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- 0:18Hey,
- 0:18girl.
- 0:18Hey.
- 0:18Welcome
- 0:19back
- 0:19to
- 0:19Notes
- 0:19to
- 0:19Her,
- 0:20the
- 0:20daily
- 0:20pep
- 0:20talk.
- 0:21I
- 0:21am
- 0:21Yaya,
- 0:22your
- 0:22confidence
- 0:22and
- 0:22mindset
- 0:23coach,
- 0:23here
- 0:23to
- 0:24help
- 0:24you
- 0:24stop
- 0:24spiraling,
- 0:25breathe
- 0:25deeper,
- 0:26and
- 0:26actually
- 0:26trust
- 0:27yourself
- 0:27again.
- 0:28Listen,
- 0:29before
- 0:29we
- 0:29get
- 0:29into
- 0:30today's
- 0:30pep
- 0:30talk,
- 0:31we
- 0:31need
- 0:31to
- 0:31have
- 0:32a
- 0:32little
- 0:32celebration
- 0:33moment
- 0:33because
- 0:34we've
- 0:34officially
- 0:35hit
- 0:3525
- 0:36episodes.
- 0:3825.
- 0:39If
- 0:39you
- 0:40have
- 0:40been
- 0:40here
- 0:41since
- 0:41note
- 0:42one,
- 0:42I
- 0:42want
- 0:42to
- 0:43say
- 0:43thank
- 0:43you.
- 0:43And
- 0:44if
- 0:44this
- 0:44is
- 0:44your
- 0:44first
- 0:45episode,
- 0:45your
- 0:46third
- 0:46episode,
- 0:47or
- 0:47your
- 0:47Let
- 0:48me
- 0:48try
- 0:48this
- 0:48podcast
- 0:49one
- 0:49more
- 0:49time
- 0:49episode.
- 0:50Welcome.
- 0:51I
- 0:51am
- 0:51really
- 0:52glad
- 0:52you're
- 0:52here
- 0:53because
- 0:53most
- 0:54podcasts
- 0:54don't
- 0:55make
- 0:55it
- 0:55past
- 0:55episode
- 0:56three.
- 0:56Three.
- 0:57But
- 0:57we're
- 0:58still
- 0:58here,
- 0:59still
- 0:59growing,
- 1:00still
- 1:00healing,
- 1:01still
- 1:02talking
- 1:02through
- 1:03life
- 1:03together,
- 1:04one
- 1:04pep
- 1:04talk
- 1:05at
- 1:05a
- 1:05time.
- 1:06So
- 1:06before
- 1:06we
- 1:06jump
- 1:07in,
- 1:07I
- 1:07have
- 1:07two
- 1:08tiny
- 1:08favors.
- 1:09One,
- 1:10tap,
- 1:10follow,
- 1:10or
- 1:11subscribe
- 1:11so
- 1:11you
- 1:12don't
- 1:12miss
- 1:12any
- 1:12new
- 1:13notes.
- 1:13And
- 1:13two,
- 1:14share
- 1:14this
- 1:15episode
- 1:15with
- 1:15a
- 1:15friend
- 1:15who
- 1:16loves
- 1:16to
- 1:16overthink,
- 1:17or
- 1:17the
- 1:17friend
- 1:18that
- 1:18needs
- 1:18that
- 1:18gentle
- 1:19girl
- 1:19breathe
- 1:20today.
- 1:21All
- 1:21right,
- 1:21let's
- 1:21talk
- 1:22about
- 1:22those
- 1:22spirals.
- 1:22Your
- 1:23mind
- 1:23keeps
- 1:23starting
- 1:24without
- 1:24permission.
- 1:35How
- 1:35many
- 1:35times
- 1:36have
- 1:36you
- 1:36created
- 1:37a
- 1:37whole
- 1:37dramatic
- 1:38storyline
- 1:39in
- 1:39your
- 1:39head
- 1:39with
- 1:40zero
- 1:41real
- 1:41evidence?
- 1:42Raise
- 1:42your
- 1:42hand,
- 1:43you
- 1:44call
- 1:44someone,
- 1:45no
- 1:45answer.
- 1:46You
- 1:46send
- 1:46a
- 1:47text,
- 1:47no
- 1:48reply.
