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Episode #179: How Emotional Weight Impacts Our Well-being · Tea Time w/Amie & Bev

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Hi, Welcome to tea time with Amy and Bev. Good morning, good
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day, doom, good night. I don't know whatever that's right. It
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could be any of those things, because it could be you could be watching
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this at any time, so it's perfect. Be a year from now or
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ten years from now, who knows, who knows where we'll go? How
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are you doing? I'm doing quite well, I think, uh A conversation
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for today because I'm living. It is emotional weight. It's a thing.
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And if you don't believe it's a thing, it is. And I say
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that because I have talked several times about manifesting and you know, co creating
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with the universe, and you know I still believe it, and I believed
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it then that we can manifest whatever we want. It's our belief in it,
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and it's our worthiness of believing in it in ourselves. And it's also
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the stress. So when when you're in the in the middle of some chaos
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a storm, and you have you cannot take your attention away from it because
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it's right there, it's in your face. You're focused on it, and
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no matter how much you try to not focus on it, you focus on
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it. And I know that and I've known that for years, even in
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talking about co creating with the universe, So recently I had to make the
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decision to take a breath from my business and get a full time job for
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the purpose of paying my bills. The bills still have to get paid,
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so in doing that, it took my focus off of the bills needing to
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be paid, not enough money in the account, How am I going to
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pay this next bill? Right? And even though I would redirect my focus,
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that was still in the back of my mind, so it wasn't completely
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my focus off of it wasn't complete. So by going and opening that door
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of getting a full time job, knowing a check is coming, money's coming
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into my account. My bills are paying paid with ease, which is a
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request in my co creation with the universe. I want my bills to be
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paid with ease. I've been asking for that for quite a while, and
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here we are. It's happening. It's happening in a way that I did
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not expect or think of before. And I've also talked about going to the
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gym and get my body in shape, and that really sparked or lit that
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fire back in December when I saw December of twenty twenty two, when I
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saw my when I went to my doctor's appointment, got my yearly check up,
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and I managed to reduce my size by nineteen pounds from December to about
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a week ago, and I couldn't get past that. Can get past it.
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So in the relief of getting a full time job and knowing that my
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bills are paid, I don't It's like not a stressor I've reduced another pound
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in a week. So I feel because of this change that's happening in my
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financial status that there will be more weight released with much more ease. So
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stress, First of all, stress has a huge impact on our body.
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But also if you think about when like financial burdens, relationship problems, not
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liking your job, having health issues, we take that weight on. I
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get that sensation through my neck and shoulders, which is a indicator that I'm
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taking on the weight of the world, so to speak. But it's the
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weight of my problems, the weight of our problems in my marriage, and
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so taking that on. So we use those words right, the weight of
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and so what does that do? It piles up it within our body.
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So I just want to bring that to people's awareness that if you are in
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some way struggling with reducing your size, maybe you've tried every diet in the
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world. Every one of them worked, but what happens when you go off
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of them you usually gain more pounds back and than where you started to begin
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with, Well you want to, My suggestion is take a look about of
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what's going on in your life. What are you focus on, what are
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you still hanging on to from your past, what is causing internal struggle mentally
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emotionally. Just really start looking into all aspects of your world, your inner
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world, and just notice where is that weight? Where are you hanging on
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to that weight? Nice? Well, very awesome for you. I know,
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I got on the scale because I weighed myself once a week. I
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got on the scale. I'm like, twenty pounds. I'm so excited.
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I celebrated for a few moments and got excited about it because it's it's been
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It's just been one of those things like every week I'm like, oh,
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still nineteen pounds. I would fluctuate sixteen to nineteen pounds, sixteen to ninetear
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eight every week and I'm like, what the hell, seriously, this has
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been months. Wow, Now I know. And actually, I'm just gonna
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say I knew even even before before deciding to getting a job, I already
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knew what my block was. I just had to do something different. So
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I did. I wasn't easy, No, wasn't easy. I talked about
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this in the last in the last couple videos that I grieved ugly crag greaeny
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because of the change and so, but at the same time, I knew
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something good was going to come out of it. Great, I mean it
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just good. Is where I could be. I knew something good would come
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out of it. But really, when things happen, great things can come
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out of it. But maybe we're just not mentally and emotionally there to recognize
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great things could happen and all the possibilities. And so this job doesn't even
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feel like work because I'm actually doing what I was doing and sitting here in
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my desk, I'm just doing it at a different desk, and I'm surrounded
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by people. I'm meeting lots and lots of new people. I'm learning lots
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and lots of things about our community. And even like when I was sitting
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at my desk five o'clock, I kind of did the you know, stop
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working around five so I could cook dinner, but even then I would work
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till six. Same thing. At this job, it's like, oh,
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it's fine, Oh I gotta go, it's five o'clock. Really it's it
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doesn't, which is fabulous. It doesn't even feel like a job job right
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that it's daunting. It's it's actually been fun and so much variety, and
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it's it's been interesting. I mean, like seriously, it's been very interesting
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learning all this new stuff. So nice feeling your way through it. That's
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one of the things I noticed. For when the emotions start coming up,
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if we get caught up on the story, I'll slow down and start listening.
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Where is it showing up for my body? How's it showing up for
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my body? And then I start asking all kinds of questions, and I
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ask for help to raise my vibrational frequency because a lot of times it's harder
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to it feels like it's more daunting to address any of the situations from the
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space where you're coming from from that victim, trauma, drama, emotion,
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like just stuff that was stuck. But it's not just stuff it aside and
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then go get busy and ignore it. It's to stop and reflect and allow
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it to release from you, not to hold on to it anymore, which
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is so amazing, amazing afterwards, amazing when you recognize, amazing, when
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you recognize you're in your story, that you're repeating a story over and over
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and over again, it's pretty incredible. I was just listening to a podcast
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yesterday and one of the persons had said on there, you know, it's
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being aware of what you're asking for. Because he's a psychic medium and he
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would do all this stuff and he's and he was young, and he said
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to him, Harry said, like, I just want to feel normal.
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And so then he goes into do a reading for somebody, for a group
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and he can't. Nothing's coming through, nothing's happening. And he's like like
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what He's like asking inside of himself, like what's going on? How come
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this is happening? And it flashed in his mind what he had asked for.
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So we asked for a lot of things, whether we intentionally know we're
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doing it or not. And you talked about what we put our attention on,
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and it's like, whatever you're putting your attention on. If you want
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to sit and watch the news all day, you're putting your attention on whatever
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that energy is, and whatever that energy is, you're asking for more of
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that energy. So if you're watching some sort of a new newscast that's going
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to uplift you and raise your vibration, that's awesome. Then everything you go
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listen to or do after that's going to be more uplifted. And you can
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it with an awareness and with asking you can maintain that higher and higher and
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higher. But we get a tendency to get back into the old story real
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quick, back into the old the old paradigms, just all the old stuff,
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and it's we just I think I feel like everybody is like kind of
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reaching and grasping out whatever they are familiar with these days, because things are
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so unfamiliar and it's okay, it's okay, it's not a it's not bad
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this unfamiliar area. It's like, well, okay, so what does what
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does abundance look like from this area? What does love look like from this
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space? How can I be around people and still love them? And how
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can I honor myself? That's one thing I've learned recently is more communication.
