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Your Anger Is Secretly Destroying YOU (S5) S38:E2 Sunday · Inspirations for Your Life

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Well there, hello everyone, and welcome to the
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ever-popular Inspirations for Your Life show.
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It's so great to be with you here
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today on a Sunday.
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It's the second day in our Master Topic
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launch.
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We started that yesterday, a brand new series.
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We'll get to that in just a minute.
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But before we do, I want to take
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the opportunity, because today is Sunday, so Sunday
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and Thursday, we give a shout-out to
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a local restaurant or coffee shop.
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And today's shout-out goes to a place
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in Plainfield, New Jersey.
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It's called Queen City Coffee Roasters.
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They are a place that makes their own
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coffee.
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They sell coffee you can get.
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Their specialty coffee, again, they're in Plainfield.
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They serve lots of cafes, restaurants, and different
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offices.
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And they also have a location in Clifton,
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New Jersey.
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Yes, so in Plainfield, they're at 200 Court
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Place, Plainfield, New Jersey, 07060.
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They're open from 7 a.m. to 7
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p.m., looks like, and Sunday, 9 a
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.m. to 10 p.m., so it looks
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like they're still there tonight.
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And in Clifton, 7 a.m. to 10
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p.m., Monday through Thursday, Sunday, 9 to
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10, and Friday and Saturday, 7 a.m.
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to 11 p.m., so same hours on
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both locations.
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So what do they have there?
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So they have lots of different coffee.
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They do wholesale.
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They do catering.
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So if I look here, they tell about
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their story.
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A very interesting website.
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Basically, their motto is built for operators who
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don't have time for friction.
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So I'm looking to see if they have
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any kind of pastries or anything.
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I'm looking to see here.
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So they also do equipment leasing.
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So they're more than just a place that's,
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I mean, they actually help somebody get started
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in the industry.
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So it looks like they're mostly just a
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coffee shop.
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I don't see on their website that they
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have any kind of pastries.
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I mean, I could be wrong.
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They even have barista training and stuff like
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that.
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So an interesting little place to visit.
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But I don't see if they have, you
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can order online.
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I don't actually see, though, if they have
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any kind of pastries.
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Usually, coffee shops have pastries.
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But for whatever reason, I'm not finding them.
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I went to their, it's called QC Pickup,
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which is taking a very long time to
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load.
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So again, they're called Queen City Coffee.
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They even have things like holiday gifts and
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stuff like that.
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Mostly, I think it's just coffee from what
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I'm gathering here.
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Yeah, I don't see any kind of, so
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if I go to catering, they have a
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nice little rolling cart there that's kind of
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like a thing where they can put all
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their coffee and their machine on and stuff.
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So specialty coffee, anywhere you need it, is
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kind of the thing.
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They do weddings, corporate events, private parties, community
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events.
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So they do espresso, americano, cortado, cappuccino, latte,
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ice latte, cold brew.
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And then they do the classic setup, which
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is just drift coffee, decaf, and of course,
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cold brew.
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So I'm reaching out to you guys tonight
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because I want you guys to check out
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Jason Academy to invite us to come into
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one of your coffee shops so I can
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come and give a live show right there
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at your place.
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And I'll also, after the show, do an
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author talk, author Q&A and author signing.
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It's completely free.
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Definitely reach out to jasonacademy.com.
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Click on the contact us button, fill out
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the form, and we'd love you to host
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us.
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All right, guys.
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So again, give them a try.
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So let's get into the show.
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Hopefully today will enlighten you a little bit
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about what's going on or why things are
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going on.
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But I think a lot of times, I
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always like to give back to our great
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communities and try to help them understand what
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we're doing and let other people in the
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community basically know what different businesses are doing.
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So I think that's a very important thing
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for us to recognize different businesses and to
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try to help them and whatnot.
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So this is the Inspirations for Your Life
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show.
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We are a daily motivational show, in case
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you did not know that we were that.
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Yes, we are a daily motivational show.
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So again, it is so great to be
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with everyone here.
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Very, very great to be with you here.
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So welcome, everyone, to another episode of the
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ever-popular Inspirations for Your Life show.
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I'm John C.
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Morley.
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I'm a serial entrepreneur, engineer, marketing specialist, video
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producer, podcast host, coach, keynote speaker, graduate student,
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passionate lifelong learner.
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I'm so grateful now to be a published
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author.
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All right, guys.
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Let's get into this because, like I said,
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I've got a lot to share with you.
