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Practicing Love: Have the Best Love and Sex of Your Life After 40
Love between humans is not easy, and most of us never had great examples or education about emotions, communication, sex, or what keeps love alive. When you add the challenges of aging to the mix, love becomes even more complicated. Many people end up settling, or giving up on what they want most. But you don't have to! Dating and relationships become easier when you hear people share vulnerably about their struggles, and how they've created more connection and excitement. I bring my 20 years…
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- Practicing Love: Have the Best Love and Sex of Your Life After 40
The Art of Attunement, Pleasure, and Desire - #69
What if becoming a better lover doesn't have much to do with knowing the right moves? Many men want to give women more pleasure. They want to know how to touch…
- Practicing Love: Have the Best Love and Sex of Your Life After 40
#68: Why Do Couples Misunderstand Each Other? When Good Intentions Don't Create the Impact You Want
Have you ever said something with good intentions, only to have your partner hear it completely differently than you meant it? Maybe you were trying to help…
- Practicing Love: Have the Best Love and Sex of Your Life After 40
#67: The Sex You Actually Want: Beyond Scripts, Shame and Expectations
How to have the sex you actually want: More Pleasure and Connection Beyond Scripts, Shame and Expectations Having great sex is not about knowing the "right"…
- Practicing Love: Have the Best Love and Sex of Your Life After 40
#66: Sexual Healing for Men: From Performance to Intimacy, Pleasure and Connection
What happens when men expand their sexuality to be about more than performance, orgasm, or "getting the job done"? In this episode of Man Alive, I talk with…
Practicing Love: Have the Best Love and Sex of Your Life After 40#65: What Men and Women Don't Know About Each Other — And What it Means for Love
How would your relationships be different if you could experience the world from the other side of the gender divide, and understand how a man or woman…
Practicing Love: Have the Best Love and Sex of Your Life After 40#38: AI Matchmaking: AI Reshapes Dating for Lasting Love
Dating feels brutal for so many relationship-ready singles, especially over 40. In this episode, Shana James talks with Adam Cohen Aslatei, CEO of Three Day…
Practicing Love: Have the Best Love and Sex of Your Life After 40Why Passion Fades in Relationships: How to Ignite and Reignite the Spark
Passion doesn't fade because "that's just what happens." Passion fades because couples are missing a few essential skills. When you learn them, you can create…
Practicing Love: Have the Best Love and Sex of Your Life After 40#36: You Don't Have to Be the Hero: The Shift from Overgiving to Real Love
We explore what happens when being "the one who saves" starts costing you connection with yourself and others. Brent Perkins joins me to unpack how overgiving…
Practicing Love: Have the Best Love and Sex of Your Life After 40#64: When Her Sex Drive Fades: What Most Men Don't Realize
What happens when the woman you love stops wanting sex? For many men, a fading sex drive feels like rejection, loneliness, or even a sign that the relationship…
Practicing Love: Have the Best Love and Sex of Your Life After 40#62: The Hidden Reason Even Good Relationships Drift Apart
Have you ever looked at someone you love and wondered, What happened to us? Most people assume relationships drift apart because the spark fades, communication…
Practicing Love: Have the Best Love and Sex of Your Life After 40#61: How to Navigate Baggage While Dating, Without Letting It Ruin Love
Everyone talks about "baggage" in dating. But what does that actually mean? If you're dating in midlife, chances are you—and everyone you meet—have lived…
Practicing Love: Have the Best Love and Sex of Your Life After 40#60: Why High Achieving Couples Lose Connection and How to Get it Back
Why do so many ambitious, successful couples end up feeling more like roommates than romantic partners? It's rarely because they stopped loving each other…
Practicing Love: Have the Best Love and Sex of Your Life After 40#59: The Dating Move That Tells You Everything (Before You're in Too Deep)
Many people enter dating determined to avoid conflict. They smile through uncomfortable conversations, overlook comments that don't sit right, or convince…
Practicing Love: Have the Best Love and Sex of Your Life After 40#58: The Dead Bedroom Fix: Why Intimacy Dies and How to Bring It Back
What happens when the person you love feels more like a roommate than a romantic partner? A dead bedroom isn't just about sex. For many people, it feels like…
