAKER_00: And I'm like, there's been plenty of times where we've been in arguments and I've cursed and it's been like ugly, but like none of that happened over the weekend that we spent together.
• 18:45
  SPEAKER_00: And so not only am I leading this event, I'm like being head head up against my edges where it's really pushing me, like I am so uncomfortable, like this sucks.
• 18:52
  SPEAKER_00: Like, oh, I just want to like, you know, go watch TV and like do nothing.
• 18:56
  SPEAKER_00: And also I'm running this event and I'm showing up like the badass leader that I am, regardless of what the outside world is is throwing at me, right?
• 19:04
  SPEAKER_00: So it's like, okay, I can just come back to my truth.
• 19:07
  SPEAKER_00: And I got I got to use all the tools that I was teaching in that online program.
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  SPEAKER_00: I got to put all of my, you know, things into use and be like, okay, what do I need right now?
• 19:16
  SPEAKER_00: How can I meet myself where I am at?
• 19:18
  SPEAKER_00: How can I process some of these emotions?
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  SPEAKER_00: And also, if you if if that's the case, like I'm okay too, because I've healed so much of that inner child wound.
• 19:26
  SPEAKER_00: I've healed so much of the parent wounding.
• 19:28
  SPEAKER_00: And of course it hurts.
• 19:29
  SPEAKER_00: And at the end of the day, like, it's okay too, right?
• 19:31
  SPEAKER_00: So, like, there's just like all these different like layers that I'm being pushed against, you know, navigating the excitement, the fear, the responsibility, and that expansion, and just allowing myself to feel the things without bypassing them, without numbing them, right?
• 19:45
  SPEAKER_00: And all those things that we know that can be that can actually stunt our growth.
• 19:49
  SPEAKER_00: And, you know, what I really want to say to this is like just because it's scary doesn't mean that you stop.
• 19:56
  SPEAKER_00: You know, just because you're like feeling some fear doesn't mean that that's not the right action.
• 20:00
  SPEAKER_00: Just because you're like, oh, this is really uncomfortable doesn't mean that that's not the path you're supposed to be taking.
• 20:06
  SPEAKER_00: Because when we are growing in those ways and when we're pushing our edges, especially because it's like, okay, I know I should be doing this, and or I I decided I wanted to do this in my business.
• 20:16
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, of course it's gonna push my edges.
• 20:19
  SPEAKER_00: And so we keep going, we don't just stop, right?
• 20:21
  SPEAKER_00: And so, like coming back to that little girl inside of you, if you are feeling that way, like, okay, I know you're scared right now, like maybe you're spending more money on yourself, like investing in something for yourself that you've never done before.
• 20:32
  SPEAKER_00: And it's like, oh my gosh, you're feeling like all this constriction in your body around money, and it's like, you know, your nervous system has never expanded that way, right?
• 20:39
  SPEAKER_00: Like Lisa and I have spent thousands and thousands of dollars on ourselves and our practice and our mentors and our and our tools and our all the certificates that we've done, right?
• 20:48
  SPEAKER_00: And so, yeah, of course, that's like really like pushes against the edges.
• 20:51
  SPEAKER_00: Like, oh my am I gonna have the money?
• 20:53
  SPEAKER_00: Am I gonna show up?
• 20:53
  SPEAKER_00: Am I gonna have enough time?
• 20:54
  SPEAKER_00: It's like, oh no, hell yeah.
• 20:56
  SPEAKER_00: I'm a resourceful ass woman.
• 20:58
  SPEAKER_00: I am going to show up.
• 20:59
  SPEAKER_00: I am going to find the money.
• 21:00
  SPEAKER_00: I am going to do the thing.
• 21:01
  SPEAKER_00: And yes, it's gonna be scary, but I'm gonna keep putting one foot in front of the other and like meeting those parts of yourselves that are coming up, saying, like, I don't know, I don't know if I can do it, and just being like, oh, wait a minute, wait a minute, wait a minute.
• 21:11
  SPEAKER_00: I'm choosing this, no one's forcing this on me.
• 21:14
  SPEAKER_00: Like, I get to expand, I get to push my edges and knowing, like, oh, this is exciting.
• 21:18
  SPEAKER_00: Because if I push this edge, that means I don't have to worry about that edge anymore.
• 21:21
  SPEAKER_00: And that's behind me.
• 21:22
  SPEAKER_00: Now I can go forward, and then there'll be another edge because it does really just continue to be an evolving door, not door, but like evolving parts of ourselves.
