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203. Present to the Blessing · Your Enriched Self

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Speaker 1: I want to remind you that you don't need to
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Speaker 1: be on a large platform to win, or to prove
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Speaker 1: yourself a winner, or to be winning. Every day you
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Speaker 1: are in proximity to a win. Those small, everyday victories
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Speaker 1: are often overlooked because they don't meet the standard of
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Speaker 1: being big enough. And I think in society we're just
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Speaker 1: moving too fast. We are getting stuck in the survival
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Speaker 1: mode and we miss those small wins because again we
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Speaker 1: want them to feel bigger and look bigger and be
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Speaker 1: in this big arena. So I really want you to
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Speaker 1: slow down. And I know even when people are speaking,
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Speaker 1: when they slow down like I'm doing right now, it
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Speaker 1: forces you to be present, to listen, to get on
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Speaker 1: the edge of your seat, because we're often just rushing
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Speaker 1: through and moving through so fast that we miss the
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Speaker 1: moments that are right in front of us. So this
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Speaker 1: is your reminder to pause, to be present to the blessing.
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Speaker 1: Joy isn't always loud. Sometimes it's found in quiet and
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Speaker 1: some of those very sacred moments. So don't miss that.
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Speaker 1: Make time for that. You owe it to yourself. Hello,
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Speaker 1: my friends from all across the globe, and welcome to
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Speaker 1: your Enriched Self podcast. I am your host mailein Noir.
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Speaker 1: I am an emotional wellness and empowerment coach, and all
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Speaker 1: that means is I want you to navigate this world
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Speaker 1: and show up in this world as the best version
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Speaker 1: of yourself. And it's going to start with those challenging conversations.
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Speaker 1: It's going to start with reshifting your mindset. Everything starts
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Speaker 1: in your mind the work that you're doing. Now, there
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Speaker 1: was a thought that was produced that turned into the
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Speaker 1: words that you spoke over your life and over whatever
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Speaker 1: you're assigned to, and then that became the action and
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Speaker 1: activity that you now find yourself in in your life.
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Speaker 1: And I know if you're listening to this podcast, you
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Speaker 1: want to be the best version of yourself. You want
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Speaker 1: to enrich your life, and so that's what this podcast
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Speaker 1: is all about. If you are new to this podcast
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Speaker 1: and you are a first time listener, I want to
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Speaker 1: thank you for being here. I know that you were
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Speaker 1: brought here on purpose, for a purpose. And if you
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Speaker 1: are a repeat listener, I am just so grateful to
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Speaker 1: have you back for another week, another conversation, more insights,
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Speaker 1: more participation, more sharing of the episode. If not for you,
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Speaker 1: we would not have a podcast. So thank you from
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Speaker 1: the bottom of my heart. Now, before we get started
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Speaker 1: with this week's episode, if you know you know, one
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Speaker 1: of the things that I do on this podcast is
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Speaker 1: I make a deposit into the bank of you, and
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Speaker 1: I do that by way of affirmations. Affirmations are a
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Speaker 1: great way to start your day and to command your mourning.
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Speaker 1: And this week's affirmation is I choose to be present.
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Speaker 1: I receive the beauty of this moment with gratitude. I
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Speaker 1: choose to be present. I received the beauty of this
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Speaker 1: moment with gratitude. I choose to be present. I received
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Speaker 1: the beauty of this moment with gratitude. Now, let's get
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Speaker 1: ready for this week's episode of the Your Enriched Self podcast.
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Speaker 1: Almost four years ago I started this podcast. And when
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Speaker 1: I started this podcast, I was really inspired by how
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Speaker 1: we were living as a community, as a country, as
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Speaker 1: a people, and even how I was living as an individual.
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Speaker 1: And when I say inspired, I mean there were things
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Speaker 1: that just didn't seem natural anymore to how we are
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Speaker 1: to communicate with each other and with ourselves, so many
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Speaker 1: of us, and at the time myself, I found myself
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Speaker 1: an autopilot. And I see a lot of people even
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Speaker 1: now after so much has happened in this country, so
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Speaker 1: much has happened in our own individual lives and the
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Speaker 1: lives of those around us, we still find ourselves rushing
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Speaker 1: through life, living on autopilot and missing out the joys
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Speaker 1: of the everyday actions, the everyday activities, the everyday happenings.
