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From Pegging To Power Dynamics: What Happens When Couples Go Public With Their Kinks | S4 EP103 · Around the Kinky Kampfire Podcast

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SPEAKER_00: Welcome to Around the Kinky Campfire.
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SPEAKER_00: Grab a seat, pour a drink, and let's turn up the heat.
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SPEAKER_00: This is the podcast where we explore the wild, wonderful, and sometimes wicked world of kink, BDSM, and alternative lifestyles.
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SPEAKER_00: Whether you're a seasoned player, a curious newbie, or just here for the stories, we've got something for you.
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SPEAKER_00: Join us on Thursdays on your favorite podcast platform as we share experiences, dive into deep discussions, and may even spark a little fire of your own.
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SPEAKER_00: No shame, no judgment, just real talk around the kinky campfire.
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SPEAKER_00: Let's get lit.
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SPEAKER_00: Welcome back, everybody, to another episode of Around the Kinky Campfire.
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SPEAKER_00: This is your host, HH Julius Marquise.
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SPEAKER_00: Or just Julius, if you're feeling less official.
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SPEAKER_00: I'm back with another episode of Around the Kinky Campfire.
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SPEAKER_00: And we got another reaction episode for y'all.
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SPEAKER_00: I just saw a video online and I just can't take it.
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SPEAKER_00: I had to say something.
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SPEAKER_00: It had to be said, and I'm gonna say it.
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SPEAKER_00: And I'm gonna put the link of the original video in the description so y'all can say stuff with me, uh, yelling at your phone or TV, like I usually do until I recorded this episode.
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SPEAKER_00: I will go ahead and and display the myth or whatever.
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SPEAKER_00: I have I did watch the whole entire thing, so my reactions are are are delayed, but they are still just as uh emotionally charged.
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SPEAKER_00: There you go.
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SPEAKER_00: I'm not gonna give either way which side of the spectrum I feel about it, but y'all know how I feel about these certain videos.
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SPEAKER_00: Uh and no judgments on the people that made the video.
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SPEAKER_00: I'll give the whole entire thing.
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SPEAKER_00: Uh details about all of the video stuff after you know what comes next! The ASMR five seconds.
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SPEAKER_00: Once again, I have my uh not sponsored Great Value Coffee, because this is another morning recording of this podcast.
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SPEAKER_00: And uh we're gonna start the ASMR two seconds.
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SPEAKER_00: Account of three almost room temperature coffee.
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SPEAKER_00: It's later in the cup and it is getting more towards the room temperature.
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SPEAKER_00: Okay, so this video is about twenty minutes, so we're gonna be cutting it really close for this episode.
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SPEAKER_00: Uh for the most part, maybe I'll cut some of it in in post.
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SPEAKER_00: But yeah.
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SPEAKER_00: This is a video by the YouTube channel known as Cut.
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SPEAKER_00: Cut C-U-T.
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SPEAKER_00: Real simple.
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SPEAKER_00: Now you've heard me react to a Jubilee episode, maybe a cut episode before, but if you don't know anything about those kind of channels, Cut is a very much a uh reality channel.
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SPEAKER_00: Not reality TV, because it's on YouTube.
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SPEAKER_00: So reality channel.
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SPEAKER_00: They do uh interesting relationship uh depositicians, pos depositicians, um interactions, deposits, interesting uh interactions and relationships with people.
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SPEAKER_00: And this is one of the ones here.
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SPEAKER_00: It is uh titled Women Confess Their Kinks to Their Boyfriends Truth or Drink.
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SPEAKER_00: So they have a whole truth or drink series.
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SPEAKER_00: Um, as y'all know, Truth or Dare.
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SPEAKER_00: Similar kind of thing.
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SPEAKER_00: If you don't want to answer the question, do a dare, which is usually a drink.
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SPEAKER_00: Sometimes they actually have like legit dares, which we'll see in this episode.
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SPEAKER_00: But most of the times it's just like if you don't want to answer the question and drink.
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SPEAKER_00: If you had Julius on there, I wouldn't be drinking anything.
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SPEAKER_00: Or I just keep drinking.
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SPEAKER_00: I would drink and answer.
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SPEAKER_00: Be like, I don't even need to be drunk right now.
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SPEAKER_00: I just like drinking and answering questions like this.
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SPEAKER_00: I would be in the whole episode, like, yeah, this is great.
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SPEAKER_00: Oh, I answered correctly.
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SPEAKER_00: Time for a shot.
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SPEAKER_00: Be like, perfect.
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SPEAKER_00: Uh and I don't know if y'all let me know uh uh on Instagram or whatever, or email me.
