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Starting Over After Trauma: Breaking the Silence & Rebuilding Your True Self · Bent Not Broken: Starting Over After Divorce | Post Divorce Life

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  SPEAKER_00: Welcome to another episode of Bent Not Broken.
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  SPEAKER_00: Heartbreak and trauma may feel like the end of your story, but here it's the beginning of a bold new chapter.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm your host, Coach Deborah Griffiths, and this is the space where women rise, rebuild, and rediscover their purpose.
• 0:23
  SPEAKER_00: Remember this truth.
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  SPEAKER_00: You are bent, not broken.
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  SPEAKER_00: What if the very thing you've been hiding is actually the key to your freedom?
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  SPEAKER_00: In today's bonus coaching session, we're talking about something that so many women carry, but rarely speak about.
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  SPEAKER_00: Silence.
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  SPEAKER_00: The silence around trauma, the silence around identity, the silence around the parts of ourselves we were taught to hide.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you listened to my conversation with Barbara Bond, you heard just how heavy that silence can become and how powerful it is when it finally breaks.
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  SPEAKER_00: So today I want to coach you through how to begin breaking your own silence safely, gently, and powerfully.
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  SPEAKER_00: Number one, understanding your silence.
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  SPEAKER_00: Let's start here.
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  SPEAKER_00: Silence doesn't mean nothing is happening.
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  SPEAKER_00: And in fact, silence is often where the deepest pain lives.
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  SPEAKER_00: It can look like not speaking your truth, hiding parts of your identity, avoiding conversations, smiling on the outside while hurting on the inside.
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  SPEAKER_00: And here's the truth: silence is often rooted in fear, shame, or survival.
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  SPEAKER_00: You didn't choose silence because you're weak.
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  SPEAKER_00: You chose it because at some point it felt safer than being seen.
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  SPEAKER_00: But what once protected you may now be keeping you stuck.
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  SPEAKER_00: Number two, the cost of staying silent.
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  SPEAKER_00: Let me ask you something.
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  SPEAKER_00: What is your silence costing you?
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  SPEAKER_00: Is it costing you your peace, your authenticity, your relationships, or how about your self-worth?
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  SPEAKER_00: Because here's what I see so often.
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  SPEAKER_00: Women living half-expressed lives because they're afraid of fully being seen.
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  SPEAKER_00: And the longer you stay silent, the heavier it becomes.
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  SPEAKER_00: Just like Barb described, that silence becomes loud on the inside.
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  SPEAKER_00: Number three, your first step to breaking silence.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now, I'm not going to tell you to go shout your truth out to the world tomorrow.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's not how healing works.
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  SPEAKER_00: And instead, we're going to start small.
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  SPEAKER_00: The first step is to find your safe person.
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  SPEAKER_00: This could be a trusted friend, a coach, a therapist, a support group, someone who will listen without judgment, hold space for your truth, remind you that you are not broken.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because healing doesn't start with being loud, it starts with being heard.
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  SPEAKER_00: Number four, reframing your story.
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  SPEAKER_00: Here's where the real shift happens.
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  SPEAKER_00: You have to stop seeing your story as something to hide and start seeing it as something that shaped your strengths.
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  SPEAKER_00: Your story is not shameful, it is not too messy, and it is not too complicated.
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  SPEAKER_00: Your story is evidence of your survival, proof of your resilience, and it's a bridge to help someone else's healing.
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  SPEAKER_00: And when you begin to reframe your story, you move from I need to hide this to this is the part of who I am, and I am still worthy.
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  SPEAKER_00: Number five, here's a practical exercise.
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  SPEAKER_00: Grab a journal and finish this sentence.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then ask yourself, what am I afraid will happen if I share this?
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  SPEAKER_00: And what might be possible if I do?
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  SPEAKER_00: This is where your breakthrough begins.
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  SPEAKER_00: Number six, your permission slip.
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  SPEAKER_00: Let me give you something today.
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  SPEAKER_00: Permission.
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  SPEAKER_00: You have permission to feel what you feel, own your truth, take your time, and heal at your own pace.
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  SPEAKER_00: You don't have to have it all figured out.
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  SPEAKER_00: You just have to be willing to take one step out of silence.
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  SPEAKER_00: Your voice matters, your story matters, you matter.
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  SPEAKER_00: And the moment you begin to release the silence is the moment you begin to reclaim your life.
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  SPEAKER_00: If this episode spoke to you, I want to invite you to take the next step.
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  SPEAKER_00: Book a discovery call with me.
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  SPEAKER_00: The link is in the show notes below.
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  SPEAKER_00: And if this episode resonated, share it with someone who needs to hear it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Subscribe, rate, and review Bent Not Broken because your breakthrough might be the very thing that helps someone else find theirs.
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  SPEAKER_00: Remember, you are not broken.
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  SPEAKER_00: You are becoming.
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  SPEAKER_00: Thank you for listening to today's episode of Bent Not Broken.
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  SPEAKER_00: I hope that this episode reminded you that even through life's toughest moments, you are bent not broken.
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  SPEAKER_00: If this message inspired you, please share, rate, review, and subscribe, as it helps us reach more women who are ready to rise and rebuild.
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  SPEAKER_00: And until next time, keep living bold and walking in your purpose.