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Speaker 1: This episode is my invitation for you to pause, not
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Speaker 1: to plan for something, not to be performative, but just
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Speaker 1: to be. The simple truth is we have been in
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Speaker 1: survival mode. So many of you have been in survival mode.
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Speaker 1: And when you're in survival mode, you miss out on
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Speaker 1: the things that are right in front of you. You
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Speaker 1: are not present to your blessing. A lot of you
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Speaker 1: mistake your survival or you're surviving as you're living. I
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Speaker 1: want this episode to be your moment to breathe, to reflect,
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Speaker 1: and to come back to being present. I don't know
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Speaker 1: that many of you realize that you are on a journey.
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Speaker 1: I know you hear or you probably heard, the saying
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Speaker 1: enjoy the journey, and I think those are just words
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Speaker 1: on a page, or words that go in one ear
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Speaker 1: and out the other, because most don't realize that you
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Speaker 1: are indeed on a journey and just because you're moving
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Speaker 1: and you're going here and there, and you're all over
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Speaker 1: the place, that doesn't necessarily mean you are in a
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Speaker 1: direction that you are even aware of the direction you're
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Speaker 1: going in. I want to know from you. Are you
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Speaker 1: present enough to know how far you've come? I'm going
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Speaker 1: to repeat the question, are you present enough in yourself
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Speaker 1: right now to know how far you've come? And I
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Speaker 1: think for a lot of you that's going to be
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Speaker 1: a struggle point, because there's not a moment of understanding
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Speaker 1: the distance you've traveled, the journey you and things that
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Speaker 1: you've come through, the pain, the joys, all sides of life.
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Speaker 1: I mean, I know people that have done remarkable things
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Speaker 1: in this life and in the last few years, and
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Speaker 1: if you were to ask them right now, I mean,
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Speaker 1: I literally had a conversation with a friend of mine
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Speaker 1: at a coffee shop and if you're one of my friends,
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Speaker 1: I'll put you through an exercise. And I put her
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Speaker 1: through an exercise. And this was at the start of
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Speaker 1: the year. We had met up. It had been a while,
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Speaker 1: and I had her to write down everything that she
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Speaker 1: was proud of herself for having accomplished in the previous year,
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Speaker 1: and I was just jotting stuff down. I'm jotten now,
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Speaker 1: little things, big things, everything in between, whatever. And my friend,
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Speaker 1: who I had spent time running the pavement with, having
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Speaker 1: coffee time with and you know, being in each other's company,
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Speaker 1: sharing our life stories, our wins, our losses, everything in between,
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Speaker 1: had a hard time sharing her wins. And I'm looking
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Speaker 1: at her and we get finished. It was probably like
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Speaker 1: a one to five minute exercise and she's like, you know, Mailene,
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Speaker 1: I can't come up with anything. And I'm thinking to myself, girl,
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Speaker 1: I can tell you everything about what you accomplished last year.
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Speaker 1: But I'm not surprised. I'm not surprised. First of all,
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Speaker 1: I know her and she's super humble. But also we
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Speaker 1: have been trained to just keep going and get up
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Speaker 1: and go and do more and do more, and just
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Speaker 1: keep this grind mentality going. And oftentimes we have no
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Speaker 1: idea how far we've come. We don't even know what
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Speaker 1: direction we were going in and are we in or
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Speaker 1: at the destination we had planned for. And that's where
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Speaker 1: she was, and she's like, man, I didn't realize how
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Speaker 1: difficult this would be. I thought I would be able
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Speaker 1: to sail through this. But when you're looking through at
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Speaker 1: life through a lens that tells you go past everything,
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Speaker 1: just look farther, further down the road, like, think about
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Speaker 1: all the things you still have to do without even
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Speaker 1: recognizing where you've been. It's a wild thought process that
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Speaker 1: so many of you are accepting as life, and I'm
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Speaker 1: here to challenge you. Do not accept that as normal. Again,
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Speaker 1: when I started this podcast, I recognized we were living
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Speaker 1: abnormal lives, including myself, because we were moving so fast
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Speaker 1: through it, we didn't even realize how great the journey
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Speaker 1: of life was. The Only time we would reflect on
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Speaker 1: that journeys when we had seen or experience or heard
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Speaker 1: that someone we knew had left this life. And then
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Speaker 1: for just a brief moment again going back to that
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Speaker 1: really quick interaction and that quick, you know, moment in
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Speaker 1: time reflection, and then we would go right back into
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Speaker 1: it until the next story had unfolded. Can't afford that anymore.
