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Ep 24 | What You Give Attention To Grows: Discernment for the Sensitive Soul · Rise & Realign: Conversations for the Sensitive Soul

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  Welcome to Rise and Realign, Conversations for
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  the Sensitive Soul. I'm Melissa, and this space
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  is for those of us who feel deeply, love fiercely,
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  and sense the world in ways that are hard to
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  explain but impossible to ignore. Here, we honor
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  your sensitivity as a strength, not something
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  to fix. Through reflections, realignment, and
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  soul -led stories, we remember how to move through
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  life in a way that feels true to who we really
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  are. This is your space to rise, to realign,
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  and to come home again and again to your own
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  wise, sensitive self. Well, it's always an honor
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  for me to share from my heart to yours, because
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  I know that there's a lot of seeming distractions
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  in the world. And what's coming up for me right
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  now is how, you know, I have been sharing with
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  the wonderful women that I work with for years
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  now, that, you know, what we give our attention
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  to is what grows, right? And there's a lot of
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  angles that we can understand this. But what
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  I really want to speak to in this moment is,
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  you know, there, there is news in the world,
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  right? There are things happening on this planet,
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  in this country, in other countries. And Some
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  people feel like it's really important, you know,
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  to watch the news and to know what's going on
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  in the world. But what I want to speak to about
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  this is that as a highly sensitive individual,
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  and whether you know what that means for you,
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  or you just know that, you know, you're sensitive
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  to different things that you're exposed to, right?
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  That what we give our attention to grows in these
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  types of situations means like, there's a lot
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  of fear that comes up in, you know, listening
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  to the news and hearing about the things that
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  happen, right? And there are a plethora of different
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  experiences that individuals have, right? So
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  the news may speak to, you know, the Well, what
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  we might call, you know, the darker side of experiences,
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  right? And this happens in all kinds of experiences,
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  right? Whether we're talking nature, whether
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  we're talking relationships, you know, so this
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  is speaking more to, you know, what happens in
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  a global scale that touches more people. someone
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  who's highly sensitive, right? Like, there's
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  so many different ways to understand, you know,
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  that what we give our attention to is what grows,
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  right? And, and I also want to speak to how there
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  are so many experiences that you can also hear
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  about that we wouldn't necessarily say we're
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  hearing it on the news, right? But like, all
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  the different experiences that happen when people
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  come together and meditate together and you know
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  when people um also come together with a focused
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  um intention you know on another part of the
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  planet even right so like this is just touching
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  on how there are so many different experiences
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  that people can and do have. And as a sensitive
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  individual, it's really important to pay attention
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  to how you feel when you are exposed to any of
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  these, right? So whether it is the news and something
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  that's happening that, you know, is really fueling,
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  you know, fear. in the collective, or whether
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  you're giving your attention to, you know, newer
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  discoveries or realizations or, you know, revelations
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  even, you know, about this soul experience, right?
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  Because not everybody on this earthly plane knows
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  themselves to be a soul there are a lot of individuals
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  who are you know experiencing life in their physicality
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  only that is their framework you know whether
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  you call it their belief system or how they're
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  wired right and there's no judgment on whether
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  somebody is considered an awakened soul right
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  Or whether somebody, you know, truly operates
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  from this is it. It's only me. And it's how I
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  think it's how, you know, I see things how I
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  interpret things and what I do. So, again, obviously,
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  my podcast is conversations for the sensitive
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  soul, because I do know myself as a sensitive.
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  individual and an awakened soul. And so I'm here
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  to just keep sharing, you know, my voice and
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  my message because there are many, many sensitive
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  individuals who, and maybe I could even share
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  it like me. I didn't used to relate to myself
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  as, you know, a soul having a human experience.
