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- John Adams: Oops, get off that. Sorry. Welcome to another week of the Health Tech and Wellness Podcast. I'm John Adams. Crystal Nevedale: And I'm Crystal Nevadale. John Adams: Hey, so Crystal, here's what I want to ask you this week, and we really want to dive into. Why do people feel down when the weather outside is actually getting beautiful, right? And why do we feel guilty about it when that happens? Seriously, summer is kind of one of those times when everybody feels happy, right? The sun comes out, everybody starts posting vacation pictures, cookouts, going on boats or beach days or just smiling in family photos. But somehow... Crystal Nevedale: Okay. Okay. John Adams: If we don't feel enthused or we don't feel happy during the summer, it almost feels like something is wrong with us, right? But here's the truth that nobody talks about. Summer can actually be one of the most mentally exhausting seasons of them all, right? And we talk about seasonal depression and all that stuff, but nobody thinks about summer when that comes. The heat, the overstimulation, we talked about overstimulation a few episodes back. Crystal Nevedale: Right. John Adams: Financial pressures, right? You're thinking about maybe, you the kids are out of school and you're planning on trips or Cedar Point or just things to do. That disruption in your schedule, right? Social pressures, things that we're trying to, you know, compete with the Joneses, the constant expectations to make the most of it. And for a lot of people, summer doesn't feel peaceful at all. It feels overwhelming. So today we really want to talk about that. We want to talk about Crystal Nevedale: . . John Adams: what a lot of people call the summer happiness tax. That invisible pressure to constantly feel happy, to constantly feel productive or grateful or excited, just because it's summer outside. And honestly, I think more people struggle with this than we realize. So, Crystal, I kind of wanted to get into this with you a little bit because you spoke about, you you having seasonal depression before, and yours, when does yours kind of kick in the most? Crystal Nevedale: Mine's definitely winter time. I've kind of nipped it in the butt though. I mean I take my vacations now in the winter so that really honestly the sunshine, the vitamin D, helps me a lot. John Adams: Yeah. Yeah, I would say that that's mine too. ⁓ Doing this more, me being in front of the computer a lot more, I haven't been outside as much during the summer yet. Well, summer's not technically here, we're still in spring, but you know, it's nice when you get out and you mow the lawn. ⁓ I was kind of sore after mowing ⁓ yesterday, but it is what it is, right? I'm out there, it's nice, it was a beautiful day. We're finally getting into the warm weather. But here's the thing. Crystal Nevedale: ⁓ yeah. John Adams: I think that summer comes with those weird emotional expectations, right? You're supposed to be happy. Just like with winter, know, Christmas is coming around and you used to have to deal with that. you you've found your ways to deal with it. But now during the summer, people go through it the same way. And social media kind of makes it even worse. And we talk about that a lot, right? Because during the summer, everybody's life suddenly looks amazing online, right? Vacations, trips, perfect in quotations, perfect if you're not watching on YouTube and you're listening, I'm doing the quotation marks. Those family moments that everybody posts, know, what I like to call the fake social media smiles when... Everything else is kind of going crazy off to the side. They're putting that up. And now we're like, ⁓ wow, their life is perfect. Those pool days, those festivals, date nights, sunsets. And if you don't kind of just stop for second, you don't realize it, right? And then you're like, wow, wait a minute, why am I depressed? This is beautiful. Everybody's out there. But it happens. We all deal with it. None of us are perfect. no way, or form. But here's the thing, real life doesn't stop just because the weather changes. We still get stressed, we still get burned out, we still grieve, we still struggle financially, you we still are overwhelmed. And a lot of times we're just mentally exhausted, you know. So here's kind of what I want people to think about for a second. Just because it's sunny outside doesn't mean everything feels bright on the inside. And this is where mental health really comes into it. And for those of you that don't know, May is Mental Health Awareness Month. ⁓ And we all struggle with it. I'm not perfect with it. Cindy's not perfect with it. You're not perfect with it. We all deal with things in our own ways. We get better. We try to work on ourselves. But have you noticed in your life, Crystal, ⁓ and we're going to hit on this a little bit more next week, but now summer's coming around and you're going to start to get busy. Do you notice that like summer sad kind of kick in with you? Crystal Nevedale: Reminds more of summer anxious How I'm gonna fit in all the things that I need to fit in I have tons of different events John Adams: Okay. Crystal Nevedale: coming up, have personal events coming up, I also would like to live my life. So mine's more