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And I think you're going to find this
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to be a pretty good evening.
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I mean, they're always good evenings or good
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days.
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So let's get right into this, all right?
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So the very first thing I think I
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want to talk about, I think it's an
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important thing to think about, is going to
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be, well, resentment charges interest.
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I don't know if you know that.
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Resentment does charge interest.
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If you didn't know that, it does.
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It charges interest.
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So I think that's an important piece for
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us all to really recognize.
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Resentment rarely stays the same size.
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Every replay can add another emotional payment, something
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that we weren't expecting to be, right, and
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causing more havoc to us.
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Number two, the person you're angry with, well,
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they may not be thinking about it.
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This can be difficult to accept.
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And you may replay what happened constantly while
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the other person has moved on, guys.
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I think that's an important piece.
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You know, you may be putting more energy
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into it than really needs to be.
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Number three, stop paying emotionally for somebody else's
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behavior.
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This is the main key, guys, okay?
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Someone made a choice.
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Maybe it was dishonest, disrespectful, selfish, or hurtful.
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Their behavior belongs to them, right?
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And if it's anger, it's anger.
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But don't let that make you follow suit
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to what they're doing.
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Number four, guys, anger can feel powerful while
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quietly draining you.
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Yeah, that's a problem.
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Anger can create an immediate feeling or strength
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because it energizes us.
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But staying angry requires us to keep feeding
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that bad energy.
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Number five, notice how resentment changes your mood,
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okay?
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Pay attention to what happens when you think
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about a particular person or situation.
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Does your mood change?
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Does it get better?
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Does it get worse, right?
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I think that's important.
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Number six, guys, stop letting another person's actions
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control today's energy.
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What they did yesterday shouldn't automatically determine how
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you feel today.
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Their actions were theirs, and let's leave it
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at that, right?
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You can have your own actions, but you
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shouldn't necessarily respond in kind just because someone
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else responds poorly, all right?
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Number seven, ask who is actually suffering from
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your bitterness.
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If you're carrying resentment every day, ask yourself
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who is experiencing it.
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Is it you or is it someone else?
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Are you trying to do this to be,
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let's say, putting a vengeance out or being
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revengeful?
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Is the other person feeling it too?
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Or are you just trying to, I don't
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know, teach them a lesson?
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Teaching people a lesson like that just always
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seems to backfire.
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Number eight, resentment can become an invisible relationship,
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yeah.
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So you can stop speaking to somebody and
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still remain emotionally connected through anger.
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If you're constantly doing that, then you're actually
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going to get yourself more upset.
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You're going to lose your energy.
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You can even burn out doing this stuff,
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guys.
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So I think these are important things to
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do is stop maintaining the connection through anger.
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There's a lot of other things you can
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do.
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You can dismiss that.
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You can not agree with them, but it
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doesn't mean that you have to still be
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angry, okay?
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Sometimes anger, I said, becomes the final connection
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between two people.
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But we can say we're finished, but maybe
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we're just finished with working with them.
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But we don't have to be nasty.
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We don't have to get our whole gear
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up, right?
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Number 10, your attention is so priceless, ladies
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and gentlemen.
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Attention is one of our greatest resources.
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Whatever receives your attention receives part of your
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life.
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So don't spend it repeatedly prosecuting the past.
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You don't need to hold another imaginary trial
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every evening.
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You know what happened, right?
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So why do you have to keep going
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over and over and belaboring it, right?
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That's a big problem, okay?
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Number 12, guys, anger needs somewhere productive to
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go.
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Anger contains energy.
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Instead of allowing it to circulate endlessly, direct
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it somewhere else.
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Useful.
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Maybe you can do some exercises to get
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that bad energy out of you.
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It could be taking a walk.
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It could be punching a punching bag.
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It could be something that is going to
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let off your energy in a way that
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is not going to allow you to cause
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harm to other people, whether that be physically,
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mentally, or spiritually.
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Number 13, I want you to turn frustration
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into information.
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Ask what your frustration is telling you.
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Maybe you tolerated something too long.
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Maybe you ignored where it was going.
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But ask yourself that question.
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I think that'll really change what you're doing.
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Number 14, ask what the experience taught you.
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Every difficult experience has the potential to teach
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something.
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What will you recognize earlier next?
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Are you ready for something next or not?
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I mean, that's my question.
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Are you just going to keep belaboring on
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this over and over again because you think
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that's the way it should go?
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But really, it's going to just get you
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sick inside.
