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EP 28: The Midweek Reset: Why Setting Goals Isn't Enough · Healthy Boundaries for Moms| Christian Life Coach

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  Have you ever set a goal and felt really motivated for about three days and then
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  somewhere along the way the motivation disappeared? I think one reason that
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  happens is because goals alone often aren't enough to keep us going. Yes, goals
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  tell us what we want but vision reminds us why we want it and when we can
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  clearly picture the life we are trying to build, I believe it becomes much
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  easier to stay committed to the habits that get us there. If you're tired of
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  people-pleasing, caring too much, and wondering why peace still feels so hard
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  to hold on to, you're in the right place. Hi, I'm Lori, mom, former people-pleaser
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  and Your Boundaries coach. Here we talk about how to protect your peace, set
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  healthier boundaries, and get clear on what actually matters so that you can
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  build a life that feels lighter, calmer, and more satisfying. So let's stop the
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  chaos for a minute moms, catch our breath, and get in to this next episode.
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  Welcome back to Healthy Boundaries for Moms. This is your midweek reset. So on
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  Monday's episode, we talked about prioritizing and making these deposits
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  into the life we are trying to build. Today, I want to go one step deeper
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  because before we make these deposits, we need a reason to make them and before we
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  prioritize our lives, we need a vision for the life we're trying to create
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  because goals do give us the direction and the map of where we're going, right?
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  But vision gives us the energy that helps us to stay on that path and go in
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  that direction. So one of the clearest examples for me was my own health
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  journey. I wasn't really motivated by protein grams or supplements. I was
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  motivated by imagining what my life would feel like. I imagined feeling
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  stronger and I imagined feeling lighter. I imagined being a woman in her
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  mid-40s who could do push-ups and pull-ups and I am happy to report I can
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  do three pull-ups. I imagined feeling comfortable in my clothes and I
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  imagined having more energy and showing up differently with my husband, my kids,
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  and my friends. And what I eventually realized was I wasn't just pursuing
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  weight loss. I was pursuing a vision. The weight loss was simply one step toward
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  creating that vision and I think this is one reason vision boards can be so
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  powerful. So years ago when I was helping decorate rooms, one of the most powerful
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  tools wasn't a paint sample. It was something called a mood board because
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  when people could see everything that I was putting together, something in their
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  mind clicked. They could picture what the room was going to feel like. They
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  could imagine the atmosphere and the experience and what kind of lifestyle
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  they would have. And once they could see it, they became excited about this vision
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  and they wanted to create it. And I think our lives work the same way. Sometimes
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  we're trying to motivate ourselves with like a list of goals. Okay we got to lose
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  weight and we got to save money and we got to get organized and we're gonna
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  spend more time with God. But our goals don't always create the emotion that
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  needs to help it along. But vision does. When you can picture a peaceful home or
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  the healthy version of yourself, how about the stronger marriage or how it
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  would feel to have financial margin? How about confidence and freedom? Something
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  in us changes. Now you're not just chasing a goal, you're creating a future.
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  So this is exactly what happened when I was starting to plan our summer. I didn't
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  start with activities. I started with the vision that I had for the summer. I asked
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  something like, how do I want this summer to feel? And I immediately knew that I
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  wanted growth. I wanted learning for my two kids. I wanted connection and I
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  wanted time outdoors. I definitely wanted us to walk away with some
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  meaningful experiences. And once I had the vision, the decisions became so much
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  easier because the vision became my filter. The vision told me what deserved
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  a yes and what I was gonna say no to. And that's what vision does. It simplifies
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  your decision-making because you're no longer making choices randomly. You're
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  making choices that align with the future you're trying to create. So one of
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  my favorite verses for this topic is Proverbs 29 18. Where there is no vision,
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  the people perish. So without vision guys, we drift. Without vision, we're just
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  reacting. And without our vision, we spend our days responding to whatever is
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  feeling urgent and is coming at us. But when we have vision, we have direction
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  and we have a purpose. We have something helping to pull us forward. So this is my
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  challenge for your midweek reset. Take one goal you currently have, just one, and
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  ask yourself, what is the vision behind this goal? What would life feel like if
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  this goal were to become a reality in your life? How would you show up
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  differently? What opportunities would open up for you? Because goals tell us
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  what to do and vision reminds us why it matters. And when you can clearly picture
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  the life you're trying to build, it becomes so much easier to stay
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  committed to the small daily deposits that get you there. I want you also to be
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  looking for the inspiration around you. Whether it's going through a magazine or
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  whether it's going online, going on apps like Pinterest. There's so many ways for
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  you to gain inspiration for the life that you are looking for. I want you to
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  be building that vision piece by piece and getting excited about the life that
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  you are getting ready to live. Hey friends, I hope you enjoyed today's
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  episode. If so, would you take 30 seconds and go join our free Facebook page at
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  Healthy Boundaries for Moms? That's where we go deeper, share what's actually
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  working and support each other in real life. I will also share some great tools
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  and tips to help you along this journey. I have also included a link to sign up
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  for our brand new weekly newsletter in the Facebook group. Don't forget to hit
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  follow and leave a quick review on Apple. It really lets me know that this
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  podcast is helping you. More importantly, it helps more women find this podcast.
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  Now go say no to something that's stealing your peace and say yes to
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  something you actually need and I'll meet you back here in the next episode.