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Men Over 50: Your Strongest Years Behind You? · Making Muscle Memories

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  SPEAKER_00: If you're a man over 50, are you training for your current self or do you have something to prove?
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  SPEAKER_00: After 40 years of work in the fitness industry, I have learned that real strength isn't just built through exercise, but through experience.
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  SPEAKER_00: I will share with you some of the science as well as the stories that have shaped my work.
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  SPEAKER_00: We are all building muscle memories.
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  SPEAKER_00: One rep, one story, and one day at a time.
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  SPEAKER_00: Welcome to the Making Muscle Memories Podcast.
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  SPEAKER_00: My name is Lauren Irk, and in this episode, I'm going to be speaking directly to men over the age of 50.
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  SPEAKER_00: Are you training for your future self or are you training to compete with something that you used to do back in the day?
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  SPEAKER_00: Now I did another episode right before this where I spoke directly to women and menopause.
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  SPEAKER_00: And over the years I've had many people say to me, you need to niche down, focus on women, because I'm a woman and I'm getting older.
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  SPEAKER_00: But I work with so many men, I didn't want to pigeonhole myself into that.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I really feel like men are going through aging too.
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  SPEAKER_00: They need to be talked to as well.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I'm hoping that this episode, hearing this from a woman's perspective, might actually help someone.
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  SPEAKER_00: So if you are a man that's dealing with loss of testosterone, energy, loss of muscle, maybe your performance is not where it needs to be, and you're feeling genuinely depressed about the aging process.
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  SPEAKER_00: I have worked with men just like you over the past 40 years to help them gain strength, gain confidence about which exercises to focus on, how to resolve joint pain and improve mobility, even if you're someone that feels like you'll never be able to touch your toes again.
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  SPEAKER_00: Not that that really matters.
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  SPEAKER_00: Inside my platform, I would love to offer you a seven-day free trial if you click the link below where I could show you just what a properly progressed program would look like where you can start rebuilding some of that muscle, reducing your joint pain, and get some quick wins.
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  SPEAKER_00: So click the link below if you're interested.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now, before I start this episode, as I always do, I want to talk to you about a story.
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  SPEAKER_00: And this is with a client of mine who I worked with for a number of years who used to frustrate the heck out of me, but honestly, I learned a lot from this person.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is a very um, I think a lot of women in the community would define him as an, you know, maybe a hot guy, you know, someone that most women would want to be with.
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  SPEAKER_00: And he was, you know, very well accomplished, very handsome, um, very uh smart.
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  SPEAKER_00: He was upperclass uh in in society, he was sort of looked at as an upper class kind of guy.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know, you think of all the things that he would have, everything going for him, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: And this man suffered so much, and I and I noticed working with him over the years, all the things that he really suffered from.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I feel like the one of the biggest things that he dealt with was losing who he used to be.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I think that this is a very real thing for a lot of men.
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  SPEAKER_00: I think that the the idea of we have to be like, you know, the Greek God, I have to produce, I have to perform, I have to be virile, I have to be attractive, I have to be powerful.
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  SPEAKER_00: This has got to be hard for men.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now we feel it a lot as women too, but the pressure from a man's standpoint, I think, is a lot different.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so when we would train together, he would always be trying to do way beyond what his body was capable of doing.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I felt like I was always mother hand.
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  SPEAKER_00: I was like, I told you that you don't have this range available in your shoulder.
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  SPEAKER_00: He would go in these groups with these younger men and they all talk him into doing a CrossFit thing, and he was doing a bunch of power clings, and he'd have a problem with his back or something like that.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so he would always learn these lessons, and he would come and go, I know, Lauren, I know, but I couldn't keep up, I couldn't help it.
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  SPEAKER_00: I just I used to love doing that, and I just figured I could again, and so I tried, and then we'd have these setbacks, and I and I and I used to feel really sorry for him, because we've all had the experience of you know, you're getting ready to pick up a weight, and you and you think to yourself, Well, I'm gonna pick up that weight that I used to, and you try to pick it up and you can't.
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  SPEAKER_00: Nobody likes to see their body decline.
