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Is The Universe Sending You Signs? · Blush

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Hello and welcome to Blush, the world's first Wellness show
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that's actually entertaining. I'm Heva and I quit law so I can
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help you look and feel your best.
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Together we got into food, nutrition, all the latest
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Wellness trends, but we also laugh, get silly, drop a few F
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OPS and go on a million tangents.
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So if that sounds like your vibe, we're about to be best
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friends. Hi, Merry Christmas if you
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celebrate and if not merry, there's nothing to fucking do
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Today day. Actually it's not so bad
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nowadays I feel like, but I remember when I was younger,
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before there was streaming and stuff, there was like nothing on
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TV on Christmas. Everything was fucking closed
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and your friends were busy with their stupid families.
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It was not the vibe I really fucking hated.
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And then when I was in college, I hated coming home for the
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holidays because I just didn't like, if I'm being really
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honest, I didn't really like being back at my parents house.
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And you know, everyone's kind of like busy with their families.
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And I just always, Christmas always brought up a feeling of
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lack for me and just this mourning what my family could
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have been. I always wanted a really fun
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family. We had really fun holiday
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traditions and I'd hear about some of my friends holiday
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traditions and how fun they were and just how much laughter and
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joy was in the house. And my house was dreary in the
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best of times and World War Three, the worst of times, but
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not a lot of laughter and joy. And, and no offense, you know,
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I, I love my parents. We have a great relationship
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now. But I, I would imagine they
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could both agree that that was the case.
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And yeah, it just brought up a lot of why don't I get to have
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all this fun that other people are and really be able to
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connect. And I just didn't get that.
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And nowadays I go to Australia for Christmas.
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So I mean, last year was my first time going.
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I am recording this ahead of time, but presumably I will be
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in Australia when this airs. And I have to say, last year
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Christmas was a lot of fun. I got pretty drunk so I had a
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great time. I can't speak for everyone else,
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but I had a great time. No, I'm just kidding.
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I actually don't even think I did.
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Oh no, I didn't. We did have drinks and we, I
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mean, it's fucking summer in Australia for Christmas.
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So we were outside and did stuff and then after the festivities
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died down, Ozzy and I walked to the local middle school or
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something and shot hoops at their basketball hoops.
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And it was really fun. I had a really good time.
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I'm excited for this year. I don't know, we'll see, we'll
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see. It's it's weird doing this time
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travelling thing of pre recording things.
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Anyway, out of respect for you and your time, I will keep this
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episode short and it's going to be kind of a fun Christmas
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episode. Although potentially I didn't
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even connect this until right this second.
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This could be a little sacrilegious.
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I, I know that a lot of Christians are not super
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comfortable with new age spirituality stuff.
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So I really hope this is an offensive, but I don't think it
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is because I actually, I don't think I'm going to say anything
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that is outside of the lines of any organized religion, quite
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frankly. Anyway, so the other day, a
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couple days ago, I went to the stationary store, which also is
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a crazy sentence. I went to the stationary store.
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I guess we just live in a time where there are fewer stores
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that just sell one specific type of thing.
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You know, I think that in New York we have a lot more stores
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like that. But it's a very kind of vintage
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concept. It reminds me of being a kid in
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Germany. We wouldn't go to a supermarket.
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We went to the halal butcher to get meat, we went to the bakery
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to get bread, we went to the supermarket for everything else.
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OK, so stupid story, but you know, our parents generation
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even more so. And nowadays I feel like, by the
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way, this is like not at all, really.
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I love how I said, oh, I'm going to have so much respect for your
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time and I'll keep the episode short.
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Now I'm just talking about supermarkets for for really no
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apparent reason. Like there's truly no reason why
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this is happening. So but I'm but I'm continuing.
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I'm not going to stop. So what was I going to say?
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Yeah. I feel like historically there
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were more specialization in stores than there are there is
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nowadays. People, you know, tend to buy
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just kind of go to 1 store for a bunch of shit.
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I mean, look at Target. Oh my God.
