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216. 77 days · Your Enriched Self

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  Speaker 1: Hello, my friends from all across the globe, and welcome
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  Speaker 1: to your Enriched Self podcast. I am your host, Milen Noir.
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  Speaker 1: I am an emotional wellness and empowerment coach, and what
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  Speaker 1: that means is I am looking out for you. I
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  Speaker 1: want to make sure that each and every week you
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  Speaker 1: have a safe space to unpack your thoughts, to focus
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  Speaker 1: on what are you thinking about right now? Because the
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  Speaker 1: thing is, your thoughts become things, and those things are
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  Speaker 1: the experiences you have in this life. Those things become
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  Speaker 1: the words you speak over your life, and those words
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  Speaker 1: then show up as the action and the activity that
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  Speaker 1: you take in your day to day. And I know,
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  Speaker 1: if you're showing up for this podcast, if you're listening,
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  Speaker 1: if you're tuning in, you want to be the best
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  Speaker 1: version of yourself. Rightfully, so you've done a lot. You
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  Speaker 1: continue to do a lot for yourself and those around you,
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  Speaker 1: whether it be your family or community, even at your
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  Speaker 1: place of employment, and maybe you are the place of employment,
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  Speaker 1: whatever it is, whatever it takes to be the best
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  Speaker 1: and to be enriched, you want to do that for
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  Speaker 1: your life. And that is such a great thing to
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  Speaker 1: want for yourself. And so because I know you want this.
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  Speaker 1: I want this for you, and that's what we do.
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  Speaker 1: Each week. We navigate through self care topics, soul care topics,
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  Speaker 1: and anything that is helping you to manage your mindset,
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  Speaker 1: because it all starts with your thoughts that eventually become
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  Speaker 1: the things that you act experience in your life. So
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  Speaker 1: if you're listening to this podcast, I know that you
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  Speaker 1: were brought here on purpose for a purpose. And to
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  Speaker 1: my very first time listeners, thank you for showing up
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  Speaker 1: for yourself. This is the first step in becoming more
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  Speaker 1: of your enriched self. And for my listeners who have
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  Speaker 1: been here from day one, we are navigating through two
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  Speaker 1: hundred and sixteen episodes and it's all because of you.
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  Speaker 1: You are the reason why we are still here serving
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  Speaker 1: up an episode each and every week, and we've been
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  Speaker 1: doing that for the last two one hundred and sixteen episodes.
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  Speaker 1: So thank you, thank you, thank you from the bottom
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  Speaker 1: of my heart. Now, one of the things I do
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  Speaker 1: each and every week on this podcast is I make
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  Speaker 1: a deposit into the bank of you, and so I
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  Speaker 1: do that by way of affirmations. Affirmations are a great
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  Speaker 1: way to start your day and to command your mourning.
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  Speaker 1: And this week's affirmation is I give myself credit for
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  Speaker 1: the good. I'm already building progress, not perfection is my power.
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  Speaker 1: I give myself credit for the good. I'm already building progress,
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  Speaker 1: not perfection is my power. I give myself credit for
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  Speaker 1: the good. I'm already building progress, not perfection is my power. Now,
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  Speaker 1: let's get ready for this week's episode of the Your
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  Speaker 1: Enriched Self podcast. I get it, I get it, I understand.
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  Speaker 1: We are in the fourth quarter. We've been talking about
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  Speaker 1: this since the third quarter, it seems like, but we
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  Speaker 1: are here. We are in the fourth quarter. I want
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  Speaker 1: you to first, take a deep breath. I want you
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  Speaker 1: to inhale and exhale. I want you to inhale and release.