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  SPEAKER_00: But it is a fact that we are all going to age, and it's I think our culture has definitely done a disservice because I think it many, many times for men, it tells us that, well, you're losing testosterone, you're washed up, your best years are behind you, you'll never be able to get the good-looking girl, you can't produce anymore, you can't get it up.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know, all these things that you've hear that you hear men have to deal with, and I and I'm sure it's very difficult.
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  SPEAKER_00: Women deal with the same things just in a different way.
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  SPEAKER_00: But there are real scientific reasons which I want to go through go through first as to what what happens in a male's body that we can absolutely acknowledge, but they don't have to be the end.
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  SPEAKER_00: Number one, body composition.
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  SPEAKER_00: Just like with women, we're losing a percentage point of muscle mass as well as testosterone every year after the age of 30.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is happening whether we're exercising or not, we can't combat it.
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  SPEAKER_00: However, we can keep it from happening too quickly.
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  SPEAKER_00: So don't let that just be your thing, oh, I'm just aging, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm just I'm losing muscle, I'm gaining fat.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yes, you are.
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  SPEAKER_00: But if we resistance train, if we gain proper nutrition, if we exercise in a way that that allows our body to have a reason to build muscle, that's gonna be consistent.
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  SPEAKER_00: We have to, not these stops and starts, consistent and organized ways of resistance training.
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  SPEAKER_00: In my platform, I always say we've got to work each body part at least twice a week.
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  SPEAKER_00: We've got to do a certain number of sets and a certain number of repetitions so that we give our body a reason to maintain muscle.
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  SPEAKER_00: Maintenance is way more important than even building.
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  SPEAKER_00: We've got to first think about maintenance.
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  SPEAKER_00: So if we're doing something that's too much, we're gonna set us back, we're gonna have to take days off, we're gonna have an injury, we'll be laid up, we're losing muscle during those times.
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  SPEAKER_00: So that consistent needs to be there, but we also need to be able to lift in such a way that we're consistent lifting significant amounts of weights that's going to keep the muscle on our body.
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  SPEAKER_00: Not just let's just be lifting as heavy as possible because all of our friends are doing it.
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  SPEAKER_00: This has to be consistent and has to be strategic to combat the loss of muscle.
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  SPEAKER_00: The second point is the idea that we're losing testosterone, so just forget it.
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  SPEAKER_00: I used to work in gyms all the time where you'd see guys shooting up in the gym and doing steroids because they thought that was the only way to gain muscle.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I've seen a lot of those guys back when I was in my 20s when they were trying to compete.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now they've just messed up their endocrine system and they can't really even come up with testosterone.
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  SPEAKER_00: They're in a really world of hurt.
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  SPEAKER_00: Women uh women lose estrogen, men lose testosterone, women lose testosterone.
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  SPEAKER_00: Get with your doctor, don't start going to GNC and getting supplements and going and doing steroids.
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  SPEAKER_00: You don't know what that what your body really needs.
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  SPEAKER_00: Everyone is different if you've had a chronic illness, if you've had a genetic predisposition, if you've gone through periods of time where maybe you didn't exercise, if maybe your strength training wasn't on point, or maybe you had poor nutrition for a period of time, it will affect your testosterone levels.
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  SPEAKER_00: From everything that I have read, I know I just read a recent article in the National Institute of Aging, where they talk a lot about hormones and talk a lot about men and testosterone and whether or not they need hormone replacement.
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  SPEAKER_00: One thing that they say definitively across the studies, and this is a study that I read in 2022, they were saying that men's testosterone levels change throughout their lives.
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  SPEAKER_00: And what a man needs at certain points of their lives may be different from somebody else.
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  SPEAKER_00: So make sure you get with the doctor, check with your doctor, and check it on a regular basis, not just once and done.
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  SPEAKER_00: Check it consistently so that you can adhere to that.
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  SPEAKER_00: So if you're tired all the time, that may be a signal that you do have low testosterone.
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  SPEAKER_00: But lastly, is our training principles, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Our training principles really do need to change when we age.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is a fact.
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  SPEAKER_00: We can't do the same things that we did when we were younger.
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  SPEAKER_00: Why?
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  SPEAKER_00: Why is this?
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  SPEAKER_00: Our muscle mass changes, our blood volume changes, our cardiovascular, our breathing rate, our blood volume, and tidal volume both change as we age.