• 21:33
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
• 21:34
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
• 21:34
  SPEAKER_01: Again, it's it's about the expansion, you know, it's allowing yourself to expand instead of choosing comfort once again.
• 21:41
  SPEAKER_01: Right.
• 21:42
  SPEAKER_01: Right.
• 21:42
  SPEAKER_01: You have to if um today at one of the conversations with one of my mentors, it's like, do you want to stay in the same position that you're in a year from now?
• 21:51
  SPEAKER_01: If you don't, you have to change something.
• 21:53
  SPEAKER_01: Right.
• 21:54
  SPEAKER_01: You know, you have to commit to it.
• 21:55
  SPEAKER_01: You have to say all like hell yes to it no matter what.
• 21:59
  SPEAKER_01: And It's kind of like one of those things where every single day you get to choose a hard, right?
• 22:04
  SPEAKER_01: Is one of your hards being like, I need a meal prep.
• 22:07
  SPEAKER_01: I need to like have all these healthy meals because you want to lose weight or you want to feel better in in yourself, right?
• 22:12
  SPEAKER_01: Like one of your hards is is is definitely picking what foods you're eating sometimes because of your body processing things.
• 22:19
  SPEAKER_01: And even me, like I'm I'm me and my fine partner right now are like really working on prepping meals and and being healthier and not choosing, you know, the easy way out or choosing, you know, um to drink every weekend anymore, because that was also something that is like hard when you're in a social situation where used to saying yes, and but we have higher goals, we have bigger goals.
• 22:41
  SPEAKER_01: And guess what?
• 22:42
  SPEAKER_01: That doesn't serve our goals.
• 22:43
  SPEAKER_01: So we have to say no to it.
• 22:45
  SPEAKER_01: We have to say yes to ourselves and no to something else.
• 22:48
  SPEAKER_01: So whenever you're saying yes, you're saying no to something else, or whenever you're saying no, you're saying yes to something else.
• 22:53
  SPEAKER_01: So what is that for you?
• 22:55
  SPEAKER_01: And that way it really allows you to put things into perspective, and and and also it does help you with the self-doubt part, right?
• 23:03
  SPEAKER_01: That we talked about what Desi shared is that you in order to build confidence and in order to build this courage, you have to just move.
• 23:13
  SPEAKER_01: And if you allow yourself to stay in the day in the in your head, you're going to allow your uh your self-talk, like allow you to talk yourself out of it, basically.
• 23:25
  SPEAKER_01: So it whenever we me and Desi do a podcast, we're still doubtful.
• 23:31
  SPEAKER_01: We still have doubt come up and be like, you know, what should we talk about this time?
• 23:35
  SPEAKER_01: And are people gonna resonate?
• 23:36
  SPEAKER_01: And how can we allow this to be a really great message and and allow people to actually resonate with it?
• 23:42
  SPEAKER_01: And that's where we always come back to exactly what this is called.
• 23:45
  SPEAKER_01: It's real talk, real healing.
• 23:46
  SPEAKER_01: Let's talk about what we're actually going through because no matter what we're going through, someone might be going through something different, but they're feeling the same.
• 23:53
  SPEAKER_01: We all have similar feelings and we're all going through different stories, but similar feelings, or maybe you've been in our path before.
• 24:01
  SPEAKER_01: So it's allowing yourself, you know, when you get to the next level, when you get a promotion, when you become a mom, when you get a new partner, when you become married, when you whatever it is, doubt doesn't go away.
• 24:14
  SPEAKER_01: You know, you don't become more confident, you know, at the next level.
• 24:17
  SPEAKER_01: Yes, it helps to have some evidence of being like, oh my God, look what look what I did.
• 24:22
  SPEAKER_01: Look at all the accomplishments I've made.
• 24:24
  SPEAKER_01: A lot of times we still don't believe those things because we're like, well, I can't, I can't get promoted.
• 24:30
  SPEAKER_01: Why would someone pay me more?
• 24:31
  SPEAKER_01: Like, you know, or instead they just choose to be comfortable.
• 24:34
  SPEAKER_01: So allow yourself to question when you are having some self-doubt.
• 24:41
  SPEAKER_01: So is your mind just trying to protect you?
• 24:44
  SPEAKER_01: Protect you because that's our our survival nature, or are you ready to predict your future and allow your mind to create more evidence about that part of you, that that version of you that wants to go forward, that wants to create more confidence?
