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Turning 50 and Owning Your Number · WhozYourMama

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  SPEAKER_00: Welcome to Who's Your Mama, a podcast focusing on tomorrow's feature, which are our kids, educators, teachers, parents, all encompassing with the goal of understanding that our brain is a muscle that we can exercise to control the speed in the direction that we want.
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  SPEAKER_00: Let's go, y'all.
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  SPEAKER_00: The time is now.
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  SPEAKER_01: So normally I would say to you fill in the blank, welcome to Who's Your Mama?
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  SPEAKER_01: But this is something different and completely outside my comfort zone, at least in terms of filming.
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  SPEAKER_01: I've done things in the past where I've stood up stage and filmed or done things live, but to be speaking to myself, I call it the board.
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  SPEAKER_01: Me, myself, and I.
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  SPEAKER_01: But one-on-one is a different type of vulnerability, which really started to spark my mind as to what are some topics of conversation that are going in my head.
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  SPEAKER_01: Whenever anytime things are repetitive, I can isolate them for a handful of reasons.
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  SPEAKER_01: And many a times it's because it is really important to me.
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  SPEAKER_01: Kind of like why I've waited to film this because it's really important to me.
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  SPEAKER_01: And I want to do my best to make sure that I'm conveying the message that I want to for myself and others.
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  SPEAKER_01: It's all intertwined.
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  SPEAKER_01: And also, what are some things that I can see patterns of that of importance?
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  SPEAKER_01: And I wrestled with so many different areas because I don't want to segregate it in terms of conversation.
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  SPEAKER_01: Men just men are just women.
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  SPEAKER_01: However, obviously I'm a woman, and there is a thought process of how this all comes together, hence this.
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  SPEAKER_01: So if you have maybe five minutes to indulge me or not, just choose to listen.
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  SPEAKER_01: And if you continue to hear and you want to share, that's how we grow.
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  SPEAKER_01: So on the note, I started thinking about where I'm at in life for reasons why I was thinking that I've always been a person that has been probably more laser focused than I should be at times.
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  SPEAKER_01: But it's never been about perfection, it's about having goals.
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  SPEAKER_01: The laser focus sometimes has actually had the opposite effect of distraction at sleep being one of them at times.
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  SPEAKER_01: So that got me thinking, besides the obvious ways that we all know, regardless of generations, if I don't get sleep, I don't get why.
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  SPEAKER_01: And I feel like Z.
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  SPEAKER_01: And we wanna see.
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  SPEAKER_01: Yes, I understand the alphabet how that works, but it's still see our way out of it.
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  SPEAKER_01: And then I started thinking about my age.
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  SPEAKER_01: Like, when did I recognize some of these changes?
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  SPEAKER_01: Following that, I've got to laugh at some of this stuff because it it is how it helps me process is through laughter in certain ways.
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  SPEAKER_01: And so then that got me to age.
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  SPEAKER_01: I will be having a milestone birthday, which we will get to next month.
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  SPEAKER_01: And I thought about all these people that say age is just a number.
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  SPEAKER_01: Who are all these people?
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  SPEAKER_01: Who are they?
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  SPEAKER_01: We don't care.
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  SPEAKER_01: Who are we?
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  SPEAKER_01: What matters is is how do we, but we being, that's why I liken it to the board, me, myself, and I, how do I feel here and here?
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  SPEAKER_01: How are how's that reconciling?
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  SPEAKER_01: Which is ultimately our gut, which ultimately affects our health one way or the other, because brain health is life health and gut health and full body of where we are internally and externally in so many ways.
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  SPEAKER_01: And then I got to age is actually a number, it is my number, it is your number.
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  SPEAKER_01: There's no number that's the wrong number.
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  SPEAKER_01: What are we doing with it?
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  SPEAKER_01: It is as if it's our own personalized rubber stamp of individuality, and so what does that mean to me is what I started to think.
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  SPEAKER_01: And that is on speaking of numbers, I am turning a 1111.
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  SPEAKER_01: I am uh my birthday is 1111.
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  SPEAKER_01: I'm turning 50 on 1111 next month, and that is my number.
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  SPEAKER_01: What comes with that number is recognizing the things that I want in terms of numbers of hindsight 2020.
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  SPEAKER_01: What do I want to carry in this point in time, period of time moving forward?
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  SPEAKER_01: And that's in many areas of my life.
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  SPEAKER_01: And the reflection and projection, my own, again, personalized number, that's maybe different than others in other generations speak and think.
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  SPEAKER_01: Or is it?
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  SPEAKER_01: Does it matter?
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  SPEAKER_01: What matters is that it comes with calling all perimenopausal women, even if your doctor doesn't think, according to your labs, that you're going through it.
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  SPEAKER_01: My mind is telling me something else.
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  SPEAKER_01: So there's that.
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  SPEAKER_01: That's part of my number.
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  SPEAKER_01: I'm single.
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  SPEAKER_01: Now that is not that I'm trying to put that out there to get people to reach out to me for that.
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  SPEAKER_01: It's my number.
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  SPEAKER_01: And the fact that I felt like I had to explain that is also my number.
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  SPEAKER_01: My number is part of my story.
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  SPEAKER_01: What do I want to do less of and more of?
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  SPEAKER_01: How do I want to continue to know when my number is to be my final number?
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  SPEAKER_01: What I do know is this is how I grow, this is how we grow through vulnerability.
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  SPEAKER_01: And I want to know what is your number.
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  SPEAKER_01: Truly.
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  SPEAKER_01: Cause I think there is a universal number of women in my number that maybe don't feel like they could share publicly.
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  SPEAKER_01: So if you're not wanting to put it in a comment.
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  SPEAKER_01: Is that what it's called?
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  SPEAKER_01: Oh my gosh.
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  SPEAKER_01: Maybe that's part of my number too is brain fog that that tracks.
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  SPEAKER_01: It's really rare that that happens.
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  SPEAKER_01: But it did.
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  SPEAKER_01: That's part of my number.
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  SPEAKER_01: But my number is not because if you think any of that was staged, I don't know.
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  SPEAKER_01: I rarely ever edit anything.
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  SPEAKER_01: So this is gonna be one of them.
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  SPEAKER_01: I already feel like I would know the number of minutes it's been that I've been sharing this.
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  SPEAKER_01: And I told myself I was just gonna do it in one cut.
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  SPEAKER_01: So that's also my number.
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  SPEAKER_01: And my number one reason for doing this is I believe more now than ever.
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  SPEAKER_01: It's time to share.
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  SPEAKER_01: And let's go, y'all.
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  SPEAKER_01: But for this number, let's start with women, perimenopause, menopause.
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  SPEAKER_01: And why we are discussing that.
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  SPEAKER_01: Let's all give ourselves a hug, men and women, and how we can hold time in space when we're not always in the same space.
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  SPEAKER_01: And that's not something I would have said 10, 20 years ago, but it's my numb my number.
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  SPEAKER_01: Let's go, y'all.
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  SPEAKER_01: The time is now.
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  SPEAKER_00: Thank you for tuning in to Who's Your Mama, and I look forward to collaborating from a community standpoint for the next episodes.