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What We Were Never Taught: Relationships, Marriage & Family — From Parenting Doctors
What We Were Never Taught is a podcast about the emotional and relationship skills that shape the most important connections in our lives.
The show explores love, marriage, attachment, communication, conflict, emotional availability, healing, resilience, parenting, and personal growth — especially the skills many of us were never explicitly taught but are expected to somehow know.
Through honest reflection, psychological insight, real-life examples, and practical strategies, each episode looks…
Episodes
- What We Were Never Taught: Relationships, Marriage & Family — From Parenting Doctors
4 Rules of Disagreement
It is helpful for a family to encourage disagreement. Strong families are not negatively affected or impacted by minor disagreements. Raising secure…
- What We Were Never Taught: Relationships, Marriage & Family — From Parenting Doctors
Interview with Nutritional Expert Dr. Carey, Part 1
This is part 1 of my interview with Dr Dallas Carey, clinical psychologist and nutritional expert. Dr. Carey is a premier clinical expert on nutrition, health…
- What We Were Never Taught: Relationships, Marriage & Family — From Parenting Doctors
Language Lessons from Mr. Rogers: 9 Amazing Steps of Patience
Mr. Rogers went to extraordinary lengths to assure parents that the language spoken on his show would reach children in ways that would keep them connected. He…
- What We Were Never Taught: Relationships, Marriage & Family — From Parenting Doctors
Happiness Is A Choice
Happiness is a choice. What about health? Absolutely, research shows there is a correlation between poor health and unhappiness. However, I show an example of…
- What We Were Never Taught: Relationships, Marriage & Family — From Parenting Doctors
A Beautiful Day In The Neighborhood
There are so many lessons to learn from Mr. Rogers. This movie is outstanding and I recommend it for all families. There is so much to talk about. While the…
- What We Were Never Taught: Relationships, Marriage & Family — From Parenting Doctors
Reflection Tips on Diffusing Tantrums
We need strategies to diffuse tantrums. I provide a number of acronyms that can help give us tools and perspective to maintain poise in the middle of chaos…
- What We Were Never Taught: Relationships, Marriage & Family — From Parenting Doctors
Failure Reflection Exercise
Have you ever taken the time to reflect on your failures? Have you ever taken the time to go down the road of your life and identify failures at different…
- What We Were Never Taught: Relationships, Marriage & Family — From Parenting Doctors
Is Parenting a Happy Endeavor?
Are parents more happy? Put another way, is parenting a happy endeavor? Certainly, parents experience less pleasurable moments. Parents are inconvenienced…
- What We Were Never Taught: Relationships, Marriage & Family — From Parenting Doctors
Interview with Eating Disorders Expert Patricia Price
On this week's parenting doctors show, our parenting doctors podcast is an interview with Dr. Patricia Price. She is an expert on eating disorders. She…
- What We Were Never Taught: Relationships, Marriage & Family — From Parenting Doctors
What Is Your Parenting Style?
Today's parenting podcast is more of a reflection podcast. What is your parenting style? It is helpful to take a step back, push pause, and take perspective on…
- What We Were Never Taught: Relationships, Marriage & Family — From Parenting Doctors
Divorced Parenting: To Hurt or to be Vulnerable (Express preference)
During and after divorces, secure parents don’t take anything personally. Kids are allowed to express their preferences. Parents validate feelings, encourage…
- What We Were Never Taught: Relationships, Marriage & Family — From Parenting Doctors
Overcoming, Overlooking, & Defeating Negativity Thrown at You
Have you ever dealt with tremendous negativity? Have you ever been cursed with the most vile hate and nastiness? Have you been told how toxic you are and…
- What We Were Never Taught: Relationships, Marriage & Family — From Parenting Doctors
Token Economy: Personal Responsibility, Affection, & Interests
Families establish token economies with reward charts, star charts, and a system of rewarding desired behaviors. These reward systems can provide structure and…
- What We Were Never Taught: Relationships, Marriage & Family — From Parenting Doctors
Time to Comfort, Time to Instruct, Time to Correct
There is a time to comfort. There is a time to Instruct. There is a time to Correct. The distinctions are important for healthy parenting, on this week's…
- What We Were Never Taught: Relationships, Marriage & Family — From Parenting Doctors
Family Conversations at Summer Dinners
Welcome to the Summer! It's summertime! Successful families average a minimum of FOUR family dinners per week during the summer. Instead of, "How was the day?"…
- What We Were Never Taught: Relationships, Marriage & Family — From Parenting Doctors
What Are The Stressors Young People Face Nowadays?