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SPEAKER_00: Let me know if y'all are mixed uh you mix your liquors.
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SPEAKER_00: There's a big thing about like beer before liquor gets you drunk quicker, or liquor before beer, and you sound stupid.
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SPEAKER_00: I don't know what the thing is.
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SPEAKER_00: I just mix them all.
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SPEAKER_00: I really don't care.
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SPEAKER_00: Light and dark, I don't give a fuck.
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SPEAKER_00: Mix it all together, it's all going to the same place anyway, the same effect at some point.
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SPEAKER_00: It's just slower or faster, depending on beer, liquor, whatever it is.
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SPEAKER_00: That's pretty much it.
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SPEAKER_00: I've tested all the different combinations, and I'll tell you, I'm still here talking to y'all now, so much appreciated.
5:13
SPEAKER_00: But before we get into it, officially, this is around the kinky campfire, the podcast that tries to make the taboo more commonplace.
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SPEAKER_00: I'm getting sick and tired of people being like, I can't say that.
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SPEAKER_00: And this is what sparked this whole reaction episode to this episode of Cut.
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SPEAKER_00: Uh and one, you know, once again, I want to say, no shade to cut.
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SPEAKER_00: I d they do episodes that are great because you see kind of situations and conversations like the one you're about to hear in a few minutes.
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SPEAKER_00: Similar to this, I just like provide some kind of education because they just kind of throw people in this and then just ask questions, and I get it's entertaining for YouTube especially and just the internet in general.
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SPEAKER_00: But it's like can we get some answer to these questions or a proper way of communicating?
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SPEAKER_00: Uh, if you guys are not getting what I'm getting here, as you know, this podcast is all about communication, specifically about non-monogamous and kink and queer topics for the most part.
6:07
SPEAKER_00: That's like an umbrella and not just covering that, but that's mostly what we talk about.
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SPEAKER_00: Um, and these couples are heteronormative for the most part, uh, don't really care about that part.
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SPEAKER_00: It's just what the the stuff they're talking about and how they're talking about it, it's just weird because it's like you're gonna talk about it on the internet.
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SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
6:26
SPEAKER_00: So instead of having the conversation in private with your partner that you've known for years, you bring it out on the internet.
6:34
SPEAKER_00: Um I'm just gonna say you're probably a content creator.
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SPEAKER_00: If you're having these conversations on the internet and this is the first time you're having it, like, what are you trying to do here?
6:41
SPEAKER_00: What are we doing here?
6:43
SPEAKER_00: My voice already goes up as it is.
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SPEAKER_00: I must wet the whistle now.
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SPEAKER_00: Oh my god.
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SPEAKER_00: Alright, so yeah, this is oh boy.
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SPEAKER_00: We're gonna be flipping back and forth on this.
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SPEAKER_00: And uh um here we go.
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SPEAKER_00: The couples are starting.
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SPEAKER_00: So we we got uh three three sets of couples um male, female, so very heteronormative.
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SPEAKER_00: I don't know what their orientations are, but you will see from these um interactions that uh that these conversations are interesting, and then also let's hear what the boyfriends had to say.
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SPEAKER_00: They specifically chose women.
7:18
SPEAKER_00: I wonder if they're gonna do um uh man one explaining to their girlfriends, probably.
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SPEAKER_00: We'd love to see the queer version of this as well.
7:26
SPEAKER_00: And then as y'all know here at the uh the campfire, uh some of these topics are like, oh yeah, that's a kink.
7:33
SPEAKER_00: Mm-hmm.
7:33
SPEAKER_00: Sure, totally.
7:34
SPEAKER_00: Uh-huh.
7:35
SPEAKER_00: And then for the outside world, that's how it is.
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SPEAKER_00: And then for us, it's like, oh, that's Tuesday.
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SPEAKER_00: So let's see how this goes.
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SPEAKER_02: Or honestly, or take a shot to get out of it.
7:46
SPEAKER_07: If I were to die, which one of my friends are you sleeping with first?
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SPEAKER_00: I have to.
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SPEAKER_07: Yes.
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SPEAKER_07: Which one of my friends?
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SPEAKER_00: Man takes a shot.
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SPEAKER_07: Taking a shot.
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SPEAKER_07: No, that means you have somebody in mind.
8:00
SPEAKER_07: You just don't want to say it.
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SPEAKER_00: No, I don't have Good job.
8:04
SPEAKER_00: As a person that res presents mostly male, good job on you, kind sir.
8:09
SPEAKER_00: Do not answer that question.
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SPEAKER_00: It's such a stupid question.
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SPEAKER_01: You're here to reveal something to him, right?
8:20
SPEAKER_07: I am.