• 24:58
  SPEAKER_01: So a couple of questions that we do come back to whenever you're having a thought and you're starting to become aware of your spiral and of your mind trying to talk you out of it.
• 25:08
  SPEAKER_01: Ask yourself, what are you making this mean?
• 25:10
  SPEAKER_01: So what am I making this thought mean?
• 25:12
  SPEAKER_01: Or what am I making this story mean?
• 25:14
  SPEAKER_01: Or whether it's a situation that happened to you, like Desi said with her dad situation, like how can you decipher what's actually going on and what you're what you're automatically creating because your mind it just likes to do that.
• 25:28
  SPEAKER_01: And then the next question is is this actually true?
• 25:32
  SPEAKER_01: What is the actual truth in the situation?
• 25:34
  SPEAKER_01: Am I receiving making this story or am I recreating the story from when you were a kid and you got picked on at the playground?
• 25:43
  SPEAKER_01: Or you, you know, someone said, I don't want to talk to you ever again, you know, like allow yourself to see what is the actual truth and and between that layer and and take off the layers a little bit to allow yourself to be like, okay, this isn't mean anything about me, because we love to make meaning out of things.
• 26:01
  SPEAKER_01: So allowing yourself to decipher what the actual truth is is really gonna support you in uh eliminating that self-doubt, eliminating what's in your head and and really uh focusing on that future part of you.
• 26:13
  SPEAKER_01: So the last question you could be you can ask yourself is what would I choose if fear wasn't making the decision?
• 26:20
  SPEAKER_01: What would I choose if fear wasn't making the decision?
• 26:23
  SPEAKER_01: And it's a question that I've been asking myself lately, because this is this is what I feel.
• 26:28
  SPEAKER_01: So I've been feeling like, you know, for money, exact for example, which most of us come to scarcity at one point.
• 26:36
  SPEAKER_01: And I had to choose myself, right?
• 26:38
  SPEAKER_01: This version of me and had to commit with this this other version of me, and being like, well, if I was this version already, I'd be saying yes to this opportunity and it would be not a question, right?
• 26:50
  SPEAKER_01: And so if I knew I was supported, what would I do?
• 26:55
  SPEAKER_01: And that could be supported, you know, with partners, it could be supported financially, it could be supported by God, universe, spirit, right?
• 27:03
  SPEAKER_01: Allowing yourself to see, you know, if if I could be successful in this, what would that feel like?
• 27:10
  SPEAKER_01: What would I choose?
• 27:11
  SPEAKER_01: What would I decide?
• 27:12
  SPEAKER_01: And allow yourself to just play with that because I think that's a great question and a great scenario to put you through when you're indecisive or when you're having a tough decision on something, because that's been something that I've been really coming up with.
• 27:25
  SPEAKER_01: And I'm like, I just need to find this more support.
• 27:28
  SPEAKER_01: And it doesn't always have to be like the physical support, but it obviously that can help.
• 27:33
  SPEAKER_01: But you know, financially or spirit-wise, if I'm saying yes to this because it feels so good in my body, why wouldn't I be supported?
• 27:40
  SPEAKER_01: Why wouldn't I like know the next thing to do?
• 27:44
  SPEAKER_01: Because it's going to support me in my highest path, right?
• 27:46
  SPEAKER_01: And the path that I'm meant to go on.
• 27:47
  SPEAKER_01: So allow yourself to play with it.
• 27:49
  SPEAKER_01: Hopefully that resonates.
• 27:50
  SPEAKER_01: Let us know if if you like any of these questions.
• 27:54
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 27:54
  SPEAKER_00: So with these up levels, I don't know about you, Lisa, but I have been feeling so tired.
• 28:00
  SPEAKER_00: Like after I went to Mexico, I actually came back and had, I was feeling so inspired.
• 28:04
  SPEAKER_00: I was like, I had all these downloads.
• 28:06
  SPEAKER_00: I was like taking all these notes as I was like writing them as I came home.
• 28:09
  SPEAKER_00: And I was that night, I was writing all these downloads.
• 28:12
  SPEAKER_00: And then like three o'clock the next day, I started to get nauseous.
• 28:15
  SPEAKER_00: And I was like, oh no, my stomach hurts.
• 28:18
  SPEAKER_00: And I was like, oh, oh no, one of the other girls that was supposed to be facilitating had food poisoning or whatever.
• 28:23
  SPEAKER_00: And then I was then puking like an hour after that, and I then that like really depleted a lot of my energy.
• 28:31
  SPEAKER_00: And ever since then, I've been feeling like super tired.