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  SPEAKER_00: Our organs start to shrink.
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  SPEAKER_00: Men and women, as we age, brain, sexual organs, all of it changes.
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  SPEAKER_00: Our ability to filter things change, our diets change.
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  SPEAKER_00: So that means that the things that we did before may need to change.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that's gonna that that third point I'm gonna now expand into three points that I want to make.
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  SPEAKER_00: So let me frame it by looking at a man versus looking at a woman.
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  SPEAKER_00: So for a man, I feel like a lot of what happens with men is that their childhood is filled with sports.
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  SPEAKER_00: Am I right?
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  SPEAKER_00: It's I mean it's the same way with women, but I danced.
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  SPEAKER_00: I danced, I did ballet, I did aerobics, I did group fitness, and when I was, you know, my you know, in the 80s, we just did all this, you know, aerobics.
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  SPEAKER_00: But men were always kind of lifting weights, they were always involved in sports.
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  SPEAKER_00: The the boys that I went to school with, the ones that were the most popular were the ones that were on the track team.
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  SPEAKER_00: They played baseball, they played basketball.
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  SPEAKER_00: And a lot of their socialization comes from sports.
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  SPEAKER_00: And for for men in their teen years as well as in their grade school years, this tends to be enough.
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  SPEAKER_00: But what I see for a lot of men is that they start to develop this need to get a career.
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe you go into medical school, maybe you start a business, whatever it was.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now you're sitting in long meetings, you're sitting on planes, you are studying, you're doing whatever.
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe you became, instead of doing construction, you own a construction company and now you've got construction workers, but now your job is more office-y, your job was management.
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  SPEAKER_00: Well, what's happened to your activity now?
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  SPEAKER_00: What are your needs for your activity now?
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  SPEAKER_00: Has your body changed and conformed?
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  SPEAKER_00: If you sit all the time, what in the world makes you think that you can start doing yoga, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: And I see this all the time with men.
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe the strength that you needed to play the sports back then is not the strength that you need now.
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  SPEAKER_00: And if you're telling me that, oh, I get enough, I work in the yard.
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  SPEAKER_00: I hear this all the time from men.
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  SPEAKER_00: Working in the yard is not structured, consistent exercise.
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  SPEAKER_00: A lot of women, ironically, get more structured exercise than men that I see.
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  SPEAKER_00: I don't know why this is.
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  SPEAKER_00: I guess because women are just so worried about competing with each other.
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  SPEAKER_00: I guess men are too, but women's needs are a little different.
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  SPEAKER_00: We're all worried about getting fat, you know, not losing, gaining enough fat or whatever, worried about that.
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  SPEAKER_00: I think more and more women are focused on muscle, and I feel like men are always focused on muscle, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: So it's all about lifting heavy.
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  SPEAKER_00: Women want to lift heavy too, but not as much, not as much as men.
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  SPEAKER_00: But doing yard work is not, or playing at 18 holes of golf is not what's going to keep muscle on your body.
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  SPEAKER_00: Just like the women that go walking around with their weighted vests on.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's not going to put the kind of muscle on your hip joints or on your ankles or on your core, is what you need.
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  SPEAKER_00: You need structured exercise, and we're going to talk about here in just a second.
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  SPEAKER_00: But that structured exercise needs to be consistent, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: There was a study done in 2021.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'll put I'll link it below in PubMed that I read.
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  SPEAKER_00: There's this idea that men over the age of 65 can't, you know, you're done.
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  SPEAKER_00: You can't build any more muscle.
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  SPEAKER_00: This study was done with 34 different men over 12 weeks, where they did two days a week of resistance training, and all of them increase their strength as well as their muscle mass combined with increased protein stores.
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  SPEAKER_00: You absolutely can increase your strength.
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  SPEAKER_00: So, one of the things that I want to say with your training is that we want to be able to train under our active control.
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  SPEAKER_00: What can we actively control?
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  SPEAKER_00: So I see this all the time, and I'm gonna, again, I'm speaking to men.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is an example I saw with a man.
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  SPEAKER_00: And women, by the way, we're watching you in the gym and we laugh.
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  SPEAKER_00: We see this all the time.
