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E300: Tammy Takes #13: You’re Not Unmotivated… You’re Just Believing the Wrong Story · Adult Child of Dysfunction

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  Hi,
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  everybody.
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  Welcome
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  back
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  to
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  another
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  episode
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  of
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  Tammy's
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  Takes,
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  where
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  we
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  take
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  powerful
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  conversations
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  with
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  our
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  guests
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  and
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  turn
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  them
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  into
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  practical
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  strategies
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  you
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  can
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  use
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  right
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  here,
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  right
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  now.
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  So
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  in
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  my
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  last
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  episode,
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  I
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  sat
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  down
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  with
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  Mo
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  Choice,
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  and
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  we
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  talked
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  about
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  burnout,
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  rebuilding
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  your
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  life,
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  and
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  what
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  it
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  really
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  takes
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  to
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  live
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  life
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  on
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  your
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  own
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  terms.
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  But
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  there's
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  one
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  thing
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  that
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  he
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  said
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  that
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  really
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  stood
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  out
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  to
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  me,
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  and
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  I
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  want
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  to
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  kind
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  of
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  build
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  on
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  that.
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  Today.
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  He
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  made
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  a
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  quote,
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  and
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  this
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  is
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  it.
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  And
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  I
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  want
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  you
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  to
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  listen
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  very
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  carefully
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  to
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  this.
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  He
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  said,
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  you
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  get
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  to
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  choose
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  what
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  you
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  believe
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  is
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  true.
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  And
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  I
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  want
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  to
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  slow
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  that
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  down,
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  because
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  if
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  you
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  actually
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  understood
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  that,
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  it
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  would
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  change
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  everything.
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  I
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  want
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  to
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  say
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  it
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  again.
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  You
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  get
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  to
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  choose
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  what
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  you
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  believe
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  is
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  true.
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  So
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  let's
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  talk
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  about
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  motivation,
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  because
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  so
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  many
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  people
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  come
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  to
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  me
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  and
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  they
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  say,
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  tammy,
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  I
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  have
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  a
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  motivation
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  problem.
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  I
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  just
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  can't
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  follow
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  through.
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  I
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  don't
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  stay
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  consistent.
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  I
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  know
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  what
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  to
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  do,
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  but
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  I
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  don't
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  do
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  it.
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  But
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  what
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  Mo
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  said
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  and
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  what
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  I
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  see
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  with
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  all
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  of
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  the
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  clients
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  is
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  that
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  it's
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  not
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  a
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  motivation
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  problem,
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  it's
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  a
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  belief
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  problem,
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  because
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  you
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  will
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  always
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  act
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  in
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  alignment
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  with
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  what
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  you
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  truly
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  believe,
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  not
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  what
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  you
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  know
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  logically,
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  but
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  what
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  in
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  your
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  heart
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  of
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  hearts
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  you
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  truly
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  believe.
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  So
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  we
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  talked
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  about
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  all
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  these
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  strategies
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  that
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  you
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  pick
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  up
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  when
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  you're
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  a
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  child,
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  when
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  you're
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  going
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  through
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  that
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  kind
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  of
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  dysfunction,
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  and
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  you
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  pick
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  up
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  these
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  survival
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  strategies,
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  right?
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  So
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  that's
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  the
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  people
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  pleading
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  the
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  avoidance,
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  the
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  control,
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  the
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  perfectionism.
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  And
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  all
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  of
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  those
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  strategies
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  helped
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  us
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  as
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  children.
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  They
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  kept
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  us
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  safe,
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  they
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  helped
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  us
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  survive.
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  But
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  what's
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  going
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  on
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  now,
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  Those
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  strategies
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  are
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  still
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  running
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  in
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  the
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  back
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  of
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  our
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  brain.
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  We're
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  still
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  acting
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  like
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  those
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  are
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  things
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  that
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  we
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  need
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  to
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  survive,
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  and
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  it's
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  keeping
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  us
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  stuck,
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  keeping
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  us
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  stuck
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  from
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  being
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  the
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  absolute
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  best
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  version
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  of
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  yourself.