Practicing Love: Have the Best Love and Sex of Your Life After 40#57: Stop wondering if they like you: The dating question that changes everything
If you've ever left a date replaying every moment in your head, analyzing every text message, or wondering whether you said the wrong thing, you're not alone…
Practicing Love: Have the Best Love and Sex of Your Life After 40#56: How to Create a Conflict-Proof Relationship
What does it take to create a relationship that survives life's challenges and? My guest, Geoff Laughton, has been married for 44 years. He and his wife have…
Practicing Love: Have the Best Love and Sex of Your Life After 40#55: What Women Wish Men Knew About Sex, Desire, and Connection
Most men were never taught how to navigate a woman's desires. In fact, many were taught to fear them. In this candid and sometimes provocative conversation…
Practicing Love: Have the Best Love and Sex of Your Life After 40#54: Stop Getting Ghosted: The First Date Move You need to know
Dating after 40, especially dating after divorce, is supposed to get easier. You know yourself better. You're done with the games. You're clear on what you…
Practicing Love: Have the Best Love and Sex of Your Life After 40#53: The Real Reason Love Feels Harder to Find After 40 (It's Not What You Think)
Most people dating after 40s have a theory about why love hasn't happened yet. The age. The baggage. The kids. The schedule. Relationship and dating coach…
Practicing Love: Have the Best Love and Sex of Your Life After 40#52: The Truth About Betrayal: Why It Happens and How Couples Heal
Betrayal can feel like it shatters everything. Trust, safety, identity can be gone in an instant. But betrayal is also more complex than we've been led to…
Practicing Love: Have the Best Love and Sex of Your Life After 40#51: How I Found Love Without Games (And How You Can Find Real Love Too)
What if dating could be enjoyable, and you could let go of the stress of performing, proving, and wanting to be chosen... especially when dating in midlife and…
Practicing Love: Have the Best Love and Sex of Your Life After 40#50: How to Keep Love Alive: Real Practices for Conscious, Lasting Partnership
What if love could actually get easier over time? And could deepen instead of fade? In this episode, I'm joined by Ben and Kerena Saltzman — partners who don't…
Practicing Love: Have the Best Love and Sex of Your Life After 40#49: What to Do When Your Partner Doesn't Meet Your Expectations
Why do so many relationships feel frustrating, confusing, or disappointing, even when there's real love? What if the biggest source of conflict in your…
Practicing Love: Have the Best Love and Sex of Your Life After 40#48: Where Science and Spirituality Meet in Love and Relationship
In this episode of Practicing Love, I talk with tech modern mystic Renée Blodgett, about where science and spirituality meet in love and relationship. We…
Practicing Love: Have the Best Love and Sex of Your Life After 40#47: What Men Miss About What Women Need for Great Sex
Most men want to please the women they love. But many don't understand what actually helps a woman open, relax, and experience truly satisfying sex. In this…
Practicing Love: Have the Best Love and Sex of Your Life After 40#46: Calling in "The One": How to Become and Attract a Soul-Aligned Partner
What if calling in "the one" who is a soul-aligned partner isn't about doing more, but about coming home to who you truly are? In this episode, Shana James…
Practicing Love: Have the Best Love and Sex of Your Life After 40#45: Money & Intimacy: How to Talk About Finances Without Shame in Relationships
Money can feel even more vulnerable than sex. In this episode of Practicing Love, I sit down with money coach and Gentle Money author Adam Koren to explore why…
Practicing Love: Have the Best Love and Sex of Your Life After 40#44: What Every Man Needs to Know About Women's Menopause for a Relationship to Survive
Menopause isn't just a women's issue. It's creates a relationship struggle for both partners. And for many couples, it's the moment things fall apart. In this…
Practicing Love: Have the Best Love and Sex of Your Life After 40#43: Desire Differences: What to Do When Sex Feels Blocked or Stuck
What happens when desire fades, sex feels effortful, or intimacy keeps getting interrupted by resentment, pressure, or exhaustion? In this episode of…
Practicing Love: Have the Best Love and Sex of Your Life After 40#42: Reclaim Eros: Erotic Intelligence for Deeper Love, Intimacy, and Vitality
Reclaiming eros can impact every area of your life! In this episode of Practicing Love, Shana James is joined by Erotic Wholeness Guide Darshana Avila, whose…
Practicing Love: Have the Best Love and Sex of Your Life After 40#41: How to Have a Deeply Connected Relationship and Ecstatic Intimacy