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  SPEAKER_00: I can't tell you many workshops I've been to with a bunch of women sitting around talking about men that do this.
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  SPEAKER_00: So the calf machine, that's a great example of active control.
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  SPEAKER_00: Who in the world told you that you have to lift the whole stack?
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  SPEAKER_00: You don't see women doing this nearly as much, but for whatever reason, men have this idea that I have to lift as much of as much weight as I possibly can.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so you see men go through and they they put that weight stack at the bottom of the weight, the pit at the bottom, they get up under the cap, and then they do uh uh uh-uh- uh-uh, this little tiny range of motion, but they lifted the whole stack.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you, if for some reason, when a being a trainer, if I tell a man, it's always been a joke with me and my female friends, if I go and correct a man, even with my trainer shirt on, back when I used to work in clubs, and I said, Hey, let's take the weight stack and let's cut it in half.
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  SPEAKER_00: Let's put the bench, let's put the pin on in the second, and I want to see you go all the way down to your now.
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  SPEAKER_00: Obviously, this is gonna be passive ranges of dorsiflexion, bending at the ankle because I've got a weight stack on me now, but I want to see you slowly and controlly go to the top of your range in full planner flexion.
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  SPEAKER_00: They don't want to listen to you, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Because it's not gonna be the same weight.
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  SPEAKER_00: But if it means that I have to lower my weight so that I can achieve a full range of motion as much as I can under weight that I can actively control without hurting, without cramping, without having this big zing of pain, I've got to be able to visit that on a regular basis.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now, my second point is that I want to make sure that I am not jerking the weight.
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  SPEAKER_00: I want to produce deliberate force in my body, deliberate force.
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  SPEAKER_00: So give the example of the bicep curl.
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  SPEAKER_00: The bicep curl is the guy that has to lift a lot of weight to do my curls, but I'm flinging the weight and I'm throwing my whole body into it, and I'm using momentum to move the weight as fast as possible because I know there was some point in my life that I was able to lift that weight and dog on it.
• 13:43
  SPEAKER_00: I'm gonna lift that come hell or high water.
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  SPEAKER_00: Realize that when you're moving the weight really quickly, and I know you're gonna argue with me, I'm gonna get no slide.
• 13:50
  SPEAKER_00: Well, I'm uh there's something about you know performance, and I want to be able to move weight.
• 13:55
  SPEAKER_00: I get that.
• 13:56
  SPEAKER_00: Power and strength are very important, and we lose power exponentially fast, faster than we lose actual mass.
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  SPEAKER_00: Our ability to produce power, I'm just gonna tell you, at the age of 50, you may not have that much ability to produce power.
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  SPEAKER_00: How many power lifters do you see?
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  SPEAKER_00: There are some, but you know why they're there?
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  SPEAKER_00: They're there because they never gave it up.
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  SPEAKER_00: You're gonna not you're not gonna start a powerlifting career at the age of 60.
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  SPEAKER_00: You're just not.
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  SPEAKER_00: So you got to give that up.
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  SPEAKER_00: We want to preserve our joints so that we can exercise for life.
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  SPEAKER_00: Are you trying to hoist that bicep curl at the expense of your lumbar spine?
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe you're banging into a facet joint at L4, L5, and that very exercise is causing joint pain to where now you can't exercise at all.
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  SPEAKER_00: So if I can actually use purposeful contractions, and I think one and two go together, if I'm using my available range of motion, and when I get to the end range of my motion, I purposely create muscular tension, muscular force, and really squeeze that muscle.
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  SPEAKER_00: Guys, I am doing so much more from my muscles than I ever did trying to, I don't know, keep up with who I was when I was 20.
• 15:13
  SPEAKER_00: It doesn't matter how much weight you lift if you can't control it.
• 15:16
  SPEAKER_00: Back when I used to teach yoga, yoga is all about how far can I go?
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  SPEAKER_00: And I used to drive me crazy back in my studio because that was always the benchmark to anybody that first came into my program.
• 15:28
  SPEAKER_00: We said that if someone could move further, that they were better at yoga or they were more flexible.
• 15:33
  SPEAKER_00: But yet when you put a weight in their hand, or if you call them to move your couch, they have nothing.