of like, how am I all gonna fit it all in? No sadness for sure for me in summer. John Adams: What about when your kids were younger and you knew the school season was kind of rolling out and now they're gonna be home more. Of course they're all grown now and your grandchildren are too young for school. think back then when the school season was coming to an end. Was it the same thing, a little bit of anxiousness? Like, okay, wait a minute, now I gotta fit all this in plus? Crystal Nevedale: Well, I think it was a lot more stress then because then I had to find out, you know, how I was going to manage them all day while trying to make sure I could still pay the bills. So that was that was way more stressful than what I have to deal with now. Like I have stress. I have work stress. I have life stress. All those things. I'm far from perfect. Nothing is smooth sailing in my life. It's just I just keep peddling. You know, I just keep going through it. But I have to say like now in my life it's definitely more anxious about what all the things, but I honestly I'm trying to find things now to help that. Like I'm working on that already before the busy really starts. ⁓ I've already been working on that. Like places to put my energy and I think that too that people need to think about how they're starting the day and that's really important because If you start the day being anxious and worried and uptight and all that, it kind of just carries to the next day. So I try to do like a morning ritual now where I'm exercising, like down here in local, like in a lot of local communities will have things like this. But I noticed there's a sign up down here where people, have a beach yoga and that's like a perfect way to start the day. It's like 8 a.m. on Wednesdays or something like that. Anyhow, I mean, stuff like that, like starting your day in I've been also thinking about this, like getting up and running to work, maybe the answer is getting up and spending 30 minutes with yourself before work. And maybe it's reading, drinking coffee, but I think that like we need to set the mood for the day that we want. John Adams: So that actually leads perfect into the next part that we were going to talk about, right? So morning routines and structure. ⁓ I think that as human beings, ⁓ we fly by the seat of our pants way more than we should. And we need that structure more than we want to admit it. ⁓ I'm an OCD person. If my morning, we've talked about this before, if my morning routine gets thrown off, it... used to and it still kind of does but it just it throws everything off. There's mornings where you know everything kind of just gets off whack and then I get in the car and I'm like I didn't take my stinking morning pills or I didn't you know what I mean because the routine my morning rituals it all got out of whack and I'm just used to like hey I do this I do this I do this so at the end of the day you know having some kind of structure in our lives is needed way more than we'll Crystal Nevedale: . . John Adams: ever ever admit to ourselves right so kind of think about this even planning like you just said planning things in the fun things right even though you know you're getting into your busy season you know planning in some of those things where you can have that fun but still in a structured way so that way you're not stressing because Crystal Nevedale: Okay. John Adams: you're planning it in instead of that spontaneous stuff that we all love. But sometimes you just need to plan it in. ⁓ Crystal Nevedale: Well, and being spontaneous sometimes great is if you're, you know, self committed to that. But a lot of times people say they're going to do X, Y, and Z and they don't do anything. So, you know, like, for instance, like when I was living my life spontaneous last year, I spent a lot of evenings doing nothing. I don't have an evening free ever at this point in my life. Like I just don't. Like there's But I've noticed that I wasn't a planner before, but now my partner now is a super planner. Like at seven o'clock in the morning, she wants to know what we're doing at 5pm. And I'm like, ⁓ gosh. I'm like, so now I've got nowhere like, I'm going to need a few hours. Like I'll let you know, like when I figured that out, cause I have no idea. Usually I do whatever my little heart desires. it's, it's structures like getting, actually getting better with it. I kind of like it more. John Adams: Yeah. Crystal Nevedale: I feel like I'm way more productive. How about you? John Adams: Yeah, that's my thing with structure. I have to and I drive Cindy nuts with it because I'm always, I mean, I'm planning tomorrow, today, because we talked about it. My tank of give-a-damn runs out at 2 p.m. So if I'm not planning it while I'm motivated, so I have to. I structure everything because once I run out of that motivation by 2, like you said, I'm going to be sitting there doing nothing. I'm going to veg out. I'm going to have the TV on. I'm going my feet up and I'm probably going to fall asleep. So I have to, and if I don't, and I'm constantly, okay, so when are we gonna do that? Okay, what are we gonna do? Because I have to. That is when I have the most energy. That's when I know if I don't plan this out, come 2 p.m. Because I started my morning at 2 a.m., right? So 