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The Parent Pivot Podcast
We are Steve and Julia Cummings and we are empty nesters who desire to maintain healthy relationship with our adult children. We have found that something needs to change in us, the parent, when our child becomes an adult. We need to ”pivot” from parenting, to partnering. What does that look like? When do I say something and when do I not? Why won’t they listen to me? We address these questions and host more in a real, raw an vulnerable way in real time. Tune in each week as we help you become…
Episodes
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Partners: Find Joy in This Season! Here's How
Pivoting from parent to partner can seem like there's more negative than positive going on. It takes a shift in thinking and relating to your adult child in an…
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How to Tell If You're Stuck in "Parent Mode"
The pivot from parent to partner is not easy. It's not a "one and done." It's not even about "checking the box." Pivoting can be hard for some parents and the…
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Anxiety, Idols and Becoming a Prodigal Partner
Do you struggle with anxiety about how your adult child(ren) are living their lives? It could be the job they've chosen, or maybe they're struggling to make it…
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Musings of an Adult Child: Interview with Steve & Julia Cummings
If you've ever wanted to be a "fly on the wall" of a real-life, real-time, intimate conversation with pivoting partners and their adult child - this is the…
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Pivoting Includes Intentional Legacy Building: Interview with Wayne Rice
What do junior high ministry, bluegrass music and long-distance grandparenting have to do with pivoting from a parent to a partner? You'll find out when you…
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Pivoting to Partner Means Being a Buffalo, Not a Cow
We spend so much of our lives constantly trying to avoid the inevitable challenges that come along from the difficult circumstances that our very own choices…
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Majoring on the Minors Fractures Relationship
We all do it. We can't help it. We choose hills to die on that we regret later and we ask ourselves, "Was it worth it?" Choosing to bite our tongue and have…
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When the Pivot to Partner Becomes Lonely: There's Hope!
Pivoting from a parent to a partner comes with a mixture of emotions. You might feel down, lonely, or a bit unsure about what to do with all the new free time…
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How We Can Be an Advocate to Our In-Law Adult Kids: Interview with Actor Taylor Upchurch
Life used to be so simple. You grew up. Went to college. Got married. Bought a house. Raised your family. Worked for 30-40 years in the same place. Retired…
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When Your Anxiety Impacts Your Adult Child
Anxiety and control go hand in hand to destroy relationships and often times we are unaware of how our anxiety impacts our relationships with our adult…
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The Antagonistic Adult Child
If you google, "How to deal with an antagonistic adult children," quora.com will tell you: Avoid them. They're grown. You have no control over them or their…
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Pivoting with Your In-Law Kids: Interview with Ashleigh Cummings
Your son or daughter has just gotten married, or is about to. What does it look like to pivot from parent to partner with your new in-law kids? On this episode…
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Is Your Adult Child an HSP?
Pivoting well from parent to partner often times means taking a deeper look at things. On this episode of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia tell us…
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Reinventing the Relationship with Our Adult Children
It was bound to happen sooner or later. We simply can't avoid it. Our kids grow up and become adults and soon we find ourselves in an "empty nest." Now what?…
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Seasons Come and Seasons Go.
Pivoting is never easy to do no matter what you're pivoting from and to. It takes intentionality, courage, stepping outside your normal mode of thinking, and…
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What to Do With Your Kids Stuff When They Move On
It happens to all of us at some time. Our kids become adults. Leave home. Get married. And all their stuff from childhood remains in our basements and garages…
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Inside Steve's Story as a "Type A" Parent
Are you considered a "Type A" personality? Maybe you have some of these common characteristics. You are: outgoing ambitious rigidly organized highly…
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How Identity and Worth Ruin the Pivot from Parent to Partner
It's very subtle and it can go undetected for years and wreak havoc on your relationship(s) with your adult child(ren). Becoming aware of it and the "why…
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"What Do You Do When . . . ?": Steve & Julia Respond to a Loyal Listener's Situation
Like anything we do in life, there can be an "art and a science" to it. Pivoting from Parent to Partner is no different. On today's episode of The Parent Pivot…
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Tip #54: Put the Spotlight on You
"Put the Spotlight on Me?" Wait. What??!! How does that help me pivot from a Parent to a Partner? Easy. Parenting was all about teaching our kids and…
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Having Hard Conversations with Your Adult Child
The pivot from Parent to Partner goes more smoothly when we "keep our mouths shut and the welcome mat out" - the main theme of Jim Burns' book and The Parent…
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Being Generous to Our Adult Children: How Much is Too Much?