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  SPEAKER_00: They have no capacity whatsoever.
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  SPEAKER_00: So what we would do is we would have them, you know, do the supine yoga position where you take your leg up and stretch your hamstring, but I would have them block that leg and push against it so that they have to produce mindful force at the hip flexor muscles so that they own that position.
• 15:56
  SPEAKER_00: And then we would stand them up and have them lift their leg against gravity and maybe and stick a dumbbell on top of it.
• 16:02
  SPEAKER_00: And what we would see is that the range of motion would go down.
• 16:05
  SPEAKER_00: So if I am trying to move a certain amount of weight, maybe I have it in my head that I have to do a bench press and I have to get from the bottom to the top.
• 16:13
  SPEAKER_00: If I don't own every single part of that contraction, what am I doing?
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm doing more to tear up my joint and I'm doing more to weaken my tissues than I ever am at maintaining the tissues.
• 16:25
  SPEAKER_00: Remember, our goal is to exercise for life.
• 16:28
  SPEAKER_00: And for my last point, I want to make sure when I'm exercising that I'm always employing control, right?
• 16:35
  SPEAKER_00: So, what is control?
• 16:36
  SPEAKER_00: I'll give you the example of the rowing machine.
• 16:39
  SPEAKER_00: I have a guy in my gym and he has a trainer, and I always tempted to say something, but I never do.
• 16:46
  SPEAKER_00: And every time he grabs the rowing machine, his whole body is moving.
• 16:51
  SPEAKER_00: He's moving those handles to him, but he's leaning back and he's leaning forward.
• 16:55
  SPEAKER_00: He's not my client, so I don't say anything.
• 16:58
  SPEAKER_00: But I'm always wanted to say to myself, as my my old teacher used to say to me, he always used to teach us the first thing we need to ask our clients, what is your goal?
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  SPEAKER_00: What are you trying to accomplish?
• 17:09
  SPEAKER_00: If that guy's goal for doing that exercise was, I want to build my back, I want to work my lats, I want to work my middle traps, my lower traps, my rhomboids, my rear delt, maybe, that's not gonna do it.
• 17:19
  SPEAKER_00: I'm gonna dilute some of my muscular force over maybe my hip extensors, maybe momentum in general, maybe my ability to stop the weight from moving in the first place.
• 17:29
  SPEAKER_00: I am not building my back, I'm wasting my time by not holding still.
• 17:35
  SPEAKER_00: So some if some parts of the of the exercise need to be able to maintain that plane of motion so that other body parts can move.
• 17:42
  SPEAKER_00: So I'm always saying to people, if my goal is to build muscle, if my goal in this stage of life is to reduce pain, to improve my range of motion, to maintain muscle, I want to play golf, I want to pay pickleball, I want to do these things and not have to get injured.
• 17:57
  SPEAKER_00: I've got to really adhere to these three points.
• 18:00
  SPEAKER_00: So let me just summarize, and before I give you my inspiration, so don't log off yet.
• 18:04
  SPEAKER_00: We said that there are real reasons why men will experience changes in their body as they age.
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  SPEAKER_00: From a body composition standpoint, from a hormonal system standpoint, and also from the fact that our needs change as far as our ability to do things throughout life.
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  SPEAKER_00: Our exercise lifestyle habits will change as we get older.
• 18:28
  SPEAKER_00: Maybe we don't play as many sports, maybe our roles now are going to be more sedentary.
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  SPEAKER_00: So we have to have those things in our lives that inject activities.
• 18:38
  SPEAKER_00: Take the stairs, lift heavy things when you can, open the jars, get up out of your desk, do squats, do some compound exercises, do your lunges, do your leg presses, and if you can't, find an MAT.
• 18:52
  SPEAKER_00: Get on my platform, figure out something that you can do to uncover where your weak links are because A, we need to be able to produce force that is that is not random, that is not flingy.
• 19:05
  SPEAKER_00: We want to be able to produce purposeful force.
• 19:08
  SPEAKER_00: We also want to make sure that we are always working in our active control, looking at our full range of motion.
• 19:14
  SPEAKER_00: And we also need to be able to, my last point was hold things still while other things move.
• 19:19
  SPEAKER_00: And if you adhere to these principles, you're gonna be able to exercise for life.