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Speaking of Target, So when I was in Mexico City, we we were
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there for two weeks. The first week Ozzy and I were
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free and traveling and doing our own thing and we stayed in a
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really cool part of town. And then the second week he was
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working down there, so we had to go to the hotel that his work
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booked, which the hotel was fine, but it was right kind of
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outside of town, which ended up actually being fine.
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Like it really wasn't a huge issue.
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I would walk into town and it would take me about an hour to
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get to Poplanco. So that's where I ended up
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hanging out. That area was where I ended up
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hanging out a lot for. So I mean, it was really just a
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couple of miles or so from Poblanco.
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Was it far or anything? And I could have taken a cab and
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it would have been a lot faster. But you know, a bitch likes to
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walk anyway. So when we checked into that
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hotel, we were running into some of his coworkers and stuff and
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one of them said the hotel is inside of a mall.
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And in the basement of this mall is a supermarket.
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But it is unlike any supermarket you have ever seen before, I can
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guarantee it. And we were like, OK, that's
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interesting. So the next I go to the
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supermarket to see if they happen to have fresh coconuts,
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which they did. So I'm, I'm so happy I grabbed
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my fresh coconuts. And then I'm walking and, you
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know, there is just a wide array of produce as supermarkets have.
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And then I get to a bakery section, a very robust bakery
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section. There's fresh breads, there's
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pastries, there's cakes, there's cupcakes, there's cookies,
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there's, I mean, any kind of fucking baked good that you can
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imagine. So I'm like, OK, amazing,
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amazing. And then I get to the butcher,
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you know, deli meats, whatever meats, meats, I don't know, I
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didn't pay that much attention because your girl doesn't eat
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meat. And then we get to the dairy
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section. Cheeses galore, crackers.
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I mean, it was like stepping inside of a cheese shop.
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OK, I'm going to stop walking you through kind of the basics
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of a grocery store because you're familiar with that
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concept already. Let me get to the next part.
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So there's a beauty section, very intense beauty section.
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I got some of those Nivea chopsticks that my sister-in-law
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said she loves. Not a fan, not for me.
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I don't like the texture. Not important.
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Then I come across a baby section, a women's clothing
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section, A men's clothing section, socks, shoes,
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accessories, bags. I'm like, OK, this is it's kind
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of like a Target, you know, Target, you know, sometimes has
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groceries. Now this, I would say, had far
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more groceries than any Target I've ever seen in my life, but
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still. And then there's this type of
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stuff. Cool.
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And then we're, you know, in the home decor, we're in the kitchen
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appliances, we're in the you guys, this fucking store.
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I cannot think, I actually cannot think of a single thing
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that exists on the face of the planet that the store did not
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sell down to car tires. One day there were fucking
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motorcycles. And there I was like, what is
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happening in here? This is, I mean, it's truly,
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truly a one stop shop. Anyway, so back to New York
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City, NY City, there are still a lot more specialized stores.
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Like there are stores and tire stores, more than one that I can
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think of that only sell hats, literally hats and that is it.
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There is a store that only sells white T-shirts.
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There are there's a stationary store.
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There's a store that only sells pens.
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There's a store that only sells kimonos.
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There is a store, this one's nuts, that only sells
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lampshades, only the shades, not even the fucking lamp.
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You can't even. And then there's a separate
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store that only sells light bulbs and you could go to two
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separate stores and still not have a fucking working lamp.
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I mean, how nuts is that OK Anyway, so I go to the
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stationary store for, you know, my stationary needs.
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Now, I have never bought stationary before.
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I've got to craft supply stores before I've, you know, I've
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bought, I guess, like card stock before.
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I, I mean, I, it turns out I wasn't even fully clear on what
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the word stationary because I walked in and I asked someone, I
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said, hi, I'm looking for some stationary.
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And she said, great, are you looking for this or this or
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washi tape or this? And I said, what the fuck are
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you talking about? Isn't washi tape just like that
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pretty Japanese tape? And she's like, yeah.
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And I was like, what? And she goes, well, stationary
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is anything that would basically go on your desk.