• 28:33
  SPEAKER_00: And I know there's been so many things astrologically happening.
• 28:36
  SPEAKER_00: I think it was like two episodes ago.
• 28:38
  SPEAKER_00: Lisa was sharing all about that.
• 28:40
  SPEAKER_00: And I feel like collectively, a lot of us are feeling it.
• 28:42
  SPEAKER_00: There's a lot of things that are coming to the surface.
• 28:44
  SPEAKER_00: And you know, when I have uh my next part is to talk to you guys about the roles of like coaches, healers, and mentors.
• 28:52
  SPEAKER_00: And I feel like I could talk about this forever just because I am so passionate about it ever since I enrolled in my coaching certification.
• 29:00
  SPEAKER_00: And I have had coaches since 2019.
• 29:03
  SPEAKER_00: I have worked with several different people that have changed my life in so many ways.
• 29:08
  SPEAKER_00: And I believe and I know that the money you invest in a coach and a mentor and a therapist or you know, going to a retreat, going to an event online or whatever it is that is going to fill up your cup, that's going to help you heal.
• 29:23
  SPEAKER_00: It's going to help you, you know, see your own patterns and hold up a mirror to you, is going like that money is going to come back to you tenfold, right?
• 29:33
  SPEAKER_00: Like, because I know a lot of us like to spend money, like we want to go shopping.
• 29:36
  SPEAKER_00: So we like get a purse, right?
• 29:37
  SPEAKER_00: Or like we go and we like have these physical things, right?
• 29:39
  SPEAKER_00: Like coaching and mentorship isn't something that you see, right?
• 29:42
  SPEAKER_00: And so sometimes we we don't value it as much, but it's what in what you can't see.
• 29:48
  SPEAKER_00: It's in your emotions, it's in the way that you react, it's in your thoughts, and it's in how you show up, right?
• 29:52
  SPEAKER_00: So, like what you invest in yourself really is, I think you get back tenfold.
• 29:58
  SPEAKER_00: And so some of the reasons why I'm just gonna go over a few reasons why it's so important to have coaches, healers, mentors to invest in yourself is because we all have blind spots.
• 30:06
  SPEAKER_00: Okay, like when you're in the jar, it's really hard to see outside of the label to see what's happening because you're in it.
• 30:12
  SPEAKER_00: Like we talked about the snow globe analogy before.
• 30:15
  SPEAKER_00: That's all of your, you know, your thoughts, your reactions, your patterns, the triggers, the experiences, the teachers, the friends, right?
• 30:23
  SPEAKER_00: Those are all your experiences, but you can't see outside of it clearly because you're in it, right?
• 30:28
  SPEAKER_00: We're in the snow globe.
• 30:29
  SPEAKER_00: Everything's shaken up.
• 30:30
  SPEAKER_00: And so with a coach and a mentor, they're able to help you see the blind spots, right?
• 30:35
  SPEAKER_00: And so help you to see the patterns, like, oh, wait a minute.
• 30:38
  SPEAKER_00: A good mentor is gonna ask you questions.
• 30:41
  SPEAKER_00: A good coach is gonna be like, so, okay, well, how did that make you feel?
• 30:45
  SPEAKER_00: Or what did that bring up for you?
• 30:47
  SPEAKER_00: Or, you know, they're gonna really dive in.
• 30:49
  SPEAKER_00: I know I really do my best to really get into like the psyche of my clients of really asking those deeper questions.
• 30:57
  SPEAKER_00: And sometimes, you know, we have to borrow other people's belief systems, right?
• 31:00
  SPEAKER_00: Like our beliefs are kind of wacky and maybe they're not serving us.
• 31:03
  SPEAKER_00: And so when we hire a mentor or coach, chances are they're going to be somebody that you resonate with because they have a life that you like, right?
• 31:11
  SPEAKER_00: Or like you're like, ooh, they have the partner, they have the house, or their vibration is so good.
• 31:15
  SPEAKER_00: Like they're gonna have beliefs that, excuse me, that you may not have for yourself yet.
• 31:20
  SPEAKER_00: So you get to start borrowing those beliefs.
• 31:22
  SPEAKER_00: You know, having somebody reflect back to you the version that you can't see yet, is worth everything.
• 31:29
  SPEAKER_00: If you can see it and you're in proximity with the person, right?
• 31:32
  SPEAKER_00: You're in proximity with the person that you're investing in.
• 31:35
  SPEAKER_00: Oh, there's so so many different directions people like we go in.
