1104 || defusing counterwill
counterwill is an important developmental function, but it can be a hindrance to healthy relationship develeopment. it's important to recognize it is an instinct, albeit a frustrating one. so remember when dealing with counterwill, it's important not to ignore the rebellion but also important not to force control. instead, we should pay attention + focus on our attachment in the relationship, instead.
“We may not be responsible for the way the world creates our mind, but we can learn to take responsibility for the mind with which we create our world.” - Gabor Maté
If you didn't know, Gabor…
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