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  Well, I believe that I really didn't know because
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  even though I was offered, you know, a Roman
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  Catholic education, I didn't feel it deep within
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  me. It was an education and it was something
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  that, you know, I continued to participate in
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  until I had my spiritual awakening and realized
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  that there was so much more, you know, and then
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  again, explored philosophy and different religions
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  and things that resonated with me, you know,
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  from different perspectives there, right? But
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  I really, again, want to bring it back to, you
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  know, if you're listening, then you already recognize
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  that you're a sensitive individual. And so what
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  you give your attention to is essential for you
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  to know how it's affecting you right like trust
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  that felt sense you know when someone talks about
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  something you know if if it gives you you know
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  and again what that feels like for you is definitely
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  unique so I could just tell you that you know
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  when I'm with people in my life you know and
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  they start talking about the news or you know
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  something that sounds again, like, like there's
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  this, there's this tension of fear within it,
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  right? Like it just feels off to me, you know?
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  And I just, I find my way to, um, you know, going
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  off by myself in a sense to just get re -centered
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  because this is really important to understand
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  as sensitive individuals, we are absolutely more
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  affected by our environment. And, you know, I've
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  done other podcasts about our physical environment,
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  right? But right now I'm really speaking to,
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  you know, trusting the environment as far as
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  Who's in your life? And what are they bringing
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  into the mix with you? Because that is something
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  that you want to be discerning about. You know,
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  and I know for me, when I had my spiritual awakening,
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  it was a true culture shock, you know, of living
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  in this space of... you know just pure positive
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  love energy and light and everything was just
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  so peaceful healthy happy harmonious you know
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  and then again the physical reality of life,
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  you know, became more prominent. And there were
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  a lot of years where I didn't feel that I had
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  a space where I could talk about my understanding
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  as a soul, or, you know, my understanding of
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  how the universe operates and, and my curiosity
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  and interest in it, right. And so again when
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  we think of as highly sensitive individuals we
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  are in the minority right and so not everybody
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  can go into those deeper conversations and i
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  have people in my life who i absolutely deeply
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  love and appreciate and um and and know about
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  that soul connection but our human experiences
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  are very different. And so sometimes that just
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  means, you know, we need to be choosy about what
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  we say, you know, how much we talk about these
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  other things. And that can feel a little bit
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  lonely, right? It can feel like you don't really
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  belong in the collective. And that's really why
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  I keep speaking. you know, from my heart, because
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  I know what it's like to live with not enough
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  others who are curious and, you know, can shift
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  out of, you know, what the physical world, you
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  know, is saying to be afraid of or to plan for,
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  or, you know, there's a lack of trust when fear
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  is what's guiding decisions, right, and plans.
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  And that's something that, you know, Again, the
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  more we're tuning inward, right, realigning with
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  our own hearts, intelligence and wisdom and guidance,
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  you know, the more we shift out of that old identity
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  of being just a physically focused, you know,
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  individual living in the society that you're
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  raised in. Because, you know, the... The families
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  that we're born into and raised in, that's just
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  our starting point. It lays a foundation and
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  some of it may not be what we prefer, right?
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  But it doesn't mean we're stuck with it, right?
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  Like the more we are curious and open to new
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  possibilities, to new opportunities, right? Then
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  we start to be more discerning about what we
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  give our attention to. And again, just recognizing
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  that it can be challenging when it seems like
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  you're the only one, you know, who wants to focus
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  on the bigger journey of you're here as a soul
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  with your own lessons, you know, with your own
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  spiral of, you know, learning and awakening.
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  And there's no need to compare or judge, right?
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  Because we each signed up for this. experience,
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  whether we remember it or not, you know, and
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  we're all here for a reason. And I am again speaking
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  to those who are in the minority of highly sensitive
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  individuals, because there is an evolutionary
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  reason why we are here to feel things more deeply,
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  to sense things that are under the surface that
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  Even our loved ones, you know, may not be able
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  to recognize and identify yet. And it can be
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  tricky. You know, if you are the one who sees
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  the behaviors, sees the patterns, you know, and
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  others don't. and they stay where they are in
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  their patterns, right, then you might be the
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  one who's moving along on your journey at a different
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  pace, right? And again, no race and no judgment,
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  because we never know when we may need to stay
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  in an experience for a different length of time,
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  because there could be other jewels, you know,
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  that we glean from staying. in apparently the
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  same, you know, spot for a little longer. So
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  again, I'm really speaking from my heart that,
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  you know, the important thing is that you tune
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  into you, right? That you realign your heart,
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  you know, and soul, right? And how you are just
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  being your truly authentic self in each day in
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  the most loving way, because I'm sure you've
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  heard me say before, I really see highly sensitive
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  individuals as the heart of humanity, right?