A Conversation on Real Connection & Ecstatic Intimacy What do we actually long for in love? In this episode, Shana James is joined by Joanna Shakti, founder…
Practicing Love: Have the Best Love and Sex of Your Life After 40#40: How Not to Get Divorced: A Divorce Coach's Keys to Stay in Love Longer
On today's Practicing Love podcast, Shana James is joined by divorce coach and NLP practitioner Rachael Sloan for a powerful conversation about how…
Practicing Love: Have the Best Love and Sex of Your Life After 40#39: Why Communication Breaks Down in Long-Term Relationships — And How to Rebuild Connection
Why does connection and communication break down in long-term relationships, even when love is still there? In this episode of Practicing Love, Shana James and…
Practicing Love: Have the Best Love and Sex of Your Life After 40#37: How to Heal Attachment Wounds and Feel Safe in Love
How do you have a relationship that feels peaceful and loving, rather than feeling like a rollercoaster? In all phases, from dating to long term relationships…
Practicing Love: Have the Best Love and Sex of Your Life After 40#35: How to Rebuild Trust After Betrayal
Trust can break in small ways, or shatter completely. Craig and Michelle Pera, founders of The Mindful Habit, join us to talk about how they help couples…
Practicing Love: Have the Best Love and Sex of Your Life After 40#34: You're the Prize: Build Self-worth and Confidence in Relationships
If you want to feel more loved and respected in your relationships, this episode is for you. Shana talks with Karen McMahon, founder of Journey Beyond Divorce…
Practicing Love: Have the Best Love and Sex of Your Life After 40#33: Feel, Heal, and Let That Sh*t Go: Emotional Potty Training for Lasting Love and Better Relationships
Most of us never got the "emotional potty training" we needed as kids. Instead, we learned to hide, suppress, or ignore our feelings, which often wreaks havoc…
Practicing Love: Have the Best Love and Sex of Your Life After 40#32: Why Shared Values Aren't Enough for a Lasting Relationship
If you think shared values are the key to making a relationship last, think again. Shana James talks with Nick Brancato, author of Prioritize Us: Unlock…
Practicing Love: Have the Best Love and Sex of Your Life After 40#31: How to Stop Repeating Parent Wounds and Create a Conscious Relationship
If you've ever found yourself replaying childhood wounds in your romantic relationships, this episode explores how parent-child dynamics often show up in love…
Practicing Love: Have the Best Love and Sex of Your Life After 40#30: Unlearn Childhood Patterns to Build Real Love
The relational patterns you learn in childhood shape your romantic relationships, often without you knowing it. In this episode, we dive deep into how early…
Practicing Love: Have the Best Love and Sex of Your Life After 40#29: Relationship Agreements: The Key to a Stronger Partnership
A big reason many relationships fall apart is because most couples don't make clear, conscious agreements. In this episode, I talk with Krista and Will…
Practicing Love: Have the Best Love and Sex of Your Life After 40#28: Anger in Relationships - How to Stay Connected When You're Upset
We talk about the moments when anger builds within us, moments when a partner pulls away in anger, the downward spiral that can ensue, and how to find your way…
Practicing Love: Have the Best Love and Sex of Your Life After 40#27: How to Stay in Love When You Disagree (Even on Big Issues)
How do you stay in love when you disagree? In any relationship, disagreements are inevitable — but where do you draw the line? Can you love someone whose…
Practicing Love: Have the Best Love and Sex of Your Life After 40#26: Deepening Love Through Perimenopause and Andropause
Perimenopause isn't just challenging for women — it impacts relationships and intimacy in powerful ways. In this vulnerable and eye-opening episode, men's…
Practicing Love: Have the Best Love and Sex of Your Life After 40#25: What to Do if You've Lost Yourself in a Relationship
What do you do when you've lost yourself (or parts of yourself) in love? In this heartfelt conversation Megan Walrod, author of It's Always Been Me, explores…
Practicing Love: Have the Best Love and Sex of Your Life After 40#24: Spiritual Intelligence Makes Your Relationship Stronger
On this episode of Practicing Love, we talk about spiritual intelligence, which can make relationships stronger — and hotter. Find out how to have the best…
Practicing Love: Have the Best Love and Sex of Your Life After 40#23: A New Era of Sex with Intimacy, Confidence and Men's Sexual Health
Dr. Elliot Justin, a pioneer in men's sexual health, has developed innovative wearable technology to improve erectile function, sexual fitness, and intimacy…
Practicing Love: Have the Best Love and Sex of Your Life After 40#22: What Does it Really Take to Satisfy a Woman?