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I'm not always great about that, but I'm working on it. I'm not
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keeping stuff inside of me anymore. I just let it out. I don't
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and I don't let it out like I'm word vomiting all over somebody. I'm
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letting it out like I'm standing on my ground for things. If i don't
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feel comfortable with a client, I'm letting them know, or I'm putting it
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out there like I'm going to cancel this person, and the person calls because
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I'm removing them from my calendar, and then the person calls and cancels their
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appointment. It blows my mind, but that's our intentions. That's when we
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decide what our worth is. And also realizing I'm not here to fix everybody.
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It's not my job to fix everybody. It's my job to fix me.
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Not that there's anything wrong with me, but it's my job to work
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on this, to become familiar, to understand why I get the goosebumps,
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to where I get to goosebumps when I get them, to understand how I
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can be in silence more and hear more of the communication that's coming through.
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And for me a lot, it's just scribbling. I can sit here,
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listen to something else and it's like I get downloads of information. I'm not
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even trying anymore. I don't try. It's just something that's just coming,
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and it's I've been I'll wake up in the middle of the night, I'm
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meditating. I quit smoking marijuana because I could feel. It was just before
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my grandson was born, but I could feel that it was a distraction that
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I was. I had gotten to the point where it was distracting me from
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my thoughts and it was interrupting my dreams. I wasn't having dreams that I
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could remember. I would have like pieces and I would know that I had
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had a dream. But it's stepping away from that and even recognizing how in
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the evenings I might feel like I want to gravitate towards that, or it
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might kind of be a hint of it, and it's like, no,
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I just go go on and do something else. And I listen to what
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my body's asking for, and I'm soothing it. But I'm listening to it.
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I'm hearing what it's asking for. I'm also paying attention to how we
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view ourselves. We view ourselves and it's like if you age spots. Listeners
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to use age spots, if you see age spots, and you see them
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on people when you're working on them, or you see them on whatever.
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You're creating that in your own physical body automatically. So my thoughts are I'm
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seeing myself the way I want to see myself, and I'm noticing shift I
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got. I dropped down to one hundred and forty nine pounds. I'm not
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trying to drop weight, but I did because it's there's a there's a change
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going on in my body, so to go from dropping fat to adding some
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more muscles. So I'm in the process of all this stuff, but it's
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not something that I physically have to do. It's me being aware where my
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thoughts are at. Am I looking at myself and seeing something that's wrong when
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nobody else sees it, but I'm seeing it. So now I'm creating something
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I don't want to create because no one else sees it. I communicate with
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people, I'm asking questions instead of instead of walking. If I leave a
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situation and I'm driving home and I feel like, oh God, I shouldn't
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have said that, or I feel like I feel stupid, which I know
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this is childhood stuff, but in order for me to step into that or
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to recognize what's going on and move past it, I have to I ask
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questions, and so for the person I would be talking to, I would
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ask the questions and it's like they answer. Especially I know that I've got
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someone in my life that is one hundred percent like she just automatically will tell
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me. She tells me the truth, no matter what, she tells everybody
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the truth. And she's so refreshing. She's so refreshing because a lot of
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times I feel like and I say the truth because a lot of times a
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little say how are you doing? Oh I'm great, but I'm not great?
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Do you know what I mean? So to me, that's it's having
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that integrity to say, well, I'm having a shitty day today or whatever,
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but also knowing I know it can get better than that. It's not
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when I say that doesn't mean that I'm going to keep maintaining that. But
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I'm going to recognize where I'm at. Because I'm recognizing where I'm at,
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so I can go to where I want to go to, I can lift
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up to where I want to lift up to, and I am I'm doing
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these things and I'm feeling happy. I'm getting up in the morning. I'm
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feeling happy. I'm enjoying all my dogs around me because I've got six of
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them, so I'm enjoying them. Like if I go, I'm going in
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the room to get ready for our video today, and it's like I look
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back and they're all laying in the room with me, and I'm like,
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this is awesome. They're hanging out with me. I love it. I'm
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singing and listening to the songs. I'm just doing things that I want to
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do. And how do we know? Because we put ourselves aside so many
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times all the time, like we put ourselves aside, oh I eat.
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For instance, we could you and I could be having a conversation. I
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have to go to the bathroom, but I'll sit there and hold it and
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hold it and hold as long as I can and can instead of honoring my
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body body and saying, hey, give me a minute. And it's just
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those little things. You start doing those little things and everything else starts to
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shift because in your body, everything's like, oh, okay, this is
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what she wants these days, this is where we're gonna go now, and
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it changes everything. But it's honoring ourselves and we don't recognize that we're not
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honoring ourselves until we start paying attention. And that's where I'm at right now.
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Our body is such a huge indicator and it's like we could just talk
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about that topic forever, like forever, because of each part of our body,
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because of every organ, because of the cells, because of the bones,
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because of the muscles, like everything in our body has a story,
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and it's trying to when there's some discomfort, it's trying to get our attention.
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And this weight I have been carrying for several years, not months,
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years, and I it was before was twenty nineteen is when I started in
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the journey of going to the gym on a regular basis, and then twenty
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twenty happened and they shut everything down and I wasn't motivated enough to do things
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at home. But I maintained the same weight at that time. And it's
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taking the time, taking the opportunity to listen to it. I think I've
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shared before that I attended a retreat and our teacher said one of our things
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because it was over like four days, and she's like, Okay, tonight,
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you're going to go back to your space and you're going to write a
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letter from your body. To you. And the stuff that came up was
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again ugly cry because my body had these things to tell me. And the
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realization was doesn't matter how much you use me, I keep showing up.
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And that was so heartfelt and it was like it was so true. And
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this is when I realized like I was being the abuser, which was what
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I was trying to avoid because I experienced abuse in my childhood. But yet
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here I was abusing myself and doing this, I mean, doing the same
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thing, just in a different way. It was mental and emotional abuse,
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which is what I experienced in childhood, and that led to physical abuse because
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of the heavily heavy amount of alcohol I was putting into my body. And
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so part of it comes down to is well, majority of it comes down
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to people don't. We just don't want to face the hard stuff. We
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just don't and it's too difficult. But here's the thing. When you have
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somebody walking with you through it to help he those layers and to shift your
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perspective and give you a mindset shift and helping you in those those healing processes,
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it's a lot easier than you think. I think the biggest part is
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just wanting to to move through it, making the decision, making the decision
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Okay, I'm going to do this. That takes a lot of strength and
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and I would say we are all stronger than we're giving ourselves credit for,
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just because of everything we've already been through. And you've already been through it,
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like you've already been through it, you've already lived it. Now it's
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going back and just saying Okay, now I'm trying, and now I'm ready
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to release this. Now I'm ready to heal this. Now I'm ready to
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see this differently. And with you can't see things differently typically until somebody gives
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you a way to see it differently. You don't know what you don't know.
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And that's where I was when I started reading the books, and the
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biggest one was Wayne Dyer's book Your Erroneous Owns, when he started giving a
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different perspective about his dad who abandoned him and became an alcoholic. And there
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was an alcoholic and then he died, and Wayne Dyer had very deep hurt
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and anger towards his father, but changed that. He was able to change
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that perspective in the fact that his dad had his own pain. His dad
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had his own issues that he was dealing with. Some people would say the
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demons in your head, and you know, however, you see that,
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I just, you know, it's just to me emotional heaviness. And he
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once he got a different perspective, his heart softened and he had compassion and
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he was able to forgive. So, you know, don't I say I
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did my my healing journey alone. Actually I did it in the closet.
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I was never alone. I was doing it quote unquote in the closet.
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But I was attending classes, I was reading the books, I was listening
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to you know. It was as much information as I could to help me
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shift and change. So I never did this alone. I just didn't have
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the support system around me because nobody else was in this same They were in
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the same space with themselves that I was ready to be in with myself.
