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Dear Anxiety, We’re Seeing Other People Now · Get It Got It Girl: Midlife Rebuild

• 0:08
  SPEAKER_00: Get it, got it, girl.
• 0:13
  SPEAKER_00: You don't just get it.
• 0:15
  SPEAKER_00: You don't just got it.
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  SPEAKER_00: You are it.
• 0:18
  SPEAKER_00: Get it.
• 0:18
  SPEAKER_00: Got it, girl.
• 0:20
  SPEAKER_00: Welcome to the bonus episode.
• 0:23
  SPEAKER_00: Last episode we talked about emptiness.
• 0:25
  SPEAKER_00: And this episode, we're gonna talk about something else.
• 0:30
  SPEAKER_00: We pretty much sat with their emptiness.
• 0:32
  SPEAKER_00: And I know this is a bonus episode, and you might be listening to this after listening to that.
• 0:36
  SPEAKER_00: So if you want to wait, you can.
• 0:38
  SPEAKER_00: If you don't, that's fine.
• 0:42
  SPEAKER_00: So last episode we just worried about.
• 0:45
  SPEAKER_00: We didn't worry.
• 0:46
  SPEAKER_00: We sat with emptiness.
• 0:49
  SPEAKER_00: Okay, so I want to start with the get it, got it, girl, because I was thinking about something.
• 0:53
  SPEAKER_00: What does it mean?
• 0:54
  SPEAKER_00: So let's say, get it.
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  SPEAKER_00: I want you to name what you want.
• 0:58
  SPEAKER_00: Got it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Write it down.
• 1:00
  SPEAKER_00: Write a lesson down.
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  SPEAKER_00: Write your dreams down.
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  SPEAKER_00: Write your path.
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  SPEAKER_00: Write anything.
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  SPEAKER_00: And girl, move your body, breathe in it, and embody it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Own it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Get it, got it, girl.
• 1:11
  SPEAKER_00: Write it down.
• 1:12
  SPEAKER_00: What do you want?
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  SPEAKER_00: And just move with it.
• 1:15
  SPEAKER_00: And you could also start with a journaling prompt.
• 1:18
  SPEAKER_00: I don't know why I laughed.
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe because journaling is still, you know, new to me, and I have been doing more, so that's cool.
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  SPEAKER_00: So where in your life did you stop waiting?
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  SPEAKER_00: Where do you need to stop waiting?
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  SPEAKER_00: Or what are you going to claim?
• 1:32
  SPEAKER_00: What do you need to start claiming?
• 1:38
  SPEAKER_00: You know, you don't just get it.
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  SPEAKER_00: You don't just got it.
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  SPEAKER_00: You are it.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's very powerful.
• 1:45
  SPEAKER_00: Own that.
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  SPEAKER_00: Own own who you are.
• 1:52
  SPEAKER_00: Just allow yourself to pause.
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  SPEAKER_00: Just to be.
• 2:05
  SPEAKER_00: And I invite you, after you do pause, it's time to transition.
• 2:11
  SPEAKER_00: I want you to move, move around, dance, feel it, get alive again.
• 2:16
  SPEAKER_00: Place your hand on your chest and breathe into the space that you cleared.
• 2:20
  SPEAKER_00: And notice what wants to arrive.
• 2:24
  SPEAKER_00: Just put your hand on your chest.
• 2:27
  SPEAKER_00: What are you feeling?
• 2:29
  SPEAKER_00: What makes you feel alive?
• 2:32
  SPEAKER_00: What did the emptiness allow you to open up for?
• 2:36
  SPEAKER_00: Emptiness wasn't even, you know, it was a gift.
• 2:39
  SPEAKER_00: And I didn't realize that at first because I'm like, oh my God.
• 2:43
  SPEAKER_00: It's so weird not to have anxiety.
• 2:46
  SPEAKER_00: And that was a gift.
• 2:50
  SPEAKER_00: So I feel like we are definitely healing.
• 2:52
  SPEAKER_00: I know I'm healing.
• 2:53
  SPEAKER_00: I hope you are healing.
• 2:54
  SPEAKER_00: I hope things that I've been podcasting have helped you.
• 2:58
  SPEAKER_00: And that's what my podcast is about: helping people, helping women that are struggling.
• 3:05
  SPEAKER_00: You know, I listen to other books and audio books, and also a lot of YouTube videos.
• 3:13
  SPEAKER_00: And those have really helped me.
• 3:16
  SPEAKER_00: And I thought, well, how can I help somebody with what I have learned?
• 3:20
  SPEAKER_00: And that's my focus.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm here to help you.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm here to guide you.
• 3:25
  SPEAKER_00: Me healing on the side was just a bonus.
• 3:27
  SPEAKER_00: I wasn't expecting that.
• 3:30
  SPEAKER_00: And I guess that is true.
• 3:32
  SPEAKER_00: So if you do kind of help somebody else, so maybe get out and volunteer or help somebody.
• 3:38
  SPEAKER_00: That does kind of help and distract.
• 3:40
  SPEAKER_00: And little by little, you won't even notice your healing.
• 3:43
  SPEAKER_00: I'm sure you'll feel some stuff.
• 3:45
  SPEAKER_00: Like I definitely felt the shift, and that was like the emptiness.
• 3:47
  SPEAKER_00: And I was like, oh, something must be wrong.
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  SPEAKER_00: I don't feel anything.
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  SPEAKER_00: I don't feel like happy or sad.
• 3:54
  SPEAKER_00: I just felt like, huh.