2 p.m., I'm done if I didn't plan some kind of structure to be ready for that. And if I started it too, it's never gonna get done. ⁓ Crystal Nevedale: Right. John Adams: And that's kind of, you know, that tank of gibbedam. Same thing, your mental battery starts to drain faster if you don't have that structure. Especially for people that are kind of already dealing with anxiety and stress and all that other stuff. You have to kind of put that structure and plan things. Again, flying by the seat of your pants sometimes can be fun, but especially if you're in that season, you know, where you're starting to get overwhelmed, you gotta lean back to those simple things, right? I talk about it a lot with Living 95, it's those simple things. And it all starts with structure, planning it out, making sure that your routine is set. And then, if those spontaneous things happen and it's fun, great, you know? But if you fly by the seat of pants, you're gonna be more overwhelmed and stressed than you were previously. And you just kind of said that, right? Building structure in with Emily, it's been nice, you say, right? ⁓ Crystal Nevedale: Right. Right. I used to think that was a dirty word. Like I really did. Like structure, felt like it was so dirty. She was like, well, you kind of roll over the place. go, yeah, but I like it. John Adams: Yeah. See, with my ADHD too though, I would, I would be all over the place. If I don't have some kind of a structure, like ⁓ scheduling these things out, I'm gonna be honest, when it was just me, there was weeks where I would get to last minute and be like, ⁓ shit, I didn't record this week. You know, because I didn't have that structure, right? So it just wasn't in my routine. But now that I have... somebody that I'm recording with and I have a responsibility to you and your time. We structure everything out, we plan it, and now it's part of my plan, part of my structure, and it's so much easier. Because I know, okay, we're gonna be recording X day at X time. We finished last week's episode, and I'm like, okay, wow, she was talking about this is gonna be her busy season. You'd hit me right at the end, so do you have any ideas? I'm like, no, I'll figure it out. Crystal Nevedale: Okay. John Adams: Literally as soon as we disconnected, ding, there's the topic for this week. It's gonna be busy, right? So our next two weeks are already scheduled out and it kind of wrote themselves, you know? ⁓ So that's where structure really helps me is you're able to get that. And during the summer, especially if you're that person, now I love summer, Look, people say, man, it's too hot. Crystal Nevedale: Yeah. Right. Yes. ⁓ John Adams: Listen, okay, it is. I get out of the car in the winter. I drive ride shares, everybody knows, okay? In the wintertime, I hate going to the gas station. You get out of the car, the wind is whipping. It is, you know, 10 degrees outside and that wind feels like it's cutting through you, it's sharp. You might be out of the car for a total of three minutes to pump gas, probably even less, but it feels like an eternity. During the summer, Crystal Nevedale: Right. John Adams: It could be 110 degrees outside during the summer. get out of the car. I pump the gas. I'm like, wow, that breeze feels nice. This is nice, right? Yes, I get it. I don't want to be out in 110 mow in the grass. But it's you know, it's not as harsh as the winters in Northeast Ohio suck and you're by the lakes. You probably get it even worse. I'm a few blocks away, right? So for me, summer is my best time of the year. Crystal Nevedale: Right. Mm. ⁓ John Adams: Do I hate yard work? Yes. Do I love how my yard looks after I'm done? 100%. ⁓ But for a lot of people though, and I did the research, there's a ton of people that deal with summer sad. And it's so real, right? And honestly, it makes sense. Heat affects your sleep. Longer daylight affects your routines. More social pressure like we were talking about earlier. Here's the big one that we... Crystal Nevedale: Right. John Adams: Left alone, right? We really got down a mental health side of it, but there's the physical health side too, Body image. It's summertime. I'm not going to be covered up in a big thick jacket anymore. People are going to see the rolls and the, you know, looking like the, you know, I said the Goodyear guy, but it's before, but it's the Michelin man, right? You know, you got the roll. It's the truth. And people think about that. And here's the worst part. If you're in that all or nothing mentality that Crystal Nevedale: . John Adams: I used to be in. Okay, now summer's already here. I'm not gonna get fit before I gotta go out to these parties. So screw it. January's right around the corner. I'll wait until January 1st and start over. No, if you start now by next summer, you're gonna look even better, right? So stop stressing, stop starting over. Those pressures, we make those things way bigger than they should be. arguments. Listen. I will tell on myself a little bit. I don't like arguing. I don't like blah, And I will blow up, you know? We all have pressures. We all have stress. And at the end of the day, you add one more thing on it by worrying about all that stuff and go, wow, okay, I'm gonna put this off. No, this is the best time to start, start