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Inner Child Work ❤️‍🩹 with Megsy · She Rises with Ashy & Tijana

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  Speaker 1: Apoday production.
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  Speaker 2: We begin today by acknowledging the traditional custodians of the
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  Speaker 2: land on which we gather today and pay our respects
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  Speaker 2: to their elders past and present. We extend that respect
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  Speaker 2: to Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander people's here today.
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  Speaker 1: Welcome to the Grow and Glow Podcast. I'm Ashy, I'm Kiara.
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  Speaker 1: This is a podcast where we learn, laugh, and level
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  Speaker 1: up together.
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  Speaker 3: Let's go deep, let the emotions flow, and find the
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  Speaker 3: lessons to grow and Glow. Nothing is off the table
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  Speaker 3: with Grow and Glow and we're here to be your expander.
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  Speaker 1: Good morning, everybody, or good afternoon wherever you are. Welcome
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  Speaker 1: back to Well And I've been a very very special
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  Speaker 1: guest here.
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  Speaker 3: One of my bestest friends in the whole wide world,
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  Speaker 3: someone who I look up to, who's just been there
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  Speaker 3: for me through all the ups and downs. We continue
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  Speaker 3: to be there for each other, and was actually very
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  Speaker 3: highly requested to be on the potty in our forum.
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  Speaker 3: Like once one person asked, it was just like yes, get.
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  Speaker 1: Her on, get her on. I was like, she's just
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  Speaker 1: had a baby. I'm not going to ask her. And
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  Speaker 1: then I asked her. She was like yes, I'd love too.
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  Speaker 1: So we've got Megsi here, Hello, excited.
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  Speaker 3: Every Monday episode we do a share of the week,
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  Speaker 3: but because you're our guest, you get to share something.
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  Speaker 4: Well. I think we should go for the shoes.
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  Speaker 3: As soon as I saw her this morning, I'm like, shoes,
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  Speaker 3: they're are so I can show you.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, these New Balances you always get there.
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  Speaker 3: I get the five thirties, but these are the nineties, sixties.
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  Speaker 4: Ninety sixties, and I think I've always looked at those
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  Speaker 4: and thought they looked so freaking epic on you.
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  Speaker 1: Oh thank you.
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  Speaker 4: I don't know. I feel like I like the chunkier
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  Speaker 4: Yeah for me, like.
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  Speaker 1: So cool, chunky.
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  Speaker 3: I just bought a pair of green ones or the
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  Speaker 3: chunky ones, and I prefer them.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, the black and white. It's five.
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  Speaker 3: Why is New Balance such a cool brand now? It
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  Speaker 3: used to be like an old dad brand and now
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  Speaker 3: it's like the trendiest shoe brand now.
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  Speaker 4: Kay, the nineties are back, baby.
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  Speaker 1: The full rebrand. Got to give it to them.
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  Speaker 3: There was so many topics that I feel like we
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  Speaker 3: could talk about because just like here and I like,
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  Speaker 3: we talk about anything and everything and we're open books.
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  Speaker 3: But there's a particular topic that I feel you're very
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  Speaker 3: passionate about and you help so many women through and
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  Speaker 3: that's connecting with that inner child. So where did your
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  Speaker 3: whole journey start from to connect with your inner child
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  Speaker 3: to then be like, wow, this is so powerful.
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  Speaker 1: I want to help other women with this.
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  Speaker 4: So my journey in personal development it started years and
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  Speaker 4: years and years ago. And I think it was the Secret.
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  Speaker 4: Do you guys know that?
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  Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, I love it. Yeah, the Secret.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah. And that was kind of like my first little
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  Speaker 4: thing of like, Wow, there's more to life, There's more here.
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  Speaker 4: I always was really curious, and after having my first daughter, Sonny,
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  Speaker 4: then I feel like I really started becoming super conscious
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  Speaker 4: to all the decisions I'm making in life and why
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  Speaker 4: am I making this decision? What's swaying me that way?