- 1:49Someone
- 1:49gives
- 1:49you
- 1:49a
- 1:50weird
- 1:50tone
- 1:50in
- 1:51a
- 1:51meaning.
- 1:52Maybe
- 1:52there's
- 1:52late
- 1:52night
- 1:53silence
- 1:54or
- 1:54a
- 1:54change
- 1:55in
- 1:55someone's
- 1:55vibe,
- 1:56and
- 1:57suddenly
- 1:57you
- 1:57have
- 1:58built
- 1:58a
- 1:58whole
- 1:59movie
- 1:59around
- 2:00betrayal,
- 2:01rejection,
- 2:02disaster,
- 2:02abandonment,
- 2:04and
- 2:04none
- 2:04of
- 2:04it's
- 2:05actually
- 2:05happening.
- 2:06You're
- 2:07not
- 2:07dramatic.
- 2:08You're
- 2:08not
- 2:08doing
- 2:08too
- 2:09much.
- 2:09Okay,
- 2:10maybe
- 2:10just
- 2:10a
- 2:10little
- 2:10bit.
- 2:11However,
- 2:12this
- 2:12is
- 2:12your
- 2:12brain
- 2:13trying
- 2:13to
- 2:13protect
- 2:13you.
- 2:14It
- 2:14just
- 2:15has
- 2:15no
- 2:15idea
- 2:15how
- 2:16to
- 2:16turn
- 2:16the
- 2:16volume
- 2:17down.
- 2:17So
- 2:18today,
- 2:18we're
- 2:19turning
- 2:19it
- 2:19down
- 2:19together.
- 2:21Now,
- 2:21spirals
- 2:22happen
- 2:22for
- 2:22a
- 2:23reason.
- 2:23Your
- 2:24brain
- 2:24hates
- 2:25uncertainty,
- 2:26Silence.
- 2:27It
- 2:27fills
- 2:27it
- 2:28gaps
- 2:28in
- 2:28information.
- 2:29It
- 2:29writes
- 2:30a
- 2:30script.
- 2:31But
- 2:31here's
- 2:31a
- 2:31part
- 2:31that
- 2:32nobody
- 2:32taught
- 2:32me.
- 2:32But
- 2:33now
- 2:33that
- 2:33I
- 2:33know,
- 2:34I
- 2:34am
- 2:34telling
- 2:34you.
- 2:35Your
- 2:36brain
- 2:36doesn't
- 2:36fill
- 2:37the
- 2:37gap
- 2:37with
- 2:37truth.
- 2:38It
- 2:38fills
- 2:39it
- 2:39with
- 2:39fear.
- 2:40Not
- 2:41because
- 2:41you're
- 2:41broken.
- 2:42Okay,
- 2:42maybe
- 2:42a
- 2:43little
- 2:43bit.
- 2:43Well,
- 2:43you
- 2:44can
- 2:44fix
- 2:44that.
- 2:45But
- 2:45it's
- 2:45not
- 2:45because
- 2:46you're
- 2:46weak.
- 2:47It's
- 2:47because
- 2:47your
- 2:47brain
- 2:48believes
- 2:48that
- 2:48preparing
- 2:49for
- 2:49the
- 2:49worst
- 2:50equals
- 2:50protection.
- 2:51So
- 2:52it
- 2:52starts
- 2:52rehearsing
- 2:53worst
- 2:53case
- 2:53scenarios
- 2:54over
- 2:54and
- 2:55over
- 2:55until
- 2:56you're
- 2:56exhausted
- 2:57and
- 2:57anxious
- 2:57and
- 2:58doubting
- 2:58your
- 2:58whole
- 2:58life.
- 2:59And
- 2:59the
- 3:00wild
- 3:00thing
- 3:00is,
- 3:00you
- 3:01are
- 3:01absolutely
- 3:01allowed
- 3:02to
- 3:02interrupt
- 3:02it.
- 3:03You
- 3:03are
- 3:03allowed
- 3:03to
- 3:04tell
- 3:04your
- 3:04brain
- 3:04this
- 3:05is
- 3:05a
- 3:05thought,
- 3:05not
- 3:06fact.
- 3:06You
- 3:07are
- 3:07allowed
- 3:07to
- 3:07slow
- 3:08down
- 3:08everything.
- 3:09You
- 3:09are
- 3:09allowed
- 3:10to
- 3:10choose
- 3:10a
- 3:10different
- 3:11interpretation.