small. If it's financial pressures, know, summer's here and you're like, man, I wanted to really go on this trip, but I don't have the money. Okay. How much do need to put away today? So this time next year, I can take that trip. Crystal Nevedale: Right. John Adams: Pressure goes away because that number becomes so much smaller. We talked about this so many times. It's just like climbing Mount Everest. If you're looking at the peak every single time you go to attempt it and you're looking straight at the peak, that is so overwhelming. So, okay, you didn't make the perfect body this year. Fine. What do I gotta do right now to be there? Okay, you don't have the money for that vacation that you wanted to do this summer. Okay, it sucks. But what can I do right now? What's the smallest thing I can do right now to be ready for next year? These are simple things. I hate to make it sound so simple because they're not always. But if you break it down to small, it does. It gets a little easier. Am I wrong? Crystal Nevedale: No, I agree. I think that too, that we are like a society of we want things to happen instantly. I mean, I've been dealing with that lately for the last couple or three, three, four weeks. I've been dealing with like my weight issues. I've been weighing myself weekly and been being like really strategic and it's like nothing's working. So ⁓ like I just decided like, I'm just going to keep doing it. Like I'm not going to look at the scale anymore and I'm just going to keep doing it I Last week I was feeling amazing. I was feeling like I was very disciplined, I was very structured, I felt like I was doing all the things I needed to do right. But then when I got on the scale, it set a different story. So, you know, like I try to be in the reality of like, it's just not gonna be right now. Like right now I'm just gonna make the steps to be better and that's, it'll all fall into place how it's supposed to. It's hard to, like you said, like summer's here. John Adams: That's it. That's. Crystal Nevedale: and you're seeing everybody else all fit and everybody's taking the shot now and everybody's all fit and all these things. it's like, you know, I have to understand and honor my body and my time and just do it the best I can do it, you know? But there is a lot of social pressure recently. I'll say that too, because I deal with weight issues ⁓ with the season changing and all that. But there is a lot of social pressure with these shots. I don't know if you've been hearing about it, seeing people and talking to people about it. John Adams: Yeah. Crystal Nevedale: And know, like fast fixes, they're fast fixes. That's it. And they're literally a nose dive right down from there. And I kept thinking to myself, like, I haven't even considered it. I thought, you know what, I'll take it. But then you know what? I won't respect that, that because then I have like, I haven't put in all the work to make it hard for me to do so that it'll be easier for me to backslide. I backslid even after I worked really hard losing weight. So could I imagine if it was easy for me to lose? I really backslide. I know me. John Adams: That's it. Yeah. Crystal Nevedale: And maybe that's not true for everybody, but for me, I know that it would be really hard to maintain that without putting in the hard, hard work for it. It's like when you were a kid, you remember like your first car. Like if you had to work for your first car, you took care of it. Mom and dad gave it to you or something big, then it wasn't as special, I felt like. It's just putting in the work at all aspects. John Adams: I think I... Yeah. Yeah, yeah. No, it goes even deeper and this is why eventually we're gonna have an episode I think on that. I wanna get somebody on maybe from the medical industry that knows a little bit more than we ever will. But here's my thoughts on that. My worry about that whole shot is not, it's not the, like you said, yeah, you take care of it a little bit better. You you took, you worked hard to get there and that is so true, right? Because. For the last four years, I've worked hard to be where I'm at. Have I backslid a little bit? Sure. Did Christmas kick me in the rear end? Sure. Is there times when we're recording and I see the little double chin start and I'm like, oh, okay, I gotta fix something. Sure. But at the end of the day, I'm still on that path, right? This is a marathon, not a sprint. That is living 95. That's with building my company, with changing my health, with relationship. Look. Nothing's perfect and that's the point. You work on the 95 % that is good, so when the 5 % hits, you have something to grasp onto to keep you going. ⁓ But back on that shot, what worries me is more of this, okay? You built no habits. You built nothing. The shot made you less hungry. You still ate garbage. You still ate. You didn't eat healthy because... Crystal Nevedale: . . John Adams: And I know this for a fact because I know two people on that shot, okay, who didn't change what they ate. It changed the amount they ate. So, if you didn't start eating healthier, you're just eating less crap. So you got nothing healthy going into your body. You're getting no vitamins or even less vitamins than you were because there was little bit in what you were eating previously. So what