• 31:38
  SPEAKER_00: Because even just the moment you say yes to yourself, the moment you make that first payment, you're already locked into that mentor's vibration and energy, and your life already starts to up level.
• 31:49
  SPEAKER_00: And I've experienced this so many times, right?
• 31:51
  SPEAKER_00: Because you're already saying yes to that, and you're saying yes to that frequency and that energy.
• 31:56
  SPEAKER_00: So, you know, really being able to pick a coach that you really like see and enjoy, and like they have the beliefs that you desire to have so they can help you get there, you know, and then the importance of being witnessed in your healing, right?
• 32:09
  SPEAKER_00: Like we can read the pod or listen to the podcast, which I'm so glad you're here listening, but you reading the books, right?
• 32:15
  SPEAKER_00: Like, but being actually witnessed in your healing is so, so important, and just having that reflected to you and just being able to have it mirrored back to you is just really, really, really um helpful.
• 32:27
  SPEAKER_00: Uh, what else do we got here?
• 32:29
  SPEAKER_00: So they also create that safe space for you to be honest without judgment, right?
• 32:33
  SPEAKER_00: Like, I love having my coaches hold space for me, and I'm just like, I have this going on and I have this going on, and like, you know, I can just kind of like spew it all out because that's a place to be.
• 32:43
  SPEAKER_00: And then they're like holding their own energy and then be like, okay, like take a deep breath.
• 32:48
  SPEAKER_00: Like, I see you.
• 32:49
  SPEAKER_00: And then we get to talk about it, right?
• 32:51
  SPEAKER_00: And there's no judgment there, there's no worry, there's no like I have to like put on a polished version and I have to like say it eloquently.
• 32:57
  SPEAKER_00: It's like you just tell it all, right?
• 32:59
  SPEAKER_00: Um, and like I already said, they're gonna ask those powerful questions, right?
• 33:03
  SPEAKER_00: Like questions that you get to come to the answers to yourself.
• 33:07
  SPEAKER_00: And so also helping you identify the patterns that keep repeating in your life.
• 33:10
  SPEAKER_00: That's a big one.
• 33:11
  SPEAKER_00: Challenging those limiting beliefs with compassion and not shame, right?
• 33:15
  SPEAKER_00: Like, okay, so where did that belief come from, right?
• 33:18
  SPEAKER_00: Helping you unravel all of the what is the word I want to say?
• 33:24
  SPEAKER_00: Like the 3D matrix thoughts that we have, right?
• 33:27
  SPEAKER_00: Helping you unravel those thoughts and those feelings and those actions so that you can get into the higher vibrations.
• 33:34
  SPEAKER_00: And then having somebody to celebrate your growth with is so amazing.
• 33:38
  SPEAKER_00: I love sharing all of my amazing milestones and and you know, uh accomplishments with my coach, and then they're turning me on, and then I get to share that with my clients, and it's just this whole cyclical uh celebration that we get to do.
• 33:50
  SPEAKER_00: But I think the my personal favorite thing of like having support and a coach is just knowing that I have somebody to talk to every week.
• 33:57
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 33:58
  SPEAKER_00: Like right now I'm having, I have our yeah, 60 minute sessions with uh my coach.
• 34:03
  SPEAKER_00: Shout out to Christina Joy.
• 34:05
  SPEAKER_00: And I know that I'm gonna be able to take all the notes of all the things I want to talk to her about, or just come and be like, I don't really have a whole lot.
• 34:12
  SPEAKER_00: We're gonna do some breath work together, we're gonna do some meditation together, you know, and just like knowing that I have somebody to come to honestly is just like a huge weight lifted off of my shoulders.
• 34:21
  SPEAKER_00: What would you say your favorite part is, Lisa?
• 34:24
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, I think just being in a container.
• 34:27
  SPEAKER_01: So I'm in more group masterminds and group containers right now, which I just love, you know, when we're all going throughing, even though we're living life so differently and in different areas of life, we all have similar messages or similar things that our mentor like will just deep dive in and just like support us in.
• 34:44
  SPEAKER_01: And it just it's really it's amazing.
• 34:47
  SPEAKER_01: Just like, you know, our podcast, our our our intention is to help you not feel alone that you're going through things, right?
• 34:54
  SPEAKER_01: And I think that's what I love about the groups too, because you're seeing all these people that are similar like-minded and that still have their own shit to deal with, but it might be you might pick up something that they're going through and be like, oh wow, I never thought of it that way.
