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Why Won't She Touch Me? — When Affection Feels Out of Reach · Doing Marriage Well

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  Doing Marriage Well for October 15, 2026 Why Won't She Touch Me?
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  Wayback Post When Laurie asked the readers of The Generous Wife to suggest topics
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  to her, more than a few men made suggestions.
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  Why Won't She Touch Me? came from one of those suggestions, and became one of her top posts.
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  So, from August 7, 2017 What if?
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  Your husband didn't touch your face much at all. You talked to him about it,
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  and he knew you wanted him to, but for some reason he just keeps avoiding your face,
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  occasionally he will touch it when you make love but even then it seems a bit
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  forced like he's doing it more for you does he find your face disgusting ugly what's wrong,
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  for most of us thankfully this is not true of our husbands they love touching
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  and kissing and holding every bit of us,
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  however i want you to imagine for a moment it was true and how hurtful it would be.
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  I suggest this because there is a situation in many marriages that is similar
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  and just as hurtful why won't she touch me your husband needs you to appreciate and touch all of him,
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  your husband may have talked to you about it and you know he wants you to enjoy
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  his penis but for some reason you avoid it,
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  occasionally you touch it when you make love but even then it seems a bit forced
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  like you are doing it more for
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  him he wonders if you find his genitals disgusting or ugly what's wrong,
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  this is especially hard on guys their sexuality is integral to their identity
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  and their penis has been a lifelong friend,
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  when you avoid it you are saying there is something wrong or bad with it and
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  that translates to a rejection of his sexuality and of him as a person the same
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  way rejection of your face might feel,
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  if you struggle with enjoying all of his body take the time to ask yourself
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  why sometimes it's a matter of being told that sex and sexual body parts, are dirty or naughty.
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  Sometimes it's about past abuse or sexual sin, perhaps it's time to see a counselor.
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  Whatever the reasons, please challenge them and work for change.
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  Your husband needs you to appreciate and touch all of him. His body is wonderfully
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  designed and created by God.
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  All of it is very good. Please don't leave your husband touch hungry and in need of acceptance.
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  Michelangelo said, to touch can be to give life. Need a little help?
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  Check out Awaken Love's video classes. There's a link in the show notes.
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  This is Paul and touching his penis is doing sex and marriage well.