Latest / Just For Today / 84. Unjust criticism
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- Jessica Figueroa: Good morning, everyone. Welcome back to just for today. We are going to work today on accepting unjust criticism as a compliment. How many times have you been criticized unjustly? That someone says something or it's backhanded or they go above your head and tell your boss something. How many times have you experienced that? And it's just not fair. But the reality is that people rarely bother criticizing people who don't matter or aren't doing anything significant. So there is a flattering component to criticism. So what if we accepted all of our critiques as flattery? What if we thought of every critique received as somebody saying, Wow, you're doing something and I want to tell you how to do it better? Even if it's your mom. Have you ever, does anyone have an overcritical mom? What if you just accepted that as a compliment because she thinks you're capable of doing more, being more, exercising more, eating less, whatever it is. But just for today, we are going to work on seeing all of the unjust criticism in our lives as a compliment. And this isn't far-fetched, guys, because people don't criticize people that they're not watching, that they're not paying attention to, that they're not admiring in some way. So it really is, there is a compliment to it. And it doesn't mean you have to accept it. It doesn't mean you have to take it in. And it doesn't mean if there's someone in your life who's unjustly criticizing you over and over and over again, it doesn't mean that that relationship needs a re-evaluation or a new boundary. But just for today, that's not what I'm asking for. Just for today, I'm asking you to see this unjust criticism as a compliment. And if none no unjust criticism comes your way today, good for you. I want you to think about some past unjust criticism and reframe your thoughts around it. Meaning reframe means literally that. Have you ever taken something out of one frame that was really old and put it in a new one? Or just change it just because that's what reframing is. So maybe take a past unjust criticism and take it out of the frame, peel it off, and stick that puppy in a new frame. The new frame where that was actually a compliment because someone was paying attention. I know it's not easy, guys, but we didn't say getting better was easy. We just said it's doable one day at a time. I'll see you guys tomorrow.