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SPEAKER_07: You know, I want to tell him everything that's on my mind before he says I do, and we spend the rest of our lives together.
8:27
SPEAKER_07: I would love to be completely honest about everything.
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SPEAKER_05: If I were to die.
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SPEAKER_00: Why not just be honest?
8:33
SPEAKER_00: Why you gotta come on the internet?
8:35
SPEAKER_00: What are we doing here?
8:36
SPEAKER_00: You're gonna get married to this person, you just can't be honest to them?
8:38
SPEAKER_00: I don't understand.
8:39
SPEAKER_00: This is not gonna be rational reactions for me, okay?
8:43
SPEAKER_00: That's just not gonna happen.
8:44
SPEAKER_00: I'm gonna tell you that right now.
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SPEAKER_00: These are gonna be all very candid uh reactions, just off the cuff.
8:52
SPEAKER_00: I don't understand what we're doing here.
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SPEAKER_00: You're about to marry this person, quote unquote, for the rest of your life.
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SPEAKER_05: Which one of my friends?
9:34
SPEAKER_00: Oh, okay, I just gotta say this.
9:36
SPEAKER_00: As far as we can tell, but multiracial, some of these.
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SPEAKER_00: Just FYI.
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SPEAKER_05: Are you slipping with first?
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SPEAKER_03: None of them.
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SPEAKER_03: I hate all of our friends.
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SPEAKER_05: You cannot say that.
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SPEAKER_04: I think I'm gonna drink on this one because honestly, the answer is none.
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SPEAKER_04: So yeah, that's my honest answer.
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SPEAKER_04: Okay, good.
9:56
SPEAKER_00: Question number two.
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SPEAKER_01: What if you had to kill one of my family members?
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SPEAKER_01: Who would it be and how would you do it?
10:08
SPEAKER_07: Oh wow.
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SPEAKER_07: It would be your dad.
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SPEAKER_00: That's a great idea.
10:20
SPEAKER_06: I've only met his two parents.
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SPEAKER_06: He's an only child, and all of his family lives on the East Coast.
10:26
SPEAKER_06: I've never met him.
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SPEAKER_04: You could find one to pick off.
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SPEAKER_04: Totally.
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SPEAKER_06: I am here today because I have a secret kink that I want to tell my boyfriend.
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SPEAKER_00: I'm really private about my sex life and even telling you And you decide to go on the internet to tell everybody?
10:44
SPEAKER_00: How private is this sex life, really, if you're going on the internet to have a conversation with your partner on the internet?
10:54
SPEAKER_00: Makes no sense.
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SPEAKER_06: My partner is something that makes me really nervous.
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SPEAKER_06: I'm probably gonna shake up, throw up, all that.
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SPEAKER_04: Question number three What's my worst sex phase?
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SPEAKER_04: And can you show it to the camera?
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SPEAKER_00: Okay, we have no camera here.
11:12
SPEAKER_00: I'm gonna skip ahead a little bit here.
11:15
SPEAKER_00: Let's go to like here.
11:16
SPEAKER_01: And that point five.
11:18
SPEAKER_07: Ooh, I think you can earn it by being a little more like dominant in the bedroom.
11:25
SPEAKER_02: I'm a lover.
11:26
SPEAKER_07: He's a lover boy.
11:27
SPEAKER_07: Yeah, he's a lover boy.
11:28
SPEAKER_02: Why did you bring your fiance here?
11:31
SPEAKER_07: So I want to admit to my fiance that I have like somewhat of a weird kink thing, and I don't know how he's gonna react.
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SPEAKER_07: But I'm ready for the reaction either way, because I think it's okay.
11:43
SPEAKER_00: Foreshadowing.
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SPEAKER_00: Weird kink thing.
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SPEAKER_00: She has a weird kink thing, people.
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unknown: Worth it.
11:51
SPEAKER_00: We skip questions.
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SPEAKER_06: Truth or fear question.
11:54
SPEAKER_02: We got a truth or fear.
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SPEAKER_02: Either answer or do a dare to get out of here.
11:57
SPEAKER_06: Okay.
11:58
SPEAKER_06: Have you ever done anything with an ex in the bedroom that you wish you had done with me?
12:03
SPEAKER_06: Just do the fear.
12:04
SPEAKER_06: Don't say anything.
12:06
SPEAKER_04: I know.
12:07
SPEAKER_06: Okay.
12:07
SPEAKER_06: Just do the fear then.
12:08
SPEAKER_04: Yeah.
12:10
SPEAKER_02: This is related to that question.
12:12
SPEAKER_06: Okay.
12:15
SPEAKER_06: Are you serious?