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So and I just knew I did not want to live out the rest of
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my life holding onto this deep seated deed, seated anger and shame and guilt
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that I was carrying until I took my last breath on this planet. I
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just didn't there had to be something different, And so I made that decision
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because I wanted to be. I wanted to experience genuine happiness and I couldn't
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deal with where I was and I needed help. So that help came through
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the forms of books and teachers and and then later I started getting into,
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you know, getting coaching and mastermind groups, and like I still to this
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day, I'm still reading and in mastermind groups and stuff because I still need
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that support system to keep moving forward. And so my message is don't don't
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think you ever have to do this alone. But if you want something different,
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you got to do something different. And fear is the one thing that
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keeps you from looking at these things. You get so fearful and you hold
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on to these stories. But when you start talking about them, it starts
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getting easier. Yeah, it starts getting easier. Then a lot easier than
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you thought it would possibly be. And it's like that takes away a lot
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of that fear. And it's so it does remove a lot of weight and
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the happier that you are. If we are happy in a regular basis,
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it doesn't matter what foods we eat, it doesn't matter what we do.
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Everything is always going our way. We're always happy. Your weight's always going
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to find its natural balance that feels good, and you're not even going to
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be paying attention to it because it's not a focal point. It doesn't run
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your life anymore because you're happy, you're not paying attention to those things.
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But when weren't unhappier or like you were saying, carrying that weight of things
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on you, which does feel heavy, But emotions don't have to be heavy.
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It can be just like, oh, okay, I'm gonna go ahead
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and look at this. I'm gonna download this process and then i'm gonna reformat
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my hard drive and I'm gonna everything's cool. I just created space for everything
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to go to its natural place without trying to control it. And I think
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a lot of times, mostly probably almost always, everyone's trying to control some
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aspect of their life on a regular basis, and probably I'm getting a little
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bit more laxadaisical about some things, like even being on time for things.
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I might be admitted or something, but it's like that's life. That's life.
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And it's like if that, if that bother someone else, then I
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meant to trigger that other person so they have an opportunity to grow from it,
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because a minute, it's really nothing, but I did have someone in
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recently and he's like, oh, did I get here too early? And
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I just stopped and I looked at him because I didn't get it until afterwards.
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I'm like, what do you mean? Because I was still getting the
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table, I was bringing in stuff from the vehicle and you know, other
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things like that. Plus my clock in my office was a little bit fast,
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so I changed it, but I was I didn't I didn't get it
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because I wasn't in that space of trying to feel like I had to defend
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myself or anything like that. It's like, listen, you're we're on a
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good time right now. And it's like I always make sure everybody gets their
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time. I never short their time. Their time is out. Whatever time
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my hand touches their body, that's when we start. That's when I start
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my time for the massage time. So because I honored that hour. If
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they're paying for an hour, I honor that hour. So it's just it's
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interesting as we're going through and I recognize this a while. Gosh, it's
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been a long time, probably about ten years ago, because I realized I've
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been doing massage for ten years now. So before that, I was a
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detention officer, and I remember going to training and realizing, you know,
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getting with a group of people and then laughing, laughing and laughing, and
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I realized I hadn't laughed and forever, hadn't been happy for a long time.
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And the environment I worked on really, I mean, you might have
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a couple of little chuckles here and there, but it was never that deep
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belly laugh. And when I got into that space, I started finding my
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own happiness and then struggled by trying to keep myself in the space in a
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relationship. Hey, I love Jim, but I'll tell you, I think
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a lot of times we were hold we were holding onto our stories and we
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weren't moving forward from a lot of things. Does that mean that we go
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and get divorced or you get separated, No, it doesn't mean that.
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But it's an opportunity for the growth. It's to see those things. And
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at that time, at that space, I was not able to do that
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those things because I was feeling the taste of happiness. That's all I wanted
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to do. So I came back home, packed up my stuff, went
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to my parents' house. That was the way I handled that ten years ago,
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or actually it was probably eleven years ago. But it's just interesting that
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this process and when you look back, it's, you know, sometimes it's
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the stuff feels so traumatized and it's feel so scary, and and I beat
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myself up for the longest time for you know, for my relationship with Jim.
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But I realized it wasn't just being that relationship and neither one of us
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were growing. We were both in a stagnant place, and that's okay.
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It wasn't a bad thing, and we were both We're triggered to hell out
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of each other on a regular basis, So I mean it, all those
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were opportunities. And until you can get into that space where you can catch
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your breath, you don't recognize that those are all opportunities. You don't recognize
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I don't have to pull onto this stuff anymore. You don't recognize I've had
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to peel so many layers up my defensiveness away to come into a place where
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I don't understand. I mean, I turn around looked at him. Before
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I would never said I don't understand what you're saying, what do you mean?
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Because that would have made me look like I was stupid, and I
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didn't understand it, but now I just don't understand. And I'm also recognizing
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it's good that I don't know everything. I don't want to know everything.
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I don't want to know everybody else's stuff. And then something else I heard
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too is when we talk about putting labels on ourselves, it's like if we
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say, oh, I'm an EmPATH, now you've put yourself into a space
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that you're gonna feel everybody's emotions all the time. You could say I'm ampathic,
26:12
I'm super sensitive, I'm highly intuitive. You could say a million other
26:17
things instead of stead of putting yourself in this one label, in this one
26:19
box. Just like I've talked about before, saying that I'm psychic, or
26:22
I'm a medium, or I'm this, we're all those things. We don't
26:26
have to label it. We're here to experience things. We're here to love
26:30
ourselves regardless of what choices that we've made, to be to do and be
26:33
better every day. That's what we came here for. We came to be
26:38
the ripple. Yeah, and the idea I would just want to hit on
26:45
the idea that you know your client's concerned about the time and you're just like,
26:52
I don't understand what you mean, not trying to control. Maybe that's
26:55
something he needs to experience for himself, right, because every retire retired military,
27:00
absolutely every encounter with a person is an opportunity to learn something about yourself,
27:07
for sure. And yeah, you know, just planning that scene,
27:12
like we're good, what's Yeah, it's not not a big deal. They
27:22
get there to get upset or riled about nothing really, Oh yeah, not
27:29
saying that I don't get riled about some things occasionally, but that just obviously
27:32
shows me that there's something going on or it's hey, speak speak your truth,
27:37
like, speak up for yourself. I've worked on a person's energy recently,
27:40
and it's like they're totally ignoring everything about their inner child. Like their
27:44
inner child's like trying to get all this attention and all this body stuff is
27:47
shown up, and it's getting worse and worse and worse. It's not getting
27:51
better and you and that goes back to the early Peur conversation. We can
27:55
get busy, we can find a million distractions because they're out there. We
27:57
can play video games, we can get high, we can drink, we
28:02
can obsessively work out, we can it's whatever, it's whatever we want to
28:07
do, it's it's wherever our mind goes, and if we're in some cases,
28:11
I feel like maybe it's all I don't know, But I think in
28:12
some cases when we're holding on to weight, we're because we're holding onto some
28:17
shit that we don't weren't ready to let go of yet because we don't know
28:19
it's there until we're triggered, so we know that it's there, right,
28:22
But then that's the opportunity, or it's just the fact of, hey,
28:25
how can I be happy? Every day asking how can I be happier than
28:29
I am right now? How can I be happier than I am right now?