What does it really take to satisfy a woman these days? In this conversation with Dr. Alanna Kaivalya, we explore the emotional, spiritual, and relational keys…
Practicing Love: Have the Best Love and Sex of Your Life After 40#21: True Freedom Creates Real Love
True Freedom is what allows us to have real love and supportive, healthy relationships. But freedom can be confusing when it's seen as an external rather than…
Practicing Love: Have the Best Love and Sex of Your Life After 40#20: Emotional Intelligence in Relationships = More Love
One of the keys to healthy, strong, connected relationships is emotional intelligence. Learning to listen and love from a deeper place doesn't come easy to…
Practicing Love: Have the Best Love and Sex of Your Life After 40#19: How to Love Someone - Shaun Emerson
Love can feel complicated. When I meet someone who sees the simplicity of love, and really knows how to love someone, I am quick to strike up a conversation to…
Practicing Love: Have the Best Love and Sex of Your Life After 40#18: Healthy Independence in Relationships
Today's Practicing Love and Man Alive podcast guest, Dr. Fred Rabinowitz, talks about how he navigates independence and connection in his relationship. Find…
Practicing Love: Have the Best Love and Sex of Your Life After 40#17: Beducated: Sex Education for Adults + Intimacy While Parenting
It's not always easy to keep sex and intimacy alive with all the responsibilities we have, and the fact pace of our world. Today, Mariah Freya, of Beducated…
Practicing Love: Have the Best Love and Sex of Your Life After 40#16: Communicating as a Couple to Feel More Connected
While there are overlaps, communicating as a couple is different from communicating at work or with family. In a couple, in addition to building trust and…
Practicing Love: Have the Best Love and Sex of Your Life After 40#15: The Way to Love a Strong and Independent Woman
Strong and independent women are pretty common these days. If you're a man or woman who loves women, this episode will help you understand how to sidestep…
Practicing Love: Have the Best Love and Sex of Your Life After 40#14: How to Stop Being a Nice Guy in Dating and Relationships
It's amazing to be a man who loves and supports women. But beware of going overboard and losing yourself, stepping into the role of the "nice guy." Nice guys…
Practicing Love: Have the Best Love and Sex of Your Life After 40#13: How to Express Needs and Wants in a Relationship
Having needs and wants in a relationship can feel vulnerable. Ideally our partner is the safest person to express them to, but sometimes we worry the most…
Practicing Love: Have the Best Love and Sex of Your Life After 40#12: Relationship Success for a Sensitive Person in Love
For a sensitive person in love, relationships can be more challenging. You can experience incredible delight and intimacy, but it's easier to feel hurt or…
Practicing Love: Have the Best Love and Sex of Your Life After 40#11: Getting the Love You Want Without Demands or Complaints
How do we get the love we want in relationships? And the attention? Whether your partner is exhausted after work, or your date has a bad cell phone habit, It's…