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127 Getting Clear on What You Want: the Foundation of Manifesting that Actually Works · Stacked Intent: Your Guide to Authentic, Intentional Living

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  SPEAKER_00: Hello, my name is Becca Stackhouse Morrison, and I am ready for you to tune in each episode to hear ways to become you.
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  SPEAKER_00: Looking at ways you can be your authentic and intentional self, you'll finish each episode motivated to live life more authentically.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is the Stacked Intent Podcast.
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  SPEAKER_00: Welcome back to Stacked Intent.
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  SPEAKER_00: I am your host, Becca Sackhouse Morrison, and today we are on episode two of our manifestation arc.
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  SPEAKER_00: Last week with co-host Amy, we established the foundation of what manifestation actually is, why it works neurologically and psychologically, and what is requires.
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  SPEAKER_00: Today we are going into the first and most essential ingredient, clarity.
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  SPEAKER_00: So here is a question I want you to sit with before we dive in.
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  SPEAKER_00: What do you want, not in your life generally, but specifically right now?
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  SPEAKER_00: What is the thing you want to call into your life most?
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  SPEAKER_00: Take a minute, breathe in.
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  SPEAKER_00: As you breathe in, what comes up?
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  SPEAKER_00: Now exhale it out.
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  SPEAKER_00: For a lot of people, the answer is something general.
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  SPEAKER_00: More money, a better relationship, to be healthy, to feel happier, to have more.
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  SPEAKER_00: And here's what I want to tell you.
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  SPEAKER_00: Those are all great answers.
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  SPEAKER_00: And while they all point you in a direction, they're not clear enough.
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  SPEAKER_00: They're categories, not visions, and you cannot manifest within categories.
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  SPEAKER_00: So clarity is the work that we're gonna do today, and I hope that it helps propel you forward in that self-relationship and that life that you're gonna love showing up for every single day.
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  SPEAKER_00: Even sometimes the days that are hard.
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  SPEAKER_00: What you actually want.
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  SPEAKER_00: So the first layer of clarity is who is distinguishing between what you actually want and what you think you should want.
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  SPEAKER_00: This matters more than it might sound.
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  SPEAKER_00: A lot of us carry the desire that inherited from parents, cultures, the people who we grew up around, and we've never questioned whether there actually ours.
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe you're manifesting a particular kind of career success because that's what success was supposed to look like in your family.
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe you're calling in a relationship that matches a template you absorbed rather than a vision you've generally created.
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe you're aiming for a vision of a life that someone else told you was the goal.
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  SPEAKER_00: When you're trying to manifest something that isn't actually aligned with your deepest values and desires, there's gonna be resistance.
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  SPEAKER_00: Not the productive resistance of growth, the stuck, drained resistance of pursuing something that isn't actually yours.
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  SPEAKER_00: So before you go deep on clarity, ask yourself, is this what I actually want?
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  SPEAKER_00: Or is this what I've been told I should want?
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  SPEAKER_00: Would I still want this if no one else sees it?
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  SPEAKER_00: If it wouldn't impress anyone, would I still choose it?
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  SPEAKER_00: The answer to these questions are beginning of authentic manifesting.
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  SPEAKER_00: We're gonna talk about why vagueness can be a block.
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  SPEAKER_00: So we talked in our last episode about the reticular activity system, the brain's filter that determines what you notice.
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  SPEAKER_00: The RAS needs specific work, it cannot filter for a category, it needs a clear picture from you.
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  SPEAKER_00: Think about it in this way.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you tell your GPS to take me somewhere nice, it cannot help you.
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  SPEAKER_00: It needs an address.
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  SPEAKER_00: Your brain works in the same way.
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  SPEAKER_00: When you desires are vague, I want more abundance.
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  SPEAKER_00: Your brain doesn't know how to filter this.
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  SPEAKER_00: More abundance than what?
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  SPEAKER_00: What does abundance look like?
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  SPEAKER_00: Where do you see it?
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  SPEAKER_00: It what does it feel like when you have it?
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  SPEAKER_00: But when you get specific, I want to earn eight thousand dollars a month doing work I find meaningful from a location I choose by the end of next year.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now your brain can address this, it knows what to look for, it starts noticing relevant opportunities, relevant information, relevant people.
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  SPEAKER_00: Vagueness also allows you to avoid the vulnerability of really wanting something.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you stay general, you can't really fail.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you get specific, you have something real in line.
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  SPEAKER_00: And a lot of us that risk feels too big.
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  SPEAKER_00: But that specificity is exactly what makes it work.
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  SPEAKER_00: Goals and visions.
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  SPEAKER_00: I want to make a distinction that I think is really useful, and that's the difference between the goal and the vision.
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  SPEAKER_00: A goal is a measurable outcome with time, a timeline.
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  SPEAKER_00: Lose 20 pounds, earn a hundred thousand dollars, run a 5k.
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  SPEAKER_00: Goals are great.