28:30
And then you constantly ask that you're not You're no longer sitting in all
28:33
that storm, you're not sitting in your old labels, you're not setting in
28:36
your old stories that aren't even all true anyways, but you're not setting in
28:40
it anymore. You don't have to. It's like taking a freaking going and
28:44
sitting in the koozi chub and in like dirty water like all the time,
28:48
or you know, mud, and it's not a bad thing either, but
28:51
you just kind of get the idea that it's not it's not clean and pure,
28:55
it's it's there. We have opportunities all around us, and it's I
29:00
feel like a lot of this is really focusing on what makes us happy?
29:03
How can I be happier? And it's really looking at that and asking those
29:07
questions all day long and then really being aware of what we're what's coming in
29:10
our way. When I see numbers, now, I automatically look it up.
29:12
I don't always clear out my cash or my information on my Facebook or
29:18
not Facebook, on my Internet on my phone. And so I'm going in
29:22
there and I'm looking up because I got thirteen three thirteen. So I was
29:26
looking up the number, and then I was going through clearing out some stuff
29:29
and I got thirteen thirteen not that long ago, and I'm like, okay,
29:32
but I spent You know the frequency of the numbers, and I don't
29:33
wait to see them three or four times or two times. If I see
29:37
it one time, and I'm in an awareness right now, what am I
29:40
thinking? I look up that number and I find out what it's, what
29:44
it means for me right now, So it's there is It's it's faster now
29:48
because I don't have to wait for all the extra stuff I'm if I ask
29:52
for signs, I know it's coming faster. It's it's awesome. I meditate,
29:57
like every time I wake up in the middle of the night, I
30:00
the thing again like I used to do. And I'm seeing all kinds of
30:03
faces. I don't even know where they're all from. I'm seeing so much
30:06
different stuff. I'm having different experiences, and it's it's fun because that's what
30:11
kind of makes life fun. It gives you like you feel like you're on
30:14
this journey it's like, and it makes it more magical. It doesn't feel
30:17
so mundane because our daily tasks can become very mundane. And and that's another
30:22
thing. It's awesome that I have massages, but it's also stepping putting my
30:26
foot down and recognizing I don't like to do more than three massages. I
30:30
prefer to a day, and I only like to do them a few times
30:33
a week. And that's okay. I don't have I don't have to try
30:36
to compete with someone else that likes to do eight or nine a day.
30:37
I don't care. You can kill yourself or if that makes you happy,
30:41
you do it, but that doesn't do it for me. So it's just
30:44
it's recognizing all these things that what makes our what floats her boat, what
30:48
makes me happy, doing the things even in a relationship, doing the things
30:52
that you want for yourself, being the being what you want in that relationship,
30:56
How do you want to how do you want your relationship to be,
31:00
how you want to be in that relationship, be how you want to be
31:02
treated in that relationship. Have the conversations be loving, because I haven't always
31:07
been loving, but I have learned a lot and I am much more loving
31:11
now. And I'm learning and I like it. I like the way the
31:15
feel of where it's going now. And it's not something that's to be controlled.
31:22
Yeah, it's something to be experienced. And when you talk about being
31:26
happy, for a few months, I wasn't happy sitting here working on my
31:36
business because I didn't feel like I was getting anywhere. I didn't feel like
31:37
I was accomplishing anything. I didn't feel like I was progressing, and the
31:42
bills were still, you know, balances were still getting higher, and there's
31:48
a little bit in money in the checkbook, and so I knew I wasn't
31:53
happy. And even since it's been like thirty days since celebrate my one month
32:00
anniversary my new job. People have commented on the shift of my energy and
32:07
how how I've I'm different, and it's because that stressor has been lifted.
32:17
And so what Bev's saying, you know, is do things that fill you
32:24
up. And you know, when you're not feeling that happiness or that joy
32:30
or that that lightness, then something's got to shift. And so take again,
32:37
your biggest indicator is your body. Your body's going to let you know
32:39
what's going on. And this taking some time to tune in to what are
32:46
what are my choices, what are the things that I could do differently?
32:52
And we've had this conversation that there's an average of seven solutions to every problem.
33:00
Make the list, even if you don't like the solution, write it
33:02
down, because that opens you up to other solutions coming and utilize that information
33:10
to help shift and open the doors. Because because if you're staying in the
33:16
muck and guck of where you're at, that's what you're going to keep getting
33:21
muck and guck. And then if you just shift turn your attention to something
33:25
else, that something else could just open another door. And in thirty days
33:32
of this new job and releasing that that stress of focusing on am I going
33:39
to be able to pay my bills? I've got three new clients. Keyword
33:45
is new. I don't know any of these people. Three new clients.
33:49
While I take that back, I know one as an acquaintance and they and
33:54
yesterday referred another person to me. So three people who are becoming clients that
34:04
I don't even know because I've shifted my focus and I thoroughly am enjoying my
34:15
job like it's been fun in these thirty days. It doesn't feel like a
34:17
job. And so that vibrational frequency, if you remember, we talk about
34:22
vibrational frequency a lot, my vibrational frequency has raised, and now that it's
34:29
raising, still raising, I'm now attracting people into my business like I haven't.
34:37
You know, I didn't go get a job just to stop my business.
34:40
My business is still there. I'm still teaching classes and I'm still I'm
34:46
still intend to have coaching clients and all that and that just on my business.
34:53
There's I'm just limited on time right now because I do have a full
34:58
time job and I still have a household to maintain. So I just fitting
35:01
that in where I can and still having the opportunity to make or to help
35:10
people with the direction that they want to move in. And so this is
35:17
how it works. I know this is how it works. I've known how
35:21
this is how it works. It was just having I had to to just
35:25
do something different. And because I took that step, now these other things
35:30
are happening. I have another lady who's reached out to me who wants me
35:34
to teach a class, a meditation class or breathing techniques to attorneys. So
35:40
it's I'm like, how great is this going to get? Because I'm ready
35:46
now, I've been ready, but I just had to get out of my
35:50
way and let go. You're holding on to other things, so you've had
35:53
to let go of those things in order for you to for you to be
35:57
able to open your hands up to hold on to something or something new as
36:00
you're no longer like this right, you have your hand open to receive and
36:06
recognizing each It's a choice. We make choices all the time. We can
36:09
choose to stay in the mucket guck, or we can make a choice to
36:13
like go meditate. I can sit and get stressed or anxious and feel those
36:16
feelings and know immediately that's just that's just my body letting me know, hey,
36:22
I can keep going this way if you want, that's not a problem.
36:24
Or we can stop and take a breath. We can stop and close
36:28
our eyes and we can breathe, or we can meditate for a few minutes.
36:30
Because I noticed, it's a huge shift, and that's our choice.
36:35
I believe me, a lot of times I don't make the choice to meditate.
36:37
I'll make the choice to stay in that space because it's so easy.
36:39
It's like, I gotta get this done. I gotta get this done.