Kids, preteens, and teens face all kinds of stressors nowadays. Safety from violence, getting enough to eat, single parent households, domestic violence and so…
- What We Were Never Taught: Relationships, Marriage & Family — From Parenting Doctors
Separation Anxiety
There are several aspects to separation anxiety. Sometimes finding a child psychologist or a counselor who specializes in anxiety and attachment issues can be…
- What We Were Never Taught: Relationships, Marriage & Family — From Parenting Doctors
Humility, Rules & Principles to Live by, & The Beauty of Motherhood: Happy Mother's Day!
Humility, Rules & Principles to Live by, & The Beauty of Motherhood: Happy Mother's Day! See Dr. Dan’s new book…
- What We Were Never Taught: Relationships, Marriage & Family — From Parenting Doctors
Shifting Attention
Shifting attention is another pillar of happiness. I provide a number of interesting research ideas on how allocating attention is more critical than actually…
- What We Were Never Taught: Relationships, Marriage & Family — From Parenting Doctors
Is There Meaning In Video Games?
Is there meaning in video games? Kids using video games excessively end up with quick analytical skills and reflexes, but lack communication skills, have few…
- What We Were Never Taught: Relationships, Marriage & Family — From Parenting Doctors
Building Optimism In Teenagers
Building Optimism in Teenagers requires 5 steps. The goal is to learn how to deal with setbacks with optimism. Some of my greatest failures helped me to…
- What We Were Never Taught: Relationships, Marriage & Family — From Parenting Doctors
Mindfulness Skills For Teenagers
I'm back from a trip through Illinois speaking to psychologists, counselors, social workers, marriage & family therapists, teachers, speech pathologists, and…
- What We Were Never Taught: Relationships, Marriage & Family — From Parenting Doctors
The Specific Not Terrific Technique
Specific, Not Terrific Technique Kids don’t have to be perfect. Parents don’t have to be perfect. We all make mistakes, we all come up short. It’s helpful to…
- What We Were Never Taught: Relationships, Marriage & Family — From Parenting Doctors
The Negotiation Strategy
Parents need strategies to dismantle power struggles. Today's podcast focuses on The Negotiation Strategy. We can assert obedience. However, choice helps…
- What We Were Never Taught: Relationships, Marriage & Family — From Parenting Doctors
Petty Versus Purposeful Strategy
Kids need a strategy for arguments. Parents can give their kids a strategy by having them classify arguments into petty and purposeful arguments. This podcast…
- What We Were Never Taught: Relationships, Marriage & Family — From Parenting Doctors
The Oven Timer Strategy
The Oven Timer Strategy is a great solution for putting an end to manipulation. "Start engaging in problem solving or you will lose a minute toward your…
- What We Were Never Taught: Relationships, Marriage & Family — From Parenting Doctors
I Make A Lot Of Mistakes
How do we teach children humility? It starts with us. Check out this week's parenting podcast. There are lots of things to apply from the latest research on…
- What We Were Never Taught: Relationships, Marriage & Family — From Parenting Doctors
How To Form A Support Group for Parents of Teenagers
Parents of Teenagers have a lot in common. It's time to get together and form support groups. Many of you do this informally through friendships via sporting…
- What We Were Never Taught: Relationships, Marriage & Family — From Parenting Doctors
Anger Solutions For Your Kids
We need strategies for our kids' anger. Of course, parents need to work on their own stuff. The more parents are calm, cool, and collected, and can self-soothe…
- What We Were Never Taught: Relationships, Marriage & Family — From Parenting Doctors
The Triple D Strategy for Manipulation When Attempting to Problem Solve
It is common to deal with manipulation when you are attempting to address another problem. It is common to see eye roles or receive back talk when addressing…
- What We Were Never Taught: Relationships, Marriage & Family — From Parenting Doctors