are the effects that's happening inside of your body? Crystal Nevedale: Okay. Okay. John Adams: Outside you look like you're losing a ton of weight, but internally, I fear that you're probably having more issues than anything. And that's why I want to get a doctor on, because I want to know how many doctors that are prescribing that shot. And listen, nothing on the shot. If it helps you and you can do it right, and you can speak to a nutritionist while doing it to make sure that the less that you are eating is good stuff, and you're building those habits, you're putting the vitamins in, and hopefully, Crystal Nevedale: Right. you John Adams: taking a multivitamin or something so you're not losing out on that stuff. Great. But my fear is this. How many doctors are saying, here's the shot, and they're not saying, and by the way, on Tuesday you meet with this nutritionist. I promise you there's more doctors not sending you to the nutritionist than there are sending you to it. That's scary. And I'm not saying everybody needs to go to a nutritionist, but if you're taking that shot, you should be. Because Crystal Nevedale: Yeah. Yeah, because you're trying to change your life. All right. John Adams: If you're not, you have to, there's nothing changing. So when the, when you, when your A1C gets below the numbers, when the insurance company, because you're waiting your A1C or where they're supposed to be and the insurance company says, I'm not paying for that anymore. I can't afford that. Can you afford it? And even the multimillionaire famous people that are paying out of pocket for it. Eventually they're going to go, I'm not paying for this anymore. And when they stop, what happens? Crystal Nevedale: Uh-uh. John Adams: Because you changed nothing but taking a shot. And I hope that the people that are taking it are doing it the right way. But I have a feeling that more than not aren't. Crystal Nevedale: I know I feel like people should do what they want to do and all weight loss thing. It's a struggle for everybody. But I can't bring myself to doing it just because I know that it won't stick for me. Like, I don't know, I just need to know that I worked hard and I did it just so that it sticks, basically. That's the bottom line for me. And it... John Adams: No, for sure. I think if there was one person in the world that could take it and probably succeed, it would be you though, because you're gonna do the right things during it, I think, if that makes sense. I'll be honest. If four years ago, I took the shot immediately, I'm not where I'm at today. I'm probably, because by this time, I'm probably not getting it anymore, because the insurance company quit, and I learned nothing. I didn't learn anything about myself. Crystal Nevedale: Yeah. John Adams: I didn't learn anything about the mental side of it. didn't learn anything about any of it, right? I just lost weight. And that would have, I would be probably 400 pounds today instead of 311. You know what I mean? So, um, and yeah, I don't want to start 311, get down to 200, 150, whatever, and then become 411. You know what I mean? I want the, it's a constant drop and that's what I've been doing. You know, I might blip five, 10 pounds, but then I can take it back off. The roller coaster that I lived on for 20 some years of my life since I fell from that stinkin' was that. I would blow up, crash diet, get ultra skinny, look like a cancer patient, be frustrated because now I want my food again because I didn't learn anything, all I did was quit eating. And then I would blow back up, and that's more unhealthy. I mean, you can look on my Facebook and look at... Every six months, I was either a skeleton or I was the Michelin man. mean, look at it. There's a sick little, you know, and my buddy Dave Smith, says it to me, recently he hasn't because I'm on the right path now, right? And I'm constant. But he used to say to me all the time, man, every time I see you, you're a different way. You know what I mean? Cause I was, because I wasn't doing it healthy and I wasn't doing it the right way. So. Crystal Nevedale: Yeah. ⁓ Okay. . John Adams: We got out of fun a little tangent there, but that goes a long way with the summer sad, right? That's part of it is now it's summer. Now you can't hide behind the bulky coats anymore and the hoodies and the t-shirt or the big sweaters. And now the thinner t-shirts are coming out and maybe you're going to the pool. And if you go into the pool or you take it off your shirt or whatever, you know, and that's where, you know, a lot of the depression comes in too. Or Crystal Nevedale: . John Adams: you're going to buy new clothes for the summer because last summer's either is wore out or doesn't fit anymore. And you're frustrated and that is a huge part of the summer depression, right? And on the same token, you know, in the summer it's post relaxation, right? But not everybody recharges the same way. Some people actually feel more exhausted during the summer and they feel guilty for resting. We talked about that a couple episodes ago when you just you get that time to rest and you feel guilty because you could be doing something productive. So there's so many things that go into that summer sad, right? ⁓ And I honestly didn't think about it until you said last