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Personality Types After Divorce: How to Reclaim Your Identity & Build Healthier Relationships | Bonus Coaching Episode · Bent Not Broken: Starting Over After Divorce | Post Divorce Life

• 0:00
  SPEAKER_00: Welcome to another episode of Bent Not Broken.
• 0:04
  SPEAKER_00: Heartbreak and trauma may feel like the end of your story, but here it's the beginning of a bold new chapter.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm your host, Coach Deborah Griffiths, and this is the space where women rise, rebuild, and rediscover their purpose.
• 0:23
  SPEAKER_00: Remember this truth.
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  SPEAKER_00: You are Bent, Not Broken.
• 0:32
  SPEAKER_00: Hi everyone, welcome to this bonus coaching episode of Bent Not Broken.
• 0:38
  SPEAKER_00: After my conversation with Marita Letower Tetter, I wanted to spend a few moments helping you apply what we discussed.
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  SPEAKER_00: Especially if you're navigating divorce, dating again, or trying to understand why past relationships didn't work.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because here's the truth, understanding personality types isn't about labeling people.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's about gaining clarity.
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  SPEAKER_00: And clarity is power.
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  SPEAKER_00: Step one, identify your core personality.
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  SPEAKER_00: Marita referenced the four classic personality types from Wired That Way.
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  SPEAKER_00: There's the sanguine who's outgoing, expressive, and thrives on connection.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then there's the choric, driven, decision, goal-oriented.
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  SPEAKER_00: And there's the melancholy, who's thoughtful, analytical, perfection seeking.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then lastly, there's the phlegmatic, calm, easygoing, harmony-driven.
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  SPEAKER_00: Here's your coaching question: Where did you lose yourself in your last relationship?
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  SPEAKER_00: Were you silencing your outgoing nature?
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  SPEAKER_00: Were you walking on eggshells because you're sensitive?
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  SPEAKER_00: Or how about overfunctioning because you're driven?
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  SPEAKER_00: And then lastly, avoiding conflict because you crave peace.
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  SPEAKER_00: Awareness is the beginning of reclaiming your voice.
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  SPEAKER_00: Step two, stop expecting one person to meet every need.
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  SPEAKER_00: One of the most powerful moments in the interview was when Marita said, It's unrealistic to expect one man to fulfill every emotional need.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you're divorced, this is especially important.
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  SPEAKER_00: Sometimes we grieve not just the person, but the fantasy.
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  SPEAKER_00: The Prince Charming, the Reserve, the he'll complete me story.
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  SPEAKER_00: But healthy women build healthy ecosystems.
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  SPEAKER_00: You need friends, purpose, joy, community, growth, spiritual grounding.
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  SPEAKER_00: A partner should enhance your life, not carry the entire emotional weight of it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Step three, when dating again, observe.
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  SPEAKER_00: Don't idealize.
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  SPEAKER_00: Instead of asking, do I like him?
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  SPEAKER_00: Start asking, how does he handle stress?
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  SPEAKER_00: Is he rigid or flexible?
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  SPEAKER_00: Is he emotionally expressive or reserved?
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  SPEAKER_00: How does he treat the wait staff?
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  SPEAKER_00: And what happens when plans change?
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  SPEAKER_00: Dating is data collection, not fantasy projection.
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  SPEAKER_00: And personality awareness helps you see patterns before you ignore red flags.
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  SPEAKER_00: Step four, rebuilding after divorce.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you feel bent but not broken right now, here's your practical step.
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  SPEAKER_00: Take the time this week to define what energizes me, what drains me, what do I emotionally need, and where can I meet that need in healthy ways.
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  SPEAKER_00: When you know who you are at your core, you stop chasing relationships to define you, and you start choosing relationships that align with you.
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  SPEAKER_00: Personality awareness is not about changing who you are.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's about honoring who you are and choosing relationships that respect that.
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  SPEAKER_00: You are not too much, you are not too emotional, you are not too driven, you are not too quiet.
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  SPEAKER_00: You are wired uniquely.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that wiring is not a flaw, it's information.
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  SPEAKER_00: And when you use that information wisely, you don't just survive relationships, you build better ones.
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  SPEAKER_00: If this bonus episode resonated with you, share it with a friend who's navigating dating or rebuilding after divorce.
• 5:02
  SPEAKER_00: And if you're ready for deeper coaching around identity, relationships, and rebuilding after divorce, visit my link in the show notes and book a discovery call.
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  SPEAKER_00: Until next time, stay bent, but never broken.
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  SPEAKER_00: Thank you for listening to today's episode of Bent Not Broken.
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  SPEAKER_00: I hope that this episode reminded you that even through life's toughest moments, you are bent, not broken.
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  SPEAKER_00: If this message inspired you, please share, rate, review, and subscribe, as it helps us reach more women who are ready to rise and rebuild.
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  SPEAKER_00: And until next time, keep living bold and walking in your purpose.