- 3:12And
- 3:12I'm
- 3:12going
- 3:12to
- 3:13show
- 3:13you
- 3:13exactly
- 3:14how.
- 3:15Now,
- 3:16wherever
- 3:16you
- 3:16are,
- 3:16let's
- 3:17do
- 3:17this
- 3:17together.
- 3:18Sit
- 3:19down
- 3:20and
- 3:20take
- 3:21a
- 3:21slow,
- 3:22deep
- 3:22breath
- 3:23through
- 3:24your
- 3:24nose.
- 3:26Hold
- 3:27it.
- 3:28And
- 3:28then
- 3:29exhale.
- 3:31And
- 3:31again.
- 3:31Deeper
- 3:32this
- 3:32time.
- 3:34Let
- 3:34your
- 3:34shoulders
- 3:35drop.
- 3:36Now
- 3:37listen.
- 3:38You
- 3:38are
- 3:38safe
- 3:39in
- 3:39this
- 3:39moment.
- 3:41You
- 3:41are
- 3:41okay
- 3:42in
- 3:42this
- 3:43moment.
- 3:44You
- 3:44are
- 3:44here.
- 3:45In
- 3:45this
- 3:46moment.
- 3:48Name
- 3:48three
- 3:49things
- 3:49that
- 3:49you
- 3:49can
- 3:49feel.
- 3:51Maybe
- 3:51it's
- 3:51your
- 3:51feet
- 3:52on
- 3:52the
- 3:52ground,
- 3:53your
- 3:53clothes
- 3:54on
- 3:54your
- 3:54skin,
- 3:55your
- 3:56breath
- 3:56in
- 3:56your
- 3:57chest.
- 3:58You
- 3:59are
- 3:59not
- 3:59trying
- 3:59to
- 3:59fix
- 4:00the
- 4:00thought.
- 4:01You
- 4:01are
- 4:01reminding
- 4:02your
- 4:02brain,
- 4:03I
- 4:03am
- 4:04not
- 4:04in
- 4:04danger.
- 4:05I'm
- 4:05just
- 4:06overthinking.
- 4:08Spiraling
- 4:08pulls
- 4:09you
- 4:09into
- 4:09the
- 4:09future.
- 4:10Grounding
- 4:11you
- 4:11pulls
- 4:12you
- 4:12back
- 4:12into
- 4:13now.
- 4:15Here's
- 4:15how
- 4:15to
- 4:16stop
- 4:16a
- 4:16spiral
- 4:17before
- 4:17it
- 4:17takes
- 4:18over
- 4:18the
- 4:19first
- 4:19thing
- 4:19you
- 4:19do.
- 4:20Name
- 4:20the
- 4:20story.
- 4:21Say,
- 4:22my
- 4:22brain
- 4:22is
- 4:23telling
- 4:23me
- 4:23a
- 4:23story
- 4:24that.
- 4:24And
- 4:24then
- 4:24you
- 4:25insert
- 4:25whatever
- 4:25fear
- 4:26that
- 4:26is.
- 4:26Once
- 4:27you
- 4:27call
- 4:27it
- 4:27a
- 4:27story,
- 4:28your
- 4:28brain
- 4:29has
- 4:29to,
- 4:29quote,
- 4:29question
- 4:30it.
- 4:31So
- 4:31step
- 4:31two,
- 4:32ask
- 4:32a
- 4:32grounding
- 4:33question.
- 4:34What
- 4:34else
- 4:35could
- 4:35be
- 4:35true?
- 4:36Not
- 4:36what's
- 4:37the
- 4:37best
- 4:37case
- 4:37scenario,
- 4:38but
- 4:39what
- 4:39are
- 4:39the
- 4:40other
- 4:40explanations?
- 4:41What
- 4:42information
- 4:42am
- 4:42I
- 4:43missing?
- 4:44What
- 4:44if
- 4:44this
- 4:44isn't
- 4:45personal?
- 4:46Suddenly
- 4:47your
- 4:47fear
- 4:48isn't
- 4:48the
- 4:48only
- 4:49option.
- 4:51Step
- 4:51three,
- 4:51choose
- 4:52a
- 4:52helpful
- 4:53thought.