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  And
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  that
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  is
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  exactly
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  what
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  I
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  work
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  on
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  with
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  people,
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  because
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  you
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  can
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  understand
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  where
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  it
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  came
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  from,
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  but
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  if
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  you
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  don't
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  change
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  how
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  it's
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  showing
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  up
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  in
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  your
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  body
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  and
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  your
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  choices,
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  nothing
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  changes.
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  So
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  today
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  I
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  want
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  to
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  talk
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  about
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  the
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  practical
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  part
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  of
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  it.
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  The
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  four
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  step
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  belief
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  reset.
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  And
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  this
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  is
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  just
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  going
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  to
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  take
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  a
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  couple
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  minutes,
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  but
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  it's
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  four
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  steps
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  that
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  I
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  think
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  are
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  so
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  important,
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  and
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  four
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  steps
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  that
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  you
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  can
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  actually
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  start
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  to
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  use
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  right
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  now,
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  because
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  this
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  is
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  where
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  we're
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  stuck.
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  We
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  know
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  what,
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  but
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  not
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  the
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  how.
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  Mo
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  is
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  very
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  specific.
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  When
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  he
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  said
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  that,
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  that
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  was
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  his.
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  His
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  exact
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  quote,
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  actually.
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  He
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  said,
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  we
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  know
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  the
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  what,
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  but
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  we're
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  not.
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  We're
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  missing
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  the
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  how.
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  So
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  here's
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  your
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  how?
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  Number
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  one.
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  Step
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  one,
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  catch
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  the
• 2:25
  pattern.
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  The
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  next
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  time
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  you
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  notice
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  yourself,
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  overthinking,
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  avoiding,
• 2:28
  procrastinating,
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  people,
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  pleasing,
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  doing
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  all
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  those
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  things,
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  just
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  stop
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  for
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  a
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  minute,
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  pause
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  and
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  say,
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  what
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  do
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  I
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  believe
• 2:35
  is
• 2:35
  true?
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  Right
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  now.
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  Right
• 2:38
  now.
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  Now.
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  Step
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  two,
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  check
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  in
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  with
• 2:41
  your
• 2:41
  body.
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  You
• 2:42
  know,
• 2:42
  I
• 2:42
  talk
• 2:42
  about
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  this
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  all
• 2:43
  the
• 2:43
  time.
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  Say
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  the
• 2:44
  belief
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  out
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  loud.
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  I'm
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  not
• 2:45
  good
• 2:46
  enough.
• 2:46
  I'm
• 2:46
  not.
• 2:46
  I'm
• 2:47
  going
• 2:47
  to
• 2:47
  mess
• 2:47
  this
• 2:47
  up.
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  I
• 2:48
  can't
• 2:48
  do
• 2:48
  this.
• 2:49
  I
• 2:49
  won't
• 2:49
  do
• 2:50
  this
• 2:50
  right?
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  And
• 2:51
  then
• 2:51
  notice,
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  does
• 2:52
  your
• 2:52
  body
• 2:52
  open
• 2:53
  up
• 2:54
  or
• 2:54
  does
• 2:54
  it
• 2:54
  shrink
• 2:55
  because
• 2:55
  your
• 2:56
  body
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  doesn't
• 2:56
  lie?
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  Step
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  three,
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  choose
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  a
• 2:59
  new
• 2:59
  belief
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  and
• 3:00
  do
• 3:00
  this
• 3:00
  on
• 3:00
  purpose.
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  Here's
• 3:02
  where
• 3:02
  most
• 3:02
  people
• 3:02
  stop,
• 3:02
  because
• 3:03
  this
• 3:03
  is
• 3:03
  where
• 3:04
  you
• 3:04
  shift
• 3:04
  it.
• 3:05
  This
• 3:05
  is
• 3:05
  where
• 3:05
  you
• 3:06
  actually
• 3:06
  have
• 3:06
  to
• 3:07
  do
• 3:07
  the
• 3:07
  work
• 3:07
  and
• 3:08
  you
• 3:08
  have
• 3:08
  to
• 3:08
  push
• 3:09
  to
• 3:09
  the
• 3:09
  next
• 3:09
  step.