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  Because of how more finely tuned you are to that
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  communication, right? Like, And the depth that
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  you feel it, right, is a gift. And often that's
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  what leads highly sensitives to be more kind
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  and generous, even if it doesn't seem like that's
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  ideal for you. And oftentimes, you know, that
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  is a lot of the work that sensitive women do
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  when they partner with me, right? It's about
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  reeling it back in so that you are recognizing
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  where you're getting depleted because When you
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  are not discerning, you know, where you're giving
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  your time, attention and energy to, you can deplete
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  yourself. And then that's when, you know, resentment
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  can come up or, you know, questioning yourself
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  or judging others even. And again, this is really
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  about you coming home to you, right? Again and
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  again. realigning is about coming home to you
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  to your true essence and what you're here to
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  live you know learn and grow through right to
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  to tap into more of those resources within you
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  of love of wisdom right your own heart's intelligence
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  so again just wanting to bring it back to your
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  heart center. So let's take a break and breathe
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  love together now. I invite you to just pause,
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  whatever you're doing, except be safe if you're
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  driving, then now is not the time and, you know,
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  listen to it again later. But, you know, pause
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  what you're doing and just Allow your hands to
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  just rest in your lap. You know, just feel that
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  contact with your lap. Feel the support beneath
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  your body. And just pay attention to your breath
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  for a moment. Just notice what the breath is
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  doing right now. And then inhale deeply through
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  your nose. And then another short inhale. And
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  now exhale out your mouth long and slow. Just
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  letting it all go. And again, honor your pace
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  and rhythm. But inhaling through your nose. And
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  then another inhale. And then a nice long, slow
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  exhale out your mouth. And one more. Inhaling
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  through your nose. Another inhale. And then exhale
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  out your mouth. Just releasing, relaxing, and
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  letting go. So this is what's really important.
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  Because when we're not pausing, right? When we're
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  not taking a break to breathe love, the external
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  world can be grabbing our attention, right? And
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  it can be grabbing our attention more often than
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  we really have the space to process. And as highly
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  sensitive individuals, you're not only taking
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  in more data, right? Both visual and invisible,
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  you know, you're taking more in. and you're processing
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  it more deeply and when you are exposed to the
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  news you know other people's um energy and their
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  thoughts and experiences without the space that
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  you need to process right and to really get clear
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  about what's healthy for you then you can get
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  bogged down with too much, right? And I know
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  from my personal experience that fear, that's
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  a powerful one, right? Because fear is going
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  to tap into our own past experiences, right?
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  And the ancestral lineage that we may be carrying
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  forward that has been unresolved, right? And
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  so I'm certainly one to say, feel the fear, you
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  know? but learn from it, right? We're not running
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  from it, but we're not letting it run the show
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  either, right? It's information and it's information
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  that we want to consider, right? Because your
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  nervous system is going to let you know, you
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  know, we can't always make like big leaps out
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  of, you know, old situations and old. data that
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  hasn't been processed into something lighter
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  and freer and, you know, more positive in a sense,
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  right? Like, we really do want to know how is
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  our nervous system navigating these, these shifts,
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  but pay attention, you know, like, if you decide
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  to not communicate with someone who predominantly,
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  you know, is bringing that kind of energy that's
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  tapping into either, you know, fear within you,
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  or it's tapping into just a feeling of disconnect,
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  right? Like, honor that, right? That disconnect
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  that you're noticing from what the other person
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  is talking about is your clue that they are in
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  a different frequency, a different vibe than
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  you are, and just let them have theirs. but you
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  honor yours, right? And that's why I say, if
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  you need to, you know, end a conversation with
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  someone, or if you need to, you know, leave the
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  space, right? Like just honor what your needs
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  are revealing for you. I mean, that's, that's
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  how you're going to realign and reclaim, you
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  know, your own inner rhythm, right? So, again,
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  I know it's not the easiest to navigate because
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  we live in a world where there are more people
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  that are physically focused, you know, and believe
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  me, I definitely lived a time when I was very
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  physically focused and even after my spiritual
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  awakening because I wanted to understand how
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  my body was operating and, you know, what did
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  it mean to have an autoimmune condition and,
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  you know, and neck injuries and, you know, how
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  do I support my body? And, um, but we can also
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  get out of balance and be too physically focused,
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  even when we are right, spiritually aware or
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  an awakened soul, whatever language, you know,
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  resonates for you. we just want to keep coming
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  back to our heart center right and remembering
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  that you know as a soul this physical vessel
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  is our temple we do need to tend to it and care
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  for it right but it doesn't need to get all of
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  our you know waking attention either right that's
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  where You know, the breath is the bridge, as
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  I say it. You know, it brings us into our body
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  and also into our heart space, right? So we can
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  realign in that sense, right? Mind, body, heart,
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  and soul. Like we want to include it all, right?