• 35:07
  SPEAKER_01: Or it just opens up your mind a little bit differently and just to have that support in another community as well.
• 35:14
  SPEAKER_01: Um, it's really helpful because again, people sometimes don't understand what we're doing day to day because we're in this spiritual coaching world that sometimes our day-to-day life people, we love them and they support us, but sometimes it's easier to resonate with people that are also going through it.
• 35:30
  SPEAKER_01: So it is nice, I think, to to meet people that are also going through it and that you can expand with.
• 35:37
  SPEAKER_01: You can really expand and feel that support from.
• 35:40
  SPEAKER_01: So that is that is my favorite part and having that like weekly session that like always excites me, you know, be like, oh, that's gonna happen today, and we're just gonna move through it and feel really good afterwards.
• 35:50
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 35:51
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 35:51
  SPEAKER_00: And you know, just a reminder that healing isn't about giving you all the answers, right?
• 35:55
  SPEAKER_00: Like that's not a job of like a coach or healer.
• 35:58
  SPEAKER_00: It's really the goal is to reconnect you to your own wisdom because you have your own internal guidance system, you have your own internal wisdom, you have your own soul's perspective, and it's really bringing you back to that.
• 36:08
  SPEAKER_00: And so, you know, a good guy, good guide reflects your strengths back to you, asks you empowering questions, helps you build self-trust and encourage you to make your own decisions, right?
• 36:18
  SPEAKER_00: This is not a codependency relationship.
• 36:20
  SPEAKER_00: It's like, let me reflect back to you all of your strengths.
• 36:23
  SPEAKER_00: Let me lead you to where it is that you want to go, right?
• 36:26
  SPEAKER_00: We're just there giving you the tools and like they're just guiding us.
• 36:30
  SPEAKER_00: But like at the end of the day, it really comes back to us and our own wisdom.
• 36:33
  SPEAKER_00: And so I really wanted to drive that home too.
• 36:34
  SPEAKER_00: It's not about like that codependency, um, like I need this person.
• 36:38
  SPEAKER_00: It's more or less like you're going to enhance my life.
• 36:41
  SPEAKER_00: And that's that's the whole prefaces of it.
• 36:44
  SPEAKER_01: And I think too, uh, like as you were saying that, I was like, oh yeah, of course.
• 36:48
  SPEAKER_01: The mentor also can hold you in your own vision, just like you're saying.
• 36:52
  SPEAKER_01: Like you need somebody that can hold you in the vision and be like, you're not silly for wanting that.
• 36:57
  SPEAKER_01: You or that's an amazing vision.
• 36:59
  SPEAKER_01: I'm going to help you through that.
• 37:01
  SPEAKER_01: And because I think again, it's it's them reflecting back to you of what's possible for you instead of talking you, you know, all around it, you know, like which some some people, so like some therapy, I guess you're talking about it so much and you're staying in a little bit of energy of it.
• 37:17
  SPEAKER_01: Not everyone, but you know, instead we're a coach um or a certain mentor that that you resonate with, and some therapists, of course, help you with this too, whatever, whoever it is, just make sure you have a guide that can hold you into that vision um to what you actually want for your life instead of settling where you are, maybe, right?
• 37:35
  SPEAKER_01: I think a lot of times we just get into the comfortable day-to-day life and get into autopilot.
• 37:40
  SPEAKER_01: I've done that so many times, and again, it's it's right now I'm building that self-trust with myself to be like, no, I I don't want this anymore, you know, and allowing myself to expand in that way.
• 37:51
  SPEAKER_01: And guess what?
• 37:52
  SPEAKER_01: I have to get uncomfortable.
• 37:54
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, but it is about building that self-trust.
• 37:56
  SPEAKER_01: So I think that is really important also with mentors.
• 38:00
  SPEAKER_00: Definitely.
• 38:02
  SPEAKER_01: So we are gonna give you guys some reflection questions and a couple of key takeaways.
• 38:08
  SPEAKER_01: So so we did go over a lot and we shared our experiences.
• 38:11
  SPEAKER_01: So we would love to know.
• 38:12
  SPEAKER_01: Of course, reach out to us, DMS at our Instagram, real talk, real, real uh healing podcast.
• 38:18
  SPEAKER_01: Let us know if you resonate with this.
• 38:20
  SPEAKER_01: If you're going through anything that's similar with us and you're feeling these things, and maybe you do have at an aha moment during this, during this podcast.
• 38:29
  SPEAKER_01: We would love to hear.