• 3:10
  Ask
• 3:11
  yourself,
• 3:11
  what
• 3:12
  would
• 3:12
  I
• 3:12
  need
• 3:12
  to
• 3:13
  believe
• 3:14
  instead
• 3:15
  to
• 3:15
  move
• 3:15
  forward?
• 3:16
  And
• 3:17
  then
• 3:17
  say
• 3:17
  it,
• 3:18
  I
• 3:18
  can
• 3:18
  figure
• 3:18
  this
• 3:19
  out.
• 3:19
  I'm
• 3:19
  allowed
• 3:19
  to
• 3:19
  do
• 3:20
  this
• 3:20
  imperfectly.
• 3:20
  I
• 3:21
  can
• 3:21
  handle
• 3:21
  this.
• 3:22
  So
• 3:22
  give
• 3:22
  yourself
• 3:23
  that
• 3:23
  new
• 3:23
  belief.
• 3:24
  And
• 3:25
  then
• 3:25
  step
• 3:25
  four,
• 3:26
  do
• 3:26
  one
• 3:27
  action
• 3:27
  that
• 3:27
  matches
• 3:28
  that
• 3:28
  new
• 3:28
  belief.
• 3:29
  And
• 3:29
  this
• 3:29
  is
• 3:30
  the
• 3:30
  key.
• 3:30
  Because
• 3:31
  you
• 3:31
  don't
• 3:31
  change
• 3:31
  your
• 3:31
  life
• 3:32
  by
• 3:32
  thinking
• 3:32
  differently.
• 3:33
  You
• 3:33
  change
• 3:33
  your
• 3:33
  life
• 3:34
  by
• 3:34
  acting
• 3:34
  differently.
• 3:36
  So
• 3:36
  take
• 3:36
  one
• 3:36
  small
• 3:36
  step.
• 3:37
  Send
• 3:38
  the
• 3:38
  message
• 3:38
  you
• 3:38
  weren't
• 3:38
  sure
• 3:39
  you
• 3:39
  wanted
• 3:39
  to
• 3:39
  send.
• 3:40
  Say
• 3:40
  what
• 3:41
  you
• 3:41
  want.
• 3:41
  Stop
• 3:42
  over
• 3:42
  explaining
• 3:43
  yourself.
• 3:43
  Take
• 3:44
  the
• 3:44
  next
• 3:44
  step,
• 3:44
  even
• 3:45
  if
• 3:45
  it's
• 3:45
  freaking
• 3:46
  messy.
• 3:47
  Because
• 3:48
  guys,
• 3:48
  you
• 3:48
  don't
• 3:49
  need
• 3:49
  more
• 3:49
  motivation.
• 3:50
  You
• 3:51
  need
• 3:51
  a
• 3:51
  belief
• 3:51
  that
• 3:52
  actually
• 3:52
  supports
• 3:53
  you.
• 3:54
  So
• 3:54
  I
• 3:54
  was
• 3:54
  trying
• 3:54
  to
• 3:55
  think
• 3:55
  of
• 3:55
  a
• 3:55
  real
• 3:55
  life
• 3:55
  example
• 3:56
  and
• 3:56
  I'm
• 3:56
  going
• 3:56
  to
• 3:57
  just
• 3:57
  do
• 3:57
  this
• 3:57
  with
• 3:57
  myself
• 3:58
  because
• 3:59
  I've
• 3:59
  been
• 3:59
  working
• 3:59
  on
• 4:00
  getting
• 4:00
  more
• 4:00
  on
• 4:00
  TikTok,
• 4:01
  social
• 4:01
  media,
• 4:01
  Instagram,
• 4:02
  all
• 4:02
  the
• 4:02
  stuff
• 4:02
  everybody
• 4:03
  says
• 4:03
  you
• 4:03
  need
• 4:03
  to
• 4:03
  be
• 4:03
  visible
• 4:04
  and
• 4:04
  I
• 4:05
  don't
• 4:05
  like
• 4:05
  being
• 4:05
  visible.