• 4:00
  SPEAKER_00: And then I thought, well, I need to honor that.
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  SPEAKER_00: And once you honor that, that's a that's like your key.
• 4:08
  SPEAKER_00: Like you'll start even right now, even though I honored it, I feel like, okay, I honored it.
• 4:12
  SPEAKER_00: Now it's only a half an hour later.
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  SPEAKER_00: But I let it be and I feel good about that.
• 4:18
  SPEAKER_00: And then I let some juices flow about, you know, what am I going to do in the future?
• 4:23
  SPEAKER_00: And I thought, wait, I'm supposed to just be.
• 4:26
  SPEAKER_00: But that was okay.
• 4:27
  SPEAKER_00: I just wrote down a little list on my journal for later.
• 4:30
  SPEAKER_00: I took some notes.
• 4:33
  SPEAKER_00: And it's almost like when you meditate.
• 4:35
  SPEAKER_00: I feel like when you do a meditation and you're quiet, you'll see the thoughts and patterns come up in your brain.
• 4:42
  SPEAKER_00: It's almost like you can imagine something is passing by, like, oh, I need to do this, I need to do that, and you see it.
• 4:51
  SPEAKER_00: And then I was taught during a meditation that you just look at the thought and let it float by.
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  SPEAKER_00: You don't need to, you know, listen to it.
• 5:03
  SPEAKER_00: You don't need to engage in the thought.
• 5:06
  SPEAKER_00: Just because you have a thought doesn't mean it needs immediate attention.
• 5:12
  SPEAKER_00: And so I think episode 12, we're going to work on a meditation.
• 5:16
  SPEAKER_00: It was a couple years ago I did a 90-day meditation.
• 5:21
  SPEAKER_00: It was one hour every day.
• 5:23
  SPEAKER_00: I think I missed two of them.
• 5:26
  SPEAKER_00: And I think I'm going to do something a little, a little, you know, shorter.
• 5:30
  SPEAKER_00: I'm going to do a 30-day meditation, and then I will go on my YouTube channel and post what I learned on my meditation.
• 5:40
  SPEAKER_00: So that will be for episode 12.
• 5:42
  SPEAKER_00: We'll work on meditation a little bit.
• 5:45
  SPEAKER_00: And I know at first I was like, oh, I don't know about that.
• 5:48
  SPEAKER_00: And actually, it was really good.
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  SPEAKER_00: It was good for me.
• 5:52
  SPEAKER_00: And so these techniques that I've been learning, writing things down, taking a pause, knowing my own truth, and just sitting with whatever my mind wants to sit through.
• 6:11
  SPEAKER_00: So today I just want you to try and explore like what's arriving after you had that release.
• 6:17
  SPEAKER_00: And that's definitely what we're just calling it a release, a pause, a moment.
• 6:24
  SPEAKER_00: What came up after that?
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  SPEAKER_00: Like I am fired up, ready to go, and it's only been half an hour.
• 6:29
  SPEAKER_00: I don't know.
• 6:30
  SPEAKER_00: Well, actually, I've been sitting with it for three hours so far.
• 6:34
  SPEAKER_00: And then I got a little epiphany, so I wrote it down.
• 6:39
  SPEAKER_00: And I still feel relaxed.
• 6:41
  SPEAKER_00: I can feel it in my body, like my body or my nervous system.
• 6:46
  SPEAKER_00: I know we refer to that a lot, is feeling more calm and at peace.
• 6:53
  SPEAKER_00: And so if you have moments of thought, things that it release, write it down.
• 6:58
  SPEAKER_00: You don't have to do it right away.
• 7:00
  SPEAKER_00: Just write it down so you don't lose it.
• 7:02
  SPEAKER_00: It doesn't float away.
• 7:04
  SPEAKER_00: But yeah, it's okay to write it down.
• 7:13
  SPEAKER_00: So I'm get it, got it, girl.
• 7:14
  SPEAKER_00: And this is gonna be a short episode.
• 7:18
  SPEAKER_00: So here's the truth.
• 7:20
  SPEAKER_00: Emptiness gave us space.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now we choose what we fill it with.
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  SPEAKER_00: We don't fill it with fillers or something to fix it that's just a temporary solution.
• 7:31
  SPEAKER_00: We don't put band-aids on it.
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  SPEAKER_00: We we just work on the process.
• 7:37
  SPEAKER_00: Get it, got it, girl.
• 7:39
  SPEAKER_00: Say it with me one last time.
• 7:41
  SPEAKER_00: Get it, got it, girl.
• 7:44
  SPEAKER_00: And that's one of my mantras.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I do play the music, and it that music, the trailer, just gets me going.
• 7:50
  SPEAKER_00: Just makes me feel good.
• 7:52
  SPEAKER_00: And you remember, you just don't get it.
• 7:54
  SPEAKER_00: You don't just got it.
• 7:56
  SPEAKER_00: You are it.
• 7:57
  SPEAKER_00: You're it, girl.
• 7:59
  SPEAKER_00: You can take it with you, write it down, say it out loud, move with it, dance.
• 8:04
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, so maybe for your assignment today, and if you don't want to do it, that's fine.
• 8:09
  SPEAKER_00: But play a couple of your favorite songs, something that makes you feel happy, and just let loose and dance and get ready.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because I know if you're feeling empty and now you're feeling like you took the pause and you honored that, the big stuff's coming.
• 8:24
  SPEAKER_00: Don't ever give up on your dream.
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  SPEAKER_00: Just keep on going and allow yourself to pause if you need to pause.