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  Speaker 4: And then I just started getting actual mentorship on just
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  Speaker 4: personal development and growth and what's going on in my
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  Speaker 4: internal world. And I realized that so much of what
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  Speaker 4: I think, what I believe, what I perceive, what I
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  Speaker 4: think is right wrong, All of these things comes down
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  Speaker 4: to all of the experiences I've had in the past
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  Speaker 4: throughout my entire life, and a lot of that is shaped,
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  Speaker 4: particularly when you're a child, but it can be just
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  Speaker 4: you know, one year ago, six months ago. So I
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  Speaker 4: like to call it like in a child or past
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  Speaker 4: self healing, and it's just having a look at you,
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  Speaker 4: what did I experience in all of these different moments
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  Speaker 4: through my life, and maybe what experience impacted the way
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  Speaker 4: that I think about this particular thing. So that's where
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  Speaker 4: it started for me. And once I started really healing
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  Speaker 4: some parts of me that I feel was keeping me
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  Speaker 4: duck or keeping me replaying patterns and behaviors that were
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  Speaker 4: really just not serving me anymore, I was like, Wow,
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  Speaker 4: this is where it all comes from, Like in a worthiness,
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  Speaker 4: how much we love ourselves and feel confident to go
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  Speaker 4: after the things we want in life, and how much
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  Speaker 4: we can speak up our boundaries and just make decisions
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  Speaker 4: that serve our higher self and our greater potential. And
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  Speaker 4: I realized it. It always comes back to this.
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  Speaker 1: I feel this work.
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  Speaker 3: It doesn't ever stop, right because more things come up
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  Speaker 3: and you're like, oh, let's unpack that. Oh that might
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  Speaker 3: have happened because when this happened when I was younger,
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  Speaker 3: And it never gets to a point where you're like, oh,
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  Speaker 3: I've done that.
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  Speaker 1: I'm all good now.
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  Speaker 4: Absolutely. I always say that if you're dealing with something
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  Speaker 4: from your past, I don't feel that it's ever just
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  Speaker 4: wrapped up into a box. You put a bowl in it,
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  Speaker 4: put it away in a shelf. You way like it
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  Speaker 4: is a part of you, and it gets to be
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  Speaker 4: something that you learn how to live with, maybe more
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  Speaker 4: ease and grace, or maybe it doesn't affect you as
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  Speaker 4: big as it used to. You know, you kind of
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  Speaker 4: it can ease off. But we have memories. Our body
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  Speaker 4: has memories. It's stored somatically. There are some modalities that
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  Speaker 4: do say they can rearrange the way that you remember things,
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  Speaker 4: and so therefore how you react to those things now
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  Speaker 4: might not affect you. But yeah, I think that some
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  Speaker 4: of these things are always going to be there, even
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  Speaker 4: if a little bit.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, I found too for myself personally, all my inner
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  Speaker 5: child things that started to pop up happened around the
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  Speaker 5: time of having my first child. Is this a regular
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  Speaker 5: occurrence that you seem to notice.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, definitely. I think that becoming a mummy or becoming
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  Speaker 4: a new mother, you know, there's so much of you
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  Speaker 4: that is rebirthed and your priorities are just totally rearranged.
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  Speaker 4: The perspective the way you see the world. You're just
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  Speaker 4: like wow, like there's this little human that I'm now
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  Speaker 4: responsible for and also showing them how to live life.
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  Speaker 4: How am I showing up in life? You know? So
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  Speaker 4: I think there's that aspect. And then also, especially when
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  Speaker 4: as women we have daughters, we see so much of
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  Speaker 4: ourselves in them and we think about, oh, how did
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  Speaker 4: I experience that when I grew up? Tah, did my
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  Speaker 4: parents teach me when or treat me when I was
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  Speaker 4: navigating this thing?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah?
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  Speaker 4: Or when I went to KINDI like what kind of
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  Speaker 4: you know, did I have a mini trauma there where
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  Speaker 4: I was bleed or someone storm my lunch or you know,
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  Speaker 4: all these things and can really start to yeah, come out.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: So such a good point, isn't it? Something that you
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  Speaker 3: said to me, which I've done two in a Child
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  Speaker 3: Healings with you now and they were amazing. I've spoken
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  Speaker 3: about in the podcast before, but something that you said
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  Speaker 3: in one of them really stuck with me because I
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  Speaker 3: kind of had separated like my younger self as like
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  Speaker 3: my past self, like almost like she's gone, but you
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  Speaker 3: were like, she's always a part of you. So now
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  Speaker 3: when I try to connect with my inner child. It's
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  Speaker 3: like she's right next to me or she's within me,
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  Speaker 3: but I visualize her right there and she's never going anywhere.
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  Speaker 3: And my job now is to always make sure that
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  Speaker 3: I'm there for her and giving her what she needs.
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  Speaker 1: And that's been.