week, yeah, man, I'm really getting into my busy time and I'm thinking, well, okay. So then I started looking it up and it was, it was amazing to see all the people that this is true. You know, I always looked at summer as the I couldn't wait. I get tired of being cramped up in the house, right? Again, this summer I'm going to have to really work on it because I'm doing, you know, I've got a couple of clients now and I'm doing a lot more in this little dark room with the curtains. I'm going to have to open them up when I'm not recording. But I never thought that summer, you know, depression was a fact, you know, I winter. Crystal Nevedale: Well, think about all those, well think about all the guys that work outside and they're working from daylight to dark now. You they were off because they get a little window off in the winter and stuff, but they come back full-fledged. They're working 12-hour days on a short day. I mean, I could understand from that perspective too. That's a lot, like trying to manage your family and trying to make sure you see your kids in the summer, you know, because that's the time where a lot of men that work like that or women, ⁓ that's... John Adams: Yeah, yeah. Crystal Nevedale: when they get their money to survive the rest of the year. John Adams: Yeah, and when they are out there, a roofer, think about a roofer up on a black tar roof in that, you know, we're down on the ground going, man, it's hot. They're up in 200 degrees on that black tar roof, you know, 12 hours a day. When they get home and then, you know, the wife says, hey, let's do a cookout. They're probably like, I'm going into the AC. you later. You know what mean? So that's where balance really comes back into play. And it matters most. Crystal Nevedale: ⁓ no way. Right. John Adams: in these chaotic seasons, especially, look, we live in Northeast Ohio, it's constantly changing. know, the running joke is if you don't like the weather, wait 10 minutes because you've got, we got all four seasons and sometimes we get all four seasons in one day, you know, depending on if you're in the fall or the spring. ⁓ So it gets a little chaotic and having that balance and understanding that summer can be just as chaotic for people. It can be just as overwhelming for people. Crystal Nevedale: Mm hmm. Right. . John Adams: as winter. It could be just as overwhelming as for people as fall, know, the rain, know, spring and fall. It's just always cloudy and rainy and nasty. People like the spring or the fall because they go down to Amish country and look at the leaves turn. But that's about the only cool thing about the fall, unless you're a Halloween kind of person, right? You love the Halloween season. ⁓ So I guess my thing that I want everybody to take away this week is this instead of trying to keep up with everybody else or keep up with the Joneses. Crystal Nevedale: . John Adams: Maybe your goal for this summer is to protect your own peace. Whatever that looks like. That could mean saying no sometimes, keeping simple routines, protecting your sleep. Not sleeping all day, but protecting your sleep. Taking quiet moments, going for a quiet drive. Not overbooking yourself. Like this summer, if we were talking about this off the air, but... Crystal Nevedale: Yes. . John Adams: We don't know yet, but I'm gonna kinda just lay it out there just in case it happens. We might take a little four week summer hiatus because this is your busy time. And if I feel that you're, if you don't say it to me, but I feel like you are, we might do it. Or if you say it to me. Because at the end of the day, this, for us, is just as much as for everybody that's listening, right? Is to protect our peace, is to protect our listener's peace, is to give everybody, you know. And by the way, if we do that, everybody can go all the way back. Crystal Nevedale: Okay. Okay. John Adams: to when it was just me and catch up on all of those episodes. But if not, if we keep rolling, we keep rolling. But we'll announce it if we do. But at the end of the day, my biggest thing is to make sure that the people that are listening, you know, don't overbook yourself. Unplug occasionally. Like, I hate that I harp on this stupid thing all the time and I live on it myself, you know. But we need to just sometimes put these things away, put them outside of our bedrooms or whatever. And then allowing yourself just to Crystal Nevedale: . you John Adams: Be with the person that you care for. And honestly, you don't have to squeeze maximum productivity out of every single day. Living 95, when you can do it, when you can give it 110%, give it your all. Be the best John, can be the best Crystal, you can be the best Emily, you can be the best Cindy, you can be the best whoever. But on those days when life is chaotic and things just feel overwhelming and you're just at your wits in. Okay, stop. What's one thing that I can do today to make it productive? I can't get through it all. What's that one thing that I can do so I feel productive, so I don't feel like I lost my day and then that's it, right? It's exhausting to just keep push, push, push, push, push. If I was David Goggins, I would do it in a heartbeat. I'm not. And I don't claim to be, right? I wish I could say I was perfect. Anything else from you, Crystal? Crystal