12:18
SPEAKER_02: I want to see it.
12:19
SPEAKER_06: Text your ex missing you.
12:22
SPEAKER_06: Oh my god.
12:25
SPEAKER_00: Oh my god.
12:26
SPEAKER_00: That's what I want to know.
12:27
SPEAKER_00: How many of y'all have still have your ex's number in your phone?
12:30
SPEAKER_00: Um, I think numbers are still in there as for me, but then the contacts deleted, so I don't know who the number is attached to really anymore.
12:40
SPEAKER_00: Um, but he whipped out his phone pretty quick here and gonna text the ex.
12:46
SPEAKER_00: Oh goodness.
12:47
SPEAKER_04: I'm gonna like I'm gonna throw this phone in the phone.
12:49
SPEAKER_04: Oh my god.
12:50
SPEAKER_06: Oh, I'm so excited to see what she's gonna say.
12:52
SPEAKER_04: She's probably not gonna say anything.
12:54
SPEAKER_04: All right, I just tend to please blur the name.
12:57
SPEAKER_04: Please blur the name.
12:58
SPEAKER_04: Please blur the name.
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SPEAKER_04: Please blur the name.
13:01
SPEAKER_02: Did you actually send it?
13:02
SPEAKER_04: Yes, I did.
13:05
SPEAKER_06: What's something I do during sex that you've told your friends behind my back?
13:10
SPEAKER_04: I've said that you're very like engaged and kind of loud, but like in a hot way.
13:17
SPEAKER_04: I've said that, yeah.
13:19
SPEAKER_03: I might have mentioned to my buddy Marcus on the phone that you know you're pretty flexible.
13:25
SPEAKER_03: Um that's but I don't think I got specific about how flexible and what we were doing.
13:34
SPEAKER_03: You know, the old angles to your ears.
13:38
SPEAKER_03: Oh my god.
13:41
SPEAKER_05: I was born and raised in Sierra Leone, West Africa.
13:45
SPEAKER_05: I'm from like a really conservative place where even talking about sex isn't a taboo.
13:50
SPEAKER_05: I wanna tell him something that I have been keeping from him.
13:54
SPEAKER_05: It might change how he looks at me.
13:56
SPEAKER_05: Or tease me.
13:57
SPEAKER_05: Told him you had a big dick.
13:59
SPEAKER_03: Let's go.
14:00
SPEAKER_05: That you knew how to use it too.
14:02
SPEAKER_03: Yeah.
14:11
SPEAKER_04: Turn away.
14:16
SPEAKER_04: Well, actually, I do know you have, so yeah.
14:20
SPEAKER_04: I've literally watched you do it.
14:22
SPEAKER_06: Well, I just talked about him as package and how much rather large.
14:30
SPEAKER_06: Um came back to me in a bottom time to get after him, so I'm not gonna say that anymore.
14:40
SPEAKER_06: Yeah, yeah.
14:44
SPEAKER_06: Suggestively peel and eat this banana while staring deep into your partner's eyes for one minute.
14:51
SPEAKER_06: A minute?
14:52
SPEAKER_06: Oh, 60 seconds, babe.
15:00
SPEAKER_06: When was the last time you thought I might lose this person?
15:04
SPEAKER_00: Does he not?
15:04
SPEAKER_04: Yeah, I mean we we we we went out on a on a on a friend's boat and it kinda it kind of went a little bad.
15:12
SPEAKER_06: We were playing a card game, and um he I guess I cheated on accident and he kind of yelled at me, and I just started feeling really embarrassed.
15:23
SPEAKER_06: I think it was the time that we had the breakup that we did.
15:27
SPEAKER_03: For me, I'm more like laid back and chill and like easily let things kind of kind of flow off my shoulders, where like there was some little things that were still being helped.
15:40
SPEAKER_00: Yeah, we all go through the the the will I lose this person, breaking up and it's good to see these, you know, couples had these kind of things.
15:47
SPEAKER_00: So you would think opening up about kinks would be just like, oh, we're back together, we survived a breakup.
15:53
SPEAKER_00: Let's just talk about the stuff that turns us on about each other, or uh that we just get turned on about.
16:01
SPEAKER_00: That's what another thing too.
16:03
SPEAKER_00: I don't understand as we get into this now, the second half of the video, uh, where like some of them say specifically with their partner, which is interesting, and the other ones just kinda I don't know if they like want to do it with each other, but it's good that they're opening up at some point, even if it's online.
16:19
SPEAKER_00: What the fuck?
16:21
SPEAKER_03: Hold on to on your side that you were going after, Pino.
16:26
SPEAKER_03: And it was Yeah.