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  SPEAKER_00: Goals give us direction with measurability.
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  SPEAKER_00: A vision is something richer, though.
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  SPEAKER_00: A vision includes how it feels, the who you are, the what your daily life looks like when the goal is lived.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's not about just the outcome, but it's about the experience of having arrived there.
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  SPEAKER_00: Both matter for manifesting, but the vision is actually engaged in your nervous system, your emotions, your belief.
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  SPEAKER_00: When you close your eyes and generally feel that it's like to be in the life you're calling in, your brain treats that feeling as real and it starts orienting towards creating it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Research on mental rehearsal and athletics shows that vividly.
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  SPEAKER_00: Felt vision of performance actually creates measurable changes in muscle memory and our neural pathways.
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  SPEAKER_00: Your brain cannot fully distinguish between vividly imagined experiences and real experiences.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's the power of vision.
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  SPEAKER_00: So when you do clarity work, you're not just being specific and getting about what you want, you're building a sensory-emotional picture of what you're creating.
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  SPEAKER_00: Here's the process.
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  SPEAKER_00: You can use right now to develop genuine clarity about what you're calling in.
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  SPEAKER_00: Step one, start with what you want.
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  SPEAKER_00: Sometimes it's easier to get clear on what you don't want first, what you're moving away from.
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  SPEAKER_00: Write it down.
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  SPEAKER_00: Be specific about the situation, the feeling, the experience that you're leaving behind.
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  SPEAKER_00: Step two, flip it.
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  SPEAKER_00: For everything on that list, ask, so what if I want this instead?
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  SPEAKER_00: If I don't want financial stress, I want financial security.
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  SPEAKER_00: What does that look like?
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  SPEAKER_00: What does it feel like?
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  SPEAKER_00: Step three, write a vision statement in present tense as if it's already true.
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  SPEAKER_00: Describe your desired reality in as much detailed as possible.
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  SPEAKER_00: Where are you?
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  SPEAKER_00: What are you doing?
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  SPEAKER_00: Who is with you?
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  SPEAKER_00: How does your body feel?
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  SPEAKER_00: What does your average Tuesday look like?
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  SPEAKER_00: What have you stopped worrying about?
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  SPEAKER_00: Step four, read it aloud and check for resistance.
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  SPEAKER_00: Does it make you feel something?
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  SPEAKER_00: Does it feel genuine or performed?
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  SPEAKER_00: Are there parts of you that feel forced?
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  SPEAKER_00: Edit until it lands with real emotion.
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  SPEAKER_00: Step five, identify the limiting beliefs.
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  SPEAKER_00: What parts of your resistance believing this process?
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  SPEAKER_00: Write it down.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because that's the work.
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  SPEAKER_00: Well doing episode.
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  SPEAKER_00: We'll do this one episode twelve.
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  SPEAKER_00: That clarity is vivid, felt, specific, authentic in your foundation.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'll link to the episode that that's gonna work in.
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  SPEAKER_00: Let go of other people's vision.
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  SPEAKER_00: One thing before we close is clarity work sometimes requires you to grieve a little.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because when you get honest about what you actually want as opposed to what you've been told to want, sometimes you deserve that.
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  SPEAKER_00: Some of the things that you've been doing towards aren't really yours, and that's disorienting.
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  SPEAKER_00: It might mean admitting that the career path that you've been on was more for approval than genuine calling, or that the relationship model you've been pursuing is someone else's template, or the lifestyle you've been reaching for was designed to impress people whose opinions you've actually outgrown.
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  SPEAKER_00: Letting go of those inherited visions isn't failure, it's getting free.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's the moment when you've you start building something genuine for you.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that's just the kind of life that manifesting can actually help you create.
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  SPEAKER_00: Here are your action steps for this manifesting episode.
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  SPEAKER_00: This week, the clarity writing exercise.
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  SPEAKER_00: Set aside 30 minutes.
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  SPEAKER_00: Work through those five steps that I described.
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  SPEAKER_00: Start with what you don't want, then flip it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Write the vision, check for reassurance, and identify the limiting beliefs.
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  SPEAKER_00: Write it by hand if you can, because research suggests that handwriting engages the brain differently than typing it more slowly and more deeply in a way that makes that content more real for you.
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  SPEAKER_00: Keep that vision somewhere that you see it, not to manifest it passively, but to orient towards it actively.
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  SPEAKER_00: Clarity is not just about loving the things that you can do for yourself in the manifesting process.
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  SPEAKER_00: It says what I want matters enough to think about it carefully.
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  SPEAKER_00: Next week, I hope you join us back for the action side of the manifesting.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because clarity and belief are the foundation, but action is the bridge.
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  SPEAKER_00: I will see you over there in next week's episode.
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  SPEAKER_00: That brings us to the end of this episode of Stacked Intent.
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  SPEAKER_00: New episodes are gonna be dropped on Thursdays.
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  SPEAKER_00: Until then, this is Becca, and don't forget, enrich your life by being intentional.
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