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  Speaker 3: Really helpful because it's just in a way, it's just
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  Speaker 3: another way to support myself because she's a part of me.
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  Speaker 3: She's not separate to me. But I have thought that
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  Speaker 3: it's separate because that part of my life's done, but
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  Speaker 3: it's never really done. Yeah, And that was a cool
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  Speaker 3: realization for me. It has helped me continue to be
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  Speaker 3: able to from those healings not disconnect with her. I
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  Speaker 3: stayed connect with her because that first one, it was
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  Speaker 3: in your lounge room, second was in your bedroom. In
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  Speaker 3: the first one, I was telling you, it was like
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  Speaker 3: so quickly I could drop in and see her, and
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  Speaker 3: I cried so much because I was like, I felt
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  Speaker 3: like this real human that I got to cuddle and
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  Speaker 3: like actually fully see her pain and see her tears.
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  Speaker 3: And it was so easy to connect with her because
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  Speaker 3: I'm like, it's this, yeah, like a daughter or like
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  Speaker 3: a friend, like you want to be there for them.
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  Speaker 1: It was just such a.
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  Speaker 3: Beautiful experience that I wish everyone could tap into that,
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  Speaker 3: but I do find it it was harder to do
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  Speaker 3: by myself. Like it is nice to have a woman's
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  Speaker 3: coach like yourself who can guide you through that.
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  Speaker 1: So could you talk us through a little bit.
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  Speaker 3: About your healings and how you learn how to do
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  Speaker 3: that and just how powerful that work is.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, that's so cool that you had that experience and
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  Speaker 4: now can just now shifted things for you moving forward,
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  Speaker 4: because you're so right, it's absolutely this little girl she
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  Speaker 4: experienced whatever she experienced back then, or even your younger self,
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  Speaker 4: whatever age it was, they had this experience, and we
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  Speaker 4: grow up and we think, oh, that shouldn't bother me now,
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  Speaker 4: Like I was so little there it was all of
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  Speaker 4: this time ago. We kind of have these coping mechanisms
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  Speaker 4: within ourselves which our body tries to protect us. Right,
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  Speaker 4: it's doing its job. But that little gush is you,
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  Speaker 4: this body that was her. So those thoughts, those feelings,
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  Speaker 4: any traumas, any joys and good memories too, Like they
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  Speaker 4: reside in your body, in your mind and your self
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  Speaker 4: conscious they're there. So to just discount her and what
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  Speaker 4: she experienced is Yeah, a big part of the disconnection
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  Speaker 4: that wors her and feel and the healings that I do.
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  Speaker 4: I've experienced a few different ones myself and through different
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  Speaker 4: workshops and different mentors. It's really intuitive. I think that
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  Speaker 4: for me, it's really important that I build a connection
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  Speaker 4: with my client. And obviously we're very connected, and I
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  Speaker 4: almost drop in and visualize you as whatever age it
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  Speaker 4: is that we're talking about, and I just talk you
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  Speaker 4: through a way to help you in your mind to connect.
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  Speaker 4: Like you said, like that visualization of actually like seeing
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  Speaker 4: her in your mind's eye and connecting with her with
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  Speaker 4: your heart and feeling her. And yeah, it's just about
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  Speaker 4: acknowledging her, seeing her and maybe even tapping back into
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  Speaker 4: some memories where you get to go back and love
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  Speaker 4: on her in those moments and connecting with her either
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  Speaker 4: as the woman that you are now or from your
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  Speaker 4: higher self. And it's very intuitive, and like I said,
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  Speaker 4: it's not something that I would just do on like
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  Speaker 4: a one off basis with somebody that I didn't know
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  Speaker 4: or wasn't coach or connected with. There are certain visualizations
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  Speaker 4: that I couldn't kind of like speak and do like
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  Speaker 4: sales to record a visualization or a meditation that I
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  Speaker 4: think people definitely benefit from, but it probably wouldn't have
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  Speaker 4: the same effect like what you experienced, and it's probably
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  Speaker 4: what you felt trying to do it on your own.
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  Speaker 4: Maybe yeah, other guided you know, visualization, I'm.