• 4:06
  But
• 4:06
  let's
• 4:07
  just
• 4:07
  use
• 4:07
  the
• 4:07
  example
• 4:08
  of
• 4:08
  going
• 4:08
  to
• 4:09
  post
• 4:09
  content.
• 4:11
  I
• 4:11
  go
• 4:11
  to
• 4:11
  post
• 4:11
  my
• 4:12
  content
• 4:12
  and
• 4:13
  I'm
• 4:13
  putting
• 4:13
  it
• 4:13
  off.
• 4:14
  Why?
• 4:15
  What
• 4:15
  am
• 4:15
  I
• 4:15
  thinking
• 4:15
  in
• 4:16
  my
• 4:16
  head?
• 4:16
  Step
• 4:16
  one,
• 4:17
  old
• 4:17
  belief.
• 4:18
  People
• 4:18
  will
• 4:18
  judge
• 4:19
  me,
• 4:19
  people
• 4:19
  will
• 4:19
  care,
• 4:20
  people
• 4:20
  will
• 4:21
  make
• 4:21
  fun
• 4:21
  of
• 4:21
  me,
• 4:21
  I
• 4:22
  don't
• 4:22
  look
• 4:22
  good,
• 4:22
  all
• 4:23
  of
• 4:23
  those
• 4:23
  things.
• 4:24
  But
• 4:24
  now
• 4:25
  let's
• 4:25
  give
• 4:25
  the
• 4:26
  new
• 4:26
  awareness
• 4:27
  because
• 4:28
  that's
• 4:28
  the
• 4:28
  new
• 4:29
  awareness
• 4:29
  and
• 4:29
  I
• 4:29
  know
• 4:30
  I'm
• 4:30
  doing
• 4:30
  it.
• 4:31
  Is
• 4:32
  that's
• 4:33
  the
• 4:33
  belief
• 4:33
  running
• 4:34
  the
• 4:34
  show,
• 4:35
  not
• 4:35
  the
• 4:35
  way
• 4:35
  I
• 4:36
  should
• 4:36
  be,
• 4:36
  not
• 4:37
  the
• 4:37
  way
• 4:37
  I
• 4:37
  want
• 4:37
  to
• 4:37
  be.
• 4:38
  So
• 4:38
  my
• 4:39
  new
• 4:39
  belief,
• 4:39
  instead
• 4:40
  of
• 4:40
  I
• 4:40
  don't
• 4:40
  look
• 4:40
  good,
• 4:40
  nobody
• 4:41
  cares.
• 4:41
  What
• 4:41
  I
• 4:41
  have
• 4:41
  to
• 4:41
  say
• 4:42
  is
• 4:43
  the
• 4:43
  right
• 4:43
  people
• 4:43
  will
• 4:44
  find
• 4:44
  me.
• 4:45
  And
• 4:45
  then
• 4:45
  action.
• 4:46
  I
• 4:46
  post
• 4:46
  anyway
• 4:47
  in
• 4:48
  that
• 4:48
  moment,
• 4:48
  right
• 4:49
  then
• 4:49
  and
• 4:49
  there,
• 4:49
  without
• 4:49
  overthinking,
• 4:50
  thinking
• 4:51
  it,
• 4:51
  without
• 4:51
  analyzing
• 4:52
  it,
• 4:52
  without
• 4:53
  worrying
• 4:53
  about
• 4:53
  what
• 4:53
  people
• 4:54
  think
• 4:54
  of
• 4:54
  me,
• 4:55
  I
• 4:55
  just
• 4:55
  do
• 4:56
  it
• 4:57
  because
• 4:57
  that's
• 4:57
  where
• 4:57
  everything
• 4:57
  starts
• 4:58
  to
• 4:58
  shift.