Flourishing Families Have Vulnerable Relationships: Vulnerability VS Fear
In today's podcast, I provide an example where a Dad made a mistake by communicating a negative assumption about his kid. The kid went on to speak out of her…
- What We Were Never Taught: Relationships, Marriage & Family — From Parenting Doctors
Cognitive Flexibility During Holiday Stress
Holiday Stress? We can all relate. There are numerous holiday challenges. Inconveniences are endless in family situations. Inconveniences double and triple and…
- What We Were Never Taught: Relationships, Marriage & Family — From Parenting Doctors
Preparing Our Children For Adversity
Nobody wants to think about our children's future problems. The reality is that adversity is right around the corner. Listen to this parenting podcast as I…
- What We Were Never Taught: Relationships, Marriage & Family — From Parenting Doctors
Temperament & Reinforcement Are The Two Key Factors
There are two key factors at play - temperament and reinforcement. Parents may over-emphasize temperament and over-value personality. We do it all of the time…
- What We Were Never Taught: Relationships, Marriage & Family — From Parenting Doctors
Healthy Families Allow Disagreement
Healthy Families Allow for Disagreement Parents struggle with this one. They use terms like "disobedience," or "rebelliousness." Parents are unsure how to…
- What We Were Never Taught: Relationships, Marriage & Family — From Parenting Doctors
What is most important when dealing with aggression toward others, back talking, property destruction, defiance, and noncompliance?
What is most important when dealing with aggression toward others, back talking, property destruction, defiance, and noncompliance? 65% follow through and are…
- What We Were Never Taught: Relationships, Marriage & Family — From Parenting Doctors
The Ultimate Family Sleep Challenge
This week's parenting podcast is The Ultimate Family Sleep Challenge! We are all sleep deprived. We as parents need more sleep. Our children need more sleep…
- What We Were Never Taught: Relationships, Marriage & Family — From Parenting Doctors
Social Media Stress Management
There are many stressors young people face. I go through some of the stressors young people are facing as reported by my colleagues (social workers…
- What We Were Never Taught: Relationships, Marriage & Family — From Parenting Doctors
Your Prescription for Passive & Aggressive Behavior
Dr. Dan explores the key solution to manipulation and passive aggressive behavior. He says that parents need to name it. And encourage (even expect) direct and…
- What We Were Never Taught: Relationships, Marriage & Family — From Parenting Doctors
Truth Emerges Out Of A Relationship
Today's podcast is about an argument between a father and a son. A father goes on to try to enforce the son to tell the truth with discipline, consequences…
- What We Were Never Taught: Relationships, Marriage & Family — From Parenting Doctors
Respectful Disagreement
Many parents inquire about "encouraging disagreement." It might sound better if I emphasize "allowing disagreement." Many ask, "What does that mean?" The new…
- What We Were Never Taught: Relationships, Marriage & Family — From Parenting Doctors
Tough Adolescents: Exiting, Waiting, & Overlooking
I present two interventions today that can make a difference, along with some key tips for healthy functioning when dealing with a tough adolescent. See Dr…
- What We Were Never Taught: Relationships, Marriage & Family — From Parenting Doctors
Stop Pathologizing Childhood With Specific Problem Solving
Many parents pathologize childhood using terms like "He's an attention seeker," OR "She's so oppositional," OR "He's a tormentor," OR "He's A defiant kid!"…
- What We Were Never Taught: Relationships, Marriage & Family — From Parenting Doctors
Helping Kids With More Self Compassion
Kids may be starting school soon. In FL, school is in full swing. Many schools are completing their first full week. Some of the kids are in a "candy store."…
- What We Were Never Taught: Relationships, Marriage & Family — From Parenting Doctors
Tutoring for Video Games????