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  Speaker 3: Sure a part of your coaching too, I know for
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  Speaker 3: myself and for breath work too. I think why I
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  Speaker 3: can drop in so quickly with you is because I
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  Speaker 3: feel safe. And that's the importance of when you are
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  Speaker 3: finding a coach, that it is someone that you really
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  Speaker 3: connect with, you feel aligned with. You maybe share similar
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  Speaker 3: values with how they parent or how they show up
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  Speaker 3: in their relationship, look up to them, but you feel
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  Speaker 3: safe with them because I have been to other breathworks before,
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  Speaker 3: or different workshops where I maybe deep down I didn't
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  Speaker 3: feel safe, so I didn't drop in and relax into it.
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  Speaker 3: It was with you, it was just instant. So with
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  Speaker 3: your coaching, do you find that you wouldn't go into
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  Speaker 3: the inner child healings until you've done like a couple
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  Speaker 3: of sessions and really got to know their past and
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  Speaker 3: where they're at and their beliefs and theeriences.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, exactly, and especially if I know there's traumatic events
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  Speaker 4: or things that we're going to be dealing with. It's
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  Speaker 4: almost like opening Pandora's box sometimes, so you have to
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  Speaker 4: be really aware of that and really careful, and you know,
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  Speaker 4: have that rapport and that aftercare as well with someone yea.
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  Speaker 4: And in saying all of this as well, you know,
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  Speaker 4: as a coach, I see my role as helping to
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  Speaker 4: empower women to be on their healing journey. So I
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  Speaker 4: definitely also through kind of doing this experience with them,
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  Speaker 4: show them how they can then go and do that
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  Speaker 4: on their own at home, and how they can drop
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  Speaker 4: into it and the different things that they can think about.
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  Speaker 4: And a big part of that as well is, like
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  Speaker 4: you said, helping them to feel safe, So helping them
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  Speaker 4: feel safe in their bodies, and sometimes even just doing
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  Speaker 4: it once with say a mentor or a coach is
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  Speaker 4: enough to help you feel like, oh, this is actually okay,
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  Speaker 4: It's not as scary or hard as I thought. A
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  Speaker 4: lot of people think with different healing modalities, and let's say,
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  Speaker 4: in a child healing, they might think, oh, I'm so
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  Speaker 4: scared to go back there and feel that again or
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  Speaker 4: unpack it, or like that hurt me so much, Like
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  Speaker 4: I don't want to go back there. But when you're
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  Speaker 4: healing these parts of you and you're allowing the emotion
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  Speaker 4: to move through you, and you're being held in that
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  Speaker 4: and you are actually processing what happened afterwards, most people
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  Speaker 4: feel really light and they actually feel like wow, like
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  Speaker 4: they might have a really good sleep that night, or
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  Speaker 4: have lots of downloads or you know, things are shifting.
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  Speaker 4: But generally it's not as heavy as people think it
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  Speaker 4: might be, and it's not as energetically draining often as
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  Speaker 4: people think it might be.
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  Speaker 1: Because you're clearing it.
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  Speaker 3: You're clearing stuff that is blocked or you've been carrying
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  Speaker 3: the weight of it for thirty odd years, you actually
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  Speaker 3: get to move through some of that.
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  Speaker 4: The pain that people feel of like that's going to
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  Speaker 4: be too much or painful or overwhelming is the pain
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  Speaker 4: that they're feeling from suppressing and from carrying the way
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  Speaker 4: and like trying to stifle the heavy feelings emotions. So
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  Speaker 4: they're like, oh, nah, that's painful, I'm going to shut
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  Speaker 4: off to that again instead of learning how to let
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  Speaker 4: it flow.