36:42
No you don't. You think you do, but you don't, because guess
36:45
what you drop off the planet today. All those things that you thought you
36:47
were supposed to do or had to get done doesn't matter anymore. It doesn't
36:52
matter. So it's like where we putting our energy into and along those lines,
36:59
I just want to I just want to throw this in there that you
37:01
know, Bev and I had. Bev was graciously enough to be flexible in
37:08
changing when we do tea time because I got a job. Typically we would
37:14
do tea Time on Tuesday morning at ten not available that day, So can
37:17
we do it on Sunday mornings? And so we do the recording on Sunday
37:24
morning, and it still posts in social on Thursdays. But that first week
37:34
that that happened, my life was very tight on time, and I had
37:40
to pick and choose things that were like really priority, and so typically in
37:49
pre job, on Thursday morning, I would you know, get to my
37:53
computer and I would post the tea time in the other areas of Facebook,
38:01
so on my personal page, my business page, and my group, and
38:09
and I posted again in our community group, and it automatically posts on our
38:15
Facebook page Amy and Bev. And then we have a group Amy and Bev
38:19
Community. Well it already posts because we're streaming this live. We stream it
38:23
live in the group Amy and Bev Community. But I would still post it
38:30
again in that group. So that would be my Thursday morning thing. Well,
38:36
I have a job, and that Thursday morning comes and I kind of
38:39
stressed out about it. I'm like, oh my gosh, I can't how
38:42
am I going to get this posted? Well it didn't. It didn't get
38:46
posted I think until either Friday or Saturday. And the next week I was
38:52
like, I'll get to it when I can get to it. If they
38:55
want to see it, Here's what I'm telling you. Go like our Facebook
39:00
page, or go get into our Facebook group because it will already be in
39:07
there and you get to see it live if you want so, or otherwise,
39:15
it's gonna post when it's gonna post. So I've taken that stress off
39:21
of me. I know it's gonna get out there. And divine timing,
39:24
right, Divine timing is like, well, you're gonna see it when it's
39:29
the right moment for you, and you may not see this for another five
39:30
years. I don't know. It's okay. And my whole thing is I'm
39:37
not spoon feeding anybody. So I do group two times a month period and
39:43
I'm not spoon feeding anybody. If anybody wants to make it to group,
39:45
they show up to group. If anybody wants to come watch tea time with
39:49
Amy and Bev awesome, because you got to listen to what you want.
39:52
I can't make people want to make changes in their lives. I can't make
39:55
them want to show up for themselves. People make excuses all the time.
39:59
I don't have a ride or whatever. That's fine. There's millions of ways
40:01
of getting to where you want to get to if you really want to do
40:05
it right. That's my from my perspective. You do all the advertising and
40:08
stuff like that. I don't do any advertising. It's just not it's not
40:12
my nature. It doesn't feel it. I don't resonate with it. It's
40:15
not my nature. I just don't resonate with it. It doesn't it's not
40:17
something that resonates with me. And I also know there has been times if
40:22
I wanted to do something bad enough, I would have shown up, and
40:24
a lot of times I wouldn't show up because a while while back, I
40:28
wouldn't show up and I would feel like, well, God, damn it,
40:30
why did I just go to that? Because I had my own reasons,
40:34
And now it's not I don't feel that way anymore. I'm going to
40:36
show up where I need to show up. I sit and I ask my
40:38
pendulum a lot of questions. I don't even send out if I even send
40:42
out invitations to people, and if anybody listening, if you want to come
40:45
mention it, we'll have a conversation. But I don't send out invitations to
40:49
everyone because it's like a lot of people are contacting me to find out when
40:53
the next thing is going to go. Hey, Amy, I haven't seen
40:57
tea time with you guys, where's it at right now? Where can I
40:59
find it? You've got to reach out, We've got to do We've got
41:01
to go go after what we want. That's paying attention to what we want,
41:06
and that goes for not just for me, but it goes for everybody.
41:08
So if I want to do something, if there's a place that I
41:10
want to go to in town and I haven't gone to it yet, well
41:13
that's on me until I could put the focus on doing that. If I
41:15
want to run around in circles for days and days and days, that's totally
41:19
up to me. If I want to run around in circles and then wonder
41:21
why I don't have time to do anything, Why don't have time for anybody?
41:23
How can I fit this all in? It's it's it's getting into that
41:29
space of again going back to the happy conversation, being happy and making those
41:32
decisions, because when you're happy, everything just kind of flows anyways. If
41:36
it's just kind of flowing, I don't have to try to figure out how
41:37
I'm going to get the grandkids into my life or how I'm gonna do this.
41:40
It's going to flow into my life as it's supposed to, not for
41:45
me to kind of run the show and do everything else. It's just for
41:46
me to I've got my own things to do. I've got you know,
41:50
I've got my own focus to work on. I've got me to work on.
41:52
Because the more that I work on me, the more I write.
41:54
I can see it in my own family and it's not doing anything. It's
41:59
it's absolute. It's before you know, the grand baby came, and it's
42:02
like he was born Wednesday morning at six twenty one? Was it Wednesday whatever
42:07
twenty first was. Maybe that was Thursday and I remember now, oh,
42:09
because it started Wednesday evening, that's right. But so I didn't see clients
42:15
Thursday or Friday. I didn't see anybody. I just canceled them. And
42:17
before I would never have done that without, oh my god, the inner
42:21
turmoil I would have had for that. But it's like, you know what,
42:23
if I'm not available, that gives that person an opportunity to either I'm
42:28
not saying they have to go find someone else, but to also explore those
42:30
options that there is someone else, or maybe take some time for themselves,
42:34
because maybe that's the way they've been taking their time for themselves, and maybe
42:37
it's time for them to find a new teacher or for them to gravitate to
42:39
something else. It's not for me to feel like I have to maintain everything
42:44
for everybody else all the time. And I was doing that. That's why
42:46
I'm bringing this up, because it was feeling that way and it's fricking heavy.
42:50
That's heavy shit like fill your solar plexus when you're When you're having that
42:52
kind of a conversation, it doesn't feel good. So it's being in the
42:55
space of just honoring that. And if I don't feel like going in,
43:00
going to cancel my clients. Sorry, it's not that I don't love them,
43:01
I don't care for them, but I got to care for myself.
43:04
I've got to love myself more. I do, because if I can't love
43:07
myself more, I can't love anybody else. The love that I feel now
43:10
for Freeman is so huge, but it's only because I'm learning how to love
43:16
myself. And if I didn't love myself, I couldn't love all the people
43:21
in my life as much as I do right now. It's not possible.
43:23
It's not possible because I kept everybody in a safe place, because I kept
43:28
me in a safe place safe, So I wouldn't get hurt if something happens
43:31
to him. Well, guess what something could happen to him? This is
43:35
life. That's the way it is. And I'm going to have to grow
43:37
with that. And it's another growth opportunity when I tell people, and I
43:40
understand this is the message, when I tell people, it's an opportunity when
43:44
we when someone transitions, it's an opportunity for us to realize the connection was
43:49
never severed. It was always there all along, and the only way we
43:52
can find out is when something like that happens, it creates a great asking
43:55
within ourselves to propel us forward. All of this. The conversation that we're
44:01
having is really like you really got to check in with what you resonate with.
44:05
If you don't know how you're feeling, take a look in your environment.
44:07
Your kids, let you know how you're feeling by their energy. How
44:09
are they acting towards you right now? Your animals act funny or maybe like
44:14
I have six dogs, so they might have start having arguments amongst each other.