• 19:23
  SPEAKER_00: Now, in my women's episode, I read a Bible verse that I'd like to reread to you because I think it's gonna mean something really different for the man's version.
• 19:31
  SPEAKER_00: But it's the same verse.
• 19:32
  SPEAKER_00: That's why I love the Bible because I feel like anytime you pick it up for your life, it always means something, right?
• 19:38
  SPEAKER_00: So never say, oh, I read the Bible.
• 19:40
  SPEAKER_00: Read it again, read it often.
• 19:42
  SPEAKER_00: This is by Romans chapter 12, verse 2.
• 19:44
  SPEAKER_00: Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.
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  SPEAKER_00: So, what was the pattern?
• 19:51
  SPEAKER_00: In this episode, it was I have to compete with my older self.
• 19:56
  SPEAKER_00: I'm no longer sexy, I'm no longer viable, I'm no longer powerful if I can't perform like I used to.
• 20:02
  SPEAKER_00: You gotta get rid of that.
• 20:04
  SPEAKER_00: And then it says, then you will be able to test and approve what God's will is, his good, pleasing, and perfect will.
• 20:12
  SPEAKER_00: What is your will now?
• 20:14
  SPEAKER_00: Maybe your will is I've got a family, I've got responsibilities, I've got people that I need to take care of, I've got a legacy that I'm trying to build with my career.
• 20:24
  SPEAKER_00: Maybe my legacy is no longer being the guy that, you know, made as many free throws as I did when I was 20.
• 20:32
  SPEAKER_00: Or maybe it's not the guy that has to be in every single golf game.
• 20:36
  SPEAKER_00: Maybe it's not the guy that has to get a bucket of balls at the golf course and make sure that I've shot every single ball down the field.
• 20:44
  SPEAKER_00: Maybe my goal is now I want to be able to be as strong and as healthy as I can for the people that I care about or for the legacy that I'm trying to build.
• 20:53
  SPEAKER_00: That is what God's will and God's testimony is all about.
• 20:57
  SPEAKER_00: It's never a waste to take care of yourself, and it's never a waste to listen to what our future and our current self needs.
• 21:06
  SPEAKER_00: If you're constantly training for who you used to be, how is that serving God?
• 21:11
  SPEAKER_00: How we have to first serve ourselves and love ourselves before we can love our neighbor, which is considered to be the greatest commandment that God gives us.
• 21:19
  SPEAKER_00: So for my muscle memory minute, I want to say that your age is just information.
• 21:25
  SPEAKER_00: Stop being defined by your age because it's not a verdict of your strength.
• 21:30
  SPEAKER_00: Remember, strength is not always numbers.
• 21:33
  SPEAKER_00: Strength is getting through the hard times, strength is learning from things, strength is changing, and strength is adapting.
• 21:40
  SPEAKER_00: And as I always say to people, the real strength and transformation on people sometimes you can't see because it's on the inside.
• 21:47
  SPEAKER_00: So I hope that this episode helped you.
• 21:50
  SPEAKER_00: If you know any men out there that could maybe could benefit by listening to this 57-year-old woman talk about her experiences with working with men for over, I guess it's been 41 years now, please send them this episode because we love you men out there.
• 22:05
  SPEAKER_00: And let me just tell you, women don't care about the things that you think that we do.
• 22:11
  SPEAKER_00: As women get older, if they're if they're maturing, this they should be.
• 22:15
  SPEAKER_00: I don't hear a lot of women talk about the appearance as much as they did when they were 20.
• 22:20
  SPEAKER_00: We don't care about your hot car, and we don't really care about whether or not you can bench press.
• 22:25
  SPEAKER_00: What we care about is how you treat us and how your heart shows in the things that you do.
• 22:31
  SPEAKER_00: Men that love animals, men that love children, and men that love women are the ones that we want.
• 22:36
  SPEAKER_00: Just let's gonna tell you.
• 22:38
  SPEAKER_00: So, if you're watching this on YouTube, what resonated with you in this episode?
• 22:42
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• 22:43
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• 22:46
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• 22:47
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• 22:51
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• 22:57
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• 23:01
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• 23:04
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• 23:14
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• 23:17
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