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  Speaker 5: So and maybe like the outcome, So somebody who does
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  Speaker 5: this sort of healing and taps into it, I know
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  Speaker 5: we've said like that they feel lighter, but like who
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  Speaker 5: you know people that struggle with anxiety or maybe struggle
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  Speaker 5: with confidence issues, and I've spoken about that, but just
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  Speaker 5: kind of like maybe some transformations that you've seen from
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  Speaker 5: working with people and how they can come out the
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  Speaker 5: other side. Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, Well, I personally think a lot of these things
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  Speaker 4: that you talk about, like confidence and feelings of anxiousness,
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  Speaker 4: a lot of these things started somewhere and they're rooted somewhere,
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  Speaker 4: so obviously going back and trying to find and work
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  Speaker 4: on the source of where they originated from it is
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  Speaker 4: so powerful in your healing journey. Instead of doing these
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  Speaker 4: affirmations or reading these books or trying to take steps forward,
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  Speaker 4: instead of clearing and shifting the past, it just propels
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  Speaker 4: you forward a lot more. Not to say that doing
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  Speaker 4: affirmations and these other things are bad or you shouldn't
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  Speaker 4: do them, it's just the changing your neural pathways in
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  Speaker 4: your brain. It's a lot harder. It's like I always
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  Speaker 4: use this analogy that if you were going down a
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  Speaker 4: snow field and you went down the same path over
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  Speaker 4: and over again on your snowboard, you'd like make this
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  Speaker 4: deep ridge, and now what you want to do? You
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  Speaker 4: want to go somewhere else. So when you're trying to
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  Speaker 4: carve the new path, it's like harder, yes, and your
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  Speaker 4: board might get a bit stuck, and so then you
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  Speaker 4: go back the old way, the old path. And this
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  Speaker 4: is what it's like, trying to create those new neural
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  Speaker 4: pathways in your brain and take different action when you're
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  Speaker 4: wanting change and you're wanting to do something different. So
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  Speaker 4: it can be really hard if you're just like I'm
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  Speaker 4: going to try. But if you get out a shovel
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  Speaker 4: and you make the new pathway where you want to
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  Speaker 4: go and clear the snow, then it's a lot easier
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  Speaker 4: for you to make that decision to choose differently, to
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  Speaker 4: do differently. To be honest, people that I work with
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  Speaker 4: one on one, their entire lives change. Like they are
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  Speaker 4: just able to show up so differently as parents in
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  Speaker 4: their relationships and going after the dreams and goals that
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  Speaker 4: they have. Like people have new relationships and new businesses
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  Speaker 4: and new jobs, and just like they really get to
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  Speaker 4: flourish and they get to clear self sabotage self doubt.
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  Speaker 4: I've had a beautiful client find her purpose and her
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  Speaker 4: calling and start a beautiful business helping and healing other people.
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  Speaker 4: I've had a beautiful client who was able to let
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  Speaker 4: go over a relationship that was no longer serving her
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  Speaker 4: and then now she's engaged to a new, incredible partner
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  Speaker 4: and just thriving and living more to her values, more
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  Speaker 4: aligned to her values. And yeah, just so many stories
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  Speaker 4: like that, So.
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  Speaker 3: Sounds like it helps them thrive, not just survive through
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  Speaker 3: each day. I think a lot of people get so
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  Speaker 3: caught up and thinking like, this is just my life,
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  Speaker 3: this is how it's always been, Like I've always thought
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  Speaker 3: like that, or my mom did this, It's just what
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  Speaker 3: it is. But it actually doesn't have to be like that.
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  Speaker 3: You can change your beliefs, and you can change the
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  Speaker 3: way you see things, even though your childhood might have
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  Speaker 3: looked a certain way. Do you think the first seven
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  Speaker 3: years of our life is the most impressionable and that's
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  Speaker 3: where most of our beliefs and experiences come from that
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  Speaker 3: shape us to be howd we show up as adults?
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, that's what they say. That's the most delicate time
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  Speaker 4: in our life, those seven years where we're so connected
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  Speaker 4: with our caregivers, so we really learning and watching from
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  Speaker 4: them and being little sponges. And if we're not receiving
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  Speaker 4: the love and affection and care, and we're not held
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  Speaker 4: through our emotions and you know a lot of these
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  Speaker 4: common things. You know, all of our parents doing the
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  Speaker 4: best they could with what they have. But there is
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  Speaker 4: a lot of people out there walking around that experience that.
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  Speaker 4: So that's hard wiring your system telling it this is
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  Speaker 4: how it is. And it's also putting your body in
• 16:58
  Speaker 4: maybe fight and flight, or it's telling your nervous system
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  Speaker 4: then that like this is dangerous, I'm in fear and
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  Speaker 4: might develop some tendencies to help us gain a little
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  Speaker 4: bit of control. So we might have picked up some
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  Speaker 4: habits or some little quirks or things or behaviors and
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  Speaker 4: patterns that now we're thinking that doesn't serve me anymore,
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  Speaker 4: or could come back from those years. Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: So for anyone listening and they've never done any of
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  Speaker 3: this work, but they feel a pull to do it
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  Speaker 3: that I don't know who to go to, that I
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  Speaker 3: don't know where to start. What advice would you give
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  Speaker 3: to someone.