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Number 15, stop confusing resentment with self-respect.
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You don't prove that you respect yourself by
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remaining angry forever.
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Self-respect can mean recognizing boundaries.
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Sometimes it can just mean moving away.
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It can be distancing yourself from someone or
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something.
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And you don't have to force that person
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to change.
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That's not your job.
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So don't make it all about them.
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If something's wrong, then separate if you can't
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mend your differences.
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But don't let it take your whole life
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down.
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Don't let it destroy the respect that you
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have in you.
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And this is just going to kill it.
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You don't want that.
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Number 16, boundaries protect you better than bitterness
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does.
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I know you might say, well, bitterness is
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easier and I want to prove to somebody.
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Why do you want to prove to somebody?
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Why do you want to get your heart
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racing?
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Why do you want to get the other
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person to be even angrier?
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Why do you want to do that?
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That's the big point that I want to
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ask.
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Why do you want to do that?
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There is no reason for you to do
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that, okay?
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Bitterness doesn't necessarily stop somebody from hurting you
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again.
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Boundaries can.
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So decide what behavior you want to put
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an end to.
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I think that's a real key point.
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Number 17, you can distance yourself without hating
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somebody.
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Distance doesn't require hatred.
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Sometimes the healthiest choice is the simplest way
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of recognizing that somebody needs to be, let's
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say, either eliminated from your life or that
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you need to move on, right?
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And you don't have to get angry about
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it, guys.
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Sometimes people just aren't a fit in your
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life anymore.
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Number 18, protect your peace without seeking revenge.
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Protecting yourself and punishing somebody are different goals.
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So revenge keeps your attention centered on them
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and the hatred you feel.
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Protecting yourself says, okay, this energy is not
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good for me.
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So what I'm going to do right now
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is I am going to stop this nonsense
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and I am going to get out of
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this negative space.
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So protect yourself, okay?
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Protect your peace without seeking revenge, okay?
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You don't want to punish someone else.
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You don't want to erase your heart.
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There's no need for that.
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Stop needing somebody else to suffer before you
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heal.
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I know a lot of you are like,
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well, I'm not going to feel good until
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that person is down and out.
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What does that mean?
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Why do you even need to do that,
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right?
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You don't need to put somebody else down.
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You don't need to make somebody feel bad.
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That's not right, right?
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So your healing can heal on you.
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You don't need to have somebody else's misery
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be part of it.
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Number 20, guys, their consequences are not your
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responsibility.
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See, life has its own way of producing
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consequences.
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You don't have to personally supervise them.
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Focus on you for the moment, okay?
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Karma does pay back.
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I want to tell you it does pay
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back, but it may not pay back on
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your terms, okay?
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So just be mindful of that and there's
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a lot that you can do.
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Be the best that you can be.
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That's the one thing I want to say.
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Be the best you can be and don't
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get caught up in all this pettiness, right?
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Life will produce the consequences.
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It's not your job to decide who and
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how karma gets handled.
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Number 21, reclaim the mental space they occupy.
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Those people, that situation, it created a bad
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feeling in you.
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One that may make you feel unhappy, worthless,
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right?
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Abused, used.
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Think about how much mental space one person
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can occupy without being anywhere near you.
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You owe it to yourself, ladies and gentlemen,
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to reclaim that space.
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There's no reason that somebody else should have
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that space.
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I'm just being honest, right?
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And so many people I know have these
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spaces that are abused.
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Think of it like this, ladies and gentlemen.
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Think about technology, right?
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There's lots of programs running, but we need
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to reclaim back that valuable memory.
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That's important, guys.
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Very, very important.
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Number 22, stop checking whether life punished them
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yet or not.
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Who cares?
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Constantly watching somebody to see whether they're getting
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theirs, right?
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Or something went wrong in their life or
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wishing them bad.
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Don't wish anybody bad.
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Don't do that, all right?
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I know they might have done something really
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bad to you, and you wish that they
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would just get in trouble.
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I've had people that have not been nice
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to me.
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I've had people that have been downright rotten.
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Not a lot, but a couple.
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Did I feel bad at the time?
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At the time, did I wish something?
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Yeah, and I learned it.
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That's not the way, right?
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It's not the way I wish I would
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get closure.
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Somebody would say, I'm sorry.
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But I learned that I don't need to
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do that.
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And I don't need their approval, right?
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Somebody who's gonna treat me like that, do
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I really need apology from them?