16:28
SPEAKER_02: So you're gonna reveal your kink.
16:31
SPEAKER_02: Honestly, how do you think he's gonna react?
16:33
SPEAKER_05: Maybe he might see this as me trying to put on the pants as a man when I'm not a man.
16:39
SPEAKER_05: And I don't know how he would uh take that.
16:43
SPEAKER_02: Do you feel comfortable sharing something with him?
16:50
SPEAKER_05: You realize that I love you a lot.
16:53
SPEAKER_05: And I do respect you, and I see you as the man that you are.
16:57
SPEAKER_05: I find you attractive.
16:58
SPEAKER_05: Everything about you is attractive.
17:01
SPEAKER_05: And most times when I see you, not most, actually all the time when I see you when you're when you're naked, I get these urges.
17:16
SPEAKER_05: I would like to peg you.
17:19
SPEAKER_00: What stuff?
17:20
SPEAKER_00: Shocker!
17:22
SPEAKER_05: It always leads back to buttons.
17:25
SPEAKER_03: Really?
17:29
SPEAKER_05: Yeah.
17:29
SPEAKER_03: Well, he doesn't look disgusted.
17:31
SPEAKER_05: How do you uh feel about that?
17:33
SPEAKER_03: I mean, I I've always kind of had the stance that it that's an exit-only hole for me.
17:39
SPEAKER_03: How long have you wanted to peg me?
17:41
SPEAKER_03: Great question.
17:42
SPEAKER_05: Since I uh since we started dating.
17:45
SPEAKER_03: Since we started dating?
17:46
SPEAKER_05: Yeah, like have you seen a bud?
17:48
SPEAKER_03: Jesus, I think it's I mean, it looks pretty good in these pants, but it always looks good, especially with no pants on.
17:57
SPEAKER_05: Would you consider it at least?
18:00
SPEAKER_05: I mean, not it it might not be an everyday thing.
18:05
SPEAKER_03: Everyday thing?
18:06
SPEAKER_05: I'm just saying, it might be a little bit more than a little bit.
18:12
SPEAKER_05: But like, are you open to at least try it and see how you feel about it?
18:18
SPEAKER_03: No.
18:19
SPEAKER_05: That look at your face is crazy.
18:20
SPEAKER_05: Oh my god.
18:21
SPEAKER_05: It's not that bad.
18:22
SPEAKER_05: I mean, I think it's not that bad.
18:23
SPEAKER_03: Kind of a crazy face, but you knew the kind of poops I take.
18:28
SPEAKER_00: He's not completely turned off or disgusted, so it's like, yeah, he uh he's he doesn't seem like he's totally against it.
18:35
SPEAKER_00: He's down to have a conversation, at least.
18:37
SPEAKER_00: Seems like he's down to check out the steps.
18:39
SPEAKER_00: That's what I'm saying.
18:41
SPEAKER_00: It's kind of funny that the first one, there's three couples here.
18:44
SPEAKER_00: Uh the first one is butt stuff.
18:47
SPEAKER_00: I think we all knew it was coming down to butt stuff, okay?
18:50
SPEAKER_00: So that's like the height of this whole entire thing.
18:52
SPEAKER_00: Straight to the butt stuff.
18:54
SPEAKER_03: You would not want to go anywhere near that hole, I honestly.
18:57
SPEAKER_00: I yes, so yeah, there's some stuff that comes out of my butt now.
19:00
SPEAKER_00: I'm willing to negotiate that kind of stuff myself, but there's some stuff just like he said, it's like you want to go in there?
19:06
SPEAKER_00: Some people do, and we can have that conversation.
19:09
SPEAKER_00: Um, they did put the definition of pegging on here, which I do like.
19:13
SPEAKER_00: Uh, they put it down on the bottom of the screen, so at least there's some education there compared to other videos, not naming any specifics.
19:22
SPEAKER_03: Well, you I mean I'll let you inspect the next the next toilet uh after I take a nice uh morning deuce, and we'll see if you still want to stick something up that I mean I don't care what the size of your poop is.
19:34
SPEAKER_03: It's not about the size.
19:35
SPEAKER_05: Oh, the state, it is.
19:37
SPEAKER_05: I just want to get in there.
19:39
SPEAKER_00: Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
19:44
SPEAKER_05: I don't even look at me differently.
21:07
SPEAKER_05: Oh my god.
21:09
SPEAKER_02: You look like you're ready to tell him something.
21:11
SPEAKER_02: Oh couple number two.
21:12
SPEAKER_07: I feel like he loves me.
21:14
SPEAKER_07: So he will be okay with it, and that's why I feel like it's not the biggest deal.