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  Speaker 4: The first bit of advice I would give is to
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  Speaker 4: really dig into finding the courage to going there and
• 17:42
  Speaker 4: finding a way to help yourself feel safe in your
• 17:44
  Speaker 4: body and you know, this work is so nuanced. People
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  Speaker 4: can be feeling really really unsafe in their current state
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  Speaker 4: in their bodies and think, oh my gosh, to go there,
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  Speaker 4: it's too much. So the first part of your work
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  Speaker 4: would be to work on your nervous system, to work
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  Speaker 4: on just yeah, coming into your body so like breath
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  Speaker 4: and slowness, and creating a little beautiful space for yourself
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  Speaker 4: to do any of this work, carving out some time,
• 18:13
  Speaker 4: setting up a beautiful little environment. You can also find
• 18:16
  Speaker 4: something that can be like a tether for you to
• 18:19
  Speaker 4: hold onto, you know, like when people go diving and
• 18:21
  Speaker 4: they follow the rope. Something you might have a pet
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  Speaker 4: that you want to keep close by in stroke, or
• 18:27
  Speaker 4: a teddy or I don't know, something that a partner
• 18:30
  Speaker 4: or something that you can kind of hold onto for
• 18:31
  Speaker 4: a bit of safety as you dip your toe into
• 18:33
  Speaker 4: this work, and that keeps you grounded and feeling safe.
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  Speaker 4: So that's the first thing that I would say. The
• 18:41
  Speaker 4: second bit of advice that I always give, which is
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  Speaker 4: easier for parents, but it can be helpful to anyone,
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  Speaker 4: is to connect with someone. So if you're a woman,
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  Speaker 4: connect with a little girl that you know around the
• 18:53
  Speaker 4: age that you're wanting to kind of drop into and
• 18:57
  Speaker 4: think of her like imagine your doater, imagine your niece,
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  Speaker 4: imagine whoever it might be, and say, in a moment
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  Speaker 4: that you might be feeling like you're not confident to
• 19:07
  Speaker 4: go and do something or to speak up, to have
• 19:09
  Speaker 4: a boundary to express what you want. Imagine this being
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  Speaker 4: your daughter and what you would say to her, and
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  Speaker 4: how you would hold her, how you would hold her emotions,
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  Speaker 4: how you would look at her, and then you can
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  Speaker 4: start to envision that being you.
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  Speaker 3: Yea.
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  Speaker 4: And I guess if you don't have a coach currently,
• 19:29
  Speaker 4: or you're not ready for that part in your journey,
• 19:32
  Speaker 4: or you don't think it's for you, or you feel
• 19:34
  Speaker 4: it's out of reach, I've just launched my new monthly membership.
• 19:38
  Speaker 4: It's called the Growth Resort, and that's where you're going
• 19:42
  Speaker 4: to be able to stay tapped into all of this
• 19:44
  Speaker 4: kind of work. And my plans for this space are
• 19:47
  Speaker 4: to have little visualizations and meditations and it is also
• 19:53
  Speaker 4: going to be giving you constant inspiration and motivation just
• 19:58
  Speaker 4: so that you can stay kind of I guess, yeah,
• 20:03
  Speaker 4: like I said, tapped into this work and see other
• 20:05
  Speaker 4: people doing it within the community, it starts to kind
• 20:08
  Speaker 4: of get normalized for you. Yes, yeah, yeah, and you think, oh, okay,
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  Speaker 4: I see these other people doing it, It's okay, I
• 20:16
  Speaker 4: can do it.
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  Speaker 3: How important is your environment and who you surround yourself
• 20:19
  Speaker 3: with exactly? It inspires you, it leads you, it normalizes it.
• 20:23
  Speaker 3: And once you start to surround yourself with people doing
• 20:27
  Speaker 3: this work as well, I feel like you can even
• 20:29
  Speaker 3: feel a divide of other people that those relationships weren't
• 20:32
  Speaker 3: serving you or they're not in that same path as you,
• 20:34
  Speaker 3: and you can see how that might be holding you back.
• 20:36
  Speaker 3: And then you surround yourself with people that are doing
• 20:38
  Speaker 3: this work, it just makes you want to lean into
• 20:40
  Speaker 3: it more and it makes you feel safe to do
• 20:41
  Speaker 3: it as well. And then I think when you feel safe,
• 20:44
  Speaker 3: you feel progress, you enjoy it more, and that's really
• 20:47
  Speaker 3: cool as well. Our second session that we did together
• 20:50
  Speaker 3: was so different to the first. When I first started
• 20:53
  Speaker 3: coaching with Megsie, I felt this pool to find a
• 20:56
  Speaker 3: coach that worked with women on their feminine energy and
• 21:00
  Speaker 3: the inner child healings and everything, and I was like,
• 21:02
  Speaker 3: look around on socials and I just couldn't find him
• 21:04
  Speaker 3: on that connected with it.