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No, you move on, ladies and gentlemen.
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You move on, okay?
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You move on.
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I know you might want the apology, but
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don't tie your whole life up trying to
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get it, all right?
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That's important, guys.
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Your recovery, number 23, doesn't require their downfall.
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You could succeed whether they succeed or fail.
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Your peace doesn't require their pain or the
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discomfort.
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In fact, one of the best ways is
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to move beyond them and focus on your
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own life.
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Number 24, bitterness cannot build the future that
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you've been yearning for.
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I'm just being honest, okay?
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You may not wanna hear that.
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Bitterness looks backward.
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Building requires looking forward.
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If you want better relationships, opportunities, and circumstances,
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then look forward.
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Don't look to be somebody who's gonna instill
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or install bitterness.
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Number 25, let consequences belong to consequences.
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What does that mean?
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If someone repeatedly makes poor decisions, those choices
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will create their own outcomes.
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You don't need to be the one making
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sure that it makes them feel bad or
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does something wrong.
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Their consequences will be known by them, sure
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enough.
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If someone repeatedly makes the poor decisions, those
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choices will change their life and they'll eventually
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change.
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They may not change right away.
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Number 26, put your energy back into yourself.
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People don't realize we have a limited amount
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of energy and we have to use the
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energy sparingly so that we can do what
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we wanna do.
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This is where everything begins changing.
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Take the energy that went into the anger
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and redirect it towards yourself to do something
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better.
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Like I said, go do a workout, right?
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Go run, do an exercise, maybe do an
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arts and craft or something, right?
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Do something that's gonna maybe result in you
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burning some energy, right?
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It could be running.
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It could be throwing darts.
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It could be shooting guns on a field
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or something like that.
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What's gonna work for you that's gonna get
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that anger out of you, okay?
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Number 27, peace is more valuable than winning
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an old argument.
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I know you might think you wanna win
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the argument, but really you don't need to
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win the argument, guys.
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Imagine finally proving that you were right, but
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remaining miserable for it.
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What did you actually win anyway?
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I mean, just proving that you're right.
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Who really cares that you were right?
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Number 28, stop allowing resentment to become part
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of your personality.
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I know so many people that do that.
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Well, he's getting ahead, but I'm gonna get
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back at him.
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Who really cares?
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Be careful when anger becomes so familiar that
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it starts defining how you see people in
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the situations and you start wishing things on
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them.
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Don't wish bad on anybody.
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Number 29, you deserve freedom from what they
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did.
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Yes, you do, okay?
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This isn't about giving the other person something
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back.
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It's not a boomerang.
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It's about giving yourself something.
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You deserve to show self-love and respect
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to you.
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Number 30, release the resentment before it keeps
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costing you.
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And believe me, it will.
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This is the central idea today.
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Resentment has a price.
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Maybe you're already paid enough.
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You can remember how that felt.
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But is it time to release that in
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your life?
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I think that is.
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Who is your anger really hurting now anyway?
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Like who?
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Is it hurting somebody?
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Or you know what's really hurting, guys?
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It's hurting you.
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You can continue carrying the resentment or you
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can start reclaiming the space it acquires.
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Yeah, the space it acquires.
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We talked about space, guys.
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Space needs to be observed and we don't
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wanna fill it with something that doesn't need
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to be there, right?
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I think that's an important point.
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And we have to be aware of that.
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None of that changes the choice available to
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you.
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So you can continue carrying the resentment or
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you can start reclaiming the space, as I
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said, that it occupies.
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Letting go doesn't mean they won, all right?
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It's not about who won, who lost.
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It's not a game like that.
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It doesn't even mean you lost, okay?
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It doesn't mean what happened suddenly became acceptable
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to you.
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No, it doesn't mean that.
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And it doesn't mean you need to reopen
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a door you correctly closed.
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You don't need to wait around for an
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apology or foreclosure, just move on.
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You can forgive without restoring access, right?
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You forgive, but you don't forget, right?
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You can move forward without forgetting and you
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can protect yours right away.
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See, that's showing strength.
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That's taking it and redirecting it inside our
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body so we can become stronger, so we
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can learn from the lesson.
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Remember I said when something happens and we
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don't like it, we need to learn from
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the lesson, throw everything else away, but keep
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only the lesson, the lesson.
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Take the lesson only with you.
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Take the stronger boundaries that you set.
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Learn from the wisdom.
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Take the ability to recognize things, right?
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That's important guys, so very important.