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  Speaker 1: And I want you to do one more inhale. Take
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  Speaker 1: a deep breath in and exhale it out. Okay, Can
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  Speaker 1: we talk for a minute? Can we talk for a minute,
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  Speaker 1: because I understand the pressures that tend to rupt this
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  Speaker 1: time of year, and I want you to realize a
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  Speaker 1: few things. I want you to realize a few things. Yes,
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  Speaker 1: there are seventy seven days left in this year. I
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  Speaker 1: did the math for you so you don't have to. Okay,
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  Speaker 1: And it feels like there's no time left. But I
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  Speaker 1: promise you that's why we took a deep breath first,
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  Speaker 1: so that we can pause, reflect and focus on building
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  Speaker 1: not just the goals and the habits that you want
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  Speaker 1: to go into the new year, but bring in peace,
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  Speaker 1: bring in presence, being present and perspective, because that's what
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  Speaker 1: you're gonna need to have, that introspection and that way
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  Speaker 1: you can go out and do the work, the things
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  Speaker 1: that you need to do, the things you need to
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  Speaker 1: qualify and quantify. In terms of showing up for yourself.
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  Speaker 1: Here's the thing, this is why we need to take
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  Speaker 1: that pause, right, because you've been showing up for loved ones,
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  Speaker 1: You've been showing up for your friends. You've been taking
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  Speaker 1: care of yourself, I hope so right. You've been taking
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  Speaker 1: care of your business, the business of your life. Right.
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  Speaker 1: Maybe you don't have a business, but you have a life,
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  Speaker 1: and there's business in life. There's your life is a business. Okay.
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  Speaker 1: All of those things are helping you to build a
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  Speaker 1: meaningful life. And so everything that you've done up until
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  Speaker 1: this point has been a choice you make every single day,
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  Speaker 1: one day at a time. And so this week I
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  Speaker 1: want to yes focus on the seventy seven days left,
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  Speaker 1: but really put a spin not the urgency to go
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  Speaker 1: do something, but the perspective that there's time to do something.
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  Speaker 1: And I'm always going to focus on your small consistencies
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  Speaker 1: that help to grow and build these big results. I mean,
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  Speaker 1: think about it, just practical math. Here, seventy seven days
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  Speaker 1: left in the year. If you were to save ten
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  Speaker 1: dollars a day, you have seven hundred and seventy dollars
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  Speaker 1: before the end of the year. That's just a simple
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  Speaker 1: reminder that the small choices you make every day compound.
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  Speaker 1: I mean, that's just ten dollars. If you did twenty
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  Speaker 1: or thirty or even one hundred dollars, whatever the case
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  Speaker 1: might be, it compounds, just like your money is going
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  Speaker 1: to compound and build your effort will and again, it
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  Speaker 1: doesn't have to take a lot. I'm talking the small things, right,
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  Speaker 1: and the small things often are the quiet things. It's
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  Speaker 1: the quiet wins that nobody ever hears about, nobody ever celebrates.
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  Speaker 1: You know, how I talk about the culture and how
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  Speaker 1: the culture want to see the big things. That's when
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  Speaker 1: people want to hear about you and hear from you,
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  Speaker 1: is when they know you've done something really big. But
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  Speaker 1: when you're doing the quiet things. When you're doing the
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  Speaker 1: daily things. You know, when you're getting up and going
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  Speaker 1: to the gym every day, it doesn't matter. It's when
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  Speaker 1: people see you looking good that they say, hey, what's
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  Speaker 1: going on. It's like, I've been working at this every
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  Speaker 1: day for the last year, two years, whatever, but you're
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  Speaker 1: not seeing the daily things since don't. It doesn't look
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  Speaker 1: like anything. The daily work, the grind doesn't look good.
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  Speaker 1: I mean, I'll give me myself as an example. I
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  Speaker 1: go to the gym every day. I post my efforts.
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  Speaker 1: You know, my calories burned, and how much time I
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  Speaker 1: spent working out, and you know my run time and
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  Speaker 1: all the things. I post it as an accountability to myself.
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  Speaker 1: But also I know now from posting it that it
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  Speaker 1: inspires others. Get my words out there. It inspires others
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  Speaker 1: when I post that. So it is for me, yes,
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  Speaker 1: but it's also for the person that is not saying
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  Speaker 1: anything online to me oftentimes but will reach me off
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  Speaker 1: to the side and say, man, I see you out
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  Speaker 1: there working out right, and it's so inspiring, and how
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  Speaker 1: you have time for this and this is so admirable
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  Speaker 1: all of those things. And then again fast forward and
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  Speaker 1: I'm getting ready to clean up and look nice and
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  Speaker 1: go somewhere, and everybody's like, oh my god, you look great.