• 21:05
  Speaker 1: I was like, what am I doing?
• 21:07
  Speaker 3: I think I hesitated because we're such good friends. I
• 21:09
  Speaker 3: didn't know whether you would want to cross that path.
• 21:12
  Speaker 3: But when you said yes straighta, I was like, yay,
• 21:14
  Speaker 3: and it was beautiful. But the second one we did
• 21:16
  Speaker 3: was so different. So you laid me down in your
• 21:19
  Speaker 3: bed and you've got your salt lamp, beautiful music and
• 21:23
  Speaker 3: sprayed some delicious smelling I don't know, it was lovely
• 21:27
  Speaker 3: blanket over me, and you basically took me through like
• 21:31
  Speaker 3: a guided would you say, meditation or visualization, and we
• 21:36
  Speaker 3: went back throughout my whole life, and I was in
• 21:41
  Speaker 3: a state that I could actually visualize so many different ages,
• 21:45
  Speaker 3: and so many things came up that are like I
• 21:47
  Speaker 3: just had not thought of or remembered in god knows.
• 21:50
  Speaker 1: How long, just different stages.
• 21:53
  Speaker 3: I think most of them were harder times in my life,
• 21:56
  Speaker 3: from when I was you know, three to five, to
• 21:58
  Speaker 3: seven to nine, ten, thirteen, fifteen, seventeen, I think it
• 22:02
  Speaker 3: was twenty twenty three, like all these a and it
• 22:06
  Speaker 3: was incredible to go back had so many Yeah, there
• 22:09
  Speaker 3: was a couple of pages because Megsy wrote out everything
• 22:11
  Speaker 3: that I was talking about, and in each of those moments,
• 22:15
  Speaker 3: it was just so cool to go back. I could
• 22:17
  Speaker 3: remember where I was, I could remember like how my
• 22:19
  Speaker 3: hair looked, I remember just what I needed in that moment.
• 22:23
  Speaker 3: And there was one particular bedroom I would think I
• 22:25
  Speaker 3: was thirteen.
• 22:26
  Speaker 1: I remember the house.
• 22:27
  Speaker 3: I had rainbow colored walls, and I just remember this
• 22:30
  Speaker 3: one particular powerful moment because it was at a really
• 22:32
  Speaker 3: hard point in my life with my stepdad, and I
• 22:35
  Speaker 3: remember he had sent me down to my room and
• 22:36
  Speaker 3: I was crying by myself and the way you guided
• 22:40
  Speaker 3: me to for me now I as an adult and
• 22:43
  Speaker 3: my higher self who I am now to walk into
• 22:46
  Speaker 3: the room and meet my little girl and give her
• 22:49
  Speaker 3: what she needed.
• 22:50
  Speaker 1: And it was so cool.
• 22:51
  Speaker 3: And I remember like sitting I was crunchedhopping a ball
• 22:53
  Speaker 3: as a little girl up near my pillows, and I
• 22:56
  Speaker 3: remember me sitting on the edge of my bed, not
• 22:58
  Speaker 3: going in too quickly because I didn want my little
• 23:00
  Speaker 3: girl to feel scared, and just.
• 23:01
  Speaker 1: Making sure she felt safe.
• 23:02
  Speaker 3: But like just everything that I would have dreamt of
• 23:05
  Speaker 3: having my parents do as a little girl, and I
• 23:06
  Speaker 3: got to go and give that to myself, and that
• 23:09
  Speaker 3: was so powerful to not only heal me at that age,
• 23:13
  Speaker 3: but then also to realize like, wow, I can actually
• 23:15
  Speaker 3: do that at any moment, at any moment that I
• 23:18
  Speaker 3: need safety, security, reassurance, and I feel like my whole
• 23:23
  Speaker 3: life I have always looked and this is like my
• 23:26
  Speaker 3: anxious attachment too, which we've been learning a lot about.