One dynamic that comes into play as we pivot from being a parent to a partner is: What is the balance between financially helping our adult child(ren) - and…
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One Simple Step to Becoming a Better Partner in 2024
Starting a new year can often be overwhelming making a list of "resolutions" to improve your life - like, eating better, exercising, or paying off debt. Where…
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It’s Okay to Take Your Shoes Off!
2023 is over and here comes another year. Are you ready? What's in store in 2024? (Oh wow! . . . that rhymes!) Once again, coming at you in real time, Steve…
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Becoming a Champion Partner to Your Adult Child(ren)
In the Cummings' kitchen is a wooden plaque that says, "Simplify." We often get overwhelmed in life trying to balance, juggle, and learn new things. Don't you…
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The Gravitational Effect
You've been there before. You're introduced to a group of people and you begin to feel a positive connection with one or two people - and soon you become fast…
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31 Words That Will Change Your Family Trajectory for Generations
“The Lord bless you and keep you; the Lord make his face shine on you and be gracious to you; the Lord turn his face toward you and give you peace.” Numbers…
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What’s in a Name?: When Your Kids Have Kids
So your kids are having a baby! You're going to be a grandparent! Whether it's your first or another in a long line, the baby showers, pregnancy checkups, and…
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Hot Tip #45 for Growing Your Relationship with Your Adult Child
Pivoting from Parent to Partner can be fun, impact others and develop a deeper connection with your adult child. It doesn't always have to be confrontational…
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Hot Tip #44 to a Deeper Relationship with Your Adult Child: Speak Life
Pivoting from parent to partner isn't easy. It's a road of what seems like constant change. But! . . . the intentional effort you put in, will reap a stronger…
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Holidays, Traditions and Change: How Do We Navigate This Season?
The holidays are here and can be a LOT of stress as we try to negotiate the plans to be made when our adult kids are married. What do you do when you have…
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How Addiction Can Bring You Closer to Your Adult Kids
In every family tree, addiction can wreak havoc destroying family relationships for generations to come. The mere mention of the word, addiction, often strikes…
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Tribe vs. Tribalism: What is the Difference and How Does That Help Us Pivot?
Pivoting from being a parent to a partner requires an awareness of the difference between our tribes, and tribalism. On this episode of The Parent Pivot…
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Fight the Lies: You Are Not Responsible!
When our kids were little our #1 goal as parents was to raise responsible adults. Responsibility is a core value in raising kids, Amen?! When they become…
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Achieving a Healthier Balance: Cultivating Emotional Maturity
Pivoting is not easy. It never is. You have to be intentional to change your trajectory. When it comes to pivoting from being a parent to a partner, we need to…
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When Your Adult Child is Hurting: What NOT to Do
Football season is in full swing and you've likely seen a runner get stopped at the line of scrimmage and gang tackled to the ground. Five or six guys against…
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The Secret to a Deeper Relationship with Your Adult Child
We all do it. We mask up to protect our hearts from shame, judgment and criticism and it's all based on fear. The Enemy wins because we don't want anyone to…
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Multi-Generational Family Living Part 2: Interview with Jon & Cheri Talbert
The "American Dream" our culture has sold us for generations is changing. Watching our adult children struggle to get sustaining jobs and buy a home is…
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Multi-Generational Family Living Part 1: Interview with Jon & Cheri Talbert
The American dream and landscape isn't what it used to be when Boomers got married. Multiple studies are now showing that our adult children are struggling…
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Give Them Room to Grow!