Nevedale: Now just keep going, keep making the best choices you can make. John Adams: 100%, you're allowed to enjoy your summer without trying to turn every moment into a highlight reel too, guys. Just get out there and have fun with your family. Take the photos because they are the memories, but don't let taking the photos become the thing, right? Enjoy your life, spend it with the people that you love. We went this weekend and they did a benefit for Ray for his bladder cancer. There was a huge turnout. That's the stuff that matters. Be with your family, be with the people that you can help, ⁓ and just try to enjoy your summer. If you feel like you're getting stressed, take that break. Just do the one small thing that day that can really just keep you moving. ⁓ Just ask yourself this. How can I make the most of my summer instead of asking, how do I keep up with everybody else? Ask yourself this. Crystal Nevedale: Okay. Okay. John Adams: How do I protect my peace this summer instead of running with chaos, right? At the end of the day, maybe it just means slowing down, taking your time. And if it means that you're worried about the summer body not being there, like we said, just understand that summer body can be next year. Start today, start small. What can I start today to get there? Crystal Nevedale: you John Adams: By the end of something, you might already be there. You never know. But don't stress about it. Stop measuring your life against everybody else. And just be you. Crystal Nevedale: you John Adams: What I'd like to do everybody, if you could just drop it in the comments, what helps you feel grounded when the chaotic seasons of life happen? Whether it's winter, whether it's summer, whether it's whatever it is, it could be prom season. Maybe you've got kids that are, you know, graduating. Maybe this is a different, whole different summer for you just because of things going on. Throw it in there. What helps you when life gets chaotic? And if you're having one of those chaotic moments and you just want to kind of slow down. Crystal Nevedale: Okay. Okay. John Adams: Head on out to Crystal's Treasure Box in Vermillion. People really just go in there and just get out of the pace of life. Step in. It's not a ton of stimulation. There's no pressure, no chaos. Look at everything that's in there. She'll help you with any questions that you got. This is her busy season. So while she's gotta be there all this time, stop in and help her out, right? Crystal Nevedale: Yeah. John Adams: Help her get back to when she can get back to winter and start traveling again. And honestly, this is one of the reasons that, you I think that you've got a great shop out there because you go in, there's so many like just cool little trinkets and things from, you know, the lake that's not froze over anymore where everybody's out having a good time. So step in out there at Crystal's Treasure Box in Vermilion. Feel the calm, feel the intention and just feel the difference when you get in there. And if you're creator, summer can become mentally exhausting for creators because I talked about it earlier. It's summer, I wanna be outside, but I'm gonna be in here working on some things. I've got some coaching clients now that I'm working with. But at the end of the day, you don't want to have that pressure keep you away, right? We all have the pressure to post more, travel more, capture everything and stay relevant to keep up with all those trends that are out there. Crystal Nevedale: Okay. John Adams: and eventually you'll stop experiencing life because they're too busy trying to document it. I talked about that earlier. Enjoy the time with the family. Document it. Those are memories. ⁓ it is the... We'll pause for a second. Crystal Nevedale: you Yeah, it's, yeah, it's emergency bell here happens every once in a while. Good. Cause I had an ear itch like for the last 10 minutes. John Adams: Yeah, that's okay. Crystal Nevedale: I'm like, God, I gotta itch it. But I was like, no, I can't. God, it's a long one, huh? John Adams: That is, it's winding down. Crystal Nevedale: ⁓ it's a fire truck too, so it must have hit. Must have got... John Adams: ⁓ yeah, cause you're not too far from the fire station there. Okay, cool. Okay, let me wrap this one up real quick. Okay, one, two, three. So that's why with Amplify, we focus on sustainability, sustainable systems that reduce your mental overload. Because creating content shouldn't feel like it's dragging you down. It should support your life, not consume it. Maybe summer doesn't need to be perfect. Maybe it doesn't need to be nonstop. Maybe you just want to slow down. So if you're creator and you're out there trying to feel like you just got to capture everything, slow down. Check out Amplify.com or Amplify.Living95.com. I'll walk you through everything so you can just slow down, take your time and enjoy the process. Summer's short, especially if you're in the Northeast. Enjoy what you got while you've got it. And Maybe it's enough to just simply be present with your family, with your friends, with your loved ones. Protect your peace, enjoy your summer, and as always, stay healthy. Crystal Nevedale: Stay balanced. John Adams: and keep driving forward. We'll see you next time. Okay, so let me stop that one.