21:19
SPEAKER_07: But then the other breath, I'm like, what if he isn't down with that?
21:25
SPEAKER_07: What if he doesn't feel like it's something he could get on board with?
21:28
SPEAKER_02: Is now the time?
21:29
SPEAKER_01: Do you feel comfortable?
21:30
SPEAKER_07: Uh I think now is gonna have to be the time.
21:33
SPEAKER_01: Okay.
21:34
SPEAKER_01: Do you have something you want to say to me?
21:36
SPEAKER_07: Yeah, I do.
21:37
SPEAKER_07: Um, so really today we're here because I wanted to tell you about a fantasy that I have had for a while.
21:47
SPEAKER_07: Um, and so I'm hoping that you're okay with it.
21:50
SPEAKER_07: I'm hoping we can explore it.
21:54
SPEAKER_01: Is it is it anal or something?
22:06
SPEAKER_07: I feel like he'll be down with it, but at the same time, there's always that like, what if he abuse me differently after this?
22:12
SPEAKER_07: Like, what if he sees me in a weirder light?
22:14
SPEAKER_07: But you know, it's worth the risk, right?
22:16
SPEAKER_07: It's worth the risk, and I gotta be honest with him.
22:18
SPEAKER_07: I'm getting married to him.
22:19
SPEAKER_07: So my fantasy has to do with uh food.
22:24
SPEAKER_07: How do you feel about food?
22:26
unknown: Food.
22:27
SPEAKER_07: Okay.
22:27
SPEAKER_07: How do you feel about me?
22:28
SPEAKER_07: I love you.
22:29
SPEAKER_07: Okay, so my my fantasy is that I would like it if you would maybe eat some food off of me.
22:41
SPEAKER_07: How do you feel about that?
22:43
SPEAKER_00: Like I said, can't have sushi.
22:47
SPEAKER_07: Um right there.
22:48
SPEAKER_07: So the food would be sushi.
22:51
SPEAKER_07: Because I love sushi.
22:53
SPEAKER_00: Okay.
22:53
SPEAKER_07: And you love sushi.
22:55
SPEAKER_00: I do.
22:55
SPEAKER_00: And you love me.
22:58
SPEAKER_07: So I was hoping maybe we could have a night.
23:02
SPEAKER_07: Mostly has a smile on his face.
23:03
SPEAKER_07: Or that's like you order a bunch of sushi, you put it on my body, and see if you can see like a Tuesday thing.
23:11
SPEAKER_00: Eating food off your partner?
23:12
SPEAKER_00: Now, I do I do save it for special occasions because that's more of like a soft limit for me.
23:17
SPEAKER_00: Depends on the partner.
23:18
SPEAKER_00: But if they're really into it, it's like, ooh, we can do that on special occasions just because it's messy and sticky.
23:23
SPEAKER_00: It's already like sex is already sticky enough.
23:25
SPEAKER_00: Sometimes scenes are sticky enough.
23:29
SPEAKER_00: So it's like introducing food in there, and then you know, some stuff can't mix with all the sugars and the chemistry and all that stuff that's going on, so it's like you gotta be careful of that part.
23:37
SPEAKER_00: But for the most part, pretty tame.
23:39
SPEAKER_00: Uh you know, like I say, go from butt stuff to to food play.
23:43
SPEAKER_00: It takes a sharp little drop there.
23:45
SPEAKER_00: Oh, so funny.
23:47
SPEAKER_07: How that goes.
23:52
SPEAKER_07: What do you think?
23:53
SPEAKER_01: I like it.
23:54
SPEAKER_01: He likes it.
23:55
SPEAKER_07: He likes it.
23:57
SPEAKER_07: He likes it.
23:58
SPEAKER_07: Okay.
23:59
SPEAKER_07: Okay.
24:03
SPEAKER_02: Your whole relationship is based on trust, right?
24:08
SPEAKER_06: Yeah.
24:08
SPEAKER_02: Telling each other things and being open.
24:11
SPEAKER_02: Is there something you wanted to tell him today?
24:13
SPEAKER_02: Do you feel ready?
24:14
SPEAKER_00: What do you guys know?
24:15
SPEAKER_06: Yeah.
24:16
SPEAKER_00: Sure.
24:17
SPEAKER_06: I have a message me.
24:20
SPEAKER_00: Let me know.
24:20
SPEAKER_00: Is it more butt stuff?
24:21
SPEAKER_00: Do you think it's more butt stuff?
24:23
SPEAKER_00: Secret.
24:23
SPEAKER_00: You do.
24:25
SPEAKER_06: Yes.
24:25
SPEAKER_04: What's your secret?