- 4:53Not
- 4:54a
- 4:54perfect
- 4:54thought,
- 4:55not
- 4:55toxic
- 4:55positivity,
- 4:57just
- 4:57a
- 4:57thought
- 4:57that
- 4:57calms
- 4:58your
- 4:58nervous
- 4:59system.
- 4:59Something
- 5:00like,
- 5:00I
- 5:01don't
- 5:01have
- 5:01all
- 5:01the
- 5:01facts
- 5:02yet.
- 5:02This
- 5:03feeling
- 5:03isn't
- 5:04proof.
- 5:05I
- 5:05can
- 5:05handle
- 5:06whatever
- 5:06comes.
- 5:07This
- 5:08is
- 5:08how
- 5:08you
- 5:08interrupt
- 5:09the
- 5:09spiral.
- 5:09You
- 5:09replace
- 5:10panic
- 5:10with
- 5:11possibility.
- 5:13So
- 5:13since
- 5:13I've
- 5:13cracked
- 5:14the
- 5:14door
- 5:14open
- 5:14to
- 5:15my
- 5:15personal
- 5:15relationships
- 5:16just
- 5:16a
- 5:16little,
- 5:17I'm
- 5:17going
- 5:17to
- 5:17tell
- 5:17you
- 5:18guys
- 5:18another
- 5:18story.
- 5:19I
- 5:20walked
- 5:20away
- 5:20with
- 5:20a
- 5:21lot
- 5:21of
- 5:21baggage
- 5:21from
- 5:21a
- 5:22toxic
- 5:22relationship
- 5:23that
- 5:23I
- 5:23talked
- 5:23about
- 5:23in
- 5:23note
- 5:2419.
- 5:25If
- 5:25you
- 5:25haven't
- 5:25listened
- 5:26to
- 5:26that
- 5:26note
- 5:26yet,
- 5:26make
- 5:27sure
- 5:27you
- 5:27go
- 5:27back
- 5:27and
- 5:27listen
- 5:28to
- 5:28the
- 5:28lessons
- 5:28that
- 5:28I
- 5:29learned
- 5:29the
- 5:29hard
- 5:29way.
- 5:31But
- 5:31after
- 5:31that
- 5:32relationship,
- 5:32years
- 5:33afterward,
- 5:33I
- 5:33was
- 5:34getting
- 5:34to
- 5:34know
- 5:34somebody
- 5:34new.
- 5:35And
- 5:35I
- 5:35had
- 5:36a
- 5:36moment
- 5:36with
- 5:36this
- 5:36guy
- 5:37where
- 5:37I
- 5:37called
- 5:37him
- 5:38up
- 5:38and
- 5:38he
- 5:38didn't
- 5:38pick
- 5:38up
- 5:39the
- 5:39phone.
- 5:39So
- 5:39then
- 5:40I
- 5:40text
- 5:40him,
- 5:40too.
- 5:41And
- 5:41there
- 5:41was
- 5:41no
- 5:41response.
- 5:42It
- 5:43was
- 5:43just
- 5:43one.
- 5:43This
- 5:43call.
- 5:44One
- 5:45unread
- 5:45text.
- 5:45And
- 5:46I
- 5:46think
- 5:46it
- 5:46was
- 5:46in
- 5:46a
- 5:46matter
- 5:47of,
- 5:47like,
- 5:4715
- 5:48minutes.
- 5:49And,
- 5:49girl,
- 5:50I
- 5:50spiraled.
- 5:52My
- 5:52chest
- 5:52got
- 5:53tight.
- 5:54My
- 5:54mind
- 5:54said,
- 5:55here
- 5:55we
- 5:55go
- 5:55again.
- 5:56And
- 5:56I
- 5:57created
- 5:57this
- 5:57whole
- 5:57betrayal
- 5:58scenario
- 5:58with
- 5:59absolutely
- 6:00no
- 6:00evidence.
- 6:02When
- 6:02I
- 6:02finally
- 6:02brought
- 6:02it
- 6:03up
- 6:03to
- 6:03him,
- 6:03he
- 6:03checked
- 6:04me
- 6:04gently,
- 6:05calmly,
- 6:06but
- 6:06so
- 6:06directly.
- 6:08And
- 6:08I
- 6:09realized
- 6:09that
- 6:09I
- 6:09was
- 6:09punishing
- 6:10him
- 6:10for
- 6:10wounds
- 6:11he
- 6:11didn't
- 6:11create.