• 4:59
  So
• 4:59
  kind
• 4:59
  of
• 4:59
  bringing
• 5:00
  it
• 5:00
  back
• 5:00
  to
• 5:00
  the
• 5:00
  episode
• 5:01
  with
• 5:01
  Mo
• 5:02
  when
• 5:02
  he
• 5:03
  talked
• 5:03
  about
• 5:03
  this
• 5:03
  in
• 5:03
  such
• 5:04
  a
• 5:04
  powerful
• 5:04
  way
• 5:05
  that
• 5:05
  we
• 5:05
  choose
• 5:06
  our
• 5:06
  beliefs
• 5:06
  every
• 5:07
  single
• 5:07
  day,
• 5:08
  even
• 5:08
  if
• 5:09
  we
• 5:09
  don't
• 5:09
  realize
• 5:09
  it.
• 5:11
  So
• 5:11
  the
• 5:11
  question
• 5:11
  then
• 5:12
  becomes,
• 5:13
  are
• 5:14
  our
• 5:14
  beliefs
• 5:15
  working
• 5:15
  for
• 5:15
  us
• 5:16
  or
• 5:17
  against
• 5:17
  us?
• 5:19
  Think
• 5:19
  about
• 5:19
  that.
• 5:19
  Are
• 5:20
  the
• 5:20
  things
• 5:20
  that
• 5:20
  you're
• 5:21
  choosing
• 5:21
  to
• 5:21
  believe
• 5:22
  working
• 5:22
  for
• 5:22
  you
• 5:23
  or
• 5:23
  against
• 5:24
  you?
• 5:24
  And
• 5:25
  I
• 5:25
  challenge
• 5:25
  you
• 5:25
  to
• 5:25
  take
• 5:26
  that
• 5:26
  four
• 5:26
  step
• 5:26
  process
• 5:27
  and
• 5:27
  put
• 5:27
  it
• 5:28
  into
• 5:28
  the
• 5:28
  next.
• 5:29
  Put
• 5:29
  it
• 5:29
  into
• 5:29
  the
• 5:30
  scenario.
• 5:30
  The
• 5:31
  next
• 5:31
  time
• 5:31
  something
• 5:31
  happens,
• 5:32
  the
• 5:32
  next
• 5:32
  time
• 5:33
  you
• 5:33
  don't
• 5:33
  speak
• 5:33
  out,
• 5:34
  the
• 5:34
  next
• 5:34
  time
• 5:34
  you're
• 5:34
  procrastinating,
• 5:35
  the
• 5:36
  next
• 5:36
  time
• 5:36
  that
• 5:36
  inner
• 5:37
  critic
• 5:37
  comes
• 5:37
  up
• 5:37
  and
• 5:38
  comes
• 5:38
  up
• 5:39
  and
• 5:39
  talks
• 5:40
  to
• 5:40
  you
• 5:40
  in
• 5:40
  a
• 5:40
  way
• 5:40
  that
• 5:40
  you
• 5:41
  don't
• 5:41
  want
• 5:41
  to
• 5:41
  hear
• 5:41
  it.
• 5:42
  Try
• 5:42
  those
• 5:43
  four
• 5:43
  steps
• 5:43
  and
• 5:44
  see
• 5:44
  how
• 5:44
  it
• 5:44
  works
• 5:44
  out.
• 5:46
  And
• 5:46
  guys,
• 5:46
  honestly,
• 5:47
  if
• 5:47
  you're
• 5:47
  listening
• 5:47
  to
• 5:47
  this
• 5:48
  and
• 5:48
  you're
• 5:48
  thinking,
• 5:48
  okay,
• 5:49
  I
• 5:49
  see
• 5:49
  the
• 5:50
  pattern,
• 5:50
  but
• 5:50
  I
• 5:50
  still
• 5:51
  feel
• 5:51
  stuck,
• 5:52
  that's
• 5:53
  totally
• 5:53
  normal.
• 5:54
  Because
• 5:54
  this
• 5:54
  work
• 5:55
  is
• 5:55
  not
• 5:55
  just
• 5:55
  mental.
• 5:56
  It's
• 5:56
  not
• 5:56
  just
• 5:56
  in
• 5:57
  our
• 5:57
  minds.