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  We are whole beings. We're not just one or the
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  other. And, you know, I, I definitely am somebody
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  who, you know, after my spiritual awakening,
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  I, like I already said, dove into all different
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  kinds of directions. Right. But also, you know,
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  I found myself. really coming back heavy with
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  the research. And perhaps that's why I've just
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  been in the mental health field since I was 19,
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  right? Like, definitely interested in, you know,
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  research and evidence based, you know, approaches
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  and understandings. And I love the work of Dr.
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  Elaine Aaron. And, you know, being a highly sensitive
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  person. I really resonate with what she has,
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  you know, shared with the world. And so, yeah,
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  I just want to, you know, let you know that that's
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  why I've been, you know, quietly, you know. creating
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  and allowing it to unfold in its own way and
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  timing, you know, this new essentials course.
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  It's a science informed course for sensitive
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  and strong women, you know, who are ready to
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  understand, right, their nervous system and that
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  this is an intentional design. It's not a flaw.
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  that needs fixing right like we just need to
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  understand how our body is operating that's a
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  little bit different right and also for those
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  who you know consider themselves an old soul
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  or who are open to you know, the spiritual world
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  and communicating with their loved ones who have
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  passed or who enjoy talking to a psychic now
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  and again, just to get a little bit connection
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  in that arena. And, you know, I just want to
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  say that, you know, there are many women who
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  I'm supporting who feel such relief when they
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  realize that they can talk about these other
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  layers, right? Like, again, I see us as needing
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  to be honoring and aware of our wholeness and
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  not compartmentalize ourselves, right? And so
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  there are so many different perspectives and
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  things that we can experience on this journey
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  through life. I'm just somebody who's here to
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  say, you know, if what I share resonates with
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  you, you know, I'm so honored, you know, because
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  I'm happy to share, you know, what I have lived
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  through and come to understand to support others
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  who are also waking up to, you know, the gift
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  of their sensitivity and what it means and how
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  to honor it and, you know, how to just, again,
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  reel things back in so that that, you know, depth
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  of caring isn't a consistent self -abandonment
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  practice, right? That you're really tuning into
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  you. So before we close, I invite you to return
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  to your breath, to your body, to what feels true
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  for you right now. There's nothing you need to
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  fix. Just notice what's here. Where the heart
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  leads, the body remembers, and the soul awakens.
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  And as a reminder, we are here together to rise.
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  Reclaim. Remember. And that essentials course
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  I mentioned called Your Sensitivity is Intelligent
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  Design will be released within the next couple
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  of weeks. And as part of this essentials course,
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  you'll also have access to four seasonal threshold
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  gatherings over the next 12 months. But yeah,
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  just stay close. I will share that soon. I'm
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  really excited. And again, I just want to make
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  sure that it offers all of the science and essential
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  pieces that I feel will be most supportive. So
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  as always, I'm so grateful you're here. And if
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  you are not already walking this path with me,
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  I do write a weekly Rise and Realign lunar letter
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  for sensitive women. And you can always join
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  me there. You can find everything at realignwithmelissa
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  .com. So take good care of you. Much love and
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  light.