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And I was like, really? I thought it meant paper, you
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know, Anyway, I just wanted to have something and then I had to
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explain what I wanted. I said, you know, I want some.
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I need to send a thank you note to someone.
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But then I figured rather than getting one card, I should just
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have a bunch at home that I can then the next time I need to
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send a handwritten thank you note, which, by the way, how
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she, how elegant, how classy? I mean, let's all take a moment
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as she is. Carolyn Bessette Kennedy,
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basically. By the way, I still haven't
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written the note. This was days ago.
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I still haven't written the note.
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I should just have it at home. It'll be very chic and elegant.
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So this other woman taps in. She's like, listen, this girl's
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a moron, I'll help her. You go to other things.
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This much older lady, very cool. And so she's showing me all the
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different options, different types of paper, texture, color,
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shades. I mean, as someone who likes
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details sometimes, not always, I really enjoy the process.
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And then I had another question and when I tell you, I'll tell
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you what my question was. My question was, am I supposed
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to get my initials or something engraved on this?
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Like, is that how stationary works?
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Which honestly, I think maybe I should order customized
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stationary like that. That's actually really chic idea
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now that I think about it anyway.
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And I really didn't know like I was like, is there supposed to
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be like a letterhead? Is it not supposed to be?
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Like, I literally didn't know, but I was so kind of flustered
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and I felt so have you ever been somewhere and you don't know the
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norms of the place that you are? And so you feel really
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intimidated? Like, for example, I think this
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is a very relatable situation. Maybe the first time you went to
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a nice restaurant and ordered a bottle of wine.
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And you know how when you order a bottle of wine, they do the
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whole song and dance where it's like they'll show you do the
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label 1st and then you have to nod and then they pour you a
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tiny little sip and you taste it and then you say yes and then
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they pour for everyone else. You know, you know what I'm
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talking about. It's it's a little dance, right?
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And if you don't know what you're doing and someone comes
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and hands you a bottle and like shows you the label, you'd
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probably be like, what the fuck am I supposed to do?
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Like that's so that, you know, I, I can't be the first person
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who's encountered this. Or you go to a restaurant where
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you don't really know how to pronounce anything that's on the
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menu. Or, you know, all these
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situations where it's like, you feel out of your element.
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And I think it often happens with things that in one way or
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another, relate to money, if that makes sense.
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Because what it is is we're all feeling not classy enough,
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right? I read so many etiquette books
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when I was in my early 20s because I just wanted to be able
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to hang out with chic, elegant people and not feel like a
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dumbass. I mean, literally, I was reading
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books to pretend that I knew what I was doing rather than
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just being like, yeah, I've, I know what the fuck's going on
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here, Someone teach me. Which is totally fine.
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People would teach you anyway. So I just felt really
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overwhelmed in that stationary store for a second.
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And I didn't know how to ask about the monogram or the
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personalization. I just, I felt really weird.
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And so I was like, I have a question, but it's going to be a
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stupid question. I don't even know how to word
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the question. I was kind of squirming.
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And this lady who was helping me goes much older lady.
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I can't overemphasize how much older this lady was an old, I
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think grandma was working at the store.
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OK, she just turns to me goes, oh, who gives a fuck, Just ask
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the question. And it was this moment of I, I
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knew exactly what she meant, which was, Oh my God, my nail
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broke even more because things are not going well in the nail
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department for me anyway. So it was this moment where I
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was like, oh, like, it's fine, it's fine.
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It was exactly what I needed to hear for me to stop taking
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myself so seriously. Anyway, so then a couple days
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later I go to get my face threaded, which if you don't
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know what that is, it's and I say this because there is a
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beauty treatment called threading.
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This isn't that. This is a hair removal thing
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where they basically take a piece of string and pull to yank
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the hairs out. So it's not putting facial
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threads in your face, which I hear, don't, I hear they really,
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really hurt. And I hear that after a while
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they look really funky or something.
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So I don't know. Anyway, but then Lisa Barlow
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said that she has them and I think hers look really good.
