Why You Can't Say No Without Guilt — And How to Set Boundaries That Finally Stick

The Advisor with Stacey Chillemi · Apr 21, 2025 · 57m

You have set the boundary before. Said the no. Held the line. And then spent the next three days drowning in guilt, replaying the conversation, wondering if you were being selfish or unreasonable or unkind. Christoffel Sneijders works specifically with why that guilt keeps arriving — and why it does not mean you did something wrong. It means you set the boundary using only one of the three centers available to you. When your head, heart, and gut are not aligned on a boundary the discomfort that follows is not a sign to back down. It is a sign that two of your three voices were not part of the…