24:28
SPEAKER_06: Recently we haven't we haven't really been super intimate.
24:32
SPEAKER_06: I think it would add some spice.
24:34
SPEAKER_06: I guess the worst case scenario is if he reacts it with disgust, which is what I'm most embarrassed about.
24:41
SPEAKER_00: You know, and it's kind of sad too.
24:43
SPEAKER_00: She's like very worried about this, but then what she talks about is like, dang.
24:48
SPEAKER_00: Do vanilla people have to go through this?
24:50
SPEAKER_00: Let me know.
24:51
SPEAKER_00: It's been a long time since I had to have any kind of conversations like this with a vanilla person.
24:55
SPEAKER_00: Usually you just like checking boxes off.
24:58
SPEAKER_00: Oh yeah, anal.
24:59
SPEAKER_00: Okay, yeah, yep.
25:00
SPEAKER_00: Soft limit.
25:01
SPEAKER_00: Depends on the situation.
25:02
SPEAKER_00: Food play.
25:03
SPEAKER_00: Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah.
25:04
SPEAKER_00: Totally.
25:04
SPEAKER_00: Yep.
25:04
SPEAKER_00: Can do that.
25:05
SPEAKER_00: Special occasions.
25:06
SPEAKER_00: And then people are like, I gotta go on the online on the internet and have conversations about these stuff, these different things.
25:11
SPEAKER_00: And then, as we know, as kinksters, campsters, BSM people, we like we have this is a conversation before I have these conversations before I even do anything, or even sometimes before a lot of times, before I even meet the person.
25:26
SPEAKER_00: It's like what and these people are waiting right before they get married or whatever to have these conversations.
25:31
SPEAKER_00: Why are we not talking about this stuff ahead of time?
25:33
SPEAKER_00: But like, what are we doing here?
25:34
SPEAKER_00: And it's like now no shade to them, because I understand it's totally a thing.
25:38
SPEAKER_00: People have these um moments in their life when they realize um that they have a kink, quote unquote, and not everybody has a partner they can do it with at the time, or sometimes you're already in a relationship like these people are, and it's like, why do we need to go on the internet to have these conversations?
25:55
SPEAKER_00: Of course, this is very entertainment value because uh this is a YouTube channel, and of course, most conversations don't happen this way, but I want to talk to the people whether you're in the lifestyle, any of the lifestyles, or you're in the regular vanilla lifestyle, it's like we can have these conversations, and I hope you keep coming back to Around the Kiki Campfire, because the whole point of the show is to be able to have these kind of conversations in like a campfire setting, and it's not a big deal.
26:23
SPEAKER_00: Let's just have these conversations, especially with your partners.
26:26
SPEAKER_00: If you need help with that, please talk to uh Julius here.
26:29
SPEAKER_00: I will give you steps and tips for to have these conversations.
26:33
SPEAKER_00: I will tell you that for people I feel like as adults we should just be able to have these conversations.
26:40
SPEAKER_00: And especially with a partner.
26:41
SPEAKER_00: Just go ahead and tell them what's going on.
26:43
SPEAKER_00: And also another point, if they're not into what you're into, then you just you know, either you decide for yourself, do I want to have this kink in my life, or can I just go for the rest of my life, quote unquote, until death do you part and not have it be a thing.
26:55
SPEAKER_00: So if the person you're with can't understand that, like, okay, let me know if this is a necessity for you.
27:01
SPEAKER_00: Like the first couple, she really wanted to get in his butt.
27:04
SPEAKER_00: And he seemed not totally disgusted by it.
27:07
SPEAKER_00: So I feel like they had a conversation afterwards at some point about the butt stuff.
27:10
SPEAKER_00: It's just very cute to see that she was like all nervous about it, and then it's like, oh, okay.
27:15
SPEAKER_00: But if you're gonna marry this person and they're disgusted by that, by what you like, then it's like, should you get married in the first place?
27:21
SPEAKER_00: I feel like it's a uh a test right there.
27:25
SPEAKER_00: It's it's kind of like a you know a relationship test.
27:28
SPEAKER_00: Will this marriage last for very long without this uh have conversations being able to be had?
27:36
SPEAKER_06: It's a um medical kink.
27:41
SPEAKER_04: What kind?
27:42
SPEAKER_04: Interesting.
27:43
SPEAKER_04: Can you describe it a little bit more?
27:46
SPEAKER_06: It would be like a lot of doctor-patient role play.
27:50
SPEAKER_06: Okay, like literally me in a hospital gown.
27:53
SPEAKER_06: You can get some scrubs and some medical tools too.
27:59
SPEAKER_04: Interesting.