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It's just something I want to kind of keep my eye on.
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Anyway, so I go to get my face threaded and we talked about a
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few things where every time she was saying exactly, exactly what
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I needed to hear. It was so crazy.
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I was saying how someone in my life is really Moody and it's
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annoying me. And she goes, who cares?
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That's that's literally not your problem.
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Why are you letting someone else's energy affect you?
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And I was like, yeah, that's good advice.
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And then she, her dog had just passed away and I was like, Oh
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my God, I'm so sorry. Like I live in constant,
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constant, I mean, every moment of every day is fear about my
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dog dying. And she's like, why?
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That's like crazy. And she said all this stuff.
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I can't explain it without launching into a four hour long
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story of everything that's been going on with me over the past
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month. And you know, so I'm not going
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to do that. But basically it's like she was
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saying things that were hitting on such a deep level of things
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that I'd never even conveyed. At some point, I was just
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thinking about something in my head, a question that I had, and
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she said something that was like a perfect answer to my question.
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And it was one of those moments where I was like, this feels not
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to sound too woo woo, but we're going to do kind of a woo woo
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episode. This feels like God, the
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universe, whatever word you're comfortable with is speaking to
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me through this person. It's like I'm getting these
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answers to these questions that I have that I don't think these
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people even know that I have these questions.
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Like I don't think they're even aware that they're almost like
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channeling messages for me. Like it's kind of wild.
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And that's happened a bunch of times before in my life.
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I mean, I have so many like kind of crazy woo woo stories I could
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tell maybe on a different episode because I did promise to
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keep this one short. But I did kind of want to talk
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about signs and messages and three things that I do regularly
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that are, you know, some people might consider these to be woo
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woo. I actually don't think it any of
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the three are that woo woo, to be completely honest.
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Like I think there's far more woo woo stuff out there.
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Nevertheless, it's a little bit woo woo.
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So I'm going to share what they are in case you want to
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implement them in your life. Number one is asking the
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universe for signs. So I've done this a bunch of
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times this year, especially when I want to make a big decision,
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I'll ask the universe to show me a very specific sign.
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So there was something I was looking into doing a few months
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ago and I remember I asked the universe if if this is the right
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move for me, if this is the right decision for me.
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Show me butterflies. And that day when I was walking
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to solid core, I walked by this store display that had just
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thousands and thousands of butterflies hanging in the
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window display. It was so crazy.
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They just changed the window display and it didn't even stay
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up that long, but it was there long enough for me to see all
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the fucking butterflies. And then I counted.
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And that day, aside from that one incident, which there were
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so many butterflies, I think I saw like 20 butterflies, not
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real butterflies because it wasn't really like butterfly
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season, but and you know, we're in New York City, but just
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pictures of butterflies, images of butterflies.
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I realized the system on the door of my building has a
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fucking butterfly on it. You know, like it was just
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everywhere was butterflies. I do this all the time and I
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find that and sometimes I don't see the thing.
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I mean, I remember a few months ago there was some, you know,
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self help, you know, these tick tockers and influencers who
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create digital courses and stuff like that.
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And I buy so many of them. I do so much of that type of
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shit. There was one that I was kind of
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curious about doing and I asked the universe.
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I said, oh, show me. I don't know, Bear or something
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before I got home, if I meant to do this, and I kept my eyes
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fucking peeled and nothing, nothing like that.
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It's so fucking nuts. So yeah, I do this all the time.
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I think it's a really fun way to just kind of play with the
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universe. And honestly, if nothing else,
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it'll make you a lot more present to your surroundings.
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So that's a win right there. The second thing that I do
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that's kind of along the same lines is I at night.
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So I do my journaling in the morning.
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I do morning pages like from the artists way where you write 3
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pages stream of consciousness like without ever stopping but
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it at night. I don't do journaling
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journaling. All I do is I will write in my
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journal a question that I want an answer to or something that I
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want help with or inspiration. For me, it's honestly often
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creativity stuff. So I'll ask for inspiration for
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something to make or something to post the next day or a
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specific way to unpack something.