• 23:28
  Speaker 3: I've always looked for someone else to make me feel
• 23:30
  Speaker 3: safe because I never felt safe for my own body,
• 23:32
  Speaker 3: or in my environment or in my upbringing. So in
• 23:35
  Speaker 3: that moment at age thirteen, doing that for my little
• 23:37
  Speaker 3: girl and just like holding her and I reckon. We
• 23:40
  Speaker 3: probably stayed there for quite a while, just holding her.
• 23:43
  Speaker 3: It was just so powerful. So from then I've been
• 23:46
  Speaker 3: able to and I'm still practicing. I'll still have moments
• 23:48
  Speaker 3: where I'll be like, oh, this is interesting or this
• 23:50
  Speaker 3: is uncomfortable, and I've got to carve the space out
• 23:54
  Speaker 3: to do that. But it's so nice to know and
• 23:55
  Speaker 3: everyone listening that you can be that person for yourself
• 23:58
  Speaker 3: and we don't have to keep looking for outside people
• 24:02
  Speaker 3: or things to fill that void. We've got that than ourselves.
• 24:06
  Speaker 3: But I would never have known or believed that, because
• 24:08
  Speaker 3: I've heard people say that before and I've kind of
• 24:10
  Speaker 3: not rolled my eyes.
• 24:12
  Speaker 1: But maybe now I've experienced it, you got to be honest,
• 24:17
  Speaker 1: keep it real.
• 24:19
  Speaker 3: But experiencing that, I was like, wow, And that is
• 24:22
  Speaker 3: where I see the power in having a one on
• 24:24
  Speaker 3: one coach. Because I love podcasts, I love reading books,
• 24:28
  Speaker 3: I love going to seminars. They're all powerful and I
• 24:30
  Speaker 3: would always do that stuff, but there is something so
• 24:32
  Speaker 3: powerful but having a one on one coach that can
• 24:35
  Speaker 3: really just meet you where you need to be met
• 24:37
  Speaker 3: and help you see the true potential and light that
• 24:40
  Speaker 3: we all have within our hearts and our bodies. And like,
• 24:43
  Speaker 3: I just, yeah, thank you so much for that because
• 24:45
  Speaker 3: it was so awesome. But it's so cool, even out
• 24:47
  Speaker 3: of two sessions, how much I got out of it. Yeah, Like,
• 24:50
  Speaker 3: it's so cool. And I love that you've launched this membership.
• 24:53
  Speaker 3: I've been waiting for you to do something like this
• 24:54
  Speaker 3: because I feel like so many people, even in our forum,
• 24:58
  Speaker 3: want more access to you and your wisdom and your
• 25:01
  Speaker 3: light and your energy and your knowledge, but it hasn't
• 25:04
  Speaker 3: been as easy to access that. And I'm so lucky
• 25:06
  Speaker 3: I've got you as a best friend that I can call
• 25:08
  Speaker 3: you and drop into your case and say hello, I'm back.
• 25:15
  Speaker 3: But also why I've chose you to be my godmother
• 25:17
  Speaker 3: for my little girl Tala, because I just know how
• 25:19
  Speaker 3: safe and hell she's going to feel with having you
• 25:22
  Speaker 3: and her life just like I do.
• 25:24
  Speaker 1: So the work you do.
• 25:26
  Speaker 3: Is incredible and magical, and I hope everyone got just
• 25:28
  Speaker 3: a little glimpse and taste of that. But if they're
• 25:31
  Speaker 3: wanting more, reveretly, you have this platform now that they
• 25:33
  Speaker 3: can come and connect with you to get more of it.
• 25:35
  Speaker 1: Because we love you, love you so much. I love you,
• 25:39
  Speaker 1: Thank you so much for being here today.
• 25:41
  Speaker 4: Thank you for having me.
• 25:42
  Speaker 3: Thank you appreciate it so much. Obviously we could talk
• 25:46
  Speaker 3: for hours and this isn't it. We've got another episode coming,
• 25:49
  Speaker 3: so our next episode with Megsi will be on Feminine Energy, Yes,
• 25:53
  Speaker 3: which is going to be so beautiful.
• 25:55
  Speaker 1: But where does everyone find you? On Instagram?
• 25:57
  Speaker 4: Can find me on Instagram at megsi Underscore and and
• 26:02
  Speaker 4: my website is megsian dot com.
• 26:04
  Speaker 1: You're so get to connect with you amazing. We'll leave
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  Speaker 1: all the details in the show notes below. Thank you
• 26:09
  Speaker 1: so much. Guys.
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  Speaker 5: Thanks for listening, see you next Bye.