44:16
If there's turmoil with it myself, your vehicle, maybe you're having vehicle
44:21
problems. There's just so many things that show up in your life, because
44:24
if you're happy, those things can still show up, but they don't seem
44:27
to They're like effortless. It's like, oh yeah, just dust that off
44:30
and it automatically gets fixed. Everything automatically gets taken care of. It's just
44:36
there is a different flow to everything when we decide to let go and not
44:39
try to control all aspects of everything. It's amazing and I'm still working on
44:45
it, and I'm probably gonna be working on it for a while because it's
44:46
there's layers of it. However long we've been here, how many lives have
44:52
we been in this in this space? How many times have I I came
44:55
back to planet Earth or school room Earth so many times over and over and
45:00
over and over again. And then having all of our ancestral stuff. It's
45:05
like looking at all that stuff and just loving all that stuff and then taking
45:07
a look at your inner child. It's like I have someone recently, like
45:10
I talked about back to the inner child stuff. I'm going to have a
45:15
conversation with this person coming up, and the conversation is going to be,
45:19
Hey, this is the information I'm going to supply to you. You've got
45:21
to do the work. I'm not doing the work. I'm not going to
45:22
go find the videos that are going to help motivate you. I'm not doing
45:25
that stuff. I've done it in the past. Now, if I'm watching
45:29
a video and someone maybe their face slashes in my mind's eye, or hear
45:32
their name or whatever happens, or maybe they just message me at the same
45:36
time I'm listening to it, I know that's for them also, it's not
45:40
just for me. But it's just recognizing those things. And you can't fix
45:44
people when they don't want to be fixed. And if you think that they're
45:46
broken, then you better just take a turn around and start looking at yourself
45:51
again. How are you seeing this as a broken person, Because if you're
45:53
seeing them from a soul level, they're not broken. They're having an experience,
45:58
that's all. And they're just mirroring their brokenness to you because you feel
46:02
like you're broken, but you're not really. I wanting to recognize that exactly,
46:08
because we're not. We're not even all these things that we're doing right
46:12
now, we're it's not just for us, it's for the whole collective.
46:15
It's for the whole planet, it's for the whole universe. It's for everything,
46:20
everything that we're figuring out to move through it. If we're constantly thinking
46:23
that we have to fight up fight something because there's something going on in our
46:27
lives, we're gonna have something to fight. But it's recognizing it doesn't have
46:30
to have a fight. I would say before becoming neutral, it's coming neutrals.
46:34
It's another way of saying coming from the soul. If I'm coming from
46:37
the soul, I'm seeing everything has an opportunity or an experience, and a
46:40
lot of the stuff that other people are experiencing I'm not experiencing. And there's
46:45
a reason why. It's not because I'm better than anybody else. It's because
46:49
I've changed my focus. Nice when you're talking about the boundaries. What came
46:55
up, you know, and not babysitting people and stuff. What came up
46:59
was just before we got on here to record this, I saw I had
47:02
an email I have on my website. I have a contact me a form
47:07
so if somebody wants to reach out and you know, connect with me,
47:10
they can leave some information and then get back to them. Well, the
47:16
form was filled out from somebody who works on websites, and what they were
47:21
promoting was the idea that when somebody visits my website, I immediately get notified
47:31
so I can reach out to them, like right now, okay, and
47:36
I'm and I looked at him, thinking, no, I am human.
47:43
I have a life, and I teach people how to treat me. So
47:52
if they think they have immediate access to me, that means anytime day or
48:00
night, anytime day or night on any day twenty four to seven. I
48:06
don't operate like that. I'm like, don't unless there is a dire emergency.
48:14
I'm like kind of still old school. You text me after seven,
48:19
I'll be contacting you tomorrow or my next business day because I still have things
48:24
to do in my own life. And you know, when we think about
48:29
it, you see this with actors, actresses, people of that are well
48:36
known, your content, really popular content creators. They just they can't go
48:42
out into public and be a person. They're always having their picture taken,
48:46
They're always having people interrupt them, They're always having people all up in their
48:51
business. And it's like, we, yeah, those are our jobs,
48:57
and we still get to be human. We still get to have a life,
49:00
we still get to spend time with our family, we still get to
49:02
spend time with that daughter who's in labor, having your grandchild, Like,
49:07
we still get to have these experiences too, and you you teach people how
49:14
to treat you, and so yeah, boundaries are super important. And also
49:19
recognizing babysitting people in this that was something else that was stirring in me with
49:25
my business is babysitting people. I'm like, you're fifty fucking years old.
49:32
Why are we still babysitting you? Why are you not taking responsibility to find
49:37
the information? You have access to the internet, You have access to my
49:42
website. You have the same access to everything that I do. Why are
49:47
we still doing this? Why are we not taking more responsibility for our own
49:52
life and our changes and reaching out to get the information or getting help and
50:00
still staying stuck in the crap. So I'm like, great, I'm with
50:07
you. Do I do the marketing, Yes, I do the marketing,
50:09
and I have my own person, I own my own purposes. Yes,
50:14
But the whole babysitting people, And I think too, BEV that that comes
50:19
from us as having to grow up so quickly in our childhood and being quote
50:23
unquote independent and figuring stuff out and being in that survival mode like we have
50:30
those qualities in us, which is great. That's what childhood taught us.
50:36
Great. We take the responsibility for our life and we take the time to
50:42
seek out what we want. And uh so I think that has you know,
50:47
that independence was a great value for us. But those people who grew
50:52
up who were coddled, Mom did everything for them, and you know,
50:57
and now they need somebody to hold their hand through everything. It's like,
51:00
uh no, let's let's let's change that. Let's let's get out of our
51:06
comfort zone a little bit and let's do things a little different because I still
51:10
have a house to clean, dishes, to do laundry, to do my
51:15
you know, my own bookkeeping, for my own personal finances to do to
51:19
run a business now with a full time job. Like you got to step
51:23
it up, people, I'm telling you. And it feels good to say
51:28
that out loud. No, we's yeah, it's empowering, it's taking your
51:35
power back. And I think because training, training is the thing, a
51:37
lot of these people are going outside of themselves and you know it's easy,
51:44
it's not easy. We we have different training, so now we can see
51:47
things in someone else that they could. It's an opportunity for them to grow.
51:51
They could they could take these make these choices, and their lives could
51:53
be a lot easier or a lot better. But for the first part of
51:57
my life, I didn't want to go that right And I think I chose
52:00
that path to be like that, and I'm not upset about it. Before
52:04
I would have been bothered by it, But I chose that path to be
52:07
who I am right now. I chose that. I didn't choose an easy
52:09
path for a reason, because I wanted to grow, and I wanted to
52:13
have other experiences, because I have a better understanding for other people, not
52:16
even during this experience in this physical body, but in the for me after
52:22
I'm no longer in this physical body. It's for all of us. It's
52:27
to be in that space. It's to even though that my grandfather hadn't molested
52:31
me, to even love him. I couldn't love him from the space of
52:36
a human here, but from a soul level, I will always love him.
52:39
There will be no separation. He is one of my guys, and
52:44
I know this, But it's like in Gosh, when you think about that
52:49
in such a different way, I guess if I had to go through something
52:52
like that, it's better to know that on the other side, that we
52:54
had this sole plan, that we had this you know, this growth process
53:00
as to have these experiences so that I could have an understanding about what somebody
53:02
else had experienced over and in my case, I feel like mine's mild compared
53:07
to others what they've experienced. But it's it's all been to it's been to
53:13
spur me into the person that I am right now, and then also knowing
53:16
when we feel like we're stuck, there's opportunities. You can come talk to
53:20
us. You can have reiki treatments, you can have acupressure, you can
53:22
have acupuncture. I'm going and getting the treatment done in October. October tenth,
53:27
she scheduled it, which is my mother's birthdays. Which is another sign
53:30
for me that I know this is the right thing, because why because it
53:32
shows up in my experience now that one. I did wait for it to
53:36
come up a few times before I before I stepped into it to do something
53:39
about it. Numerous times it's been in my face because I know this suit
53:45
that I'm in right now has energy that is stuck in certain places, and
53:49
it's like going in and having your robot work done to kind of get the
53:52
wiring all fixed up again so that everything's flowing smoothly again. That's what I'm
53:55
going to do. That's what I'm going to go do, and I want
54:00
when I talk about it, when I think about it, I get emotional
54:01
because I know that I'm going to have such a huge response from this,
54:05
because my body's not going to be all plugged up anymore. My computer,
54:08
my suit, whatever you want to call it, my robot, you know
54:13
what I mean, all these things. It's not something that I have to
54:15
be caught up into, but I have an opportunity for that growth to release
54:17
things. I no longer want to carry this stuff anymore, and I'm I'm
54:21
ready to let it go. I'm ready to be I'm ready to let everybody
54:23
go. Honestly, I'm I am. So however that looks, that's fine.