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Speaker 1: That cannot be the new normal or a normal for you.
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Speaker 1: You must be willing to do better and to be present.
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Speaker 1: Here's the thing about autopilot, because a lot of us
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Speaker 1: get that way. I've been there right where I just
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Speaker 1: get up and then you you know, especially right now,
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Speaker 1: back in the office five days a week, and you know,
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Speaker 1: slowly but surely, a lot of businesses are back in
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Speaker 1: the office five days a week. Or whatever your routine is.
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Speaker 1: Maybe you still work from home, and that's fantastic, good
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Speaker 1: for you. But whatever your routine is, it becomes a routine,
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Speaker 1: and that routine puts us in something called autopilot. An autopilot,
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Speaker 1: if you stay in, it will rob you of the
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Speaker 1: miracles of the moment. I think that's why I'm such
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Speaker 1: and I proclaim myself as a sunrise chaser, because what
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Speaker 1: that does is that it forces me. It really doesn't
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Speaker 1: even force me. I am literally drawn to a sunrise
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Speaker 1: and a sunset because I recognize what's happening in that moment.
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Speaker 1: I recognize that the day has broken. I recognize that
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Speaker 1: I have a new start. I recognize that there's a
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Speaker 1: canvas that I get to paint. It's called today. There
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Speaker 1: will never be another canvas. If you've ever chased the sunrise,
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Speaker 1: you've ever watched the sunrise or set, No two sunrises
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Speaker 1: look alike, because no day will be like today. Today
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Speaker 1: and yesterday and even tomorrow are unique in their own right.
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Speaker 1: And you miss that miracle when you are on autopilot,
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Speaker 1: when you think that every day is a rinse and
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Speaker 1: repeat from the previous day, and I get it. When
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Speaker 1: you are in survival mode, is very easy to fall prey, yes,
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Speaker 1: pray to your life of survival and not truly living
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Speaker 1: and experiencing and being aware that you are on a journey.
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Speaker 1: Something so strange happened. I reached out to a friend,
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Speaker 1: and this is a friend that I know doesn't necessarily
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Speaker 1: get the accolades and the appreciation that they should get.
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Speaker 1: This person steps in, steps up, is always ready to help,
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Speaker 1: and if they have a thought about something, they go
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Speaker 1: after it. And I'm talking about thoughts about other people,
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Speaker 1: not just like I want to be a boss and
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Speaker 1: I'm doing these types of things to make boss moves.
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Speaker 1: This is I'm thinking about you. I know this is
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Speaker 1: going to be helpful for you. I'm sending it to you.
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Speaker 1: This is the level of connectivity tissue that this person
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Speaker 1: has with their life and the life of those around them.
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Speaker 1: That's what I know about this individual. So I sent
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Speaker 1: this person a note to let them know that I
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Speaker 1: see them. And a lot of times people like that,
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Speaker 1: They just want to know that they are seen. And
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Speaker 1: I send them a note, just a note on text
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Speaker 1: message to say you are awesome. I see you and
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Speaker 1: I'm just grateful for you. And do you know what
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Speaker 1: this person sent me back? They said, I gotta call
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Speaker 1: you and it was very much business. And I know them.
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Speaker 1: They are very much business. They get things done. This
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Speaker 1: is a get things done type individual. They are an executor.