• 38:30
  SPEAKER_01: Um, we do have a couple questions, and of course, again, if you would love to share and and claim something like that that you really want to get uncomfortable and and grow in an area, we would also love to hear that and really hold you through that, you know, and be like, okay, what's going on?
• 38:43
  SPEAKER_01: You know, we just we just did our um energy renew uh six month email.
• 38:48
  SPEAKER_01: Like it's it's we do an energy renew um every year.
• 38:51
  SPEAKER_01: And for the last couple of years, we've been doing it.
• 38:53
  SPEAKER_01: And it's about like going through and looking forward to the next year and like being like, what do I want to create?
• 38:59
  SPEAKER_01: How do I want to be?
• 39:00
  SPEAKER_01: Picking a word and allowing yourself to be so intentional.
• 39:03
  SPEAKER_01: So this is halfway through the year.
• 39:05
  SPEAKER_01: Um, so you still have plenty of time to accomplish what you want and to revisit your vision, whether you did it in the beginning of the year or last year, your birthday, whatever that looks like.
• 39:15
  SPEAKER_01: This is the time to check back in with your intuition and ask yourself like, what do I really want in this time?
• 39:22
  SPEAKER_01: So a reminder that growth is not about you know becoming someone else, it's about becoming more of who you really are.
• 39:29
  SPEAKER_01: Okay.
• 39:30
  SPEAKER_01: So coming back to the energy, finding those practices that work for you, that allow you to sit in with who you are and making the decisions from that place instead of you know being distracted, letting letting your head tell you what to do and staying small.
• 39:45
  SPEAKER_01: It's really allowing yourself to choose courage, um, over comfort, trust over fear, and authenticity over approval as well.
• 39:54
  SPEAKER_01: So this will all build that self-trust with yourself.
• 39:57
  SPEAKER_00: What I wanted to add here, I know we kind of talked about business things because we're business girlies, we're entrepreneurs.
• 40:04
  SPEAKER_00: That's why we're here on this contest, uh, on this podcast.
• 40:07
  SPEAKER_00: But also like it could look different for anybody who's listening, right?
• 40:10
  SPEAKER_00: It could be like, you know, having the hard conversations with your partner or setting the boundary with the mother-in-law, or you know, what whatever it is in your life.
• 40:18
  SPEAKER_00: Like it could be investing in yourself, right?
• 40:20
  SPEAKER_00: Maybe you've never done anything like that before.
• 40:22
  SPEAKER_00: So, like relate it to your own life, like other ways that it could be coming up for you, right?
• 40:26
  SPEAKER_00: Maybe it's like breaking up out of a relationship that you know is no longer good for you, right?
• 40:30
  SPEAKER_00: Maybe it's like no longer being friends with the girl that's always kind of complaining, and it's like, I wouldn't what do what am I getting out here, right?
• 40:36
  SPEAKER_00: Like, there's so many different ways.
• 40:38
  SPEAKER_00: Maybe it's going into your office and asking the boss for a raise, right?
• 40:42
  SPEAKER_00: Or maybe it's putting your resume out there because you're like, I'm done with this, I'm no longer doing that.
• 40:46
  SPEAKER_00: That is scary, right?
• 40:47
  SPEAKER_00: Like leaving a job and and leaving things that we know aren't good for us, like those are all pushing your edges.
• 40:52
  SPEAKER_00: So, yes, we talked about business, but it's also in your personal life, it looks different, and that's exactly the way that it's supposed to look and supposed to feel.
• 41:00
  SPEAKER_00: So, knowing that you are so capable of taking the scary steps and you're supported all fully.
• 41:08
  SPEAKER_00: And if you need more support, like come hang out with Lisa and I come into our DMs.
• 41:15
  SPEAKER_01: I think that is so important as a reminder because again, we choose the part of ourselves that are doubting ourselves instead of the part that actually can do it and actually has the ability to do it, but we we just we talk ourselves out of it.
• 41:28
  SPEAKER_01: So that is a great reminder.
• 41:30
  SPEAKER_01: So a couple of questions you can journal on or reflect on.
• 41:35
  SPEAKER_01: Number one, where is life asking me to grow right now?
• 41:38
  SPEAKER_01: Where can you uh allow yourself to expand?
• 41:42
  SPEAKER_01: Where do you want to expand?
• 41:46
  SPEAKER_01: Number two, what fear keeps showing up?
• 41:48
  SPEAKER_01: So when you are wanting to grow in this area or improve this area of your life, what keeps coming up?