Parents are paying $20 an hour and sometimes as much as $50 an hour for video game tutors. What's the problem with tutors? 1) Lowering self esteem and…
- What We Were Never Taught: Relationships, Marriage & Family — From Parenting Doctors
Are you dealing with a child with an anger problem and you don’t know what to do?
Check out the following videos at our Parenting Doctors youtube channel: The Dr. van Ingen Clinical Psychology & Parenting Show on Anger. (Dr. Dan and…
- What We Were Never Taught: Relationships, Marriage & Family — From Parenting Doctors
No Phones At Dinner
We live in a strange Digital Culture. Everyone revolving their lives around cell phones. But, not everyone. Healthy Families are working against these water…
- What We Were Never Taught: Relationships, Marriage & Family — From Parenting Doctors
Valuing & Sharing Our Failure Stories
I share some of my failures in life, mostly growing up. In my book: You Are Your Child's Best Psychologist…
- What We Were Never Taught: Relationships, Marriage & Family — From Parenting Doctors
Warning to Parents About Social Media
This is a simple warning to parents. Yes, it's an unbalanced view on social media. The view presented here is not all encompassing and obviously doesn't…
- What We Were Never Taught: Relationships, Marriage & Family — From Parenting Doctors
10 Keys to Confident Kids
10 Keys to UNLOCKING confidence in Kids. We don't have to wait until kids are young adults to develop confidence. That's what happened to me, quite honestly…
- What We Were Never Taught: Relationships, Marriage & Family — From Parenting Doctors
Know Your Triggers & Love Anyway
Many parents have rough backgrounds. Many parents have "triggers" and when you deal with the stuff of raising kids who may yell, back talk, name call, or…
- What We Were Never Taught: Relationships, Marriage & Family — From Parenting Doctors
Persistent Redo’s, Patience and the Power of Praise
Persistent Redo's, patience, and the power of praise When a 4-year old says "what" inappropriately and noncompliantly, what should a parent do? Check out this…
- What We Were Never Taught: Relationships, Marriage & Family — From Parenting Doctors
Does Social Media Cause Anxiety?
Social Media is related to unhappiness. Does it cause anxiety? We are still waiting on randomized controlled empirical research to determine the relationship…
- What We Were Never Taught: Relationships, Marriage & Family — From Parenting Doctors
Sharing Personal Reflections & Excitement Here are the Parenting Doctors
Some personal reflections on our new book: You Are Your Child's Best Psychologist: 7 Keys to Excellence in Parenting.
- What We Were Never Taught: Relationships, Marriage & Family — From Parenting Doctors
Helping Children, Preteens, & Teens with Secure & Confident Comebacks
Helping Children, Preteens, & Teens with Secure & Confident Comebacks Children need to know what to say as an alternative from sinking low, playing in the mud…
- What We Were Never Taught: Relationships, Marriage & Family — From Parenting Doctors
Overcoming An Ambivalent Attachment History
As parents, we have to overcome our histories to be excellent. If you were raised in anger, you have to overcome that reinforcement history and respond in…
- What We Were Never Taught: Relationships, Marriage & Family — From Parenting Doctors
Validating Emotion with Sincerity
It is important to teach children how to validate emotion. Interestingly, it helps kids to remind them that they don't even have to agree when they validate…
- What We Were Never Taught: Relationships, Marriage & Family — From Parenting Doctors
Balancing Privacy and Protection With Teenagers' Social Media
Balancing Privacy and Protection With Teenagers' Social Media 1) Encourage Transparency 2) Smart Technology 3) Social Media Family Standards (and Limits)
- What We Were Never Taught: Relationships, Marriage & Family — From Parenting Doctors
How To Be The Best Sports Parent You Can Be
Sports has three goals for kids: 1. To learn how to follow directions from somebody besides your parent; 2. To develop character which including learning to be…