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Speaker 1: They don't just think about it, they don't just talk
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Speaker 1: about it, They get it done. This is that type
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Speaker 1: of person you want in your corner. I didn't take
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Speaker 1: it personally because I know who that person is. But
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Speaker 1: I thought, man, I just provided this person an opportunity
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Speaker 1: for them to see that I recognize them, I see them,
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Speaker 1: and I acknowledge them for how great they are. And yes,
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Speaker 1: we have some unfinished business to work on. And that's
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Speaker 1: where their mind went first. And See, when we're on autopilot,
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Speaker 1: when we don't take time to be present, we dismissed
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Speaker 1: even the compliments, We downplay the small things, the small winds,
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Speaker 1: and we forget to feel our blessings. Man, we got
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Speaker 1: in our feelings about everything else, but when it comes
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Speaker 1: to these blessings, to really feel alive in the fact
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Speaker 1: that you are alive, that blood is flowing through your veins,
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Speaker 1: that you still have capacity in your brain to listen,
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Speaker 1: to learn, to observe, to share, And then we wonder
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Speaker 1: why we feel joy is distant from us. I have
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Speaker 1: to say I feel peace every day and I feel
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Speaker 1: joy every day. Now that doesn't necessarily mean every moment
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Speaker 1: of the day, but I allow myself to feel when
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Speaker 1: I walk out of this time of year, I walk
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Speaker 1: out of my boot camp and I see the sunrise
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Speaker 1: on the backdrop of my car as I walk up
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Speaker 1: to it. There's nothing like feeling that moment, feeling alive
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Speaker 1: and saying, I thank God for this day. I thank
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Speaker 1: God for this moment I get to see the sunrise.
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Speaker 1: There are people who are housebound and bedridden and hospital
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Speaker 1: bound that aren't able to see this, and I get this.
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Speaker 1: Don't allow your life to be robbed by living on autopilot.
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Speaker 1: You will forever miss the miracles in the moment and
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Speaker 1: the moments of your day. The final thing I'll say
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Speaker 1: is being is enough. I'm gonna repeat that being is enough.
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Speaker 1: We are human beings, and I love the saying that
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Speaker 1: we're not just human beings, we're human doings. If you've
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Speaker 1: not heard it. I thought it was a really clever thing,
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Speaker 1: because we are human doings. But I think that human
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Speaker 1: doings doesn't really suit us. We are human beings. Being
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Speaker 1: is enough. I think we've fallen into the human doing.
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Speaker 1: We should be doing this, and we should be doing that.
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Speaker 1: We should be going here and going there. If you
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Speaker 1: didn't take a trip to this place or that place,
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Speaker 1: where have you been? If you've never been here, where
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Speaker 1: have you been? You've seen those memes and those stories
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Speaker 1: like if you never traveled here or never did this,
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Speaker 1: or you never had this experience at this particular restaurant, Well,
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Speaker 1: where have you been? What kind of life have you lived?
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Speaker 1: I'm being and that's enough. And so what you do
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Speaker 1: is you see people have these experiences. You see people
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Speaker 1: go to these destinations, these spots, and you think, I
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Speaker 1: need to chase that life. I need to be like that.
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Speaker 1: I need to be there. I need to go there.
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Speaker 1: Not realizing you being here, you being present, You're being
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Speaker 1: aware and carrying your self awareness is enough. So today
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Speaker 1: I want to encourage you not to chase, but to pause,
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Speaker 1: to breathe, smile at a stranger. I know, I know,
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Speaker 1: we don't know what side of the coin they're on.
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Speaker 1: We don't know what their beliefs are. Just smile, receive
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Speaker 1: the compliments. Receive the compliments. When somebody tells you you
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Speaker 1: look great, you smell great, they like what you're wearing,
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Speaker 1: say thank you. You don't have to give him a
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Speaker 1: compliment back. Just receive what you were given and stop
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Speaker 1: worrying about not being in that moment. If you're not here,
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Speaker 1: where have you been? Where are you? Then listen, You're
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Speaker 1: not behind. You are alive. You're alive, and that's what matters.
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Speaker 1: You still have an opportunity to give to this world,
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Speaker 1: to serve the people you were brought here to serve,
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Speaker 1: and to be because being is enough. I hope you
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