28:00
SPEAKER_00: She's describing the porn I watched uh last night.
28:03
SPEAKER_00: It's just uh, yep, saw that porn very recently.
28:07
SPEAKER_06: I don't know if you're aware of like OBGYN tools.
28:12
SPEAKER_06: I know what you mean.
28:13
SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
28:13
SPEAKER_06: How do you know?
28:14
SPEAKER_00: Well, like I'm just She asked that, like, what are you talking about?
28:17
SPEAKER_00: Why would you as a guy know this kind of things?
28:20
SPEAKER_00: It's like there's porn out there, first of all.
28:21
SPEAKER_00: There's there's porn out there, and then also as a it's the internet.
28:26
SPEAKER_00: I mean, OBGYNs make social media content.
28:29
SPEAKER_00: There's it's out there if you're paying attention.
28:34
SPEAKER_04: I don't know.
28:34
SPEAKER_04: I I don't like I've never I've never been to one, but like I I I'm like aware.
28:38
SPEAKER_04: I don't know.
28:39
SPEAKER_04: I don't know it's an I don't know how I couldn't tell you, it's like you know all this random shit.
28:43
SPEAKER_06: I know, you do it, you know too much.
28:45
SPEAKER_06: Yeah, yeah, yeah.
28:47
SPEAKER_06: But um yeah, I would I would like if we did kind of honestly never Yeah, I never would have even thought about that.
29:00
SPEAKER_06: Well, you know I had a very sexy dentist growing up.
29:04
SPEAKER_04: He was a good looking guy.
29:05
SPEAKER_04: He was a good looking guy.
29:06
SPEAKER_04: I didn't be a good dentist.
29:07
SPEAKER_04: He was he's kind of old now.
29:09
SPEAKER_06: Okay, well yeah, but we know yeah, but that might have good looking dangerous.
29:17
SPEAKER_06: That might have made started that off for me.
29:21
SPEAKER_06: I'd want it to be really focused on power dynamic.
29:26
SPEAKER_06: Okay.
29:27
SPEAKER_06: Like you're my doctor, you're taking care of me, you're making sure that She said the magical word.
29:33
SPEAKER_00: Woo!
29:34
SPEAKER_06: Power dynamic.
29:35
SPEAKER_06: Very nice.
29:35
SPEAKER_06: That I'm good and healthy.
29:38
SPEAKER_00: And okay.
29:39
SPEAKER_00: I'll put the link uh in the in the description to see uh if you guys want to watch the whole video and uh let me know what you think.
29:47
SPEAKER_00: And then also I think there's a little bit of like uh after after aftercare.
29:54
SPEAKER_00: Um post post-relationship stuff.
29:56
SPEAKER_00: I wish they would uh do a recap like months later and uh so you can see what they uh ended up getting into.
30:04
SPEAKER_00: I don't know.
30:04
SPEAKER_00: How it turned out.
30:05
SPEAKER_00: Did he did the lady get in the guy in uh her man's booty hole?
30:10
SPEAKER_00: Did the sushi get eaten off the boot off the booty hole?
30:14
SPEAKER_00: Off the booty.
30:15
SPEAKER_00: Did the doctor fill up the booty?
30:18
SPEAKER_00: All those different kinds of things.
30:19
SPEAKER_00: I like it.
30:19
SPEAKER_00: She actually said power dynamic.
30:21
SPEAKER_00: Look at there, she knows a little bit about what she's talking about.
30:23
SPEAKER_00: Medical play, she can use different words.
30:25
SPEAKER_00: Somebody's done their research.
30:26
SPEAKER_00: That's pretty good.
30:27
SPEAKER_00: So it's cute to see that eventually the conversation came out, even if it's on the fucking internet, um, that makes no sense at all.
30:33
SPEAKER_00: But I hope you learn more communication skills.
30:36
SPEAKER_00: This is just me reacting to a video.
30:39
SPEAKER_00: Um, but communication skills can be learnt on this podcast, and I hope you learn it some or at least become aware of these kind of things.
30:46
SPEAKER_00: You can have a conversation with your partner.
30:48
SPEAKER_00: And Julius's hard take on it is if you can't have these conversations or the person judges you in a weird or incorrect way, then maybe you shouldn't be partners with them in the first place.
30:59
SPEAKER_00: It's like, uh I don't shame and guilting your partners is the worst thing you can do.
31:04
SPEAKER_00: Uh I would say in not in general.
31:06
SPEAKER_00: Not in general.
31:06
SPEAKER_00: In a relationship, definitely, but not in general.
31:08
SPEAKER_00: I was gonna say the worst thing you can do in general.
31:10
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31:17
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31:19
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31:32
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