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But consider leaving the resentment behind.
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As much as you wanna drag it, don't.
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Because every minute you spend mentally fighting somebody
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from your past is a minute that isn't
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complete and it's gonna take away peace and
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joy from your own life and take you
22:39
off.
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Well, your path of success.
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Your attention, ladies and gentlemen, it belongs to
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you, right?
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You might think, you know, you gotta get
22:50
that one back.
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There's always, they always say tit for tat,
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right?
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But why were we brought up that way?
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You know, if somebody hits you, you gotta
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hit them back.
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No, no, no, no.
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The smart thing to do is not stay
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there and get hit again, but to walk
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away.
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We don't need to prove that we're more
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powerful.
23:11
We're better off to walk away.
23:13
We don't need to retaliate again.
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Your energy belongs to you.
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You know what else belongs to you, ladies
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and gentlemen?
23:19
Your peace belongs to you.
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So by you choosing to walk away, by
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you choosing to just not let it bother
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you, you'll feel better.
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You see, when you detach from a situation,
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it doesn't control you.
23:37
When you attach to something, it completely controls
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you.
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Your attention belongs to you.
23:46
Your energy belongs to you.
23:47
And your peace belongs to you.
23:50
Why is it we have to prove to
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people, well, you know, I'm stronger than you
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or I'm smarter than you?
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Who really cares?
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Why can't we work together as a T
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-E-A-M, a team?
24:03
I think that's a hard thing for a
24:05
lot of people to realize, right?
24:09
We need to understand again that our attention
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belongs to us, our energy belongs to us,
24:13
and our peace belongs to us.
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And no confrontation we have is ever gonna
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get those back from us.
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You know what's gonna get them back?
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Letting go, letting go.
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When you let go, that's when you truly
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get peace, right?
24:33
You get peace back in your life.
24:36
You get peace back.
24:40
You get your attention back.
24:42
You also get your energy back.
24:44
Why do you wanna defend something or someone
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that has been disrespectful to you?
24:52
I just wanna ask the question, why?
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What are you gonna get out of proving
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that you're right?
25:01
Like, what are you gonna get out of
25:02
it?
25:02
Are you gonna get anything out of it
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or no?
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I'm just asking that question.
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And that's a question I think that a
25:19
lot of people, before they get angry, what
25:22
I always say to do is, when you
25:25
feel yourself starting to get into that mode,
25:28
just walk away, maybe take a deep breath,
25:33
and come back after you've had a chance.
25:34
Maybe the situation emotionally fired you up, right?
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And you feel that you've gotta combatively respond.
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You don't.
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What could happen when you do that?
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A fight, right?
25:51
An argument, things said that nobody wants to
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say.
26:02
These are hard things, right?
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These are very hard things.
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I think that's probably the most important thing
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I can tell you, is that this perception
26:23
of the control you're gonna get is really
26:28
an illusion.
26:29
And we don't wind up finding out that
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what we did wasn't good until we feel
26:36
bad.
26:37
A lot of times, you feel bad and
26:39
you still keep doing the same thing over
26:40
and over again because you think you're gonna
26:41
feel better once you win.
26:44
But you know, once you win, you make
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the other person feel bad and you feel
26:49
bad.
26:50
And now either you're trying to get an
26:51
apology or you're like, oh, I wish I
26:54
wouldn't have done that.
26:55
I wish I wouldn't have said that.
26:57
I think maybe I went too far.
26:58
The other person might say, yeah, you did.
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And now any chance of that friendship even
27:03
recovering, forget it.
27:05
It's just down the tubes.
27:07
Some people just are gonna do that, right?
27:13
That's important, guys.
27:15
So your attention belongs to you.
27:16
Your energy belongs to you.
27:17
Your peace belongs to you.
27:18
Take them back now.
27:19
That's your choice.
27:20
Ladies and gentlemen, I'm John C.
27:22
Morley, serial entrepreneur and so much more.
27:24
And this has been another powerful episode of
27:26
the amazing inspirations for your life.
27:28
You know, I thank you once again for
27:31
spending time with me today and hopefully learning
27:34
something about your anger.
27:36
Your anger may take you away from friends,
27:43
strangers, and even your own family.
27:47
I don't think we wanna act in that
27:49
way, but we do because of the situation.
27:53
Don't forget to check out believemeachieved.com, of
27:56
course, for more of my amazing, inspiring creations.
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And I'll see you on another show real
28:01
soon.
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Be well, everyone.