Have you ever noticed there's one essential ingredient missing in most of our relationships? And, Steve and Julia believe it's the single most important factor…
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When Your Adult Child Cuts Off Relationship
If your adult child has cut you out of his or her life—whether for a long or short time—it is a gut-wrenching experience. It often provokes deep feelings of…
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Looking Deeper Inside Ourselves to Becoming a Great Partner to Our Adult Kids
Whether we realize it or not, or even BELIEVE it, shame can affect our relationships with our adult children. It seeks to destroy our identity as a parent and…
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Pay It Forward If You Can: Creating a Legacy of Generosity
Every day it seems it's getting harder and harder to make it in this world. If you have hard-working adult kids struggling to get sustainable jobs and housing…
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Summertime Check: How Are You Doing?
Summertime is a good time to watch a good movie and laugh with your mate. Sometimes laughing at other people can bring home some valuable messages to evaluate…
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”Why is This Taking SO Long?” - The Emerging Adult
Many young adults today are in no hurry to grow up. They are meandering toward responsibility and life's most important decisions, while wearing t-shirts…
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Their Perception is Their Reality:
It's bound to happen. Your adult child is hurt by something they see their grandparents do for their sibling and not for them. Do you get involved? Ignore it?…
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You’re Not Responsible for Your Spouse’s Relationships
Your husband's relationship with your adult child is heading south fast and causing tension in the family. Or maybe it's your wife's relationship. Your adult…
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Partnering As Grandparents
An estimated 2.7 million grandparents in the United States are taking the lead in raising their grandchildren. More than 6.1 million children under 18 live in…
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Relationships 201: The Three B’s
Pivoting from parent to partner requires intentional action. If you're reacting to your adult child all the time, chances are your relationship is struggling…
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We See You, Sandwich Generation!
Pivoting from parent to partner is hard enough on its own. But what happens if you have an adult child away at college, a high schooler at home, AND your…
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”I’m Going to the Sidelines” - When It’s Time to Take a Step Back: Interview with Jackson Cummings
There’s a moment every dad faces when your child doesn’t need you the way they used to. And if you’re not careful, you can start to feel unnecessary……
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When It Seems Hopeless: Interview with Jamilyn Upchurch
Your adult child is battling depression, thoughts of suicide, and has rejected your faith. That's enough to send any parent into high anxiety, control and…
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”I Feel Helpless. What Do I Do?”
Your adult child is spiraling, going through a difficult time, or maybe he/she can't seem to get their head above water and it's hard to watch. What is a…
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The Swivel Pivot: Being a Parent AND a Partner Simultaneously
Parenting can be hard enough when you have a large family, and often times your oldest kids are off to college while you still have ones at home. On this…
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Being a Good In-Law
Your adult child is getting married soon. Maybe it's your first, or maybe you're well into being an in-law. Life is about to change dramatically. It can be…
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Molds Were Made to Be Broken: Interview with G. Campbell Cummings
All of us have a story. As parents of adult children, no two kids will have exactly the same story. Recognizing this sooner than later will go a long way to…
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The Gold Standard for Pivoting from Parent to Partner
Death, cancer, infidelity, infertility, alcoholism and more would cause anyone to be bitter, angry and not someone you'd want to be around. But when you…
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We See You, Single Parents!
Parenting is hard enough when you're married, and for single mom's and dad's it can be an uphill road. Then the kids grow older and leave the nest and now you…
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”Doing Life with Your Adult Children” - Interview with author Dr. Jim Burns
On this edition of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia sit down for a much anticipated interview with Dr. Jim Burns, President of HomeWord and author of…
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”Don’t Poke the Bear”
When your adult child has a different viewpoint than you, the pivot from Parent to Partner just got a whole lot harder, didn't it? Especially in this day when…