• 5:57
  We
• 5:57
  talk
• 5:58
  about
• 5:58
  this
• 5:58
  all
• 5:58
  the
• 5:58
  time.
• 5:59
  It's
• 5:59
  in
• 6:00
  your
• 6:00
  nervous
• 6:00
  system.
• 6:01
  It's
• 6:01
  patterning
• 6:02
  and
• 6:02
  it's
• 6:02
  repetition.
• 6:03
  So
• 6:04
  that's
• 6:04
  where
• 6:04
  you
• 6:04
  have
• 6:05
  to
• 6:05
  do
• 6:05
  things
• 6:05
  over
• 6:05
  and
• 6:05
  over
• 6:06
  and
• 6:06
  over
• 6:06
  again.
• 6:07
  And
• 6:07
  that's
• 6:07
  where
• 6:07
  sometimes
• 6:08
  it
• 6:08
  helps
• 6:08
  if
• 6:08
  you
• 6:08
  have
• 6:09
  people
• 6:09
  walk
• 6:10
  through
• 6:10
  it
• 6:10
  with
• 6:10
  you.
• 6:10
  And
• 6:11
  I
• 6:11
  would
• 6:11
  love
• 6:11
  to
• 6:11
  be
• 6:12
  that
• 6:12
  person
• 6:12
  that
• 6:12
  walks
• 6:13
  through
• 6:13
  this
• 6:13
  process
• 6:13
  with
• 6:13
  you.
• 6:14
  So
• 6:14
  if
• 6:14
  this
• 6:14
  hit,
• 6:15
  if
• 6:15
  you're
• 6:15
  realizing
• 6:16
  that
• 6:16
  maybe
• 6:17
  what's
• 6:17
  holding
• 6:17
  you
• 6:17
  back
• 6:18
  isn't
• 6:18
  your
• 6:19
  discipline,
• 6:19
  maybe
• 6:20
  it's
• 6:20
  what
• 6:20
  you
• 6:20
  believe
• 6:20
  about
• 6:21
  yourself,
• 6:21
  I
• 6:22
  want
• 6:22
  to
• 6:22
  invite
• 6:22
  you
• 6:22
  to
• 6:23
  take
• 6:23
  the
• 6:23
  next
• 6:23
  step.
• 6:23
  Let's
• 6:24
  talk
• 6:24
  book
• 6:25
  a
• 6:25
  confidence
• 6:25
  and
• 6:25
  clarity
• 6:26
  call
• 6:26
  below
• 6:27
  and
• 6:27
  let's
• 6:27
  just
• 6:28
  chat.
• 6:28
  Because
• 6:29
  you
• 6:29
  don't
• 6:29
  need
• 6:29
  to
• 6:29
  become
• 6:29
  someone
• 6:30
  new.
• 6:30
  You
• 6:30
  don't
• 6:31
  need
• 6:31
  to
• 6:31
  be
• 6:31
  more
• 6:31
  motivated.
• 6:32
  You
• 6:32
  need
• 6:32
  to
• 6:33
  start
• 6:33
  choosing
• 6:33
  beliefs
• 6:34
  that
• 6:34
  actually
• 6:34
  support
• 6:35
  the
• 6:35
  life
• 6:35
  you
• 6:36
  want.
• 6:36
  The
• 6:37
  life
• 6:37
  you're
• 6:37
  living
• 6:38
  right
• 6:38
  now
• 6:40
  is
• 6:40
  a
• 6:41
  reflection
• 6:41
  of
• 6:41
  what
• 6:42
  you
• 6:42
  believe
• 6:42
  is
• 6:42
  possible.
• 6:44
  So
• 6:44
  let's
• 6:44
  change
• 6:45
  what
• 6:45
  you
• 6:45
  believe
• 6:46
  is
• 6:46
  possible.
• 6:48
  Thanks
• 6:48
  guys.
• 6:48
  We
• 6:49
  will
• 6:49
  see
• 6:49
  you
• 6:49
  back
• 6:50
  next
• 6:50
  week.
• 6:50
  Love
• 6:50
  you
• 6:51
  all.