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- Lucas: You're in a high-stakes negotiation — you've just made your final offer. The prospect is looking at the proposal, tapping their pen. And you feel this overwhelming urge to fill the silence. To explain. To justify. To add a discount you haven't even been asked for yet. Luna: I've been there. It's like the quiet is burning a hole in your pitch. So you say something — anything — and often that something costs you. Lucas: Exactly. And today we're going to talk about why the most powerful tool in your negotiation toolkit is actually saying nothing. The strategic use of silence. Luna: Before we dive into that — Lucas, you and I have been doing this show for seventeen episodes now, ad-free the whole time. We want to keep it that way because we think these conversations are more useful without a car insurance spot in the middle. Lucas: Absolutely. If these episodes have helped you close a deal, or handle a tough conversation, or just think differently about negotiation — and you want to support that ad-free choice — the link is buy me a coffee dot com slash fexingo. It's a simple way to keep this going without any ads. Luna: Yeah, and it means a lot. Alright — back to silence. What's the specific case you're thinking of? Lucas: I want to talk about a software salesperson in Dallas. She was selling a compliance platform to a mid-market financial services firm. The deal was worth about one point two million dollars over three years. She'd done the demos, handled the objections, and sent the proposal. Luna: So she's at the final stage. What happened? Lucas: She hops on a call with the CFO and the head of procurement. She presents her final price — which already had some negotiation baked in. Then she stops talking. Literally — she counted to herself. She held the silence for a full forty seconds. Luna: Forty seconds? That's an eternity on a sales call. Most people crack at like five. Lucas: Right. But she had practiced it. And after forty seconds, the CFO speaks first. He says, 'If you can do fifty basis points off, we'll sign today.' She says nothing for another five seconds, then simply says, 'I appreciate that. My price is the price.' Luna: And he signed anyway? Lucas: He signed. But here's the kicker — she had been authorized to give a three percent discount to close the deal. By staying silent, she didn't just protect her margin. She ended up closing at full price. That's a thirty-six thousand dollar difference. Luna: Wow. So the silence didn't just prevent a concession — it actually made her look more confident, which made the prospect more willing to accept the terms. Lucas: That's exactly the psychology. When you speak after your offer, you signal that you're uncertain — that there's room to move. When you stay silent, you communicate that this is your final position and you're comfortable walking away. Luna: But there's a fine line. Silence can also seem hostile or awkward if you don't handle it right. What's the rule of thumb? Lucas: The key is to maintain eye contact — or if you're on a call, sit still and don't fill the space with 'um' or shuffling papers. You want to look contemplative, not uncomfortable. I've heard negotiators recommend counting to at least ten in your head before responding. Luna: Ten seconds feels long. But I guess the other side is also counting — and they might break first. Lucas: Exactly. And it's not just about the final offer. You can use silence after a prospect states their position, too. Say they ask for a discount. Instead of jumping in with a counter, you pause. That pause makes them wonder if they've overstepped. Luna: I've seen that in salary negotiations. A candidate says their number, and the hiring manager stays quiet. The candidate immediately starts backpedaling — 'Well, I'm flexible,' or 'I could go a little lower.' Lucas: Exactly. The person who speaks first after the silence loses ground. So if you're the one making the offer, you want to be the one who holds the silence longest. Let them react. Luna: What about when you're the one receiving an offer? Should you use silence then too? Lucas: Absolutely. If a salesperson gives you a price, stay quiet for a few seconds. They might interpret your silence as hesitation and offer a concession you didn't even ask for. It's a classic buyer tactic. Luna: So silence is a weapon for both sides. But is there a risk of overusing it? If you stay silent after every sentence, you just seem weird. Lucas: Right. It's a tool, not a tic. Use it at key moments — after you've stated your price, after you've answered a major objection, or after they've made a request. And when you break the silence, make sure your first words are deliberate. Luna: What should those first words be? You don't want to say 'okay' or 'alright' because that sounds like you're conceding. Lucas: Good point. You want to reaffirm your position without being combative. Something like: 'I understand where you're coming from. Here's what I can do.' Or simply: 'That's my number.' Then stop again if needed. Luna: I recall a study — maybe from Harvard Business School — that found that negotiators who used silence collected more information from the other side and achieved better outcomes. Lucas: There's a famous example from the FBI's hostage negotiation team. They train agents to use silence to get the other party to reveal more. In a business context, it works the same way. You ask a question, then shut up. Luna: Like, 'What would it take for you to sign today?' Then silence. And they start talking themselves into a deal. Lucas: Precisely. That question is powerful because it forces them to articulate their own criteria. And if you stay quiet after they answer, they often add more — sometimes giving you exactly what you need to close. Luna: So for anyone listening who wants to try this tomorrow — what's the one takeaway? Lucas: Practice holding silence for at least ten seconds after you make your next offer. Do it in a low-stakes setting first — maybe a coffee order or scheduling a meeting. Build the muscle. Then use it in a real negotiation. Luna: And if they don't speak? You just wait? Lucas: You wait. Eventually, someone has to talk. And the one who talks first is the one who gives ground. Make sure it's not you. Luna: Alright, I'm going to try that today. But if I end up in an awkward forty-second standoff with my barista, I'm blaming you. Lucas: Fair enough. Just remember — the barista might give you a free shot of espresso just to break the silence. Luna: I'll take that deal.