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Tied Up and Twisted: Untangling the Middle · R.E.A.L. Talk for REAL L.Y.F.E.

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  Welcome to Real Talk for Real Life, where we're realizing everyone is always
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  learning and living your full experience.
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  I'm your host, Coach C, and this is Season 5, Episode 5.
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  Turns out I'm tied up and twisted in this.
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  We're continuing the conversation in season five, discussing being made in the middle.
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  And today's episode is called Turns Out I'm Tied Up and Twisted in This.
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  Have you ever stopped long enough to realize, I'm all tangled up?
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  Maybe it's life. Maybe it's stress. Maybe it's a relationship.
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  Maybe it's expectations maybe it's fear maybe it's your own thoughts however
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  you got there you're stuck.
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  You know a few years ago the word entanglement became part of just about everybody's
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  vocabulary because of a celebrity interview folks joked about it turned it into
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  memes and laughed about it.
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  But here's the thing, that word didn't start there.
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  Truthfully, every one of us has experienced an entanglement,
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  not necessarily in a relationship, but somewhere in life.
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  We get tangled up in our past, tangled up in what people think,
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  tangled up in regret, tangled up in trying to make everyone else happy,
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  tangled up in death, tangled up in fear, tangled up in perfection,
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  tangled up in trying to control everything.
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  The interesting part is entanglements rarely happen overnight.
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  Nobody wakes up one morning completely wrapped up.
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  It happens one strand at a time, one compromise, one unhealthy habit,
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  one postponed conversation, one unforgiving offense, one bad decision, one limiting belief.
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  Before long, you're tied up, twisted up, walking in circles,
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  trying to find your way through what feels like a maze.
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  And here's what makes it even harder. And when you're in the middle of the maze,
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  every direction starts looking like the right direction.
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  That's why we become exhausted. We're moving, but we're not making progress.
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  Can I encourage you today?
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  Sometimes freedom doesn't begin by finding a new exit.
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  It begins by identifying what's been tying you up all along.
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  Maybe it isn't your job. Maybe it isn't your relationship.
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  Maybe it isn't your circumstances. Maybe it's the fear you've been carrying.
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  Maybe it's unforgiveness. Maybe it's pride. Maybe it's comparison.
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  Maybe it's believing you're not enough. Whatever it is, you can't untangle what
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  you're unwilling to acknowledge.
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  Healing begins with honesty. Growth begins with awareness.
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  Freedom begins with truth.
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  The beautiful thing about being made in the middle is this.
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  The middle doesn't just reveal your strengths.
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  Sometimes it reveals your knots. And that's a gift.
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  Because what gets revealed can finally be released.
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  So don't be ashamed of what you've discovered. Celebrate it.
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  Because awareness is the first step toward freedom.
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  Here's your fearless homework.
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  This week, finish this sentence honestly.
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  Turns out I'm tied up and twisted in.
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  Write whatever comes to mind. no filters, no pretending, no judgment,
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  then answer these three questions. 1.
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  How did I become tangled in this?
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  2. What has staying tangled cost me?
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  3. What's one step I can take this week to begin untangling myself?
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  Finally, write this declaration.
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  I refuse to stay tied to what I've been called to leave behind.
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  Remember, you don't have to untangle your entire life today.
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  Just loosen one knot, then another, then another.
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  Eventually, what once held you captive becomes part of the story of how you found your freedom.
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  Until next time, live fearless, keep learning, keep living.
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  This is Real Talk for Real Life where we're realizing everyone is always learning,
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  and living your full experience.
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  That's L-Y-F-E for more inspiration, merchandise, and motivation between episodes
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  This is Coach C. I'll see you in the next one.