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  Speaker 1: Well it's because of those grind moments, those quiet moments,
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  Speaker 1: those grit moments that don't look good. I mean, I'm
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  Speaker 1: posting these pictures. They don't look great because I mean
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  Speaker 1: I'm working out. But that's what it's all about. It's
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  Speaker 1: about taking those small, consistent steps and building the results
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  Speaker 1: from there. It's so important that again you pause, you breathe,
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  Speaker 1: and you realize you're not behind. Let me repeat that,
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  Speaker 1: you are not behind. Yes, you started something that you
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  Speaker 1: didn't finish. Yes, you started something and you stopped. Yes, yes,
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  Speaker 1: yes to all the things that you have shelved this year.
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  Speaker 1: But you are not behind because guess what you've been
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  Speaker 1: doing consistently showing up for other people. You've been managing
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  Speaker 1: your world, like I said, managing your life, and all
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  Speaker 1: of those things are you in motion, and that in
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  Speaker 1: itself is a success. Right. I know that when you
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  Speaker 1: think of seventy seven days, or when you think of
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  Speaker 1: the fourth quarter, oro when you think of how you
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  Speaker 1: want to start the year, everything seems to pile up
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  Speaker 1: and feel overwhelming and I'm just here to tell you
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  Speaker 1: that growing and building isn't always doing more, more and
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  Speaker 1: more and more. Sometimes it's just taking a breath to
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  Speaker 1: recognize that you have made some steps and oh, yes,
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  Speaker 1: perhaps the steps did not lead you to the end goal,
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  Speaker 1: but it gave you a new understanding. I had an
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  Speaker 1: experience like that recently, where I took a step and
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  Speaker 1: where I thought I would eventually end up, I didn't.
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  Speaker 1: I'm still where I started, but I have so much
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  Speaker 1: insight from taking the steps that I took that it
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  Speaker 1: has helped me to take new steps that I otherwise
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  Speaker 1: wouldn't have taken had I not done what I did
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  Speaker 1: and got sent back to go. And that's progress. Do
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  Speaker 1: you recognize that that's progress? Do you recognize that even
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  Speaker 1: when it's slow, its progress. Do you recognize that you
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  Speaker 1: can give yourself credit because you had grace in that moment,
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  Speaker 1: You had the courage to take a step with no
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  Speaker 1: knowledge of where that would take you. And that's, my friends,
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  Speaker 1: is what you call faith. And even though it didn't
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  Speaker 1: take you to what you thought would be your final
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  Speaker 1: destination or a destination, none the less, you still went forward,
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  Speaker 1: and from where you were you had information. Now new information, insights,
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  Speaker 1: and experience to glean from. I would say that you
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  Speaker 1: need to give yourself credit for that, because that progress
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  Speaker 1: that you are making means that you're present in your
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  Speaker 1: life and you are doing things that are challenging you.
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  Speaker 1: And if you are not doing things that are challenging you,
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  Speaker 1: I encourage you to do so. I encourage you to
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  Speaker 1: do something that scares you. I encourage you to do
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  Speaker 1: something that's a little bit risky, do something that's unknown.
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  Speaker 1: Of course, do these things with some good wise counsel. Right,
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  Speaker 1: do these things by weighing it out. But don't waste
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  Speaker 1: time trying to get it perfect, because perfection is the
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  Speaker 1: enemy of progress. I'm gonna repeat that perfection is the
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  Speaker 1: enemy of progress. And I think if you're listening to this,
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  Speaker 1: like me, you want to have progressive movements in life,
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  Speaker 1: and perfection will forever keep you stagnated and unable to
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  Speaker 1: move forward in your life. So focus on the progress.
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  Speaker 1: And finally, I always say celebrate the winds. I say
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  Speaker 1: focus on the preparation part of things. I know that
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  Speaker 1: seventy seven days left before the end of the year,
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  Speaker 1: but I also know that there is a great essence
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  Speaker 1: in spending this time in preparation, I mean, think about
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  Speaker 1: the people. Now. I just my neighbor at work today.