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Sometimes it's I just want answers.
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There's something I can't quite work out in my head or I just
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want guidance or whatever. And you know, I learned about
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this and people say like, oh, you got the answer in your
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dreams. I rarely get the answer in my
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dreams. Sometimes I get it just I have
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gotten it in the middle of the night a lot, like I've just
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woken up and written it down. And sometimes I get it the next
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morning when I do my morning pages just as I'm writing.
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The answer poof is just right there.
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A lot of the cooler recipes that I've had in the past few months
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have actually the ideas have come to me because from asking
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for it like that. And a lot of the best decisions
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I've made the past few months have been because of that.
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And that brings me to the last thing.
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That I want to talk about and this is, I think the best kind
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of woo woo practice that you can have, so long as you don't let
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it go too far. And I'll explain what that mean,
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what I mean by that. And that is I like to think of
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everything as like nothing is a coincidence.
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Everything is very intentional and meaningful.
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So the way I think of it is if my life were a movie, like a
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really good movie, not like a shittily made movie, but a
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really I'm trying to think of who is very intentional with his
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movie making. I don't know.
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I I actually don't know enough about movies to be able to make
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this analogy. But think of, you know, one of
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those movies where there's extreme attention to detail,
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where every little thing is well thought out.
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Even the color of the shirt of the background actor is
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intentional. There is nothing in that movie
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that's just there by chance or by coincidence.
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Everything contributes to the plot in some way.
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And I like to think of my life in the same way and think of
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like there are no coincidences. If something is happening, it's
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happening for reason and I'm meant to learn and receive some
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kind of message from it, learn something from it.
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And this approach I think is really cool because a, it really
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makes you feel like the main character, like it really gives
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you that main character energy, which I think most of us could
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stand to embody a bit more. And it just makes you a lot more
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intentional. It makes you a lot more present
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and it also helps you find meaning in things, especially
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bad or difficult things. Because whether it's true or not
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I actually think is really irrelevant.
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Like I, I think that most likely they're probably are just
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coincidences. I don't know.
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I actually would love to talk to, I'd like to hear different
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opinions on this. Do you think there are
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coincidences? I don't fucking know.
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But whether there are or not I actually think is so irrelevant.
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I think the deeper point is if you just take this approach, you
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will learn things from everything that happens.
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And that kind of feeds into the first thing I was saying, like
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the story about the lady at the stationary store and Hippo who
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does my eyebrows. Like if I just was kind of going
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through life in a more disconnected way, I wouldn't
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even thought twice about the way the things that they were
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saying. But because I already have this
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mindset of everything is intentional, everything is here
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for a reason, and I meant to learn something from everything.
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I was able to find such profound meaning and inner peace from the
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things that they were saying. Whereas if this were a few years
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ago, it would have just, I wouldn't even noticed, like I
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truly would not have even noticed what they said because
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it would have just been whatever everyday kind of conversation.
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But instead it ended up being this really healing, beautiful
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experience for me. And that's because I have this
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mindset of everything is intentional.
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Everything is here for a reason. I'm in the midst of the best
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fucking movie ever. Like this sick ass, really
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well-intentioned, high production value movie.
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And we're going to see where it fucking goes.
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And that also, I think think really helps with any time
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you're going through something bad because it's like, yeah, the
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main character goes through bad things.
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Like, it would be a really boring movie if from the
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beginning to the end, the main character was just, like, happy
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and thriving. Like, no, we need some shit to
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go down for the plot, you know, do it for the fucking plot.
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OK, there you have it. That is that if you do embody
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any of these principles, do let me know.
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And I actually, I really do want to hear what you think about
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coincidences 'cause I think that could be a really interesting
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conversation, but we're not going to have that conversation
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today. I will let you go back to your
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family or whatever it is that you're doing for the holidays
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and we will chat next week for a very revealing conversation.
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OK, that's all I can say. That's all I can tease.
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OK, love you. Bye.
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