People Pleasing Is Wearing You Out — Here's Why

The Advisor with Stacey Chillemi · Jun 29, 2026 · 35m

People pleasing isn't a personality flaw — it's a fear response rooted in childhood, perfectionism, and the deep need to stay loved and safe. You keep saying yes, over-explaining, managing everyone's comfort, and somewhere in the process, you've lost track of what you actually want.

Susan Podbielski is a licensed psychotherapist and NYU Langone Fellow who spent a decade in clinical practice — after burning out as a network TV producer — helping high-achieving women break this pattern for good. This episode gives you the roots, the real costs, and the first practical steps back to yourself…