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  Speaker 1: In at work, we call our work spaces and different
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  Speaker 1: areas where we work neighborhoods now, so I call her
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  Speaker 1: my neighbor. And she mentioned this morning that she had
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  Speaker 1: asked her brother if he would be hosting Thanksgiving. So
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  Speaker 1: already people are making preparations for Thanksgiving. I also heard
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  Speaker 1: another neighbor, somebody that sits a couple of deaths away,
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  Speaker 1: talking about a kitchen renovation that he had been working
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  Speaker 1: on for a couple of weeks now going into its
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  Speaker 1: third week, and that he needed another two weeks and
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  Speaker 1: wanted to ensure that the trash dumpster wasn't in his driveway,
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  Speaker 1: you know, as part of having people come to his
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  Speaker 1: home to celebrate the holidays. And so there is preparation happening,
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  Speaker 1: and I want you to have that same level of preparation.
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  Speaker 1: You know, even though this person isn't hosting yet, they
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  Speaker 1: are preparing to host. They're setting the table, they're creating
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  Speaker 1: a safe space, a good space to celebrate the occasion.
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  Speaker 1: They are ensuring that there's ample room and all of
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  Speaker 1: the things that you do in the season of preparation,
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  Speaker 1: and perhaps your seventy seven days is a season of preparation,
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  Speaker 1: is a season to be hands or heads down as
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  Speaker 1: you prepare for your new year. Foundations are such an
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  Speaker 1: important part of building, and as we talk about the
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  Speaker 1: seventy seven days, there is time to build. Absolutely you
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  Speaker 1: can build. Like I said that bank account savings, you
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  Speaker 1: can grow that significantly over a period of seventy seven days,
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  Speaker 1: But if you don't have a solid foundation, you may
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  Speaker 1: end up, in fact losing that money or misusing that money,
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  Speaker 1: and you're back to square one. What a solid foundation
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  Speaker 1: does and preparing for that allows you to truly build
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  Speaker 1: on top of it. And so there's quiet progress that
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  Speaker 1: might be happening. You might not be as loud, you
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  Speaker 1: might not be as visible. That's okay, It's okay to
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  Speaker 1: be in your space and planning right, maybe even resting
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  Speaker 1: or praying, ideating right. These are all parts of the
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  Speaker 1: bill stage. I recently learned that if you've ever seen
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  Speaker 1: a skyscraper, rite how tall those buildings are. It takes
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  Speaker 1: several months. I'm not sure if it's seventy seven days,
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  Speaker 1: but it takes several months, you know, a few months,
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  Speaker 1: depending on the size and structure in all of those
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  Speaker 1: final and detailed uh details that go into and the
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  Speaker 1: intric intricacies of the building. It takes a lot for
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  Speaker 1: that to happen, to set that soundalid foundation, to hold
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  Speaker 1: that level of building up. And so think about the
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  Speaker 1: things you want to build. You may be going really
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  Speaker 1: big on some things, and so it's okay to spend
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  Speaker 1: this time in that stage of planning and resting, perhaps
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  Speaker 1: so that you can get your energy up whatever it takes.
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  Speaker 1: It's okay to be in preparation. You may be quiet,
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  Speaker 1: you may be reserved, you may be off to the
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  Speaker 1: side for a while, but that is helping you steady
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  Speaker 1: and ready your foundation so that when you get into
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  Speaker 1: the new year, you can start strong and know that
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  Speaker 1: however you start, wherever you start, you have a solid
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  Speaker 1: foundation right there for you. So I really want you
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  Speaker 1: to think about your seventy seven days. What do you
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  Speaker 1: see an envision for those seventy seven days? Are you preparing,
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  Speaker 1: are you planning, are you praying? Are you getting in community?
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  Speaker 1: What do you need to build the life that you
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  Speaker 1: want to experience in the new year. It's okay to
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  Speaker 1: dream out loud. It's okay to journal those dreams and
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  Speaker 1: it's okay to just be still focus on the progress
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  Speaker 1: because it counts, and spend this season focus on your peace,
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  Speaker 1: your presence, and your perspective, one day at a time.
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