• 41:55
  SPEAKER_01: What keeps talking you out of it?
• 41:57
  SPEAKER_01: Is it a belief?
• 41:57
  SPEAKER_01: Is it a thought?
• 41:58
  SPEAKER_01: Is it a story?
• 41:59
  SPEAKER_01: What keeps showing up for you?
• 42:01
  SPEAKER_01: Is it that you don't have time or you don't have money or X, Y, and Z?
• 42:05
  SPEAKER_00: Or it's for them, not for me.
• 42:06
  SPEAKER_00: Or we I know I'm guilty of this, and I think most of humanity is we go into victimhood, right?
• 42:13
  SPEAKER_00: Of course this is happening to me.
• 42:14
  SPEAKER_00: Of course this is too hard.
• 42:15
  SPEAKER_00: Of course it's for them, right?
• 42:16
  SPEAKER_00: Like we go into that victim mentality, which I know is in part of my gene keys.
• 42:21
  SPEAKER_00: Uh, number 55, if you have that.
• 42:23
  SPEAKER_00: And so I've had to really work on that.
• 42:24
  SPEAKER_00: Cause it's like, okay, no, I'm not the only one.
• 42:26
  SPEAKER_00: Like, come on, let's stop being ridiculous.
• 42:28
  SPEAKER_00: But it's like we we go into that victim, which actually just keeps us stuck.
• 42:31
  SPEAKER_00: So don't do that.
• 42:32
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, don't do that.
• 42:36
  SPEAKER_01: Okay, number three.
• 42:37
  SPEAKER_01: What would I do if I trusted myself a little more?
• 42:41
  SPEAKER_01: This is a good one.
• 42:42
  SPEAKER_01: This is kind of similar to the other one that I asked you.
• 42:45
  SPEAKER_01: Like, what would you do if you could if everything worked out?
• 42:48
  SPEAKER_01: You know, it's something like that.
• 42:51
  SPEAKER_01: And then lastly, of course, what edge are you ready to lean into?
• 42:57
  SPEAKER_01: So ponder on these, journal on them, sit with one, pull cards.
• 43:03
  SPEAKER_01: That's always my favorite thing.
• 43:04
  SPEAKER_01: Whenever I'm doubting anything, I mean my boyfriend, my boyfriend the other day was just like, all right, I need some cards.
• 43:09
  SPEAKER_01: I need an answer.
• 43:10
  SPEAKER_01: Like, sounds good.
• 43:11
  SPEAKER_01: And it was like, this is the clear answer, like between A and B.
• 43:14
  SPEAKER_01: Like, this is the one.
• 43:15
  SPEAKER_01: You can't deny these cards.
• 43:17
  SPEAKER_01: Um, but allow yourself to play with these questions and allow yourself to really be open to trusting yourself more, trusting your vision.
• 43:26
  SPEAKER_01: I do feel like a lot of our mentors do share that, like, whatever you're dreaming of, whatever you're desiring, it's on your heart for a reason.
• 43:34
  SPEAKER_01: And so that's where me and Desi, of course, we have more business visions.
• 43:38
  SPEAKER_01: And even my my partner, like he has big visions as well.
• 43:41
  SPEAKER_01: And it sometimes we just let our let ourselves get in the way.
• 43:45
  SPEAKER_01: And how can you trust that this vision is for you and that you have the capabilities to to evolve it, to create it?
• 43:53
  unknown: Yeah.
• 43:53
  SPEAKER_01: So allow yourself these questions to really help you with the next episode.
• 43:58
  SPEAKER_01: So we hope you loved this episode.
• 44:01
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• 44:02
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• 44:06
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• 44:12
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• 44:15
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• 44:20
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• 44:29
  SPEAKER_01: So that is coming to a close.
• 44:32
  SPEAKER_01: And then, of course, if you are interested in any of our um courses coming up.
• 44:37
  SPEAKER_01: So Desi has her course coming up, and I have mine that's starting as well.
• 44:41
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• 44:45
  SPEAKER_01: So let us know.
• 44:46
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• 44:51
  SPEAKER_01: And we just want to remind you, you're not alone.
• 44:53
  SPEAKER_01: We're all going through it, and it's just trusting what's coming and evolve and push through and just still have the courage to show up because we got one life.
• 45:05
  SPEAKER_01: I lost you.
• 45:06
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• 45:12
  SPEAKER_01: All right, we love you, and thank you for listening, and we will talk to you on the next episode.
• 45:18
  SPEAKER_01: Bye.