- 6:12I
- 6:13was
- 6:13letting
- 6:13my
- 6:13past
- 6:14write
- 6:14the
- 6:14script
- 6:14for
- 6:15my
- 6:15present.
- 6:17Some
- 6:17things
- 6:18you
- 6:18spiraled
- 6:18about
- 6:19weren't
- 6:19real.
- 6:20They
- 6:21were
- 6:21memories
- 6:21dressed
- 6:22as
- 6:22threats.
- 6:23Fear,
- 6:23pretending
- 6:24to
- 6:24be
- 6:24fat.
- 6:25Your
- 6:25nervous
- 6:26system
- 6:26has
- 6:26been
- 6:26doing
- 6:27too
- 6:28much.
- 6:28It's
- 6:29time
- 6:29to
- 6:29rest.
- 6:30It's
- 6:30time
- 6:30to
- 6:30breathe
- 6:31and
- 6:31learn
- 6:31a
- 6:31new
- 6:32rhythm.
- 6:32Because
- 6:33you
- 6:33deserve
- 6:33clarity.
- 6:34You
- 6:34deserve
- 6:35inner
- 6:35peace.
- 6:35And
- 6:35you
- 6:36deserve
- 6:36a
- 6:36mind
- 6:36that
- 6:37doesn't
- 6:37attack
- 6:37you
- 6:38every
- 6:38time
- 6:38you're
- 6:39unsure.
- 6:40This
- 6:40isn't
- 6:41who
- 6:41you
- 6:41are.
- 6:41This
- 6:42is
- 6:42just
- 6:42what
- 6:42you've
- 6:42learned.
- 6:43And
- 6:43anything
- 6:44can
- 6:44be
- 6:44unlearned.
- 6:47So
- 6:47before
- 6:47we
- 6:47wrap
- 6:48up,
- 6:48let
- 6:48me
- 6:48leave
- 6:48you
- 6:48with
- 6:49this.
- 6:50You
- 6:50are
- 6:50not
- 6:50your
- 6:50spirals.
- 6:52You
- 6:52are
- 6:52not
- 6:52your
- 6:53worst
- 6:53case
- 6:53thoughts.
- 6:55You
- 6:55are
- 6:55not
- 6:55the
- 6:55stories
- 6:56your
- 6:56fear
- 6:56keeps
- 6:57writing.
- 6:58You
- 6:58are
- 6:59capable
- 6:59of
- 6:59pausing.
- 7:01You
- 7:01are
- 7:01capable
- 7:02of
- 7:02choosing
- 7:02differently.
- 7:04You
- 7:04are
- 7:04capable
- 7:05of
- 7:05calming
- 7:06your
- 7:06mind
- 7:07even
- 7:07when
- 7:07your
- 7:07body
- 7:08is
- 7:08screaming
- 7:08panic.
- 7:10Now
- 7:10if
- 7:10this
- 7:11note
- 7:11helps
- 7:12you
- 7:12even
- 7:12a
- 7:13little
- 7:13today,
- 7:13please
- 7:14leave
- 7:14me
- 7:14a
- 7:14rating
- 7:14or
- 7:15review
- 7:15on
- 7:15the
- 7:15app
- 7:15that
- 7:16you're
- 7:16listening
- 7:16to.
- 7:17It
- 7:17helps
- 7:17this
- 7:17podcast
- 7:18reach
- 7:18more
- 7:19women
- 7:19who
- 7:19need
- 7:19this
- 7:20kind
- 7:20of
- 7:20truth
- 7:20in
- 7:21their
- 7:21ears.
- 7:22And
- 7:22come
- 7:22hang
- 7:23out
- 7:23with
- 7:23me
- 7:23on
- 7:23Instagram
- 7:24or
- 7:24threads@notestoherdaily.
- 7:26That's
- 7:26where
- 7:26we
- 7:27talk
- 7:27through
- 7:27these
- 7:27moments
- 7:28every
- 7:28day.
- 7:29You
- 7:29don't
- 7:30have
- 7:30to
- 7:30spiral
- 7:30alone
- 7:31because
- 7:31I'm
- 7:32right
- 7:32here
- 7:32with
- 7:32you.
- 7:35Sa.