54:30
I'm not going to hold onto anything because whatever's supposed to be in my
54:32
experience is going to be in my experience. Those are the people that are
54:36
going to be in my experience. And we know that those things change.
54:38
But it's just like for you if we were holding onto stuff, clients or
54:42
anything like that, which I have done as well, and I'm learning to
54:45
let go. I'm just letting go of them because it's not my job to
54:49
walk with them this whole way if they want to come, because because they
54:52
can still come see us at amy and or tea time, they can still
54:55
come see us to group, they can still sign up for your classes,
54:59
they can beat you where you're wherever you're doing things that there's always the opportunity
55:05
that's right there. It's just whatever they want to do. It's not too
55:07
we're accommodating. So we're there, we show up, and it's this opportunity
55:12
for someone else to show up and decide that they want to be there or
55:14
not. And it's been that's been a learning because when we're talking about people
55:16
pleasers and fixers and all that stuff, and realizing I don't have to those
55:21
weren't my titles. I don't have to claim that anymore. I can just
55:23
be whatever BEV wants to be. And I'm not even BEV. Like I'm
55:28
listening to Jim Carrey talking yesterday and I don't remember what movie he I can't
55:32
remember the guy's name that he played the character of, and he got so
55:36
involved in the character he lost who Jim Carrey was, and then he realized,
55:42
Jim Carrey is just another person, just like this other Andy krafftman.
55:45
I think that's who he was, the the actor, but he when he
55:49
lost himself in that, he realized, well, who am I? And
55:52
it's like he even said, I'm not Jim Carrey, I'm not Bev,
55:55
You're not Amy. We came in here to play a role. We're playing
55:58
a part to have these experiences and it's freaking That's probably a lot for some
56:02
people, but it really it kind of takes a load off. It's like,
56:07
you don't have to know all your words. The words are gonna come.
56:10
You don't have to know your part. You're just gonna go out and
56:14
be and you're gonna do your parts and you're going to experience it without controlling
56:20
anything. And that's relieving. That's like, oh great, that means I
56:24
can't do anything wrong because I'm really just coming here to have an experience and
56:28
I'm really coming here. I'm just in my role right now in my Veverrol.
56:31
But that doesn't identify who I am. I am so much more than
56:35
Bev. You're so much more than Amy. Where we limit ourselves by all
56:39
these things and these labels and our names are labels too, and it's okay
56:44
to be in that space and to honor that space, but also know that
56:47
you're so much bigger and you're so much more and when you let go of
56:51
all that wanting to control all that and be all that and try to be
56:54
what everybody else wants you to be, and life is easy. Well,
57:00
when you said, you know people pleaser and fix her and all that stuff,
57:04
those were all survival skills and they served a purpose and we needed those
57:07
skills. Really, we needed those skills, and so we were given the
57:13
opportunity to learn them. And did it suck? But for me yeah,
57:16
mostly for most people. Yeah, that's answers. Yes, it sucked the
57:22
how we learn them. But at the same time, it's recognizing, oh,
57:28
I'm still doing it fifty Yeah, And it's also recognizing we've had the
57:32
experience of it, so we can see it in others. So when they
57:36
come to us for help, it's just like the molestation. It's just like
57:37
everything else. Yeah, So we take you know, BEV and i's taking
57:43
the time to recognize it, do some healing around it. We're setting boundaries
57:46
where you know, we're at that space like I don't want to hold your
57:50
hand. I just don't And I will be a resource in the best way
57:55
I can. But you know what, put the class on your schedule.
58:00
You know what we've been doing tea time for three and a half years.
58:02
You know when it's available. It's available Sunday live in our group on Facebook,
58:13
and it's out there on social media later in the week. So you
58:17
put that on your calendar and take responsibility for it. You know what we
58:22
do. Bev's a massage therapist. She has this group, she does these
58:25
different things. You could reach out to her. You know, I do
58:29
things. I teach classes, I coach, I do reiki sessions. They
58:31
do all this stuff too. Reach out to me. But the survival skills
58:39
that we learned were so vitally important, and now we've done a huge process
58:46
of healing those wounds of how we learned those skills that now those skills are
58:54
vitally important in the massage therapy, in the coaching, in classes, in
59:00
group and now I mean even ed my Lette talks about it. With his
59:06
alcoholic father, he had to listen to the keys jingling outside the door to
59:12
determine if his dad was drunk or not. Now he has exceptionally good listening
59:16
skills, but he had to heal those wounds he had. He went through
59:21
a forgiveness process with his dad and their relationship changed and his dad got sobered.
59:28
And so the skills that you learn are still important. Now is to
59:35
decide how are you going to utilize them in a different way that is beneficial
59:43
for the growth of yourself and others instead of attached to a victim story.
59:49
And again that all contributes to emotional weight. All of it, everything we
59:53
talk, everything we can talk about, affects the body. And if it
59:59
does affect your if you are it could be you're completely stressed out and you
1:00:05
don't eat and you're not taking care of you could drop weight like in an
1:00:09
unhealthy way. And the opposite is true. You can be completely stressed out,
1:00:15
be an emotional eater and gain a bunch of weight. So you know,
1:00:20
it's just coming back to listening to your body, recognizing what's going on
1:00:23
with your body. Sit down and write that letter to yourself from your body,
1:00:28
just so you can get somewhat of an understanding. And maybe you need
1:00:30
to do that process several times just to start developing that relationship with your body
1:00:36
so you can listen and you can make changes. And if you're going to
1:00:38
make changes, put the stuff on your calendar. Schedule it in. Yeah,
1:00:45
because you have to take time for yourself if someone else can't do it.
1:00:47
I don't remind clients of their appointments. I do not if they send
1:00:52
me a message and say, hey, I just want to confirm. Now.
1:00:53
Have I messed up on the calendar a couple of times? Yeah,
1:00:57
I actually have. I'm not perfect, but I'm I'm okay with that.
1:01:01
Life happens and there's always reason that it happened that way. Anyways. It's
1:01:05
not to sit and beat ourselves up about it. It just means that something
1:01:07
different was supposed to happen at that time. It's not to beat ourselves up.
1:01:12
And like I said, I don't. I don't typically remind clients of
1:01:15
their appointments if they can't maintain or there. You said a long time ago
1:01:19
to me, you're gonna do what's important to you always. So if it's
1:01:22
important to you're gonna put it on your calendar. I'm not babysitting people.
1:01:25
We got to do what we've got to gravitate to what's important to us.
1:01:29
We've got it, we've got to have we have to be our own advocate.
1:01:31
I told that to someone recently. I'm going out of my way to
1:01:35
sit up an appointment and times I don't normally see a client, and I
1:01:38
had to remind She's like, oh, no, I can't ask you you
1:01:42
that. I said, hey, I'm offering, I'm offering this to you,
1:01:45
but you've got to be your own advocate. I can't do it for
1:01:47
you. I wouldn't offered it otherwise. So she kept She went ahead and
1:01:52
agreed, and we were maintaining that conversation so nice. It's because people have
1:01:59
to do what's important them because if we walk them along all the way,
1:02:00
what happens when we're not here anymore. They can't do it. They don't
1:02:06
they're lost. And it's not for them to be lost. It's for them
1:02:07
to have an understanding that they gained something from us, so they can see
1:02:12
themselves and quit hiding from themselves and trying to put the blame on everybody else.
