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274: Little Jolt of Joy - Dolly Parton's Lessons of Grit and Gratitude · JOY LOVING HOME - SAHM, Productivity, Home Organization, Declutter, ADHD Mom, ADHD SAHM, ADHD Brain

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  Welcome to the Joy Loving Home Podcast. Today is a little different format if you're newer here.
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  I haven't done a little Jolt of Joy episode in a while, but they're just short little episodes.
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  I don't play my intro music. I just have something on my heart that doesn't
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  necessarily have anything to do with organizing or decluttering or any of the
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  things, but it's on my heart. And so I hit record and I share.
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  And today I have just had the thoughts of Dolly Parton for obvious reasons in
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  my head and I've been listening to all the beautiful tributes and just I have nothing new to share,
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  from a standpoint of all that has been spoken about her but,
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  from my own personal experience growing up in a coal mining town in Appalachia.
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  She was one heck of a role model.
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  I have my best memories of sitting on the couch with my dad and watching her
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  and she's, you know, her talent.
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  Was amazing. I don't think anybody could argue with her positivity or,
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  I mean, she had this overblown sort of fake persona, but her heart was humble.
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  Her positivity was definitely not fake.
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  I just, I think she came from so much grit that she always understood how to be grateful.
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  And I think we miss a lot of that today in this insanely online existence that
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  too many of us get sucked into.
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  And when we watch what our kids go through today of seeing curated perfect events
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  where they think people's lives just run smoothly and there isn't a bump.
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  We as parents try to protect our kids from any kind of pain or heartache or,
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  bad days because it feels like our kid is the only one going through it.
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  And sometimes we have to fight really, really hard to not be bulldozer parents.
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  And if you're not familiar with that expression, it's where you run out ahead
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  of your kid and you smooth the road so much that you want to make sure they
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  never ever hit a bump in the road.
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  And it's as much as it feels like the right instinct, it's the absolute wrong instinct.
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  It's the wrong thing to do. We need to allow our kids to experience the bumps.
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  We need to help them understand how to navigate the hard times.
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  We need to help them know that they are not alone, that everybody is hitting the potholes.
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  Everybody is struggling in some capacity. It's not the stuff they throw online,
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  but it's the real parts of life that everybody has to go through.
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  And the art of not sitting in it and dwelling in it, but the art of looking
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  for the bright spots, the art of being able to dance in the rain.
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  The skills that you build in helping yourself and your kids understand that
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  tomorrow is a bright new day of different possibilities that maybe didn't exist today,
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  of building a muscle to look for,
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  the light is,
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  a life skill that they will use over and over and over.
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  I have a kid in a bump now, and when you've got four children,
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  that expression where you're only as happy as your saddest child is so real. But,
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  Helping them little by little understand that you make decisions in life and
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  they're always not going to work out great, but you've got to walk through that decision.
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  You've got to see it to the end. You've got to look for possibilities to pivot.
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  And not one of those options is giving up. Not one of those options is,
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  well, I get that that's too hard. Why don't you just, you know,
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  why don't you just stop and come home and start over in a new way?
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  It's not always an option.
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  It's often not an option. And so learning how to grit your teeth
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  and continue to walk forward and continue to look for the bright spots and continue
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  to have the resiliency to start to think of how can I eventually pivot from this?
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  How long is the commitment I made and how do I see it through to the end so
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  that I can walk away from this valley that I happen to be in right now with,
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  my self intact, with my lessons learned coming with me,
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  and with the wisdom to make different choices the next time I get to make choices for my life.
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  I just, I don't want us to lose the grit and gratitude that Dolly had.
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  Life was not this perfect smooth ride, but the positivity was always there.
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  And if you are in a struggly point right now in your parenting journey,
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  in your home journey, in whatever scenario you're in with one of your kids right now,
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  to constantly scan the horizon for the bright spots, for the moment that maybe
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  you had your eyes closed to that was actually a little bright sparkle in the
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  midst of all this darkness.
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  All of that is something that you keep reaching towards and keep choosing.
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  Dolly will be incredibly missed.
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  It's definitely a bright spot gone, but obviously her legacy will live on forever.
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  And like her, I want to always continue to choose the joy.