1:02:16
Yeah, it's to change things, creating boundaries and if you know,
1:02:22
protecting your own energy and if you were a bird, mama, bird's gonna
1:02:25
kick you out of the nest, and you either in the out of the
1:02:28
nest, and either you fly or you drop. It's true, we'll see
1:02:34
you in your next life. We take things too seriously. And and when
1:02:42
you think about it, talking about being happy, happy and series aren't in
1:02:45
the same place, just not And and I mentioned so just really, I
1:02:51
just want to say this real quick. We're at our hour and and uh,
1:02:54
just real quick. I wanted to throw in there that I you know,
1:02:59
I strongly believe that like deja voo moments are just like signposts that were
1:03:05
on our path and I hadn't had one. Like I get the numbers all
1:03:07
the time, and I love the numbers that I love looking them up and
1:03:10
seeing, you know, like you were talking about earlier, where you're at,
1:03:14
what's going on? What are you thinking about? And that's kind of
1:03:16
an indicator. So I'll do the same thing. I look up numbers.
1:03:21
And I've still been seeing my numbers, the four four four and six two
1:03:24
four, and I just smile. I'm like, of course, you know,
1:03:27
and just but the dejah voo moments, I have not had one in
1:03:30
a long time, and this was just just crack me up that I was
1:03:34
at work yesterday Friday. So it's Sunday right now, So Friday was at
1:03:38
work, and that dejah Voo moment was me walking into the bathroom at work,
1:03:45
and I just I'm like, of course this would be one. It
1:03:51
was just funny and I was like, ooh, yay, okay, this
1:03:57
was meant to be. And then we're good. We're good, good,
1:04:00
be great. So and you're funny of bringing up dejah vous. When my
1:04:03
daughter was having Huxley, she had a dejah vous moment while we were in
1:04:09
there, and it's like, that's awesome. Just you just know that you're
1:04:11
on the right path. I go, I just I don't know. It's
1:04:15
just amazing how you introduce another family member into the family and how it changes.
1:04:20
It creates such a balance where balance was needed. It's gonna be an
1:04:28
amazing journey. I'm sure it is. It already has been a knowledge tis
1:04:34
absolutely all of it is right, It is all of it. So all
1:04:40
right, my friends, we want to thank you for sure for being with
1:04:44
us, tea time with Amy and Bev, your time, your energy,
1:04:46
and we you know, of course, we know you could be doing anything
1:04:50
else with this hour of your life and you chose to hang out with us,
1:04:55
So thank you so much. And again, as I mentioned, we
1:04:59
are Facebook. We have a Facebook page, we have a Facebook group,
1:05:02
and look us up and come join us. Like the page, join the
1:05:08
group, and connect with us in other ways. Bev mentions she has a
1:05:13
group meets every two weeks or twice a month, and so it's very important.
1:05:17
It's supportive. It's a great way to get that non judgmental support and
1:05:26
be with like minded people to be able to talk about things that might be
1:05:30
weighing heavy, that's creating that emotional weight. I you know, I do
1:05:34
coaching and classes, so pick what works for you and whatever works for you
1:05:40
in that moment, and you can try different things, different people, but
1:05:44
do something for yourself to start easing up that stress that you that you've been
1:05:48
harboring in your body for so long. So do you have any final words,
1:05:54
beb, you know, just really stop and take some time for yourself,
1:05:58
really looking at yourself and it's it's okay. It seems like it's hard
1:06:02
at first, but it's okay. And also I want to mention someone was
1:06:05
saying that it's really hard to find us actually on YouTube because we use the
1:06:10
and symbol, so that's instead of using the word, and so I just
1:06:15
wanted to point that out, so it says Tea Time with Amy and Bev,
1:06:16
and it's the symbol instead of the word. So that'll make it a
1:06:20
little bit easier if you are having a struggle finding us. That was just
1:06:23
pointed out to me just recently, and I didn't even think about it.
1:06:27
I would never even have processed that being an issue because I find it easily.
1:06:30
So I don't know, and you've been on YouTube if you look up
1:06:33
Amy and Beev community, that's another way to find us. That's actual the
1:06:40
channel, and then our podcast is Tea Time with Amy and Bev. So
1:06:45
those were learning curves when I set everything up. It was in my early
1:06:49
stages of this staff. So I don't know that I can change that.
1:06:54
I haven't looked into it. I've just left it alone. But that's why
1:06:58
I find it important. I mean, it's on Spotify, our iHeartRadio,
1:07:01
Google podcast, podcast Addict, and then all over Facebook, so it's like
1:07:09
there's no reason why other than the hand sign that would be the only thing.
1:07:15
And I don't know if that would even change it because it's like if
1:07:16
there's I go back to the same conversation. If you're meant to find that
1:07:20
this is where if this is what resonates with you, if it resonates with
1:07:25
your soul, you're going to find it. Anyways, it doesn't matter.
1:07:27
But I just wanted to point that out just for people. I wouldn't go
1:07:30
change any of that stuff. I believe it just the way it is.
1:07:32
And then, like we talked about the responsibility ask the question, Hey,
1:07:35
how do I find you? I'm not being able to I can't find you,
1:07:38
Guys, how do I find you? And you can send the link?
1:07:41
I can send the link, right, So that's part of that.
1:07:45
If you want the information and you desire it, you'll find a way to
1:07:48
get it. And great way to do that is ask questions. And it's
1:07:53
true. And I wanted to point out because on the bottom of my list,
1:07:56
I was like trying to read my writing, like what what did I
1:07:58
asking questions? If you don't know how to ask questions, if you don't
1:08:00
know what questions to ask at just say I don't know what questions to ask.
1:08:03
Help me out to ask questions that are that are going to bring the
1:08:06
things that I really intend to bring into my experience, like ask questions.
1:08:12
You don't have to. We don't have all the answers, but we have
1:08:15
connection to all the answers, and you can ask the universe, the universe.
1:08:20
That's what I mean. How yeah, how do I how do I
1:08:23
get this podcast? I can't find this podcast of Amy and Bevin. You
1:08:26
know what's gonna happen? Like if you if you're on social media, you
1:08:30
can guarantee you're gonna scroll up a little bit and there we are. Yeah,
1:08:33
someone's gonna send it. Yeah, someone will send it out to you
1:08:36
right now. Or yeah, it always shows up when you ask. But
1:08:40
it's just asking us questions. Someone asks, I didn't clarify, But when
1:08:43
you're asking, I ask Holy Spirit, I ask God, I asked the
1:08:46
Creator, I ask my guys, I asked my angel whatever I feel like
1:08:49
doing at that time. Yeah, and I don't say I have second guests
1:08:53
that I don't second guess it anymore. Like if I say, okay,
1:08:56
oh no, I didn't mean to ask for angels. No, yes you
1:08:58
did, because you said angels first, and then your mind got into it
1:09:00
real quick and tried to change where you were going with the whole path.
1:09:03
It's like, no, just go along with what first came to you.
1:09:08
The universe is there to help us and co create with us, and they
1:09:11
always have access to them always. That's right, all right, my friends,
1:09:15
Thanks for hanging out with us, Tea time with Amy and Bev,
1:09:17
and we'll see you next time. Bye,